It’s nearly two am and im sitting in bed trying to figure how much more reading i have to get done tonight when my brain goes “i miss women😔” like girl??? you miss ALL women??? what are you TALKING about??? NEED her to stop being a lesbian and get back to homework smh

THE BEAR social media part 11: community love

One major factor missing from most debates on Arya and Lyanna's beauty is that they're being judged by their society's extremely patriarchal values. In both looks and personality, that context is essential to understanding how others perceive them. George explores the misogyny experienced by non-conforming women, especially with Arya, and it's interesting how he plays with that regarding their physical beauty.

Her mother used to say she could be pretty if she would just wash and brush her hair and take more care with her dress, the way her sister did. (The Blind Girl, ADWD) "You never knew Lyanna as I did, Robert," Ned told him. "You saw her beauty, but not the iron underneath. She would have told you that you have no business in the melee." (Eddard VII, AGOT)

These two quotes offer a nice summation of this idea. With Arya, her supposed lack of beauty is defined by her being a non-conforming wild child. Her hair is messy, her face is dirty, and she's often in "lower class" clothing while engaging in unladylike activities. None of this says anything about her physical beauty but it tells us everything about how she's perceived. Arya could be pretty...If she conforms to society's standards for a highborn Lady. With Lyanna, however, we get the opposite. Where Arya is judged based on her personality, Robert's romanticization of Lyanna is rooted solely in her looks. He doesn't know anything about the person she really was. There is an assumption that, because she looked a certain way, her personality must fit and Robert imagines her much softer and more passive than she actually was.

That Arya isn't pretty or Lyanna wasn't wild are two perceptions that George specifically pushes back against. This is where people miss the brilliance of them being linked as literary mirrors; it is largely about us learning more about Lyanna, but it touches on more than that. The significance of them being written as wild, willful, and with their own beauty is that George isn't writing his female characters around patriarchal expectations. When people debate their beauty, that's often the trapping they fall into. Beauty and non-conformity are treated as mutually exclusive factors when the story itself never makes that point; this is also the logic that leads people to the (incorrect) conclusion that Lyanna and Arya aren't meant to be similar. Arya's self-esteem issues around her looks and being a Lady make this a topic certain to be addressed in the future; George has made it a part of the story. The conclusion shouldn't be that "looks don't matter", but that looks aren't indicative of a character's value, personality, or morality.

She gave me the confidence to use braces so i love her so much and i had to draw her as an excuse for a color practice

Bonus song that i heard while making this ;

What’s your take on BakuDeku? Bakugou and Midoriya from My Hero Academia, if you ever watched the anime/show to be honest?

i started mha but dropped it after s5 because i lost interest. i especially haven't read the manga so i don't know what the plot is at this point. however, i dislike bakudeku almost as much as i dislike catradora. bakugou is definitely just catra in another life, just angrier and for some reason, a hero. violent, prone to anger and not really considerate of the well-being of others - that's exactly the type of hero people want, right?

i've heard that bakugou gets a redemption arc and apologizes to izuku about the way he treated him. i would assume it's a good arc but considering the fact that i watched till s5 and couldn't see any real improvement in him, idk how they handled the redemption. he doesn't even have a valid reason to be the way he is, from what we see, his family is alright and he had a good childhood. he was just put on a pedestal since he was little and grew an inflated ego.

however, i don't think bakedeku will ever be canon so i can at least be comforted by that. i still don't like how they never have izuku stand up to bakugou and how a lot of the scenes where he's being bullied is played off as slapstick comedy. not to mention, bakugou is a jerk to literally everyone else, even the teachers. it's just absurd that everyone in the series kinda puts up with his behaviour and praises him for the bare minimum.

In honor of Pride Month, here are the characters that itty bitty baby gay me did not realize she was crushing on, but was, 1000% infact, crushing on:

*remembers what they did to Vanny* 500 FUCKING PIPEBOMB ATTACK.

all of my coworkers are sooo nice (and my coworkers & bosses from the other departments are nice too!!), there's just 1 person I feel uncomfortable around and it's my fucking boss 😑 stop making weird comments and start informing yourself what you're supposed to do when you have an Azubi challenge

i have finished the first part (of five) of les misérables! that's the good news. the bad news is that i now have to read the second part, which opens with a 70-page section entitled "waterloo". like babe i do not know what ANY of these nouns are though. i'm getting that there was a battle at which lots of people died horribly (as often happens in battles) and we are now describing the battleground thirty years later. okay so are we gonna do this for the whole 70 pages or...

forgot how attractive people in university challenge are to me. im sapiosexual fr

(shaking in rage) if the roles of miss trunchbull and miss honey were swapped matilda would be such a better story and the fact that they're not to begin with makes me want to attack roald dahl like a wild animal

i think the frankenstein version of dracula daily has arrived at the "justine is framed for murder and as such gets executed for it" portion which makes the petty part of me gloriously happy that a lot of people are going to finally realize that the creature is not, in fact, uwu soft baby and that he actively planted evidence on an innocent woman to get her arrested and then convicted and then executed for murder for absolutely no reason other than he felt like it because he's an asshole. and i'll finally get to see the death of "the creature did nothing wrong he's a sweet boy!" takes within my lifetime.

(I left out the stupid joke)

Godd i know I'm just making myself mad again, but i just came across a video of people discussing who pays on a date etc, and the fucking embarrassment brigade in the comments of women going "if he doesn't pay every time thats a red flag, run" and "it's manly to pay for a man, I don't date [implied slur]", and of course the fake feminists going on and on how the gender pay gap (which is real) means no woman can ever be well enough off to take out some guy to a date at olive garden, as if that isn't utterly insulting to women.

And then one person saying how her presence is enough pay and she should get everything handed to her, as if her vibes weren't utterly rancid.

Like idk what kind of people that were, i almost hope my algorithm has forsaken me and this was a weird beacon for women's stuck in the 50s. "Ohh i never invite a man on a date, a man should always invite the woman, it's just proper"

Literally terminal gender essentialism with entitlement thrown on top as garnish. I can promise you you don't have to run, I don't even want your crusty ass if you think men don't get to enjoy being taken on dates too, or are allowed to not spend what is possibly their entire paycheck on your 300 oysters apparently, or that women aren't even capable of splitting one stupid meal without landing in financial ruin.

read someone on the internet saying they didn't want to watch utena because of the mamousa breakup in sailor moon r

and i had to physically restrain myself from ranting

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