I saw a post today talking about how difficult making friends can be, as well as maintaining friendships, and as someone who has spent the last few years learning how to maintain friendships while moving a couple times and some big life events. One of the best things you can do for a friendship is organise to do THINGS.

Not just meet and talk or chat over message. Arrange to go swimming, or for a row boat ride, cook dinner together, try making clay creatures and laugh at how bad they are. Go to see a play or a singer or a waterfall.

Sit on a call together in silence while you crochet or watch something at the same time in different locations.

Or while you both draw or do dishes and say the random questions that come to mind 'do you think aliens could exist?' 'How can you tell when you're in love?' 'There’s a really cool bird out the window I think you'd like it, it's all blue and green!'

The key is to not try to keep the friendship for the sake of it, but enjoy the Person and their company

Maintaining of a friendship over time requires effort, but also acceptance that you won't speak or see each other all the time. My 3 best friends are all from different phases of life and I have had periods of months or years where I didn’t speak to them just because we had shifted how much we saw each other.

You see them when you see them, you speak when you speak, but you'll find people who with even a tiny amount of effort (a birthday gift, a card, a meme sent, a message or a gif) you can hold onto. People who mean the world to you even though you only see them a could times a year.

I once heard the phrase that friends are like stars, even when you don't see them, they're still there.

Friendships that truly mean something aren't like sitcoms or movies. Life is more complicated and people are too, don't feel bad if your friendships don't match up to what you expect, or if you can't be there all the time.

All things considered, I'm a pretty shit friend sometimes, I forget birthdays and I'm useless to get hold of sometimes. But on either side of friendships that I have, we both make enough of an effort that they're still there.

I'm going to the cinema tomorrow with a friend I've had since I was 11 (or 13 depending how we've decided to measure it that day) and I haven't seen in person in nearly a year. We're still going to have a great time.

Your friendship takes whatever form works for you, don't lose sight of the people you love cos the way you love them doens’t look like 'it's supposed to'

the funniest screenshot to date

Mary's "good friend" face is everything

If you think a person is a good man, but can’t for the life of you specify what makes him a good man or why you think he’s good, then perhaps you never truly believed he is. Only the person who can accurately describe a man’s character and what makes that individual good, should deserve his friendship. (This applies to women as well)

My stoicism of the day.

Swimsuit sunday?

[So far, Adam, Funk 'n Waffle delivered a pasta waffle with a marinara and some fried chicken that was rock-star, legendary, out of bounds. Our good friend Heather from Lucky's in Cleveland but in the end, life makes victims of us all.]

Who is your best tumblr fren? Ima follow

My best Tumblr friend would probably be @theindescribable1 , I’ve know him the longest and we’ve got great memories together on roblox.

He’s a really good friend, I could explain a lot of reasons why but I just woke up and it’s really early so I’m going back to sleep.

Am I in the wrong? What did I do wrong?

Okay I don't know how to like start this off but I am really confused on why I am being blocked and hated on, so an issue happened with two ex friend's of mine, let's name them H and G. Here is a little background/backstory, I met them online through instagram and OB! We got to know each other, play Obey Me!, Genshin, etc. we've known each other since 2020 so during covid. I spend more time with G the estimate is 16+ hours of my day, everyday, even if I am really busy, I still make time for G to play video games, they don't like to role-play so I respected their choice, chat, laugh, talk about our future and when we get to see each other in real life, making sure they feel loved, sleep on phone calls together platonically, send gifts to another platonically. H on the other hand deals with strict parents so the estimate I get to spend time with them online is 3-5 hours a day, so I can't play games with them that much or be on call with them, I can text them or role-play with them, other than that nothing else. So time skip to two and half years of knowing G and H. G and I would talk about serious topics and they always assumed that the trio friendship will have a fall out one day, I always reassured them that it won't due to the strong online bond all three of us have for each other platonically. I would get upset with them saying hurtful words and deny my platonic reassurance, but they would take it the wrong way and think I am mad at them or it'll lead to a bigger fall out of the friendship, but I reassured them and was patient with them. So, time skip to a few months closer to the third year of our friendship anniversary, H was able to be more online due to school being over and summer break being around the corner, so I was able to spend more time on text and role-play with H more often but during night time only so like 6 hours, they still couldn't get on call or play games. I still spent more time with G, still that same 16+ hours, like always and my time with G never lessened. So..before summer break started, one night, G was assuming I was spending more time with H more than G, which was not true. So I reassured them that nicely, they kept denying it so one thing led to another and they wanted to be lectured, mind you..G hates being lectured, so I respectfully declined on lecturing them to respect them, but they kept pushing it to 'lecture them' and that G 'will be fine' so I was hesitant, I stupidly accepted to lecture them. While I was in the middle of texting my long lecture to them and how I feel about their assumptions, G changed their word again and texted 'actually I don't want to be lectured' then they changed it to they do want to be lectured out of curiosity. So I sent my long lecture to them about how I feel for them assuming I am spending more time with H than G. Then next thing I knew, I was blocked by G on every social media contacts I had with them and they never told me anything, but G sent three of their friends to me and each one was telling me different stuff, I wanted to talk to G privately but they never wanted to and would leave me in the dark, and I got hurt a lot but their action and I got confused from their action as well, I never was able to talk to them ever again and be left confused from this. I just want/need answers since I can not get a clear honest answer from my ex friends anymore. I am sorry for my English, I am not good at it. But I hope someone understand what I said above.. Continued, part 2 of this will be posted.

Me: you sure you wanna follow me?

Him: yep, i got nothing to do so might as well

He then went ahead to help me hop around multiple shops to find my moisturiser, then afterwards-

Me: hey you can go first you know? I don’t mind

Him: Nah man, ladies first, i’ll walk you to the exit

And proceeds to wait for me until my cab arrives

I love my hairdresser.

She's also adhd/autistic and understands my struggles with making appointments actually early. So, whenever I reach out for a last minute appointment, she doesn't hate: she just fits me in if she can.

I love you hair wizard 💚✨️

So many people have considered me a good friend of theirs but the feeling is never mutual.

It may sound mean but it’s not meant that way.

I feel like I’m a good friend… I just never get the friendship that I give.

ive thought of this interaction like 7 times in the past 24 hours

I spent all of last night ranting about Battlestar Galactica and how we could improve the ending to a buddy of mine, who was similarly enraged after we watched the finale, and let me tell you.

That's MY version of phone sex, man. More intimate, more passionate, and more deranged.

I've said it before and I'll say it again:

LET. ME. HUG. JENNY. DALBY

I've realized that I'm one of those people who are meant to listen and make people feel seen, not to be heard and visible. Unfortunately.

I didn't picture you as the resting bitch face type but THAT'S AMAZING

Well considering on tumblr one of my most recent selfies I shared was me literately contorting my face into UwUing I can see how many people who follow me would have trouble believing that IRL 99% of people see me as a stone walled resting bitch faced unhappy mf!

Its funny cause inside im usually thinking the stupid shit I post about on here or listening to super upbeat Jpop that would not match my face at all!

Since you seem to be in a predicament with all the Error questions how about you present us with your opinion on Shattered’s tities as a break☆

OMG?!?!?!?!!? HI FRIEND?!?!?!?!?

... *flashbacks to the boob incident with Shattered* ... d e p e n d s