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soulinkpoetry · 2 months

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Take the time to rest, play and enjoy life without the need to apologize.

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HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY! 💐💐💐

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#international women’s day #poetry #thoughts #feelings #what women want #stop apologizing #poets on tumblr #Nicola Jane Hobbs #daily quotes

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issacharmastersdp18 · 16 days

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Okay, so…

I like Tom Blyth’s portrayal.

Nothing wrong with it, or him.

HOWEVER

I am so fucking tired of all the President Snow merch everywhere being 99.99% Tom and 0.01% Donald. (The gifs too)

Also

The “I can fix him” and “President Snow apologist” stuff is out of hand.

The story is set in stone. We’re long passed the opportunity for helping him not become an oligarch.

As much as I love Coriolanus, and always will, I don’t apologize for anything he did. None of that was okay. It’s not forgivable. In fact, he probably wouldn’t think it is either. Understanding how he becomes the man we know and knowing how he thinks, understanding that he’s not “just an evil old sadistic bastard” and has a traceable thought process… That’s not excusing, apologizing, or forgiving.

Having “the greater good” in mind when murdering, torturing, trafficking people… that doesn’t make any of it any less wrong. And any of these young people who think otherwise… the people who apologize… they missed the point and I am worried for them. I am worried they will ignore very real red flags in real people and stay in unhealthy, and even dangerous, relationships.

Whether you believe it’s real love or not, Coriolanus and Lucy Gray were a toxic couple. Whether you wanted them to work out or not, they just never could. They are not relationship goals. You want a less toxic Hunger Games relationship? Katniss and Peeta have their issues, but they’re much closer to couple goals. Finnick and Annie also come to mind. We see less of them, but they, as a couple, seem reasonably non-toxic.

You want Coriolanus to have a healthy relationship with someone? Fanfiction. Can’t find it, or one you like? Make your own. Share it, or don’t.

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ntls-24722 · 6 months

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Heeeeeeey 💅✨

(not really used to not apologizing for bothering)

I am so sorry for bothering you right now. I know you’re busy and school and shit just like me but I couldn’t help but wonder about Zoey

like her personality, what she likes what she hates

and how her body mechanic work, especially her mouth because I’m having troubles drawing her even though I have a reference, even a reference of her, running after me with an open mouth I *ahm* absolutely terrified of*ahm*

but I really wonder how her mouth works

and I really wonder would she like toothy grin new edition candy ???

And I hope you really have a good day (again sorry for bothering)

OKAY SORRY FOR TAKING SO LONG TO ANSWER THIS!! AHHH!!! i wanted to give you an in-depth explanation bc i realized her anatomy actually is kinda Strange

so zoey's head is actually like if Comet was human - it's Long and her jaw's hinge is actually much farther back than it is on regular humans (highlighted in yellow)

I originally was just going to have the mouth be impossibly trailing down the neck like some body horror designs but it's more realistic this way.

Other notes! Her shoulders aren't horizontal like ours, they're more like other animals where they face forward. Her abdomen is also not like a tail - it's more like a big extension of her torso since it's full of guts and bones. It's very inflexible and solid.

Also, yes she would! and it'd be scary because she would very easily crunch into one like it was a potato chip

#ntls-24722 #ask #zoey valero #STOP APOLOGIZING #I LOVE YOU (platonicallly)#RAHHHHHHHH❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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i-drop-level-one-loot · 7 months

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Sorry for constantly bugging you but I just have to say that I cannot and will not stop loving you and your work! You’re amazing and I love everything about you and your work! But please remember to take care of yourself and your mental state too hun, we all care about you 💕💕 keep up the good work ❤️

#stop apologizing #mwah <3 #thank you for interacting with me #stahp it #break into your house and steal your toenail clippers #swear to god

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principiumindividuationis777 · 4 months

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#Angelina Jolie #pastel goth #beauty #thick lips #stop apologizing #makeup

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princessoftheroad · 4 months

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Girl, stop apologizing!

So many years I spent apologizing for who I was.

Oh, not verbally apologizing. My apologies were so much more hurtful because I didn't say I'm sorry with my words. I apologized with the way I lived my life. Every time I felt ashamed for taking a business trip. Every time I swallowed the lie of mommy guilt. Every time I dressed a certain way or spoke a certain way in order to be better received was an apology for who I really was, a lie of omission. And every single time I lied about who I was, I reinforced the belief in my own mind that there was something wrong with me. I honestly believed I was the only woman who felt this way.

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emberintayson · 5 months

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Zine Review Part 4 of 4: Brainscan 30 by @alexwrekk. I saved the geeky stats for zinesters til the end :)

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famouscreatorcowboyparty · 9 months

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I do not understand people who feel the need to apologize for their ‘bad English’. Excuse me, you took the time to learn the most convoluted, insane, lawless language out there! Ninety percent of the time I wouldn’t have even guessed English wasn’t your first language. Besides, if anyone should be apologizing for ‘bad English’ it’s us. Sorry!

#stop apologizing #you’re amazing #language #language arts #english #foreign languages #bad english

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sallyandthefandommachine · 10 months

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I could have a whole conversation with someone where they're speaking to me and I just constantly say "I'm sorry" for no reason.

When I was in high school my teachers and friends and FUCKING GUIDANCE COUNSELOR had a full on intervention to get me to stop apologizing and I just sat there crying and apologizing.

Them: stop apologizing

Me: I'm sorry

#personal post #stop apologizing #sorry

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inkskinned · 10 months

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so one of the things that's so horrifying about birth control is that you have to, like, navigate this incredibly personal choice about your body and yet also face the epitome of misogyny. like, someone in the comments will say it wasn't that bad for me, and you'll be utterly silenced. like, everyone treats birth control like something that's super dirty. like, you have no fucking information or control over this thing because certain powerful people find it icky.

first it was the oral contraceptives. you went on those young, mostly for reasons unrelated to birth control - even your dermatologist suggested them to control your acne. the list of side effects was longer than your arm, and you just stared at it, horrified.

it made you so mentally ill, but you just heard that this was adulthood. that, yes, there are of course side effects, what did you expect. one day you looked up yasmin makes me depressed because surely this was far too intense, and you discovered that over 12,000 lawsuits had been successfully filed against the brand. it remains commonly prescribed on the open market. you switched brands a few times before oral contraceptives stopped being in any way effective. your doctor just, like, shrugged and said you could try a different brand again.

and the thing is that you're a feminist. you know from your own experience that birth control can be lifesaving, and that even when used for birth control - it is necessary healthcare. you have seen it save so many people from such bad situations, yourself included. it is critical that any person has access to birth control, and you would never suggest that we just get rid of all of it.

you were a little skeeved out by the implant (heard too many bad stories about it) and figured - okay, iud. it was some of the worst pain you've ever fucking experienced, and you did it with a small number of tylenol in your system (3), like you were getting your bikini line waxed instead of something practically sewn into your body.

and what's wild is that because sometimes it isn't a painful insertion process, it is vanishingly rare to find a doctor that will actually numb the area. while your doctor was talking to you about which brand to choose, you were thinking about the other ways you've been injured in your life. you thought about how you had a suspicious mole frozen off - something so small and easy - and how they'd numbed a huge area. you thought about when you broke your wrist and didn't actually notice, because you'd thought it was a sprain.

your understanding of pain is that how the human body responds to injury doesn't always relate to the actual pain tolerance of the person - it's more about how lucky that person is physically. maybe they broke it in a perfect way. maybe they happened to get hurt in a place without a lot of nerve endings. some people can handle a broken femur but crumble under a sore tooth. there's no true way to predict how "much" something actually hurts.

in no other situation would it be appropriate for doctors to ignore pain. just because someone can break their wrist and not feel it doesn't mean no one should receive pain meds for a broken wrist. it just means that particular person was lucky about it. it should not define treatment.

in the comments of videos about IUDs, literally thousands of people report agony. blinding, nauseating, soul-crushing agony. they say things like i had 2 kids and this was the worst thing i ever experienced or i literally have a tattoo on my ribs and it felt like a tickle. this thing almost killed me or would rather run into traffic than ever feel that again.

so it's either true that every single person who reports severe pain is exaggerating. or it's true that it's far more likely you will experience pain, rather than "just a pinch." and yet - there's nothing fucking been done about it. it kind of feels like a shrug is layered on top of everything - since technically it's elective, isn't it kind of your fault for agreeing to select it? stop being fearmongering. stop being defensive.

you fucking needed yours. you are almost weirdly protective of it. yours was so important for your physical and mental health. it helped you off hormonal birth control and even started helping some of your symptoms. it still fucking hurt for no fucking reason.

once while recovering from surgery, they offered you like 15 days of vicodin. you only took 2 of them. you've been offered oxy for tonsillitis. you turned down opioids while recovering from your wisdom tooth extraction. everything else has the option. you fucking drove yourself home after it, shocked and quietly weeping, feeling like something very bad had just happened. the nurse that held your hand during the experience looked down at you, tears in her eyes, and said - i know. this is cruelty in action.

and it's fucked up because the conversation is never just "hey, so the way we are doing this is fucking barbaric and doctors should be required to offer serious pain meds" - it's usually something around the lines of "well, it didn't kill you, did it?"

you just found out that removing that little bitch will hurt just as bad. a little pinch like how oral contraceptives have "some" serious symptoms. like your life and pain are expendable or not really important. like maybe we are all hysterical about it?

hysteria comes from the latin word for uterus, which is great!

you stand here at a crossroads. like - this thing is so important. did they really have to make it so fucking dangerous. and why is it that if you make a complaint, you're told - i didn't even want you to have this in the first place. we're told be careful what you wish for. we're told that it's our fault for wanting something so illict; we could simply choose not to need medication. that maybe if we don't like the scraps, we should get ready to starve.

we have been saying for so long - "i'm not asking you to remove the option, i'm asking you to reconsider the risk." this entire time we hear: well, this is what you wanted, isn't it?

#where's the word woman in this u might wonder if u suck #good news i am nonbinary and have a uterus so that is something that can happen #im also gender fluid tho which means im immune to certain psychic damage bc if u call me a woman i'll be like <3 okay <3 #writeblr #the tightrope of ''ppl need access to this''#and like also #''what the fuck is going on over there'' is like. so difficult as an activist #i was <3 punctured <3 during mine #and almost bled out on the table :) they didn't have anyone standing by bc it's ''just a little insertion''#so i started crashing and i vaguely remember apologizing for the fuss as i heard my heart rate monitor start going <3 tachycardic <3 #she wasn't even a bad doctor tbh #ps btw the reason i even HAD a heart monitor is that i have a genuine heart condition and they knew GOING IN that there was a chance #i'd crash on the table #like my heart just likes to do fun little tricks and <3 stop working <3 (i do not want to discuss the specifics ty i am okay im ontop of it #and they were like 'oh u will be fine' and then she did do a puncture thru my uterus . pop!#and im sitting there dizzy and feeling my heartrate start to drop bc it feels almost. beautiful. like. the whole ground just #woosh! out from under you. and shit is like grey's anatomy. i'm looking up at her grey eyes #she's old she wears this nice shawl she's like got Cool Lesbian vibes and people are sprinting into the room #from other parts of the clinic unrelated to me. while the monitor is like a little aria singing #and shes like hey youre okay stay awake stay with me something went wrong we have to keep trying #and i remember thinking - i was trying to think of nice things. i have so many beautiful places that now overlap #with this terrible memory #i became dimly aware that there was too much on her wrists and hands. like #that was too many liters #and then when they had finished all this. i packed up and drove myself home #i have had (bad thing) happen to me. and the same feeling happened after #that numb almost lamblike bleating. you cry without noise. like. ur body is so shocked and ur mind so empty #you just stare at the road and everything everything is happening behind glass and static and you are standing so far away from it #while you hold ur hands at 10 and 2. and something in ur brain is SCREAMING at you - IT WAS BAD AND IT SHOULDNT HAVE HAPPENED #and ur just watching the alarms in your body going off and youre thinking. a little pinch! ha. i think i just lost something important.

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lilsleepybear · 11 months

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#stop #love yourself #be yourself #love fearlessly #stop apologizing

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grelliam · 1 year

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To this day I still think "I wish squids were real" is the funniest example of ascended canon ever. Like, the first Splatoon game comes out, someone makes a Miiverse post just saying "I wish squids were real" (already peak comedy), "I wish X was real" becomes a meme in the Splatoon community and gets reposted everywhere.

Then two years later Splatoon 2 comes out and

Literally iconic

#Splatoon #Kit says things #... to anyone who doesn't know Splatoon lore I apologize the human bones thing probably sounds so ominous out of context sdkhfg #but yeah they really just did this and I'll never stop thinking about it

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beescake · 4 months

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im a sollux kinnie and ur art is great. like a delicious meal. 1 million courses. my compliments to the chef.

AOGHHH TYSM I REALLY APPRECIATE IT

in gratitude i present a little guy doing setup for the first time 🐝

#FR MEANS A LOT TO ME THANKYOU 🥲🙏 the chef analogy is so sweet too i love it #apologies i take a while to answer asks.. generating ideas #ask #anon #homestuck #sollux captor #2023 #vioart #now im curious to know #question for sollux appreciators at any point in time -#was there any specific moment that made u connect w him most?#like for me it was when he became relieved and happy after the voices stopped #as someone plagued by 24/7 internal monologue. being "free from the voices” sounded absolutely euphoric to me LMAO #watching him talk abt finally being able to think clearly and hear his own thoughts...... gOD. MY BIGGEST ENVY OF HOMESTUCK.

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piss-stained-jorts · 4 months

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"i wanna see something other than the same edgy horror stuff when a beloved character becomes public domai-"

FUCKING MAKE IT, THEN.

the literal only difference between you and those horror directors who took mickey and winnie the pooh and made them into the horror you hate so much is that they made something and you didn't.

MAKE the romcom. MAKE the deep and existential meta horror you want to see. MAKE something cozy and child friendly. MAKE MAKE MAKE MAKE MAKE

don't just sit there and bemoan the things you don't want to see! MAKE THE THINGS YOU DO WANT TO SEE. BECAUSE NOW WE CAN MAKE ANYTHING. THAT'S THE FUCKING POINT!

YOU DON'T NEED PERMISSION. YOU DON'T NEED TO BE SOMETHING FIRST. JUST MAKE WHAT YOU WANT TO SEE.

YOU CAN'T STOP AN ARTIST FROM TAKING A CHILD FRIENDLY THING AND MAKING IT INTO HORROR. THE LITERAL ONLY PERSON YOU CAN STOP, AND ARE STOPPING, IS YOURSELF.

DON'T FUCKING WAIT FOR SOMEONE ELSE TO MAKE IT FOR YOU. PICK UP A DAMNED PENCIL/KEYBOARD/WHATEVER AND MAKE THAT THING YOU WANT TO SEE, GOD DAMMIT!!!

#mickey mouse #public domain #i don't care if you have to make it outta stick figures bitch! MAKE IT #MAKE IT AND DON'T APOLOGIZE #MAKE IT AND LOVE IT AND LOOK BACK LATER AND HATE IT BECAUSE AT LEAST THERE'S SOMETHING THERE TO HATE #MAKE. CREATE. BRING LIFE TO SOMETHING. GIVE YOUR VISION FORM. DO IT FUCKER #YOU WANT OTHER SHIT? MAKE OTHER SHIT AND DON'T LET THAT HORRID VOICE OF DOUBT STOP YOU

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bhaalble · 7 months

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I like that Last Unicorn quote as much as the next guy but I do always wind up feeling a little detached from analysis that paints Astarion's disapproval as purely envy. Partly because. No one's doing this for Lae'zel for instance even though she has similar disapproval and similar trauma (all she can remember is a hostile physically and emotionally exploitative environment which expected perfect strength and obedience from her or else she would be punished or killed). But also partly because it feels pretty detached from everything he actually has to say about it.

The thing about Astarion is he loathes weakness. He loathes sentiment and he loathes dependence. You can see this when he actually opens his mouth up about the people he disapproves of saving, but also incredibly loudly when he talks about the other companions, as well as his fellow spawn. If Lae'zel submits to Vlaakith he talks scornfully about how some people just come to love their chains. He's confused and put off if Wyll submits to Mizora to save his father. In every conversation with his fellow spawn (at least when hes not actively manipulating them) he's dismissive and harsh, and clearly he's perfectly willing to sacrifice them for the sake of himself.

There's an obvious origin point of those feelings, of course. Cazador's abuse is designed to actively kill off empathy in his spawn, both towards each other and towards victims. The last time Astarion prioritized someone over his own skin he got locked in a tomb for a year. We can see glimpses of it with the other spawn too, how his siblings are (apparently uncompelled at first) willing to drag Astarion back to their master for their freedom, how Petras' first dream of freedom is getting to drain another person dry. Astarion certainly doesn't seem to feel any real sense of solidarity with them, likely because Cazador understands that them building a community is a threat to his authority the way it was to his own master.

I'd also argue its Astarion projecting his own self-loathing outwards. So much of his quest is about his desperate attempt to escape from who he was. He's been given a chance to slip free of the limitations of being a spawn. He clings to that because of course he would. He also instinctively begins to run over everything in his path, because if there's anything he has learned over the past 200 years its that good things can always be taken away unless you make sure to remove any and all possible threats to that scrap of well-being. He's disdainful of people in need of help because they represent who he fears to go back to being! He calls his siblings "poor fools" while refusing to confront the fact that had it not been for the tadpole he would be in exactly their position, forced to cling to the hope that Cazador is telling the truth for once because escape isn't an option either way. He becomes irritated when Tav slows down to help the unfortunate because they represent roadblocks on his own path to safety.

There's an idea in mental health stolen from airplane safety: that you shouldn't help anyone else until your own mask is secure. What they don't tell you, speaking from personal experience at least, is that PTSD, especially for long term trauma, has a way of making you feel like your own mask will never be secure. And while that's scary, and it sucks, and there should be the utmost patience for it: no one is going to realize that mask is secure for you. Eventually you are going to have to accept the fact that you are breathing just fine. Eventually you are also going to have to accept that people asking something of you isn't them endangering you, even if it can sometimes (often) feel like it. It doesn't make you obligated to help them. But it does mean you have to stop reacting to them like a threat, because not 5 minutes ago that was you.

I think the idea that he's only mad because he's jealous is a gratifying fantasy. He didnt feel safe before, but now through your PC and the power of love he'll feel warm and cozy enough to forgive you for not being there to begin with. But I also think Astarion cannot live in a reality where he's never pushed back on. His instinctive self-protective movements are a coping mechanism, yes, but coping mechanisms developed under survival conditions can also be a way of keeping you frozen in your trauma. Outside of the environment they were necessary for, they can even hinder you from growing in the ways you need to grow to move past what happened to you. Sometimes, you need to stop a baby tiefling from getting crazy murdered by a snake because it turns out. That can happen to anybody not just people who are weak and stupid and deserve to die anyways not like me I'm normal-

#bg3 #baldurs gate 3 #astarion #ive got to stop drafting essays on him #apologies if this damages my cool boy image #cazador #baldurs gate 3 spoilers

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a-crow-with-rights-and-anxiety · 11 months

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Hey so you remember this thing that everyone on mathblr got excited about recently?

This is the hat, and it's what's called an "aperiodic monotile". This means that no matter how you arrange copies of this tile, you can never get an arrangement that will repeat infinitely (think of it like the irrational numbers of tilings). This was big news in mathematics as while sets of more than one tiles have been found that are aperiodic (e.g: The Penrose Tiles), this was the first tile that's aperiodic by itself, hence "monotile". (There are some caveats to this but that's not important for understanding this post)

However.

If you look at images of the hat tiling, you may notice something.

If you look at the tiles labled 1 and 2, you'll see that one's a reflected copy of the other. In fact, any infinite arrangement with hats requires you to you mix unreflected and reflected tiles. Which raises the question: is it possible to have an aperiodic monotile that doesn't need reflections?

Presenting the Spectre, A chiral aperiodic monotile.

Using only translation and rotation, any arrangement of copies of this tile will never repeat.

Mathematically speaking, this is really fucking cool.

The paper on it is still in preprint, but hopefully I won't need to retract this post. A copy of it can be found here and a post going into some more details of how the shape was discovered is here.

#I know not a lot of people who follow me are interested in maths #It's not stopping me though.#I WILL talk about maths and you WILL hear me #Apologies if I've made any mistakes #math #maths #aperiodic monotile #spectre

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