Thoughts on soft butch subs?

Butch subs have my entire heart. Butch subs who couldn't hide how submissive they are if they tried <3 butch subs who you would never be able to tell are submissive <3 butch subs who are shy about it <3 butch subs who are so proud about it <3 There is something so magical about a butch subbing for you, the trust they have in you, the way they express their desire, the ways you get to express your desire for them, its all magical.

No butch is one-dimensional. There will always be softness in butches, there will always be hardness. Every butch deserves someone to be soft with them.

Like don't get me wrong I love getting to be soft with butches. I love those moments when they realize they can be soft with you. I love the softness in their chivalry, in the ways they are with others in their communities, in the ways they are with me. I just also love being with butches when they are tough or grumpy or mean or silly or scared or not feeling soft at all

the fact that Fionna and Cake gave us the enemies to lovers toxic yuri with butch bonnie and villain marceline is still a shock to me

the hair on my torso randomly got curlier and I feel much more positive about it now, it's so soft and fuzzy

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venting in tags about gender n shit (long as hell) (u can comment and talk 2 me as always :3)

anyone who seriously assigns gender/sexual identities to OTHER PEOPLE i need you to get off the internet. like plssss.

and i’m not talking about “hey! i identify as this and i have a similar expirence to you, have you ever considered that you might be *blank*?” and i’m also not talking about “wow that bearded muscly cisgender man is a beautiful woman! serve mother yas! (joking)” I do both of those things.

i’m talking about seriously misinterpreting someone’s identity and assigning a label to them that they don’t feel comfy with. i literally don’t have any strong opinions about queerness or queer discourse other than this. just stop. please lol.

as a butch girl it really hurts to hear ��oh so you’re a trans man?” or getting they/them’d by people who know my pronouns because they cant deal with the fact that i identify as a girl. if you don’t know what someone identifies as, pls just ask. i get that we have a lot of preconceived notions about identity and that’s okay. but just be more conscious about how you stereotype and how you automatically assign identity. my straight freinds all dress gayer than my gay friends. i know very masculine and very feminine people who are non binary/genderqueer. i know lesbians who use every pronoun under the sun. sometimes i find certain men attractive cause they look dykey if i squint and that does not make me bi or pan or anything!! just stop assuming and assigning and let people be people.

ok psa over go get lit gaybos

this blog is changing my brain chemistry there is enough posts about butch softness n positivity for me to be soft and vulnerable and then im getting gut punched by the posts that are so full of desire from you.. im,, wow this is very good thank you

oh 🥺 this is very beautiful, thank you

I think there is so much I can say about this but mostly there is just something really special to me about making butches feel comfortable with me to let themselves be vulnerable however they want to be. But not only that but rewarding them for that and knowing that because of it they are able to feel the full weight of my desire

good GOD can we stop gendering everything. I swear some of y'all just took the futch scale and decided to run with it as gender roles 2.0 (yassified edition)

i have a reputation among my friends for being the one w the most boring taste in characters and somehow making them seem interesting (sometimes), which is a reputation i carry with pride. but then the boringness will creep up on me and it’s like facing the horror of your own doing.

i guess i did sign up for this…

i saw the new ghibli movie yesterday, an experience that was a lot like seeing the green knight, very "that was cool but i have no idea what happened just now." except i think rewatching the green knight would let me connect some more dots, while rewatching heron movie would be purely for enjoying the animation and the vibes and not even try to grasp the plot because i think it would be detrimental to my enjoyment of it.

Lesbian megastar where starscream is a hyper femme she/he lesbian and megatron is a she/her (occasionally they) butch but will occasionally be femme leaning because starscream encourages her and makes her feel like it's okay to explore that part of her.

But overall she likes being butch and that's what she's most comfortable and ofc starscream is fine with that he loves Megatron regardless of how she presents

"Why, you wound me. Of course you're special. I fall for every beautiful person I meet. And you, my friend, are truly beautiful."

Not a troll, I’m just curious what your experience is as a he/him lesbian? I’m also trans (Demi boy) btw. I guess, what about the term lesbian and dyke feel good for you? And are those words entirely devoid of gender and therefore not invalidating you as a man? Or is it something entirely different? Feel free to ignore! I’m just wondering bc I know there’s been a lot of criticism of he/him lesbians but not much sharing the experience of he/him lesbians. Happy holidays!!

Thanks for asking! It’s a little complicated for me but I’ll try my best to lay out the gist of my gender and how I choose to reconcile it ^_^

Lesbianism is fully liberating for me and is my home. My butchness stems from my masculinity, but without finding lesbianism I wouldn’t be the butch I am today. I owe a lot to lesbians and lesbianism, and am proud to call myself one. Reading stone butch blues was extremely eye opening to me, because it proved to me that I can be as masculine as I want, as internally male as I feel, and still find a home in lesbianism.

Most days, I do feel like a man. I experience gender dysphoria and find that a lot of my experiences also align with that of ftm folk. I look in the mirror and see a man already (on top of the fact that I just literally think I already am a man), so at the moment I haven’t decided to start hrt for that reason. I know it must sound odd to hear me say I’m a man, but I simply have no other way of putting it. I resonate deeply with butches who pass completely as men; I resonate with lesbians and butches who medically transition. My internal gender just feels very binary male. So I reconcile all of these complicated feelings by using he/him pronouns. Being called a lesbian or a dyke makes me happy. I embrace my dual identity, which is why I call myself a boydyke. It brings me so much joy to call myself that!!

There are plenty of other he/him lesbians out there that I know who share similar experiences as mine. Some of us just have such complicated genders that it even throws *us* off. Gender variance and gender fuckery has always existed in lesbian spaces. You don’t see this kind of policing in gay male spaces at all. But years of lesbian separatism and t*rf bs will regress the community to the point of people calling me transphobic for just existing as a trans person lol