At some point you have to stop allowing yourself to be the victim.

YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM.

YOU ARE A SURVIVOR!

So buck the f*** up and keep it movin.

Life ISN’T happening TO you.

Life IS happening FOR you.

This very moment was made to make you.

You can either let it break you or rise from the ashes like the MF phoenix that you are!

Take flight baby!😘

Sincerely yours,

B.

She was an angel that went to war.

She called the devil out and said I’ll fight you on your grounds.

Battle after battle she lost something…

Left wing…

Right wing…

Her glowing halo…

God told her that demon wasn’t worthy. Stand down my child, he will forsake you and leave you in misery.

But she fought like hell because she loved him.

She had something the devil didn’t… she had love…

And with her heart she fought for that demon’s soul.

Only once the battle was won, her demon was gone.

Left her for a demon of his own because unlike her she could dance in the dark with him…

And she would always dance in the light.

Sincerely yours,

B.

You think I don’t get mad.

You think I don’t have crazy in me….

I’d love to fight these emotions out. Punch, kick, and scream!

Slice through their pretty little throats for all the bullshit they spit out about me!

Leave their pretty little cars and homes in ruin. Key their shit. Mark my name on it. Pour the gasoline, set a match and watch the whole MF burn up in flames!!!

I could…

Be exactly like you, childish… immature.

React on my emotions with no regards to peoples lives or the consequences.

Don’t for one second think there isn’t a Beast in here. Don’t ever think there isn’t madness underneath this surface.

The only difference is I choose to be kind behind the madness.

The only difference is I’ve tamed her.

She will snap your neck if I let her. But, she listens to her master.

You think I’m weak. You think you’ve won.

Yours is unruly and feral. Which means YOU have NO control. She’ll eventually consume you, and take over, wrecking havoc on everyone’s life around you including your own.

So you think you’ve won, stand on it.

But when you fall, just remember…

You THOUGHT you won.

Sincerely yours,

B.

People are gonna do you how they do you regardless of the circumstances.

Sometimes you just gotta run with it and let them play the cards they dealing.

Cause at the end of the day. You gotta keep it movin. Some people aren’t worth holding on to. And some people aren’t worth stepping out of character for.

When they fold, you fold.

It’s really THAT simple.✌🏽

Sincerely yours,

B.

We all experience some trauma that debilitates us. That makes us want to lean into the darkness and set the world on fire. Trauma can really have its way with you. Leaving you bitter and empty. Ready to serve up the next person you meet to the flames still burning. Burning the next one and the next one till it becomes all consuming. Not realizing you’re now just like them. The person that once tore into you. Left you engulfed in the flames of your own burning building. It’s still burning. YOU’RE STILL BURNING. And now you light up every single MF that comes near you because of what that one person did to you.

Congratulations.

You’ve just become another one of them.

Another raging unhealed human who can’t push passed their emotions. Another hurt and broken person on a mission to hurt and break another person.

Did you get it?

Did you get yourself back after hurting that person?

Did it make you feel less broken once you broke someone more?

Tell me did it console you so deep to know that you tore someone deeper than you were torn?

Did it comfort your broken heart to know there goes another fucked up broken one into this world?

No…

No…

No…

No…

No…

That’s what I thought.

Try healing first…

Sincerely yours,

B.

A letter to myself.

Dear me,

I love you. I’m so sorry I neglected you. I’m sorry I left you when you needed me the most. I’m sorry I put someone else on a pedestal and left you to rot on the floor. I’m so sorry I allowed you to believe you were less than you were, invaluable, and worthless. You are so much more! A chameleon diamond the rarest of her kind. A virtuous woman to be treasured, honored, and protected. I’m so sorry I failed to protect you. I failed to put you first. I’m so sorry I used you repeatedly to take care of others, but never taking the time to nurture you myself. To give back to you for all that you were giving. I’m so sorry for losing you… for breaking you… but, from this moment on I vow to love you unconditionally. To give you grace when you make those mistakes. To love you extra when you need it. To put you first always. To provide you a safe space to be yourself. To be kind with my words. To never lose you again. To never break you for anything. To protect you lovingly. To put you up on that pedestal where you were always meant to be. And to always remind you just how worthy you are. You were always enough… more than enough.

Sincerely yours,

B.

Time is of the essence. Don’t waste it wondering what if. Looking back at what could’ve been. Replaying scenarios over and over again in your head… things played out exactly the way they needed to.✨ That person who left, left because they wanted to. They weren’t meant to stay.✋🏽🚫 That job you lost, you lost because it wasn’t the right fit anymore.👎🏽 Those friends that turned their backs, weren’t genuine to begin with.🙅🏽‍♀️ There is a means to the madness. So value your time and use it for the ones that stayed, for the things that fit, and for being present today.😘

Sincerely yours,

B.

There will be moments in your life when everything feels like it’s falling apart. Where life hits you from every angle. And everything you thought was going right for some reason went wrong.💔 These moments happen. But, bare with me… those moments are just what they are… moments. They won’t last forever. And everything that fell apart will soon build something new as they fall back together. I know it doesn’t seem like it right now, but they will. Trust and believe. Things won’t always be this bad!! It’s just a moment to go through. Just like every other moment in your life. This too shall pass. So cry it out if you need to. Take some time alone when you need to. But, don’t you dare give up! There’s a fighter in you! That fighter will get you through every single time. And when you come out of it all you’ll finally see where these moments were leading you to.🤍

Sincerely yours,

B.

Sometimes you just have to let go and let God. Now that doesn’t mean you’re giving up. It just means that there are some things in life that you cannot control. And the reason they’re out of your control is because they aren’t meant for you to.🙅🏽‍♀️ Focus on the things you can control. The things that are meant for you. Leave the rest to God.🙏🏽 I know it’s not easy, but I can promise you he’s got you. Even when it makes no sense and your insides are screaming to do something, anything. Just take a breath…😮‍💨 step back…🤚🏽 and watch what HE does.✊🏽

Sincerely yours,

B.

There are days you feel like folding. Days you don’t want to get up. Days you can’t even catch your breath let alone find the strength to keep going. But, you aren’t alone. We all have those days. We all fall sometimes. It doesn’t matter who you are, man or woman. You will break… and that’s okay. It’s okay to have those difficult moments. It’s okay to feel like giving up. Just promise me that you won’t. Don’t give up. Keep going! There is a light at the end of this tunnel. It won’t be like this forever. Hold on.. we’ll make it together.🙏🏽✨

Sincerely yours,

B.

You’re beautiful.🥰 You’re handsome.🤗 You’re perfect.👌🏽 You might not be everyone’s cup of tea.☕️ But, you’re perfectly made to be you. Every flaw, every mistake, every fall, every come back, built you up to here and now. Don’t apologize for who you’ve become.😌 Not everyone is meant to go with you in your next season. Not everyone will be in your corner even though they’ve been around for the ride. Sometimes you have to know your value and stand on that.👏🏽 What’s meant to be yours will be and everything else will start dropping. Trust the process.🙏🏽✨

Sincerely yours,

B.

Sometimes doing what’s BEST for you feels like shit. Sometimes it hurts to put that foot down and hold your ground. Sometimes it doesn’t feel like you’re doing the right thing. It doesn’t look like you’re doing the right thing. But, sometimes what’s BEST for you isn’t right or wrong. It’s not always going to be black and white in this world filled with so much color. You’ll need to fade into the shades. Find your grey area. Because doing what’s BEST for you isn’t going to be right for some. It isn’t going to be wrong for some. But, it’s going to be what’s necessary for you to hold on. So do what’s BEST for you. Take a stand for yourself. Even if you’re shaking. Even if your knees are trembling. Even if your heart is broken and those tears are falling. DO IT!! No one else matters. Your sanity matters. Your feelings matter. So let the world hold its judgements. God knows your truth. And only his judgement matters. He sees you. So keep going. Even when it hurts… KEEP GOING.

Sincerely yours,

B.

You have to understand that the people you surround yourself with will be the energy you live with. Do you want to be bitter, or do you want to be better? Choose wisely baby.💋

Sincerely yours,

B.

This isn’t about them.✋🏽 This is about you.😌 You want something, you better be ready to fight for it.👊🏽 Your dreams, goals, and ambitions won’t just fall into your lap. These people you depend on won’t be the answer. They aren’t going to hand you anything on a silver platter. All you got is YOU. So, put in the time. Put in the effort. Put in the work.💪🏽 Dedicate that a** and I promise you’ll start to see things move. No one else can do it...but YOU.💋✨

Sincerely yours,

B.

It’s not about “giving up”. It’s about knowing when to let go. Loving yourself more than holding on to something so painful.💋

Sincerely yours,

B.

So they played you. That’s cool let them move along and play someone new.👋🏽 So they hurt you. That’s cool too let them hurt someone else other than you.👋🏽 Listen, just because someone hurt you doesn’t mean you HAVE to hurt them back. Just because someone played you doesn’t mean you HAVE to get even and play too.🤦🏽‍♀️ We live in a world now where vengeance and getting even is being made to look cool. Let KARMA do her thang.💁🏽‍♀️ She don’t skip anyone and when you do wrong just because you’ve been wronged. She won’t have mercy on you. She’ll serve you just the same. KARMA don’t play favorites, she’s the only one that gets the real vengeance.💞 You, you’re better than that babe...just walk away.😌💋✨

Sincerely yours,

B.

It’s okay that you loved someone more than they knew how to reciprocate. Not everyone has your heart. Not everyone loves the same. But give it time baby.✨ The love you’ve given will be returned one day.💞

Sincerely yours,

B.