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Cause I've seen some people say it. Colin has zero reason to think that coming out to the team would be safe for him.
#there has been no indication that they're supportive of queer people#they're neutral towards queerness *at best*#i am barely holding back from making a very long post about that scene alone#and how straight vs queer people / the team vs colin perceive it#i have so many feelings about this i feel like i'm gonna combust#colin hughes#ted lasso#ted lasso spoilers#ted lasso s3#ted lasso season 3
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AITA for being afraid my older sibling will change their name?
My older sibling is 19, and I'll be referring to them as S (for Sibling). Obviously they are old enough to make their own decisions, and I will respect them for it, but there is a potential scenario where I might not be able to. S is nonbinary, and uses any pronouns. They haven't told me or the rest of our family that they want to use any other name yet, so we've just been continuing to call them by their birth name (which is also a very gender-neutral name by nature). My whole family is very accepting of this, including me, of course. My other older sibling (age 17) identifies as agender and my parents/younger brother, while not Queer that I know of, are all very apathetic towards the LGBT+ community (in the good way. They're supportive, but they couldn't care less about someone's sexuality/gender). Personally, I'm technically cisgender, but I'm not adamant about labels and I'm okay with any pronouns people want to refer to me with.
So we've gotten my family out of the way. Here's the actual problem. S is very into a particular fandom, and especially loves a certain character. They regularly use this character's name as a name online and in games(i.e. discord, tumblr, pokemon, etc) and they seem to model a lot of their personality after this character lately. Now, the name itself is kinda nice, and I wouldn't mind it if I didn't know that it were from what it is from. But I, having also dabbled in this fandom, have pretty extensive knowledge of this character and their story.
As a general rule, I would try my best to use their chosen name and pronouns (I say "try" because I've always struggled with changes) but I feel like I would struggle with this because it's a character's name, and not just a new name they chose.
Am I the problem here?
What are these acronyms?
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Seven days a week jungkook jealousy drabble maybe?🙃❤️
yah sure
sfw. warning for the use of "queer" as a neutral descriptor for the reader.
it grinds at him like a lamprey's rasping tongue – boring into his flesh, leeching from him the vitality that colours him. slowly bled from him, it leaves him pale, quiet, fragile.
he grips your arm tighter, a small pleasant smile plastered on his face. the event hasn't yet officially begun, and everyone mills about in gaggles ranging from pairs to groups of five or six, cramming as much networking into the evening as possible before they're limited to their table groups. the large indoor venue sparkles with chandeliers and drapery, and the garden outside glitters with curls of fairy lights and light-lined stone paths.
usually, the most tiring thing about these events was all the talking. loud, incessant – it really wasn't his cup of tea, but he figured tagging along with you was a good way to ready himself for the 'real world' without having to suffer alone for three hours. if he made a couple of new connections, then that was a job well done.
he was doing alright, cosied up to your side while you did most of the talking. then came the pretty freshly-graduated face who didn't know what jungkook's arm looped through yours meant.
she'd positioned himself on your other side. jungkook couldn't push her away without looking like a weirdo, but it was growing increasingly difficult not to simmer with annoyance when the girl was sliding her hands all over you, laughing at everything you said and telling anecdotes about your work with her to the others in a high-pitched flirtatious voice.
his jaw works, fingers digging into your bicep. you drop his arm, sliding your palm down his sleeve to squeeze his hand reassuringly. you try resting your other arm behind your back in the middle of a shallow conversation with your co-worker about his kids but all it does is make her more insistent.
"and what about you? how long have you been off the market?"
it's an innocent question, since you'd just been chatting about that same co-worker's wife. jungkook tenses up, watching the young woman's smile grow somewhat strained.
"three years this november," you reply cheerfully, wrapping your arm around jungkook's waist and squeezing his hip. he rests his head against your shoulder, a genuine smile taking the place of its stiff predecessor. "feels like the blink of an eye, really. it'll be ten years before i realise something's changed."
they share a laugh at that, with some co-workers teasing proposals and marriage. briefly, jungkook entertains the idea of honeymooning with you in some picturesque tourist trap, but his mood immediately sours the second the woman next to you opens her mouth.
"oh, people say the best time to get married is just under two years into a relationship! are you stalling for your freedom?" she giggles. "well, there are always plenty of better fish in the sea if you ever come looking!"
it's a weird fucking thing to say, and jungkook's eyes narrow at her as the conversation abruptly turns flat and awkward. a bubble of silence envelops the group as she beams up at you, unaware, blissfully or ignorantly, that even your older colleagues – for many of whom you are the first openly queer person they've met – are staring at her with a profound sense of what the fuck.
"i need to borrow him for a moment," jungkook says suddenly, his voice tighter than usual. "please excuse us."
he all but drags you away, tearing you out of her grip. he veers towards the men's bathroom, and the two of you are not seen until just before the dinner begins. now, however, you sport a wonky tie and a hastily-buttoned jacket.
jungkook meets the young woman's eyes on the other side of the table, holding her stare until she folds and glances away first. when he turns his head to listen to the presenter at the front of the room, his mouth twitches a little, nearly a smirk. a dark red bruise peeks over the stiff white collar of his shirt.
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Regarding the "it's fine that you're queer, just don't show it." line I agree with you and share your feelings, It makes me so incredibly frustrated, because this is a very prevalent attitude where I live (along with the more extreme negative attitudes).
Like. People go "I don't care that someone's queer, I'm neutral about that", but 90% of the time that "neutral" means just "I'm not going to directly harm them or wish death upon them, but I don't want to see, hear, think or talk about them"
Hearing that "it's fine you're gay, just keep it in the privacy of your bedroom" is just... you're not even allowed to hold hands with your partner on the street because that can put you both in danger (yes, unfortunately here it is a very real fear. I know that there are countries, where things are better, and where the worst you'll get is a rare insult or a mean stare, which, don't get me wrong, it's still not pleasant, but it's not as bad as a constant threat of physical assault or worse). And I'm not even talking about being trans. This isn't "neutral" this is just negative and it makes me so angry, when people act like this.
The worst part, they don't even realise what the problem is and how incredibly suffocating being forced to live like this is. You either treat queer people as people and don't try to erase (or worse, completely stop) their existence and let us be or you don't. Simply not wishing death upon queer people and not harming them for existing isn't as great of an achievement as those people think it is...
Sorry, if this was too negative. You don't have to respond and also, if you don't like getting rants like this, please feel free to say so. I wish you all the best, your blog is a very nice place and your art is wonderful, thank you for existing)))
Long rant ahead whoops!! cw for queerphobia and mentions of violence
Oh you put it all so perfectly! The experience here is exactly the same. "Just keep it within four walls, why do you have to rub it in our faces" is one I hear constantly. They will see a same-sex couple just holding hands and immediately see it as if they're having sex in public or something. Like,, just holding hands is something so explicitly sexual, to them apparently. Like you stated, they will say "i am neutral about it", but they are neutral only if you don't show you're queer. They are "neutral" only if you aren't actually yourself. I was honestly shocked how many times the conversation would go from that "neutrality" to mockery to downright violence. So whenever i hear someone say "as long as they don't push it on me", i always put up my guard. Because i don't know if it's "i don't mind that you're queer, you're still the same person i know and you deserve to be loved, respected and have basic human rights" or just masked hatred.
They will literally claim that queer people aren't discriminated, but actually privileged because they have "their damn parade" and representation in media. They say that they will get all the accommodations of life, society and economy purely based on the fact that they are queer. Apparently this all "comes from the west", like i am actually from the west and not,, y'know,, literally from here?? Born here?? Raised here?? Had the same chaotic-ass childhood like my peers?? But apparently it all goes away just because i am queer? Idk man it all really disconnected me from my culture and identity, and i am still uncomfortable with that (but i'm slowly trying to heal that! Drawing slavic mythology helps :DD)
"They aren't discriminated, they don't actually face any harassment", there were cases of queer people literally being murdered here. If it was a cishet person, it would be breaking news. But since it's a queer person, no one speaks about it. Harassment is bad, but when a queer person is being harassed it's their fault? Because they couldn't keep it to themselves? There is no protection here towards queer people when they face discrimination and harassment. The government does nothing.
"They have the same rights as us, what more do they want?" i don't know man just not living in constant paranoia hmmm??? Pride parades, rare as they are, are always under threats of violence from anti-gay protestors. I think a lot of people here don't even think queer people are actually people. Usually queer characters here are the laughingstock in media. They are portrayed with such horrible stereotypes (the worst ones are gay men=pedos), to the point of sometimes dehumanizing them. There is just so many terrible misinformation. I am queer as fuck, my gender is transed, and i know nothing about some of the downright bullshit they claim. A few weeks ago i had to listen through "the gays and their agenda" thing. And i'm not kidding, someone said "you will be asked to change your sexuality to get hired. Soon you will have to out yourself as straight. Straight people are the actual minority". It was so dumb it was almost hilarious.
But while sometimes i can get a laugh out of their willful ignorance (they lowkey won't acknowledge intersex people), it can get really draining, really fast. At this point i am just exhausted and sick of it. Sometimes I'm just exhausted of being around my family, friends and classmates and knowing, deep down, that they wish people like me wouldn't exist. Listening to them talk about "all the things they would do if they saw a [insert f slur]" and fearing if they would do it to you. Not speaking in lgbtq+ themed conversations because you don't agree with them - and all the shitty things they say are, in a way, faced at you. I'm not out to anyone irl exactly because of this, so while i don't face harassment aimed specifically at me, it does get hard sometimes. The silent ostracization from your own culture, history, religion etc. just feels really bad. Not to get too into it, but all of it really really fucked me up, and it took me years to come to terms with myself. It's sad feeling like i simply don't belong here. Sometimes it makes me wanna scream in anger, sometimes it makes me wanna laugh, sometimes it makes me wanna just throw up, cry, sleep and sometimes i just spiral. I usually have a "lmao fuck them. I like myself and i don't care what they think of me" attitude (queer spite that i mentioned once HAHAHA), but I actually do care because sometimes the odds of me having a normal life in which i am happy with who i am and i don't live under the constant fear of being, y'know, KILLED,, they just seem nonexistent.
I don't think they understand queer people have hobbies, friends, families, interests, dreams. We do the same things as them, we eat sleep laugh cry. They will claim we make our queer identity the only part of ourselves, like it's our entire personality - but when you tell them you're queer, they stop treating you the same, as the same person you were before you told them AND STILL ARE!! They will treat you as "not cishet", something that is "sick" and wrong and just doesn't belong.
This got really personal real fast, but good god it feels good to get it all out. There is so much more i didn't cover, mostly because even typing this down made me really tired. And it's not a bad thing!! In a way i am really exhausted from staying silent about this, so this was nice. I guess like a big "FUCK YOU" to everyone around me who is like this LMAOO. but tHANK YOU this ask put all of the frustration into words much better than i could hahaha!!
#also your last paragraph made me tear up thank you 🥹🥹#this is slightly incomprehensible but so are all my feelings about this. i can't be bothered to make this look nice.#when it really isn't nice :'D#maybe one day i'll properly talk about this problem but yah. this was nice#also the ask was much appreciated dw!#asks
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I think one of the big reasons I identify with gender queer more than say "gender fluid" or "non-binary" exclusively is because I don't know which of the two best defines what I experience.
The truth of the matter is that while most trans people I know have some kind of hatred towards their body/past identity, I do not.
I don't see that man in the mirror and go "that's not me, I must kill this man and release myself from my flesh prison!" Rather I see myself in the mirror and undeniably feel like that is me, some days it's a good feeling, other days it's not. I originally attributed this to gender fluidity the idea that some days I felt more comfortable as a man than others.
This made sense to me because if I looked at myself and felt my more masculine features were off putting, typically I would shave or in some way get rid of or hide those features and it made me feel better. However the problem with that was that while sure sometime this feeling wouldn't revert for weeks, other times I'd wake up the next day and hate the way I looked simply because I lacked the more masculine features I had come to find made me comfortable to begin with.
I thought maybe I was just "more" gender fluid than others, maybe I "switched" more often; this lead me to believe that maybe I didn't fit the binary, I was something in between the two. However that's also not entirely true, because while yes I don't always feel comfort in my masculinity or femininity seeking something else entirely or rather to be rid of them both; I also DO find comfort in them from time to time.
I'm a fervent believer that gender neutral/non-binary is not the same as androgynous though I do understand why those who identify as such may find comfort in it.
I noticed quickly upon coming out as NB/Gender Fluid that even close friends still referred to me with he/him more often than not, and I conceded myself to "being okay with it" because I realized that if even my close friends couldn't see me as anything else, the world around me surely couldn't either. Especially when my close friends have no issue correctly gendering others no matter what pronouns they happen to use. This isn't meant to point a finger or assign blame, it's merely to say I assume my masculinity is too strong for me to be seen as anything other than a man.
I had considered getting on estrogen to possibly become more androgynous but I fear I'd be doing it for the sake of getting others to respect me, what if I become something I don't associate with in the mirror, what if I hate what I become; and what if people still don't view me differently for it?
I'm comfortable in my skin, at least for now. I see the man in the mirror and recognize them as myself, and that's nice to me; sometimes I wish to see something I could more easily identify as a woman but I more often than not do not feel any dysphoria towards myself from myself; rather it comes from feeling like those who do respect my pronouns are forcing themselves to, and those who don't are merely being honest with me about what they see.
Sometimes I wish I weren't so complicated, I often wish I was simply just "trans" male to female simple as that, maybe then it would be easier. Easier to gauge my "success" in transition, easier to respect my pronouns, maybe I'd be more believable, maybe I'd be seen differently.
Unfortunately that's just not who I am. I often don't make a big deal of it, because I fear people would consider me a hassle to deal with if I did. If I cared too much about something like my identity, then I fear people would leave me. Sure I understand, you might say "if someone doesn't respect your identity, would it be so awful if they left you?" Yes, it would. These are my friends, and they're all I have. I know that may be hard to understand, but all of my friends have other friend groups; I do not have a Group B so to speak, I have tried, time and time again; to make friends. It never works, I'm not good at socializing, it's very difficult for me to make friends, I don't know how to talk to people.
Sometimes I come across as distant, other times I come across far too overbearing, it's never intentional. The fact of the matter is the people who I am friends with understand me on a certain level, we're comfortable around each other and I do have a lot of love for them. They mean a lot to me, and to lose them over something "as minor as my gender" would probably push me to a sort of depression I don't want to ever return to. That being said I do often wonder if I will ever truly be okay with my identity, if I'll ever really feel comfortable, or feel like myself.
Because I fear that even those closest to me will never see me as I wish to be seen; and it feels forced when they say they do, because so many others don't see it, and I just feel like they're the ones being real with me.
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I said I wasn't gonna do it
But I'm gonna do it. Hello, y'all, I'm gonna be explaining today 5 reasons why some women who are mspec with an attraction to men may ID as mspec lesbians. This is not an explanation for all mspec lesbian experiences, it's not even one for my own. This is one for those who are directly talked about when the phrase "Lesbians CANNOT be attracted to men" is thrown around. Now, without further ado, let's get into it
#1: The Split Attraction Model
I've already heard "but lesbian is void of sexual AND romantic attraction to men" and no the fuck it isn't. Lesbian is a label, not a sacred cow nor holy grail. It's the only non-rose term that's ever been exclusionary of SAM users that aren't fully ace nor fully aro, and it has no right to be. If an aromantic homosexual woman can call herself a lesbian, than a biromantic homosexual woman can too. Her romantic attraction to men doesn't make her less of a lesbian, and y'all can stop acting like Gold Star Lesbians by implying it does. No one has ever been told "if you're equally attracted to all genders romantically but only men sexually you can't identify as pan(romantic) just say multiromantic" so why should lesbian be any different? Don't actually answer that because there's no good answer.
#2: Feeling Somewhere in Between Bi/Mspec and Lesbian
We've all heard this described as having a "lean towards women" but it's deeper than that. Someone who identifies as an mspec lesbian for this reason may feel their attraction towards those who are part of lesbian attraction is significantly stronger or more frequent than any other attraction they experience. Significance is a personal line to draw, however if someone's preference towards genders considered lesbian feels incredibly more significant, they may find themselves feeling like they're in between the two labels. They could feel partially bi and partially lesbian.
#3: Reclaiming Historical Usage
Look, I have no problems with the natural progression of language. However, the lesbian separatism that led to bi women leaving (by will or by force) the lesbian label was NOT just the natural progression of language. Many bi people, especially older ones who'd previously been part of the lesbian label, feel their place in the community was robbed from them and they should take it back. If it was important for there to be a space for women and various nonbinary people who weren't attracted to men, then they should have created a new one instead of pushing out the bi wlws and nblws from the lesbian spaces.
#4: Reclaiming Lesbian Being Used as Mspec Erasure
This title isn't my best... But let me explain. Who's heard the phrases "straight relationship" "gay relationship" and "lesbian relationship"? Who's seen canonically mspec characters, or worse REAL MSPEC PEOPLE labelled gay, straight, or lesbian based on who they're dating? How many mspec people have been told they're "gay/straight/a lesbian now" after getting in a relationship? While being harmless terms on their own, mono labels can be used to erase mspec people's identities. Reclaiming words used against us is a long standing practice in the queer community, so mspec people who are routinely mislabeled as straight, gay, or lesbians should be allowed to reclaim those terms and call themselves straight, gay, or lesbians if they so desire.
#5: Mspec people who are uncomfortable in opposite sex relationships
Some people can, for a variety of reasons, feel unsafe or uncomfortable in "straight" relationships, and may actively choose to only date people of similar genders to their own. Someone who, for this reason, only wishes to date women, fem-aligned genders, and maybe neutrally/xenically/unalinged genders despite being attracted to solely masc-aligned genders may consider themselves a lesbian because their other attractions may not count to them because they won't pursue them. It's similar to orchid aces/aros who consider themselves ace or aro despite their attraction because, in practice, they don't act like allos and relate much more to aros and aces. They're valid parts of the ace and aro communities, and we should extend the same inclusion to mspec lesbians who are uncomfortable acting on their attraction to genders not considered part of lesbian attraction. The way they live makes their experiences closer to lesbians than other mspec people.
Thanks for reading, I hope this helps some people understand
#pro mspec lesbian#mspec lesbian#mspec lesbian safe#mspec lesbian positivity#bi lesbian positivity#pro bi lesbian#bi lesbian#bi lesbian safe#bi lesbian discourse#mspec lesbian discourse#explanation
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Do you think that the Hulu revival is going to correct any of the issues that the other seasons had, like the queerbaiting and "Haha Leela and Amy secretly hate each other because they're women!"? I have a liiiittle hope because the cultural landscape has changed so much. Unfortunately, I feel like the writers are a little set in their ways, and some of the fans definitely are. Can you imagine the meltdown if the show outed Bender? (Which would make it even better.)
I personally don't believe that Futurama had any queerbaiting. Like most other Western cartoons in general, I believe it has queer coding with many of its characters. Queerbaiting has a more negative connotation, while queer coding is much more neutral. And it's possible a lot of what I would consider queer coding is on accident, or me reading into things as a queer woman. The main reason I don't think Futurama has any queerbaiting is that it wouldn't make any sense at all. An adult cartoon that came out in 1999 for the more conservative Fox network would not try to market itself toward queer audiences at all. Hell, I would argue that one of the reasons Futurama got canceled back in the early 2000s was because it was too liberal for the network.
I would also like to consider Matt Groening's history as an artist. Before he did The Simpsons, he wrote a comic called Life in Hell. This comic was about funny-looking rabbit creatures, and I believe two of the characters lived as a gay couple (the rabbits cameo a few times in Futurama). Not to mention Smithers in The Simpsons who was clearly meant to be gay back when characters like these weren't portrayed in mainstream media. I just can't believe that they would put queerbaiting into the show with malicious intentions. I have to wonder if he wanted to put more LGBTQ characters into his projects like The Simpsons and Futurama, and was held back by Fox. However, there are a lot of people who worked on both shows, so I can't say for sure.
I don't even think that queer coding has any malicious intentions (for the most part). For example, when Fry acts as though Bender is cheating on him in The Honking, I don't think that the joke is that they are acting like a gay couple. I believe the joke is that Fry's reaction is so out of the left field for the situation at hand, to the point where it circles back as charming. I see this goofy, playful type of queer coding in a lot of cartoons, such as Wander Over Yonder or Looney Tunes Show. It doesn't bother me, but I also respect that it might bother others. The fanservice with Amy and Leela bothers me, but it would bother me less if they had a closer relationship like Fry and Bender.
I'm not sure if I would say the writers of Futurama are "set in their ways" as much as I would say that aspects of Futurama have aged very poorly due to the time it came out. That's not to say that these aspects shouldn't be criticized at all. I think that it's important to warn people when recommending the show, and it's important to discuss negative portrayals of minorities in fiction. I don't know much about the writers of Futurama so I have no idea what their beliefs are and I also have no clue how much freedom they were given with the show. It's possible that they had the best intentions and they fumbled with certain aspects.
Futurama is over 20 years old and it ended nearly 10 years ago. I think that this is a lot of time for the people who created the show to reflect and grow as writers. And I think every good writer wants to improve their flaws and listen to feedback. I've seen incredibly famous writers state that they could've done better. And then they take strides to improve on their older mistakes. I could definitely see the writers for this show reflecting on the way Amy and Leela's relationship was handled or the trans jokes made in very poor taste. Not to mention, it's very possible that they may bring new writers on board to get a more diverse writing room and a fresh perspective.
I admit that I have a great deal of respect for the writers of Futurama as an aspiring writer myself. Comedy is considered to be one of the most difficult genres to write, and Futurama has some of the tightest writing I've seen on TV. I think that can only be achieved by a great deal of effort and a strong writing team. The dialogue is fantastic; each character has a very distinct voice. I was impressed by the continuity in an episodic format, as well as the complex concepts they executed so well.
I adore how this show is "smart" but it never talks down to its viewers. I like how it can take jabs at itself from time to time without being too overt about it. I've always felt that even through all the dark humor, the heart of this show is kind, and you don't often get to see that with adult cartoons. There were so many instances when I finished an episode of Futurama and thought "I hope I can write like that one day." Maybe this is naïve of me, but I really do think the writers can fix some of the older issues that the show had now that time has passed. And maybe they will want to push for queer representation this time.
As for Bender being portrayed as queer; I definitely would like it if some of the more bigoted fans were pushed away from this show. I have to admit, seeing bigots get something they enjoy taken away from them always fills me with this vengeful glee. I would love it if Bender was confirmed queer; I fully welcome an unhinged and morally dubious queer character. However, the idea of backlash makes me incredibly nervous. This is mainly due to the way I've seen people talk about the LGBTQ community online and in real life, especially recently. I always want more representation in media, but I'm starting to feel worn down and depressed by the constant backlash anything remotely queer (or anything with minorities at all) receives.
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it is unbelievably easy to not only get in bubbles on here and anywhere on the interent, but more importantly to forget we are in one (there's nothing wrong with existing in niche communities, we just mustn't forget it's not the universal state of existing which our brains like to assume very quickly. also my god tumblr works a lot like wider society with its semi segreated communities), and as someone who got a year long depressin mainly interacting with my family, friends, and tumblr, the return to uni has been. rough. i had forgor how it felt brushing elbows with passive aggressively racist teachers and people who hate me for being trans (even in goddamn art school with half queer students it's a nightmare), it's not i had forgotten transphobes existed, nor that they were in power and the state didn't care (impossible with the wave of anti trans laws in america) but it was less tangible, less frequent, and i had the freedom to leave
anyways this post is about remembering that every single person is acting and thinking the way they are because they believe it to be right or the best behavioral option and lack exposure to alterantive point of view they cna understand. Everyone thinks they're the norm, the standard, that their personal stance is the neutrality; from zionists to tankies, they believe themselves to be right partially out of chosen biased media diet, their upbringing, the linguistic tools at their disposition, the way they interpret their experiences, their parent's beliefs and their attitude towards it, and because of strong entrenched psychic mechanisms. most people have huge gaps in their education due to how specialized, incomplete, state dictated, and hierachised the education system i(and classist) and people com from all kinds of cultural backgrounds that each comes a set of specific ethics and beliefs. those gaps in formation to have a comprehensive knowledge of the world in as many of its aspects as possible should have been fixed by individuqls before they become a politician, alas it's not like political classes are great at teaching ethics and as if people don't have financial incentives to stay ignorant.
Which is not to mean they can't be judged for their actions or for enacting or endorsing cruelty ; on the contrary. everyone has a responsability to unlearn bigotry and use critical thinking when it comes to news media and fiction. But winning debates, explaining your point of view and convincing people is easier when you understand the underlying mental pathways and the cultural consumption leading to the opinions of the opposing parties; that way your stance cannot be construed as myopic: you've considered the other stances you could hold, you've understood them and looked into what motivates people to hold it, the history behing it, and you still chose the one you did and hold if for more ethical.
#sam speaks#idk what to tag that#ethics#this is thoughts i have trying to talk to people about palestine but tbh it's more generic than advice for this#countering bigotry#i guess
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new soulmate au
So a lot of soulmate AUs- and this is a benefit, not a flaw, saying this right off the bat so people don't get mad- end up linking people beforehand, before they meet or in some cases before they're born, even. Which is cool, it lets people have fascinating dynamics, but I was thinking about another option.
Everybody is compatible with other people in certain ways, whether romantic, platonic, familial, something else entirely, whatever. If two people get close enough, they begin to form Soulmate Bonds. The first Bond is always their truest name (as in truest to themselves, not necessarily what they were born with) inscribed someplace on the other's body. The closer people grow and the longer relationships go on, the more bonds form- the closest and longest-lasting relationships leave significant permanent marks that can grant powers to even vanilla mortals, let alone those who already have powers.
The nature of the Bonds is dependent on what the relationship is like and what they need out of it. Relationships that need to stay hidden tend to have subtler Bonds, while relationships that are flaunted tend to have flashy Bonds. People who need a constant friend get to share ink on skin, or perhaps hear voices. Sometimes it's not always wanted- somebody who hides injuries often can have those injuries marked or known to their Soulmates in some way, or perhaps it cuts through a closed-off person's defences, but it's generally seen as a blessing or at least something neutral in the aftermath.
Platonic bonds do tend to be more subtle or casual than romantic bonds, and familial ones even moreso, but all Bonds can be whatever's needed for the situation. They often can, and in the best relationships do, blend into one giant mess well enough that they can't be distinguished from each other anyhow, so people generally accept that and move on with their lives- and it's proven a lifesaver, with enough Bond differences that queer people or anyone in a forbidden relationship could claim a Bond as platonic instead of its romantic nature, or in some cases vice versa to serve as a distraction.
Casual relationships often do not form bonds- both people need to be putting intent into the relationship to form them- but at the same time, people don't always recognize the more subtle Bonds, especially if they're aligned with skills they already hold. The one type of relationship with active energy that does not form Bonds are mutually antagonistic relationships without a genuine possibility or probability of reconciliation. In this case, such a Bond would only cause more harm- bonds between rivals either form when there is enough mutual respect that they could, theoretically get along and they do not Have to fight, or because one or both needs the support to get out of their situation and the presence of their opponent will provide significant aid towards that goal.
Of course, a relationship that ends would result in a loss of Bonds if it is truly fractured. If it fades over lack of maintanance, naturally and slowly as some things do, then so too do the Bonds, fading and vanishing until the only thing left is their name, written in grey on your skin. If it breaks viciously, in a fight or disaster, the Bonds tear- leaving scars physical and metaphysical, and the name dries into the color of their dried blood. If your Soulmate dies, then the Bonds wither and their name fades to scar-white, where it functions as a faint, light scar.
I thought this could be interesting- bonds connected to relationships, but in a different way- one built rather than enforced, one that's complex and unknown and so much more complicated and allowing for the full network of human interactions to be celebrated- and perhaps, help choices be made differently.
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i. may or may not have made a Dsaf oc/self insert type thing (it's both because, appearance and partially personality wise, xe's based off of me irl. but backstory stuff is pretty different).
named the little guy Morgan Bane. he's sort of the "Jack of All Trades" in Dsaf 3. he's kinda one of the only main workers in Jack's restaurant.
time for some background on this lil guy:
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they're genderqueer. and just queer in general.
they've got that LGBTQ+ Christian Religious Trauma™
Autistic and an Utter Anxious Wreck <3
associated with the color blue.
left home after college and went to go stay with a friend for a bit.
got a job at Jack's restaurant because Why Not, and also because she was also considering doing something similar later in her life and wanted to get some first hand experience with how these places work.
xe views Jack as a mentor of sorts. which uh. Makes A Certain Version Of The Legacy/Evil Route For This Guy Particularly Fucked Up!
please ask me about the Morgan and Dave (Pre-Henry Trauma) parallels i could go on for hours please-
during the Legacy Route, Morgan will accidentally walk in on Jack and Dave about to murder the baby, but will stand in shock and horror, trying to stammer out a question to Jack "B-Boss, I- What in God's name are you-?!"
there's two versions of Morgan during the Legacy Route (well...technically four if you count the routes where he'd get framed, but we won't count those for this-): one where Jack and Dave choose not to get Morgan involved, and simply threaten him into silence (which works), or uh...well, Anyone Heard Of The Snowgrave Route From Deltarune Chapter 2-?
so here's how it works, right? Good/Neutral Routes = Morgan is generally friendly towards Jack, and is actually quite eager to talk with him! Legacy Route (Normal) = Morgan is scared of Jack and will actively avoid him, and will fidget nervously whenever the two do interact. at the end, after Phone Guy gets done with his lecture, Morgan will give a much shorter one: "I...don't really know what there is to say. Y'know, I'm not one to say this lightly, but I believe that you deserve to hear this: Don't keep the Devil waiting, sir." Legacy Route (Snowgrave Edition) = same as Normal Legacy Route, except Somehow Worse, and gets dragged into Even More Shit. this poor boy. he needs a hug. and a fucking break.
Morgan is just sending. so many distress signals to Harry. So Many. help it.
also, i thought it would be interesting if Morgan had a QnA thing like the Phone Guy does in the game. have some differences in dialogue between Good/Neutral Route answers and Legacy (Snowgrave) answers for a few questions:
"Tell me about your family."
Good/Neutral: "Oh, well...my family are rather loving people, don't get me wrong; they said they only ever wanted the best for me, sir. They just weren't quite...accepting, you see. We had some disagreements, you could say. I love them all dearly, it's just...they don't love me for who I am, you know? They don't hate me; God no. They're just...rather set in their ways and faith, just as I am in mine.
It's...complicated, shall we say. We haven't talked much since I left for college...."
Legacy (Snowgrave): "Oh, well...our relationship isn't perfect, sir. Not by a long shot...b-but we still keep in touch rather often, I-I assure you! I can promise you that I've certainly been keeping in touch with them regularly for the past three years!
...
Why are you staring at me like that? I'm not lying! I-I do!"
"Who's this "friend" you keep talking about?"
Good/Neutral: "Oh, they're the sweetest! We've known each other for years, ever since we were little. They actually gave me a place to stay while I got my life somewhat in order. I'll be forever grateful for it.
I...don't know what I'd do without them, sir..."
Legacy (Snowgrave): "Oh...the friend I keep talking about? Well...we talk often, I lived with them for a while during college, and I feel like I could tell them anything."
(I see. And what would their name happen to be, Morgan?)
"....W-With all due respect, sir, I don't feel comfortable telling you that.
I-I'm not risking.....Of all the people in my life, I can't lose them. Please, I can't..."
"What do you know about Henry, Employee?" (note: in the Legacy Route, this question would be purple and would have a smiley face at the end)
Good/Neutral: "...Henry? as in Henry Miller? Well...I'll admit I don't know much. I know he was the co-owner of Fredbear's Family Diner, he was a doctor of sorts (apparently), and that he went missing in 1983.
...I'll be honest with you, sir. I might not've been alive when he was, but all the photos I've seen...he's got bad vibes. I don't know what it is, maybe the smile...? Just...ugh, he gives me the heebie jeebies and he's not even alive anymore...."
Legacy (Snowgrave): "W-Why did you ask it like that, sir? And...why're you looking at me like that..?
U-Um, well, I-I know he co-owned this place called Fredbear's Family Diner and that he went missing in the early 80's...but that's about it...
...W-Why did you need to know? Why are you still looking at me like that, sir?!"
"Do you have any hopes and dreams?"
Good/Neutral: "Well, y'know how this place is? And Chuck E. Cheese? I was thinkin'...maybe I could open my own place like this someday. Y'know, not a Freddy's or Chuck E's, but...my own little place! You think I could do it?
(...Yeah, you seem like you'd do great, Morgan.)
Really?! I- Thank you, sir!"
Legacy (Snowgrave): "...Well...I hope to get a better job someday. Maybe get married to someone.
.....Why do you ask sir?
...Sir? Jesus, you really like staring at me like that..."
"What do you think of me and your job here?" (note: same as the Henry question during the Legacy Route)
Good/Neutral: "Oh, well...you're certainly blunt, sir. B-But I don't mean that as a bad thing at all! You're a great boss! And this job, while it's certainly...chaotic at times, it's still one of the greatest I've had!"
(...Really? Wow...I feel kinda bad for you, Employee.)
N-no, I'm being serious! I like making people happy, and what better job for that than this one?
...Sure, this place hasn't had...the best track record of making people happy, but I hope to change that!"
Legacy (Snowgrave): "...Well, that depends. Do you want the truth, or do want to hear what you want to hear?"
(The Truth, Morgan.)
"....Sir, I have blood on my hands that can never be washed off. I feel too scared to fall asleep, afraid that I'll see that poor baby's face when I close my eyes.
...I'm also scared that either see you or Dave one standing over me, ready to..."silence" me...but that's neither here nor there...
...But I also know that I'm in too deep to back out now.
...So what real choice do I have, sir?"
2. (Well, that also depends...how much do you value your life, Morgan? :))
"...Well, in that case:
This is one of the greatest jobs I've ever had! Love you and my coworkers! Yep! Definitely don't live in terror every waking (and sleeping) moment, sir! Nope! Not at all! Heh heh..."
(Morgan nervously fidgets with her cross necklace, nervously looking behind you towards the door of The Office.
It seems like they're ready to make a break for it at a moment's notice. He tries to smile wide, but it doesn't reach his eyes.)
anyway, please send some asks about Morgan i'd love to talk about my lil dude here!! :D
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Here’s a thought.
Sonic is the kind of kid you expect everyone to like, but it turns out the general populace is neutral at best towards him and his popularity is just an appearance created by the waves of weird outcast kids that flock to him. He’s a nice jock, a scene kid, and surprisingly enough a skater, even though it’s slower than his running. His skateboard is easy to pick out, covered in stickers and signed by many friends. It’s been broken a good few times, too.
He comes off as dismissive and disrespectful despite having a good heart- he’s the kind of person to laugh at his own jokes and sit with his shoes on the table. He’s not super vocal about being queer, and he laughs off most people trying to put him down, but if he catches you picking on any other queer person, he becomes the walking pride flag and you’d best fucking pray cause he’s gonna send your ass to god. He has stickers and marker drawings on his shirts and pants, and wears beaded bracelets his friends make him. The people who don’t like him think he’s arrogant, irreverent, annoying, but those who do swear by it that he’s the best person you’ll ever meet in your life.
Shadow is both the outcast punk/emo kid and the ptsd poster child. He hunches his shoulders and gets pissed when people startle him. He’s not as tough a nut to crack as people assume based on the surface level of his persona, but he can be difficult. His hobbies include hyperfixating on wikipedia articles, helping out at animal shelters, and staying up too late. Despite his seemingly totally tough front, he actually skates as well, though. His spiky black, white and red platform boots are actually heelies, and he swears by them as the fastest way to get around. He has hypermobility in several joints which leads to him overextending them and hurting himself often. He’s always chewing on something, insisting it’s a bad habit, but never stopping. It’s almost never food. People worry he has an ED, but really it’s just that strong smells and tastes make him nauseous and he eats mostly bland foods. He wears headphones everywhere, and always has some sort of mp3 player on him to listen to metal through. If he passes you on his skates, sometimes you can hear a moment of very low quality “THE RECKONINGGG!! THE SICKENING!!! PACKAGING SUBVERSIOOONNNN! PSEUDO-SACROSANCT PERVERSION!!!” through his crunchy ass earbuds as he rolls by.
Most people expect he’s all talk, some self righteous douche who thinks he can get away with anything just because he looks scary. They don’t expect him to have such a just attitude, a kind heart, and the will to fight for his beliefs.
Many people will attest to the fact, however, that it is MUCH scarier to see Sonic coming at you for being shitty than Shadow.
I'd say I'm a mix of both Sonic and Shadow, do I even need to say why for Shadow and with Sonic idc really what people say about me unless they're lying about me, and becoming "the walking pride flag" if anyone tries to mess with another queer person around me
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Like, ok, hear me out. My last post was quick and rough bc it was late at night, but now it's 4pm and I've had a thought, and I can def. explain it better now.
Ppl from minority groups esp. the queer community almost always end up connecting best with characters that are similarly othered and mistreated and demonised. There is a genuine, historic media trend of coding villains and monsters with our identities, and for a very long time, that was the best representation we could get. We grew used to identifying with evil because then we could take those characters with little fragments of our experiences in them, and we could re-write them in fandom to be sympathetic, to be loved, to be understood.
A game that takes the original story of the biblical Fall and translates it into a romance game is practically guaranteed to be a hit with queer people. Especially considering the context of the Fall - the fact that it's love that condemns them, a father who ousts them, a family that betrays them, and a situation in which what they stood up against wasn't legal but the punishment and injustice wasn't morally right.
It's quite literally a game about helping and loving beings who have been demonized, and helping them realise they're worth loving. It's a game that is going to strike home harder for people who have been othered as callously as the brothers were, and for people who grew up seeing characters like these as fictional representatives.
Solmare's decision to ultimately make the MC gender neutral futhered this drastically. The genre of otome is so naturally assigned towards straight, cis women that it can be difficult for anyone else to enjoy the games as much. We know, once again, that we're being othered; that the concept of creating a game like this for us is so unthought of, even the ones with M/M or F/F content are targeted more towards fujoshis and rated 18+. They're so very rarely meant for us.
But this game, centred around concepts of identity and family and loss and love, exists to give us the chance to fully immerse ourselves in a way most games of this genre often don't. Yes, sometimes it's evident, especially early on, that Solmare struggled to decipher how to slip out of inherently fem!MC tropes - but it's even more evident that genuine effort was placed into the game to welcome everyone. To let as many people as possible slot into MC's place, regardless of race, of sexuality, of gender.
This game, with its overall gameplay and storyline formula, is the perfect fit for people like us. The reason this game exploded so much more than Solmare's other games - the reason this fandom is so much bigger than the others before it - is in part because it drew us in like moths to a flame.
I literally cannot express how excited people were when we realised this game let you be you. I'm a gay trans guy; my best friend is a bisexual demigirl; the people I knew at the time Obey Me! was released were nonbinary, trans, gay, pansexual - a plethora of different identities and experiences, and very different game tastes. But all of us were enthralled by the concept of this game that didn't force pronouns or designs on you. That let us love beings we'd all felt sympathetic for in other iterations in other media. Even people I knew who hated the otome genre showed interest when they were told that the only identifying feature for the MC was a name.
This is one of the first times I have ever seen - let alone experienced - a game in this genre that not only allowed but actively encouraged people like us to play.
Obey Me! was not made for the queer community, but it was made in a way that welcomes us as much as the original target audience. That gives us as much importance and presence as the straight, cis female audience these games are usually pandered towards.
And now, Solmare are giving us something even more wonderful. Solmare have seen their fandom growing and diversifying, and they have accepted this. Accepted us. These new Exchange Students are being added to reflect the diversity of the people who play the game, and to include us in a way we often never get to experience in these genres.
We don't know who these characters are yet. We don't know anything about them beyond current speculation; that one of them is femme-presenting, and that at least two of them may be nonbinary. What we do know, at least, is that these characters are likely love interests, and that's genuinely incredible.
Because that means these characters are being added for us to love; those of us who aren't the original target audience, but who found the game and its themes and fell in love, anyway.
Because that means Solmare are acknowledging that a gender neutral MC is more than just "straight cis woman Lite"; that some of us do love women; that there's more to the spectrum than just male and female, and that they're just as viable to be loved.
So for the love of fuck, please let queer fans be excited. Please let us thrive in this one fucking game that thematically chimes with us, that lets us love, that lets us be ourselves. I don't care if you don't like the new femme character because you're not attracted to girls; you don't have to date them. I don't want to hear your comments about these characters "stealing your boys away". They aren't made for you. They're made for us.
Maybe it's weird to have content that's not aimed towards you. Maybe you were tonedeaf to the way the fandom grew, or to what it really meant when Solmare said they wanted Obey Me! to be an inclusive game. But please, please, read the room now. Let us love them without making it feel weird.
Because these characters in no way take from you, but they give so, so much to us.
#obey me#danteintherambles#Yeah y'all get some literary analysis and queer history in this#What would I use my MA for if not to ramble on passionately abt a game
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I found you through your Death's Head Deals comics, but I want you know I'm also gonna be checking out your other stuff.
Also:
Your art style is lovely, and your way of drawing is so expressive! I really appreciate what you'te showing with your comics, and, and as queer bisexual transmasc, I am so, so appreciative of your making Alrick a cishet man. Like, I feel like I can't tell you anything you don't already know, but as a transmasc, seeing such a positive example of a cishet man means...so much to me. In so many progressive spaces there's this sort of idea that anyone who isn't Woman Enough is pitiable at best. And, you know, as someone for whom womanhood was...oh, man. It was awful. I can't begin to explain to you what it did to me. Because it wasn't right. I was never a girl. But other people – cis and trans – look at someone like me and see someone who chose to transition. Who chose to be...a toxic gender, I guess?? Never mind that I'm not a binary man, the fact that my gender is masculine is enough to damn me!
So to see a cis man – a cis man who is also straight! so his gender can't be waved off like it's incidental to his sexuality! a cishet man! who is cis and het and gender conforming and not queer in any way – as something positive?? To see him as someone worth loving?? To see him as an okay way to exist?? To see someone like that, presented in a genuine, joyous way? Without the toxic masculinity one sees so often in popular media?? He's just...a good person? He's just...a person????
I can't explain how much that means to me. I'm queer in every way and reading about Alrick is healing to me. Because you don't present him as a failure because of his gender or sexuality. Because you, as the author, stated firmly that being a man, even a straight one, isn't a bad thing. Because Alrick is good. Because I can also be who I am, and not be lesser for it. I'm not 'joining the enemy:' men aren't the enemy. There's nothing wrong with manhood. There's nothing wrong with heterosexuality. None of these are toxic identities. They're just identities. They're neutral. And I, as a queer person, who is neither cis nor straight, find so much comfort in that. So. Thank you.
And I hope this doesn't stress you out!! Even if the story goes in a way I don't personally like, it won't ever change the fact that this story helped me. I just wanted to thank you for bringing it into the world as it is now, and how much that means to me.
(I had a LOT of limoncello, but I mean everything I said. I am just drunk enough to think you might like to hear what I have to say)
Aaaw, thank you! I read your feedback 8568506 times, seriously! I really don't even have words how to reply to your sweet message.
Your message doesn't stress me out, no sweat about it! All's good :3
Just once more louder to the back if people didn't hear me the last time I spoke about this:
BEING A MAN OR CISHET OR STRAIGHT OR BOTH IS NOT A CARDINAL SIN, NOT EVEN A SMALL SIN!
That's condemning people, judging them based on stereotypes. How well has that worked on you, dear minorities? Have you enjoyed it? Did it make you to like the oppose site even more? Why would use the same tactic towards your enemy - whoever or whatever it is - and expect different results?
Some resistance is always needed when things are being changed as the change does require strength, even positive aggression, but if you take it too far you only create another war.
Everyone wants to be treated with kindness and acceptance. People generally react negatively if you react negatively to them first.
When it comes to positive masculinity, I believe its the true form of manhood and masculinity. The toxic patriarch, man-made system has destroyed so much masculinity, given everyone sick expectations and models of "manhood". The same way as it has tainted true femininity and womanhood. It's not a sin to be a woman either. It's not a sin to be feminine, soft, gentle, sensitive, nurturing, emphatic, like cute things etc!
There are a few positive masculine men in media that I admire and I'm happy that they exist. I keep them in mind when working with Alrick.
Sláine is a feminist barbarian, who is shown in multiple cases to show compassion and kindness towards women without wanting anything in return. Unlike other men who have abandoned the old Goddess, Sláine still serves her and has vowed his loyalty to her till his death. His wife Niamh is shown to be incarnated in many different lives to be together with Sláine, as their souls always find each other. Pat Mills has created Sláine series together with his wife Angela Kincaid.
Ken Kitano (Sun-Ken Rock) is definitely the best positive masculinity examples in any media I have encountered. Here, Ken has just taken by force the whole control all South-Korean's entertainment business after he heard women were sexually exploited and abused in it. He asked nothing in return and sacrificed his possibility to ever leave mafia life - something he had dreamed of since the day one - to achieve the safety of all women. He's very loyal to his sweetheart and always refuses from any other women.
Ken is also extremely compassionate towards his enemies, all citizens and uses all his resources, fame, money and strength for the better of others, unconditionally.
Like “Shit. I have other things to do but there’s this victim of human trafficking, who I already saved once, but the other mafia hunted her down and forced her to work again. Well, better take the whole red light district’s ownership from 500+ member mafia with my less than 10 members mafia so that the girls can have their freedom and be safe for the rest of their lives under my protection”.
The best thing? He's THE mafia boss. The most powerful man in the whole South-Korea, above any law, above any other living person. Ken could do and get anything he wants but he always chooses to use all he's got for good.
Tatsu (Gokushufudou / The Way of The House Husband) left his yakuza life behind and married Miku. He's a most devoted husband and always treats Miku, neighbors, the women of the Housewife Association, all kids and animals with kindness. Other mafia members come to challenge him but he never takes the bait as he's got a dinner to make and laundry to do! He remembers everyone's birthdays, celebrations, is very kind and attentive towards his parents-in-law and always aims to make Miku happy. He's equal to his wife as his wife is equal to him.
I really like this series as it's pretty phenomenal in Japan, where the strict gender roles still sit very tight! Everyone is expected to marry early, and then men are expected to be the breadwinners and women stay-home wives and mothers. Men are above women and women's salaries are still lower than men's.. I've been delighted to see small changes in Japan within the last 12 years I've visited there. Last time I saw many home-stay dads looking after the kids and found men's bathroom with a nursery table inside.
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im still not over voltron, so here are some of my head canons for the characters.
part 1, part 2 (?)
first off, the main seven’s pronouns, sexualities, and overall romantic types:
- lance: he/they, he's not opposed to exploring his femininity and after learning that pidge is non-binary, he started to questions his identity and realized that gender is a societal construct that can fuck off. they’re my gender queer child. he's also bi. he doesn't necessarily have a preference when it comes to men or women or anything in between, so but they do see gender when they are thinking of dating someone, and it does play a role in his romantic decisions to some extent.
-keith: he/him, our local trans man, and he's homoromantic and demisexual. he's never had any experience ever when it comes to relationships, so it took him a long time to realize if what he's feeling towards men was gender envy or romantic/sexual desire (cough cough relatable). he does eventually settle on a label, and he'd pretty cool with that. post season 8, he'd start being more ok with exploring his femininity in a way that doesn't make him feel dysphoric. so what im saying is that post canon keith would totally wear makeup, crop tops, and skirts bc he can (lance probably helps him with this bc by the time keith starts being ok with this stuff, lance has already been out and proud about their gender queer-ness for quite some time. he's also a very good bf/partner)
-pidge: they/them, non-binary, sapphic-romantic (is that a term??? idk, i'm trying my best tho i promise. basically, theyre romantically attracted to women), definitely asexual though. didn't really know/realize they were non-binary until they got to the garrison bc when they cut their hair and started using a gender neutral name that they realized that the uncomfy-ness they've been feeling all their life has been to do with their gender. so then they come out to the voltron crew as being non-binary in place of when its revealed to the crew that they’re katie. this then spurs the gender conversation with allura and coran, both of which have no concept of gender bc their aliens so why would they, and its all chill. they also help lance a lot with his gender crisis.
- hunk: he/him, cis man, pansexual. not much to say about him, he's just a super loving guy whose lowkey always having a pan-panic bc he thinks a ton of people are so attractive and it's terrifying. he also has anxiety™️, but i think that's a given.
-shiro: he/him, trans man, this is one of the main reasons that he and keith bonded so much when they met, bc shiro was a very out and proud trans bi man, and keith respected him a lot for that (also gender envy™). shiro's bisexual, bc shallura is a really good ship, but shadam is also chefs kiss.
-allura: ALIENS HAVE NO CONCEPT OF GENDER. so she uses she/they/its, mainly she/her, but they/its is pretty cool with them. i'm not gonna stray too far into neo-pronouns with the aliens bc i figure that their pronouns in their language are equivalized to something earth people can understand (bc of translators), plus i don't know enough about neo pronouns to get too into it, but yeah, allura is genderqueer, get over it. allura is also queer, bC LIKE I SAID, ALIENS HAVE NO CONCEPT OF GENDER BC WE GOT SCAMMED BY LIVING ON EARTH. so basically anyone they find romantically/sexually attractive is on the table.
-coran: he/they, they're cool with with any pronouns tbh, but he/they is their main preference. coran coran the gorgeous man(?) is queer, and he definitely married to someone and had a child before the fall of altea, but that's besides the point bc the family would have perished anyways. oR CORAN WAS IN LOVE WITH ALLURA'S DAD, ALFOR, BUT WE'RE NOT GETTING INTO THAT RIGHT NOW.
#jaspers headcanons#long post#voltron#vld#voltron: legendary defender#voltron headcanons#lance#keith#shiro#takashi shirogane#pidge#hunk#coran#allura#klance#shallura#shadam#still not over voltron#wow imagine a voltron stan in 2021#totally cant relate#jasper yappin
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I've seen a lot of the Human Rights Campaign people around my city trying to gather donations(they're the ones with the yellow equal sign on a blue background). do u happen to kno if they are a trustworthy cause to donate to or are they garbage??
Well they were one of the official endorsements for Hillary Clinton and like… human rights?… Hillary Clinton? lol okay but anyways a better response:
From the staff:
Trans and genderqueer staffers reported being misgendered often, “even after repeated attempts to educate.” They also raised concerns that they do not feel safe to come out at HRC, noting there there is only one gender-neutral bathroom available, and that the company dress code lists only “male” and “female” attire options, leaving genderqueer or nonbinary staffers without guidance. One employee was offended when they heard coworkers using the phrase “tranny."
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Employees surveyed reported experiencing "femophobia,” where “feminine men and women are not considered as important [as more masculine staffers].” Another survey respondent claimed to have witnessed “visible misogyny,” which the staffer described as “cutting women off, [and] only addressing other white men.” The report notes that complaints about sexism and a “good old boy’s club” were cited 32 times in open-ended answers.
I’d suggest reading the full linked article and maybe looking into the subject that article is addressing. Here’s a link with more info on that subject.
They rate the human rights records of corporations (which is already hilarious to me) but here’s what they actually look for:
Currently under fire by the LGBTQIA+ community is the HRC’s guide of corporations that are rated on their human rights record. This is called the Equality Index. Kate Raphael, a longtime organizer with Lesbians And Gays Against Intervention, a queer radical collective in the Bay Area, is just one of the individuals frustrated with this guide. She has stated that the guide is not a human rights record because the only things analyzed are those such as gay people in management, or domestic partner benefits. From this, it can be deduced that the guide is perhaps not all-inclusive and comprehensive enough to benefit everyone who identifies as LGBTQIA+.
Exclusion of trans people:
The HRC has been notoriously exclusive towards the transgender community. In 2007, they supported a bill that would outlaw companies’ discriminatory behavior towards gay, lesbian and bisexual employees. However, this bill left out transgender people. Notably, many other LGBTQIA+ organizations were against the bill because of its transgender exclusion.
Here’s another article on the subject of trans-exclusion.
More information that might sway your decision:
The HRC also spends far too much time lobbying for marriage equality and military service for gay people, without giving much attention to other issues like healthcare and housing. The focuses of the HRC are an indication of their privilege as middle and upper-class white people. Because of this privilege, their concentrations are on problems that middle and upper-class white LGBTQIA+ people face
Also I think their support of Republican Sen. Mark Kirk was … questionable at best. When Kirk ran against Tammy Duckworth they backed him despite his human rights record being way worse than Duckworth’s. And I think this spawned a lot of criticism especially because there was already an issue with them having a pro-white male in leadership positions stance and Kirk said some racist shit against Duckworth’s heritage and they didn’t immediately cut ties with him.
I mean there’s probably a lot more that our followers will tell you about but I just received some news and have to go so I can’t continue this post. However, I will end this by saying that if you’re looking to donate or volunteer to an LGBTQ+ rights groups, I’d try to find someone more localized. Ones in people’s communities are always doing way more direct work and they can actually use the money and support unlike a group like HRC who get millions in donations a year.
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