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olderthannetfic · 5 months

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Oh, golly! A known youtuber was recently exposed for plagiarism also turns out to be an extreme misogynist?? Who could've noticed such a thing!

It's not like in multiple videos he went on rants about how female authors are big bads for writing about MLM couples and female fans are big bads for daring to enjoy those ships.

In his Killing Stalking video, he attacked women for enjoying the manga and (it's been a long time since I watched that video, and considering that he nuked everything, it's not like I can go back, but I'm pretty sure that he said that) we are raised with the belief that the abusive relationships between two gay men are ok to fetishize while we'd never read the same thing between a man and a woman (not only this is stupid and untrue, but notice how a third kind of couple is missing, here. Wonder why.)

Later on, he talked shit about the author of Love, Simon, forcing her to come out, then proceeded to keep addressing her as a "straight" woman, and whined that the book/movie erased the characters of any kind of sexuality despite the women wanting to see gay men do the nasty.

Later, later on, he rambled about Red, White, and Royal Blue, and this time he complained about that the evil women who fetishize gay men were against genuine displays of sex acts between two gay men (???).

For years, he blabbed about how women are the true enemy of gay-men-focused medias, and even then he couldn't keep his story straight (do we like to see these gay men fuck or not?? James, which one is it??).

Not to mention the fantastic take of "Queer women had it easier throughout history," because that's such a punch in the chest that we can't ignore it.

Guys, this shit was always in plain sight. He never tried to hide it, there was no need for a bald bisexual man to make us notice it. We gotta stop turning our faces to blatant misogyny simply because it's being expressed by a gay man.

Yuuuup.

I'm genuinely sorry for the people who didn't spot it, but I am not sympathetic. Somerton was not even a little bit subtle. He was a toxic, rancid piece of shit for many, many years.

Also, even the plagiarism accusations are years old. People just didn't listen because nobody youtube-famous had made a big video about them.

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gemsofthegalaxy · 1 year

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Actually sometimes if I think about it I am a little mad that Greg's blatant experience of Tom's homophobic powerplays and abuse is treated as almost nothing in the Family Abuse Through Capitalism show. it's, like, intentionally played for laughs most times.

At the same time, I love the two of them and find them compelling and interesting because I love jealously, possession, and devotion and I ship as many straight ships as I do gay ones. As much as I do want wholesome gay rep I also want hand-in-unlovable-hand, nobody-can-love-you-like-I-do stories too. I'm not mad at my fellow fans for just sort of sweeping it away because the show also does, I think? Perhaps there is an angle I am missing but-

Shiv gets to experience the whole gambit of being a scummy person and a woman and using her position to fuck over other women, but still having harrowing experiences of misogyny when she's utterly surrounded by men. It's heart- and gut-wrenching to watch. Layered and interesting. People have differing opinions, still, but it's in the text and it always has been.

Greg, meanwhile, is ambiguously straight. There are queer readings we can have- going from completely disinterested in sex/women to loudly and obnoxiously flirting with them publically as he gains an increasingly important position and plays the expected part he has to play. Not to mention, his pointedly absent father is gay, more than enough reason for him to not come out.

But we never get a confirmation and... I don't know if I would say there's been anything of Greg grappling with the specifically homoerotic way that Tom has tormented him. Greg seems to be mildly weirded out and then rolls with it- does he not recognize the game Tom is playing? is that a commentary on how victims may not recognize the abuse? If Greg was scared of Tom hurting him, why fuck him over on multiple separate occasions and even right after experiencing physical assault. I'm not asking what Greg's point is, but what is deal is, instead. Cause I can't figure out what they're saying with him when it comes to Tom's emotional abuse specifically.

In my opinion, we still don't have a confirmation on whether Greg really cares about Tom in return (as Tom had tried to make Greg emotionally reliant on himself but ended up emotionally reliant on Greg). Based on last night I think he does, honestly, at least like Tom's company and want to stick with him. Whether he does stay with Tom or not still remains to be seen and I think he's been vague enough they could go any way they want with him.

Greg is not only not a serious person, he's not a serious character, I think. And to me that's a wee bit of a shame. Yes, we also get ambiguous sexuality and issues with Roman but we've also had a deal of exploration of that- I would like more, but, it's been covered. It's been at least addressed, in some way.

Lastly, I will acknowledge that I don't even know what it is I'm asking for, here. I just feel the storytellers are maybe treating the queerness with a bit much levity for the world they've created. And I think the exploration of varying forms of discrimination as they layer on top of the Capitalism-Abuse has left something to be desired, perhaps, and all feel underexplored to me.

#succession #succession spoilers #greg hirsch #greg danced with an old man was super funny but its like #why him. and an older man specifically. hm?#its only funny due to his implicit ambiguous queerness. and it is... funny. obviously.#long post #sorry sorry #i hope nobody gets maaaaad #tomgreg #it is. technically about them

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distort-opia · 2 years

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this is going to be a wild ask... i'm reading comments on this silly twitter post ranking DC characters by misogyny( joker is in the " do not perceive women" category), and i wonder " is joker misogynistic???". he abuses women, but not because of their gender, right?? I AM NOT EXCUSING HIM GOD FORBID 😭 but are you misogynistic if you abuse everyone equally?( awful sentence) he will beat anyone to death, he does not care. sexual comments he makes regardless of gender as well. can you be an evil egalitarian 💀 i think he shapes his words and actions in a way that will hurt the most and for women characters it does mean some misogyny. but i don't think he uses it from a misogynistic stand, rather from 'convenient social tool for hurt' stand. his whole thing is valuing everyone else as worthless in the same way.

Alright, yeah, a bit of a wild ask :)) Sorry for the delay in response; I've sort of answered this already when addressing Joker's potential racism, so I will link you to that answer here.

The principle is pretty much the same. Yes, Joker is an "evil egalitarian" at his core; he uses whatever hurts the other person, no matter what it is, or how it comes across. He doesn't actually believe it-- he doesn't believe in anything. His whole schtick is the fact he thinks nothing has any inherent value. However... that's when he's written well. Like I mentioned in that post too, there are plenty of instances in which Joker is a vehicle for the writer's personal biases which can obviously include misogyny, or used as a Deus Ex Machina of evil ("Oh we need a horrible thing to happen! What's Joker doing nowadays"). But Joker's relationship with Harley is the biggest elephant in the room in this department. It was undoubtedly an abusive relationship, and Joker has been depicted as genuinely sexist especially in relation to Harley (and Barbara too), though perhaps even moreso since Harley's redemption arc began. In order to write stories that frame her as triumphing over her abuser, Joker had to become this particular type of horrible person, so her victory over him would be more impactful -- despite this not entirely connecting with previous characterizations. And yeah, you're right that Joker's abuse is canonically not limited by gender (though lmao, what a sentence). He's been shown to act in similar ways to male henchmen in comics like Joker: Year of the Villain or Harley Quinn: 30th Anniversary Special, as he did towards Harley. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter to him the gender of the person he's getting power over. He'll manipulate whoever he finds cracks in to his own advantage.

[sigh] However, the issue of sexism and misogyny in comics is such a big, insidious one. If you acknowledge that Joker is written with misogynist undertones, acknowledging everyone else is inevitable. Looking at the way Batman's character has been written certainly doesn't do him any favors either. His 'Brucie Wayne' playboy persona has treated women... less than ideal; and I'm not even getting into the whole "every woman he encounters is a love interest and wants to fuck him" thing. This is a famous and pervasive problem within DC comics (and not only)-- many writers are intentionally or unintentionally catering to a male power fantasy that a big segment of the fan demographic projects. You've got the skewering and inconsistent characterization of many female characters in the Batman universe over time (man, Poison Ivy suffered a lot), and the blatant oversexualization and "male gaze" problem in comic book art... to name a few. The issue of misogyny and sexism in comics has always been there, and is unfortunately a systemic one.

#also it entirely comes across you do not support or excuse misogyny Anon. no worries :))#simply discussing a subject and dissecting its impact on a character's writing does not equal advocating for it #asks #joker #joker meta #fandom negativity #discussion of misogyny #mention of abuse

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wokestonecraft · 2 years

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these last few days, I’ve really been close to losing my mind. I’m back to doing history readings for my degree, but since I’ve dived into radical feminist writings, it’s like my eyes have been open to something horrible and I can’t close them, and now I see just how pervasive misogyny is at all levels of historiography. Even attempts to give women “agency” in history just seems to be a glossing over of the patriarchal norms that essentially backed these women into a corner, leaving no truly free options.

But it makes me feel like I’m insane, that I’m the only one questioning how free these choices really were. I’ve been reading Aphrodite’s Tortoise: The Veiled Women of Ancient Greece and I kind of want to throttle the author who seems really defensive of the idea that women covering their faces is a sort of freedom. I know I’ve talked about modern veiling and modesty cultures in the past, and yes, I get it, not being perceived by men can be great sometimes, but it’s still dehumanizing and about control. And this isn’t even getting into how voyeuristic Ancient Greek art really was. And now I have to see Judith Butler cited in a paper about women and suicide in the Ming-Qing period, and I think I'm going to have a stroke.

Maybe I’ve just got my radfem goggles on too tight, but I think there’s a delicate line between recognizing that historical women were real people with agency who made choices, and erasing and excusing the social and cultural pressures that gave them their limited options and generally prevented them from living as fully as they could.

and this isn’t even addressing the blatant misogyny that has no qualms about hiding itself that makes me want to go feral.

also how can I engage with group discussions on these topics without looking like a lunatic????? I feel like I am going genuinely insane here, and I have seminar on this shit in two hours. Send help.

#Reading Dorothy Ko's books before and after reading a bunch of radfem books is such a mind fuck #I really do like her work but some of her post-structuralist takes have me like: ?????#The intro to Teachers of the Inner Chambers made me want to scream #The rest of the book is great tho lol #would recommend to anyone into Chinese history #radfems please interact #radfems please touch #radfem #radical feminism #struggles of a history major #The whiplash between radical feminist history and libfem takes is crazy

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slutfornat · 3 years

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My Doll // P.7

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Y/n's POV:

It's been months since everyone came back after the blip and I'm worried about bucky. Bucky's been having consist nightmares and we don't even share a room anymore as he's convinced that he keeps waking me up.

That was two months ago; we broke up three weeks later. I've tried moving on and even tried contact with an old partner but they're in a new relationship and I figured it's best to just stay as friends.

Bucky doesn't talk to me ever now. Last I heard he was going therapy, was friends with a guy called yori, who keeps trying to set him up on dates for the past month and some of which bucky ends up going on apparently.

I talked to Sam, earlier today after he handed the shield over but over than that I've been staying to my work then talking with pepper, happy and morgan on the weekends.

I'm sitting in my room, watching TV when I turn over to the news to see an announcement that they have found a new captain america.

I listen through the entire thing before it ends and I turn my tv off before checking it's not to late to go and threaten a lawsuit. Realising its only 19:47pm, I go and change back into today's outfit.

It's a black suit but instead of a normal t-shirt or anything, underneath is a bra that covers my chest but still looks like one of the most gen z looking things from in my wardrobe.

Another thing you should know, I quit S.W.O.R.D after having to watch a close friend have everything taken from her so she could help a bunch of people that hate her.

Also I own stark industries as pepper just wants to be there for morgan as hse is still young and it must he hard on her. It is officially open again in six weeks.

Driving there, I basically storm inside before going straight to his office. We are both sitting with four other people in the room, who I happen to notice are all white.

"Miss Stark, we have a right to have a new and improved captain america" he begins. "You have no right to storm in here, acting as if you, a child, is in charge."

"Firstly, I'm 21 as of July 17th 2023. Secondly, I know my rights and if I have a proposition for you then yes, I'm welcome" I argued back.

"All I was going to do was make a few modifications to the shield like this here" I continue before pressing a button on the side of my watch which is how I activate the shield I've made.

I stand up just as the shield shows itself to the pathetic excuse of a president. I go on "This beauty has been in every fight with me since 2012 but continues to evolve more so than any human including you and your 17th century views."

"I am not old-fashioned, I jus-" he tries but I cut him off. "You just don't believe in equal rights? Have you noticed I'm the only woman in this room or that everyone including myself is white."

"Unless you would like a major lawsuit against you and everyone that works for you, I suggest you hand over that shield to either me or Mr Sam Wilson" I say as my shield goea back into the watch.

He stands up, trying to act like he's in charge and shouts "I will not hand it over to some child, who thinks the world owes them everything."

"You know, you people seem to always forget what happened when I was kidnapped" I say, "Hydra experiment on me and therefore I have powers worse than the winter soldier's".

"Are you threatening us?" one of the people in the room ask and I answer "no, only a lawsuit, that in the end I'll win."

I stand up, "it's either give the shied to Stark industries or Sam Wilson, your choice?"

"I'll never hand it over, that's final. Wilson handed over captain america's shield" he says, sitting down once more.

"Whilst under the impression, it was to be in a museum as a historical artifact not that it would be a symbol of america's current racism and misogyny" I point out.

Before walking out, I say "this is war and something you should know, I always win."

I leave, already planning on contacting my lawyer tomorrow. Whilst walking to my car, I bump into someone and as I look, I see bucky barnes; the one person I don't wanna see right now.

"y/n, what are you doing here?" he asks. Answering truthfully, I say "I have a lawsuit against the president because of his blatant racism towards Sam and believing that a 21 year old woman is a child despite staring at my breasts for most of the thing."

"Yikes" he says. I nod, saying "Exactly and now I have to deal with another lawsuit". Laughing slightly, buck jokes "well at least you're likely to have experience with this kind of thing."

"In my defence, I won all four of them" I say, laughing a bit, "why are you here then?"

"I was on a date but left after ten minutes" he answered, "I had to go somewhere". "ooh so mysterious but seriously how have you moved on so fast" I ask, curiously.

"no, a friend asked her out for me because I wasn't in the mood" bucky explained. "So, barnes, feel like getting a drink then?" I asked, knowing it might distract both of us.

Grinning slightly, he says "sure but as I can only get tipsy at the most, I'm driving. Now where's your car for when I end up dropping you off at your place?"

Two hours later, the two of us are laughing madly whilst drinking but he finally says "well, I'm sure you have a busy day tomorrow so let's drop you off, okay?"

I nod but as I get up, I nearly trip over my feat which causes me to giggle hysterically in bucky's arm. "come on, doll. M' gonna take you home now, okay?" bucky says as we walk or in my case stumble out of the bar.

After putting me in the car, bucky drives us to my apartment. Him already knowing the address as I moved in whilst we were dating.

Taking the keys from me, he carries me up to my bedroom and puts me in my bed. "I'm gonna make you a cup of tea while you change, alright?" he said.

"But I don't wanna change" I mumble into my pillow. "Doll..." james said sternly, "come on, you need to get ready for bed".

I nod and when he leaves the room, I change quickly into a large t-shirt and some pajamas shorts. I manage to sit up in bed by the time, bucky is back with my tea.

We have our tea together before he is about to leave until I say "please don't leave me". Looking slightly confused, bucky says "are you sure, doll?"

I nod, not wanting to be alone again. Then for once in a while, I don't end up crying myself to sleep. Being around bucky always helped with my guilt about pietro and nat and my dad and everything that's happened to wanda especially recently.

"can I tell you a secret?" I ask bucky. Wjen he agrees, I say "on my 21st, Nat took me on a date. When I was eight, I thought I was in love so I asked her on a date and she said when I'm 21."

"really? What was it like?" he asked. "We went to this italian restaurant and after she kissed me on the cheek, I waited 13 years to go on a date then not long after she dies" I say.

Pulling me into a hug, bucky says "I'm sorry you had to go through that but you have me now, doll". I smile at that one bit of comfort, I still have bucky even if it's as a friend.

As I fall asleep in his arms, I feel him nuzzle into my neck and whisper endearingly "I still love you, my doll."

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lavendulaconminatio · 4 years

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Years ago I ran a blog on ace discourse: @asleepingwindow As a lesbian raised in the Catholic Church, where you can be gay just don’t act on it, I knew asexual activism had nothing to do with being gay. I know an asexual gay person is the church’s fucking wet dream. I always insisted I don’t care whether people identify that way but stop trying to say you suffer as I do as a lesbian. Stop fucking invading lgbt spaces too and making them unsafe for us! But that was a losing battle. I wonder how this time period will be seen 20-30 years from an lgbt history perspective.

Anyway, besides knowing asexual gay people are the kind of gay people straight people want, I also hated this idea that seemed to be gaining popularity about people being more oppressed simply because they weren’t seen as valid. Validity didn’t mean laws meant to protect their population, or having police see your body as human and worthy of life; they merely meant existing in popular media so people see them. There was never anything deeper than that to so called asexual oppression, which I will never think is a thing. I mean asexuality is a thing but people don’t actively hate you for not having sex, that’s a fact of fucking life. My people died by the thousands in the 80s, sometimes with only lesbians to give a shit, and some straight person says their totes oppressed because they don’t want to fuck? Yeah ok. Or if there was a basis in oppression, it was often just blatant sexism and homophobia. All men say you’re a prude for not having sex, this is nothing special, Jan.

Now years later after arguing my heart out, making a master post and closing up shop, I find myself with another side blog to combat an issue that I once again feel harms lesbians and women. Instead of being more concerned about the men that berate, beat, and kill trans women, activists are literally attacking women, especially lesbians, for not validating trans people. The level of vitriol leveled at a woman for talking about her vagina is so above and beyond any hatred for the men who have murdered trans women.

Then in some perveted irony, those same deaths are propped up as reasons to shut down women talking about sexism. Meanwhile, more women than anyone can count die every day because they are female. We don’t get the luxury of our deaths being marked a hate crime. Instead it’s domestic violence, or maybe FGM gone wrong amoung the countless other things that needlessly and horrifically kill women. And I haven’t even talked about rape.

I knew the ridiculous activism of the asexual movement would have lasting consequences but I honestly never thought the concept of validity would be taken and warped so far to try and pretend biological sex doesn’t exist and that women aren’t female just to make trans women feel better about their dysphoria. I feel immense compassion for anyone with dysphoria, I have it and struggled for a long time to figure out if I was trans or a butch lesbian. There is such an immense disconnect here about the importance of validity and what real oppression looks like. Especially when you refuse to even discuss detrans people for fear it will make you seem less valid. So their struggles don’t exist to make you feel better. Once again, all about erasing females to stroke the egos of males.

This is not the biggest issue on my plate, but it’s a recent small example of tangible consequences to prejudice. The other day I was trying to refill an opioid I have a legal prescription for but the pharmacist refused because they couldn’t find it. Despite having going through this before this woman refused to look where I suggested, and I suffered in pain for 3 days before my doctor’s office was able to tell them they had it for sure. I mean this isn’t about sexism and more about ableism (though women’s pain is often discounted more, black pain even more) In that moment, I didn’t want to be validated. I didn’t want the pharmacist to know who I am, my identity, my disabilities, I wanted her to stop judging pain patients as a whole and give me my fucking legal prescription. Every single legislation and guideline that limits opioid prescriptions are born of a prejudice against addicts and a indifference to people in pain. That pharmacist didn’t give a shit about my pain, to bother even looking, because the rules made her right and I was probably an addict anyway. That is a real tangible feeling of oppression, and like I said it’s nothing compared to other examples I just didn’t want to dig up anything more upsetting.

That is how I feel about oppression. Validity matters, representation matters, but it is not the nitty gritty of what oppression is. It’s screaming at the walls, throwing your phone, because someone with the power to judge and fuck up your life, did exactly that. And worse they feel righteous for what they did because to them you’re just a “insert slur here”. And that’s just a small nonviolent and nonlethal example.

Now unlike asexuality, I know to be trans is to be oppressed and to suffer. But you cannot lift yourself up by putting others down, you will be on a tower of dominos that can fall the moment some other group does it to you. I always said trans people obviously belonged with LGB groups because obviously bigots didn’t care if a couple was two gay men or a man and non-passing trans woman. To me it spoke to a shared history and understanding. But maybe I was wrong, maybe that doesn’t exist. I think at least the one major difference now that I can definitely see is it’s ridiculous to infer female privilege by calling us cis. One thing is for sure, LGB and trans history are not as simple as I had ignorantly assumed in the past.

I don’t want to dictate what trans life is like, I don’t want deny any adult the right to transition, I don’t have any interest in misgendering, I believe there is a difference between sex and gender. But by fucking god I will not let anyone trample on my rights, call me bitch, cunt, terf, cum dumpster, deny my oppression as a female, deny my suffering, deny my reality as a female, just so You can feel better about your body. I will not sacrifice my body at the alter of your perceptions of your body.

Society loves to say otherwise, but women don’t exist to make you feel better. We don’t exist to make men feel more like a man or for trans women to feel more like a woman. We exist for our fucking selves, leave us alone! I’m not sorry if it makes you feel less of a woman because you need to address the misogyny you have been socialized into as a male. You all reek of sexism and think being trans means you magically cannot be affected by male socialization. That is some first class Bullshit. I’m a poor disabled lesbian, and none of that erases the racial bias I was taught and raised in as a white person. I always need to be willing to confront that, and it’s no different with males. Trans or cis, all of you were raised to hate women. Own it so we can fucking get past it.

Furthermore, our society only does better when we foster discourse. Disagreeing can be enraging but it’s how you learn if your own beliefs are worth keeping or discarding. It’s how you grow. Only insecure bullies feel the need to demand loyalty, stamp out dissent, and mock their opponents than actually argue. Don’t give into this intellectual dishonesty that might be easy, feel good, gain you a moment of praise, but ultimately throws women’s liberation and equality under the bus and into a raging inferno. How dare you think your right to feel valid is more important than my right to live freely and without shame as a female.

I’m very much open to good faith discourse on this topic, but do not mistake me. I have suffered for being born with a vagina, and no male will ever get to shut me up. So the next time you want to say choke on a dick, choke on your own.

#misogyny #sexism #feminism #trans activism #radical feminism #gender critical

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elizabethrobertajones · 7 years

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up until now I've liked mary a lot but after this ep I'm so frustrated. she's demanding not to be treated like the mom of small kids when what she's doing is clearly for the sake of her small kids (who I don't think she's fully accepted are gone forever), not her adult sons. it's hypocritical and what's worse is it didn't feel like the show was condemning her actions. but I'm worried I'm being misogynistic? bloggers I respect keep saying that's what anyone mad at her is being and idk what to do.

I’ve been sitting on this for days and I have no idea how to answer it… I don’t think it’s inherently misogynistic to hate Mary if you have genuinely good reasons not to like her and can explain why she’s completely rubbed you up the wrong way. Still, if you think the show isn’t condemning her and are seeing her actions as extremely negative, and don’t WANT to feel this way, then I could suggest that the show IS trying to make her sympathetic instead of antagonistic, and you’re feeling a disconnect with that?

You could maybe try and look for something like thinking the writing isn’t giving you enough reason to care upfront about her, but I’ve been feeling like it’s a fan fic kind of thing - we KNOW who Mary is and why she matters as soon as she arrives, so she’s not some random character who needs sympathy and understanding and a reason to trust built up by the narrative as part of the introduction to her - that all kind of comes almost without saying, because she’s always had an emotional role in the story so a premade reason to care about her already exists in the narrative even if we start by looking at it only that Sam and Dean care about her rather than why we do.

And that’s also the thing she and Sam and Dean are dealing with - textually, all laid out, their problem is the different levels of love and care they have for each other. Objectively, abstractly, they love her, just like we might be predisposed to care about Mary before we ever knew her. And then it challenges that - goes for the themes about what family REALLY is. Mary only knows a version of Sam and Dean who were babies and isn’t invested in OUR Sam and Dean we’ve grown to know over 12 years. We ALL have some work to do to care about her, which is entirely the point the show is making. They’ve dropped a brand new character on us but tell us, here, it’s Mary Winchester, their missing mom, how do you feel about that?

So yeah, you can find her hard to like, and question her motives, or feel like she has no place here and none of that is misogynistic if you’re not certain she belongs or it’s a bad story choice or that they’re not doing enough to make us like her. They KNOW that and that these are the challenges and that they’re also fighting against her crappy history on the show of being written as a perfect saint character, who would be completely uninteresting if she showed up and solved everything by loving them immediately for who they are and causing them no trouble or whatever.

But the show isn’t going to condemn her actions because it’s trying to ask us to like her, and thinking that it SHOULD be condemning her is I think dangerous towards ending up hating her irrationally, which then immediately opens up that accusation, because the show is always going around giving us a sympathetic view on the actions of the other main characters. Sure, people get angry towards Sam or Dean or Cas and feel like they’re the hugest douche ever and need to be called out and made to suffer for their actions, but the writing treats them very sympathetically and takes it as an assumption that they’re main characters and we’re going to care about them, and doesn’t write for the factions clustering protectively around anyone.

Mary’s getting the same treatment. She’s on the inside, the little group of main characters who are the ones we’re meant to be rooting for; she’s given scenes that show how she’s suffering or that she’s the sympathetic one in the room, or to help us understand why she’s making her decisions. If we want to care about her we can pick up on all of that and construct a flawed but good character who is messed up and grieving and trying her best with like, terrible understanding of her resources and all the old Winchester communication issues which have made every season such a delight of miscommunication and people not reaching out for help when they should have (Cas being a Winchester too in this case). The fact she’s most closely re-treading steps CAS took and that he’s been redeemed and accepted into the family wholeheartedly and got the big “i love you all” moment means a LOT about how I think we should feel about Mary. And whose standards we’re holding her to - namely, the exact same standards we hold Cas to.

It’s really sneaky writing, paralleling her exactly to Cas in this season and with her past actions; giving her and Cas identical moments all over the place, because it links them together in such a way that I think if you don’t know how else to relate to Mary, you can relate to her through how you’d react to Cas doing and feeling the same.

I mean, yeah, she’s done some shady stuff and is making poor parenting decisions but all the stuff showing how she’s struggling with everything? They way they made me feel sympathetic and sorry for her in the start of the season was not like, currency she had to spend and after a point she runs out. It’s like, well, they want Mary to be sympathetic, so now I am going to sympathise with her until it’s clear I’m no longer meant to. And there are clear nods we’re meant to sympathise with her still, for example the start of the episode, paralleling her and Ketch’s reaction to the monster killing thingy - he’s OBVIOUSLY a creep who gets off on that. She looks horrified. Later in the episode, Sam also looks horrified at MoL methods, while Dean is paralleled to Ketch as being more sympathetic. Whatever else Mary is doing, it’s blatant to me she’s meant to be a good main character with morals at the HEART of her character that are supposed to be good and therefore it’s safe to sympathise. So everything else she does, I make the same allowances and explore her reasoning as if Sam or Dean or Cas was the one currently fucking up?

I suppose people talking about misogyny use it a lot as shorthand for internalised misogyny where you’re not intentionally doing it but it’s just HARD to learn to sympathise with female characters, and the fact we have 3 leads who fuck up bad all the time, and then a 4th character joins who happens to be a woman, is set on a path of identical fuck ups, and is immediately loathed by some, just sets alarm bells ringing. The good thing about internalised misogyny is that you don’t MEAN to do it, can be made aware of it, and then make a conscious effort to understand and address your actions.

And tl;dr this is how I end up in an alarming number of ridiculous circular conversations with people who don’t understand why I like Cersei Lannister and what I mean by “good character” or how I don’t just look at her and hollar for her blood :P

#Asks #not that Mary is anywhere near as bad as Cersei #I just #*grinds teeth*#every... time...#I should just pretend I hate her but that perpetuates stuff probably #12x14 #Mary F Winchester

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aside from the blatant antiblackness in twenty one pilots’ music (which should never go unaddressed, i just figure this other issue is important to talk about), something people should consider more is the fact that they do happen to glorify mental illness.

a lot of fans have asked how tyler can glorify mental illness when he is mentally ill himself, and here is my answer: just because someone is part of a group that is marginalized, or faces scrutiny, does not make them immune to propagating the issues said group they’re apart of faces. women can still perpetrate misogyny, trans people can still be transphobic, and so on.

i don’t think tyler’s intention is to glorify mental illness. i don’t think he wants to, because in the later release of trench, his song neon gravestones directly addresses this issue of glorification of mental illness. but this does not mean he was always like this. perhaps, in his mind, he realized that he contributed to this problem and changed for the better - which is good! while it certainly doesn’t reprieve him of the other problems 21p’s music has and the behaviors he and josh exhibit as people, it’s one thing down. but this does not mean that it wasn’t an issue that existed.

upon relistening to vessel with some friends last night, we all realized that while paying attention to the lyrics, there is some very real and unsettling implications behind some of the lyrics in the songs. vessel follows a theme that is very much about wallowing in your emotions. even if you do encourage people not to give up hope, even if you do tell people to “stay alive, because [they] matter,” you can still accept that you are “broken” or otherwise “unfixable.” and this is not okay! a LOT of twenty one pilots’ fanbase is children, or teenagers, especially back then when vessel came out (2013) and when blurryface came out (2015). tyler, whether he intended it or not, is basically putting a message out there to these kids that it is okay to be “broken” and that sometimes you just can’t heal. and that is not true. you can always heal from your issues, you can always reach out and find help. a musical duo is not going to help you as much as you think it will.

and, look, i’m not saying this to hate on twenty one pilots. i used to be a huge fan of them. i believed that everything tyler said was true and flawless and incapable of being criticized. i believed that yes, we are broken people, and he can’t sleep because he knows all of us are struggling. i believed that he cares about every single fan personally. but the fact of the matter is that he doesn’t. and it’s not because of any malicious intent, but because he just doesn’t know you personally. he can’t know you personally. no content creator, no matter how they try to convince their fanbase, truly knows what their fanbase is thinking individually or what their fanbase is feeling. this is a set-up for parasocial relationships, which, when looking at the way mcyt stans view dream and co., is very very dangerous and unhealthy.

it’s not like tyler wasn’t aware that many fans at the time were kids, either. he directly references this in many of the songs on vessel:

“I know what you think in the morning, When the sun shines on the ground, And shows what you have done, It shows where your mind has gone, And you swear to your parents, That it will never happen again, I know, I know what that means, I know.”

“I'm trying, I'm trying to sleep, I'm trying, I'm trying to sleep, But I can't, but I can't When you all have guns for hands, yeah”

“The solution is, I see a whole room of these mutant kids, Fused at the wrist, I simply tell them they should shoot at this, Simply suggest my chest and this confused music, It's obviously best for them to turn their guns to a fist.”

^^^ all from guns for hands.

“What kids are doing They're killing themselves They feel they have no control of their prisoner's cell And if you're one of them then you're one of me And you would do almost anything just to feel free Am I right? Of course I am Convince me otherwise would take all night Before you walk away There's one more thing I want to say Our brains are sick but that's OK”

^^^ from fake you out

“Am I the only one I know Waging my wars behind my face and above my throat? Shadows will scream that I'm alone But I know we've made it this far, kid”

^^^ from migraine

as we can see, tyler makes it clear that he knows that the majority of 21p’s fanbase at the time consisted of kids battling with mental illness. after all, he was one himself, so it’s easy for him to relate to other kids going through the same thing. but the problem with this is that tyler was already an adult at the time of writing and recording vessel and the majority of its songs. tyler is also, by default, distanced from his fans because that is exactly what they are: fans. he is a musician, he is not some random person who we all claim to be friends with.

i feel like this is another example of setting up parasocial relationships, trying to make it seem like a content creator KNOWS what their fans are going through. that they genuinely love, appreciate, care for, and understand each and every individual fan in a very personal way. but this is not true. no matter what a content creator tries to convince their fans, there is no way one person can understand a multitude of individuals. it’s impossible.

and if you’re wondering whether i’m calling tyler predatory, no, i’m not. i don’t think this is predatory. it *is* creepy and unsettling in the way that he set up the lyrics. but i don’t believe he had any harmful intention. he was an adult at the time, yes, but a younger adult, and now that he is older we have seen a change in the way he writes his lyrics dealing with these kinds of topics. he doesn’t treat mental illness as something that makes you broken, something that is untreatable or without a fix. not anymore. and that’s good! but that doesn’t mean these issues in vessel should go unnoticed, because tyler was very aware of the fanbase at this point and these songs are still very much available to the public.

and this isn’t the only issue 21p has. in fact, it’s a lot smaller in comparison to their antiblackness. i don’t feel that i’m in any place to discuss that because i am white and i feel like it would be speaking over people of color, but know that this is not the only issue 21p face.

no interest of yours is perfect or without flaws. but it should also be said that this isn’t meant to say you can’t enjoy things. just do what i’m doing: being critical. analyzing, thinking, forming opinions for yourself and hearing out what others might have to say. and remain civil. i’m not even a fan of twenty one pilots anymore, but sometimes i find some of their music listenable still, even if my music taste is vastly different from what it was like in 2016-2017. still, i criticize their lyrics and what they say outside of their music, because as celebrities they have an influence that should not go unnoticed.

#leaflings #twenty one pilots #//#long post #suicide ment

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weeklyhumorist · 5 years

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Sexist Double Standards I Hold About Men That Generic RideShare App™ Needs to Address

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Re: Sexist Double Standards I Hold About Men That Generic RideShare App™ Needs to Address

Hello all,

As the CFO of Generic RideShare App™, I’m not allowed to be sexist. Well, not sexist against men, anyway. And I’m writing this email to be upfront with you all about my male sexism. It’s something I need to overcome—I need to lean into my internalized misogyny and hate other women, as do we all. By judging women harshly for things we’d overlook for their male counterparts, we’re all ensuring success in Generic RideShare App™ as a whole.

Don’t get me started on how we’re “supposed” to treat nonbinary folks. Please, really don’t. I already feel like I’m going to pass out from anger. Mike, the San Francisco office’s lead finance manager, told me if I rage-collapse again he’ll fire me for being a “hazard.” A “hysterical hazard.” I am the Generic RideShare App™’s Chief Finance Officer. I am his superior. How does that even make sense?

As a powerful woman who is supposed to hate all other women and nonbinary people almost as much as I hate myself, this email serves to confess I can’t. I just can’t and I need your help. It’s terrible and really going to limit my trajectory at Generic RideShare App™, but there are some sexist double-standards I just can’t help but have. They may be cruel and unfair to the male population, and I’ll never be able to enter lucrative partnerships, but I can’t quell these feelings any longer on my own.

To support an open and honest work environment where we collaborate to tackle problems, here is a list of just some of the sexist double standards I hold about men at Generic RideShare App™. I don’t think I’ll be able to overcome without your help. Any suggestions for letting them go would be greatly appreciated.

Peacoats in Far-from-Inclement Weather

If I see another man come into our office from a summer San Franciscan day, shed his peacoat, and drape it over his arm like a knowing butler, I’m going to lose it. I’ve already suffered three concussions in the past month thanks to Jake, Ryan, and Alex, respectively. My therapist tells me I need to develop better coping mechanisms to avoid my body’s natural reaction to men being ridiculous—shutting down—but I haven’t found an effective one as of yet. Suggestions are welcome.

However, Michelle always looks so pulled together in her peacoat and I’m like, “Michelle, rock that EVERY DAY.”

‘Helpful’ Hints from the Hallway

Whenever a male coworker pops his head into my office at Generic RideShare App™ headquarters, even when the door is closed—firmly closed—to tell me ways to improve the output of our floor as a whole, I think about the scene from Kill Bill where Uma Thurman slams Buck’s head in the door jamb until he goes limp. Often, I unconsciously hold my breath while fantasizing about that scene until I lose consciousness. My therapist tells me this was not the type of visualization she had suggested in our sessions. Any feedback regarding positive visualization techniques to help me not fantasize about killing Jake, Ryan, or Alex would be much appreciated.

On the other hand, Brittany politely taps on my door, waits until I invite her in, and then asks permission to implement a new strategy she read about in O. She then asks me what kind of coffee I’d like from Philz. Brittany is a hero. Brittany is my hero.

Doc Martens in Meetings

As you all know, I try to keep our meetings at Generic RideShare App™ headquarters short and on topic, which is why I have found it deeply disturbing that not once, not twice, but on six separate occasions, one of our male colleagues has leaned back in his chair, placed his arms behind his head, and hefted his mud-caked Doc Martens onto the table in our conference room. San Francisco is a city. You have to go out of your way to get muddy. What are you doing?

It’s even more disturbing that it has not been limited to Jake, Ryan, and Alex. Mike, Allen, and the other Alex have done it as well—do you all go shoe shopping together?

In contrast, Samantha wore Doc Martens to a meeting three weeks ago. I didn’t realize it until she was leaving the meeting—because she never once put her feet on the table like a monster.

“Oh, yeah, sorry,” she mumbled when she noticed my gaze, “I had to borrow these from a friend after my shoes were soaked when her apartment flooded this morning. This rain has been intense! I didn’t have time to run home.”

Samantha, wear Doc Martens whenever you want. Whenever. You. Want.

I know my blatant sexism is causing rifts in the positive culture we try to facilitate at Generic RideShare App™. Again, any tips for leaning into my internalized misogyny and overcoming the rage all of the men at Generic RideShare App™ bring out in me would be extremely helpful. I will try my best not to automatically delete suggestions from any of them.

Thank you all for your attention, and I know we can work through this hangup and become a stronger Generic RideShare App™ because of it.

Best,

Your CFO of Generic RideShare App™, Mike’s boss and superior

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#business #car share #lfyt #men #uber #woman

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filosofablogger · 6 years

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It seems that the closer it comes to election day, the more fired up the rhetoric gets, the snarkier I feel. Having just finished a three-part series on Voter Apathy, I was ready to let loose with some snark this afternoon!

A big deal …

“I heard Oprah was in town today. And I heard Will Ferrell was going door-to-door the other day. Well, I’d like to remind Stacey (Abrams) and Oprah and Will Ferrell — I’m kind of a big deal, too.”

— Vice President Mike Pence at a campaign event for gubernatorial candidate Brian Kemp in Georgia, reminding voters he’s a big-ticket name, too.

As one commenter said: “On one side, beloved American institutions. On the other, a man with as much charisma as an empty cottage-cheese tub.”

The judge can’t make up his mind …

Remember two weeks ago when I wrote a piece on some of the ways in which states are disenfranchising certain groups of voters? One such state was North Dakota, where voter identification laws require an ID with an actual street address. Problem is that many of the Native Americans live in rural areas where their address is a P.O. box.

Late Tuesday, the Spirit Lake Tribe and six individuals filed suit in U.S. District Court to prevent North Dakota’s new voter ID laws from being implemented during next week’s mid-term elections. Seems reasonable, yes? Apparently not to U.S. District Judge Daniel Hovland, who declined to grant emergency relief and ruled that granting an injunction days before the election “will create as much confusion as it will alleviate.” Say what???

Judge Hovland

Versions of North Dakota’s voter identification law have been the subject of litigation for the past few years. Earlier this year, the very same Judge Daniel Hovland found the requirements, including identification carrying a residential street address, disproportionately burdened Native American voters. He also found that thousands of Native Americans were less likely to possess identification that met the requirements or the documentation required to obtain identification.

So, to clarify, the judge has understood for some time that the laws are restrictive and keep thousands of Native Americans from voting, but he feels it would be too confusing to put a hold on the laws in order to allow Native Americans to vote in next week’s election. This move is almost certain to unseat democratic Senator Heidi Heitkamp who is trailing behind her republican challenger, Kevin Cramer by 7-9 percentage points. Does anybody smell a rat here? Fair and honest elections? Balderdash!!!

Heidi Heitkamp / Kevin Cramer

Another strike against women …

Okay, so the evangelical right-wing republicans are dead-set against abortion under any and all circumstances, right? No exceptions, life begins before the cigarette is even lit, and is something sacred from that point forward. So, doesn’t it make sense that those same people would favour birth control so that there would be far fewer abortions needed, and an added bonus, far fewer children in need of help from the government for such luxuries as medical care, food, clothing and shelter? But no … they want to be able to determine whether their religion allows a woman access to birth control, too!

Trump is attempting to revise the rules of ACA in order to allow companies to refuse to cover birth control in their employee health plans if they have moral or religious objections. Thus far, the courts have struck his revision down twice, but he has once again made what is said to be a minor adjustment in hopes of getting the blessing of the courts before next week’s mid-term elections. The average cost of birth control, if not covered under an insurance plan, is $160 – $600 per year. It may not sound like much, but to a lot of women, that may be two months’ worth of groceries.

I see this as blatant misogyny … an attempt to dictate that “Woman, you WILL have babies whether you desire to or not!”

Even ice cream goes political …

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According to a statement by Ben & Jerry’s founders, Ben Cohen and Jerry Greenfield …

“We cannot ignore the Trump administration’s attacks on our values, our environment, and our very humanity. We cannot stand silent while disenfranchised groups are silenced and ignored. We must act, we must resist. Introducing Pecan Resist, a new Limited Batch flavor that packs so much more than fudge and nuts under its lid. This flavor supports organizations that are working on the front lines of the resistance, supporting equality, justice, and respect for everyone. Featuring chocolate ice cream with white fudge chunks, dark fudge chunks, pecans, walnuts, and fudge-covered almonds, it’s a nutty delight that’s sending a powerful message. Together, we can resist. Learn more and find it near you here: http://benjerry.com/pecanresist”

The reviews on Twitter were a mixed bag …

I am never purchasing anything at Ben and Jerry’s again, this is disgraceful.

I am proud to announce my next flavor of Ben and Jerry’s I will be eating….. none of the above. Political food makes my stomach turn.

My new favorite ice cream! That’s how you make a statement And take a stand! Well done @benandjerrys .. if you wanna make another flavor called Kid Vicious You have my permission!#PecanResist#TheResistance#Vote #KidVicious

And there you have it … another episode of Filosofa’s Snarky Snippets! Happy Friday and have a great weekend, my friends!

A Snarky Snippet Friday … It seems that the closer it comes to election day, the more fired up the rhetoric gets, the snarkier I feel.

#Ben & Jerry&039;s #birth control #Judge Daniel Hovland #Mike Pence #Spirit Lake Tribe #voter disenfranchisement

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