what is your opinion on the situation?
I've been at work all day so I haven't been able to sit down with stuff fully, it also seems like Caiti is planning to release a statement later today with more information I think? So I'd like to get her response there, but based on what I've seen so far I think I fall more on the side of "people made some dumb choices and should learn from them" than anything else.
Consent is messy and it gets messier when people start lying or are drunk. In this case, both Caiti and George were drunk. From what I understand, either Caiti had a 21+ wristband from the vidcon party, or her friend group did and assumed since she was drinking with them, she was also 21+.
Honestly, when it comes to the matter of underage drinking, I don't think it's even remotely fair to place blame on Dream/George for that. The blame there lies with Caiti deciding to drink while under 21, and on her friends, Ghostie and the other person present who were both over 21. Unlike Dream/George, both of them knew Caiti and knew exactly how old she was and were letting her drink. They were also letting her drink with no one sober and no one making sure she got home.
Now, Caiti is 18 and also I'm not a goddamn square, I'm not gonna stand here and be like "oh no drinking at 18 clutch my pearls" but like, if people are going to blame other people for that situation, that very much lies with Caiti's friends who knew they had an underage person drinking with them. I feel like people are weirdly assigning blame to Dream/George for not like, iding every person they hang out with (particularly if she had a 21+ bracelet at vidcon, which would mean she already got IDed). While completely avoiding placing any blame on the people who 100% knew they were taking an 18 year old drinking without a doubt.
Putting that aside, from my understanding George's side is he believed at the time that she was having fun, and the most they did was cuddle on a couch with other people there. He believed at the time that everything was cool, and that she later decided she was uncomfortable with what happened.
Honestly, I don't really think that's an unfair reading. At this same party, her best friend was there and from Ghostie's own words, she also didn't realize Caiti was uncomfortable until several months later when Caiti told her. If her best friend didn't notice she was uncomfortable or see anything wrong, then I find it hard to think anyone else would pick up on it.
There's certainly risks taken here that I wouldn't have taken. I think that George needs to do better with checking for consent and maybe vetting the people you're hanging out with. Although I also understand that doing a full background check on everyone you ever meet is an absurd requirement and if, at the time, they trusted the person that they actually invited, I get how that shit happens. Per consent, given that he was also drunk, I get how it may've appeared to him that he had consent. I do think it's still something to work on, but I'm also perfectly aware that in real life, people are often going off vibes and social cues, and sometimes those don't mash.
I also think that Caiti's friends have been pretty shitty throughout this. They take no responsibility for having let an 18 year old drink and then ditching her. They are absolutely milking drama out of this shit and they have a weird obsession with blaming Dream for shit he had no fault in.
As for Dream, I don't think he did anything wrong here. Full stop. If Caiti's best friend didn't notice that she was uncomfortable or unhappy, it's insanely unreasonable to expect Dream to have managed that. He was also drunk and hanging out with people, and he had no way of knowing Caiti was underage. None of that shit was his fault, and his statement seems very measured and reasonable. People are trying to blame him for things that he had absolutely no part in, and the UK group are absolutely trying to pull that shit.
Overall, sounds like several people involved made dumb choices, I hope they learn and grow. Otherwise all of this honestly sounds like shit that should've been talked out privately and not tossed to the internet for speculation. Human beings are messy and will fuck up sometimes. This feels like a case of miscommunication and people making risky choices that left people with some hurt.
Again, I may change my mind with further evidence presented, but that's how it feels to me.
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“neil is living in andrew’s walls” this is going to live in my brain forever now, much like neil in andrew’s walls,
listen i wrote those tags when i was half asleep and i thought that would be it but i am, in fact, still thinking about it !!!! i picture it like this
nicky and the twins live together in the columbia house (kevin technically doesn't live there but he's at their place like 5 nights a week so he might as well at this point)
the columbia house is OLD, like over 100 years so there's all sorts of weird crawl spaces and an attic that no one ever goes into
neil's on the run, jumps into an open window, and finds their crawl space
maybe he's injured and needs a place to lie low for a while
he heals, but their house is reasonably safe and he can steal food from their kitchen when no one's home and he's made a kind of comfy nest in the attic
his favorite spot tho is the crawl space behind andrew's room because nicky and aaron are too loud (nicky with talking to erik and aaron with katelyn/video games probably). andrew just listens to music and like. reads or something
as he heals, neil gets braver and starts to go out into the house more and more. maybe he cleans up the kitchen every now and then or he folds the towels they leave in the dryer as a thank you for their unknowing hospitality
(really he's just bored from being cooped up for so long, even if their house is the nicest place he's stayed in a long while.)
the cousins start to notice weird things are happening
nicky thinks the house is haunted
aaron thinks they're all just being forgetful about what they leave around the house
kevin thinks they need to check the carbon monoxide detector (he saw a documentary about it once and won't stop talking about it)
but andrew doesn't believe in the supernatural, and he also doesn't think it's a mass hallucination
he spends the most time at home, and he swears he's heard a muffle laugh or too when he makes fun of kevin
and what ghost changes the channel to espn
he swears he sees someone with striking blue eyes in the kitchen one night around 3am when he's getting a glass of water but when he turns on the light there's no one there and the doors are locked from the inside
kevin's not the only one who's seen a documentary, and andrew's just watched one about a man living in someone's walls
he mentions his theory one day at breakfast but everyone just thinks he's making fun of them, so he makes a plan to prove himself right
he researches into the history of the house and find the blueprints in some archival records, and sees the weird spaces in the walls (at the library of course, if there was someone living in his walls he wouldn't risk them seeing his investigating)
neil thought he was being careful, but he was getting comfortable there and he forgot to clean up his attic nest one day. he snuck out to grab some much needed supplies from the store and also to stretch his legs
this just so happens to be the day andrew goes investigating, and finds neil's hideaway
he's there waiting for neil when he returns
somehow neil convinces andrew to let him stay by saying "you've already taken in one stray after all (aka kevin) so why not another?"
andrew has to admit, he's got a point. and he really is very pretty
so andrew lets neil hideout in his room instead of in the crawl space behind the walls
andrew starts spending a lot more time in his room. the others hear strange noises and shuffling from behind the door, even when andrew isn't home
nicky and aaron think he's adopted a pet without telling them
(they're only half wrong)
yadda yadda andriel do their thing, they build trust by sharing secrets and truths and kisses, etc
andrew decides that neil is a permanent addition to his life, and he won't ever have to hide away again
one day nicky and aaron come home and andrew's cuddling on the couch with neil
"andrew, who is this"
"this is neil."
"cool ... where did he come from"
"he was living in the walls."
"... i'm sorry, what?"
"i was right. you both owe me $20"
"...i'm sorry, WHAT?"
"ssshhh, can you keep it down? he just fell asleep."
"Andrew. what the actual FUCK-"
unfortunately, andrew is no longer paying attention. he's much too busy playing with neil's hair as he dozes
and they all lived happily ever after and no body ever lived in the walls ever again
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I know this is a very unpopular opinion but the only difference between Law, Corazon and Doflamingo is the fact that Doflamingo wasn't lucky enough to be saved. Sengoku saved Corazon, Corazon saved Law while Doflamingo was turned into a machine by Trebol and the others (not to mention the fact that he was raised in Marie Jois, which teaches you all the wrong things about Life).
We are also a product of our surroundings, not just genetics.
I personally feel for Doflamingo because the Anime shows that he does have empathy. He had empathy for Law and his backstory, he cares about his family and I truly believe he loved his brother a lot.
I also truly believe that Corazon never wanted to kill his brother.
Please, Oda, for the love of god, give our Heavenly Demon a chance to have some sort of redemption arc.
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