so one of the things that's so horrifying about birth control is that you have to, like, navigate this incredibly personal choice about your body and yet also face the epitome of misogyny. like, someone in the comments will say it wasn't that bad for me, and you'll be utterly silenced. like, everyone treats birth control like something that's super dirty. like, you have no fucking information or control over this thing because certain powerful people find it icky.
first it was the oral contraceptives. you went on those young, mostly for reasons unrelated to birth control - even your dermatologist suggested them to control your acne. the list of side effects was longer than your arm, and you just stared at it, horrified.
it made you so mentally ill, but you just heard that this was adulthood. that, yes, there are of course side effects, what did you expect. one day you looked up yasmin makes me depressed because surely this was far too intense, and you discovered that over 12,000 lawsuits had been successfully filed against the brand. it remains commonly prescribed on the open market. you switched brands a few times before oral contraceptives stopped being in any way effective. your doctor just, like, shrugged and said you could try a different brand again.
and the thing is that you're a feminist. you know from your own experience that birth control can be lifesaving, and that even when used for birth control - it is necessary healthcare. you have seen it save so many people from such bad situations, yourself included. it is critical that any person has access to birth control, and you would never suggest that we just get rid of all of it.
you were a little skeeved out by the implant (heard too many bad stories about it) and figured - okay, iud. it was some of the worst pain you've ever fucking experienced, and you did it with a small number of tylenol in your system (3), like you were getting your bikini line waxed instead of something practically sewn into your body.
and what's wild is that because sometimes it isn't a painful insertion process, it is vanishingly rare to find a doctor that will actually numb the area. while your doctor was talking to you about which brand to choose, you were thinking about the other ways you've been injured in your life. you thought about how you had a suspicious mole frozen off - something so small and easy - and how they'd numbed a huge area. you thought about when you broke your wrist and didn't actually notice, because you'd thought it was a sprain.
your understanding of pain is that how the human body responds to injury doesn't always relate to the actual pain tolerance of the person - it's more about how lucky that person is physically. maybe they broke it in a perfect way. maybe they happened to get hurt in a place without a lot of nerve endings. some people can handle a broken femur but crumble under a sore tooth. there's no true way to predict how "much" something actually hurts.
in no other situation would it be appropriate for doctors to ignore pain. just because someone can break their wrist and not feel it doesn't mean no one should receive pain meds for a broken wrist. it just means that particular person was lucky about it. it should not define treatment.
in the comments of videos about IUDs, literally thousands of people report agony. blinding, nauseating, soul-crushing agony. they say things like i had 2 kids and this was the worst thing i ever experienced or i literally have a tattoo on my ribs and it felt like a tickle. this thing almost killed me or would rather run into traffic than ever feel that again.
so it's either true that every single person who reports severe pain is exaggerating. or it's true that it's far more likely you will experience pain, rather than "just a pinch." and yet - there's nothing fucking been done about it. it kind of feels like a shrug is layered on top of everything - since technically it's elective, isn't it kind of your fault for agreeing to select it? stop being fearmongering. stop being defensive.
you fucking needed yours. you are almost weirdly protective of it. yours was so important for your physical and mental health. it helped you off hormonal birth control and even started helping some of your symptoms. it still fucking hurt for no fucking reason.
once while recovering from surgery, they offered you like 15 days of vicodin. you only took 2 of them. you've been offered oxy for tonsillitis. you turned down opioids while recovering from your wisdom tooth extraction. everything else has the option. you fucking drove yourself home after it, shocked and quietly weeping, feeling like something very bad had just happened. the nurse that held your hand during the experience looked down at you, tears in her eyes, and said - i know. this is cruelty in action.
and it's fucked up because the conversation is never just "hey, so the way we are doing this is fucking barbaric and doctors should be required to offer serious pain meds" - it's usually something around the lines of "well, it didn't kill you, did it?"
you just found out that removing that little bitch will hurt just as bad. a little pinch like how oral contraceptives have "some" serious symptoms. like your life and pain are expendable or not really important. like maybe we are all hysterical about it?
hysteria comes from the latin word for uterus, which is great!
you stand here at a crossroads. like - this thing is so important. did they really have to make it so fucking dangerous. and why is it that if you make a complaint, you're told - i didn't even want you to have this in the first place. we're told be careful what you wish for. we're told that it's our fault for wanting something so illict; we could simply choose not to need medication. that maybe if we don't like the scraps, we should get ready to starve.
we have been saying for so long - "i'm not asking you to remove the option, i'm asking you to reconsider the risk." this entire time we hear: well, this is what you wanted, isn't it?
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My friend approached me today and asked me if he should watch supernatural (I’ve been trying to get him to watch it for forever) and of course I was like “um yes.” And so we talked about it for awhile and idk what I said but he was like “hold on, one of them isn’t gay?” And I was like, “well canonically it’s never EXPLICITLY said that he was, i think he was bi tho” and I went on to explain the love confession and how it’s canon in Spanish and I confused him I think. Then he said “this whole time I thought that it was one straight brother and one gay brother, I was so down for that. I totally thought he was gay. He LOOKS so gay. And from your edits he looked so gay. Is he not fucking that other guy (cas)?” And I went on to explain that sadly he was not.
This whole interaction was hilarious to me.
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The season 5 of Station 19 and the season 18 of Grey’s Anatomy made me ask one question : what was the point to create Carina DeLuca IF it’s just having made her so useless and boring in these 2 seasons and on the 2 shows ?
I’m just at a stage in my life where I want Carina leaving or dead because first of all, Stefania is clearly wasting her time on these 2 shows and second of all, it’s so frustrating to not see Carina acting like this badass OBGYN she is on GA and because of these 2 reasons, I’m so done with the bad development of Carina when she has all the reasons to shine as doctor.
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As someone who doesn't want kids, Cristina Yang means so much to me. She fights so hard to get people to understand that she just doesn't want kids and that that's a thing, that it's okay, that it's perfectly normal, but that if one day she changes her mind, that's okay too. As someone who has had that conversation a thousand times, hearing her passionately defend this choice that she has made for herself will always be so important to me.
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when i tell you i am dying i have been watching grey's anatomy s19 and spent all day wondering why nobody accepted lucas' explanations and behaviours because they were all so understandable and relatable well IMAGINE MY SURPRISE when it was revealed that this bitch has undiagnosed adhd lmfao
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something about leaving your wife in new york and coming to seattle and meeting a girl in a bar. you meet a girl in a bar and you hook up and the next thing you know she's your surgical intern, but nothing stops you from dating her until your wife shows up. your wife shows up and you hate that she's ruined this for you, ruined another relationship for you, even though it doesn't really seem like meredith wants to leave you but she's also staring at your wife like she's the only thing worth looking at in the room. then they're staring at each other, and maybe this tension isn't just between you and addison, between her cheating on you and you doing the same across the country from where you left her, not with the way addison looks meredith over like she wants to devour her whole while calling her your girlfriend like the words are foul in her mouth.
something about the way time goes on and the tension between the three of you never quite goes away. meredith still wants you, you still want her, and addison still watches her with a faintly predatory gleam in her eye, even as she's trying to win you back. (something about the way you still catch meredith watching addison the same way. you mention it and she denies it.)
something about the way this tension has been running on high for weeks upon weeks, and the only logical option is for the three of you to fall into each other. about the way that addison kisses meredith right in front of you because she knows what it does to your insides, claiming her as hers. (something about the way she kisses meredith and meredith melts into her touch completely like they've done this before, enough to be familiar.)
something about the way your eyes meet addison's over the woman sprawled between you, after, and watching her hand stroke through blonde hair and watching her curl further into addison even though the rest of her is resting against you. and having the strangest feeling that even though you've gotten what you've wanted, you've somehow lost it as well.
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