Q: How do you come out of the closet to your friends?
âYour good friends should support you no matter what. For my experience, friends were the first people I told. And I was really confident in the fact that the friends I had would keep that secret and would support me though that process and all it entailed.
Being in the closet is such an isolating experience and you can feel so alone. Just reaching out to one friend that you trust and telling them. Tell them on your time, tell them when youâre ready, but even reaching out to one friend will allow you to feel confident in having the conversation, in talking to someone, confiding in someone. â
Dan Levy- IG Live with Emily Hampshire- April 2020
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If someone comes out to you, please support them and respect their decision to tell more people on their schedule. Â
âIf you have a friend who is going through something, you donât necessarily need to call them and say, like âtell me everythingâ. Â
But it is important, in terms of friendships, to be aware of what other people are going through and from time to time, thereâs a delicate way of navigating that, and itâs simply, shoot someone a text saying âif you need to talk, ever, know that Iâm here.ââ
Dan Levy- IG Live with Emily Hampshire- April 2020
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Weâre all going through something. Check on your friends. You never know who needs you right now.
âI donât necessarily have a huge circle of friends, but I do have a small group of really important, meaningful friendships, and that means more than being able to invite 700 people to a wedding.â
Dan Levy- IG Live with Emily Hampshire- April 2020
Photo: Jeff Kravitz
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Quality over quantity. Choose to invest in the relationships that really matter.Â
âWould this friend have my back if push comes to shove? Some of them, I realized no, they probably wouldnât. And you know what? Snip-snip, I cut them right out.â
Dan Levy- IG Live with Emily Hampshire- April 2020
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This is such a good point- friendships and relationships should make your life better, not worse. Sometimes, relationships run their course and itâs okay to let them go.
âAnd sometimes I like to be included even if I donât want to be a part of it. I just want to know that the offer or the invitation was there.â -Dan Levy, Forbes, June 2022: https://www.forbes.com/sites/scottking/2022/06/03/how-dan-levy-seized-a-major-opportunity-with-schitts-creek/?sh=5fe032b51e4c Photo: Tostitos +++++ Itâs such a basic human need, to feel included, seen, remembered. How can you make someone feel included today?
âIt ended up having more to do with friendships in your 30s than actual romantic relationships. What would a love story look like if it was really about a group of friends in their mid-30s? The clarity that comes with age and the time youâve spent with these people,âÂ
âThereâs romance in the movie, obviously, but really, itâs a love story about friendship.â
I got to a point where I had to write four pages a day to make the deadline and I said to myself, âEven if itâs crap, Iâm going to put four pages worth of work down and edit through them at the end.â
Dan Levy, The Hollywood Reporter, June 2022
Photo: Danâs IG stories
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The caption on this IG story was âWriting is Hardâ. But we can all do hard things, if we take it one step (or four pages) at a time. Â
Dan has said this in many different ways, but doing what makes OTHER people happy is a recipe for resentment. Itâs hard to stay true to yourself, but itâs worth it in the long run.
This is a little out of context- it was originally in response to a question about working with family on Schittâs Creek, but I think itâs solid advice in general.Â
For those of us who are still working from home, possibly indefinitely, itâs hard to keep boundaries between work and life. Some of that is good (pajama bottoms on Zoom!) and some of that is not so good (literally not moving from the couch for 10 hours in a row).