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cambion-companion · 2 months
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I'm sorry. But never in my LIFE have I seen a fic that says in bold red text "FEMALE READERS DNI".
Like...are you actually kidding me? You're going to block a whole demographic from reading your work because why?
Warding off minors from reading smut is one thing but this is way out of line. Check yourself.
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kdinjenzen · 1 year
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The fact that so many articles paint “gender dysphoria” as only something trans people experience is ridiculous.
The concept of societal gender has, and continues to, harmed cis people for a very very long time and causes cis folks to suffer similarly to their trans siblings.
While, yes, trans folks on average may have a greater sense of (and reaction to) gender dysphoria - a lot of that comes from actually understanding what that feeling IS and knowing how to combat it in the way they need.
Cis people, however, will sit there and be uncomfortable while not knowing WHY and when they are told “that sounds like gender dysphoria” they will say “no, that’s only for trans people” - and then… continue to suffer.
Additionally “Societal Gender Norms” depending on where you are in the world you are and what is “Girl” and what is “Boy” can change DRASTICALLY depending on where you are from or the culture you grew up in.
This is to say that, overall, people attempting to adhere to the “American Societal Gender Norm” as some “Universal Standard of Gender” are far more likely to be depressed over their gender presentation than in most other countries and societies in the world.
Why? Well… our standard of “Boy” and “Girl” is not only the YOUNGEST acting societal standard but it changes SO OFTEN that if you look at “The Standard of Beauty for Women” and “The Standard for Manliness” across the last 100 years you will see such dramatic shifts EVERY 10 YEARS which can cause increasing amounts of dysphoria as time goes on because:
1. The standard you grew up with and idolized is NOT the standard you live in NOW and you feel “out of sorts” with your gender.
Or
2. The standard you WERE considered “Womanly”/“Manly” in has changed DRASTICALLY with time and now you are no longer considered that DESPITE not changing how you present your gender.
This is to say… cis folks and trans folks deal with a lot of the same issues, and by breaking down barriers between statements like “YOU CAN NEVER UNDERSTAND (X TYPE OF PERSON)” we can realize that AS PEOPLE we are all more alike than things appear.
Be that by gender, color of our skin, sexuality, spirituality, or ANYTHING!
We are all human, we all suffer, we all grow, we all learn, we all cry, we all smile, we all are people among other people.
Kindness and learning about yourself and others helps everyone in the end.
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justanotherdrfan · 16 days
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Regardless of team orders, strategy calls or whose faster or not you DO NOT DIVE BOMB your teammate on the cooldown lap when the first car has damage to ‘prove your stupid point’ it’s highly reactive, destructive, dangerous, immature and unsportsmanlike.
It was discussed during strategy meetings so you were aware it could happen. Daniel was flying on the softs compared to Yuki’s hards, for laps on end Yuki was unable to pass Kmag so the team orders were called. Should they have been called earlier? Yes. But should Yuki have also listened to the call instead of arguing and then letting the swap happen at a shit part of the track that not only slowed both cars but gave Max time to catch up and caused both to have blue flags and slow both RB’s down even more causing Daniel’s soft tyres to fall off and lose the chance of catching and passing Kmag.
Also regardless whose car was getting ‘preferential treatment’ as so many believe they both weren’t in the points. So as a team data collecting is of the UPMOST IMPORTANCE. Daniel’s on softs that in clean air we’re flying. He’d already closed a 9 sec gap on Yuki before the call happened. There was a 10sec gap in front of Kmag to Zhou so clearly getting the car with the better tyre advantage in front and in clean air to collect data at the very beginning of the season is vital, especially with the midfield looking as close as can be this season.
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stoicsblog · 2 years
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aintgonnatakethis · 23 days
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"unity" "solidarity" "no one gets left behind"
"wait not you. specifically, not you. why? oh... *digs through notes* <insert antisemitism here>"
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mmmairon · 2 months
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i request more footage of The Boy™ (casper) 👉👈 pretty please?
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Pretend this ask isn’t nearly a year old but better late than never, right? I’ll always post my little boy. He provides window cleaning services for free. Enjoy.
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bilvy · 5 months
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this is how some of you are acting
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personaldiary · 4 months
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I think this is the best season to start working on yourself.
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thestrangestthlng · 7 months
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Public Figures Owe You Nothing
Same thing, different fandom. Now, my first soiree into internet fandom was Glee nearly fifteen years ago. Given insane popularity of the show and one of their two main couples, Klaine, and Darren Criss being a straight man, I am no stranger to the "only gay (out) queer actors should play queer roles" argument.
I don't necessarily disagree completely. Queer actors should be highlighted in queer roles. But guess what, the film industry is shit.
Not everyone is out, can afford to be out, is ready to come out publicly, or cares to have anyone in their business. There is a huge number of fans who are way too invested in the parasocial relationships with their "favs" and cross lines.
It's a tale as old as time. Darren Criss' now wife, Mia (Swier), was mercilessly harassed online and honestly in person. I distinctly remember people MAILING her things. There was an incredible amount of hate directed towards her because SHE wasn't a HE and a group of fans were hellbent that he and Chris Colfer were secretly in a relationship, even though both were happily in their own relationships. (Both of them are actually still IN those relationships and I love that for them.)
Someone gave Dannell Ackles (wife of Jensen Ackles) a gift at an event. When she reached it she was cut by a bunch of rusty hooks in a fucking voodoo doll.
One of the NSYNC members (I can't remember if it were Chris or Joey) ended up being broken up with by their partner at the time because of the amount of hate they were getting.
This came up because someone said on instagram that they "will not be watching [RWRB]" because [Taylor and Nicholas] "are not out" and "they are gay for pay". So, me being me, says to them that the actors owe you nothing. Their sexuality/gender identity is no one's concern but their own.
Also, it was really disgusting what alot of Heartstopper did to Kit. He's just a baby and they strong armed him to coming out before he was ready and made him feel like he had to justify it. Cruel irony being that it's the exact opposite of the point of the books, and exact opposite of his character. I'll never forgive them for what they did to my son.
I went on to tell them that Hollywood is shit. It's homophobic, racist, sexist, xenophobic, transphobic, everything phobic. They like beautiful and handsome, classically beautiful, white, straight actors that fit into their perfect mold. As soon as actors come out they get type cast, lose rolls (because how could a homosexual portray intimacy with a woman? It's not like they are actors or anything). I, of course, got blocked because they didn't agree with me and that's fine.
Did you know that many actors in the union don't even make the $26,000 a year that is required to qualify for health insurance? Most actors are working class. Yes, many acquire a net worth, but it's honestly one huge disaster from losing what they have. The median salary for actors in the US is about 60K a year. So why would a working class actor or even a upper middle class actor, want to potentially dismantle their career trajectory by telling something that is really no one's concern anyway?
Not everyone wants to be stuck in a Ryan Murphy rotation. Maybe once we get more queer film and show makers and Hollywood execs start to fuck off we'll get more. I'm 99% sure that RWRB is the ONLY gay romcom without underlying trauma porn. The only other one that comes close is a Christmas movie.
Actors are still human and deserve privacy. They owe fans nothing. Their partners deserve privacy. If they are queer good for them. If they are not, good for them. But fans don't get to dictate who comes out and when. So yes, we want more queer actors in queer roles, but we don't get to decide if the ones who are not open get to have these roles. Sometimes it is who is best for the role.
As far as RWRB: Neither Taylor nor Nicholas have ever made any public statements on their sexuality and are both private people when it comes to their relationships. It's really goofy that people think it's an appropriate question to ASK them personally. Interview or not.
All that matters to me is that they killed that online and the characters they acted were madly in love with each other.
Moral of the story: they can want someone and love some one and not want that life for them. Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka were together for three years before they came out and that's when NPH came out - at 34 on his terms, as it should be. Some people really missed the message of the book; that queer people deserve to come out when and how THEY want to.
/Ted Talk
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batwynn · 8 months
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So uh, look. I’m not a huge fan of Neil Gaiman as a person, mostly due to some things he’s said, done, or not done in the past (still enjoyed plenty of his books and a big fan of Good Omens with Terry.) but some of the shit people online are saying to him are mildly-to-extremely inappropriate and you need to reset some boundaries on yourselves. Take this from someone who was mildly popular in a fandom for a while there. It can be genuinely scary to receive threatening messages out of the blue from a complete fucking stranger. Especially when you have no point of reference about what they’re threatening you about, if it’s even a joke, etc.
Just because he’s made himself accessible to fans does not mean you can treat him like your Tumblr bestie with violent, threatening inside jokes. He’s not your buddy. You can’t lol your way out of sending threatening messages to a stranger. This is literally the reason your past faves stopped interacting with fans online. (Trust me, I was in the Marvel fandom when Loki/Tom arrived.) This will end as it usually does, with him being forced to leave online spaces and become inaccessible again. And then y’all will bitch and whine that he thinks he’s ‘too good’ for you or whatever and the cycle starts all over again with someone else famous.
Please. Please just learn to fucking behave. Be a weird (affectionate) and violent gremlin in your personal blog spaces or discord or wtfever. Don’t send it to a public figure just trying to have a good time in the fandom. Ok? Can we try to be better this time?
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agarthanguide · 4 months
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Do NOT paint over a screen shot and then lie to the children and call it a “sketch.” Wtf is wrong with you‽ You will fool a certain amount of people, and those people, young people who LOOK UP TO YOU, will be confused and discouraged when they can’t replicate your “style” via conventional means. We can see the goddam film grain on the remaining portions of the screen shot, ffs.
Look- I’m not here to police art. If painting over stuff is your vibe, I totally support you. But don’t goddam lie about it. You are poisoning the well, and when the kids who follow you grow up, they will lose all respect for you.
And just so you know- you are not fooling the pros.
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writingtheother · 2 months
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*Assuming your screw up wasn't malicious. Like, say, making fake Goodreads accounts to 1 star authors you're pre-emptively jealous of and then pretending it was a "friend" who did it and then making a eyeroll-worthy nonpology....
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indigoserenity · 4 months
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Ladies, do you want to have pretty hands? Give a hand to the helpless. Cook a meal for the homeless. Volunteer at a shelter. Feed the birds. Hold someone's hand. Give a massage. Gentlemen, do you want to have nice biceps and strong arms? Go and cut wood for the elderly, they are powerless and fragile. Cut your own wood and it will warm you twice, I say cut wood for the old people and it will warm you thrice.
How is that widow who is living alone, what gentleman will do the heavy work for her? Don't forget, the cold months are from September to February, we are not doing this only to look better in December and call it the holidays spirit.What else are we supposed to do with our youth other than help the ones who can't and better ourselves?  We MUST NOT get lost in vanity, our looks, self-absorption, we must BUILD OUR CHARACTER. Don't wait for the holidays to be nice to people, to help others, to give. Start right now and keep the spirit all year, it doesn't matter if it's November, December or July, start now and keep it up.
I know an 86 year-old lady who is in a retirement home and SHE READS TO THE BLIND. Let it be an example for all of us to always think of ways we can help others.
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foxylady13 · 4 months
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I had a little epiphany, followed by a headcanon, this morning based on this text and wanted to share with you all 💕
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Lucien doesn't back away, not even a step, from Rhys, Feyre, OR the Illyrians. Feyre ends up thinking of a painting of "The Clever Fox Stares Down Winged Death." Now, I know the assumption is Rhys is the Winged Death based on the scene, but what if it could be possible foreshadowing for Lucien eventually staring down Azriel? Azriel is the torturer for the Night Court. He quite literally hands out Death, and is an Illyrian.
This is where my headcanon comes in... Lucien and Azriel are facing off, not in a Blood Duel, but as two males who have feelings for Elain. Lucien politely informs Azriel he knows of his feelings for Elain, and ends up thanking Azriel for being there for Elain when Lucien couldn't, but that Elain has chosen to accept the bond with him and Azriel needs to stop going after unavailable women. Especially another males mate.
This would show the diplomatic and nice side of Lucien. It shows his dignity and grace, even in the face of another male who had sexual feelings for his mate. It also shows the glaring differences in Lucien and Azriel as we all know that in the bonus chapter Azriel had no trouble saying he could easily take Lucien, with no regard to how it would make Elain feel or what it would do to her. Lucien would be showing Azriel how to be the better man/mate.
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transannabeth · 7 months
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no more!!!! of “speaking [language]” in subtitles of scripted shows!!!!!! write that shit out!!!! transcribe it!!!!!!
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statisticalcats2 · 4 days
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Does anyone remember that the American TikTok ban has been on the table for years and is heavily tied to the country's issues with China or did we all forget that because we couldn't make it about Jews controlling the media
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