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SHAUNA SHIPMAN: AN ORESTEIA
#yes everything is about greek tragedies to me what about it#shauna is literally The Epitome of Tragedy i cannot stress this enough#her whole life is drenched in grief#and shame and loss and guilt#THE DESPAIR#what's that quote by khaled hosseini??#about if you had just opened your mouth and said something at that one pivotal moment your whole life might have turned out different??#but you didn't say something?? you stayed silent instead??#also richard siken's someone has to leave first quote that everyone on this hellsite should know by heart <3#That is the Epitome of Tragedy thank u mr hosseini#thank u mr siken#the inevitability of it all. the inescapability. what if you just -#but you didn't. you didn't and that is why you suffer#anyways i was too lazy to find more quotes so these excerpts are from both anne carson's translation of the oresteia#and robert icke's extraordinary modern-day production of the greek tragedy#shauna shipman#shauna x jackie#yellowjackets#parallels#web weaving
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When Homer said, “We men are wretched things”
And when Khaled Hosseini said, “A man's heart is a wretched, wretched thing. It isn't like a mother's womb. It won't bleed. It won't stretch to make room for you.”
#dark academia#dead poets society#literature#writers on tumblr#dark acadamia aesthetic#dark academism#writeblr#homer#the iliad#khaled hosseini#a thousand splendid suns#quotes#what was said#bookblr#light academia#writerscommunity#chaotic academia#grey academia#lovecore#hozier#dark romanticism#achilles.txt
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Will I be something?
Am I something?
And the answer comes:
You already are.
You always were.
And you still have time to be.
-Anis Mojgani
#light academia#poem#true words#beautiful quote#dark academia#reading#books#quotes#dead poets society#hozier#anis mojgani#what am i#who am i#greek mythology#the song of achilles#achilles and patroclus#a thousand splendid suns#khaled hosseini
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Requests open! How exciting! I hope you're having a lovely day, if the quotes not taken is "Come, there is a way to be good again" with Dimitri okay?
𓆩 ღ 𓆪 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐞𝐧𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐚𝐭𝐨𝐧𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭
( come, there is a way to be good again. )
chara : dimitri alexandre blaiddyd
fandom : fire emblem: 3 houses
quote cr : khaled hosseini
a/n : prompt post ( x )
in rebirth there are remnants of a life left behind, fragments of the past clouded in the midst of new awakenings and the shock of renewal. in rebirth there is a haunting echo of hope & the dreadful waiting for the worst, and in rebirth, there is the tale of two lovers reunited.
this is your story now.
you live freely, heart light but filled with the lingering of war stricken memories. how strange to realize that things are entirely different now ; how grateful you are to have found peace with what once was and moved on. you close your eyes, take a deep breath, and feel a familiar warmth envelop you.
this is your story now, you recall, opening your eyes to the sight of the one who handed his heart to you. this is your story now, but it is not dimitri's.
in his dreams the bloodshed remains, wretched and splayed. it drenches the land, fills the earth with sorrow and violence heard. the past has always been a heavy burden in all of his lives, and even through the tranquility that is felt in this one, its presence always makes itself known, serves as a reminder of his sin. it will always be this way. he is sure of it. maybe he is deserving of that.
"your hands are softer." you murmur the words offhandedly, smile sheepishly when dimitri looks at you in curiosity. you turn his hand over, fingers tracing the lines that adorn his skin. the markings of battles fought no longer reside, callouses absent on his fingertips.
he says nothing, watches as a bittersweet nostalgia surfaces in the wondrous hues of your eyes. he wonders if this is okay, this life. he wonders if it's okay to experience this moment, even if it may be ordinary to anyone else. he wonders if it's okay to simply exist with you in this time, knowing that he has gone through hell over and over again and deserved it all.
"are we allowed this?" dimitri's voice nearly breaks. he hopes that you do not understand, but you do. you always manage to understand, somehow, and if fate is to be real, then he knows that she works to keep your souls intertwined. ( RE: AM I ALLOWED THIS? HAVE YOU FORGOTTEN THE SINS I'VE COMMITTED? )
something about the way you smile makes his chest tighten. a yearning reveals itself on the curves of your lips. you look so tired, but there is such a kindness in your visage that it makes dimitri's hands tremble.
"we are always allowed this." you answer. "whether in this life or the next, we can learn to live in peace."
you press a kiss against his knuckles, once, twice, and in each one there is a reverence so holy that he almost believes in higher beings. you pull him forward ever so gently, and he almost thinks your smile grows into one of hiraeth.
"you are allowed this, dimitri. i hope you never forget that."
( your lips meet his in an everlasting love and he knows that this life with you will be one without regret. )
#fire emblem#fire emblem x reader#fire emblem three houses#dimitri alexandre blaiddyd#dimitri x reader#i hope ur having a good day too !!!!#.: writing#.: req
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About me
🌸 main facts
Mimi, 31
BTS fanfic reader and writer
she/her
Filipino 🇵🇭
INFJ, enneagram 1
Self-diagnosed misophoniac
OT7; bias line: JK (ult), NamJin
things that make me happy: basketball, 90′s-00′s western boybands, coffee, hot chocolate, pastries and sweets, frozen sangria, breakfast food, sunrises and sunsets, starry skies, fleece blankets, lavender and ocean scents, sound of the waves, quaint cafes, traveling
in another life, I probably would be: a historian or archaeologist
🌼 others
Do you post anywhere else?
Yes, on ao3 and wattpad as mimiswriting.
How often do you update?
I usually finish writing my stories before posting them, and I always post a masterlist for series, which sometimes includes the posting dates.
How often do you write?
When I’ve got a clear idea in my head, I get to writing, but I do have a long list of WIPs! Although I’m only able to focus on one story at a time and it could take me a few months to finish a fic, depending on the length.
Do you take requests?
I don’t take fic requests, although anyone is free to send in a pitch for one, or a prompt for a bonus/drabble of any of my existing stories. I can’t promise that I’ll get to write them but I’ll be thinking about them.
What does your username mean?
The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini (2003) is one of my favourite books, and one famous, heartbreaking line from there goes, "for you, a thousand times over." This story absolutely broke me, and I wanted it as my tumblr username around the time I read it, which was over 10 years ago. athousandtimesover was taken so I settled with ahundredtimes over - a little less but the devotion encapsulated in the original quote remains. Please read it if you haven't!
#mimi things #mimi rambles
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I just want to say, I knew it would happen but it’s still gross to see the double standards, but how Maya and wahaj were raked over the coals for their mushq photoshoot but YumHaj and even Hamza and Seher are getting tons of praise for their equally as scandalous poses is …super amusing. I’ve never seen quite as much misogyny come from other women as I did for maya in that one photo shoot, but other actresses doing the exact same thing is ok because that’s a fan favorite pair. (Also, I think it’s stupid how our awaam cannot fathom a pairing outside of a recent hit; people complain about wahaj and his “overexposure” post TB, but they also don’t want him to be anything besides Murtasim. Like bro needs to act with others, too, but the audience out there behaves like someone committed blasphemy when an actor from a hit pairing acts with someone else.). To be clear, I don’t want any actress receiving hate for doing her job, it’s just sad how blatant the hate was and for such a stupid reason that Maya wasn’t yumna.
And also I’m just gonna say it—nobody in any recent photo shoot had the chemistry of maya and wahaj. You can just tell how comfortable they are with each other. They did hot, innocent, longing, surprise, admiration…literally everything. What range, yo. Even if for notorious reasons, people are still talking about the Mushq photo shoot while their faves’ photo sessions came and went without making any waves sorry not sorry.
Finally, I’ve been seeing people start to blame Maya for the downfall of wahaj post-TB, as if she forced him to sign MPHT, Mein, etc. Like it is so ridiculous out there, we are blaming a woman instead of holding a grown ass actor accountable for not choosing better roles.
Khaled Hosseini said it for men but the quote fits here as well cuz eh..it's a man involved.
“Like a compass needle that points north, a man's accusing finger always finds a woman. Always.”
just replace "man" with "fangirls of a man".
i have this shit behavior happen across the board again and again that I now consciously try to be numb to it. it's always the same. blame the woman. blame her for coming in between a ship. or blame her for being close to the man. or blame her for just existing. in all cases the man is the bechara masoom who doesn't know any better. it's the woman who has trapped him. it's the woman being insecure. it's the woman controlling his every action. never man, never him. and of course it's always the women who blame the woman.
you didn't mention Anmol Baloch here. Hamza Sehar fans are also hating on her because Hamza did the ghor paap of working with her and promoting his show with her. idk how true the rumors of their relationship are; they shouldn't MEAN anything. like any other pairing, Anmol and Hamza had all the right to do photoshoots in character to promote on their insta pages. that is not a right reserved just for their fav jodi. ANY fav jodi. these are actors. it's the world of social media. promotion on their public accounts is now a part of their JOB. they are all fucking PAID for it. and when money is involved, more times than less it becomes the main motivation. if these fans think their favs don't ask for money to promote their certain fav jodi because that's where their "true love and passion" lies then..i don't even know what to say.
and really I pity Wahaj as well. his own "fans" are close to blackmailing him to not expand his boundaries at all. him doing multiple photoshoots is "overexposure" but him doing them with Yumna is "using the small window of opportunity of being the most popular thing in the industry to its maximum benefit." arey??? it just comes down to what kind of fandom one has amassed over their career. like if on one hand Wahaj fans are criticizing his overexposure, MK fans are making flippant comments about inflation that has made MK do back to back three bridal campaigns. hypocrisy? i don't even wanna care.
frankly i am TIRED of searching Maya's name and seeing it just in connection with Wahaj. i love Mushq. MY BESTIE SERVED ME IN WAYS I CANNOT EXPLAIN! just last night i was rewatching the clips and oh my HEART it's beautiful beautiful beautiful BEAUTIFULLLLLL!! but i have to admit i HATE how Maya's entire existence has been shrunk to that photoshoot only. she's being used both by the yumhaj fans and the non-yumhaj fans as a weapon to use to attack others or defend their own favs. i doubt any one really cares about HER because then i'd actually see her be talked about individually or her projects. but no. it's always "they have been friends for years". like yes so WHAT? baar baar mention karna zaroori hai???
it's just no use trying to sense with these kind of people. i can only hope we get an official annoucement of Maya's next work again so she can leave this behind.
#urgh.#i am just tired of saying the same thing again and again#it's no USE expecting sense when the entire bunch of people have different rules for different people#there's no sense of justice here#sabko bass apne fav ki hi padi hai#aur isski padi hai ke innka fav inhen innka fav content deta rahe#bass.
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Tagged by @white-light-on-my-prism
Name: Mau or Mo is fine, or if you wanna call me by any variation of that, new nicknames are always welcome!
Birthday: Halloween baby!
Zodiac sign: I'm almost violently a Scorpio, so much so that I'm a Scorpio by both western and Hindu systems
Hobbies: Yeah I don't think this post is enough to cover all of them, but I'll give you the main ones. I read, a lot. Mostly fiction and fantasy genres. I play tennis and football (I'm a goalie!). I paint on good days, and sketch when I'm angry (charcoal is a lovely way to take out your frustrations. I have a sort of obsessive desire to learn all the scripts in the world, even if i don't speak the languages, so I ended up learning the Cyrillic script, the script in which Urdu is written (I forgot what it's called) even Egyptian heiroglyphs. I have a looot of ADHD, so i just jump around from one hyperfixation to another and go wherever the dopamine takes me.
Favourite colour: Ultramarine blue. That shade is the single most beautiful thing I've ever seen. Oh and black.
Favourite book: God I can't pick a favourite book, there's far too many. But i can tell you my favourite author, it's Khaled Hosseini. All of his books made me feel something so deep inside i was moved for days.
Last song I listened to: It was actually 'Muchachos' for the Argentine national football team 😂. That song is a banger
Last movie I watched: 'Silence of the lambs' Usually i love that genre, but that movie disturbed me a little.
Something that helps people: It's actually based on a quote from Alice in Wonderland which says 'I am no under obligation to make sense to you.' It was one of the most profound quotes I have ever experienced. You shouldn't be changing who you are, or the things you like for someone else. Take it from someone who spent all of her childhood masking her neurodivergence to appear normal, it will blow up on your face eventually. And it won't be pretty. Just be yourself and fuck everyone's opinion.
Meaning behind my url: I think it's pretty self explanatory. It's not meant to mock anyone or anything like that, it's just that i grew up in Mumbai where everyone's mother tongue is a different language and I naturally picked up a lot of them growing up to the point where even i don't know how many languages I know
Tagging @kingfisherprince @soronya @madhare0512 @chewiemadwriter @holdmyhopeinyourhands @zingaplanet @saltyinternetflower @neyxmessi @sunofmoon
No pressure guys, it's all for fun!
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The Chorus in My Head (and Another Real Part I Guess)
I know I have a couple people here who are younger than me by a significant margin, and some people who just don't have a DJ in their head all the time, but anybody remember that Violent Femmes song Lies? Yeah. That is just playing and playing and playing for me for the past week.
I super hate being lied to. And I've been doing pretty well not thinking about how hurt I was last fall, being so consistently and continuously lied to, I think. But for the past week or two, I've been thinking about it. A lot.
And I guess I want to write about writing some. So spoiler alert I guess for the handful (2 maybe 3) folks who are here who haven't read my first book(s).
Probably obviously, the first heroine I wrote in novel form was a lot like me. I mean...she didn't look like me. She didn't meet her eventual partner the same way I did; her partner was a lot different (physically and in small talk details anyway) than J. It's a fictional story still. But I really did work with a bunch of guys at a construction company; most of my old friends are guys (yay! Today is basketball Thursday!); I do tend to be a really blunt communicator and a sunshiney Pollyanna about life a lot of the time. I'm a Look on the Bright Side person. I'm a Glass Half Full person. It's how I survive. Maybe I started thinking about that because of Ke Huy Quan winning the Oscar for Everything Everywhere All At Once (everyone should see that film, for serious). I really related to his character, particularly this scene:
"When I choose to see the good side of things, I'm not being naive. It is strategic and necessary. It's how I've learned to survive through everything. "
And that's part of me that I'm grappling with now too, because my focusing hard on the good in people has often enough ended with me being lied to and hurt. To jump from a great movie to a great book, there's this quote in Khaled Hosseini's The Kite Runner that I've always related to too:
"And that's the thing about people who mean everything they say. They think everyone else does too."
I'm a lot like Jessica Fielding (eventually Evers). On the insides. Not just her job or who she makes friends with or even that she's probably on the spectrum (because so am I), but I'm a person who means everything I say, and unfortunately, too many times, I've believed everyone else does too. And man, they sure don't.
I'm grateful that this time, the lies I was told didn't REALLY do me any practical harm. I didn't get physically injured. I didn't lose any important relationships with other people. I didn't lose any money. But damned if I'm not wondering if that's where they were headed. I have to get out of 'what if' land (thanks, basketball and my old guy friends today for probably assuring that happens), but right now I'm there. 'What if they were trying to break up my marriage? What if they were going to start asking for money? What if they were going to tear down the repairs I've made with my mom? What if they were going to use information to hurt J's career or keep me from going back to work? What if what if what if...?'
I like people who are honest, because then I never have to wonder what if about them or their motives. It's easier to stay on the bright side with them, even when they tell me something dark, because I never have to search through their shadows for the truth. They just shine the light on it for me.
Anyway, time to prepare for what I hope and expect to be a good weekend. Because I'm like that. Go Norse! Go Cats! Go Cougars! (my alma mater; my hometown fandom; my kid's high school mascot)
Maybe I'll stop hearing Lies Lies Lies Lies Lies Lies Lies Lies Lies Lies Lies Lies Lies Lies Lies...stomping through my head soon.
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hii!! these look so fun omg thank u !!
1. do you know how you want the story to end when you start, or are you just stumbling through the figurative wilderness hoping to find a road?
oooh ok this is so interesting bc honestly. it depends!! there are some stories that i built entirely around the ending and a couple scenes in between (like the one i’m working on rn) and there are others where i literally don’t know how it’s going to end until i write a scene and i’m like yeah. ok. im done. usually i have a lot more trouble with ending than beginnings or middles so generally i have no clue and i just wait until it comes to a somewhat logical stopping point and/or i just get tired and decide that’s as good as it’s going to get dwndkdkd
19. what are some books or authors that influenced your style the most?
oooh ok so. i haven’t read enough in the past few years to actually have my style influenced by any authors i don’t think? i just started getting back into it over the summer but some authors whose styles i just really admire are khaled hosseini aka one of my most favorite authors ever and also ocean vuong because i just started “on earth we’re briefly gorgeous” and i am BLOWN !! AWAY !! i admire their prose so much and how it’s nothing complex or like. pretentious in any way and how the simplicity of it makes it even more beautiful to read!! forever thinking about that hosseini quote that’s like “like a compass needle points north, a man’s accusing finger will find a woman” like literally every day of my life no joke. if one day i could write half as beautifully as them id be the happiest mf on the planet fr
44. any writing advice you want to share?
UMM i genuinely do not consider myself qualified to give advice because i have zero idea wtf i’m doing ever but !! one thing that really helps me when i’m stuck on a scene/don’t know how to proceed is just like. skipping ahead and writing something you’re more familiar or comfortable with first !! like recently i was working on my fic and i’d been stuck on this one scene for like a Month and at one point i was like. ok i give up. and just skipped forward to a scene that i knew i’d been looking forward to writing more and had more elements i felt more comfortable with and just like that i was immediately more inspired and back on track !! also don’t be afraid to delete stuff and start over ! i literally deleted 2k words yesterday that i spent like 5 days writing because the whole thing was so awkward and forced i just needed to hit reset and look at it again 🥳 if that makes any sense. idk if any of this is useful or relevant but this is just some stuff that i learned recently that rly helped me :^)))
#thank u anon these were lovely#‘idk if i have any advice’ i said#immediately writing a paragraph#so sorry#/ask
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also what is the quote in your bio from??
It's from And The Mountains Echoed by Khaled Hosseini !
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Day 157: Monday June 6, 2022 - “Personal Best”
A hamsa with a bell hangs over my head as I work at my desk, and today so did 9 sticky notes to serve as a progress bar as I pushed through a Monday with 9 client meetings. If Ive ever had that many meetings in a day, I’ve forgotten about it. And it certainly wasn’t a Monday -I would have remembered. Part of a beast summer work week going full filt. I made it through and was wiped out at the end, immediately finding the futon for a 2 hour nap.
Song: Josh Teskey - Something With Feel
Quote: “People mostly have it backward. They think they live by what they want. But really, what guides them is what they're afraid of. What they don't want.” ~Khaled Hosseini
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Quiet Feminism of A Thousand Splendid Suns
“Learn this now and learn it well. Like a compass facing north, a man’s accusing finger always finds a woman. Always. You remember that, Mariam.” (7)
In Khaled Hosseini’s A Thousand Splendid Suns, spanning 40 years in Kabul, Afghanistan, two girls are plucked from their lives and forced to marry a bitter and willful man.
Mariam, a young girl born out of wedlock, only wants her father’s love and affection. Her father, however, is ashamed of her existence and keeps her and her mother isolated in the small town of Herat. When Mariam comes home from sneaking out to see her father, she finds her mother hanging dead in their small home, having committed suicide because of her deep-rooted anxiety and insecurity surrounding Mariam’s longingness for father. Fast-forward several weeks and Mariam’s father forces her to marry the abusive Rasheed, a man who treats Mariam like she has no value after a series of miscarriages, causing Mariam to grow bitter.
Several years later, Laila, an educated and modern girl, loses her whole family to a bombing. Finding out that she is pregnant with her lover’s child, she marries Rasheed in hopes of saying that the baby is his. Now a middle-aged woman, Mariam deeply dislikes Laila and her ability to give Rasheed the family he has always desired. After a series of events, Mariam and Laila work to break free and give Laila’s children better lives.
Hosseini’s take on what life is like for many women, especially those that are living under very strict and traditional values is deeply resonant. When Mariam’s mother tells Mariam about how a man will always blame a woman, the tone for the rest of the book is set. For instance, when her mother dies, her father, instead of comforting her in her time of need, marries her off. When she has several miscarriages, she is blamed and abused. When Laila has a girl instead of the boy Rashed had hoped for, he grows vindictive and cruel. At the very end, Mariam kills Rasheed because he was beating them heavily and she is sentenced to death. What makes this book unique, however, is the contrast it sets up. Despite this heavy idea hanging over the plot of the book like an imminent rainstorm, quotes like “But the game involves only male names. Because, if it’s a girl, Laila has already named her,” also exist and are just as significant (251). Laila may not have much power over major happenings in her life, yet she does have the power to name her daughter and honor the most important woman in her life, Mariam. To Laila, her children are her whole world. Naming them is a power that Laila finds formidable.
Another major aspect of the novel is the power of female companionship. Often thought childish and insignificant, the power of the female bond is an often overlooked contributor to change. In the novel, as Mariam grows to love Laila and her children, she is once again reminded, after years of resigned anger, that the way Rasheed treats them is immoral and his fault, not either of theirs. After Mariam kills Rasheed, she is arrested by the Taliban and some of her last thoughts are “And yet she was leaving the world as a woman who had loved and been loved back. She was leaving it as a friend, a companion, a guardian. A mother. A person of consequence at last” (224). Laila made life worth living and Laila made it worth getting out of their abusive situation. Her and Laila’s companionship gave her courage and strength, something that she thought had been buried deep within her.
Here in the west, there is a prevalent and deeply misguided notion that women who are in these oppressive environments, specifically those in the east, are oppressed in every single way and just take it, as if they do not have dreams, goals, aspirations, and a life outside their struggles. These women, although shaped by their struggles, are not defined by them. Like the novel states, ““A woman who will be like a rock in a riverbed, enduring without complaint, her grace not sullied but shaped by the turbulence that washes over her” (242).
A Thousand Splendid Suns is a beautiful and eye-opening novel about the often overlooked struggles that many women, specifically those in the Middle East, face. By highlighting the struggles they face against the backdrop of their companionship, love, and strength, Khaled Hosseini weaves together the narrative of the duality of a woman’s life and how women, despite their struggles, have rich lives beyond the confines of their single story.
Citations: https://www.wilsoncenter.org/publication/women-driving-positive-change-the-middle-east
https://journals.aiac.org.au/index.php/IJALEL/article/view/877
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The Missing Piece
There’s a quote by Khaled Hosseini (author of The Kite Runner) that has always stood out to me — “children are not colouring books; you do not get to fill them in with your favourite colours.” The idea behind this really came front and center when we started dissecting the concept of the “whole child,” and how our own preconceived notions and thus subsequent creation of our environments can alter our students in ways that are less than positive. Lori Malaguzzi introduces an idea that we can see a stark difference in the quality of the relationships we build with our students when we curate the learning environment to be one that builds on itself in tandem with rapport, rather than one founded on formally formed biases that lack uniqueness and fluidity (3).
I witnessed this in actuality during Exploration C, when speaking with some of the leadership students at Burnaby North. When asked what makes a “good” educator in their eyes, many of them were quick to point out that they value a solid connection with their teachers, emphasizing the importance of feeling seen, heard and understood. These are all benchmarks of any solid interpersonal relationship, and it really made me realize that that’s what teaching is all about — we are all humans first, and part of the human experience is learning. We as educators should curate the space for this learning to take place and help our students flourish. Along this vein, I also thought about the idea of erasure and assimilation of Indigenous children that was made apparent time and time again by Chelsea Vowel. There is a great injustice that is done when we try to create a false “level-playing field” (132), in which we strip away parts of Indigenous identity in order to mold these students into a homogenous canon.
As a result of these thoughts, the above image is an AI-generated image of a child holding a colouring book; the child is missing a piece of their body. This art is a visual representation of the opening quote of this entry, fleshing out that when we try to mold and “colour” our students into a certain prototype, we do not allow them to be wholly themselves.
Malaguzzi, L. (1994). Your image of the child: Where teaching begins. Child Care Information Exchange, 52-52
Vowel C. (2016). Indigenous writes : a guide to first nations métis & inuit issues in canada. HighWater Press.
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When Forgiveness Comes To Us
Sometimes the pain we've experienced is so deep that it feels like we'll never be able to let it go.
Whether it's something done to us or we've suffered from a self-inflicted wound, our souls carry the hurts we've received from betrayals, wrongs, shame, and terrible words long after the blows landed.
And these wounds can keep us from forgiving those who have wronged us and, more importantly, from forgiving ourselves.
Forgiveness, true forgiveness, comes to us slowly, and sometimes it only comes to us when we've grown weary of the fight. And it is a fight to hold off the spirit of forgiveness, make no mistake.
Every single one of us has a story about how we gave up struggling and decided to forgive someone who wronged us. At that moment, the relief that washed over us was real and true.
We might second-guess things later, but that initial reaction is always the truest.
We might not even remember why the release of bitterness and hurt suddenly left us, and we decided to forgive. Still, it happened. The person we forgave may not have even been in the room when we did it. In fact, they may never know.
Or the forgiveness we offered was to ourselves, and we suddenly realized that we'd done it, finally releasing our self-loathing, sadness, or inner rage. Maybe we looked in the mirror, seeing ourselves for the first time again, and felt nothing but love and peace.
In his novel,
The Kite Runner,
Khaled Hosseini puts it like this:
I wondered if that was how forgiveness budded, not with the fanfare of epiphany, but with pain gathering its things, packing up and slipping away unannounced in the middle of the night.
Sometimes forgiveness can seem impossible, but this quote reminds us that it often happens quietly and without fanfare. Like pain packing up and leaving in the middle of the night, forgiveness can come when we least expect it.
So even amid hurt and anger, hold on to the hope that forgiveness is possible. It may take time, but with patience and perseverance, we can find peace and healing in letting go of resentment and choosing to forgive.
And whether you need to forgive someone and let them go, or forgive yourself, when you are ready, you will find, as we read in Scripture:
"...grace to help in time of need." (Hebrews 4:16)
Because forgiveness is one of the most impossible acts for us, Jesus offered an example of how radical it can sometimes look when done as God would have us do.
As he hung on the Cross, Jesus looked out over his friends who had betrayed him, the soldiers who mocked and beat him, the religious leaders who had condemned him, and the people who had shouted for his death.
And he said, "Father, forgive them because they don't know what they're doing."
Let forgiveness come to you, no matter how slowly it must. Give space in your heart for it to take hold when you are finally ready to give up the struggle to guard your heart and let it open up fully to the love of God.
Forgive as you have been forgiven. Forgive yourself first, and then find the courage and the hope to forgive those who wronged you. Turn the wrongs and those who committed them over to God, and let yourself live again.
May it be so. And may the grace and peace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you now and always. Amen.
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Nerd Girl Dating Advice
Dear Caroline:
I have grouped these two posts of yours together, as they were very close in time and cover the same topic, viz., some instruction on dos and don'ts for socially awkward women. The information feels pretty reasonable, but what initially surprised me for the first one was that it would not be one of those truths that are considered self-evident. And that's when the specter of Old Me jumped over the fence of time and started hitting me on the head with a half-brick-in-a-sock of unpleasant memories...
In my case, my take on the typical mind fallacy was in the form of "if these girls are like me in looks, character and tastes, they are probably going to like me in the way I wish to be liked". The human capacity for self-delusion never ceases to amaze. And then there are other things at play, like the gender mismatch in our minimum-threshold-desired bag of goodies, with sex for males and emotional investment for females. Hic sunt dracones in the shape of friend-zoning and crass objectification.
Your second piece of advice exemplifies in a very concrete way the kind of Individual Bayesian Thinking that EAs seem to treasure so much as the gold standard of rationalist thinking, and again, leaving aside considerations as to its form, I completely agree with its content. I was a bit surprised by your considering a possibility that the person you were writing to might not feel social obliviousness and insecurity as unattractive, as in my experience (nerdish girls included) there is no woman I have ever met for whom these two weren't immediate and decisive disqualifications. Even more, I feel this is the biggest annihilator of female desire, roughly equivalent to what extreme ugliness does for men's. And yes, I know, Anecdotal Fallacy is at play, but as Saint Thomas -who you once empathized here with- exemplifies, seeing is believing.
In the end, people are just too messy and complicated. In lieu of transforming ourselves into robots or disembodied consciousnesses, which seem to be unavailable options at present, I have found myself more comfortable dealing with stuff that is much more predictable, tidy and subject to stable and non-ridiculous laws, like atoms and mathematics. Which is also part of the reason why, in spite of my strong Humanistic background, I have tended to gravitate somewhat towards the hard sciences with age.
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Human behavior is messy and unpredictable and unconcerned with convenient symmetries.
Khaled Hosseini
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The 17 Best Quotes About Wilting
The 17 Best Quotes About Wilting
Are you looking for some wilting? Stay motivated with the help of the below inspirational wilting quotes.
Best Quotes About Wilting
1. “People are like dirt. They can either nourish you and help you grow as a person or they can stunt your growth and make you wilt and die.” ― Plato
2. “The desert weed lives on, but the flower of spring blooms and wilts.” ― Khaled Hosseini
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