want someone to tease me until i’m a flustered blushy mess and then sit on my thighs to pin me down and wreck havoc on my belly and sides🤗

daily affirmation: everyone is not mad at you and/or avoiding you.

Could you do something for me?

Hey.  Yeah. I’m ok, just kinda worn out emotionally today.  Can we sit down on the couch?  Thanks.  No, it’s fine; it was just a really bad couple days at work.  Honestly, people can be so horrible.  I love my job but sometimes… I’m sorry, I don’t need to throw all of this on you, you have you’re own stuff going on. I’m sorry I’m so—yes.  Yes I know that’s what you’re here for and you want to help.  Yes, I know you always say “Listening is in the job description.”  Yes, you’ve told me not to apologize for expressing my emotions; I know, I know, I just feel bad for taking it out on you… Thank you.  It means a lot knowing you’re here.  Um, actually, could you do something for me?  I really don’t want to be upset tonight.  I just want to forget about all the stress and enjoy being with you.  So, uh, would you, umm.  Mmmmmph this is hard.  Could you just wrap your arms around me and tickle me until I’m giggling too much to be sad?  Please?  It would really mean a lot and I think it would really help and—hehey! Ok wait, wait, wait before you start!   Thank you

truly just learn the phrase "I did not like this" instead of trying to give some moral or ethical reasoning behind why it's actually evil and morally wrong and problematic. you are allowed to just not like things because they're not good in your personal opinion, they don't have to be problematic you can just not like them

ibuprofen please save me from the dragon

"Just because you see I smile...

... don't think you know what's going on underneath."

reblog to give ur mutuals a soft lil kissy on the head

prayer to whichever dead catholic person is most appropriate: may I not have to run a whole week of surprise camps on crutches. in a knee brace.

can you tell the brain rot is coming back

my partner has about 3 genres of youtube video they watch, so I've decided to combine them all into what would be their Ideal Video

DEVASTATING! Woman does task she's been putting off for weeks, finds out it's pretty easy

love and kindness and hope makes the world go round !!

i love you lab grown diamonds i love you slavery-free chocolate i love you community gardens i love you fact that the insulin patent was sold for $1 i love you locally produced meat and milk i love you streets turned into walkable parks i love you little reminders that Things Do Not Have To Be This Way and there are people working to build a better world!!

It's honestly so weird seeing trees with yellow leaves and ads for pumpkin spice lattes and a million tweets and posts about how fall is finally here, only to step outside and be hit with a wall of humid summer-like heat

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.