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literallyaflame · 8 months

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transgender masculinity will never be regarded in the same way as cisgender masculinity because transgender masculinity opposes the “natural order.” trans men do not magically gain oppressive power over cisgender women simply by calling themselves men, or by behaving in a masculine way. in fact, the opposite tends to be true. i was a “masculine woman” for many years and my cis female peers treated me like dog shit garbage, because if you’re masculine in opposition the sex binary, you’re a threat and an outsider

this is why i’m not comfortable with cis women making bold claims about the overall transmasculine relationship with sexism. it’s not as simple as “you’re a man so you’re the oppressor now.” the social power of masculinity is inextricably tied to biological essentialism. some trans men pass as male, yes, but some don’t. others pass as feminine men, some are indistinguishable from butch lesbians. hell, some transmasculine people still identify as butch lesbians. transmasculine experiences are not universal, and depending on where you fall, you’re going to have utterly different day-to-day experiences with sexism & misogyny

the thing about conventional cis womanhood is that, while oppressed, it doesn’t oppose the natural order. trans manhood does. trans men often don’t have a place among men or among women, which is the isolating effect of living in opposition to the sex binary. it sucks, it’s difficult to manage, most trans people deal with it at some point, and the majority of cis women frankly have no stake in that conversation. i resent the idea that i have some kind of universal privilege over a group of people who were (historically) some of my worst oppressors—not because they identify as women and i identify as a man, but because their femininity did not defy expectations and my masculinity did

don’t get me wrong, anyone can be a misogynistic loser, trans guys included. also, cis women are not exempt from experiencing oppositional sexism. but some of the weird exclusionary shit i see from cis “allies” is borderline indistinguishable from the “ummmm she can’t be in the locker room with us, she’s technically female but she’s… you know… i’m sorry but it’s just not appropriate” nonsense i endured as a teenager lmao

#sorry i’m stressed out so i’m making posts to distract myself from The Horrors #i have so many other things i should be doing you have NO idea #me when i make a post

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cock-holliday · 4 months

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TIR/F arguments are often even stupider than TER/F arguments because of how much they want to bend rigid ideas to fit a new narrative but still be rigid in exclusion. The E’s insist biological determinism. You are born a man, you are born a woman. Biology makes us totally separate from each other. You are innately something and cannot change.

The I’s try to bend that idea around progressive language. Womanhood is something to reject or embrace, but then there is still an inherent good/bad dichotomy. To the I’s, your worth is in not being a man. But what is a man, then? The E’s stake their whole politic around a supposedly rigid definition of Woman™️ but then so do the I’s! On the surface it is rejecting maleness but what is male? Is it masculinity? Is it facial hair? Is it he/him pronouns? Is it a penis but we’ll pretend it’s not cause as long as I can pretend you don’t have one then welcome to the sisterhood (you’re on thin ice)

Trans women are good because they do not want to be men, but I get to decide what “man” means and if you fly too close then you’re a predator(y man) trying to trick us into letting you in

Trans men are bad because they reject the gift of womanhood and want to abandon their oppression in favor of supremacy and no matter how cruel my “punching up” at them becomes, if they cry, they are being hysterical (women), but maybe I can save them from themselves if they repent before me forever

Trans women cannot experience antimasculism because they’re NOT men, how dare you? I support trans women so long as they aspire to cisfemininity, and if they don’t, what’s wrong with a little smear campaign? Why don’t you let us police your body you sex freak? Got something to hide?

Trans men cannot experience misogyny, only trans women do, how dare you you transmisogynist? To prove that they don’t, any trans man who doesn’t take it lying down is a whiny (girl) cunt (boycunt?) who revels in victimhood and uses his woman tears to get out of a callout.

The way that trans people are attacked is tied to assigned (or perceived) birth assignment. We are misgendered and assaulted, even by other trans people who align with ra/df/em politics. It is a poisoned well that you cannot unpoison.

It is fine to talk about your own experiences or how they relate to systems of oppression but reinforcing a binary of “therefore the opposite doesn’t experience this” rather than continuing to blur the lines between “man” and “woman” strengthens the arguments of transphobes.

Trans men you can’t woobify also get smeared as predators. Trans women who don’t drive a hard line between themselves and trans men are accused of being ‘AFABs’ and experience a weird form of misogyny that cannot decide if you’re a girl or boy but you’re definitely a whiny bitch. Intersex and nonbinary folks who muddy the waters of distinct sexes and genders are ignored or cast aside or painted as appropriators and ‘transtrenders.’ We cannot even just discuss our experiences because everyone is assigned at birth and by tumblr dot gov to “basically boy” or “basically girl.”

It serves no one to pretend our experiences as trans people are so unique from each other when we are proof of the flexibility of identity and presentation.

We are at any given time one step away from being painted as predators or waifs, whiny bitches or scary men. We are taking up too much space, we challenge too much, and are all a third gender category until transphobes (cis and trans alike) decide how to categorize us.

If we cannot learn to appreciate the spectrum of experiences and struggles and see ourselves in “the other” AGAB and instead continue to reinvent “men vs women but enlightened this time” we are going to lose

#LJsm

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catgirlforeskin · 9 months

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i dont get why femboy is a transmisogynist slur? i was under the impression it was coined specifically as a less-loaded alternative to “trap”. i also only ever see it used to refer to male crossdressers (but i also dont see it very often in general fwiw).

like its true that a lot of femboys are just appropriating(?) transfemme aesthetics but without the assertion of womanhood—you stated this more eloquently in your post about f1nn5ter, sorry—but im not sure thats related to the word “femboy” itself

It’s used interchangeably with “sissy” “trap” and all the other slurs from fetish porn of trans women, and it’s been used like before the boom in popularity a few years back, and continues to be used that way. It’s just ladyboy again.

Whether you’re looking on porn sites, art of the hot new caricature of trans women from media, or transmisogynist “memes” that are omnipresent in our culture, from every movie having “man in a dress haha” jokes to “femboy hooters” shit to grifters like finnster playing trap personas to massive support, and everything inbetween. It’s everywhere and I’m so sick of it.

I frankly don’t care if it makes annoying twinks on Reddit feel hurt or sad, they can call themselves something else or just get over needing a label for every little thing imo. I hate this shit man I just wanna talk about urban development and mixed use zoning

#asks #transmisogyny

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pigeonflavouredcake · 5 months

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i'm so close to finishing the edits on my theory chapter so here's a extract about Terf witches

I'm directly taking this from my grimoire Book of Magic (BOM), literally just copy and pasted. I'm sharing this page specifically because I'm trans and I experience this everyday so understanding the signs of TERFism in the witchcraft community was something I had to learn.

All references will be at the bottom.

-Feminism Appropriating Radical Transphobes-

TERFism (Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminism) and gender essentialist ideology in spiritual spaces are a common sight but often overlooked as a necessary part of spiritual practice. They’re not. There are some well-known dog whistles used by TERFs that are very commonplace; “we are the daughters of the witches you didn’t burn” “divine feminine” “pussy power”. Many TERFs deal with misogyny or internalised misogyny disguised as "pussy power girlboss" feminism.

The idea behind TERFism is that gender is a patriarchal construct and that your sex assigned at birth is the only thing that can tell you if you’re a man or woman. (Wynn, N. (ContraPoints). 2019)

The problem with that is that because no-one is able to tell what someone’s sex is at a glance, TERFs use gender essentialism and white centric stereotypes to point out who they think is a man or woman and often getting it wrong which puts both transgender and non-conforming cisgender people in danger, more so if that person is also a person of colour. Due to the racialization of masculinity and femininity and the pervasive white standards of beauty it makes it near impossible for feminine presenting people of colour to be perceived as such without leaning into hyper feminine styles akin to Barbie or Marylin Monroe.

How one would recognise a TERF out in the wild may be tricky considering many of them are self-aware enough to never share their true feelings out in the open. Many of them use covert statements or gaslighting techniques in order to portray the narrative I spoke about in my previous section on cults, a narrative of heroism. A TERF isn’t spouting dangerous ideologies that put transgender people at risk of political, medical, and social discrimination, they’re just looking out for what’s best for you, they want to protect young gay men and lesbians from being influenced by a predatory agenda and to fight for the rights of women.

A TERF will do a lot to portray themselves as the hero of an oppressive regime in order to experience the power and respect they may have been denied in life due to their own minority status as women.

Examples of Transphobic/Gender Essentialist Ideology

(primarily: Cambridge SU. 2021-22. Other sources as specified)

Refers to themselves as gender-critical, radfem, adult human female/male.

Refers to trans/nonbinary people as ‘TRA’ (Trans Rights Activists), ‘TIF’ or ‘TIM’ (Trans Identified Female/Male). (Stone, G. 2020)

Refers to trans-feminine people as predators and trans-masculine people as victims of the patriarchy/woke agenda.

Conflates gender affirming care with gay conversion therapy aka torture, another method of attributing transgender people to confused children or victims of an agenda. (Corry, W (Sci Guys). 2020)

Refers to trans women as ‘transwomen’, the removal of the space is an intentional othering and separation from women and womanhood. (Mildred & Thorn, A. (Thought Slime. 2023)

Disagrees with the term cisgender or asking for pronouns saying “i don’t have pronouns i’m a woman/a man/normal”.

Believes certain traits are, by nature, more exclusive to men/women and believes women are inherently more powerful because of maturity, periods, childbaring etc…

Sides with LGB spaces or argues to “keep penises out of lesbian spaces”.

Uses the term ‘womxn’ referring to women as people with XX chromosomes exclusively.

Uses 1st/2nd wave feminism to exclude the transgender/nonbinary/intersex/bi/pan/poly community from feminist spaces (essentially excluding anyone that could potentially not not have a vulva/uterus or who interact with people who may not have a vulva/uterus).

Covertly refers to nonbinary people as women adjacent through women and nonbinary spaces and stereotyping.

Uses dinosaur emojis and/or the colours of the British suffragette flag (purple, white, green). (Stone, G. 2020)

TERFism in Spirituality

In the witchcraft and pagan communities TERFs abound spewing this kind of nonsense with a spicey, new age flavour masking the rotten fruit beneath. You can learn about how TERFism is portrayed specifically in Hellenism on another page but generally speaking a TERF witch is one who excludes the title of ‘witch’ to cisgender women, denying and demonising anyone adjacent to men and masculinity, including cisgender men and the whole transgender and nonbinary community citing the points listed above. TERF witches believe that this community is a super special ‘girls only, no boys allowed’ club which gives them power over misogyny and sexism that caused them so much pain and frustration in their life however they forget that everyone is a victim of misogyny and sexism, including men and trans people.

I am using Lisa Lister’s book Witch as an -admittedly obvious- example of how TERF rhetoric is displayed in spiritual spaces. In their book, Lister outlines who is a witch and her power as a force of nature and a “creatrix” making constant references to “divine feminine” periods, wombs and using exclusively she/her pronouns.

The Introduction

“The part of us that was once anaesthetized, domesticated and kept numb by food (or by shopping drugs and media) is now awakening in each of us. It’s our wholeness, our intuition, our magic and our power - the power that lies between our thighs” (p xiii)

“Waking up and reclaiming the witch within us takes really big ovaries. It takes womb-deep recognition that you are: a woman who is powerful: you bleed for five days and don’t die. A force of nature who knows the ebb and flow of the moon, the seasons and mumma nature and her own body….” (p xiv)

The Witch Wound

“The pelvic bowl is a witch’s most powerful magic making tool, a place where we create, make life and connect directly to the source” (p 90)

Lister directly infers that the title of witch is exclusive to women and only the ‘working’ cisgender ones. This is dehumanising by reducing a person's power to their genitalia and only if it ‘works'. This correlates with the TERF belief that women are inherently more powerful because of a female reproductive system as opposed to women being powerful because of their autonomy as human beings. If the latter is the case, then what is stopping cisgender men or trans/nonbinary people from becoming practitioners? The answer is nothing.

My thoughts

While a spell or task one may find in specific kinds of magical/holistic practices may call for the excrement produced by a specific genitalia -such as menstrual blood used as plant fertiliser- I firmly believe an individual does not need any specific anatomy or gender to practise witchcraft. However I also think that believing your magical power comes from your own sexual anatomy isn’t necessarily bad if that is as far as the concept is taken. As long as you don’t take it upon yourself to enforce that idea upon others and deny different concepts of power and magic, it’s harmless, even empowering.

I personally try to avoid any reference to power coming from genitalia as I find the idea redundant to my own practice. I believe power comes from individual autonomy and what the natural world provides but that does not make nature a mother figure in my eyes. Nature simply is, it is its own force, always creating, destroying and recreating itself, always demanding balance. It is sexless, genderless and bodiless but it is none-theless a god.

Finally I cannot emphasise this enough, you cannot ‘always tell’ when someone is trans. Butch cisgender women being perceived as predators and harassed for using the women’s loos is evidence enough. (Maurice, E.P. 2021)

References

Cambridge SU Women’s Campaign (2021-22) How to Spot TERF Ideology 2.0. Cambridge SU. [PDF] https://www.cambridgesu.co.uk/pageassets/resources/guides/spottingterfideology/How-to-Spot-TERF-Ideology-2.0-2.pdf

Corry, W. (Sci Guys) (2023). The Science of Conversion “Therapy” | Sci Guys Podcast #239. Youtube. [Video] https://youtu.be/sFI5Ycs-nig?si=NYVKe0YydykcWsTp&t=3359

Lister, L. (2017). Witch: Unleashed. Untamed. Unapologetic. Hay House. London. [Book]

Maurice, E.P (2021). Butch lesbian harassed ‘tens of times’ in public toilets as anti-trans hostility spills over. Pink News [Web Article] https://www.thepinknews.com/2021/01/19/public-toilets-trans-bathroom-butch-lesbian-harassed-gender-critical-feminists/

Mildred, Thorn, A. (Thought Slime). (2023). Is This the Weirdest Transphobic Lie Ever? - Cringe Corner Ft. Abigail Thorn & Sophie From Mars. Youtube. [Video] https://youtu.be/EfzUtEcGluA?t=2039

Stone, G. (2020). A glossary of Transphobia. Medium. [Web Article] https://medium.com/@notCursedE/a-glossary-of-transphobia-a31a001d279

Wynn, N. (ContraPoints). (2019). Gender Critical. Youtube.com [Video] https://youtu.be/1pTPuoGjQsI

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therubymuse · 1 month

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Women's History Month 2024

While International Women’s Day has been and gone this week, we are still in the midst of Women’s History Month, which happens to be every March. That’s good for yours truly the slackass, because it means I have had some time to organize my thoughts; to sit with them and really get a feel for what needed to be said.

It’s also worth noting that it’s been awhile since I could pickup up the metaphorical pen. The last time I shared something I wrote was last summer, a piece about how important it was for me to be a dyke. It was a good piece, but the words have been all jammed up since. Like logs in a river. The only way to get out of a rut like this is just to let my consciousness ramble, and to accept it’s output as just as valid as any authors or people I look up to. And that’s a hard ask some days.

So today, let’s talk about what being a woman means to me. And why it’s a label and a cause I’ll gladly give my life for as necessary. The first thirty years of my womanhood was denied, in equal parts by those around me who said I was an effeminate man who needed to be toughened up, and by myself, having buried those traits so I could fit in with others. It also didn’t help much that I was born with a penis, so the doctor naturally assumed I was a boy. I’ll forgive him, it was 1986.

I believe I was born a woman, and that I’m biologically female. What we know about science backs up claims of both. Sexual characteristics do not solely present all as male, or all as female, in most of the animal kingdom, so why should we be any different? Many cultures outside of our nightmarish puritanical capitalist hellscape not only recognize genders outside the traditionally masculine and feminine exist, they celebrate our existence.

And yet, there are those who recoil at my claim to the word, and who claim my existence is erasure. These people virulently insist that me and any of my trans sisters are in fact just delusional men. But here’s the thing. Feminism has long sought to define a woman as more than just a birthing machine. We are strong, capable, smart, creative and wise in ways that extend beyond our recorded history and agreed upon definitions. We have always been here, in all the different ways. The true erasure is demanding women occupy only a box of preconceived notions of what others think we are.

It’s shocking to me that so-called “feminists” will fall over each other to tightly define who is allowed to call themselves a woman. Trans women have always been subjugated by this behaviour. We were at the forefront of the modern Pride movement over fifty years ago, and yet it took only a handful of years for cisgender feminists to push trans activists out of said movement, and we’ve been barred in varying degrees from doing anything like that since. Now that trans women can be visible enough to ask to be treated better, that’s seen as appropriating women’s rights for ourselves.

But women’s rights are our rights. Because we are women.

Cisgender women stand to lose a lot more than they gain through the targeting of trans women with hateful legislation and incendiary speech. Increased scrutiny and policing of appearances in public places will lead to mistakes ranging from the embarrassing to the traumatizing. This is already happening, with gender-nonconforming folks and butch lesbians being harassed in washrooms because they look trans, So are a lot of perfectly cisgender and heterosexual individuals who just don’t happen to dress and act in the prescribed way.

All of this puts you in just as much danger as it puts me, if bigots think you’re a tans woman too. And it matters to me that you, me, and my trans sisters are all safe, no matter what.

The label of “woman” means so much to me, because as it turns out, I fit the definition just fine. No matter what shape I contorted myself into, I never neatly fit into my expected gender roles. I was a mousy husband and an effeminate boyfriend. It was visible to everyone except me, and once I started knocking down the closet walls, I felt suddenly like I’d come home. When I said it out loud for the first time, I wept. I was standing in front of my mirror, in my bedroom. It was February 1st and I was getting ready for work. And I had to have a full-on ugly cry over the realization that I had known all this time, but for lack of a matching label, I had been unable to explain it to anyone.

Nobody can take that from me now. It has shaped me as a person, and I’m extremely proud of that person. I have parented my inner child, as we’re making progress on a lot of very deep, very old trauma. I have showered my body in affection and positive language, now that she doesn’t cause me such pain and discomfort via dysphoria. I have learned how to love more fully than I’ve ever known, and more patiently than I ever thought I could. I have allowed myself space to be vulnerable again. And all the while, I’ve been me; a gloriously unhinged disaster lesbian who is growing, changing, and finding a little more of herself every day.

And, of course, I’m a woman too. And as I wipe a tear from my cheek finishing this up, I have to admit that hits me just the same as it did all those years ago.

Photo from Summer 2019.

#women's history month #transgender women #transition

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demonicintegrity · 11 months

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“What I will *not* accept is the erasure of women and the appropriation of womanhood for the sake of a minority movement.”

Happy pride month, today here’s a video of me failing to properly stitch so I had to screenshot some transphobic nonsense. If you remember me making a post about how terfs are fairly tied to white supremacy language, it was because of this.

(I actually made a follow up video because she was continuing on the transphobic bullshit and tried to throw black people under the bus as a gotcha. That actually is stitched so you can see her full video. That nonsense got started on this video of hers, and it seems like she’s deleted the comments that were calling her out for it? Tho there’s still plenty of stitches)

(And this isn’t to say all her videos are like and/or bad, despite my hesitation towards a woman with Christian mom in her bio, she had some really valid and really great point about parenting here and there through my skim. Though she also had other things in there I’m 👀🤨 about esp considering her transphobia. I’m using these two videos of her as an example of the common rhetoric.)

Anyways, what I’m talking about today is something i briefly glossed over in that above video. Her nonsense about a “minority movement” taking over womanhood. I’m pointing to that to warn you that terf rhetoric especially only cares about a specific brand of womanhood. And I’d wager not only is it not trans or queer friendly womanhood, but it probably priorities white womanhood over anything else as well.

When someone says they want to “protect the sanctity of womanhood” I need you to think about how people say they want to “protect the sanctity of marriage.” When people say that, they have a specific image in mind and it’s usually their own. They’re not protecting all marriage, just the marriage they like. This whole appropriation of womanhood nonsense is the same way.

They’re not protecting womanhood, just womanhood they like.

First the womanhood they prefer is gonna be cis womanhood. But then there’s gonna be the idea of a specific brand of cis womanhood. I can promise you in America at least, it’s gonna be a white conservative womanhood.

When you start assigning a moral value to something neutral like gender, you’re creating a hierarchy of good and bad. Cis womanhood is good because it’s better than trans womanhood. But you can be even better at ciswomanhood if you’re white, if you’re a good wife, if you’re raising kids. Because now that we’ve assigned morals, a right and wrong, we can now have a range of right and wrong, and we can now set up the Best Right Example to strive for.

This pride month if you cis people, esp white cis women, wanna be an ally to trans folk in a very scary political time, I need you to support all trans folk. Vocally. And I need you to understand the second you say there’s a “right” way to go about something completely neutral like gender, you’re opening the conversation to make separated classes of gender that are allowed to be treated differently because they’re not performing up to your arbitrary standards.

And not to treat trans folk like the canary in the coal mine, but if trans folk can be treated different because were not doing gender “right,” you’re not safe either.

#transgender #trans stuff #tiktok #queer #lgbtq #trans rights #queer rights #pride month

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jerseymuppet · 3 months

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no one ever makes those posts about cis women or masculine people who id as female or however that is appropriate to word and it really just choked me up that i love the freedom trans women get in womanhood and i wish it was extended to more us much sooner

i’m afab so i definitely understand the place you’re coming from. i hope you know that’s everything i said applies to all women, i just wanted to make sure our trans sisters felt loved and seen. it’s extra challenging and scary for them, especially with the way things are in the world right now, and it’s important to me to be vocal about how much i—and others—love them. but everything i said in that post applies to me and you as well. i love all women. i just think trans women definitely Need the affirmations and support.

#there’s freedom in womanhood for everyone. no one person gets it more or less #there’s no correct way to be a woman and the sooner we all accept that the stronger we will be #HOWEVER. MASC WOMEN AND FEMMES AND ALL WOMEN IN BETWEEN. I LOVE YOU.#maybe I’ll make a lil post for all my butches and such #jude.answers

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fretami · 1 year

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trans “””””girls””””””” will literally be like “omg i’m a girl now!!! i can make ironic sexist jokes now and it’s ok!!!” i mean go for it but you’re still a man making sexist jokes, objectifying jokes, using womanhood as a tools for infantilisation, sexualization, running away from responsibility, and running into your fantasies of your obsession with women as a hetero or bi man. absolutely objectifying women and appropriating the very word for us, feeling authority to make sexist jokes or call other men women etc

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rosiewitchescottage · 1 year

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Good to see Chloe being able to get her story out, to so many people. Because this is something that needs thinking about, a lot.

Listening to detransitioners does NOT automatically equal

“I don’t think that being trans is real.”

There’s no doubt that it certainly is real. But it’s also very specific.

Listen to people who have transitioned to living as the opposite sex full time, officially, and are clearly far more content and balanced this way.

There’s one common denomenator that comes up, again and again. Gender Dysphoria.

They have a mental health disorder, and this extremely drastic step is what has helped them, personally, to be able to live more comfortably, in their own bodies.

I’m delighted that it helps them.

There is absolutely zero shame in having a mental health disorder, none at all.

I know what it’s like to be messed around by your own mind. It’s not fun. And it sure as heck isn’t a cute and quirky ‘identity’ that you can just choose to wear, for whatever reason.

If you’re a man who feels a lot more feminine, and you express that by wearing make up and dresses, go right ahead, buddy.

I support your right to do it. You may always look like a man in a dress. But that’s fine. You’re being ‘You’. What other people think doesn’t matter a jot.

In fact, ask me to call you a girl’s name, to go with it, and I’ll happily oblige.

But there’s a line. This is simple self expression. It’s not the mode of treatment for a mental health disorder, that over time spent under the guidance of mental health professionals, you’ve identified as the one that’s likely to help you most.

You’re a man, a biological male. You’re more feminine than masculine, and that’s nothing to be ashamed of. You feel happiest in clothes most often worn by women. Go right ahead and wear them, honey.

Being masculine is a wonderful thing. But it’s in no way the be all and end all of manhood. You’re doing manhood your way. And that’s cool.

We can say likewise for my fellow ladies. Whether we’re talking butch lesbians/bi women, or tom boys who’ve grown up still preferring a more masculine self expression.

They’re still female women, doing it their own way. Femininity is wonderful. But it’s not the be all and end all of womanhood.

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There are way too many young people, like dear Chloe and others. Going to see mental health professions, looking for help, for answers.

They’re scared, confused, desperately miserable. For some reason, they just don’t feel ‘right’ in their bodies.

Now, they’ve heard all this talk about ‘being in the wrong sex body’, and they’ve seen how popular are the people who’ve come out as being that way.

Without any better answer, of course they might well latch onto that! What youngster in such a crisis could resist? The poor souls.

What they need is for these trained professionals to talk with them, to use all that training for the purpose it was meant for.

To help those with mental health disorders to identify the root cause of their troubles, and from there on find the most appropriate solution for each individual.

For a few, gender transition might well be that solution. And I hope it brings them the peace and joy they need.

But there are many other reasons why a boy or girl could have so deep an image and/or identity crisis.

Why are people so against professionals asking their patients questions?

So a male child/teen remains a boy, a girl child/teen remains a girl?

But he/she may have identified same sex attraction, and that it’s perfectly fine for him/her to accept and explore that part of him/herself.

There might be a diagnosis of Autism. And from then on learning how to live and learn with the unique way that his/her mind perceives the world.

Sadly. There might have turned out to be some kind of trauma or abuse in his/her young life. But now there’s help and support, to find a way to move forward and live.

I don’t doubt that there are others that I don’t know about as well.

Fine. They’re not transgender. But they know the true cause of their unhappiness. Why isn’t that enough?

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I’m a mum. My boys are coming out of the teens and heading into manhood. It would have broken my heart to see them struggle like this.

You can bet that I’d want any medical professional to do their job, and ask lots of questions.

I wouldn’t expect a scared boy to know precisely why he felt so bad. We’d have a professional there. A detective of sorts, my lad would have the clues. And the professional could piece them together, to find answers and potential solutions.

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I was in my late twenties when I was finally diagnosed with Generalised Anxiety Disorder. And I was scared and confused enough, about the mess in my own head. So what it’s like for a teenager, I shudder to think.

No one expected me, a grown woman to already know what I needed, and they only had to confirm what I said about myself. Thank God for that!

They asked questions, lots of questions. And using my answers, along with other tools at their disposal, they pieced together what my trouble was, and gave it a name.

I Want These Young People To Be Given The Same Relief That I Was.

No. What goes on in my head isn’t ‘normal’. But there are a lot of other people who are just the same as me. And it can be controlled and alleviated. That’s some of the best news I’ve heard in my life.

If a person actually is transgender, then surely, properly conducted therapy will reveal that?

But if there’s another cause for the image/identity crisis, then these people need to know what it is, or else we keep ending up with these harrowing tales, of nothing solved, and a whole range of new problems to deal with.

This ain’t progress, people. Not even close.

#youtube

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princessbubblegumandjustice · 3 years

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Pressure from non-binary people to include them in groups specifically for women, lesbianism, and women’s interests wreaks of entitlement.

They’re not women. They insist they’re not women, and differentiate themselves from us. That’s fine. The problem is that they feel like it’s appropriate to insert themselves into groups and relationships that don’t include them.

There’s a lot of discussion about how it isn’t fair women are expected to put their needs last and be accommodating to other people even at the expense of our wellbeing and comfort. Yet we’re expected to placate the feelings of people who unnecessarily insert themselves into exclusive spaces made by women, for women, and for women’s interests.

I do not care if they feel “connected” to womanhood. It’s not about connection. It’s not about proximity. It’s about what you are. And they are not women, plain and simple.

To be frank, it’s not even about you! If you’re not a woman, women’s groups aren’t about you or how you feel. We don’t need to take that into consideration.

If you’re going to differentiate yourself from women, you don’t get to turn around and access the exclusive groups we’ve made for ourselves. Especially not when there exists non-binary and coed groups that do include them, that apply to them, and where they are welcome.

This also applies to lesbianism. Lesbianism is for women. If you’re not a woman, you’re not a lesbian. It doesn’t matter if you’re a 13 year-old boy who thinks he’s a genius because he “likes girls too, so that makes (him) a lesbian” or if you’re a 38 year-old non-binary person. You’re not a lesbian. You’re also not sapphic or a WLW.

This post does not exclude trans women. You’re women.

#*womens advocacy #*nb #*original #*lgbt #*lesbophobia #*lesbian

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rumade · 2 years

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https://freedomnews.org.uk/2021/11/20/transgender-day-of-remembrance-2021/

Whether you’re an intersectional anarchist or a class war anarchist, the situation at the moment is very stark. The naked power of the state is being used directly to attack trans and nonbinary people. The naked power of the class system under capitalism is being used to attack trans and nonbinary people. The naked power of the social structure is being used to undermine, attack and, in some clear cases, aims to eradicate trans and nonbinary people altogether.

And if you are obsessed with the idea that trans existence is a middle class distraction ruminate on this. Trans is a racism issue because the row over trans girls doing sports in Texas in the USA is being used to bar Black African women from competing in the Olympics. Womanhood modelled on cis white Europeans is used to undermine all women. Trans is a class issue because the cost of top surgery is £6-9000 and we’re reaching saturation point for how many gofundme accounts the 0.3% of the population can fund. Working class trans people just don’t have the same options as celebrities or middle class people. Trans is a disability issue because people with complex physical and mental health issues are being denied appropriate healthcare ‘until the trans issue has been dealt with’.

Trans is an abolitionist issue because in prisons, psychiatric hospitals, elderly persons homes, youth offender units – gendered assumptions are being made how people will behave, about who is at risk, and what treatments they are entitled to. Trans is a matter of sexuality and gender because your body is being policed, your behaviour is being policed, all of us are being policed for our clothing choices, your toilet choices, your life, love, and relationship choices. Trans is an anarchist issue because when anarchists fail to make explicit in their leaflets, newspapers, websites and twitter accounts that they are trans Inclusive then trans and nonbinary people are put off squatting, antifascism, animal rights, prison & police abolition and a whole host of politics & analysis because we, trans and nonbinary people, cant assume that you’ll have our backs.

#trans rights #uk pol #LGBTQ #LGBT #trans

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