I'll be fine and then I'll make any attempt at genuine connection and run headlong into a fucking wall

bi ppl especially in public spaces are just completely fucked no matter what huh. come out and you're lying/actually gay/actually straight/want attention. don't come out and you're 'queerbaiting', or 'appropriating queer culture'

an 18yo being forced to come out bc a bunch of ppl wouldn't stop harassing them. constantly talking about how him holding hands with a girl makes him straight. accusing a real live person of queerbaiting.

ppl don't owe you their sexuality. they don't owe you shit

I go by she/her because that's what I'm used to, but gender isn't really something that important or meaningful to me personally. I use they/them when referring to myself, but I have no problem with others using any other pronouns (though I'm not used to neopronouns, so perhaps not those).

this could probably be referred to as agender.

which means...

I am a 𝗤𝗨𝗜𝗡𝗧𝗨𝗣𝗟𝗘 𝗔 𝗕𝗔𝗧𝗧𝗘𝗥𝗬

I really, really, really don't want anyone on the team to go: "I/we know" when Colin comes out.

Can you imagine how terrifying that would be for Colin. He's spent so much time and energy trying to hide who he is. And to then hear "Yeah, we've known all along, so your effort didn't really matter." That would be horrible. Because who else knows then? If his efforts were for nothing, anyone could know. In Sunflowers he asks Trent how he knew, so it was important for him to know what he'd done for Trent to know about him. And he laughs when he finds out why, because it wasn't him being him that made Trent find out, it was because he actually saw him being intimate with another man. So that was a relief.

I get were people are coming from when they say they want to see one or all of them saying that. I really do, it's the "We love you and accept you" part, but it wouldn't really be that, because Colin has been hiding in plain sight. And I know some people feel relief when they hear those words, I personally would hate to hear those words, even as someone who wants to be perceived as queer. Because to me it's about the fact that you're opening yourself up, being vulnerable by coming out. And then you hear someone more or less saying "You didn't really have to do that because we all know anyway", when it should be about the person coming out and what they are willing to share, and what they are willing to tell you. Be supportive and sure if they ask if you knew, you can be honest. But for me, saying "I know" as your first reaction, it just isn't nice.

BUT, these are just my feelings on the matter. And if you want that to happen that is fine, I just wanted to put this alternative take out there.

This is why I love Colin's storyline so much because so many of us can relate in some way even if we, like Trent, aren't professional athletes. And we all have our own perspective and expectations because of our own experiences.

in a hilarious turn of events my flatmate didn't even know I use any pronouns....

“i think it will be easier if we’re a team

friends

best friends”

devastatingly disappointed that the entire young royals tag is filled with comparisons to rwrb and heartstopper as if i dont love young royals entirely because its executed so much better than either of those

i will never understand the "stop casting straight actors as gay characters" argument. people just wanna out gay actors so they can have a better grasp on who to hate.

“I can’t believe that they identify as (something nonhuman)”

Hey, I think there are bigger things to worry about, buddy, than the personal gender/self identities of someone else

It's insane to me that this entire "debate" (if it can even be called that) is literally just

trans people, jewish people, black people literally everyone who has been hurt by bigotry: hey please don't spend $70 on a game about pro-slavery and fascism when a lot of that money will go to its creator who is publically bigoted and uses her massive amounts of wealth to fund the eradication of marginalized groups

and the response to that was: fuck you why can't you just let people enjoy things, harry potter personally saved my life

like. it's extremely telling that so many people value their own entertainment and nostalgia over the lives of others. jkr is such a horrible, despicable person and literally all people are saying is that yeah you shouldn't be giving a modern day nazi that much money when they constantly bring people to the alt right and donate that money to every anti-human rights organization you could think of.

and no i don't think sending people death threats is okay but at the same time, you don't get to act surprised, defensive, or victimized when people call you out for giving money to a fucking nazi.

mirrors in velvet goldmine (1998)

realizing that maybe I am just some crow who does not like labels. or at least using too many

my dad & step-mom are visiting soon so we’ve hung up the trans flag in my room. they’re not homophobic or transphobic or any kind of anti-queer i just haven’t explicitly told them and i just wanna see how they’ll react.

i have to say it: people wouldn’t say half the mean shit they do about will & mike’s relationship possibly happening if they were a straight couple

unpopular opinion but a ship being queer coded doesn't make it compelling

rereading a book i loved in high school to annotate a copy. remembering why it connected w me so much