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aro-ace-culture-is · 6 months

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Another rant.

One day my grandma said, "You should get married soon"

I asked, "what if I don't want to? I have my friends....and you."

They replied, "Friends are never equal to a husband, no matter how close you are".

I was really curious. "Say, what is the difference between the two?"

"You know. The feeling of someone being there for you, with you, always, 24/7 no matter what? Friends are never gonna give that feeling. I have friends too, but my husband is certainly different. Irreplaceable."

Now this is an old lady who married in her teens and spent 60+ years with her husband. She was dependent on him, according to all the stories she told me about their relationship. Now she's over 90. I bet my ancestors were like, "A girl's gotta marry and settle. Marriage is a priority". Because everyone in that era (in our area) mostly married....and sustained in the relationship. It was obviously more than any other relationship. It's on a whole another level. And also because I picked this belief up from them.

What I knew in my heart:

That's bullshit. Friends can give that feeling too. If we try enough to focus on friendship. And can prioritize it enough. If we love our friends enough in our own way. People are different. And there are many among them who value friendship as much as romance. But I get where she's coming from. It is what she learned from her experience. I don't blame her at all.

What I felt:

It hurt. It made me doubt my new beliefs. Growing up, I was taught marriage was the norm. I grew up thinking I would marry one day, it's inevitable. It's impossible for me to be single cuz no one else would be with me. That I needed a person to be always with me. I grew up believing it hard. Now that's backfiring. Especially after I learned about my aroace identity.

All this rant is for one doubt. Is there a norm in this extremely diverse world? Either everything is normal or everything is abnormal. There is not one generalization or stereotype that is completely true because the world is fucking abnormal with kinds of conditions and people. There's not one invalid emotion or identity because humans are naturally complex. It's human nature. It's normal.

Nevermind this is all over the place, lemme just end it with some slogans.

BEGONE THE SO-CALLED NORM!

BEGONE STEREOTYPES!!

BEGONE GENERALIZATIONS!!!

Amen.

Posted on Nov 01, 2023

#ace #aro #questioning aroace #amatonormativity #questioning aro #questioning ace #generalization #stereotypes #aroace #queer #lgbtqia+#marriage #romantic relationships #norm #human nature #aspec

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lesbianamalvada · 20 days

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media written by men: all the best and most complex characters are male, one-dimensional female characters or complex female characters are mistreated by the narrative, fandom obsessed with male characters and ignores female ones.

media written by women: all the best and most complex characters are male, one-dimensional female characters or complex female characters are mistreated by the narrative, fandom obsessed with male characters and ignores female ones.

#why is this so?#writing #fandom #generalization

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properantagonist · 9 months

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I'm so tired of the generational discourse. There are all kinds of people in all generational groups, you're not all of a sudden different because you were born a year earlier.

Sure, there are certain things in common that people share due to the reality of living around the same time frame, but these are a small percentage of their entire personhood. Generations also vary with their technological and media experiences depending on the area of the world they were brought up in (some countries are obviously slower to adapt to globalised progress).

I'm tired of people blaming an entire generation for things done by all generations to some extent, or blaming it for something only a chunk of them do/did.

I saw a tweet claiming that "gen z bullied an artist to the point of near suicide for drawing a character wrong". Yeah, the whole generation is responsible. The entire generation is doomed because Something Bad ™ happened. I guess GIs were entirely responsible for WW2, right?

#generations #zoomers #gen z #generalization #ask a criminologist

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obligur · 3 months

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talking about eating disorders in health today and we were saying some of the societal pressure and anxiety that might cause someone to start spiraling about their weight or diet and this girl said “men” and all the guys in the class were like “stop generalizing that’s so mean and stupid we don’t have anything to do with that” and a couple minutes later the teacher mentioned that the average weight for an american woman is 5’4 and 170 lbs and one of the boys inhaled sharply and ALL the boys in the class started talking to each other like “isn’t that a lot” like GUYS you just fucking proved our point. and i’m NOT saying that all men are really concerned about women’s (or anyone’s for that matter) weight but you have to acknowledge that people will make generalizing statements that are in part true both to you and to other people. you have to be aware of what your identity groups have done that are bad. you can’t deny that it’s never happened.

anyways everyone is beautiful no matter what fat people are sexy skinny people are sexy average people are sexy everyone is sexy go have a great day

#society #tw disordered eating #tw eating issues #school #mental health #generalization

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philosophybitmaps · 1 year

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#philosophy #quotes #Alfred North Whitehead #Process and Reality #Whitehead #discovery #imagination #observation #abstraction #generalization #interpretation

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howifeltabouthim · 4 months

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I believe all men have a rapist in them, just dying to get out.

Lisa Taddeo, from Animal

#rape culture #misandry #bleak #dangerous #men #generalization #quotes #lit #words #excerpts #quote #literature #lisa taddeo #animal

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moncuries · 1 year

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every day i thank god u all have reading comprehension skills and common sense

#generalization #but a fair one i think

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catgirltoofies · 2 years

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there's an uncanny valley for size.

for those who don't know, the uncanny valley is a specific phenomenon where characters - and faces in particular - are attractive in two peaks, one oversimplified, one realistic, while the uncanny valley is the place between simple and realistic that people don't like looking at because it looks weird or wrong. there's a graph that looks kinda like the greek letter mu (μ).

but to my original point: character design follows an attractiveness curve, but instead of getting more realistic the character is getting larger. rather than being like a mu, this graph rises, peaks at some small character point, then dips a little, then rises back up and plateaus.

average sized characters are less attractive than smaller or larger characters. this is simply how things are.

also, don't look at the limits. things get weird there.

[disclaimer: this is a massive generalization. obviously not every character is going to be better or worse based solely on their size. i just like little dudes and big guys. that's all.]

#not really even sure how to tag #generalization #character design

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feelswave · 1 year

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I am very tired of how separatist discourse makes people create this whole evil entity out of thousands of individual, separate statements, it takes groups and mobs and homogenizes them, dehumanizes them and encourages more of it by giving shelter and validating anyone feeling attacked by the "opposite group of opinions".

So tired of hearing "they say and do this and that" when no they don't. One person says this, another person does that. One thing is not as offensive as the next. One belief is maybe not held as strongly as the next. They're not a huge mob of people that behave in the same way, but separate statements coming from separate contexts all responding to the same sentiment: hate, sorrow, fear, disgust, frustration.

This is so important, this distinction. Before you think all is lost and before getting ready to spew more of that sentiment in all directions, know that you're immediately generalizing. Know that generalizing kills the truth and acknowledge you're being careless with your words. You are allowed to do so, in fact you are still human and prone to trying to make sense of chaos, but do acknowledge this for your own mental health.

If you choose to identify and participate with any sort of group may it be based on encouraging the types of attitudes that spread compassion and not on dumping your frustrations on the attitudes you hate.

#opinion #feelswave #feels.wav.e #discourse #modern discourse #true neutral #mental health #thoughts #generalization #compassion

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savannahbananaplaysthepiana · 2 years

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the only reason “not all men” is such a popular phrase among men is because those men simply cannot see women as individual and unique human beings like they see themselves, but rather as a collective and hive-minded species they’ve been allowed to generalize about for centuries.

#feminism #radfem #radical feminism #not all men #generalization #female #woman #womanhood #girlhood

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assiraphales · 2 months

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genuinely one of the worst things that’s happened to television in the last few years (exacerbated by streaming services) is death of Filler. going from 20 episodes to 8 because “we didn’t really need that episode where the main characters went to the beach right? it had no long lasting effect” but we DID!!! we needed to see how they act without the Big Bad Plot and to establish the dynamics between the characters and lay in the sun (do they forget sunscreen? how do they react to a thieving seagull? do they get buried in the sand or do they do the burying?). the plot isn’t everything. the action doesn’t hit as hard without the quiet moments. give us character development and our little scenes back

#Atla #avatar the last airbender #but in general #pjo

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bronzetomatoes · 3 months

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Why dont we all look at Andy

#look anika's talking!#it gets rough out here #(not any specific fandom. this is a general statement)#anika famous moment #greatest hits

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iapislazuli · 10 months

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idk what traumatized or mentally ill person needs to hear this but dreams (especially the really disturbing ones you dont want to talk about to anybody) arent some deep peek into your psyche or a sign of your True Desires or whatever theyre quite literally your brain making fruit salad with whatever it can find on the shelf. just putting all that shit in a blender and hitting obliterate. its fine, youre fine, youre not a weirdo for it

#dia noises #its content aware fill. ai generated. it doesnt matter

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howifeltabouthim · 2 years

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Very clever people tended to be . . . neurotic, unstable and obsessively ambitious.

Iris Murdoch, from The Philosopher’s Pupil