Crazy how someone being an asshole ONCE will fuck you up for months

well, someone had to tell him

I'm not blaming the op of the original post, or trying to imply anything about them as a person. and I don't want to single out this post in particular, because the issue is an broadly reaching trend rather than any one individual happening to write a post in five minutes one time.

but I really Really wish we'd stop and think if it's a good idea to say "girls turning into boys makes them inherently less interesting" on the transgender website

picking a privileged group to be the butt of a joke because it's lighthearted when nobody's actually getting hurt by doing so Only Works when everyone within that group is actually privileged. making jokes about how men are lesser than doesn't Actually affect the people who are actually within power, but Does chip away at the confidence and comfort of marginalized men who are In these communities to be exposed to it.

and the issue isn't about any one joke or poorly worded discussion in particular, but it's difficult to articulate why it can feel so alienating and unsafe to have things like this be so common within my communities without sounding ridiculous or risk being made fun of for not being able to take a joke. because the framing of implied privilege makes it easy to twist those feelings alienation into the entitlement that's assumed with men taking issue with being the butt Of a joke.

I simply think "this type of person is inherently lesser than" should be reexamined and thrown out as a talking point, even in a lighthearted context. because there will always be vulnerable people within those groups who already Hear that they are lesser than for existing

Just to clarify my thoughts (since I've had a number of people ask me about it) re: Job and cursing God. There's a big difference between cursing God as used in Scripture and how we generally would think of cursing at God today.

Cursing someone, in the Bible, has a lot of depth to it. It's not just saying "screw you " in anger, it's got a sense of forsakenness to it. It's the opposite of a blessing, a removal of blessing. If the blessing is presence, your face shining on the person you're blessing, then a curse is absence. In some translations, Job's wife tells him to "renounce God and die," which I honestly think makes a lot more sense to modern ears.

Job says a lot of unpleasant things to and about God in his anger and grief. So do the Psalmists. A number of the Prophets. So can we. God can take it if we come to him with honest expressions of our emotion, including those not-so-nice ones directed at him. I don't think there's anything wrong with getting mad at God and saying, "How dare you, you bastard" when you suffer unjustly. You can say much worse, I think, without sinning, though I don't feel particularly inclined to give examples. But as long as it's an honest expression of your heart, I think you're doing exactly what prayer is for. You're presenting him your heart with an open hand. He can use that. Opposite of love is not hate but indifference, etc.

Job doesn't renounce God. Neither should we. But I think when you're truly suffering, you're gonna have those feelings toward God either way. He'd rather you address them with him directly than try to avoid them. Cursing at God in the modern sense is actually a great way to keep the relationship strong and not end up cursing/renouncing him in the Biblical sense.

kinda a vent piece?!

under cut is same drawing but eyestrain warning :}

idk who needs to hear this but write what the fuck u want man 😭😭 drabbles & long fics about whatevaaaaa. jus do what YOU want, not because you feel obligated to

oh i should probably post this one too

okay this is a very personal hot take but i genuinely don't believe dazai is as self destructive as he may seem.

the fact that suicide baiting is becoming an increasingly popular way to harrass people online when we are experiencing unprecedented levels of mental health crises and a gun violence epidemic is so horrifying. I really think people think this is just a normal way to disagree with someone without seeing the very real tangible consequences that can come from encouraging someone to kill themselves. but I promise you if there is even a tiny part of you that has considered that before, having a stranger on the internet tell you to do it rips that wound wide open. there is no excuse or justification for that kind of behavior.

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veep dad comfort art

im v annoyed rn so take some doodles whilst i try to work out my PRIMAL , ANIMALISTIC RAGE!!! RAURRR !!!

my favourite part of generation loss was when ranboo yelled 'its lossin time' and then lossed all over those guys

PLEASE elaborate on how Lance affected the ao3 tags

Keep in mind that these are only some of the Lance-specific tags. There was so much #langst content that people began tagging specific tropes 😭😭😭

I hate when you feel like shit but are still expected to fulfil (non compulsory) religious obligations but when you try to be like 'hey please not today I feel like shit' the only answer you get is. 'well this stuff Is supposed to relax you and make you feel better/at peace so do it anyway' so all you can do is bite your tongue 'cause if you even so much as implied that doing them dosnt actually make you feel better and not everyone is the same and you can't force someone to find peace in something you'd basically be outing yourself.

Penny for your thoughts?

It was suggested that it might help me, mentally, if I created a new blog.

🌟 A SASsy New Drama Blog 🌟

A large part of the reason that I try not to engage with people making weird claims against me is because... that's just not what this blog is for. It's not a personal blog. It's a blog meant for you guys, my followers. I actually don't have a "personal" blog where I can vent or talk about myself in relation to my systemhood and online identity.

This blog is meant to educate and make people laugh. It's for spreading resources. It's for combating real misinformation that has real-world consequences.

There are people who have zero interest in me and my life outside of the resources I post. I don't want to bother people with my problems. I don't want to air my dirty laundry in front of people who genuinely don't want to see it and can't consent to seeing.

However, I have always struggled with silence. I firmly believe that letting people get away with lying, manipulative behaviour tells them that they will continue to get away with it.

**This is not an attack on people who couldn't or didn't fight back, internet drama is not the same thing, and it's okay to walk away from situations without ever addressing it, online or irl

A blog like this could have benefits, and people can block it if they don't want to see it. But for people who want to see the full story, I can get my side out there without feeling guilt for bothering any of you with it. I can vent, maybe.

Obviously, though, there is something to be said about not engaging.

The mods are torn. I'm torn.

I'm putting it to you all.