Dude it's so weird how monogamous people will take personal offense to your open or polyam relationships, as if it's their personal business how your relationship works and they try to make up the rules of your relationship for you. I'm perfectly happy with the idea of my boyfriend sleeping with other people, yet one of his online friends took offense to that today and told me I was just encouraging him to cheat, and when I tried to explain to him that cheating means boundaries have been crossed and the rules of what loyalty means to your personal relationship means to your were broken he got so mad at me on my behalf and tried saying shit like "This new generation just wants to normalize cheating" as if he isn't the same generation as me and my boyfriend. Like it's our relationship and we agreed that it's alright for him to sleep with others, but this monogamous guy got so offended by it because of his past experiences with cheating. And I know damn well that this is a common occurrence for non monogamous people to deal with. Why do monogamous people feel so entitled to make the rules of our relationships for us?

stories like this weird me out. so you claim to love someone--to feel they’re your lifelong partner, to whom you have made an important commitment--and merely the possibility/temptation of them cheating (not actually doing the deed, as far as I can tell) is enough for that love to completely vanish, for you to hate them, to go full scorched earth on your relationship, with no possibility of trying to fix it?

idk, that does not seem like a proportionate reaction to me.

Quadrant-less davekat is fine and all but you know what is really good? When karkat and another troll flirt/do relationship stuff or something but then they actually try and officially get together and define their relationship they ask him what quadrant they're in and his face just falls.

(queue karkat and the other troll figuring out the beauty of blurring the lines/vacillating or even troll x troll quadrantless dating, and them both having to deconstruct their views on the strict systems present on alternia and their own attitudes towards it. it's so good every time)

Anyway have you guys ever heard of "The great empire of HIC"? (Its a rebellion/pirate!au solkat fic that does this SO WELL IM OBSESSED WITH IT)

it honestly blows my mind that there have been so few “oh this is polyamory” takes on challengers compared to “this couple wins”

like I’d say that it’s because I read my fair share of poly romance novels but I also distinctly remember the ot3~ being fairly common even as I was first getting into fandom as a teenager so like……. What’s with the pearl clutching

im truly in such a fascinating position in my life right now i think

watching alfie become catastrophically enamored with lunter over the course of thanks to them was so fucking funny i LOVE showing toh to new people. everyone gets something slightly different out of it. and it is Literally Always Hilarious.

I really hope hating on polyamory becomes less culturally accepted.

People’s romantic preferences aren’t an excuse to vent about your personal trauma or having to hear about your supposed friends’ personal lives. 

sexuality is so dumb. relationships are dumb. romance is dumb and sex is dumb and it's all too fucking complicated and weird

hes a monster fucker in literal actual canon (succubus scene) but sure yeah lets infantilize autistic people since we cant find the perfect man to marry him off to

2023 reads

Adrift In Starlight

space opera adventure romance

a courtesan is hired to seduce the soon-to-be-wife of a famous actor

a historian who’s focused on her career & has no idea her marriage has been arranged by her rich parents

after a museum tour they and two co-workers accidentally resurrect an ancient alien artifact and end up on the run from the law, traveling from planet to planet

pan nonbinary transfemme MC, touch-averse ace MC

Finished purple shawl! 2/2 gifts finished for this upcoming holiday season. While he mostly stayed stretched out from the blocking, he didn’t 100% which comes down to either me needing to hit him with the steam iron for longer and/or the acrylic/nylon blend yarn just simply not staying that well stretched out. But he’s soft and has wonderful drape and I love him anyway.

not to sexualize that dead autistic man but... the undertone of sex in bunny corcoran is very clearly maladapative and dysfunctional (methinks intentionally so) but not in the "is hiding in plain sight" sort of way, in the "is so fucking detached off reality that he has no idea what real people talk and behave like during relationships" (see: autism)

wait do monogamous people like actually get that jealous in real life? i thought it was like an over exaggeration for movies but like do they do it?

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Obey me fandom continues not to get my Asmo post

also, about steph's tags in that previous post, it does follow you everywhere