Gay Freedom Day Parade, San Francisco California (1979): "A DAY WITHOUT LESBIANS IS LIKE A DAY WITHOUT SUNSHINE"

The Dyke Project Protest Party for lesbian/trans solidarity, London, UK (2023): "A DAY WITHOUT TRANS PEOPLE IS LIKE A DAY WITHOUT SUNSHINE"

meeting gay people in real life and going to lgbt spaces around you and meeting the community there is the easiest way to realise 90% of gay online discourse is profoundly unhelpful and useless and no one actually gives a shit about it in real life.

But remember guys, this is only about women's rights and if you disagree with this Concerned Apolitical Women's Right Advocate™ you are big lesbophobic, support omnipresent rapists in bathrooms and also don't believe in the rights for women.

terf shit is usually also nazi shit btw like that is not a fucking coincidence. that shit about telling when someone is a "false woman" for their facial structure is actual literal fucking nazism. like i cannot reiterate enough that a lot of terfs are nazis or spread nazi shit. that is not a fucking coincidence. terfs have been spreading nazi shit for decades, this isn't some new thing we're only now seeing. the tie between terfs and nazis is not a far reach it's just fucking true.

it's so funny (read: sad) that if bigoted fuckheads didn't insist i was a woman simply by virtue of my body at birth, i'd probably be chill with she/her pronouns in addition to he/they. if my mom didn't insist i was her daughter, i'd probably let her call me that, and we could still have a relationship.

i'm nonbinary and 'gendered' words are hypothetically meaningless, but because there are so many people who are more interested in telling me who i am rather than lovingly and curiously letting me express my own sense of self, those words carry trauma.

there's no reason a nonbinary person like myself can't be a son and a child and a daughter. there's no reason a nonbinary person like me can't go by he, they, and she.

'she' is not a slur. 'daughter' is not derogatory. 'beautiful' 'pretty' 'gorgeous' 'feminine' are not insults.

to the contrary, they're parts of language that express certain facets of a multi-faceted human existence, like mine.

and i have this sad, mournful feeling that if it weren't for unloving, condescending people, i'd probably be down to be called any of those things alongside my usual masculine/neutral terminology.

but i'd rather die than let anyone tell me what i have to be called.

terf posts arent bad because they were made by terves theyre bad because the ideology is made up entirely of incredibly harmful and flawed ideas about gender and morality

It’s just so obvious to me that terfs’ anger and aggression towards trans people is completely misplaced. Trans people are natural allies to feminists of all genders; they aren’t a threat to women’s liberation! The freedom to explore, experiment with, and change genders is inherently good and inherently destructive to the patriarchy. Like. This should be obvious!

That being said, I do hate to see individual trans people exhibiting shitty/misogynistic behavior toward cis women, but like… I hate that no matter who does it?? And trans people aren’t particularly predisposed for it. If anything, they’re predisposed for the opposite! There are assholes in every group, but let’s not pretend they are representative of the whole group. That is so childish and absurd.

I’d feel safer around any random trans woman than I ever would around a terf, and that’s a FACT. I’m a cis woman, but I don’t feel represented by, protected by, or indebted to terfs at all. I feel actively alienated by them, I feel like 90% of my loved ones are despised by them, and I share virtually zero political goals with them.

if you don’t want to go through the brain melting task of looking through hayden’s notes and seeing the same stupid fucking “hahaha he’s a male isn’t that so funny #malemoment” jokes a thousand fucking times here’s my block list <3

hey tumblr do me a favor and don't you dare ever suggest radfem content to me again, this blog is pro "trans people do whatever you want both to your bodies and in your lives and I will support and love you through it all" and radfems can expedite their way to hanging out with Henry Kissinger and Epstein asap pls :)

said it before i say it again. maybe it's less internalized misogyny and more "girls who look and act like this literally bullied me from kindergarten to 12th grade and beyond" so no i would rather not talk to girls who treat female beauty standards as the holy law

Yknow I don't think the "you" in "queer as in fuck you" is or was ever intended to mean "other lgbt person whom I disagree with online". I think this website is just terminally unbearably angry

"we already do it's called men" dear fucking fuck imagine fucking IMAGINE unironically comparing yourself to a trans person and going "we get the exact same hate cuz people like me want you dead and I got catcalled by a Man(TM)" like! holy fuck!!! HOLY FUCK!!! I wanna be mad, but, like, I feel like it's too mean to be mad at someone with very obvious brain damage

I used to HATE when people pulled the “not all men” card because OBVIOUSLY not all men are evil but now a days it’s like damn we really have to pull that card because some of y’all are terminally online. men have privilege over women of course but that doesn’t mean a man’s sole purpose is to objectify women like what.

found one for the blocklist!

dont u just love it how there was an entire wave of feminism centered around the idea that woman need to stick together and support each other if we are ever going to make a world that's safe for us to live in, and then yall immediately forgot about it and decided to instead focus on keeping out the people who dont experience ""real"" womanhood or ""real"" misogyny

Man, I really wish anything about medically transitioning excited me like it does a lot of people, but every time I get to a stage its just a wave of exhaustion and resentment that I have to go through this shit in the first place. It's probably just because every surgery and every step is a long list of inconveniences and sacrifices short term and long term that we have to go through and just more shit we have to survive through to get to where we need to be which I really just feel should have been done right in the first place - but unfortunately we don't believe in a higher power so I can't even blame anyone for fucking it up and half assing our assigned gender at birth.

I'm not excited to have to get surgery to get what I feel I should have been entitled to at birth. I should not have to go through a recovery period or ask and work with people to get what I should have been entitled to at birth. I shouldn't have to settle or accept limitations and costs for what I should have been entitled to at birth.

At most I am just relieved to be making some progress to this garbage, but unlike Riku I am very not satiated by the hypothetical of a future me enjoying the spoils of the current me's suffering if the future me enjoying it is years in the future. I don't have that ungodly probably-disordered postponement of gratification that Riku has and the closest thing I have to emulate it is saying its what I owe to the system and that I'm doing something for more than just "future me" but "future us" and that this is something the system currently greatly appreciates and thus I get in the moment gratification in knowing that I'm saving others from having to do this and / or others having to suffer without progress being done.

But I hate it. I really do and I really really wish I could be happy and excited about getting an appointment for bottom surgery progression and consult and all, but really all it is and all it feels like is a reminder - even if its a check point and moving from one stage to the next - that I have to work so much more for something I really should have had in the first place

And I'm so fucking tired of working on this.

I'm so so so fucking tired.

I'm the last person to say I should just be given something - well I should - but I don't actually believe it in most cases. I understand nothing comes to you if you just sit and hope for it to come to you and I am the most actively driven part in the system to constantly clawing at the world for what we need to be the happiest and best version of ourselves and that's one of my best skills born from redirected intense trauma and shit

But this is just - I really shouldn't have to deal with this. This shouldn't be the thing I have to claw at the most, the longest, the most persistently - and yet here it is. Here I am. Still having to claw at it.

I literally don't understand the amount of hate of JKR. She's transphobic and kinda bigoted okay and so are most women of her demographic. You don't see people saying "I study and post about German history but I don't support the nazi ideology!" or something like that, but they do that with Rowling, even though nazi ideology is on a whole other scale of dangerous than a woman with a Twitter platform. Like okay you don't have to like her, I personally don't really care about what she's doing since I've read the books at like 11, but publically saying she should die or get raped by a trans person is NOT good activism for your cause. If you hate a famous person, stay off their platform, avoid their work however long you want, but don't send people threats. That's weird as fuck. And the transphobic laws and biases? Look at who's perpetrating those instead of just hating and hating and hating. Hate gets u nowhere lol.