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impeccablebackside · 2 years
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Victoria and Plato for A, F, J, M, and S please.
Nice anon, nice. More Platoria involved stuff is never a bad thing, and you know I will never turn down an opportunity to go off about them. If you want more Plato specific stuff (that was basically all Platoria in all fairness), see my previous post. Anyway, this will further continue the trend of that post and all others on this blog that are about either of them:
A = Aftercare (What they’re like after sex)
Both of them are quite spent after they are finished fucking one another's brains out and serving their souls some good pleasure. Vic takes time to clean herself to return to the prim and proper queen she embodies, making sure her fur is back in order (and getting any cum out of it). Plato usually sits in a touch of quiet contemplation after, mostly because his mind is still levelling off from what he experienced. He almost always helps to clean her off once he floats back down to earth, and spends extra time cleaning her headfur becuase he cannot help kissing her over and over again. After the short time when they are both idle, Vic turns to watch Plato, who is always looking at her with a smitten love blazed across his face. No matter how many times he is intimate with her, he cannot believe he is the one she chooses to be with.
Whether it be pre- or post- sex, they both absolutely love the quiet time spent cuddling with one another. It fills both of them with an euphoria that they cannot get any other way. Being appreciated by someone else in such a close physical relationship makes Vic feel so special and safe. Particularly, Plato giving her head pats and rubbing her face makes her melt and the all held stress is unwound. Attention to her ears and the fur under eyes comforts Vic, and she gets sleepy. Sweet, affectionate kisses between the two of them alongside this elevate the aura of love. Curled up together with her man is her favourite place to be, and after sex they drift off content and wrapped in the warmth of each others arms.
F = Favorite Position (This goes without saying)
Vic's favourite positions are with her getting it when she is face down ass up on all fours, or where she is on her back, legs splayed open as much as possible. For both of these, she needs to be railed, and her man Plato always obliges. They tend to go at it in more adventurous positions as well, usually with Plato holding her off the ground and fucking her in his arms. When she is with Rumple, she likes to lay back and get lowkey worshipped, with Rumple's head firmly planted between her legs.
Plato's fave position is one where he can see Vic's face while they are fucking. They usually make direct eye contact and often kiss while they are intimate, seeing the excitement and pleasure in their looks as they go through it, and that always makes it even better for him. Otherwise, he does have a soft spot for sitting around her from behind with his head on her shoulders while he fingers her. That mix of intimacy and pleasure always gets him.
J = Jack Off (Masturbation headcanon)
Victoria is a gentle, teasing masturbator that slowly builds and edges herself with her own fingers over a period of time. Losing herself in the pleasure, taking time to enjoy every stroke and movement. She is mindful of giving her clit attention. Typically, she lays on her back, with her legs spread open, knees bent, and tail swishing thinking about being fucked by someone, or fantasizing about things she would like to try. Maybe how she wants to ride someone’s face or get pinned down and ravaged.
Plato typically jerks it only if he has to, and Vic is not around. He finds a very secluded spot in the junkyard as has at it, with the white queen heavy in his thoughts. Nothing special needed or anything, just privacy and a bit of time. Though, he is sometimes reduced to stroking himself while watching Vic put on a solo show for him, Vic and Rumple going at, or a mix that has teases thrown in for him. He cums right away every single time anyway, and is sometimes happy enough being the spectator.
M = Motivation (What turns them on, gets them going)
Vic gets turned on by the excitement and strength of Plato. When he lifts her up and touches her body, she gets aroused immediately. The want he has for her drives her crazy somedays, and she gets just a riled up at his lust for her. While Vic is the more dominant one in their relationship, when Plato gets that feral look in his eyes, and lifts her up, all that changes as she is gently manhandled. She relishes in it though, being wanted like that. Even though she is regal in some aspects, she usually likes being fucked with intent and treated less delicately. There are of course times for restraint and taking it in more slowly, but she is all for being made to be a ‘ragdoll’ to her lover. With Rumple, that same sense of excitement works her up, but it is a different feeling. Vic lets out her silly side and goes along with the rush of eagerness. She is more libel to do something considered 'risky' because of the other queen's influence.
For Plato, this was addressed in my previous post with alphabet prompts, so kindly read over that. However, expanding on those thoughts, Plato gets turned on quite a bit when seeing Vic flaunt herself, even if it is mostly unintentional. The grace she carries her body with gives him feels, and he loves seeing her from behind. He likes her ass. A lot. Otherwise, Vic is a masterful tease, and sometimes shows off a bit with little wiggles, eye contact, or leg spreading directed at her man that reduces him to a bumbling mess until he gets ahold of her later on.
S = Stamina (How many rounds can they go for, how long do they last)
Victoria and Plato both have an agreement that once is usually good enough, assuming they are tired enough afterwards. There is always tomorrow or later to get another round in if needed. Vic gets overstimulated fairly easily, so once her orgasm hits, she is already at her peak and stay sensitive for a while. Plato gets floaty after fucking Vic, and too much of a good thing will fry his brain more. They are cognizant enough to pace themselves when the horny strikes, especially since it is so often. They are well matched due to that, always ensuring that the other is comfortable and alright with everything.
However, when they get to chasing the bliss of pleasure, this can go by the wayside. Plato with dig himself in and keep thrusting into Vic after they both cum, chasing more pleasure and more moans out of her as she begs for more. Not too long after the first climax comes another mutual one that leaves them both utterly shattered and awash in a post nut love that is hard to match. After this, they take a deserved break. Two times in short succession is all they can handle.
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"how did you know he fell out of love?”
it started with his voice.
he had always been soft-spoken; honey voice laced with affection and a hint of excitement whenever he'd speak to me. even on days when he was feeling down, under the weather, there was always the fondness you could hear in his voice, loud and clear.
i stopped hearing it one day, i tried to convince myself that maybe i had just missed it, that i wasn't paying enough attention. 
of course, he was still soft-spoken but in a reserved manner. he spoke to me less and less as time went on. when we did speak, it was hard to miss the way his words came out sharper, and more direct. it was also hard to shake off that feeling in my gut when words of adoration were spoken in such a factual manner; facts he no longer believed himself. whispers and random outbursts of sweet-nothings were just that; nothing, in sincere. 
if he didn't believe his own words, why did i? i could feel the change in his voice deep down but i chose to conclude that he might have just had a bad day, a bad week. 
then it was his touch.
he was never one for public displays of affection, his methods of showing affection in public came with subtle actions; intertwining his fingers with mine, he had a habit of fiddling around with my fingers during conversations or whenever he had the opportunity. he preferred to show his love and affection behind closed doors, reserving those displays for you and your eyes only. 
i remember his touch always lasted a couple seconds too long, taking every second or nano-second so he could feel my skin under his for those last few moments. his touch that lingered a second too long became one that lasted a couple seconds too short. lacing our fingers together in public became linking arms. the touch he used to shower me with behind closed doors, physical acts of love and longing only continued to dwindle. 
i found myself longing for that feeling of physical closeness. longing for the warmth of his skin against my own that started to fall cold. 
then it was his eyes.
you could fit the universe inside those eyes of his. his iris' held the most beautiful array of colours. his eyes showed you what his words couldn't. 
when his eyes locked with my own, i was entranced by their beauty, the depth within them. i found myself falling deeper into the pools of infatuation, yearning and lust, getting lost inside this glimpse into his soul; a glimpse into the heart of the man i loved. 
it was through his eyes, that he made it apparent that his attention was focused on me during conversations. it was through his gaze that he showed me he was present, wholeheartedly listening and attentive to the words i was saying. 
eyes truly are the window into the soul, but i refused to believe what i saw in front of my own.
he tried to play off his increasing emotional detachment when he would gaze in my direction but his eyes stopped meeting mine. they looked everywhere instead of into my own. maybe he avoided my gaze to hide how his heart changed. to delay the inevitable.
i remember the moment when our eyes met; they were heavy and tired, lacking that spark of devotion. his eyes that gazed in my direction were hollow and distant. even though he was there with me physically, he was emotionally absent. 
those eyes that once drew me in, captivated me with those pools of love and devotion, the feelings of warmth and familiarity were now cold, unrecognizable.
then it was his smile.
his smile was the first thing that drew me in. his smile reached his eyes, sparkling whenever he flashed his toothy grin. i remember how his closed-lip smile turned into a wide, toothy grin that crinkled his eyes when i told him i loved him too. that same bright smile always brought me a sense of comfort and ease. as long as he was here with me, smiling down at me, everything would be okay.
that closed-lipped smile returned; it didn't exude the feeling of nervousness or apprehension that it held when he confessed his love that first time. it couldn't even be classified as a smile as he just pursed his lips together. it was a disingenuous attempt at the expression that failed to reach his eyes. 
his fabricated attempts at a genuine smile only mirrored his eyes.
his hollow, emotionless and unrecognizable eyes. that bright, toothy smile felt like a long-lost memory, i started to feel like maybe i imagined it, that it was a mere figment of my imagination.
eventually, i stopped hearing those three words and eight letters.  
the words he spoke into existence first. 
it started off with the words sprinkled in here and there; saying it when he held me in his arms and smiled down at me, those three words just slipping past his lips. as time passed, it became three words that came received in an occasional text message or words uttered in passing. soon after, the tone that accompanied those words made it seem like a chore, words that didn't leave his lips unless i said it first or pried it out of him. 
words that he said only to satisfy me, to get me to drop the topic instead of words he truly meant. 
those three words and eight letters that once had my heart beating out of my chest became the reason my heart ached. 
even with all of those hints, i ignored them. 
i ignored that way my stomach turned whenever he flashed me a half-hearted smile that failed to reach his eyes. 
i ignored the way my chest grew tight when his tone changed. when his tone slowly grew cold and biting, his words becoming more candid and blunt.
i ignored the way his kisses became brief, light pecks that lasted no more than a couple of seconds. 
i ignored the way the kisses were absent of your small, sincere whispers of affection afterwards. 
i ignored the way my heart dropped when i found myself chasing your lips once you pulled away. 
i ignored the way my body felt nauseous and squeamish with every change in your actions and your attitude towards me.
i ignored all of my gut feelings, the suspicions and the waves of heartache that plagued my mind, body and soul. 
i held onto that dimming light that appeared in your eyes once in a while, the smidgens of the love you once held for me. 
i held onto the bliss that came with the sight of your genuine smiles, even though they weren't directed at me.
i held onto your fleeting touches, hoping the more i thought of them the longer the effect would last.
i clung to what we once had, to the version of you that loved me as much as i loved you. 
i clung to the memories and hoped they would come back, that we would be able to recreate them. to create more memories together. 
i clung to the hope that maybe you would come back. that the man i fell in love with, who expressed his desire to build a future together would return. 
i held onto what we once had because my heart wasn't ready, i couldn't grasp the inevitable reality. instead, i chose to grasp onto a fantasy of what we once were, what we once wished to have together; an image of love i wanted for us. 
i persevered to hold onto an unattainable fantasy, an idea of you that no longer existed.  
i knew the end was just around the corner. the inevitable end i could only hold off for so long. no matter how hard i held on, i could feel you slipping through my fingers. 
regardless of how much it hurt to hold on to a person who no longer reciprocated what we once had for each other, it hurt more to embrace the impending reality of a future, a life devoid of you. 
i wasn't ready to let go of you just yet.
my heart wasn't ready to take the agony, the suffering that came with losing you. i wasn't ready to experience the worst heartbreak of my life, losing someone i associated with the word forever. i didn't want to grieve over what once was, reminiscing on past memories with the one that got away. 
the inevitable development of our relationship was one i couldn't even fathom; lovers to strangers.
strangers that know too much about each other. strangers that hold too much history together to even be classified as such. 
the impending feeling of a bitter end was all too familiar, it was just within my grasp but i couldn't let him go just yet. 
so i pushed away my stoic observations, the ache in my heart, the feelings in my gut and chose to play the fool. the angst of denial was a mere papercut in comparison to the feeling of my world being swept out from under my feet, the feeling of agony that would eventually plague me as a whole; starting from my heart and spreading throughout. 
i chose to ignore the inevitable end with bitter denial.
the pain of holding on felt worth it if it meant you were mine; even if those last few fleeting moments of reciprocated love were all in my head.
it was worth it if it meant i could be yours just a second longer.
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bluewatsons · 4 years
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Elaine Hatfield et al., A brief history of social scientists’ attempts to measure passionate love, 29 J Soc & Pers Relationships 143 (2012)
Abstract
The concept of passionate love has a long history, yet it was not until the 1940s that social scientists created tools designed to measure this emotion. Over the next 60 years, numerous scales of romantic and passionate love were created and tested. Currently, however, there exists no single compendium of existing scales. This paper attempts to fill in the missing information on existing love scales by providing a list of 33 different measures and indicating where each scale’s reliability and validity information can be found. We close by attempting to explain how scholars’ conceptions of the nature of love have changed over the years, and how these historical and scientific changes are reflected in the scales designed to measure passionate love.
For more than 5000 years, poets, writers, and troubadours have sung of the delights and sufferings of love and lust. When the Sumerians invented writing around 3500 BCE, one of the first topics they wrote about was passionate love. Buried among the Sumerians’ clay tablets was history’s oldest known love letter – a poem dedicated to King Shu-Sin by one of his chosen brides. She wrote: “Bridegroom, let me caress you. My precious caress is more savory than honey” (Arsu, 2006). Passionate love and sexual desire possess a very long and distinguished lineage.
Beginning in the 1940s, social scientists began crafting ways to measure this emotion (sometimes called passionate love, romantic love, puppy love, deficiency love, being in love versus loving, limerence, and the like). A few of the pioneering measures were casually constructed. They read a bit like the slap-dash “scales” readers confront in Cosmopolitan or Glamour. (Those who constructed the scales provided little or no information as to their theoretical rationale or the scales’ reliability and validity). Most, however, were well conceived and utilized (then) sophisticated psychometric techniques in their construction. What has become of these measures? Alas, many of them have been lost in the mists of time.
Scientists interested in assessing attitudes, personality, emotion, or occupational aptitude and achievement can often turn to yearbooks or handbooks to find a vast collection of potentially relevant scales. Not so with passionate love scales and related constructs. In spite of the intense interest in such measures, strangely enough, no single compendium exists that would allow scholars to sort through and choose among existing scales. True, a few passionate love scales appear in publications such as the Buros’ Mental measurement yearbook (Geisinger, Spies, Carlson, & Plake, 2007), the Handbook of family-measurement techniques (Touliatos, Perlmutter, & Straus, 1990), or the Handbook of sexually related measures (Fisher, Davis, Yaber, & Davis, 2009), but only a few. It is difficult to ferret out these measures. There are several reasons for this. Firstly, it is difficult to find the authors and names of these scales. GoogleScholar allows one to access only a few of these measures. Once we know the scale’s name, it is often difficult to find a reference to the original scale and to secure a copy. We may find dozens of references to studies that have used the scale, but no information as to where one can find the scale itself, much less information as to the scale’s reliability and validity, and critiques of the scale. Descriptions of these scales are usually scattered throughout a number of journals, and published in an array of disciplines (clinical psychology, social psychology, sociology, marriage and family courses, and the like).
In this paper, we will attempt to fill in this missing information. We will (1) provide a list of the authors and names of 33 different measures of passionate love; (2) indicate where a copy of the scales can be found (if indeed published accounts are available); and (3) point the way to sources where the latest information as to the reliability and validity of these measures (as well as serious critiques), can be found. We hope that this list will be useful to researchers who may be interested in the history of love measures, who wish to critique existing measures, who wish to survey existing measures in order to choose the best available measure for their research projects, or who wish to avoid wasting time constructing passionate love measures of their own, when an abundance of perfectly good measures are already available. We will close by pointing out how scholars’ conceptions as to the nature of love have changed over the years, and how these historical and scientific changes are reflected in the scales designed to measure this concept.
Definition of passionate love
For the purposes of this paper, we will define passionate love as follows.
A state of intense longing for union with another.
A complex functional whole including appraisals or appreciations, subjective feelings, expressions, patterned physiological processes, action tendencies, and instrumental behaviors. Reciprocated love (union with the other) is associated with fulfillment and ecstasy; unrequited love (separation) is associated with emptiness, anxiety, or despair (Hatfield & Sprecher, 2010).
Scientists have given many names to this kind of love. For simplicity’s sake, we will label these constructs collectively as “passionate love.” Sex researchers tend to use the terms “passionate love” and “sexual desire” almost interchangeably. This is not surprising given that passionate love is defined as a “longing for union,” while sexual desire can be defined as a “longing for sexual union.”
Collecting scales designed to measure passionate love (1940 to the present)
Method
We first attempted to collect all the measures of passionate love that we could find. In order to do this, we engaged in the following bits of detective work. We first contacted pioneers in love research, as well as scholars who were currently conducting research on romantic attraction, mating, and personal relationships, and asked them for leads. We discovered three scholars who had assembled lists of such scales – George A Parks, University of Washington, who provided a mimeographed copy of “The measurement of love: A bibliography,” which he had constructed in April of 1991 for his graduate class in personal relationships. We also found a text by Oliver CSTzeng (1993) on the Measurement of love and intimate relations and an article by Fehr (1994), both of which contained a few additional scales. Our next step was to personally contact all the scholars who had attempted to construct such scales and ask for information about the construction of their scales and up-to-date information as to their scales’ reliability and validity and any existing critiques with which they were familiar. (Naturally, given the time span of our survey, a number of these psychometricians were deceased, ill, or otherwise unavailable). We also conducted computer searches of the terms “passionate love”, “puppy love,” “romantic love,” “infatuation,” “desperate love,” “obsessive love,” “limerence,” “eros”, “mania,”“being in love,” and so forth, utilizing the PsycINFO database (American Psychological Association, 1967–2010) and MEDLINE (National Library of Medicine, 1966–2010) and search engines such as Google, GoogleScholar, Safari, Explorer, and Netscape. In the end, we were able to identify 72 potential measures.
We then read the original articles introducing the scale, studies by scholars who had utilized the scales in research, critics of the various scales’ methodology, and supplementary publications dealing with these measures. This allowed us to narrow our list of measures to those that actually attempted to measure attitudes toward passionate love or the cognitive, emotional, or behavioral indicants of such love and the intensity of that love, rather than some related construct (such as companionate love, liking, intimacy, or relationship stability). Finally, we constructed a list of these measures, and wrote to the original authors, their collaborators, critics, and secondary users of the scale, asking the following.
Do you know the name of any measures of the various kinds of romantic love that we have omitted from our list?
Have we used the appropriate name for your love scale? (Scholars often used slightly different names at different times.)
Where can we find the latest published version(s) of your love scale? (Please indicate cost if applicable.)
Have we correctly described what YOU hoped to measure with this love scale?
Where can scholars find up-to-date information on the reliability and validity of this scale? We would be especially interested in any critiques of this scale with which you are familiar.
When all was said and done, we were able to identify 33 scales that assessed the kinds of people who tend to be most susceptible to love, attitudes toward passionate love, or the cognitive, emotional, and behavioral characteristics associated with this form of love and/or the intensity of love. Surely more exist, but we have been unable to find them.
The pioneer in attempting to assess attitudes toward romantic love was Llewellyn Gross (1944), a University of Buffalo sociologist. In an attempt to discover a Romantic Cultural Pattern in visions of love, Gross sorted through articles written by sociologists, attended movies, collected popular songs, and listened to radio “soap operas,” and other cultural artifacts. Even by today’s strict standards, Gross’s work is quite sophisticated psychometrically; his scale was artfully and rigorously constructed. He began with 240 statements expressing either a Romantic or Realistic sentiment. After a great deal of pretesting, he whittled these items down to an 80-item scale, designed to measure a Romantic Cultural Pattern versus its opposite, a Realist Cultural Pattern. The two scales contain such items as (Romanticism) “The impetuous person makes the best kind of sweetheart,” versus (Realism) “It is questionable whether there is any love strong enough to overcome the passing of time.” Respondents were instructed to check those statements with which they agreed. The extent to which college men and women possessed a Romantic view was calculated by summing the number of Romantic items checked minus the number of Realistic items checked. Gross (1944) provided considerable evidence that his scale was indeed a reliable and valid one.
More scales followed.
Scales 1
Llewellyn Gross (1944): Sociology
Attitudes Toward Romanticism Scale
Designed to assess people’s tendency to possess a romantic versus a realistic view of love relationships (80 items).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Gross (1944; this article contains 16 items of the 80-item scale).
Charles W. Hobart (1958): Sociology
A Romanticism Scale
Hobart attempted to construct a short (12-item) version of the Gross Attitudes Toward Romanticism Scale, with a simplified (Agree or Disagree) scoring system. It measures the extent to which one endorses romantic beliefs such as “To be truly in love is to be in love forever.”
For information on the shorter scales’ reliability and validity, see Hobart (1958; article contains the 12-item scale).
Dwight Dean (1961, 1964): Sociology
Romanticism Scale
Designed to measure the extent to which people think romantic love is of primary importance in a relationship and all other considerations are unimportant. Consists of a 16-item scale gauging attitudes toward romantic love, a six-item scale of emotions and feelings associated with love, and a 21-item scale assessing subjective experiences when in love.
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Dean (1961 (the 32-item in the Romanticism scale did not appear in this article),1964) and Spanier (1972; the 32-item Dean Romanticism Scale is not included in this paper).
Clifford H. Swensen (1961); revised scale: C. H. Swensen, M. Killlough, J. W. Nelson, & D. Dunlap (1992): Psychology
The Scale of Feelings and Behavior of Love
Designed to identify the patterns of behavior and feelings people exhibit and experience in their love relationships. Among the things assessed are the verbal, material, and physical expressions of love; shared values, outlooks, and activities; and self-disclosure; considerateness and a willingness to forgive flaws (383 items).
For information on the scale’s ity, see Swensen (1961 (contains only a few sample items of the 383 item scale), 1990 (describes the history of the scale and contains a few of the revised 120-item scale items), Swensen and Gilner (1964) and Swensen et al. (1992; contains the 383-item revised scale) (for a critique of this measure, see Swensen and Fuller, 1992).
Ira L. Reiss (1964a, b, 1967): Sociology
The Reiss Romantic Love Scale
Designed to measure beliefs concerning the nature of romantic love. Allows one to assess the relationship between love and sexual permissiveness (12 items).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Reiss (1967 (the scale is discussed on pp. 45–53 and pp. 78–81, while the eight-item love scale appears on p. 77), 1976).
Ronald P. Hattis (1965): Medicine and public health
Hattis Love Scale
Designed to measure people’s feelings of love. It measures six components of love – pride in partner, warm feelings for a partner, erotic feelings for partner, a desire for love in return, feelings of closeness and intimacy, including even occasional feelings of hostility (24 items).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Hattis (1965; this article contains the 24-item scale) or Pam, Plutchik, and Conte (1975).
Everett L. Shostrom (1966, 1970): Clinical and humanistic psychology
Pair Attraction Inventory and the Caring Relationships Inventory
The Pair Attraction Inventory (PAI) is designed to measure men and women’s attitudes and feelings toward their partners and their relationship. The Caring Relationships Inventory (CRI) is designed to measure five elements of love – affection, friendship, eros, empathy, and self-love (83 items).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Shostrom (1980a,b; the 83-item CRI and the 224-item PAI are available from EdITS, P. O. Box 7234, San Diego, CA) (for a critique of this measure, see Shostrom, 1972).
William M. Kephart (1967): Sociology
Romantic Love Scale
Designed to measure characteristics of romantic love – cultural status, mysticism, love at first sight, cardiac-respiratory love, complete involvement and exclusiveness, daydreaming, jealousy, centrality and urgency.
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Kephart (1967, 1973; scale available from author).
David H. Knox and Michael J. Sporakowski (1968): Sociology
A Love Attitudes Inventory
Designed to measure romantic versus conjugal love, they argue that romantic love is characterized by excitement, arousal, and urgency (original scale 85 items; revision 30 items).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Fehr (1994), Knox (1970, 1971; presents the entire 30-item scale) and Knox and Sporakowski (1968; contains 29 of the original 85-item Attitudes Toward Love scale).
E. J. Kanin, K. R. Davidson, & S. R. Scheck (1970)
Love Reactions Measure
Designed to measure the extent to which lovers experience intense passionate reactions when in love (8 items).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Fehr (1994).
Zick Rubin (1970): Psychology and law
Love and Liking Scales
Designed to measure romantic love and liking.
The scale is designed to measure three components of romantic love: affiliative and dependent needs, a predisposition to help, and an orientation of exclusiveness and absorption. The Love scale possesses a few items designed to assess romantic love, but is generally it is considered to be primarily a measure of companionate love (12 items).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Fehr (1994) andGraham and Christiansen (2009) (for a critique of this measure, see Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986; Kelley, 1983).
Charles B. Spaulding (1970): Sociology
Romantic Love Complex
Designed to measure beliefs about love (11 items, four of which overlap with Hobart’s scale). For information on the reliability and validity of this measure see Fehr (1994) and Spaulding (1970).
Karen K. Dion and Kenneth L. Dion (1973): Psychology
Romantic Love Questionnaire
Designed to measure several parameters of romantic love: (1) people’s attitudes toward romantic love; (2) their subjective emotional experiences when in love; and (3) the frequency, duration, and intensity of their romantic experiences (consists of a 16-item scale gauging attitudes toward romantic love, a six-item scale of emotions and feelings associated with love, and a 21-item scale assessing respondents’ subjective experiences when in love).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Dion and Dion (1973, 1975) and Fehr (1994) (for a critique of this measure, see Hendrick & Hendrick, 1989).
Panos D. Bardis (1974, 1978): Sociology
Erotometer and Orpheus-Eurydice, Zeus, Penelope Typology
Designed to measure attitudes toward heterosexual love (50 items).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Bardis (1974,1978).
Alfred P. Fengler (1974): Sociology
Romantic Idealism
Deigned to assess romantic idealism versus realism (six items). For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Fehr (1994) and Fengler (1974).
John Alan Lee (1974): Sociology
The Styles of Loving Scale
Designed to measure eight possible love styles: eros, ludis, storge, mania, ludic eros, storgic eros, storgic ludis, or pragma (35 items).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Lee (1974; this article contains the 35-item Styles of Love Scale).
Thomas E. Lasswell and Marcia E. Lasswell (1976): Sociology and psychology
The SAMPLE Profile
For a later, more popular version see Lasswell and Lobsenz (1980).
This profile is so named for the initial letter of six scales. Based on John Lee’s (1973) earlier scale, the authors attempted to isolate six distinct concepts of love: storge, agape, mania, pragma, ludis, and eros (53 items).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Lasswell and Lasswell (1976; the 53-item Profiles of Personal Concepts of Loving scale is included in this article) and Lasswell and Lobsenz (1980).
Brenda E. Munro and Gerald R. Adams (1978a, b): Sociology
Love Attitudes Scale
This scale is comprised of three subscales: Romantic Power, Romantic Idealist, and a Conjugal-Relational view (26 items.)
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Fehr (1994) and Munro and Adams (1978a, b).
Dorothy Tennov (1979): Psychology
Limerence
Scale designed to assess limerence (or passionate love.)
For reliability and validity information see Tennov (1979). Her “scale” consists entirely of material from books, poetry, plays, and readers’ letters to demonstrate that the many characteristics of limerence (or passionate love), such as idealization, shyness, swings from joy to despair, obsessive thinking, and fear of rejection, are cultural universals (for a critique of this measure, see Reynolds, 1983).
Harold Bessell (1981): Clinical psychology and sex therapy
The Romantic Attraction Questionnaire
Designed to measure romantic chemistry (60 items.)
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Bessell (1981). Scales are available in Bessell and Hurlburt (2004; for a critique of this measure, see Reynolds, 1983).
Eugene W. Mathes (1982): Psychology
The Romantic Love Symptom Checklist
Designed to measure the extent to which men and women display the feelings that are elicited by thoughts of their romantic partner (76 items).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Mathes (1982; the 76-item true or false measure is available from author) and Mathes and Severa (1981).
David H. Olson, D. G. Fournier, and J. M. Druckman (1985): Family social psychology
PREPARE-ENRICH Program—Enriching and nurturing relationship issues, communication, and happiness
This scale is designed as a diagnostic tool for couples see king marriage counseling. It is designed to assess three aspects of love relationships – personal issues, interpersonal issues, and external issues. A number of items measure constructs related to passionate love (12 categories and 125 items).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Tzeng (1993) and Life Innovations: www.prepare-enrich.com (for a critique of this measure, see Bowling, Hill, and Jencius, 2005).
Michael B. Sperling (1985): Psychology
Desperate Love Scale
Designed to measure the extent to which men and women are susceptible to desperate love, which is said to be characterized by narcissism, idealization, neediness, anxious attachment, diffuse interpersonal boundaries, and an insatiable desire for love (eight items).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Sperling (1985; questionnaire available from author).
Elaine Hatfield and Susan Sprecher (1986): Psychology and sociology
Passionate Love Scale
Designed to assess the cognitive, physiological, and behavioral indicants of passionate love (the scale comes in two parallel versions – a 15-item and a 30-item scale).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Fehr (1994), Graham and Christiansen (2009) and Hatfield and Sprecher (2010). [See The Most Popular Scales for more details.] (For a critique of this measure, see Fehr, 1994, Hendrick & Hendrick, 1989; Landis & O’Shea, 2000.)
Clyde Hendrick and Susan Hendrick (1986; Hendrick, Hendrick, & Dicke, 1998): Psychology
Love Attitudes Scale and the Love Attitudes Scale: Short Form
Designed to measure six types of love – eros, ludus, storge, pragma, mania, and agape. Two types of love (eros and mania) see m most closely related to passionate love (the eros and mania measures consist of four items each; the entire questionnaire consists of 24 items).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Graham and Christiansen (2009) and Hendrick and Hendrick (1986 (original version of the scale – article contains the 42-item Love Attitudes Scale), 1989). [See The Most Popular Scales for more details.]
Keith E. Davis and H. Latty-Mann (1987; Davis, 2001): Psychology
The Relationship Rating Form: A measure of the characteristics of romantic relationships and friendships
Designed to measure seven global characteristics (viability, intimacy, passion, care, global satisfaction, commitment, and conflict/ambivalence) and 20 facets of romantic relationships and friendships. One factor (passion) see ms most related to passionate love (there is a brief 16-item version and an original 68-item version).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Davis (2001) and Davis and Latty-Mann (1987). The original 68-item scale and the newer, brief 16-item version are available on the author’s University of South Carolina webpage and via http://people.cas.sc.edu/daviske/LoveFriendsMeasure_rrf.pdf (for a critique of this measure, see Hendrick & Hendrick, 1989).
Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver (1987): Developmental psychology
General Relationship Attitudes
Designed to assess three types of romantic attachments: avoidant, anxious-ambivalent, and secure attachments. Although technically the General Relationship Attitudes (GRA) is a precursor of passionate love (and not a measure of passionate love), two love styles (anxious-attachment and secure love styles) see m closely linked to passionate love.
Initially, the three love styles were each assessed via a one-item scale. In response to psychometric critiques, a number of attachment researchers developed a variety of scales to measure the construct. Other scholars have proposed that people possess four, five, or even six attachment styles (see Bartholomew & Horowitz, 1991; Charania & Ickes, 2007; Hatfield & Rapson, 2005, 2010; Hazan & Shaver, 1987; Latty-Mann & Davis, 1996 for a description of these various perspectives – all based on the original Hazan and Shaver work). In an attempt to reconcile these differences, Brennan, Clark, and Shaver (1998) conducted a large-sample factor-analytic study in which all known self-report measures were included in a single analysis. The authors found 12 specific-construct factors that, when factored, formed two more global factors – 45-degree rotations of the dimensions of Anxiety and Avoidance. Currently, the authors recommend that researchers use the Brennan et al. (1998) 36-item measures or (if preferred) one of the other two-dimensional measures constructed by Collins and Read (1990, 1994), Feeney, Noller, and Hanrahan, (1994), Fraley and Waller (1998), Fraley, Waller, and Brennan (2000), and Simpson, and Rholes (1998) (see Brennan et al., 1998). See http://internal.psychology.illinois.edu/∽rcfraley/measures/measures.html for a discussion of these alternate measures of the original Hazan and Shaver (1987) construct.
Regardless of the version of the scales used, over the decades, scholars have discovered that – in a wide variety of cultures and ethnic groups, and among people of different ages and sexual orientations – people’s attachment styles have been found to have a profound impact on men’s and women’s romantic preferences, their comfort when facing serious romantic commitments, the dynamics of romantic and marital relationships, and how they react when romantic and marital relationships fall apart (for a summary of this vast literature, see Hatfield & Rapson, 2009).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Tzeng (1993).
Susan Sprecher and Sandra Metts (1989): Sociology and communication
Romantic Beliefs Scale
Designed to assess an ideology of romanticism, this scale assesses four beliefs: Love Finds a Way, One and Only, Idealization, and Love at First Sight (15 items).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Fehr (1994) and Sprecher and Metts (1989; contains the 15-item Romantic Beliefs Scale) (for a critique of this measure, see Weaver & Canong, 2004).
Elaine Hatfield and Richard L. Rapson (1993, 2005): Psychology and history
Love Schemas Scale
Designed to measure six love styles, based on an extension of the Hazan and Shaver model: clingy, secure, skittish, fickle, casual, and uninterested. One type (clingy) see ms most closely related to passionate love (one item in a three-item scale).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Hatfield and Rapson (2010) (for a critique of this measure, see Stephan & Bachman, 1999).
Arthur Aron and Lori Westbay (1996)
Prototype of Love Scale
Based on the pioneering work of Fehr (1988) and Fehr and Russell (1991), the authors developed a scale designed to measure people’s conceptions of love and the extent to which they experienced passion, intimacy, and commitment in their own relationships (five items assess passion in a 15-item scale).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Aron and Westbay (1996), Fehr (1988), and Fehr and Russell (1991).
Robert Sternberg (1997): Cognitive psychology
Triangular Theory of Love Scale
Sternberg argues that different kinds of love differ in how much of three different components – passion, intimacy, and decision/commitment to stay together – they possess. Passionate love (which he labels infatuation) involves intense passionate arousal but little intimacy or commitment (15 items of a 45-item scale).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Graham and Christiansen (2009) and Sternberg (1997). [See The Most Popular Scales for more details.] (For critiques of this measure, see Aron & Westbay, 1996; Hendrick & Hendrick, 1989; Tzeng, 1993.)
Félix Neto and Etienne Mullet (2002): Psychology
The Romantic Acts Questionnaire
Designed to assess the importance attributed to romantic acts (such as kindness, trust, and sexual acts) by Portuguese and Cape Verdean peoples (nine items of a 28-item Romantic Acts Questionnaire).
For information on reliability and validity see Neto and Mullet (2002; article contains the nine-item Romantic Acts Questionnaire) and Neto, Mullet, and Barros (2003).
Helen Fisher (2004): Anthropology and neuroscience
Being in Love: A Questionnaire
Designed to measure infatuation, passionate love, and romantic love (54 items).
For information on the scale’s reliability and validity, see Fisher (2004).
The changing face of passionate love measures
If one reads through the articles containing descriptions of the preceding passionate love scales (in temporal order), several trends jump out.
Interest in passionate love has burgeoned
When Ellen Berscheid and Elaine Hatfield (1969) wrote Interpersonal attraction, the first social psychology textbook to contain a chapter on romantic love, they discovered that almost no social psychological research on passionate love had been conducted. They were forced to speculate about the nature of love with little or no data – and (sadly or happily, depending upon your own point of view) precious little experience of their own to guide them.
What a change has occurred in 40+ years! Today, scholars from a wide variety of theoretical disciplines – anthropologists, clinical psychology, communication studies, developmental psychology, evolutionary psychologists, historians, neurobiologists, neuroscientists, primatologists, social psychologists, and sociologists, among others – are attempting to understand the nature of love. They are employing an impressive array of new techniques. Primatologists are studying primates in the wild and in captivity. Neuroscientists are pouring over functional magnetic resonance images (fMRIs). Historians are now studying history from the “bottom up” rather than the “top down,” generally examining the lives not of kings and queens but of the majority of people. They utilize demographic data (marriage, birth, divorce, and death records), architecture, medical manuals, paintings, church edicts, law cases, songs, and the occasional treasure of a diary that turns up in someone’s attic. Anthropologists go out into the field or track down early ethnographic records. People from a variety of fields now study not just passionate love, but many types of love, commitment, and relationship satisfaction (see Hatfield & Rapson, 1993;Reis, 2009; Reis and Sprecher, 2009).
Passionate love is now assumed to be a universal emotion/motivation
Early sociologists assumed passionate love was a Western phenomenon. As Goode (1959) observed: “The implicit understanding [among sociologists] see ms to be that love as a pattern is found only in the United States” (p. 40). Sociologists possessed a rather dim view of this “Western” phenomenon. Many lamented the fact that young Americans tended to choose life partners on the basis of flimsy, transient emotions, such as romantic love and sexual desire. Generally, these sociologists found wisdom in more traditional societies, where marriage stood on a more solid foundation of community and familial approval.
Hobart (1958) observed:
Sociological interest was first focused on this subject by E. W. Burgess in his classic paper on “The Romantic Impulse and Family Disorganization,” in which he emphasized the dysfunctions of romanticism for the family.
Willard Waller, who stressed the irresponsible pleasure-see king aspects of the rating-dating complex, saw idealization and romanticization as a natural response to blocking of the sex drive. He conceived of unrealistic romantic love as “the anesthetic which renders the amputation of our cherished habits [of “blessed singleness”] painless,” in marriage.
... Parsons see s adolescent romantic love as part of a more general tendency in a youth subculture to behave in unconventional, irresponsible, unrealistic ways... (p. 362).
Looking back, these views appear somewhat provincial and prudish, for today the notion that passionate love is a cultural universal is so embedded in our scholarly consciousness that it see ms almost a part of researchers’ DNA. Evolutionary theorists, such as Barkow, Cosmides, and Tooby (1992) and Buss (1994), argue that a desire for love and sex is instilled in the architecture of the mind – so critical is it to the transmission of one’s genetic heritage to the next generation. Neuroscientists, such as Bartels and Zeki (2000) and Fisher (2004), use the Passionate Love Scale (PLS) (Hatfield & Sprecher, 1986) to identify lovers and search for the brain structures where this universal emotion is lodged.
Anthropologists, too, have begun to document the universality of these “feelings of the heart.” William Jankowiak and Edward Fischer (1992), for example, studied men’s and women’s feelings in a collection of tribal societies. They selected 166 hunting, foraging, and agricultural societies from the Standard Cross-Cultural Sample, which provides comprehensive information on 186 cultures from six distinct geographical regions. In only one of the 166 societies did the resident anthropologist state that there was no evidence of passionate love. The scientists could find no evidence one way or another as to whether or not passionate love existed in 18 of the societies. In 147 of the 166 societies, people showed definite scars from Cupid’s arrows. In all of these far-flung societies, young lovers talked about passionate love, recounted tales of love, sang songs of love and longing, and talked endlessly about the cravings and anguish of infatuation. When the adolescents’ passionate affections clashed with their parents’ or elders’ wishes, sometimes they even eloped. The authors concluded that romantic love may well be a pan-human characteristic. They admitted, however, that there may be cultural variability in how common such heart-pounding, sweaty-palmed feelings are. Historians, for example, have pointed out that religious and political prohibitions against the greatest forms of social subversiveness – individualism, passionate love, and sexual desire – can effectively dampen biologically universal passions (Stone, 1977).
As a consequence, today scholars are busily translating existing measures of passionate love into a variety of languages and administering the scales in a variety of far-flung cultures (Hatfield & Rapson, 2005; Neto et al., 2000). The study of passionate love is no longer in the closet.
Over the decades, definitions of passionate love have broadened and deepened
In the early days, theorists tended to view love from a narrow theoretical perspective. They tended to define love as an attitude OR an emotion OR as a physiological response OR as intimacy see king behavior. In Interpersonal attraction, Berscheid and Hatfield (1969) defined romantic love very narrowly – as a positive attitude toward another – very much like friendship only more intense.
In the 1970s, however, as sociobiological and evolutionary psychology perspectives gained currency, social psychologists came to think of emotions as integrated wholes. As a consequence, conceptions of love began to become increasingly inclusive. The reader may have noticed that the working definition of passionate love we adopted in this paper is broad indeed:
A complex functional whole including appraisals or appreciations, subjective feelings, expressions, patterned physiological processes, action tendencies, and instrumental behaviors.
Scholars from a variety of disciplines now recognize passionate love as of critical importance, and in consequence they have begun to develop and utilize scales designed to measure various aspects of this construct. A look at today’s most popular scales makes it clear that a firm theoretical vision guides scale construction and that the scales are designed to assess cognitive, emotional, and behavioral components of love. They are also designed to assess the personality of lovers and the varieties of love that may exist.
These facts have had a profound impact on the development of modern-day passionate love scales
Sociologists pioneered the development of passionate love scales.
The very first passionate love scales (in the 1940s and 1950s) were conceived by sociologists teaching large marriage and the family classes.
By 1985 change was in the wind. As Hendrick and Hendrick (1986) noted: “During the past decade, love has become respectable as an area for study by psychologists” (p. 392). Scholars were moving from a narrow sociological focus on romantic love as a prelude to marriage (preferably a happy or at least stable marriage) to an interest in understanding the nature of love, in and of itself. As we observed, there is a new emphasis on theory building. What do men and women mean by love? Whom do they love? Why do they love? What is the nature of that love? How intensely do men and women love? What are the behavioral consequences of that love? Currently, scales exist to tap all those interests.
If modern-day scales are to be accepted, they must display more psychometric sophistication.
When we examine the earliest scales, we find that although they attempted to conform to the (then) ideal psychometric standards, modern-day psychometricians would judge them to fall far short of the sophisticated standards now considered the sine qua non of publication. The later scales remedy those defects.
The most popular scales
Today, the most commonly used scales of passionate love measures (see Graham & Christiansen, 2009; Masuda, 2003) are one that assesses people’s attitudes toward love (Hendrick & Hendrick’s Love Attitudes Scale) and two that directly assess people’s feelings of love, in and of itself (Hatfield and Sprecher’s PLS and Sternberg’s Triangular Love Scale).
Attitudes toward love
Love Attitudes Scale
John Alan Lee (1973) proposed that when men and women think of “love,” they might be thinking of characteristics of any of six types of love: Mania (possessive, dependent love), Eros (passionate love), Pragma (logical, “shopping list” love), Storge (friendship love), Ludus (game-playing love), or Agape (all-giving, selfless love) (both Pragma and Storge sound a bit like companionate love; both Eros and Mania sound a bit like passionate love). In 1986, Clyde Hendrick and Susan Hendrick developed a carefully crafted a 42-item scale to tap these six varieties of love. Eros, for example, contains such items as “My partner and I were attracted to each other immediately after we first met.” Possible responses range from 1 = strongly agree to 5 = strongly disagree.
In the decades since the introduction of the scale, Hendrick and Hendrick and their colleagues have collected a great deal of evidence that the Love Attitudes Scale (or Love Styles Scale) is indeed a reliable and valid scale (see Hendrick & Hendrick, 1986, 1989, 1990 (a new revision of the scale);Hendrick et al., 1998). A brief version of scale was developed, the Love Attitudes Scale: Short Form (Hendrick et al., 1998). This 24-item scale has strong psychometric properties and appears to measure the six varieties of love as well as does the longer version.
Over the years, scholars have begun to use the scale as both a measure of people’s attitudes toward love and a measure of their experience in love.
The emotion of passionate love
Triangular Theory of Love Scale
Robert Sternberg (1988) outlined a triangular model of love. He argued that different kinds of love differ in the extent to which they contain the three basic ingredients of love – passion, intimacy, and the decision and commitment to stay together (see Figure 1).
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Figure 1. The Triangular Model of Love. Sternberg (1988), p. 122.
As you can see from Figure 1, three kinds of love each offer just one main asset: Passionate love (which Sternberg labeled “infatuation”), which thrives on passion (but promises little commitment or intimacy). Empty love involves the decision to stay committed, but little else. Liking provides intimacy alone. On the other hand, other kinds of love provide more than one asset. Companionate love offers more. It may be lacking in passion, but it provides a great deal of intimacy and commitment. Romantic Love provides both intimacy and passion. Fatuous love involves passion and commitment. Consummate love is the most complete form of love. It has it all: passion, intimacy, and commitment.
The Triangular Theory of Love Scale (TLS) consists of 45 items designed to assess the three components: passion, intimacy, and commitment. It consists of statements such as “Just see ing ____ excites me,” and “I find myself thinking about ___ during the day.” Possible answers are indicated on a nine-point unidirectional Likert scale, ranging from 1 = “Not at all,” to 9 = “Extremely.”
A great deal of evidence exists to indicate that the TLS is a fine predictor of people’s romantic attitudes, emotions, and behavior. For information on the reliability and validity of this scale, see Sternberg (1997) or Tzeng (1993). For a critique of the Sternberg scales, see Aron and Westbay (1996).
The Passionate Love Scale
The PLS was designed to assess the cognitive, physiological, and behavioral indicants of passionate love (Hatfield & Sprecher, 1986). The cognitive components consist of (1) intrusive thinking or preoccupation with the partner; (2) idealization of the other or of the relationship; (3) desire to know the other and be known by him/her. Emotional components consist of (1) attraction to the partner, especially sexual attraction; (2) positive feelings when things go well; (3) negative feelings when things go awry; (4) longing for reciprocity – passionate lovers not only love, but they want to be loved in return; (5) desire for complete and permanent union; and (6) physiological (sexual) arousal. Finally, behavioral components consist of (1) actions aimed at determining the other’s feelings; (2) studying the other person; (3) service to the other; and (4) maintaining physical closeness. The most common form of the PLS is a 15-item scale, but an alternative 15-item version (consisting of parallel but different items) is also available. The two scales can be combined to form a 30-item scale.
Participants are presented with statements such as: “I would feel deep despair if ____ left me” and are asked to indicate how true the statement is of them. Possible responses range from 1 = not at all true; to 9 = definitely true.
The PLS has been administered to children (via a children’s version of the PLS (Hatfield & Young, 2010), adolescents, and adults in a variety of cultures and countries, such as France, Germany, India, Indonesia, Iran, Italy, Japan, Korea, Peru, Poland, Spain, Sweden, and Switzerland, and has been translated into more than a dozen languages. In recent fMRI studies of brain activity, the PLS has been found to correlate well with certain well-defined patterns of neural activation. For example, Aron et al. (2005) discovered that PLS scores correlated well with activation in a region of the caudate associated with reward (see Bartels & Zeki, 2000, 2004 and Hatfield & Rapson, 2009, for a review of recent neuroscience research correlating the PLS with participants’ fMRI reactions). The PLS has also been found to be highly correlated with a variety of scales and measures of love, intimacy, and sexuality (see Graham & Christiansen, 2009; Hatfield & Sprecher, 2010; Hatfield & Young, 2010; Masuda, 2003, for information on the reliability and validity of both the JLS and the PLS measures.)
Conclusion
In this paper we presented information on 33 scales that have been devised to measure the construct of passionate love and its close cousins, “puppy love,” “romantic love,” “infatuation,” “desperate love,” “obsessive love,” “limerence,” “eros”, “mania,” “being in love,” and the like. We spent some time reviewing how scholars’ visions of passionate love and the scales needed to measure this construct have changed over time. Firstly, interest in passionate love has burgeoned. The social sciences once considered love to be a taboo subject. Now, scholars from a variety of disciplines – anthropologists, clinical psychology, communication studies, developmental psychology, evolutionary psychologists, historians, neurobiologists, neuroscientists, primatologists, social psychologists, and sociologists, among others – are investigating the antecedents and consequences of such love. Currently, there are a plethora of scholarly journals devoted to this topic. Passionate love is now assumed to be not a Western social construction but a universal emotion/motivation. Over the decades, definitions of passionate love have broadened and deepened. Once, theorists tended to view love from a narrow theoretical perspective. Now, most theorists assume love to be a multi-faceted phenomenon.
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December 6/2019
Today (yesterday but I haven’t slept yet) was the last day of classes. Once again, I dropped out of a class because I couldn’t handle it. Makes me feel pretty shitty because it makes me wonder if I have the capacity to even go on in school. I have a year and half left of the hard shit, so I just need to pull through but I’m definitely no longer happy with my degree. Initially, when I started university I thought I was a science guy, but I clearly wasn’t. I was always immersed in the arts before I started post-secondary. It was what I enjoyed and what kept me happy. But I think by stereotyping, I just subconsciously felt obligated to pursue science. The wrong choice. There’s nothing I can do about it now. Wish me luck.
Oh my god. I am so horny. I can’t stop jerking off. But I also never enjoy a hookup. So I need to find a freaky boyfriend. After I found out that Anthony found a girlfriend, I thought I was going to be okay. I thought I was content because he’s a normal straight boy and I’m an average gay boy. Never would have worked out anyways. It was purely lust and infatuation so I’m not sad or anything. A couple weeks went by where I was indifferent about it. I literally just stopped thinking about him. But recently, I don’t know how it happened, but now I just want his dick. I can’t stop thinking about it. Of course I’m only just imagining he has an ideal sausage (penis) but I’m still obsessed for some odd reason. Everytime I watch porn, it always transitions to him. No matter what I’m watching. I want to eat him out. I want him to eat me out. I want to jerk him off while I suck on his nipples. I want to watch him eat a girl out. I want to see him in every position possible. I want him to cum on my face. Just writing this I’m getting a semi. But you get the point. I just want to engage in some sort of sexual activity with him. I don’t know what it is about him. Like right now I’m just thinking about waking him up with morning head. So many fantasies, none of which will ever happen. I don’t know. I think I’m going to end it here for today. But if you’re still reading by this point, I am definitely going to bust a nut to thought of him rawing me from behind, heavily breathing into my ear, telling me he can’t take it anymore, and finally hearing him moan with that last, long, deep stroke. I’m just kidding. But I am hard and I have to deal with it... so peace out.
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