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craycraybluejay · 1 month

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On the next episode of Are Maleness and Sadism Interlinked or Am I Just Weird About My Masculinity and Kink

#my tranny sex mysticism is cooler than your cissy sex mysticism #although gender in general is a construct and everyone ties things to their gender which have little or no #real connection to anything like that #bc gender is identity #clothes are the easiest example but #i think i understand when people say stuff that sounds nonsensical like 'my gender is venus flytrap'#because gender is identity and if its a big thing in your identity you kinda like #connect it to your femaleness or maleness or both neither other #like when a girl fights shes still feminine kicking ass and that doesnt make her any less good at kicking ass #or when a guy does his nails it can very much be a masculine thing for him #its all made up and based on vague feelings and concepts #so sure conservatives feel free to identify as an ak47 you know its not a gotcha #and radfems feel free to keep calling me a monster it makes me hard <3 #but yea like. identity is both complex and simple. its the human condition to identify with things #and i dont think 'neogenders' are particularly new i just think we had different words or no words for that #but people have and always will identify with anything and everything #thats human nature. we mirror and absorb and grow #even twin sisters experience femaleness differently or even call it different things #girlhood or being a lady etc etc #even within the cishet society gender is not as simple as authoritarians would like you to believe #anyway yeah my gender identity is sadistic male aligned freak and other things

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cruelsister-moved2 · 2 years

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for real! (from kadji amin)

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What I've realized is that I believe that the matter of gender is practical and relational. It's not about who you are inside, it's more about how you would feel most comfortable in the world. It's not 'Who are you?' but 'How do you want to live?'

Had that been the discourse when I was coming up, I would have breathed a sigh of relief. I don't have to figure out who I am on the inside, I just have to figure out how I want to live.

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#and I kind of felt really sad when they were talking about how like they feel in some ways figuring yourself out is way harder now #bc there is this pressure to like figure out who u Really Are Inside #and instead of being like well maybe my identity goes far beyond gender and like i don't need to find some microlabel #in order to like define who is Me #it's become very fixated on like categorising ur gender rejection in a way that ends up just. making even more genders to constrain u #it's hard to summarise it was like v wordy but I thought this part was so true #for sexuality as well not to tack it on but we have really gotten into the same mindset w sexuality now as well #THANK U @VAKAVANHASAATANA for the ID it wont let me @ you in the text </33

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yardsards · 5 months

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think of a character that isn't canonically trans that you headcanon as being trans-masculine. (if you have multiple, just choose one arbitrarily or pick your favourite)

trans-feminine headcanon poll

#eliot posts #polls #trans #trans headcanons #was considering doing trans man trans woman and nonbinary polls but just went with transmasc and transfem #bc was easier to uniformly format the questions like that with just these two options #i know there are trans identities (and trans headcanons) that fall outside of the transmasc vs transfem binary #but i had to limit myself for easier data collection #sorry bout that #may make future polls in the future that are more in depth and encapsulate a greater range of genders

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officialspec · 2 months

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What do you think gay men are attracted to in men that they can’t be attracted to in women?

It can’t be anything about femininity or masculinity obviously. That’s both sexist, and cultural so can’t be what drives men-only attraction.

It can’t be anything about stated identity because someone could lie just as easily as they could tell the truth in such a statement, and it makes no sense because homosexuality and heterosexuality exists in other species with no stated identities. It’s not like other animals without gender are all pan.

Saying idk it’s the vibes or some indescribable trait men have that women can’t but “I can’t explain” is a nonanswer.

Soooooooo what is it? Or do you think any sexuality but bi/pan is just cultural performance or an identity rather than an inborn orientation?

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first off i hate this ask and i think youre a freak. in any other world i wouldve blocked you for this but unfortunately for both of us i actually like this type of philosophy. dont send this shit to anyone else though

i dont think its right to compare human sexuality to the same thing in animals, to get that out of the way. im sure until a certain point it comes from the same biological impulses, but human beings have way more complicated social structures and reasons for coupling that just do not exist in other animals. our social behaviours are what make us unique in the animal kingdom and that definitely extends to gender and sexuality. so theres that

people love to tout 'gender is a social construct' around like its a criticism in and of itself, which i think betrays a misunderstanding about social constructs in general. theyre the foundations we build language on to better understand each other, and affected by a whole host of cultural and historical factors. just because theyre subjective and complicated doesnt mean they arent real. in terms of the effect they have on peoples lives they may be the most real thing that exists

for example, 'kindness' is a social construct. the definition and ways it is enacted differ greatly across personal and cultural lines. but no one would ever suggest a world where kindness doesnt exist or loses meaning, because its an essential part of the way we interact with each other (in the same way i dont really see a world where gender entirely ceases to exist, mainly just one where people have more fun with it. im not a psychic though so who knows)

similarly, sexuality in humans is another social construct. i think the driving biological forces behind it are very real, but the labels people attach to those impulses are subjective attempts to express their inner world to the people around them if that makes sense. and those same biological impulses are ALSO subject to social ideas of gender, because those ideas are established at birth and reinforced over a persons entire lifetime

to use myself as an example, im a gay trans man. ive identified as other things in the past, because i was trying to pick apart feelings i had and express them to others in an attempt to find community. my identity might change as i get older and experience new things, or it might not. i identify as gay because im not attracted to the social concept of women, and someone i would otherwise be attracted to might lose all appeal after i find out they fall under that concept (this has happened before w transfems pre and post coming out lol)

of course, the real REAL answer to this is that trying to give queer identities rigid and objective definitions is a fools errand, and also lame as fuck. someone might identify as gay and be more attracted to general masculinity than men as a social category, maybe they fool around with a couple of butch women without considering themself any less gay. two otherwise identical people might be a butch lesbian and a gay trans man without either of those identities coming into conflict. they might even be the same person at different times of the week

the labels people choose to use are communication tools, not objective signifiers. if you dont understand them, they probably arent talking to you

social constructs are everything. we as humans have the unique ability to interpret our own messy desires and impulses into words that other people can use to form an idea of someone else in their mind. its how we build connections, and of course it isnt perfect because trying to squeeze someones entire personal history and the centuries of context that defined it into a handful of syllables is going to leave some room for error. but its all we have, yknow? so we keep trying. and i think thats much more human than any imposed objective 'truth' could ever be

tldr we live in a society dipshit. get with it

#ask #long post #i feel like i should tag for the ask bc it sucks but idk what so like. lmk #gender #trans stuff #i love you language philosophy i love you messy human relationships i love you contradictory identities

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biennatodd · 4 months

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i cant stop thinking about what if pregnancy was really hard for YZY.

what if her labor was so difficult that her doctors encouraged her to not even try again (the impossible be damned) despite having a daughter for a firstborn.

what if she pushed (and JFM was amenable, as he often was then) for her daughter to be made heir, only for JYL to struggle with foundation building so much that they worried she'd never reach core formation.

unsuitable.

it goes from improbable to nigh impossible for yanli to be sect leader.

so YZY decides to try again, its been years since the first time. surely she's recovered more than enough. if she can not make her body do even this then. then.

she will do this.

imagine her suffering another dangerous child birth, only to have another daughter.

and never once does her love for her children waver but she could cry, honestly cry because why could nothing ever be easy for her.

and then she has a thought.

it would be so easy. she could force the midwives to take an oath of secrecy. she would have to be more hands on in the raising of her child than most others in her position, but it wouldn't hurt to be seen as doting...

no one would ever know.

That year, the jianghu celebrated the birth of Jiang Fengmian's son and heir, Jiang Cheng.

#mdzs #yu ziyuan #jiang family #i was just thinking what if YZY's insistence JFM recognize JC as son and heir was caused by something.. else #what if YZY (and jc by proxy) had a secret #and yes that secret is #trans jiang cheng #its a bit different bc jc would not have any choice re: gender presentation or identity but i feel like that provides good character drama #jiang cheng in for the shock of his life when he finally learns other boys are built different

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bananonbinary · 28 days

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as a certified Diagnosed Autist(TM) i cannot stress enough that i am not only pro- self-diagnosis, but also pretty anti- legal medical diagnosis. it is, at best, a cruel hoop we have to jump through so privileged people will deign to give us what we need. don't fucking do that shit unless you have to, it was disgustingly expensive, fucking humiliating, infantilizing, and dehumanizing, and would probably actively cause problems in my life if i didn't have some really good allistic (-passing) people in my corner and also wasn't so fucking disabled that it mostly doesn't matter.

literally get that diagnosis if you need it for job/school accessibility shit or SSI or whatever, and otherwise dont tell the government SHIT about yourself. there is zero good reason for them to want that information. that's between you and the people you want in your life.

#as a side note: this goes for gender too #dont fucking get a special marker on your passport or whatever #trying to get ssi has made me realize how deeply cruel the system is #never reveal any vulnerability you have unless it's absolutely necessary #do not do this stuff for validation the government is not your friend and you should seek emotional fulfillment elsewhere #hm this post turned out a lot angrier than i meant #guess i'm still mad about how awful the process was #it wasnt even long it was just. so *impersonal.*#this woman talked to me for two hours. went down a fairly bigoted checklist.#didnt ask me my own opinion on much of anything. and then declared a bunch of her impressions as if they hold weight just bc shes allistic #like how i have 'identity issues' (am trans and dont want a romantic partner)#and thats just. my permanent record of diagnosis! this two hour conversation with a stranger! she doesnt fucking know me #we paid like $500 for that

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milfygerard · 2 months

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but fr outside of my contracted madness i absolutely refuse to give joe alwyn gold rush like how is that song at all related to their relationship the lyrics clearly spell out a relationship that either never existed or only existed in implication and fantasies and maybe-maybe nots and its so bitter and yet desperately soft in the bridge where it almost projects a sense of envy, of wanting to be them as much as you want them. It continues an interesting oft ignored lyrical trend of taylor wanting just as much to be her lover as to have them, envying their easy charisma (you were flush with the currency of cool/i was always turning out my pockets) or quiet dignity (your integrity makes me seem small) dating back to her earliest songs (the kind of flawless i wish i could be). Theres a projected self hatred and yearning to be better that twists itself into both romantic and sexual lust for her partners thats so fascinating and speaks to how all of her songs regardless of who theyre about are also an act of self reflection on who she is and who she wishes to be.

#barry.txt #taylor swift #putting this in the tags as a form of self protection but make no mistake this is a gay thing to do especially in gold rush #which through simple context clues is Obviously About A Woman or maybe even women in general #whivh is a totally seperate post on how taylor constructs and uses gender identity in her music #her girlhood and femininity are earnest but also so carefully constructed and so high effort and kind of desperate #shes a deeply self concious and obsessive person who never looks comfortable in anything ever unless shes #onstage or like. by herself in loose jeans and a tshirt #i think thats one of the things that subconsciously irritate ppl when it comes to her shes constantly and clearly putting in effort #to appear As The Celebrity Taylor Swift and struggles not to self censor or overperform in interviews (when she gives them)#especially present in pre 1989 interviews where the interviewers really didnt have to respect her or worry abt how they frame her #if they didnt want to. Like the fearless era rolling stone interview where she almost has a meltdown over her mom buying eggnog instead of #milk. That whole interview is strange looking back not just bc of the weird misogyny but also because of what it does share #taylor is....weird. She has a strange and desperate vibe and always reacts slightly too much and uses slang poorly #shes media trained and has learned how to socialize but you can feel her discomfort whenever she doesnt have a guitar in her hand #idk these tags have once again gotten so unweildy. i just find it interesting that she finally feels some level of comfortable #in sharing that construction w us in songs like mirrorball and mastermind and imo gold rush #and scene #should i write this up and put it in the swiftieism zine #i should write something and put it in the swiftieism zine

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randomwriteronline · 4 months

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Do the matoran even know what the difference between male and female is. Did the great beings ever instil the knowledge in them or is it just something that they like. Picked up from other species like the vortixx and skakdi. And makuta i guess. Do they assume female and male are an oversemplification of the elemental thing. So like you have female which is Water and then all the other elements just get funneled into male which instead of a specific element is just Not-Water.

How do they rationalize lightning matoran then. Like are they a subkind of ga-matoran? Because water is a good conductor for lightning? And what about Orde and the psionics. Great Beings go well we cant have you be male now bc youre too destructive, lets make the next ones all female, and Orde is just like what the fuck is a male. Or a female. Never heard of that in my life.

#bionicle #random talks #honestly its very fun to think abt these things and using them to make the matoran even more distanced from the audience #really let them be their own weird n fucked up lil species #i like the hc that their element is their gender which however in turn causes Great Confusion abt the use of male and female distinctions #so i imagine they Did jus pick that up from other species and used it in a really simplified way. but also the dont know what it means #like they mightve assumed that Vezok n Vamprah and Tarix n Berix were female bc they were blue. which. is baffling to everybody else #but makes Perfect Sense for them #edit didnt include nonbinary/genderqueer identities bc based on the elemental gender hc theyd literally go 'oh yeah' and not question that #theyve got at least 12 genders probably so they can understand the idea of a spectrum #its SPECIFICALLY the male/female distinction thats Weird for them to have bc theyve got Absolutely Nothing to base it on

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bumblingbabooshka · 7 months

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[TUVOKTOBER: Day 15] At First Sight.

#tuvoktober #excerpt from the novel 'pathways'#tuvok/t'pel #Tuvok #st voyager #st voyager fanart #T'Pel #hey [vibrating from thinking about Tuvok - Vulcan Love & Gender Identity & Sexuality too much] -extends hand- chew through drywall with me #comix #something about how Tuvok's identity is half T'Pel and has been for decades he's spent DECADES growing with half of him being a person #he's not just deeply in love with but literally IS. He literally literally /IS/ part of T'Pel and his children literally ARE a part of him #the SECOND he sees T'Pel Tuvok says 'Being with her isn't enough I need to BE her. NOW.'#that novel had barely anything about T'Pel in it but I'll forgive them bc what they did have (basically just this) ??? showstopping.#thinks about Tuvok alone on Voyager thinks about the unique and alien suffering #[shuddering breath...]ahgh...[cough]....h ey Tuvok!!! What're your PRONOUNS-#Guy who misses his wife who is also him #gu ys....[sobbing openly] g uys...he's INCOMPLETE without them.....#are you picking up what I'm putting down???#-chokes star trek writers- stop having straight people write alien romance. let insane gay people like me have a turn pleasepleaseplease #bea art tag #[switches out of angst mode for a second] also its SO fucking funny that in this novel's canon Tuvok didn't know about the pon farr until #it happened to him. he literally had NO idea what was going on. His parents didn't tell him. Why?? Don't believe in sexEd???#it really made me laugh. conservative coded...#drawing elaborate Vulcan head....things? headresses? is fun <3 #suggestive cw

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genderkoolaid · 6 months

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i think folks should start calling themselves a "person of wo/man experience"

#i have thoughts abt how ''a gay'' or ''a trans'' is seen as dehumanizing #but ''a woman'' ''a man'' is normal bc it's personhood is synonymous w (proper) gender #even ppl who understand gender identity still see gender as this inherent fundamental part of your personality and personhood #m.

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mattiebluebird · 1 month

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And if I said genderfluid Cissie would anyone care

#🏳️‍⚧️⁉️ <- my actual reaction to this panel #eugh i LOVE making characters w identity issues trans. exploring the self through gender expression is so so important to me #ALSO a cissie who goes thru a tomboy phase bc her mom hates it but ultimately ends up deciding she likes fem style more but retains that #like. internal feeling of otherness. yk?#like expression =/= gender #cissie king-jones #cissie king jones #young justice 1998 #trans cissie king jones #genderfluid cissie king jones

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villainanders · 2 years

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there's a video essay that lives inside of me whose thesis is that game of thrones made jaime and cersei's relationship about sexuality when in asoiaf its about gender

#honestly i think d&d just like. didnt really get how to write incest and wrote a narrative about incest that basically made incest the same #thing as being gay. in the way people talk about it and the way it fits into society and the way they had jaime try to be 'normal' and then #go back to his lover and die like some hayes code era gay man #and in the books the incest is about identity under an oppressive gender binary that manifests in the most toxic way bc they have no tools #of understanding it. which could so easily be sooooosooo bad but then ISNT bc redemption comes along with brienne and another way of living #outside of the gender binary

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fungal-cat · 1 year

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Also, what label do you use to describe your gender identity | please reblog if you vote as well :)

#making it again bc i accidentally set it to just run for a day and meant to put a week so sorry if u voted there as well!!#forgive my adhd brain #personally i use he/they/she & identify as genderqueer :)#transgender #nonbinary #genderfluid #genderqueer #gender #gender identity #pronouns #lgbt #lgbtq

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justmelookingbackatme · 1 year

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The first time I looked in the mirror and felt at peace with what I saw was on Yom Kippur, in 2021.

Before then, the mirror wasn't usually painful, but it felt like looking at a photograph of someone else. The connection between myself and the reflection was never there, not until that Yom Kippur.

What to wear to services has been a long running debate in my family, ever since I renounced dresses as a child. For a long time, my mother still bought me formal outfits that were feminine, if not a dress or skirt. I tolerated those, though I never liked them much either.

I didn't wear a dress to my Bar Mitzvah, though I know she wanted me to.

I didn't wear a suit to my Bat Mitzvah either, but I would have, had I known that was a possibility.

This was the first service I can remember being comfortable in my own skin.

Throughout the year, I had been collecting hand-me-downs from my parents; mother and father. I had my father's old blue button down shirt hanging up in my closet. I found it when I was getting dressed that morning, and put it on.

Good, but somehow incomplete.

I knocked on my father's door and told him I wanted to learn how to tie a tie.

He nodded and handed me one from his closet. We stood together in front of the mirror as he undid his own tie and started the process again, slowly. I followed the best I could through each loop and twist, mesmerized by how the necktie wove itself around. When I finished, it wasn't bad for a first attempt. The knot was clumsy, sure, but I didn't care if it wasn't perfect.

It was me.

I spent the day praying and fasting, and I was comfortable, and I was me.

#found this in my drafts and it's honestly good so. posting it #gender shit #also judaism shit #not enough judiasm shit on this blog #i like it when i think about the connection between my gender and my jewish identity bc they are connected #and that's very sexy of me

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inexplicably-spookified · 4 months

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older humansagi. put a shirt on dude

#cave story #(I GUESS)#usagi #my ocs #scribblins #does this count as female-presenting nipples? idk #i waffled for a long time over how to design this cause i wanted to keep the shirtless aspect #but at the same time i wasn't sure how to do it without keeping the ambiguity of her physical sex #since the running '''joke''' regarding her gender is that she doesn't actually know what gender is and her 'true' identity is a mystery #bc she uses she/her pronouns explicitly because she 'likes how they sound'#eventually i just said 'fuck it' and drew her like this #are those top surgery scars? maybe! maybe not! who knows!

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percytheboykisser · 7 months

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genuinely i love being trans sm it's such an important apart of my silly identity and i would not trade being trans for the world. it's such a lovely time when you have the proper people to support you fr(literally the only things that makes it unfun is dysphoria and transphobia and a lot of the time the dysphoria is caused by society and transphobia anyway💀)

#trans experience #trans joy #trans pride #transboy #just a silly guy who loves being trans #RRRRR #i love being trans and i love trans people #it's such a beautiful thing to be trans #and it should genuinely be talked about more #dude 1 day im gonna have a tattoo that's about my transness #bc i want it #im proud of my trans identity!!#RAHHHHH #sorry omg i have so much gender euphoria rn lol #teehee #transgender #trans #trans positivity #transisbeautiful

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