Gentle reminder to get a butch flowers

Hey this might be a weird question but I thought you would be a good person to ask: How does one know if they count as a butch lesbian? Because I really want to use that label but I'm not sure if it would be acceptable for me to.

On one hand I love working out, dressing masculinely, I don't wear makeup and I really want to be the butch in a relationship.

On the other hand I'm super short (like ridiculously so, 4' 10" / 152 cm), I like having long hair and I do occasionally enjoy wearing skirts on occasion. So I don't know if I'd count. I've had people tell me that I don't.

It's just that every depiction of butch women I've seen is so different from me and that makes me feel like I can't use the label. But your art makes me feel seen and gives me hope that maybe I could be one, so I wanted to ask you. Thank you so much for your time, I hope I'm not intruding! Stay hydrated and happy!

okay so, before i started to id as a butch, i was going through the exact same thing as you. i kept thinking “what if i’m not good enough? what if i’m not masculine enough? what if they flat out deny me? what if they say i’m not really butch because there were times in my life where i really thought i was femme?”

i’m fat, i’m autistic, i’m disabled. i’m too geeky and not the most athletic person, definitely not your local handy man. i wear and make a lot of jewelry and put on the occasional eyeliner. i thought all of this made me a phony, and that i couldn’t identify as a real butch.

i want to tell you now that real butches are some of the most accepting people i have ever met. they accept you as you are, warts and all, and more often than not, you will meet butches who are a lot like you(after a little digging!)

i also want to say that while masculinity is absolutely a part of being butch, toxic masculinity isn’t! masculinity isn’t the absolute absence of femininity. butches, wear your skirts, wear your make up, wear whatever makes you happy because fuck gender roles! also being short has nothing to do with being butch, short butches are amazing!

butch is transformative, butch is subversive, butch is radical,

butch is beautiful.

It’s weird to see yourself finally reflected on the screen to yourself and I think that’s what adult Van Palmer is doing for lots of butch (soft or hard) lesbians. As an older millennial I grew up with so much gender policing and telling me I wasn’t “being a lady”. No matter how many skirts or dresses or I wore makeup, I never felt like myself. I always knew I would go right back to my hard butch self inevitably. Let girls be butch and let more butch girls know they are perfect just as they are. Just some Sunday ramblings. Also I love movies, went to film school and work in film/tv. 🤯

Oh holy Aphrodite, bless the beautiful/handsome butch reading this 🩷❤️🩵

I thought my hair looked really pretty this morning and that I looked really handsome in these pictures i took in my sweetie’s bathroom this morning.

I'm still not entirely sure where I want to identify on the femme-to-butch scale, but I do know that I never feel closer to all my butch siblings than when I'm standing in the bathroom at the sink in my underwear, tits out, re-trimming my buzzcut.

I’m Dominican and have PCOS so I’m generally a pretty hairy afab person, and although I’ve liked my happy trail over the years I still felt the need to shave it whenever I thought someone would see my stomach. Then one of my nonbinary friends came to my bday party wearing a crop top with their happy trail out and it was so cute and everyone adored it and you know what? Haven’t shaved mine since.

It can never be stated enough how important and impactful it is to see normal bodies just doing their thing.

Not amazing pics but butch tummy is magic!! <3

{I put glitter on it}

[He/they for me, I am NOT a woman or a man, most masc terms are fine tho]

I think ‘gender envy’ for me is not the desire to pass ‘better’ as a masculine person or cis man, but the desire to be perceived with the same level of humanisation and respect and admiration that men get automatically (especially when I am seen engaging in a hobby or showing one of my talents)

marcille visiting the chuck family and their very much not elf-sized furniture (idea from @maria-ruta <3)

As a femme, it’s our job to be there with butches and make community with them. We should be uplifting them and listening to them as they do with us. It’s not femme at all to be butchphobic and put down butches or butchness. That is no requirement to date or even be attracted to butches but we do have to be kind to each other, protect each other, and be there for each other. Our identities and communities are intertwined in the best way. We share a rich and important history. Our identities should matter to each other even if we’re not dating. As femmes we should care about the safety of butches and do our best to aid them, or at least the bare minimum of being kind, respectful, and listening to their issues. Butches deserve better and we can most certainly give them that.

Transfem butches, reblog if you agree

Idk a lot of the backlash to broadening who falls under what terms comes from the need to distinctly fall under the specific label you worked towards…but distance from adjacent labels only limits your allies and puts you in a rigid box you can’t come back out of either.

Saw a post by a trans woman horrified by the concept of having overlapping experience with femboys because “fuck you I am a woman.” You are. A woman with a lot of overlapping experience with a GNC man. You’re not a GNC man. He’s not a woman. And the gap between you two is not a chasm.

“How dare you say trans men are similar to butch lesbians. Trans men are men.” Yeah, men with similar experiences to butch lesbians. The butch lesbian isn’t a man. You aren’t a woman. And the gap between you is not a chasm.

This mindset doesn’t even account for GNC men who also ID as women, trans men who use the label of lesbian. Butch can be a label for a person of either AGAB.

Binary trans people wanna separate themselves from each other and from nonbinary people sooo bad. Now it makes eggs feel like the jump from GNC woman to man is an insurmountable journey. A femboy gets told he’s making a mockery of trans women’s experiences. A transmasc femboy is seen as just a faker. A butch trans lesbian is seen as a faker.

These labels are all just plots on the map, not one side or the other. You journey to the farthest edges and you find twinks and lesbians who look and act identical despite being supposed opposites. It’s all made up, we’re all queer.

I see one (1) pretty/handsome butch and suddenly I’ve been struck by Aphrodite’s chariot going full speed down the freeway

still a wip but god. god i love her so fucking much

seeing a (fellow) butch out in the wild