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jennandblitz · 1 year

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Borderline!Sirius Black

I’ve been meaning to write a post about Borderline Sirius for the longest time, but this is partly inspired by my posting a snippet of a BPD!Sirius fic a while ago and the fact I’ve had this headcanon for over two years now. My Sirius is often written as being Borderline, whether explicit or not. Borderline Sirius is something I’ve become increasingly attached to recently. The more I look at his personality and actions in canon, the more I can see him attached to the criteria of BPD/EUPD. A lot of my feelings about Sirius are from my own personal canon, especially during the First War where the pressure pot of existential dread is an untold stress on all members of the Order, but I think especially Sirius struggled under this pressure due to his personality disorder.

I think the easiest and most structured way to talk about Sirius’ Borderline—which is a complex and deep set of characteristics rooted in trauma and a consistently disrupted childhood, as all Borderline is—is through the diagnostic criteria from the DSM V. To be diagnosed with BPD, one needs to show at least five of the criteria. For ease of reading and to avoid a 3k word text post, I’m going to expand on the ones I think Sirius shows the most and leave others as a few lines.

This should go without saying but here we are, these opinions are my own and do not invalidate or disprove any other headcanons anyone else may have—everyone’s Sirius and their interpretations of him are all valid! If you don’t like my headcanons, DNI and move on!

A note on Bipolar Disorder v Borderline Personality Disorder: I’ve seen both use the same acronym and for ease I’ve taken to saying Borderline rather than BPD, or using the new acronym of EUPD (Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder). This post is also partly inspired by seeing @soloorganaas’ posts on Bipolar Sirius on my dash in that we need more psychological deep-dives into these characters, looking at their mental illnesses and neurodivergencies outwith canon. That is to say I love Natasha’s posts on Bipolar Sirius and you should all go and read them! Bipolar and Borderline aren’t mutually exclusive and, of course all headcanons exist at once, but in my own experience both Bipolar and Borderline have many overlaps, especially in Sirius’ character.

If you have things you want to add to this post, please feel free to reblog. Though I would kindly discourage any Borderline-bashing, if you have nothing nice to add, DNI. My dream would be to open a discussion about Borderline Sirius and other Black family members who we may headcanon as having BPD—because let’s be real, it’s a family heirloom.

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Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment.

I think this is the most painful thing to think about because of all the abandonment Sirius has suffered throughout canon. What I think of first are the two-way mirrors; Sirius and James are so very intertwined that they want the ability to communicate at any given moment, even during school. Frantic efforts to avoid abandonment can be demonstrated in several ways, both in clinging to the person, or abandoning the person first in order to paradoxically avoid the hurt of eventual abandonment. I think this is part of Sirius’ reaction during OotP, when he pulls away from everyone due to their perceived abandonment of him—he is alone in the house of his childhood and his friends are leaving to go and do the work he wishes he could do.

2. A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation.

For me, this is the peak of explaining Sirius’ behaviour throughout canon.

I hesitate to call it the Prank because that word isn’t used during canon at all, but for ease of understanding, I will. Borderline patients can have episodes of hypomania, and I do think an episode of mania contributed to Sirius’ actions here, but I also think Sirius split on Remus—ie, his perception of Remus switched from idealised to demonised and devalued. This could be over something so seemingly trivial to an outsider, even something like choosing to sit next to James and not Sirius at the dinner table, or not replying to a note Sirius passed to him. I can see Remus doing something that makes Sirius devalue him to the point of Sirius not seeing how the following events will affect his friend and he sends Snape to the Shack in a moment of impulsivity (more on that later), without truly being cognisant of the consequences of his actions, because he, in that moment, did not see Remus as a person of value.

He absolutely idealises and idolises James Potter (he is Sirius’ Favourite Person—something I could write a whole other post on) and Sirius’ idealisation blinds him to any more sensible actions especially regarding the Fidelius charm. He will go above and beyond to protect James and his family by extension. Peter, and also Remus, are so idealised by Sirius that they are able to do no wrong—perhaps this is why Sirius is able to overlook any slight clues as to Peter’s true allegiances and entrust him as the Secret Keeper.

Harry, by extension, is hugely idealised by his Godfather. Sirius believes he is perfect and that Harry can accomplish anything. When Harry sends his letter in GoF saying his scar hurts, Sirius immediately flies back to protect him, and also breaks into a Wizarding house to use the fire to communicate with Harry. Harry is not above being devalued by Sirius, however: in the Floo-call in OotP, Sirius tells Harry ‘you’re less like your father than I thought’, and to me it’s clear in that moment that Sirius sees Harry as having fundamentally missed the bar of high standards Sirius holds him to.

3. Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.

As we know, Sirius was the first Black not to be sorted into Slytherin. I think part of that comes from Sirius’ unstable sense of self, which, according to several studies, comes from the inability to integrate positive and negative traits. Sirius was simultaneously idealised by his parents and family as the scion of the House Black, and then, when he began to not meet their standards, was devalued as a blood traitor. I believe that Sirius developed some dissatisfaction with his life before he was sorted into Gryffindor, which was only heightened by his sorting and then devaluation by his family. This gives Sirius a markedly disturbed sense of self, which I think we can see during PoA where Sirius’ entire personality becomes getting revenge on Peter, then swiftly switches to being Harry’s Godfather once Peter has been caught.

4. Impulsivity in at least 2 areas that are potentially self-damaging. (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating)

Sirius’ recklessness is well characterised in canon, imo. Simply put, he spends recklessly—the Firebolt for Harry—and we are well aware of his substance abuse during OotP. We see his recklessness during PoA also, where he comes to Hogwarts despite knowing that there are Dementors and Aurors looking for him, because he wants to find Peter. He also breaks into a Wizarding house during GoF in order to Floo-call Harry, which obviously could potentially end badly.

As above, I also think The Prank is a symptom of Sirius’ impulsivity. Borderlines often say and do things in the heat of those splitting moments which can be self-damaging in more than the physical ways listed above, such as ending friendships or starting arguments, and I do think the Prank is damaging to Sirius’ view of himself, his position within the friend group of the Marauders and especially his view in James’ eyes, regardless of whether the Marauders forgave Sirius quickly or not.

5. Recurrent suicidal behaviour, gestures or threats, or self-mutilating behaviour.

Okay, this isn’t explicit in canon, but I do think Sirius’ actions at the Department of Mysteries are part and parcel of his suicidal ideation. This passive devaluation of his own life leads him to put himself in danger for Harry—who becomes his FP in James’ absence—and his recklessness goes beyond the above criteria. His escape from Azkaban in PoA is similarly reckless. No one has escaped Azkaban yet Sirius, who has spent twelve years punishing himself for the death of his FP, is willing to try, such that he values his life so little.

Admittedly, this criteria is also largely based around my own headcanons especially during the First War. I believe Sirius’ recklessness with his own life is marked during this time, especially if anything should happen to the other Marauders, Sirius’ internal monologue may often turn to suicidal ideation.

6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).

Ooh, this is a big one. I instantly think of Sirius’ immediate, marked happiness when Harry says he would like to come and live with him at the end of PoA—everything else is immediately unimportant when Sirius’ Godson (and Favourite Person) is talking to him. When Harry first arrives at Grimmauld Place in OotP, Sirius is jovial if a little concerned about Harry, but playful nonetheless. This changes very abruptly when Molly raises concerns about Harry being brought up to speed about Voldemort. We also see Sirius in a depressive state when he is told not to accompany Harry to his hearing.

7. Chronic feelings of emptiness.

How else would he survive the emptiness of Azkaban if he didn’t already know how that emptiness felt? Welp, I’m giving myself feelings.

8. Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights).

*gestures vaguely at the whole Shrieking Shack scene*

Beyond that, Sirius’ fury during OotP when he and Molly argue is also important here. I want to note also the difference between hot anger and cold anger, in that I think Sirius is very much feeling cold anger in this moment when he is arguing with Molly. Although I largely headcanon Sirius as experiencing a lot of ‘hot’ anger—that is to say, shouting and yelling, red-faced and furious—especially during the First War, I do think that being in Grimmauld Place in OotP makes Sirius lean towards ‘cold’ anger—more calculating, more biting and sharp—like his anger when Harry questions him about the Family Tree and when he and Snape argue over Harry’s Occlumency lessons. Perhaps we don’t see ‘hot’ anger from Sirius often during OotP, but we do see plenty of ‘cold’ anger from him, as well as a healthy dose of resentment and bitterness.

9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms.

Sirius’ actions and reactions in OotP are classic, imo, dissociative symptoms, specifically being back in the house where large amounts of his childhood trauma and the seat of his personality disorder took root.

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Overall, I think looking at our favourite characters through these psychological lenses really changes how we interact with them, both in canon and fandom settings. There are so many great takes about what it means for these characters to be neurodivergent in many different ways, and I’m sure there is a whole host more to say about Sirius’ mental health, whether he be Borderline or not, that I won’t cover here because this is going to be over 2k words.

If you made it to the end, I salute you! Thank you for listening to me ramble about Borderline!Sirius and how dear he is to me! 🖤

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rpatersonblog · 3 months

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Types of BPD

There are 4 borderline personality disorder subtypes: impulsive, discouraged, self-destructive, and petulant. IMPULSIVE subtype: These people struggle with impulsivity the most. This can look like binge eating, overspending, unprotected sex, drinking under the influence, alcoholism, gambling, drug use, outbursts, physical fights, yelling fits, breaking things. People with this subtype may appear energetic, flirtatious, charismatic, motivating. DISCOURAGED/QUIET subtype: These people may keep their emotions inside and express harm to themselves rather than other things/people. Instead of yelling at others they may indulge in self harm behaviors. People with this subtype may be clingy, feel empty or lonely most of the time, be perfectionists, engage in self harm or suicide behaviors, codependant, have anger and emotional mood swings if abandonment issues get triggered. SELF-DESTRUCTIVE subtype: These people have increased euphoria, a decrease need for sleep, increase in energy. (Self-destructive bpd subtype is not the same as mania, so speak to your doctor about this if you relate to this subtype). People with this subtype may abusive substances like alcohol or/and drugs, indulge in adrenaline-seeking behaviors without thinking of consequences, self harm - burning, cutting, hitting themselves, threats of suicide. PETULANT subtype: These people have severe mood swings - can go from sad to euphoric in minutes, feel unworthy and unloved, have an unhealthy desire for control. People with this subtype are irritable, stubborn, passive-aggressive, struggle in relationships, struggle with substance abuse. People who have borderline personality disorder can sometimes relate to just one subtypes, sometimes all of them. You don't have to feel like you have to fit into a category - there are many different ways bpd can manifest and not everyone with bpd is going to be the same way.

#bpd stuff #borderline personality disorder #mental health #mental health awareness #mental health illness

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silenthillmutual · 6 months

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do you mind expanding on why you don't like CBT? i'm just curious cause i also have various things wrong w me (including baaddd fatigue) & i've been doing cbt for like 6 months for anxiety :P

i don't mind! but there's not really a ton to my answer. i expect that a part of why cbt doesn't work for me is because my mother is a therapist who used cbt (and judging from some things she's said about my childhood, probably aba) with me growing up, and it just... didn't work. it never lessened my anxiety. back in undergrad i had a cbt workbook, thinking it would help me work through the problems i was having, but every time i tried to use it, it just made me more stressed out.

sort of related, but the apa's page on cbt starts off by talking about how it's the most effective for of treatment for pretty much everything, better than medication, but the page doesn't link to any studies about this and i'm not sure if thats something you even could objectively measure. but the idea that it's 'more effective than medication' for even 'severe mental illness' feels like complete bullshit to me, and i think it creates a bias in some therapists, as i felt discouraged from taking medications in the past.

i don't deny that cbt helps some people, but i also don't believe it's possible to simply problem-solve your way out of, for example, hypo/mania or even depressive episodes when youve got bipolar disorder. which is, i'm guessing, part of why it doesnt do shit for people with cfs. the idea that someone experiencing a flare up can rationalize their way into feeling better is utterly ridiculous. cbt is, i am fairly certain, the main treatment for ocd, but how is it supposed to help me when my borderline delusional brain has already rationalized both the obsessive thought and the compulsive behavior?

i agree with the central tenet that coping skills are important, but something about the way cbt has been used with me has consistently made me feel like it was my fault that my brain works the way it does, and whenever i bring up something that happened in the past i feel dismissed. ive literally been told by therapists that since i no longer live in a bad situation, i should no longer act like i do, despite having lived in that situation for 84% of my life. it just feels like a very 'pull yourself up by your bootstraps' approach to therapy that does not click with me at all.

regardless of my personal problems with it, i do hope it helps you, anon - and if it doesnt, i hope you find something that does! i think a lot of younger therapists are taking the approach to use a variety of therapies instead of sticking to just one. good luck!

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fearofahumanplanet · 2 years

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Cluster B Discord Server / Safe Zone (18+)

Hi everyone! I've been looking around for months and wasn't finding anything like this, so I decided to make a server just for folks with Cluster B disorders so we can have a sort of safe space free of stigma!

Before you join: We are only allowing people with Cluster B disorders (self-diagnosed is fine) and who are at least 18 years of age onto the server for the safety and comfort of our members, if you do not fit this criteria, please do not join the server. Thank you for your understanding. You will be required to select reaction role(s) that correspond to your disorder(s) for these purposes, but all the others are completely optional and you can take as many or as few as you'd like.

DNI List: Minors, anyone who believes in "narc abuse/borderline abuse/antisocial abuse/histrionic abuse", MAPs, TERFs/SWERFs, bigots or ableists of any kind, anti-systems, anti-recovery (you do not have to personally be in recovery yourself, merely do not discourage it in others), anti-neopronouns, thinspo/anything related, fatshamers, transmed, transage/transrace etc etc, all the usual suspects

Please read through the rules before verifying yourself so we can make sure everyone is comfortable!

Feel free to reblog around and spread the word :)

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bpd-aware · 4 months

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#bpd #discouraged borderline personality disorder #borderline personality disorder #quiet bpd #quiet borderline personality disorder #discouraged bpd #mental health

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houdinicorbini · 2 years

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Mordern! Ace x BPD! Reader Scenario

This is for my best friend who has BPD, so this is a comfort fic with one of their comfort characters

Love you, Lady!

Tw: suffering from mental illness, anxiety, declining mental health, suicidal thoughts, self-sabotaging, depersonalization, derealization, intrusive thoughts, slight cursing

The specific BPD I am writing for is Quiet BPD (also known as Discouraged BPD). These are not all of the symptoms. I only added just some of what people who have it have to deal with, if you want to know more about Borderline Personality Disorder, I recommend you do more research since I am not a professional and don't have it. Not all of the symptoms I have written here speak for everyone who has it.

Ace has known you for many years, hell, you two were great friends before you even considered getting together.

So it's only natural that he can tell when something is up.

What gave away that something was wrong in the beginning was the fact that you haven’t been responding to any of his calls and texts for a few days.

Which can be fine, sometimes people are just busy, but he can read you like a book and knows that your mental illness isn’t being kind. This man observes people, so he can tell when something’s not right.

He knows that you have moments of self-sabotaging to where you don’t take care of yourself. So, before he gets to where you live, he decides to make a quick pitstop at a store.

Once Ace walks in, he just starts putting anything and everything he knows that you'll enjoy in the cart.

He got regular food, goodies that you'll get once you've actually eaten some food, and a few coloring books as a distraction. He also intends on getting you groceries too.

He was walking around the store with a full cart within just five minutes of entering, and he still had other things to get.

After everything was gotten, Ace quickly loaded up and rolled out, possibly breaking the speed limit to get to your house as quickly as possible.

He had some frozen items that he did not want to melt after all.

He did not tell you beforehand that he was just going to drop on by your place, so it was a real surprise to see Ace with grocery bags covering his arms and one being held in his mouth.

“Wha-“ you were about to question him when he cut you off by stepping into your home. “I’ll explain in a second.” His response was rather muffled due to the plastic bag he was holding.

With him, two trips are for the weak.

Once Ace went into the kitchen, he showed no signs of coming out, so you had to walk in to see what he was doing in there. You find him preparing what you assume is a giant batch worth of spaghetti. Based on the ingredients he had out.

"How've you been?" He asks, looking over at you before turning his attention back towards the preparation of the meal that you love so much.

You can already tell that he knows, Ace was always so quick to know when something was wrong and when you needed someone.

But he obviously wasn't going to flat out demand an answer, he'll wait until you are comfortable enough. There's no point in trying to force it.

You were quiet as you started fishing for a response, but you decided to be honest since Ace already knew, there'd be no point. Lying would just make you feel worse, and that was not needed right now.

"Not well." You answer truthfully.

"After I make this spaghetti, we can sit down and talk, only if you are up for it though. In the meantime go and sit on the couch, get comfortable!" He said, acting like he owns the place, though it's not like you minded, his attitude did make you smile a little.

You did just as he suggested and went to the couch, getting the tv set up while you waited, maybe some background noise will help ease the anxiousness anyways.

Putting on the first movie you saw that didn't make you want to rip your hair out at this moment, you sat down on the comfy couch, getting yourself under a big blanket you had already there.

It was comforting knowing that Ace was just in the room next to you, doing what he could to help you through this. It truly meant a lot.

After a little bit, the smell of the well seasoned sauce activated your stomach, causing it the growl uncontrollably.

More time had passed and you had gotten quite distracted by the movie, to the point that you hadn’t even realized that Ace was right behind you, not until he put his hand on your shoulder, scaring the shit out of you.

"Gah!" You whip your head around, looking at the man who was wearing a shit eating grin. "You didn't answer me when I called, so I had to resort to more drastic measures." You could see that he clearly enjoyed that.

"Here. Now eat up." He said like it was more of a demand than a request.

"Thank-" And he was already gone before you could say anything. Looking down at the plate, you saw that he gave you a generous helping of spaghetti.

A minute later, Ace reappears, holding his own plate, carefully sitting beside you, making sure not to spill his food.

"Here you go." He hands you some napkins.

"Thank you." You say while taking them, grateful of how thoughtful he was. This can be a rather messy meal, and you don't want to deal with a messy face right now.

You turn up the volume a bit, since there's going to be eating. It helps with your mental health, and Ace totally understands that. Whatever helps you out.

You thoroughly enjoyed the food, not exactly taking your time, which caused Ace to lightly pat your head, his way of him telling you to slow down.

After a good portion of your food was finished and your face has been wiped, you placed the plate and napkin on the coffee table in front of you, not wanting to deal with it at this current moment.

"It was absolutely delicious." You say with a small smile, happy that you got an actual meal.

That plate was the most you've eaten in a few days.

Ace followed and did the same thing before scooting closer to you and placing the blanket over the both of you. It was comfort time.

"Now, do you want to talk about it?" He asked, calmly grabbing your hand in an attempt to help make you feel safe enough to talk about what's going on.

You let out a sigh, letting it bubble up wasn't going to help, but a part of you was worried to talk about it. You know he's trustworthy, but your BPD is telling you otherwise.

You understand that someone has good intentions but then it tells you the exact opposite, it's just a constant battle that you are getting incredibly tired of.

"It's just the usual really, nothing new."

"That doesn't mean you can't talk about it, it may be all the same, but it's better to let it out before it swells up. New or old."

He had a good point, it was better to get it out now before it boils over.

Ace paused the movie, giving you a chance to talk.

It took you a few seconds to think it over, to decide what to say and how to put it into words, some of the things you were dealing with can be rather difficult to explain.

But you were going to try, you had a feeling that Ace was going to listen, whether he understood or not.

"I've been struggling with a lot of things lately. From intrusive thoughts about ending it all, to not even feeling real and like I'm living outside of my own body."

You stare down at the table, not wanting to make eye contact while you continued to talk about your problems.

"I've been having a hard time wondering if I'm real or not, it's getting so bad that I can't even recognize myself in the mirror. It's a horrible feeling."

You could feel tears threatening to spill, but you'd rather not cry in front of someone, not right now anyways. Though it was starting to become too late for that.

"This feeling just won't go away, it's been happening for a few days now." You say in disappointment, growing tired of this feeling that's been plaguing you.

Now you were trying to stop the tears that were escaping, but for every one tear that you wiped, two more would appear, and then you just couldn't stop it anymore.

"I know I could have gone to you for help, but it's nothing new and I didn't want to bother you." You said in between sobs, finally looking at him here and there.

Ace kept listening, not wanting to cut in until he was sure that you had said everything that needed to be said, even if he had to sit there for hours, he would do it, just for you.

"And my intrusive thoughts have not been kind to me in the slightest, constantly telling me to just end it all, and I don't even want to, but it's just so constant that it makes it feel like I do want to."

You paused for a moment, giving yourself time to think after confessing a lot of what's been on your mind.

"Then there's the main thing BPD, which is also why I didn't talk, it's been forcing me to self sabotage. I've barely been taking care of myself, I probably wouldn't have eaten much today if you hadn't of come by." You admitted, not really proud of it, even though it's not your fault that your mental illness has been kicking your ass.

You looked at Ace again, this time waiting for him to talk, which he understood and did just that.

He gave your hand a gentle squeeze, placing a supportive kiss on your forehead while wiping away what tears he could.

He placed one more kiss on your nose before speaking.

"And how are you feeling at this exact moment? Are you still feeling the same way you described?" He asked.

You did a 50/50 motion with your free hand. "Luckily, I feel like I'm in my own body today, and the thoughts haven't been too violent today, and thanks to you, I actually got some food in me." You gave a small laugh at the end there, though it sounded a tad bit forced.

"I'm glad to hear that it's not going as bad as it was, that's an improvement, I don't mind you asking for help when this happens, but I know your reasons and I can't fault you for that."

Ace started fiddling with your hair with his other hand, which you didn't mind, you welcomed it actually.

"Did something happen to make this start? Or was it random?" He asked, letting go of your hand so he could use his to play with your hair more.

You felt guilt hit you right away. You almost didn't want to mention why, but nothing was going to get better, and you would once again just feel bad. So what's the point in hiding it?

"When we were hanging out recently, there was something you said, your tone sounded off to me and I fully regret not saying something sooner, and I know that's on me. I should have just talked about it with you and clarified what you meant right away." You began to feel the tears coming back as you rambled.

"And after that is when my mental issues just began attacking me at once, but it wasn't your fault, I just-"

"Hey, hey, hey, it's okay." Ace quickly said, trying to get you to calm down. He immediately grabbed ahold of your hand once more.

"It's alright, may I ask what I said to make you feel that way. And I'm not mad, I just want to make sure everything is alright." He wanted to quickly clarify that everything is fine.

You explained exactly what it was, trying to apologize for taking it the wrong way, to which he cut you off.

"Sometimes we just take things the wrong way, it's human, the best thing we can do is to talk to that person and ask this to clarify what they meant. You can use what happened to learn, not to beat yourself up."

"You're not upset?" You asked, genuinely surprised, not that he's ever given you a reason to be surprised.

"Of course not! Now if you had stolen my dessert, we'd be having a different conversation." He laughed, causing you to join him.

You both stayed on the couch for a little bit longer, you resting your head on his shoulder as you calmed down.

Ace did get up at one point, to put the dishes that were on the table into the sink, and to give you some tissues. He knew you were going to want them soon.

After some time, you began to feel a bit better, it helped to have Ace right by your side, telling you soothing things while feeling him kiss your head every so often.

It made you feel incredibly loved.

"Now! I got you favorite donuts." He suddenly says while getting up, not waiting for you to get up with him, thus causing him to just drag you into the kitchen, to which you accepted while saying "Weeeeee!"

"Get off the floor." He said while helping you up, acting as if he wasn't the one who just put you there.

Once you were standing, Ace took that opportunity to wrap his harm around your waist, pulling you closer to him so he could place a few kisses here and there on your cheeks, causing you to giggle and proceeded to give him the same treatment.

At least you tried before he turned his head, causing you to kiss his lips, flustering you but making him feel victorious.

"You already taste sweet and you haven't even had a donut yet~" Ace flirted, making you playfully hit his arm.

"You dork, now hand me a donut."

"I require something in return. Something special."

"What." You accidently sounded more aggressive than you intended.

When Ace gave you a certain look was when you realized what you did, making you laugh once more.

"Now, one more kiss and I'll grant you what you want."

You gave a sweet smile before leaning, getting ready to kiss and then you quickly steal a donut before running back to the couch, giggling like a gremlin.

You thought you had won, that was until Ace, very sneakily went up behind you once more.

"I think you forgot something." He whispered in your ear, causing you to jump and scream.

"WHY!?" You yelled.

"You went against what we agreed on." He says while bapping your head.

"Ow."

"That did not hurt."

This little game continued on as you both just watched movies throughout the day, cuddling and just eating junk food, with healthy meals.

He even brought out the coloring books he got you, joining in as you two began to talk about whatever came to mind.

You being in his company helped greatly, you both spent most of the rest of the day glued to one another, trapped under that blanket, to which you did not mind.

Man is built like a heater and you were cold anyways.

But jokes aside, Ace helped you a lot, more than he realizes, his timing has always been spot on, you don't know how he does it.

You're just grateful he's there with you.

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theworldoffostering · 2 years

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I reached out to the day treat program again yesterday. They finally did an intake over the phone. It took two hours and ended with Ms. 6 refusing to enter into the program voluntarily because she didn’t want to miss out on school (the program runs 6-8 week so would interfere with school quite a bit). Kids ages 14 and up have to do these programs voluntarily in our state. Parents cannot “force” their kids to do mental health treatment.

The program called back the following morning and said they wouldn’t take her anyways. We were trying to get her into a day treatment program for trauma, but they said she’s not a good fit for it due to her RAD diagnosis. Sigh. They recommended intensive in-home family therapy. Yeah, right. No one does that in our area. Ask me how I know. I’ve been looking for the last three years for an in-home therapist for Baby.

Interestingly enough, if you would have asked me a year ago if Ms. 6 had RAD, I would have said no. She’s never presented (to me) as a RAD kid despite that being her diagnosis for the last 6-7 years or so. She had to have that diagnosis in order to be in the residential facility she went to, and they are the ones who diagnosed it. I just figured they diagnosed it as she needed a place to go. I’ve never read of RAD seemingly laying dormant for four years and then rearing it’s ugly head in the form of behaviors as seems to be the case here.

I’m discouraged y’all. Her psych’s office hasn’t called me back despite me calling them twice last week. The therapist thinks we are adding borderline personality disorder to the list, said that the episodes we are seeing are unpredictable, and that Ms. 6 sort of just throws a bunch of stuff out into the world to see what sticks. She’s irrational and seems to enjoy playing the role of victim. I just want to keep her safe, but I also want to be safe, and I want our other kids to feel and be safe too.

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Borderline Personality Disorder a Disability

When it comes to mental health conditions, the question of whether they can be considered disabilities is a controversial and debated issue. If we talk about borderline personality disorder, also called BPD, it’s an incredibly difficult condition.

People with this condition experience unstable emotions, relationships, and issues with self-image. The symptoms of BPD can seriously affect a person’s life and their ability to function under different circumstances.

Below we will address the question at hand: Is borderline personality disorder a disability? Let’s get right into it.

What is Disability?

Disability, according to different organizations, is a physical or mental impairment that substantially affects a person’s competency to perform major life activities.

What is Borderline Personality Disorder?

Borderline Personality Disorder, or BPD, is a mental health condition where people have a hard time managing their feelings and thoughts. It can also cause impulsive behavior and trouble with relationships. The feelings can be very intense and can change quickly.

Symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder

People with BPD might:

Have very intense feelings that can change rapidly.

Find it hard to stay calm and comfortable when they’re alone.

Have difficulty maintaining stable relationships.

Act impulsively, like spending recklessly, eating disorderly, or driving dangerously.

Have a persistent fear of abandonment.

Have a negative self-image.

Have difficulty trusting others.

Experience intense anger and have trouble handling it.

Feel empty or as if they are nobody.

Have thoughts of hurting themselves or have a history of self-harm or suicide attempts.

These symptoms might vary, and not everyone with BPD will experience all of these symptoms. It’s important to speak with a professional if you or someone you care about is showing these signs. Reach out to us at Healthy Mind Foundation if you have these symptoms and need professional management and treatment.

Subtypes of Borderline Personality Disorder

A framework for understanding and treating Borderline Personality Disorder exists within the psychological health field.

These subtypes include:

Discouraged Borderline: Generally showing depressive features, the person might show clingy and codependent behavior, intense fear of abandonment, and submissive tendencies.

Impulsive Borderline: Displays sensory stimulation, immediate gratification, and tendencies toward thrill-seeking actions, conducive to erratic behaviors.

Petulant Destructive Borderline: Shows pervasive mood inconsistency and unpredictable anger. People might struggle with feelings of unworthiness and act out passive-aggressive behaviors.

Self-Destructive Borderline: This subset often faces inner-directed anger, leading to self-harming behaviors or substance abuse as a coping mechanism for negative emotions.

Is Borderline Personality Disorder a Disability?

Does BPD qualify for disability?

The possibility that BPD is considered a disability is quite complicated, as it depends on multiple aspects, including:

Personal reasons.

Legal regulations.

Societal perceptions.

The classification of BPD as a disability differs by context, even though it is considered a mental health condition by medical professionals.

Legal Terms and Disability Benefits

Is BPD a disability? In some areas, BPD might meet the legal criteria for disability. Government agencies and institutions follow specific guidelines for determining disability.

In many cases, they involve assessing functional impairments and their impact on a person’s ability to work or perform daily tasks. People who suffer from severe BPD are considered disabled under the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA).

Under the guidelines set by the Social Security Administration (SSA), borderline personality disorder can be recognized as a disabling condition when it substantially interferes with vocational responsibilities. Eligibility for Social Security Disability (SSD) for BPD is based on strict criteria.

BPD must be documented comprehensively to prove disability. To obtain borderline personality disorder disability benefits, an assessment of eligibility is necessary.

Supplemental Security Income – SSI for BPD

There’s an important question we want to address: Can you get SSI for borderline personality disorder? Supplemental Security Income (SSI) is a federal program for people who have limited income and resources and are aged, blind, or disabled.

The Social Security Administration (SSA) oversees SSI, which is based on a thorough assessment process. To qualify for SSI based on borderline personality disorder requires proof that the condition greatly limits one’s ability to work.

As with other disabilities, the SSA follows a strict assessment procedure. A person seeking to secure BPD disability benefits or SSI for borderline personality disorder must follow BPD disability requirements and provide extensive medical records that describe how their symptoms limit them from working.

Moreover, compliance with prescribed treatments and the response or lack of it play an important role in the SSA’s deliberation process. To demonstrate the extent to which BPD affects work capabilities, mental health professionals must be engaged.

Seeking Borderline Personality Disorder Disability Benefits

If you believe working with BPD is hard and you’re unable to carry out daily activities, you might want to consider applying for BPD disability benefits. However, keep in mind that the process can be complex, and could require:

●Medical documentation. ●Assessments. ●Evidence/proof of functional impairments.

Consulting with a healthcare professional, mental health advocate, or disability lawyer during the application process can be helpful. For advice and support, please reach out to us at Healthy Mind Foundation.

The Importance of Personal Assessments

It is important to note that not everyone with BPD will consider themselves disabled or require disability benefits. Each person’s experience with BPD varies, and the effects on functioning vary as well. It is essential to approach the topic of disability with empathy, understanding, and respect for each person’s circumstances and viewpoints.

Support and Treatment for BPD

For those living with BPD, seeking appropriate support and treatment is essential.

Therapeutic measures are important.

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), can help people develop:

Coping strategies.

Regulate emotions.

Improve interpersonal relationships.

Support groups and community resources can also provide valuable assistance and a sense of connection for people with BPD. Healthy Mind Foundation provides treatment options and resources for people dealing with BPD.

Changing Perceptions and Advocacy

As society continues to evolve its understanding of mental health, perceptions of BPD and other mental health conditions as disabilities could change. Advocacy efforts play a valuable role in raising awareness, fighting stigma, and improving opportunities for those with BPD. By working together, we can build an inclusive society that supports all people’s mental well-being and needs, regardless of their condition.

Final Thoughts

Is borderline personality disorder a disability? BPD can be considered a disability if it meets the legal criteria for a disability in some jurisdictions.

Can you get disability for borderline personality disorder?

It depends on:

●Jurisdictions. ●Your personal circumstances. ●Functional impairments. ●Societal perceptions.

These all play a role in determining disability status. It is essential to review local laws and regulations and seek guidance from professionals when considering disability benefits.

Regardless of disability status, seeking proper support, treatment, and understanding is essential to those living with BPD. Let’s work together to build a society that welcomes and supports the mental health of all people, regardless of their condition.

If you need more info and resources on Borderline Personality Disorder, you can reach out to us at Healthy Mind Foundation.

FAQs

Can you get disability for BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)?

Yes, it’s possible to be eligible for disability benefits for BPD if the symptoms severely limit one’s ability to function in a work environment.

How to be eligible for borderline personality disorder social security benefits?

To be eligible for Social Security benefits with Borderline Personality Disorder, you must:

Medical documentation is needed to prove the disorder interferes with your ability to work.

The evidence shows persistent patterns of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-images, and affects, along with marked impulsivity, beginning in early adulthood.

Additionally, you should show how your BPD meets the criteria outlined by the SSA.

Can you receive a BPD Disability Living Allowance?

BPD might be eligible for Disability Living Allowance depending on the jurisdiction.

How much disability do you get for BPD?

You’ll get a different amount of disability benefits based on your circumstances and the specific program you’re applying for.

Are there special considerations for BPD and work?

Managing BPD at work involves special considerations, including accommodations under certain disability laws.

Borderline Personality at work – can someone function well?

With the right support and accommodations, many people with BPD can thrive at work.

Can you have Borderline Personality Disorder and Schizophrenia concurrently?

Although it is less common, it is possible to have BPD and Schizophrenia at the same time, requiring customized treatment.

What are some feasible careers for people with BPD?

People with BPD may benefit from careers that have structured environments and minimize interpersonal stressors.

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