filipino siblings with big age gaps are so difficult to write too because things like inherent hierarchy that comes with age, respecting your elders, always being compared to them, and, depending on the parents i guess, the younger sibling always being foisted unto ate or kuya because being older comes with the inherent responsibility/parentification... which then brews resentments and maybe a little bit of animosity...... especially when utang na loob to your parents (and by extension your immediate family) is so enforced? like. there's a saying here in the philippines that it's difficult for someone to get rich or for someone to amass enough savings to invest as an ate or kuya because all your money is expected to go to helping your parents raise your kababatang kapatid or bunso. source: i am an eldest child in a filipino family LMAO

I feel this in my bones. In the event of any family emergency/crisis I've got 5-6 people living in my house. I am in constant fear of my younger siblings potential divorces (which would result in them living under my roof). Being an Ate can be a bitch. Before my dad died he told me, "It's good you're so competent. But sometimes being the most competent person in the room is exhausting."

He was so right.

AKO NA BA ANG MAY PROBLEMA?

Gusto ko lang po malamang kung may problema na ba ako sa pag iisip at sobrang sama ng ugali ko base sa mga nangyari sa akin.

Last year May lang ako bumukod at hindi na naging palamunin ng kuya ko. Simula kasi grumaduate ako ng college, wala akong stable na work. Di ako nakakatagal ng more than 2years sa isang company. Naging teller, naging CCA, naging HR, tapos CCA ulit, nag working student ako as crew before. Pinaka matagal ko lang 1year and 1mo. In short, wala akong ambag talaga sa fam namin. Papa and kuya ko yung main na nagtatrabaho sa bahay. Nung nag Pandemic, nagka work ako ng work from home pero di din tumagal kasi namatay papa ko. Dito na nagstart lahat, sa amin pa nakatira bf ko since nag wfh din siya pero di rin nagtagal. Mama ko naadik sa casino at nahumaling sa bago nyang lalaki, wala pang 1year namamatay si papa. Pinakilala niya pa as kumpare sa side ng pamilya ni papa. Kaya sobrang inis ako kay mama non. Pag di nabibigyan ng pera si mama, iiyak. Umabot sa point na mga kapatid niya, nag message sa akin, na parang kasalanan ko kung bat nagka ganon si mama. Nung mejo di na mahigpit ang pandemic, around May 2022, nag aral kami ng bf ko ng Japanese Language. Syempre, wala kaming income parehas, asa kami sa pamasahe na binibigay ng kuya ko, since sya nag introduce sa amin sa Japanese Employer na dati niyang amo. Nung nakatapos kami at nakapasa sa mga needed exams, naghihintay nalang ng processing, syempre wala kaming work, balik sa palamunin, March 2023 na nung nagkaroon kami ng work parehas ng bf ko, umuwi na din sya sa bahay nila. Nung May 2023, umabot na sa time na kami ng bunso kong kapatid nag away dahil lang sa ulam na di naipasok sa ref. Nagka sumbatan na wala akong ambag sa bahay, na si kuya may gastos lahat. Sinuntok ko kapatid ko dahil sa galit. Kasalanan ko ba na nag aaral kami ng Japanese kaya wala kaming income? Bakit may pag sumbat? Eh kahit nung nag aaral kami ng bf ko, kami lahat kumikilos sa bahay, linis, pakain ng aso, pagpapatae sa aso, hugas ng pinggan. Luto nalang di namin ginagawa since nagrereklamo sila ni kuya kapag di masarap. Si mama kasi, laging wala. Di mautusan sa gawaing bahay si kuya pati yung bunso tapos wala kaming ambag?

Edi umalis ako, pinatuloy ako ng bf ko sa bahay nila. Tinanggap naman ako ng fam niya. Nanay and dalawang nakababatang kapatid na babae nya ung kasama namin. Literal nasa isang kwarto lang kami nakatira and yung cr and sink, hati pa sa kapatid ng nanay niya. Bali 17 katao kaming nag sheshare.

Gumanda yung work ko bandang June 2023 kasi naging TL ako. Mataas ung sahod and wfh din, light lang din yung work, nakakapag part time pa ako. Pati work ng bf ko, gumanda din, tumaas din sahod. Di kami nagkakalayo. Kaya lang, yung nanay ni bf, grabe pala taas ng pride. Di namin alam kung kami ba ang mali na magsabi sa kanila na magtipid sa kuryente, sa pagkain, sa alcohol, sa tubig, since mahal na nga mga bilihin. Illegal kasi kuryente nila dati kaya kahit magdamag naka charge mga phone, and nakabukas ilaw pati TV, okay lang. Ngayon, parang lowkey na pinapaalis na kami ng nanay niya and ayaw na makipag usap sa bf ko dahil hirap sila sa kanya dahil binibilangan daw bawat galaw nila. Ang hirap gumalaw kasi ako ung nakikitira lang tapos nag aaway away sila. Lalo pa, bitbit ko ung aso namin na maingay bago matulog kasi gusto umihi sa cr, kaya kumakatok sa pinto. Ang sa amin lang, maging mindful lang sana sila sa mga binibigay namin. Feeling nila sinusumbat na sa kanila lahat, kami ba mali? Nakaka offend lang na, na aksidente ako sa jeep at di maka galaw kaya 3days akong nakahilata habang pinag sisilbihan ng nanay ni bf, tapos nung magpapasuyo sana na paihiin yung aso, nagalit kasi sinigawan daw at tinrato na parang katulong. (Nasigawan kasi mahina na pandinig ng nanay ni bf tapos naka earphone pa. Pero narinig naman yung kalampag ng aso). Dahil lang sa aso, low-key na kami pinapalayas. Gaslight na gaslight yung dating sa amin. Kasi nagpaalam si bf dati kung pwede bumukod na kami, oo naman daw, pero di namin maiwan kasi si bf ang breadwinner, ayoko pa rin gumawa ng pamilya na di financially stable. Sabay sabi ngayon na pwede naman bumukod na kami since yun naman daw gusto namin.

Pangalawang pamilya na to na di kami tanggap. Na ginawa naman namin lahat ng makakaya namin, binigay mga kaya naming ibigay, pero galit parin sila sa amin. Ako na ba ang problema? Kami na ba may problema?

Bumukod na ba kami? Pano mamumuhay sila nanay ni bf eh mga studyante pa mga kapatid niya. Di din sila pinapadalhan regularly ng tatay nila na Japanese. Nagsawa na din magpadala ng malaki kay nanay ni bf kasi pati mga pamangkin/kapatid niya pinapakain niya. (another issue na pinagsasabihan namin si nanay ni bf)

Hirap kasi pag nandito sa kanila, di lang fam ni bf binubuhay, pati mga kapatid at pamangkin ng nanay nya, parang dapat bigyan din. pag hindi, madamot kami. And kaya ayan, nagalit nanay nya sa kanya.

On the so-called "toxic Filipino culture"

Am I the only one who has noticed that most of today’s Filipino youth have become a disrespectful, maleducated bunch? They have absolutely zero respect for their elders nowadays, most especially when they think they know that they have a reason to answer back. And with the growing popularity of “meme culture”, they have also become arrogant and brazen through the years, as if the memes or quote…

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It's one of those days na naman!

one of the most Peepaw Ever

Currently drinking some tea, Filipino fam drama hits different ngl

Random but I just dreamt of Soap being a taho vendor

huy mare, let's be real. Soap would be a conyo-ass taho vendor.

(non-filos, here's a [vid] so you'd get what i mean by "conyo" HSAHSHASH)

doni filipino agenda

do you get me. his full name is jhon marcus donatello jesus m. de los reyes and he plays basketball has 3 siblings and works at his family's sari-sari store . he is also my friend and we play tumbang preso together

the Fëanorians (inspired by traditional Filipino culture)

My brother and i dont know how to hold a child. They're just so tinyyyyyyyyyy.

I need a filipino Morticia Adams remake featuring this dress. OMG can you imagine??

A photograph circa 1930s in postcard format from the collection of Maria Lopez Ramirez shows an unidentified Filipina wearing a Terno “that illustrated the influence of surrealism, with giant spiderwebs emblazoned on the sleeve, pañuelo, and skirt, accented with spiders at the center.”

pavitr rly changed the spidersona designing scene huh

nightlife Pagadian City Philippines

Bautista is a bit funny for me as an international fan of GW because I had a homeroom teacher with the same name, I wonder how they'd do in that position LOL. I do appreciate their character 'cause I don't often see my country in media, or really any of SEA that much, this is the first time I've seen it represented in IF specifically.

hehe thanks!!!

Bautista as a homeroom teacher would be the long-suffering type that tries to remain stoic even when their students catapult pencils into the ceiling. Their students swing wildly between thinking they're a hardass and (for the most part unintentionally) the funniest person alive. They try and impart important life lessons onto their students, but just end up exasperatedly explaining that no, carving your eraser into a throwing star shape is not technically a weapon, but that does not mean you can throw it at each other. Now read this passage from this book about World War II and shut up.

omg ur a filipino puppy??? my partner is a filipino puppy too!! whats ur fav filipino food?

i love how this question always gets asked upon learning someone is filipino lmao