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tavyliasin · 3 months

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A gift, from Tavylia and the Dear Abdirak fans who made this happen, and of course the star of the show himself~

Hello darlings, dear ones, and sinners all~ This cameo is our gift, for all of us who know pain a little too intimately. Written and joint funded by Abdirak fans and Lia, to provide some measure of comfort. Please, enjoy, know you are heard, you are loved, and you are never alone when enduring the most intense of Loviatar's affections. (And all my gratitude to Declan for making this so very swiftly right before going offline for his holiday)

--- The script, including content there was no space for, and some more notes from Lia, will follow after the cut~ This one is clean, no NSFW content, so feel free to proceed at your leisure. For those new here, please be aware that the majority of my content is around NSFW writing with a few art shares and essays on fandom things. Welcome, and I hope you enjoy your stay even if you're only here for this one video.

About The Script

Even with the additional payment, the maximum character limit in a request is 650. My original draft? 1117. We got out the knives, we cut it up, we boiled it down to the most pertinent line, and still had to defenestrate some of the punctuation. Far be it from me to ever know the meaning of brevity, loves, simply not in my extensive vocabulary. I also cannot thank Declan enough for the stunning performance, both in the game and in the cameo, and for giving us a character who we can relate to and adore in so many unexpected ways.

The Script We Sent

[greeting] Loviatar Maiden of Pain felt the echo of your pain singing through infinite realities. In her mercy, she has allowed us to speak. Agony is a cloak that you wear, armour you cannot remove, it is as bound to you as the guilt you feel for its very presence. I might envy you, but you did not choose this path. Your penitence is unnecessary. Let go, dear one, do not punish yourself further. The ebb and flow of exquisite torment, the rise & fall of the tides, you need not try so hard to swim. Breathe. Whether it is of the flesh or mind, your devotions have been heard. [reminder to share burdens/rely on each other/not alone/anything else]

The Original Draft Script

Greetings, Dear Ones, beloved of Loviatar - perhaps too beloved, in your case… Your pain sang through the fabric of the planes of infinite realities, catching and pulling at the Weave like a loose thread. My Goddess, the Maiden of Pain, she felt your echo through her web. Through her mercy, she has allowed me to speak with you. Agony is a cloak that you wear, an armour you cannot remove, it is as bound to you as the guilt you feel for its very presence. I might envy you…but you did not choose this path. Your penitence is not necessary. Let it go, dear one, do not punish yourself further. The ebb and flow of exquisite torment, the rise and fall of the tides, you need not try so hard to swim through them all. Breathe, keep your head above the water. Whether it is of the flesh or of the mind, your devotions have been heard by our most beloved Maiden of Pain. You endure it well, and you are not alone. There are other voices that sing her melody, listen for them, share your burdens and know you are all very dearly loved by the most gracious Loviatar. Even if her affections are a little excessive…

Lia's Notes And Thanks

First of all, a HUGE thank you to the dear ones who helped this happen, with encouragement, editing advice, and throwing some pennies in the pot to cover the cost I couldn't do alone. I shan't name names but you are already well aware of the endless affection I hold for you all. For everyone else, I really do hope this brings you some measure of comfort. It's important to recognise how much we tend to give of ourselves even when we suffer most, and how harsh we can be towards ourselves too.

You are not a burden, having needs is normal and natural, the people who matter most should be there to support you just as you would wish to be there to support them were your roles reversed.

We can rely on each other to a degree, even if it is just to listen, to say "I understand, it's alright to feel all of the things you are feeling. You do not have to be strong, you do not have to wear that mask of endurance with me." So do let go of that guilt, dear one, it does not serve you. If you would like to read more of a discussion on chronic pain, Abdirak, fandom, please see the main essay on the topic (click here) though be aware there is discussion of the more spicy topic of how pleasure and pain can be entwined, even for those of us who feel too much pain in our every day.

Tavylia's Offer

I'm going to round this one off with a simple offer to you all. Should you wish for words of comfort from a beloved character (probably BG3 but if I know the character well enough I can try others), send them to my ask box, or on Discord/Twitter/Anything on my Carrd. This is what I have worked on before, mostly SFW (only some light suggestive moments) as the focus is on comfort to the reader.

Abdirak - Migraine Comfort Yurgir - Migraine Comfort Tav - General Comfort, with Audio Multi-Character Comfort Drabbles (Including Abdirak)

If my little words can bring you any measure of comfort or relief, you need only ask.

Farewell for now, Dear Ones, darlings, loves, Pain Pals, - all of you. Please take care of yourselves - hydrate, nourish, and for the sake of the gods please allow yourself some rest and be kind to yourself for a change. And I do mean all of you. No exceptions, now. Love yourself with grace and forgiveness, care for yourself as if you were the most precious friend you have ever made. I hope to see you all very soon~

May Loviatar's blessings be more merciful. ~ Lia

#baldurs gate 3 #bg3 #abdirak #cameo #chronic pain #chronic illness #comfort #words of comfort #comfort in fiction #pain pals #Loviatar #loviatar loves you as you are #tavylia also loves you #so learn to love yourself too #feel free to share this post and save the video for the times you need to hear it most #thank you again to everyone who helped make this happen you're stunning you really are

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floccinaucinihilipilificationa · 1 year

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#selfie bee #me telling a coworker who I have been working with for 4 months and whose name I do not know about my toenails #i'm sorry Tobias (?? Paul ??) it was the only topic I could come up with after I already told you about the big bird I saw in 8th grade #FRIENDS how are you!! :) how has the new year been so far!!#did you have a lot of snow on christmas!#we did and it was really fun! I had a very bad cold so I just watched the snow from inside but that was good too c:#do you have any plans for the new year?#i always have lot and most of the time I do not do any of them but planning is fun #this year I REALLY want to watch all of Star Trek ヽ(´∇｀)ﾉ #I would also love to learn how to make a handstand #imagine if you could just make yourself upside down #but it is a far away dream because honestly I am not very good at being usual side up most of the time either #but I will try probably at least 2 times to learn it ( ᐛ )#maybe I'll finally finish that website!#new years are good and fun #it's wild to think about how much daily life has changed since last year but I feel just the same :)#who knows what this year will bring!#I hope I don't hit a pheasant with my car #I almost hit a pheasant with my car last year and the pheasant made direct eye contact #I wonder how he is doing today #since that moment I think about pheasants a lot #I knew they were real but I had never seen one #just to know they are out there is a mystical feeling #right know it is raining so all the pheasants might be wet #get dry soon pheasants!!#I don't think I've ever seen a wet bird either #I don't know what do do with all these birds thoughts #also thank you for the person who asked about my skirt!! ( ˊᵕˋ )♡.°⑅#I've finished it and its really really bad #but I love it

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pharawee · 10 months

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So you see, that's where the trouble began. That smile. That damned smile.

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uncanny-tranny · 9 months

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I just heard this ad that says therapy is just "learning how to love yourself," and quite honestly, I disagree with that sentiment. I think it puts uneeded pressure on people to "love themselves."

I don't think you need to love yourself to benefit from therapy, and therapy shouldn't just be "learning to love yourself." It certainly is beneficial for some people to learn skills that we call self-love, like setting boundaries, hygiene that works for you, eating full and balanced meals that you enjoy, for instance, but that doesn't need to include this air of being in love with yourself.

I think therapy is about learning how to live with yourself. You don't have to love your flatmates (for example), but you often respect them as people. So, you'll clean up after yourself, and you'll communicate with them, and you'll even make small talk with them. That's kind of how I see therapy. You don't have to love yourself, but you often need to learn how to respect yourself, and I think those are slightly different things.

#mental health #mental health advocacy #i will be open and say i often don't love myself. but i'm learning how to respect myself so that maybe one day i WILL love myself...#...and i find the whole 'LOVE YOURSELF' to be daunting and scary because it's not where i'm at...#...and i worry that the 'LOVE YOURSELF NOW' attitude will only push people away from therapy because they're scared of that...#...it's scary to love yourself when you never learned how to do that. it's foreign and unknown...#...so you take babysteps. and if you never learn to love yourself that's fine #this isn't me saying that loving yourself is bad either. just that i don't agree that that is the WHOLE of therapy...#...and i don't think it's responsible to boil therapy down to just that #(it doesn't help that it was a betterhelp ad. which. yikes 😬. but i see that attitude elsewhere sometimes too)

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ywpd-translations · 8 months

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Ride 740: Sugimoto driven in a corner

Pag 1

3: Pinch and crush him, Danchiku!! Crush Sugimoto-san!!

Pag 2

1: As easy as crushing dry leaves!!

Yeah, Issaa!!

Pag 4

3: You're slow

Pag 5

1: You're slow, Sugimoto-san – Bamboo Hop Shot!!

2: He's fast!!

4: He got even faster.... than the second day...

But

5: But!!

Pag 6

1: It's not so easy to crush my heart, Danchiku!!

Kuaaaaagh

Pag 7

2: The battle between those two has started!!

3: The last battle of the training camp's fourth day!! The rule is simple, whoever crosses the sensor line first wins!!

4: The serious battle between Danchiku and Sugimoto, betting the spot in the Inter High!!

5: Sugimoto....!!

6: Danchiku!!

7: But.... this battle....

Pag 8

1: That's right, Onoda

4: He.... Sugimoto understands everything

And he's fighting upon understanding that

6: He's running with that resolution

And he has no intention whatsoever of stepping aside!!

Pag 9

2: What....

I really settled this with one attack

3: It was easy

5: Kuaaagh

8: Kuaaaagh

9: …. no

Pag 10

1: Kuaaaaagh

He's still chasing after me!!

Pag 11

1: Sugimoto-san

2: Dan.... chikuu!!

3: I wonder what's this feeling

I was thinking I could win against you, and it's true that I said I could defeat you with one attack

4: But, I don't know why, but my heart is beating fast

And for some reason the corners of my mouth are pulling up

5: Maybe it's because I know we've practiced and desperately ran together until now, but when earlier I turned back and I didn't see you, I though “ah of course”, but there was also another feeling....

Pag 12

1: I thought- there's no way that that Sugimoto-san was beaten by just one attack!!

Pag 13

1: Ha

2: Kuaaagh

3: He chased me and kept going until he passed me!!

5: Dammit, even though I couldn't defeat him in one blow, right now I feel so good!!

6: I'm thinking that this is the spirit!!

Pag 14

1: Sugimoto-san!!

2: It's so hard....!!

Danchiku really got stronger than on the second day

3: But this is the basis of road racing: don't let your opponent understand how it is for you!!

4: Looks like you're having a hard time, Sugimoto-san

Pag 15

1: He noticed!!

2: But there's no way I'm giving up the lead position

Until my breath calms down, I'll keep just the right pace....

3: He jumped ahead!!

4: Can you follow!?

6: Mh

7: Easily!!

Pag 16

2: Well you're so reliable!!

Danchiku used his “Hop Shot” again

Pag 17

1: Garuaah!!

2: He left me behind!!

3: Kuaaaaagh

Keep up, Sugimoto Terufumi!!

4: Sugimoto-san, you followed!! I'm happy that we're clashing seriously now

5: Issa told me not to tell you

But I'll tell you, Sugimoto-san

6: There's another secret to my special technique “Panda Shout”

Panda Shout is....

Pag 18

1: A breathing technique

2: When humans breathe, oxygen weaves into their lungs

3: And when they work out, they need a lot of fresh oxygen

And they become conscious of their “inhaling”

4: But if they do it too much, their breathing becomes uneven and shallow, and they inhale the oxygen around their mouth that it's not “fresh air”

5: Exhaling is more important than inhaling!!

“Actively pushing out the air in your lungs”!!

6: That way, you can naturally take in a lot of “fresh air”!!

Panda Shout uses the abdominal pressure to squeeze out all the air from my lungs

Pag 19

1: It's the ultimate technique to intake oxygen!!

3: Technique to intake....!!

4: If he can accelerate even more....!!

5: I'll use it right away

Ah, and there's one more thing

Huh

6: When I use this

Pag 20

1: My acceleration with Hop Shot becomes twice as fast!!

2: Two.... ice

Please hold on tight and follow me, Sugimoto-san!!

#yowamushi pedal #yowamushi pedal translations #yowapeda #yowapeda manga #yowamushi pedal manga #yowamushi pedal spoilers #ride 740 #kabu and danchiku are being so annoying i cant help but hope they lose just so they learn a lesson asdashdjglsf #i love them though dont get me wrong- sohoku is too full of nice ppl we need some annoying brats #kabu got 100% more annoying since aoyagi (his conscience basically) left #we need someone to hold him back lmao #btw the funniest thing for me would be if danchiku wins right now and he and kabu are all 'yayyy we're goin to the ih together!'#and onoda is like 'actually no i want sugimoto on the team'#'you literally decided yourself that this stupid race btwn them was to decide whod go to the ih #'i never said i agreed and im the captain' lmao #no bt srsly onoda and the others still have the last word so #you literally never know :eyes emoji:

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cerise-on-top · 2 months

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Hiiiii how have you been love bug? (Please tell me if your uncomfortable with that term since you are non-binary and they/them I’m not sure what nicknames you are uncomfortable with it’s just what I call my friends and just a nickname I have for people in general🫶🏻🫶🏻 ) so I’d like to to request farah with a adhd reader who is hyper forgetful and sometimes has meltdowns ( as someone with adhd)🧡🧡🧡

Hey! I'm fine! Bought some more yarn for my leftover blanket today, which I'm excited to work on! And don't worry, I think love bug is really cute! I don't mind most nicknames, but thank you for being considerate, I really do appreciate it! Hope you're doing well as well ^^

I don't have ADHD, so I don't know at all what it's like for someone with it! I had to do some research on it, so I don't know if these are actually viable methods of helping, but I tried! Please do correct me with something that might help and I'll add it in this post afterwards! I hope this is enjoyable to you regardless! Thank you for the request!

Farah with a Reader with ADHD

Farah doesn’t particularly know a lot about mental illnesses. She may be traumatized, yes, but that doesn’t mean she ever had the time to research any of them. So she’s definitely not the best person to go to when it comes to things like these, but she tries, even if she can’t always understand everything that’s going on. You’re suffering, and that’s enough for her to know she should do something to help you.

You being this forgetful may be a cause of concern for her, though. It’s not every day she meets someone who forgot what they did five minutes prior. It’s especially concerning when it’s something important, though, like seeing a doctor. Although she may be worried for you potentially developing something as severe as dementia eventually, she’ll try to push her worries aside and help you to the best of her abilities. If you ever need reminders, she can help you. Farah remembers and retains things very well, she’s never had any issues with it since she had to in order to get by. If you need to remember something, she’ll remind you a few times a day. You have an appointment? Don’t forget about it tomorrow, I’ll tell you again then. However, she’s also a big fan of post its and will write down whatever it is you may need and place it somewhere she knows you’re going to see it. I know, out of sight, out of mind, but she’ll also text you and have you make reminders on your phone for important things so you don’t forget. Won’t get mad at you for forgetting your anniversary, she can see that it’s hard for you to remember things and won’t yell at you or anything either. However, she will mention that it was your anniversary, or maybe her birthday. For the most part she just wants to spend those days with you, if she can, and will thus remind you. Again, you don’t need to feel ashamed for forgetting, she’ll tell you that it’s quite alright and that you shouldn’t worry. She’s patient like that.

If you have a meltdown in front of her, she definitely would not know what to do at first. Depending on what kind of meltdown it is, she’ll react differently. If it creeps up on you, slowly making you irritated, then she’ll ask you what’s wrong. Regardless of your answer, she’ll ask you how she can help you, if you would like to be left alone or if you would like to take a small break in any way. She gets it and she’ll get you away from whatever is stressing you out so you can slowly recharge. If you really do want to be left alone for a while, she will comply, but will knock on your door to check up on you every once in a while and will bring you some food as well. Farah just wants you to be well, so she’ll take care of you how she thinks might help. Food is always good, food usually helps her, so she hopes it’ll do the same for you as well.

If it’s a sudden meltdown where you don’t know where left and right are anymore, then she’ll get you away from everyone else at first. While she can’t imagine what it’s like for you, it likely isn’t very pleasant for you to be crying and screaming in front of other people. Hoping that you trust her, she’ll try to ground you, asking you how you’re feeling, what you’re feeling and how she could help you. What happened is also another question she would ask you. Again, she won’t really know what to do on her own, but she tries her best. Farah will talk to you in a soothing tone and try to distract you at first so you can calm down a bit. Whether it be cracking a joke or asking you about your top five favorite reptiles. Even if you can’t answer her properly, she’ll just reassure you that it’s okay, that everything is just bad in this moment and that it’ll pass. She’s with you this entire time and won’t leave you unless you want her to. Asks you to breathe a bit with her. In all your time being together, she’s likely learned a breathing technique or two that might help you.

Once your meltdown is over, she’ll be very gentle with you, especially if she can see you’re beating yourself up over it. You really shouldn’t feel ashamed for something that you can’t help, it’s not your fault. If you feel especially down, she’ll give you a kiss on the forehead and get some ice cream with you. Something like a meltdown seems exhausting to her. While she doesn’t want to seem like she’s rewarding you for having a meltdown, she does want you to be kind to yourself afterwards, that’s what the ice cream is for. And if you don’t want ice cream, then some berries, fruits or a small snack will suffice as well. Either way, she’s there for you the entire time until you feel better.

#cod #cod x reader #farah karim #farah karim x reader #I didn't think anyone at all would notice or remember that I'm non binary #I don't really mention that fact as much as other things but it makes me happy that some people do pay attention!#also love bug is a really cute nickname! your friends must be very lucky to have someone like you in their lives!#again I don't have ADHD I only have schizophrenia and there doesn't seem to be too much of an overlap among them #so I really don't know what it's like to live with ADHD but I get the forgetfulness #I have so many reminders on my phone and on small paper notes it's incredible #I also journal every day so I don't forget what I did during the day. that's one of my best habits yet #but yeah I'm also the kind of person who can't remember what they did five minutes ago and it's so very frustrating #sometimes I wanna look something up on google only to forget five seconds later what it was #sometimes retracing my steps helps me remember but not always unfortunately it's very annoying #but we are just so very strong for living with our mental illnesses!!#being mentally ill is exhausting and I can't think of any positives either #I know it may seem hard at times but it's important to be patient with oneself. I learned that the hard way #so please do be kind to yourself anon! you deserve it! you seem like such a nice person!

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someweirdoreblogger · 10 months

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Hades falls far in love with a simple mortal,

who watches them die over and over again only to reincarnate the same cycle immediately after because Hades is too selfish to allow them to properly cross over to Helheim.

Not yet. This can't be accepted just yet, not so early. Hades is fully aware of the consequences of holding off their end cycle. Some turned insane. And others just completely and utterly destroyed themselves. The mortal body can only handle so much before falling apart.

Hades is the godly ruler of the land of death, a king of his duty, proud of his conquest. Of course, Hades bewares the toll.

(What god of death isn't?)

But it won't matter in the long run. Hades orders is an absolution no one dares defy.

Not yet.

The growing weight on his heart's soul will only become more unbearable, heavier, and susceptible to interference. Awakening far earlier than natural reincarnation, no reincarnated human in Helheim history ever walked the mortal plane so many times in such short spams of life.

The world kills them faster and faster every time, further spiteful by the unfortunate second.

The Valkyires are pestering him, merciless in their ruthless onslaught of words that one of the Big 3 instead prefers to prolong the suffering of an unlucky mortal then allow them peace of mind in Asphodel. And Hades doesn't blame them for their anger, he deserves such scolding and expected their inevitable visit in hopes to understand what the hell Hades is pulling. Or in this case, ignoring to pull.

Death nutures at his hands, countless demons flee at the very glance of their god. The netherowlrd exists for a reason, and Hades knows the value and importance of the balance. The Valkyires are just doing their jobs, as heavy and demanding it is, and Hades of all people-outright refuses them guidance of your soul, the very task their were made for.

And Hades promises them, the very least he can do for now, even offers to write it in ichor-that once the time comes, you will know the long awaited threshold.

But not yet.

Not this time, Hades isn't ready, nothing is ready just yet.

Not this one, not yet.

Not yet.

#mypost #thinking about angst with the gods again #the pain of loving someone in death by someone who loves too much to lose #and by the same god who refuses to let go despite knowing moving on and accepting the life their lover lived is the proper way to cope deat #and the grief you felt the last time they lived makes yourself feel justified to overturn death so much it starts to harm your choosen #i just think Hades should learn losing isn't always a bad thing #and i think he knows that but is too stubborn and devoted to admit otherwise #hades #hades ror #record of ragnarok hades #record of ragnarok #anime #manga #hades x reader #just a thought #i wanted to say it out loud before forgetting

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jemmo · 1 year

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i love that the whole of that final ep is just all these characters setting themselves on the path of healing, that none of them are magically fixed, but instead are all committing to creating a world where not only they can heal, but where they can stop others from hurting. because it was never about a single person’s journey, it was about how a system managed to hurt and repress and ignore everyone in it, and how it’s only them wanting and fighting for better, for themselves and for the people they care about, that has the ability to destroy that system, and set in place a community that includes everyone. it’s only after the sun and moon have crossed each others passed, once the world has been shrouded in black, that clear blue skies can be seen again.

the eclipse, i love you.

#the eclipse #man this show #I just can’t help but applaud the message it managed to convey #and how everyone committed so much to a show that above all else wanted to promote love and acceptance and infividuality #and allowing yourself the space to not only mess up #but the space to forgive yourself too #the space to let yourself be flawed and hold yourself accountable and take every experience as a reason to grow #to learn the lessons life gives you #and move past them #don’t live in fear don’t live in resentment don’t live in pain #wake up tomorrow and try to find a world that is brighter #where the sun and the moon both exist and both let the other shine #bc they can only shine thanks to each other #wow I’m so emo this showwwwww

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the-eclectic-wonderer · 1 day

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Currently watching S2E8: Vacation -- Sophia is *so precious* with the Japanese gardener ;-; she's so happy to spend time with him! it melts my heart!

#i *love* estelle getty and the writers for giving some love stories to sophia too #i'm sure it meant a lot to so many old people watching the show #and sophia in general means a lot to me. it's so nice to *see* that life doesn't have to be over when you're old!#you can still have fun! you can do so many things! you can learn! you can laugh! you can fall in love!#you can send your daughter and her roommates away so you have the house to yourself to seduce a handsome gardener LMAO #sophia you icon you #the golden girls #miami watch thread

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crescentfool · 6 months

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beaming everyone on the dashh with good brain day vibes!!! i hope that you all can remember to extend self-compassion to yourself whenever you're feeling down about something 💙

#lizzy speaks #the human brain works in such profound ways i think #lately i've been thinking about that post that was like 'you will always be your oldest friend take care of yourself'#it's definitely a sentiment i agree with and i appreciate how it emphasizes the importance of extending compassion to yourself #you wouldn't say such hurtful things to your friends right? (or at least i'd hope so)#so why would you say it to yourself?#you are your own friend too. and i think everyone has a beautiful soul within themselves. nurture it! water it! feed it good thoughts.#basically i wish everyone a 'i hope that your brain is not your own enemy but rather a friend that you can find comfort in'#things will work themselves out with time. there's beauty in life and you will find small delights to cherish!! i am manifesting it for u!!#and for those who find it difficult to transition from a self-critical mindset to one that's more compassionate and nonjudgmental #i truly think that with time you will be able to rewire your brain to be kinder to yourself. i'm proud of you for taking any first steps :)#there are times in which it feels counterintuitive to go against habits that feel hard-wired... but brains are very malleable littel guys-#with such a wonderful capacity for changing and learning new things. so i hope everyone can learn to be their own best friend!#not to undermine the importance of a support network ofc. that's good too and im all for that!! but i hope everyone remembers to be kind-#not only to others but also to themselves!! you're going to do great out there!! i love you all!!#ive just been thinking about this a lot... i needed to get it out there. you all shine so brightly!!! we shall be fine!!! have a good week!#sorry if this is out of nowhere but if there's anything about me you should know it's that i'm the 'hey dont cry 8 billion people on earth-#ok?' post. idk i just find great joy in knowing others are out there thriving and finding a daily delight yknow i love humanity!!

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gintamajustaway · 24 days

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The fandom has gotten really dark since you left.. certain shippers are really aggressive about their ships to the point of bullying. I kno you’ve dealt with stuff like that in the past and you handled it all so well I remember reading some anon asks.. any tips n’tricks?

OOF, WHELP -- not sure I'll be much help given that I have no idea what state the fandom is in. All I can really say is that you're going to find aggressive shippers no matter what fandom you're in. My method to dealing with people like that was to just block them and add them to my blacklist. The only times I ever engaged with them was if they came at me directly (which rarely happened -- the more aggressive they are, the more cowardly they were when it came to confrontation) or if they put a callout post about me directly in the main fandom tag. I always clapped back at those people just because like lol if you've got a problem with my fics or my decision to delete them all, okay cool, I don't care, but doing stuff like putting a long-winded complaint post in the main tag is so childish and stupid.

The best advice I think I can give for this is to just not care LOL I sure as hell never did and still don't. Never will! Shipping is supposed to be fun and the people who actively try and take that fun away from others are struggling with issues outside of fandom, but shipping is their outlet so that's where their aggression manifests. Happy people don't care about drama over fictional characters, so go be a happy person! Utilize that block option and live your best life!

#anon #for real you will find this in every fandom #I've been too involved in my own stuff to get involved with any other fandoms after this one #but if you'd like an example of a fandom that went absolutely feral in terms of bullying #lookup what happened to the Voltron fandom #I wasn't even active in it and I heard so much stuff about it #sending voice actors death threats #sending food laced with nails and poisons #lying about trauma to get people to donate to a gofundme #stealing thousands and thousands of dollars for zines #the bloodshed between Shiro/Keith and Keith/Lance #it was all so incredibly stupid #for the love of god be a happy person #indulge yourself in what you enjoy #ignore everything else #even if you try to be nice to everyone like I did you will still experience haters #it happens and no biggie #do your best and learn your lessons then move on #HOPE THIS HELPS #sorry for all the tags #I forgot how much I enjoyed just whispering gently down here

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purplelea · 1 year

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I know I joke a lot about it, but here's the thing. Saying that Neku hates people, even before the first game, is actually incredibly incorrect.

Neku loves people. He can't help loving people, and he hates it. Because loving people, caring about others, means that you'll end up getting hurt no matter what. And it's that fact that he hates. He doesn't want to get hurt more than he already has. That's the reason he pushes people away, because he's scared he'll end up caring about them and getting hurt again.

Neku hates people who lie, because being deceived always hurt. He hates opening himself to others, because that would mean he would become exposed, vulnerable, and anyone could hurt him. He wants to believe he can do everything on his own, so he won't get hurt by anyone else.

TWEWY isn't actually about Neku learning how to love people. He knows how to. It's about him accepting the hurt that comes with loving people and opening yourself to others, something he hasn't accepted ever since his best friend died who knows how long ago.

#everything during the game is challenging this. people tell him to open himself to others and work with them and Neku does #and then Rhyme gets taken away. Shiki too. Beat leaves. Neku is left with Joshua #and then he learns that Joshua killed him. he doesn't want to believe it. he spends half of the week trying to find another explanation #and when he get the 'confirmation' that joshua didn't kill him it's when joshua gets taken too. he's devastated.#the challenges he faces aren't actually about learning how to love people. it's learning how to keep loving people even when you get hurt #because you loved people in the first place #because you opened yourself to others #in the monologue at the end neku insists on that #'you don't see it but... these few weeks were very hard for me. learning to trust people...' (despite the hurt Neku is carrying himself)#'...having that trust broken' (and getting more hurt afterwards.)#Neku loves people so fucking much and that's what he hates #i love him #léa rambles #twewy #twewy spoilers #neku sakuraba

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andypantsx3 · 9 months

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momo yaoyorozu u are so special to me i think about u every day my angel princess

#i realize hori can't squeeze in too much about every single character's development or the series would never go anywhere #and obvi he is prioritizing the mens bc this is a shonen comic or whatever and he's not feminist enough to properly foreground the wimmins #but god i love the slice of momo's arc we get so much #learning to trust yourself and recover your confidence even in the face of failure #learning to trust urself enough to become a leader when all u have ever felt is that u don't quite know enough and ur not on the same level #and then shouto drinking his respect momo juice from the very beginning and thinking she'd be a better class prez than iida #and momo letting herself trust his trust in her!!!! and wanting to measure up to the momo he sees kjdhksjfdhkjashdkfdl #and blowing everyone out of the water with her unparalleled strategic thinking!!!!!!!!!!#momo i love u

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nezzling · 5 months

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It's not up to you to decide if you're good enough for me, it's up to me to decide if I like you enough to keep you around. I'm so sick of people bailing on me cause essentially they don't like themselves and let that self loathing convince them I must feel the same. If I'm actively giving you time and attention, it's cause I think you're good enough for that. Stop leaving me cause you don't like yourself, that's weird, you should leave me cause I'm unbearably annoying at least wtf

#lil rambles #sorry im just so fuckin sick of it #people being like wow youre so pretty funny kind caring affectionate even in real life and like yes yes i am and i love that about me #so why do they all run from thag good just because they have self esteem issues #like do you not want the help of my light and love to help you learn to love yourself and grow with me #why you running you fuck get back here and face yourself properly for the first time in your life instead of avoiding self work #ive literally had so many dating stages end cause they dont think they are attractive enough specifically #like excuse me i like my partners a little ugly so that im guaranteed to be the funny AND pretty one #dont you want a funny pretty nymph of a wife what the fuck bros why dont you want that dream life #i guess some people just see themselves as nightmares and cant see that even a nightmare is a kind of dream too #its too early in the morning for this kind of introspection but i woke up early feeling nauseous and it made me sad and lonely #like idk if youre ugly and weird just treat me nice so that someone is there for me when im having a bad day or health day

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selvepnea · 5 months

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Been thinking about my body a lot

#Sel talks #Listened through Fat Talk by Virginia Sole-Smith which talked a lot about how bodies are tools #And the way she talked about how thin-ness shouldn't be something we strive for #And I can't help but draw parallels between my own desire to go on t? I don't know. Been having too many thoughts stewing #I keep coming back to isabeau's line of “maybe it was easier to change into someone I could love than to learn how to love how I was”#And I had drawn both hrt and diet culture back into this; but. Neither of them are from self love?#It's. Idk; a friction? On how you perceive yourself and how the world perceives you?#Or. Idk idk. It's hard to articulate now that I'm trying to get it down #If I remember right; one of the messages of fat talk was how bodies should be for function first and foremost; and should hardly-if ever-#Considered for aesthetic. And yes- trying to loose weight is one of the most damaging aesthetic changes you can do-#Idk! I feel like I'm looking too far into it #Something something you're not happy with how your body looks/is perceived so you want to change it #Whether that's influenced by society; loved ones; or something biological; it's still a desire to change your body #Although one is vastly more accepted than the other #Trying to become thin is trying to make yourself more comfortable in a vastly fatphobic world; to placate the people think they have say #Over your body; make yourself more palettable to the world around you.#Which I guess is an important distinction #Becoming the person you want to be even through everyone telling you that it's wrong or disgusting #But a part of me can't help but think a part of the reason I want to do hrt might have something to do with our male centric society?#I'm too tired to elaborate any further but I feel less busy now that I have it out

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