Hi Mae! I've been obsessed with your writing for a while now, ur poly marauders is just perfecttt. The way you write them is just so accurate to my personal characterizations and head cannons :)

I had an idea that I thought would be cute but feel free to ignore if it doesn't inspire you ofc.

I was thinking about poly! Marauders x goth! Reader. Like reader forcing them to watch her favorite horror movies or explore abandoned places or like go to a concert or smtn

Omg and the reader dressing up to go out with them and them just dying cuz the eyeliner and fishnets and everything (who can blame them, goth girls r gorgeous 😍😍)

Thanks lovely!!

poly!marauders x fem!reader ♡ 927 words

“Is it on me?” James hears the door open, followed by Sirius’ voice, growing shriller. “Is it on me?” 

“I don’t think so.” You sound one part amused and two parts exasperated. “Stay still, I can’t look while you’re moving around.” 

James leaves the dishes in the sink to soak, too curious to prioritize chores. He finds you both in the entryway. Remus is observing from the couch as Sirius stands rigidly still and you pick through his hair unhurriedly. You’re both covered in dust and what looks to be cobwebs, made even more apparent on you by your dark clothing. 

“I thought you were going to drop clothes off at the donation bin,” James says bemusedly. 

“We did,” you reply, at the same time as Sirius says, “It was a trap!”

Remus lifts an eyebrow. James is glad he’s not the only one who seems to be missing something. 

“There’s an old abandoned church not far from there,” you explain casually. “I wanted to check it out, and Sirius thought it could be fun to explore, too.” 

“That was before I knew it housed the world’s largest spider population,” he argues. “Fuck, can someone get this thing off me? If I feel anything crawling I’m gonna flip shit.” 

“Aren’t you already?” Remus murmurs. You grin at him, stepping back to let James take over for you. 

“I assume I’m taking out the web?” James asks, picking out a piece. 

You sigh. “Sirius thought he saw a spider in the car—” 

“I know I did, thank you.” 

“—and he’s worried it got on him. But I’ve been looking, and I haven’t seen it.” 

“I’m fairly sure it would have crawled off by now, love,” Remus says, sitting up on his knees and beckoning you to the couch so he can pull the spiderwebs out of your hair, too. 

“All I know is, if no one finds that thing on me, I’m going to take the world’s hottest shower to make sure it’s dead.” 

“You’ll have to hurry,” Remus reminds him. “Our reservation is at eight.” 

“We can be a few minutes late.” 

“We cannot.”

“Fuck!” James jumps a good few feet back, hands frozen in front of him. 

“What?” Sirius cries. His shoulders seize up. “What is it?” 

“Shit, sorry, it’s nothing. I thought I saw something move, but it was your hair.” 

“Oh my god, I’m gonna fucking kill you.” Sirius puts his face in his hands, sounding less murderous than teary. “Remus, please.” 

“I’ll take care of you next,” Remus replies, dedicatedly combing his fingers through your hair. 

James mumbles an apology as he goes back to doing the same thing to Sirius. All in all, you look like you’ve actually gotten the brunt of it. You’re covered in spiderwebs, likely a result of you simply putting far less work into avoiding them than Sirius. You seem unbothered as Remus unsticks a rather large one from by your ear.  

You go off to change for dinner first, because Sirius refuses to move until both James and Remus have each checked him over for spiders twice, and even then he still insists upon his shower. James can’t say he’d feel differently in his place. 

He thinks he might need a cold shower himself when you come back out. 

“Angel,” James breathes. It’s both an endearment and an observation. His eyes stutter their way up you, continually snagging on fishnet tights and kohl-lined eyes and the little lace ruffle lining your top. His tongue feels heavy in his mouth. 

“You look lovely,” Remus says, smooth where James is not, and you grin as you lean down to kiss him on the cheek. A pink tinge rises up from beneath your boyfriend’s freckles and scars. When you lift your lips, you leave a dark imprint of lipstick behind that James has absolutely no intentions of telling him about. 

“So do you,” you say, as though he’s not wearing the exact same thing he was a minute ago. (Though James is nonetheless inclined to agree. Remus always looks lovely.) Your eyes turn to James, the black liner making them look deeper and even more striking than usual. 

“You do, too,” you tell him. He feels a flock of butterflies (do butterflies have flocks?) scare into flight in his stomach. 

His grin feels wobbly, but certainly not for lack of enthusiasm. “Thanks,” he manages. 

“So, I was talking to Sirius in the bathroom,” you say, sitting on the arm of the couch. James’ eyes follow the movement of your skirt, the way it rides up with the motion. He warms in several places. “He says that if the spider’s not on him, it has to be in the car. He won’t get in it until we’ve checked.” 

Remus exhales heavily through his nose, and you nod your agreement. 

“I’m not convinced he actually saw anything,” you say. “He is so paranoid.” 

“Or maybe you,” James leans over to kiss your cheek, unable to restrain himself any longer as he reaches around you to squeeze the fat of your hip, “are just far too even-tempered from watching so many horror films.” 

“No, he’s paranoid,” Remus agrees with you, groaning as he gets up. “I’ll check the car. If I don’t find anything, we’ll just say we caught it.” 

“I’ll help.” You slip off the arm of the couch, starting after him with springy steps. 

James follows, if only so he can stand behind you and keep you from flashing the next-door neighbors when you bend over to look. It’s strictly selfless.

hello! this is the anon who asked you to boost Renad @renadmagidnew fundraiser. I want to thank you for boosting her gofundme when it had little to no traction. We broke £10,000 last night, and we are now at £10,339 of the £25,000 goal.

The gofundme has slowed down again though, and i was wondering if you could boost it again to get us even closer to the halfway goal (£12.5k!). I've been trying to contact Renad these past few days and haven't been able to get a response, but last time I talked to her she said her mother's condition is worsening by the day and their tent collapsed (though they eventually were able to fix it).

For those who don't know, Renad is a 24 year old midwife who worked both before and during the iof invasion in Al-Quds and Al-Shifa hospital to care for mothers and their newborns. Her mother, father, and brother are all suffering from bad cases of Hepatitis A and need immediate medical attention. Renad wants to be able to evacuate with all her loved ones (7 people including herself) and continue her own education in midwifery.

Here is the gofundme link, thank you so much again for all the work that you do. I am very grateful: https://gofund(.)me/ebed8779

Let's help evacuate Renad and her family. They're almost halfway to their goal. Please boost. Donate if you can!!!!

Adult Entertainment Werewolf BF Part 2

A/N: I am so angry. Tumblr deleted the draft of my seventh Part of my Older human Alpha x Waitress series. I wanted to make this longer but now have to rewrite it...

However: I love writing this and will continue after doing the seventh part. It may be a lil fast here but...its okay (hopefully). I named him Orion and I hope you'll love him.

Also Part One you'll find here

You tried not to look at your phone every five seconds. However, it was hard; you were so....excited about what he had promised you.

Suddenly, your phone beeped:

Orion: Hey there. Hope you had a nice day. I'm in my hotel room right now and have ordered some food.

You: Hi! My day was good. How about yours? I hope your dinner was tasty.

Orion: Yes, it was quite nice, actually. Have you been thinking about me? I bet you did.

You: Someone is confident about themselves. XD

Orion: Oh, come on, I'm a hottie, aren't I?

You: Maybe.

Orion: Wait until you see the content people pay for. You'll love it.

You: Let me be the judge of that!

Orion: Eager. Your account name, pretty please?

You: MorningSun23

Orion: How original... Okay, give me five minutes.

Orion: Okay, you should now be free to watch my paid content.

You: It actually worked. Thank you. Also, do you want to meet up tomorrow? I have the day off until next week.

Orion: Gladly, let's meet in the City and have breakfast together.

You: Sounds like a perfect idea.

Orion: See you tomorrow then. Enjoy your night.

As soon as you two stooped texting, you went onto the Internet to watch the content people normally paid for. Good thing was that you were in bed, so you didn't need to move much. You took out a vibrating toy from your nightstand, placed it on your clit and scrolled through all the content available.

And gods, was there a lot of it. This man was kinky and open minded. In one video he rutted his pillow until he came, in another he unboxed and tried out buttplugs, there were chastity cages, vibrating cockrings, self-bondage, roleplays where he played sometimes dom sometimes sub...Your new favourite was the one where he milked his cock with a maschine. His cock and his knot were impressive, big and perfectly curled...you whimpered at the sight.

Orion even did regular streams where his followers could control toys he had on or in himself with donations...there were even stream highlights...

It is safe to say you had a short but pleasurable night.

-The next day-

You were nervous. You stood up earlier, showered, and put on your favorite outfit. Your makeup was impeccable. Everything was good.

But your bus didn't come on time, and you were late. Half an hour too late, you arrived at the café, near tears. Orion, however, was in the best of spirits. "Hey there! Finally, I was getting lonely," he joked, and you sat down across from him.

"I am so sorry again," you apologized, but he smiled and answered, "No worries. Let's order; I am starving." You looked at the menu, and you both ordered a hearty breakfast.

He grinned at you. "Aaaand?" Orion asked, putting away the card. "What do you think? I know I may be annoying, but no one talks to me about what I do..." You gave him a soft smile. "Don't worry, your content is...so hot," you admitted. His openness made it easier for you to talk about it.

"Really? I am so glad you like it. What your favourite vid?" He asks and gives you such puppy eyes. You smiled:"I think the Video where you did the roleplay of chasing and breeding." His eyes widened and he grinned harder:"Always the quiet ones, you are kinky....I love that." You laughed and gave him a cheeky smile:"You have no Idea, Orion." You purred. You saw him visibly shiver. "Your boyfriend is so lucky."

"I don't have one," you reply as your food arrives. "Girlfriend, then?" You shake your head. "Hookup? Friend with benefits?" "No and nope," you answer. "I've been single since Alek." His eyebrows raise quickly. "Damn, he really broke your heart..." You nod. "He did....And how about you?"

Orion scoffed:"As if anyone would date a porn star. All three partners I had, broke up soon." You were astounded:"Really? Like I would have no Problem with that." Orion smiled sadly:"Yeah, they got jealous of either my followers or success." You frowned:"Why? You don't sleep with your followers....and a the success thing I understand even less...Like shouldn't they be happy?" His eyes found yours:" You're such a sweetheart."

You blushed and bit into your pancake instead of answering. Some caramel sauce ran down the corner of your mouth. Orion quickly leaned forward and wiped it off. You licked it off his thumb. His eyes met yours and he gave you a mischievous smile. "Does it taste good?" You decided to play along and ignore the heat that built between your legs. "Divine. So...thick with a hint of salty."

He groaned and shifted in his seat:"Dirty girl..." You both errupted in laughter. It took a moment for you to calm down. You continued to eat and talk. It was loveley, it was wholesome and so open. Orion insisted on paying for the breakfast, not taking any complaints from you. You two decided to take a stroll through the City and get a dress together for you.

"What's the wedding theme?" you asked as you looked through the dresses. "Something along the lines of casual, floral, and blue. I wanted to wear a black suit but wasn't allowed, so now I've opted for a light blue one. It looks a little like I want to sell you a vacuum cleaner." You giggled and answered, "I can't wait to see you in it, silly." You teased, and he actually blushed. Quickly, he hid it with a chuckle and asked why it was so warm in here.

You found a few dresses and tried them on, giving him a little show. It was lovely to shop with him; he was patient and helped you look for clothes. Right now, you had the third dress on. It was just over your knee, almost to your ankles, with little blue flowers on it. It was casual, with just the right amount of modesty and elegance.

"What do we think?" You asked as you stepped out of the changing room. "That you have a beautiful Butt." You turned arournd to him and scolded him:"Orion! Be serious you lewd little Wolf..." you played being mad and he laughed. "Okay okay...do a spin for me please." You did that for him and he came over to look at the fabric. "I love it on you, what do you say?" "Its the one." You answer and you go to change to buy the dress.

When you were dressed again, the two of you walked to the register. Just when you took your card out, he had his ready and paid for the dress. You looked at him and said, "Stop buying me stuff..." He chuckled. "Oh, let me spoil you a little. Also, I make enough money." You blushed and smiled at him.

After that, the two of you couldn't really separate since you enjoyed being together too much. "Do you want to come over to my place?" you asked, and he nodded, carrying your bag for you. "That would be cool. We could do a movie marathon," he suggested. You were absolutely up for that: "Hell yes!" You were so excited that you wanted to immediately take the bus home. He stopped you since he was there with his car. The two of you walked to his car, a dark, larger car, and drove home.

There he suddenly grinned:"Did you have a pleasurable night?" He asked and look down at you. Suddelny you were very aware that he was a werewolf. "Stop that..." You hoped he couldn't smell hownwer you were down there...

The next few hours, you sat on the couch and watched movies. You both laughed and commented, made fun of characters, and had a great time. As the hours passed, you two crept closer until you were cuddled up together. "Can I say something?" he whispered into your ear. You looked up. "Sure." He suddenly reached out for your cheek and brushed over it. "I...think I've got the fastest and hardest crush on you I've ever developed..." You blushed deeply:"I...feel similar...feels so easy to talk to you and you are so fun to be around." He blushed:"So...what we gonna do now? Do...do we want to try dating?" He asked. "You are so forward." You said and giggled. This was fast, spending a day together and thinking about dating. But who the fuck Set wuch rules? So you wanted to try it. More than everything not working out couldn't happen...

"Let's try it out," you said, and he smiled. Immediately, he leaned forward and kissed you softly. "There. Now you're my girlfriend." You giggled, and you two went back to cuddling. It felt like he needed this—someone holding him and spending time with him.

Commissions for Palestine 🇵🇸

Hello all, in trying to do my part and help those in Palestine and Rafah I'm opening up commissions.

Send me proof of donation or purchase of esims and I will make you a commission!

I will accept proof from day of or day before actually dming me. Donations of 3 USD and equivalent currency are good for sketches. 5 USD for a colored sketch, 10 USD for an image with lineart and color, and 15+ USD for anything more detailed or with a background. If you're unsure what I'll do for your donation/esim payment, just ask and we can figure it out together!

If you're curious where to donate @northgazaupdates has lots of links, as well as many other blogs signal boosting people who need help. There are many many vetted families that need help through operation olive branch and pass the hat that other creators have been sharing too. If you have any other good resources please let me know!

If you have any questions at all, please feel free to reach out!

https://www.tumblr.com/aldergroves/751476699278000128/like-politics-and-the-world-is-incredibly-serious?source=share

I know youre young but maybe your blog isnt the place. Its your blog and you can do whatever you want but please consider some of us like your blog as a form of escape and most of us are bombarded with politics already in our already stressful lives. Give it a read and some consideration.

hi anon, i understand your concern and how stressful things are right now. i am using my platform to spread awareness in whatever way i can, and i am not "bombarding" you with anything. i understand how rest is important in activism for our own well beings. it is impossible for us to devote ourselves to activism 24/7. but i am not forcing you to engage with it, or donate, or anything. i am simply sharing information about an active genocide, and if you are offended by that, i think you might want to look within yourself and ask why you feel that way.

i am able to balance my priorities just fine. i have a support system of people who share my values and i am taking breaks. i am fine, and this is simply one of the ways i'm choosing to take action when i'm able. i am not forcing you to engage. but there are some people out there who still have no idea what's going on in our world right now. and if i can possibly let at least one person know or share a link that someone donates to, i would like to take that chance.

to put it more bluntly: i, in the nicest way possible, do not care about your comfort. you can turn off your phone anytime you want to. the people dying in active genocides do not have that privilege.

i am not stupid, so please do not bring up the fact that i am younger as if i don't know what i'm doing. you really don't have any reason to be commenting on what i choose to put on my blog. if you don't want to see it, you can leave. you do not need to condescend me. thank you :)

I will be participating in Fics For Gaza!

I know I haven't been posting regularly, but this is something I'm very passionate about. If you want to learn more about the project, I encourage you to read more about it here, or visit their page @ficsforgaza .

I know this is an uncertain economic time for many, myself included, so if you are unable to give, even reblogging this post, or some of their posts, would be helpful.

If you have questions, don't hesitate to dm me!

For my rules and full list of my fandoms, please read my pinned post.

Let's talk shop! I have a couple ways to do this! Note: When requesting, you must also send proof of donation to one of the vetted fundraisers. Orders will be finished in the order they are received.

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Sponsor a WIP

You can check this list out to find out the many things I've been working on, just haven't finished yet. Don't see your favorite series on here? I'll include the next chapter of a series as a work in progress, in this case. I update this list frequently! So check it out later if you don't see something today.

You can sponsor any WIP, or the next chapter of a preexisting series, for as low as $1. You can absolutely donate more than that! But the minimum for something I am not completely starting from scratch on is $1. It may seem low, but every donation makes a difference. Message me with your WIP, and photo proof of donation to a vetted fundraiser.

Make a Request

Pricing here is slightly higher since it's starting from square one. Please pay close attention, as different types of requests have different pricing. Message me with proof of donation to a vetted fundraiser.

Headcanons- $1 for each character included

Full Fanfiction- $5

Fanfiction/Headcanons with an OC- (this includes Y/N who is like insert character, Y/N who looks like x, etc. as now I have to do external research) $10

SIM DONATION DRIVE: "1992" EDITION

i need to fill in leonor's 1990s dating history for story reasons, so i am soliciting sims from you wonderful, talented, generous people. if you'd like to donate someone, check out THIS FORM ♥️

for guidelines, see below, & let me know if you have questions !

i want to fill in leonor's dating history for the period from roughly 1993 to 1998. i'd like to have these exes attend her big, giant, extravagant wedding in 2001; i will be doing some Yet To Be Planned media coverage of said dating history (something like this stuff). as a treat, because i love to take pictures of other people's sims, i'll probably do some random photoshoots like these as well :^) [you can have leonor's files for your own purposes, if you so desire.]

i have no idea how many sims y'all're gonna donate or if they'll all be the same level of compatible, so: i'll try to incorporate as many as i can but, realistically, would have to choose if there are more than 5-6 options. this isn't a bachelorette challenge, so it would theoretically be based on which characters make sense for leonor and the timeline.

not all of the form's questions are required, but more detail is welcome ! entirely up to you how much fleshing out you'd like to do beyond the basics. i provided vague prompts, some which are optional, so ... go wild or don't ! if you want to discuss any of it before you submit the form (or after), then please don't hesitate to reach out.

your sims can be from uspana or somewhere else, btw. if they're not from uspana, they might be from the fictional country your story is set in, generic Simerica™, literally anywhere else ... if you don't state it, i'll just make something up that feels convenient sdjhfs they can be existing characters or new ones you create for this purpose; it's all up to you !

i am assuming you're familiar with the spinoff story OR leonor as a character, in some way or shape or form. you may know the story better than i do or have scrolled her tag on my blog earlier today for the very first time or somewhere in between. either way ... a little familiarity would help, i imagine !

leonor's existing love interests include: arturo, a very sweet and thoughtful son-of-a-politician (circa 1986-1990); renzo, a very famous actor who loves music and cutoff shorts and doing drugs (1991-1992); andre, a very happily married and painfully shy father of three who also happens to currently be his country's king (1992, 2016–); dan, a very chill tech founder who enjoys, like, space travel and wearing fanny packs and letting his wife do affairs and stuff, whom she marries in 2001 (circa 1998–).

leonor doesn't have a type, and there are no gender restrictions. she likes people who are interesting—peculiar, even. she's a wealthy princess and a government employee by 1993-1994, so that may affect either your sim's occupation and / or the necessity of a "how'd they meet" backstory. her birth year is 1970, and she’s more likely to go for agemates or older rather than younger people (at least while in her twenties, anyway). she could theoretically reconnect with anyone post-2001 but pre-2016 on account of the open marriage, although that feels unlikely / case-by-case.

okay, that's all i got for now ... thanks for reading this far !

doing a preorder for pride flag themed sticker sheets! 30% of the revenue will go directly to PCRF! if you'd like to know what flags each animal represents, they are in the alt text; if i missed your flag, please let me know!

if you donate to PCRF or any verified palestinian fundraiser within a day of purchase/preorder (please send me the receipt either on here or etsy), i will add 1 sticker of your choice (any on my etsy) with your order :"]

I’m offering pen-and-paper sketches in exchange for proof of donation to Palestinian gfm campaigns and/or donations to reliable organisations that will provide aid, esims etc.

The more we can help nudge up these urgent campaigns to help people the better!!

For more examples of my pen-and-paper sketches check out my #nerua doodles tag

Here’s how it works:

🔴 Make a donation (whatever you can offer, any amount however big or small is better than nothing at all!!) to a Palestinian family’s campaign, or one of the many reliable organisations providing aid, e-sims etc.

A quick non-exhaustive list of useful links you can use to donate:

Operation Olive Branch - Spreadsheet of many, many gfm campaigns tracking how much is needed.

This Tumblr Masterpost - Lists a good number of fundraisers, some of which are close to completion, and others which need much more boosting

GazaFunds - If it’s overwhelming trying to choose who to donate to, this page generates a random campaign each time for you

GazaEsims - Buy an esim to keep Palestinians connected in Gaza. Be sure to send the QR code screenshot to their provided email address and don’t activate the esim yourself!

CareForGaza - A non-profit charity providing aid to Gaza. Donate to their PayPal

UNRWA - Donate directly to UNRWA to support their operations in Gaza

Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund - Donate directly to PCRF to support the children in Gaza

Gaza Municipality - Donate to help improve water, waste management and sewage treatment conditions in Gaza

(other Palestinian family gfm links I’ve come across will be added under a cut at the bottom of this post, please check them out too and feel free to add any others you have seen to reblogs of this post!)

🟢 Take a screenshot of the receipt/proof of donation you receive once you’ve completed payment to prove that you have paid your chosen amount

⚪️ Message me your screenshot proof of your completed donation/payment to whichever campaign/organisation you chose along with what character(s) you would like a sketch of (be sure to let me know the fandom in case it’s not one I’m familiar with. You can drop a reference image along with your donation screenshot to be sure!)

⚫️ I’ll draw up the sketch for you as soon as I can to thank you for donating!

All donations of any size will receive a drawing, but be advised smaller donations will be quicker and less detailed/refined than larger donations.

Donations below $20 will receive a bust or waist shot. Donations $20 and over will be full body

Up to 3 characters available per sketch at any amount

I’ll draw for most fandoms, but here are a few I’m pretty familiar with: Red Dwarf, BBC Ghosts, Good Omens, JoJo’s Bizarre Adventure, YuGiOh, Pokemon, Tokyo Mew Mew, Cardcaptor Sakura (any CLAMP work tbh), Mob Psycho 100, Osomatsu-san, Naruto

I’ll also draw OCs if you send good references for them!

My usual commission/request limitations apply: No gore, NSFW etc

Bear in mind these function like character requests and aren’t as specific as full commissions, though I will try to honour general requests for what you would like from your sketch!

🚨🚨 Do NOT send ME your money!! Send it directly to the campaigns/organisations!! 🚨🚨

Please share and donate whatever you can if you are able to. And as always keep boycotting, protesting and talking about Palestine 🇵🇸

And remember to add your daily clicks too!

Some more gfm links below the cut ⬇️⬇️⬇️

Yeah, okay, let's do this.

Thank you @nodulemodule for letting me use your awesome format. I know some of the flags are old, but they're what I'm use to, and if you're really that confused, check the image ID.

Instead of chucking money at the Capitalism Machine that doesn't give a fuck about us, please consider donating instead to:

Operation Olive Branch- Vetted fundraisers to help people get out of Gaza. Pick any- they all need help.

Gaza Funds- If you struggle to pick particular people and families in need to give to, Gaza Funds removes the guesswork. Donate to them, and they'll distribute the money to the fundraisers they have vetted for you.

Crips for eSims- an organization who gets eSims to people in Gaza. Works very well if you can't do direct eSim donations. You give them your money, they handle the purchasing and distribution.

If you cannot donate at all, do not forget to do all your clicks on Arab.org

Lastly, remember that all queer identities are valid, kink belongs at pride, cops are bastards, and we gotta stick together. Happy pride ✊

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I had a whole thing ready to post about this with an approach that I thought to be appropriate. I wanted to make sure that both sides feel heard and validated in their feelings and thoughts but honestly? Both approaches sucked one way or another. The fact that I am speaking of two sides in the first place, is concerning so say the least. The division itself? Ridiculous. Are we really 12 years old and going to block on sight? Are we really going to act upon aggression and feeling attacked instead of asking questions in a genuine attempt to hear each other? This radical approach – from both sides- is the most counterproductive thing we’ve ever created on here as a “community”. You cannot deny someone their safe place. Everybody needs their safe place even and especially in times like these. I am however convinced this can only be a safe place to hide from the world if we make sure it is a safe place for -everyone-. So what’s so hard to understand about the simple act of replacing your face-claim with another if the outcome is that someone who feels triggered and unsafe doesn’t anymore? Is that not enough of a reason for you? If one of those faces had violated you personally, had hurt you or your family, had assaulted you or your family in any way, shape or form would you not want to not see that face around a space that’s dedicated to escaping what’s troubling/worrying you, to what’s ruining you out there? Isn’t that worth it? You know what the right thing to do would be, no? At the same time, we cannot decide solely based on assumptions who a person is or isn’t outside of this realm, I think it’s pretty presumptuous to do so. The lack and the absolute absence of wanting to hear each other out, of understanding each other is baffling to me. You’re either in the same boat or you’ll let each other drown instead of helping each other into that same god damned boat.  What has this changed? Mh? Other than some of you all blocking each other, what? What did it do? Nothing. Just grudges being held where there should’ve been open conversations. It’s basically a fight between “how dare you do not change it” and “how dare you want me to change it”. You could’ve had a freakin’ conversation, make each other understand the issue, the actual root of the issue here without throwing words around that weren’t heard on either side but neither of you are willing to talk, nor learn, nor understand. That’s exactly where and how conflict is born. This is literally the epitome of how war comes to be, of why we, as a species are so fucking divided. We don’t listen. We just don’t listen. We don’t want to understand if what’s being said doesn’t align with what we think and want. I do believe that changing your face-claim to make this safe-place accessible for everyone is not that big of an ask. It’s the right and good thing to do.

I do believe in safe places. I do believe that every human being has a right to escape the horrors of the worlds to cope with life because as sick as it sounds, life doesn’t stop even with a genocide happening right in front of our eyes. That is especially why instead of dividing and fighting we should try and listen and make each other understand, hear each other, and do the right fucking thing. You can be kind in the delivery of your words always. There’s a lot of rage and anger, rightly so, fucking rightly so. We should be collectively furious, seething with it hell, I’d march right into the office of all those murderers to take them out myself if I could but I can’t. And you can’t either. Don’t let that rage and anger blind your judgement though. It’s hard, downright impossible to do but don’t let it consume you, please. With that said: Please educate yourself if you haven’t already. Please donate if you haven’t already (or again if you have already and have the financial stability to do so) (literally even just 1€ helps). Share links, educate people around you and if you meet someone who doesn’t understand, doesn’t comprehend what’s happening for what’s happening, help them understand. Sometimes it just needs the right set of words by someone who isn’t feeding their brain bullshit. Have a good day. P.S. The one thing you should be blocking on sight is that dumb ass bitch blog of a gossip that keeps reemerging.

Since when did we start charging money on patreon for fanfics 😭😭😭😭 is this for real😭

hi, love. I haven't seen that many people doing the Patreon thing when it comes to fanfic, but it's pretty common for people who draw for example to set up a Patreon. I believe that everyone who does, just like myself, needs the money. I wouldn't be doing it if i didn't need to. I figured the Patreon setup was the best idea since it's not really that common for people to tip writers, we've been struggling with getting reblogs and comments, so you can imagine.

Right now, I'm applying and doing tests to get an internship, which still won't be enough because I'm also trying to apply for a master's. So, yeah, I'm really thankful for everyone who tipped me on ko-fi and subscribed to my Patreon, last month my savings were over, and the Patreon money was what helped me pay for some medical stuff I needed (Idk if you saw the whole mick schumacher's sick club, but yeah — huge thank you for everyone who subscribed/donated btw).

We often see fic writers as little robots who don't eat, drink, or sleep. We request stuff, and expect an instant reply, and when we get the content we don't even go back to the page to tell the writer our thoughts. We don't reblog, nor leave comments, but still, we expect them to keep writing and keep sharing everything as if it didn't take hours, sometimes days to come up with a 1k piece polished to what we think readers will like best. I hope I don't sound rude, I'm just trying to make a point because I'm tired of seeing writers deactivating, tired of seeing my friends getting writer's block and then people still demanding things.

On top of that, I'm still posting a lot here, from smau to blubs and long fic requests (and I won't even talk about how some pieces aren't even getting a hundred notes, which always makes me wonder if I'm doing something wrong, if my writing is bad, or if there's anything that I could do to make the reader's experience more enjoyable), and it takes a lot of time, it's even harder to balance the two profiles now, but still, I keep sharing some of my work for free. so please, please, don't make me feel bad about needing money. thanks ❤️.

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Hey does anyone know where I can donate to Gaza aid now that they’ve lost internet? I see a lot of organisations that are providing aid to Gaza have lost contact with their workers on the ground so I’m not sure where is best to donate now but I want to do something

hey guys! happy new year! and what a year it's been!!

owing to various Situations (including what was probably pneumonia and Too Much Work and Too Much Travel and the ongoing decimation of a people) i haven't been doing So Hot this year so whale mail was on pause

but i'm closer back to centre now that the weather at least is turning so let's start this sucker up again. send a charitable donation to your charity of choice, and in return i'll send you a postcard!! just fill in

this form and i'll get send a card out at the end of the month to anywhere in the world!

since i've been absent earlier this year, i'll match donations up to $200, so chuck a buck to whomever you want and i'll correspondingly donate to a charity of uhm my choice.

it seems to only get harder and harder to hang in there and keep both chin and head up, but do your best :') as always, stay safe and take care!

Aromanticism in Academic Papers (day 7)

Today is the last day of ASAW 2024. It's been fun compiling all of this research for you! As ASAW ends, I thought it'd be a good time to look forward. We are part of a wider community after all, the queer community. And as a whole, the queer community is also underrepresented in relationship research.

Today's paper is: Queer Intimacies: A New Paradigm for the Study of Relationship Diversity by Phillip L. Hammack, David M. Frost, and Sam D. Hughes (2018). [stable link]

This paper puts forth 7 ways in which relationships differ from the normative path, and how these perspectives need to be included in academic research more. These assumptions and corresponding "axioms" are that:

Relationships involve 2 different cisgenders, as opposed to homosexual relationships and relationships involving trans/non-binary gender identities

That intimacy is directed solely at one gender, and that attraction does not change, as opposed to plural sexual orientations such as bi and pansexuality and changes in desires

That intimacy is between only two individuals, as opposed to polyamory

That intimacy is characterized by equality and symmetry of role and status, as opposed to consentual power asymmetry often found in kink and BDSM communities

That intimacy is characterized by romance and sex, as opposed to asexual and aromantic intimacies that do not involve romance or sex

That family structures consist of biological offspring, as opposed to chosen families

That forms of intimacy can be known and catalogued, as opposed to the fact that intimacy forms are always situated in their place in history, and that new ways of being intimate with other people are always being invented.

This paper stresses the need for research to be done into these other forms of intimacy that are not usually focused upon.

Now for today's post, I'm going to be focusing on point 5 because I can speak to it personally better. For the sake of brevity I am focusing this on aromanticism, as that is what this whole week of posts has been about. If you have the ability to read this paper though, don't neglect the other portions. they deserve better and further research too.

The authors carefully detail some of the history of asexuality research, and then present the primary holes left to fill in the research. They ask why there has been a difference found in rates of ace men and women having a romantic relationship and for analysis to look beyond the gender binary. They ask for more research on the direct experiences of aros and aces in relationships. The relational forms present in our community are unique and deserve "Legitimization through empirical documentation and systematic inquiry". The authors ask what unique forms of intimacies exist? how do individuals make meaning of these relationships in a culture that privileges sex and romance? and how do partners navigate stigma? What distinctions exist in the experience or expression of asexuality and aromanticism across diverse gender, race, class, and sexual identities?

This paper by Hammack, Frost, and Hughes gives us a charge. To go out and research this. These are only the most obvious gaps in literature from 2018, some will be closed, but that means more will have been opened. We should try and research this, or facilitate those who do. If you ever see a chance to participate in a survey on aromanticism or whatever identity you have, Take it. Even if you aren't in the position to conduct research personally, you can always take part in it. Support organizations like AUREA which provide vital resources not just to the community but to researchers! take part in the aro census ! You have the chance to help facilitate important research in something that is sorely lacking representation in academia. So please, if you have the chance, do it.