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finnslay · 9 months

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Autistic, ADHDers, and AuDhHDers. Which are you and what's it like when people have the same name? For example, if you knew 2 David's, how would your brain react. Would you get them confused? Would you create different nicknames? Are you great at telling them apart? Just wondering. Thanks!

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fangirlingsohardithurts · 5 months

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Fellow ADHD peeps.

Do y’all read more than one book at a time so when you lose interest you have a back up book to cover that?

Or is that just me?

#adhd #actually adhd #adhd brain #adhd things #adult adhd #living with adhd #curious #adhd questions #questions #questioning

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adhd-creativity · 1 year

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ADHD and Gender

I've just thought about how possibly gender doesn't necessarily inherently change the way ADHD affects us (for example, articles stating that adhd makes men more hyperactive than women). But society and how we've been socialised from infants to align with our assigned gender most definitely does.

Example- my male colleague, I'll call him Ben, has combined type adhd just like me (innatentive and hyperactive). It's a lot more 'obvious' with him- he talks loudly about his interests, bounces around the room, and today he's left the staffroom distracted by something work-related. He's left a used mug, glass, and a dirty tuppaware out on the shared table.

My other colleagues complain about Ben to me- they feel safe doing this as I pass so easily as 'normal'. They call him inconsiderate and someone calls him gross. And I think privately to myself, I would so easily have done that too, but I'm too hyper-aware of the shame, the gossiping of everyone around me.

I also know- in a public space you can't leave your used things out on the table. Even if it's really hard to keep track of and not do accidentally. I know I am expected to be tidy (especially in public) and consider everyone around me at all times, even if it negatively affects me.

They don't know about when I hid a growing pile of used mugs and plates in my little office space until people started complaining things were missing, how I complained with them (lol). They don't know that I stayed super late one shift and filled a bag with the mugs and plates and sneaked them into the kitchen to wash, clanking guiltily as I went, having to soak and scrub them for more than an hour.

I don't know Ben's personal history, but maybe he grew up not being told to constantly keep on top of his own mess and chores. Maybe that's women's work. Or maybe he had a modern thinking family who encouraged him to take up the space he needed (not shrink yourself down, make room for boys that need that space) and to not care what others thought of him. Maybe they were annoyed by him leaving cups and plates and making a mess, but Ben's a boy, and boys are allowed to be messy.

Maybe Ben has been enouraged to speak loudly and proudly about his interests all his life, so now he tells people about them. Maybe he's never been told to be quiet, to not think so highly of himself, to let others talk first.

I don't know Ben- I just know that he's had a very different experience of the world than I have, even if we both do share ADHD.

And because he's maybe had the chance to be who he is, loud and chatty and chaotic, without society telling him to be quiet, smaller, neater - maybe thats why people like Ben get diagnosed when they are 8 years old. Maybe that's why I didn't get diagnosed until 30- after years of pushing and having to fight my case.

What do people think? I'd love to hear some other perspectives on this

(Disclaimer- this is not meant to be gender essentialist or man-hating. I think gender is a construct and although I've been socialised as a woman, I am non-binary. Also I am not a health care professional these are just my thoughts lol )

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abcsofadhd · 1 year

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i show almost every symptom of adhd, and i was so sure i had it, but my mom tells me she had me tested when i was 7 to see and “it was a negative”. i was so certain, but now i’m really discouraged and i feel like maybe i was just a lazy person all along. any advice?

Here's the thing..

The concept of laziness is bullshit. As a whole, but let me focus on adhders (pun unintended).

What is laziness? "Unwilling to do work".

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ADHDers (and other ND/ chronically ill folks) are often called lazy cause NTs see us as 'unwilling' to do work. A personal choice.

They are saying we don't care enough to do something.

But that's rarely the case.

Why would we not want to improve our lives? Who WANTS to struggle?

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The ADHD diagnosis process is bullshit, especially if you are afab. The diagnostic checklists focus on grades, and hyperactvity mostly.

Inattentive and internally hyperactive symptoms can be near identical to anxiety and depression. In fact, I was initially diagnosed with depression and anxiety.

And if you managed to do well in school, which ADHDers can do for a variety of reasons, well, you're kinda dismissed.

It took my sisters years to get a diagnosis. The only who took her seriously was a female psychiatrist. And mind, this was after years of counselling, and being on antidepressants and anti anxiety meds for years, and still struggling.

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So now back to the initial point.. is it laziness?

Well, you don't seem unwilling, but rather unable.

If you never cared enough to try, ie, unwilling, you wouldn't be feeling discouraged.

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Final point is this: if you relate to ADHD symptoms, you are obviously struggling.

Even if it's not ADHD, it doesn't mean it's nothing.

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Guys, anything else to add?

#adhd #actually adhd #adhd tag #abcs of adhd #abcsofadhd #adhd diagnosis #adhd questions

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maresirenum · 9 months

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So, I went to go talk to a “prescriber” yesterday about adhd medication, but the lady who spoke to me was condescending, infantilizing and don’t think she knew what she was doing? (when asked her about food to avoid with adhd meds, she said “oh, I don’t know anything about that. I can check online, though.” o-0 concerning) anyway, when talking lady was pushy for me to go on a lisdexamfetamine when I just wanted the concerta, but she kept mentioning that some people find adhd medication “changes” them and they find the change hard to deal with, sometimes they take different type of adhd medication that helps get everything done in morning that need to be done but then can feel more like themself in the evening? So I needed to be careful, and to watch how the medication makes me feel as a person.

Is this a bad thing to say? Never heard about adhd medication changing a person… Is it true? I’m lost, don’t know why she kept saying it

#adhd #attention deficit disorder (add)#adhd problems #actually adhd #adhd post #adhd brain #adhd questions

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sneaky-ramen · 5 months

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hey adhd tumblr. I have a question for you late diagnosed folks. did things get worse for you post-diagnosis? cause things are feeling way harder than it did before getting my diagnosis. and I think this is fucky.

#my adhd #adhd #late diagnosis #neurodivergent #actually adhd #adhd questions #help plz

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thrawns-backrest · 1 month

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quick question, is 'color irritation' a neurodivergence thing? I've seen people describe a similar feeling with taste and texture and I feel like I have the same experience with color that I can't really explain

I've been buying some things lately and every time I try to get something more colorful because yay colors my brain goes into panic mode and I get this feeling of anxiety at the idea of combining them. basically if the 'wrong colors' are anywhere near together it literally feels like it's giving me severe mental pain

does anyone know about this I can't find anything online lol

#adhd questions #neurodivergence

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wakanai · 4 months

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I remember my cousin was diagnosed w ADHD as a child. He couldn't keep still and was always climbing around on things and being hyper in general. He went to therapy for it and got better. Though his mom (my aunt) seemed offended when I asked about it. RN he's a teenager and he's SO different. He seems so reserved and quiet and "mature for his age."

Sure, I've seen him let loose around people he's close with but it's still so shocking that he went from not being able to be still for. 2 seconds to the way that he is now. He doesn't seem to have any problems.

That being said, I'm curious whether ADHD goes away or if it still affects him in some way.

I want to ask but ehh 😭

maybe i'll ask him later.

any thoughts are appreciated though

#random #adhd #adhd questions

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valdin-zone · 6 months

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is like a normal thing to save a specific piece of work for later so you can do that after doing other work because that thing is more fun work or am I just adhd?

#would love to hear other people's opinions on this too #quick question #val's thoughts #adhd #adhd questions

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sir-klauz · 1 year

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I can’t focus as much on reading large blocks of text with this tumblr size format being used lots now and skipping posts which are predominantly just written with that. Is anyone else with ADHD doing this since it was introduced by any chance? Maybe my eyes are just not that good.

Either way it’s making it harder to focus on.

#small text #small format #adhd #adhd tag #my adhd #adhd stuff #adhd questions #adhd feels #adhd post #adhd tumblr #adhdblr

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imtransanddragonobsessed · 5 months

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Sup fellas, I’m currently confused about being neurotypical or not again for the 99999th time?

Might have autism or adhd, anyways I have a few questions about some experiences that I think might be signs;

Is getting along and understanding and being friends with other autistic people a sign? (I’ve had two close friends, two of them had diagnosed autistism.)

As a kid (0-10) I went to lots of doctors for other stuff, apparently one of them started suspecting me of autism according to my dad.

Is dissociating extremely easily in crowded / loud environments a sign?

One of my first memories was, what I now realise is, stimming with my hands and messing with them, is that a sign?

All my life I’ve been obsessed with dragons and how to train your dragon, is that a sign?

In loud and crowded environments I stop talking and stay quiet even though alone and with close people I’m not quiet at all! I try to be my true self in these environments but it never works, is that a sign?

I do these weird things that I think might be stimming??? I chew my mouth, used to happen more often a few years ago but I stopped, I sometimes do it now when concentrating by accident, I like to fiddle with my hands and anything I get a hold of, eg messing and taring up paper (I remember this one time I was really nervous in a test and I tore the paper up so much that the bottom half was unreadable!)

I use to be in special needs class with well known autistic kids in my first school, I thought it was because I had a different disability and they lumped me in with them, but looking back I don’t know. I did have struggles learning language.

Awlways struggled with making friends.

I have trouble concentrating on stuff, even if I want to concentrate on it, my mind always distracts me.

Forgets crap easily + struggles staying organised + rooms a mess!

I have weird modes of brain fog, and weird modes of being extremely concentrated on stuff.

Chronic procrastinator (even procrasting rn)

I hate bright lights so much! When I was a wee child they gave me a migraine, sometimes still do.

My uncle is autistic.

Please help me lmfao ;-;

Edit, forgot to add this;

#autism #adhd #adhd questions #autism questions #please help me what the fucccckkkk #mental health #neurodivergent #i’m sorry if this makes no sense #I don’t think I’m normal aaaaaaa #Aa #a #aaa #help #questions

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abcsofadhd · 1 year

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Hey I have ADHD and I take meds for it but they have serve like side effects I developed a whole ED due to the appetite suppressant and was wondering how could I convince my parents to take me off them? They think the meds cure me and think my adhd will “wear” off when I turn 18 I really don’t want to take meds for the rest of my life and I feel terrible when on them

I'm sorry you have to deal with that.

Meds are absolutely not a cure, and one can't grow out of ADHD. We just learn to cope/ deal/ hide it better, as a lot of ADHD symptoms are internalised as we grow older.

I'm a big proponent for meds, but different meds react differently for different people, and it's a personal choice.

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Your question is interesting cause I usually get the opposite question, with people asking me how to convince their parents to let them get on meds.

Since your parents seem to atleast accept that ADHD is a thing, and seem to listen to doctors somewhat, have you tried speaking to your doctor about it?

Or perhaps tell them that the meds you're taking is causing severe side effects and you want to change the type of meds and/ or perhaps lower the dosage?

I was originally taking the dosage higher than the one I am taking now, but it makes me so incredibly jittery and hypervigilant. So I asked for it to be lowered cause with my current dosage, the side effects aren't as bad.

If your parents aren't letting you get off them, asking the doctor to lower the dosage or changing the type of meds could be a useful first step.

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Guys, anyone have any other advice? Any similar experiences?

#adhd #actually adhd #adhd tag #abcs of adhd #abcsofadhd #adhd meds #adhd questions

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alex-the-polykin · 2 years

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This isn't what I usually post- but can people with ADHD who have been properly medicated tell me what it's like? I have ADHD, zero medication or anything for it, so I'm curious as to what it's like for people who are medicated.

#adhd #adhd questions #question #neurodivergent #neurodivergencies #neurodiversity

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firebrand2007 · 2 years

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Is it still okay for me to reblog and like and follow ADHD content even tho I'm probably neurotypical?

So like... I'm probably neurotypical, even though I've had a fixation with ADHD for ages now, my dad's a psychiatrist and he doesn't think I have it and I bet if I ask my teachers they'll say the same thing since I like... get good grades and can make friends n stuff

The thing is, I follow alot of content creators with ADHD and tumblr blogs that are all so relatable! Like I'm the type of person that doesn't need to study, and hasn't really in my life often, so when there's something I do have to study I do really badly in it.

I have trouble sittings still and liek in the "proper way" with the legs down and stuff and I do stim to calm myself down, I can't cope with loud noises and I get fixated on things and rewatch them a million times, I have trouble with watching movies in one go and starting new content and the whole ADHD and food thing is so incredibly relatable and describes my relationship with food rlly well. I have an addictive personality too. And content for people with ADHD is smth I very much enjoy (Xiran Jay Zhao, they wrote iron widow, said that that may have undiagnosed ADHD and the book is kind of written for similar people, Luz from owl house and Katie Mitchels from the Mitchell vs the machines are both character who I hikey relate to)

I tend to get wrapped up in my own world alot and I forget things everywhere my sense of object permanence is VERY bad and I forget important memories and facts alot too... I read alot and I mostly just watch kids cartoons even tho I'm like a teenager (I'm almost 15)

I've taken online tests before and they all come out with like consistent positive results but the criteria to get diagnosed is my parents have to have noticed things and my school has to have noticed things and... I'm good at managing things. My uncle just got diagnosed recently and he thinks I should get assessed, he thinks there's a chance that I do have it and we're very similar in alot of ways

The thing is, I don't want to self diagnose and I don't know if I should bother getting like assessed... I really really want to but the school thing and yeah... idk, I could really use some input

#adhd problems #adhd post #adhd questions #do i have adhd #questions #helppppp #i need answers #neurodivergence #neurodivergent questions

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dykejersey · 1 year

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at what point does a hyperfixation become a special interest when you have both adhd and autism?

#i don’t know for sure if I’m autistic yet but I’m figuring things out #austism questions #adhd questions

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adhd-creativity · 1 year

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ADHD and PRIORITISING

I love lots of creative things; I am a poet and and artist and a writer

and somehow, also none or these things

as I barely find the time to do them

But then I've been off work the last few days- how have I not found the time?

I feel like there are so many things I want to say and write about and so many books I want to read and so many drawings to draw and paintings to paint and crafts to make and also chores and work and self care and trying to be social

So many things I want to achieve everyday (/ things I must achieve to function as an adult, like cooking and cleaning)

So I get overwhelmed and stare my phone instead, or start things and get distracted

Picking or prioritising something feels impossible, everything feels urgent and equally interesting

And then when I do pick something (like yesterday, finishing my book) my brain will often telling me it's wrong thing and I should be doing one of my many other very important interests

Is this the ADHD curse? To have a million interests and goals but not have the tools (organisation, commitment) to do them consistently?

If anyone has any tips for this, please let me know

#adhd #adhd questions #adhd women #adhd artist #adhd problems #adhd discussion #my journal #asd #neurodiverse artist #neurodiverse #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #neurospicy

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