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becauseimanicequeen · 15 days

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Why in the world would you like toxic characters? Why are you so proud of that? What is it even to be proud of? What's wrong with you?

Well, my dear Anon. If you only knew how many times I've asked myself those very same questions…

And the answers always come down to: It’s fiction.

And even though fiction is a vital part of life (just like any other art form) and you can learn a lot from it (you have no idea how many toxic people I’ve been able to avoid, before they even found out my name, thanks to my love for toxic characters and seeing their red flags), fiction is also just fiction.

The characters aren’t real, even though they can seem like it. Just because I love a character that's toxic as fuck doesn't mean I would condone real people who behave that way.

Also, I’m not hurting anyone with my obsession with toxic characters. It’s not like I'm forcing anyone to think like me (and for the love of all things holy, don't do that!).

Besides having a healthy obsession with the toxic characters I love, I’m not very emotional (for lack of a better word) about what I watch. I can be intrigued by toxic characters without either excusing their behavior and actions or hating them (because there’s enough hate in the world for me to do that shit). I can watch taboo topics and other shit that most people find triggering and not be triggered (even though I see the taboo topics for what they are). I can watch problematic stuff and see beyond it to what’s really being said (even though I see the problematic stuff for what it is).

But that’s just me. And I would never force my perspectives on anyone else because I know the majority isn’t like me (which is a good thing, btw).

So, if you don’t vibe with my shit, block me. I don’t mind.

Trust me. I’ll survive. You’ll survive. The world won’t fall apart. We’ll both be okay. Just block me.

Because I will keep loving my favorite toxic fatherfuckers. I won't excuse their behavior and actions. But I will love them.

And the only one who can stop me is ME. But I don’t want to because I love all the shades of toxic bitches and their red flags.

Like Boston from Only Friends.

And Todd from Not Me.

And Chalothon from The Sign.

And Ray from Only Friends.

And So from House of Stars.

And Yai from Big Dragon.

And Way from Pit Babe.

And Boeing from Only Friends.

And let's not forget Vegas from KinnPorsche!

And Yoden Ryoji from Dangerous Drugs of Sex.

And Yong Jie from HIStory 4: Close to You.

And Rio from The Novelist.

And Ritsu from To the End of the World With You.

And definitely Ming from My Stand-In!

I love them all because I have issues. But so do all of them, which is precisely why I love them.

Thank you for your ask.

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dealwithadeer · 4 months

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Hazbin Hotel Live Q & A

Here is the link: Hazbin Hotel Live Q&A with Cast - YouTube

#due to nerd stuff and work I won't be able to see it #because of timezones and having to get up early for work #but if anyone is interested and participates #could anyone please go ahead and ask if Alastor has threatened Husk like he did in episode 5 often before or #if that was something that happens rarely #not excusing the behavior here #I am just curios about wether Alastor threatens Husk often or rarely #anyway #Hazbin Hotel #husk hazbin hotel #alastor hazbin hotel #huskerdust #radiohusk #angel dust #Charlie morningstar #Alastor #is Husk actually a pet to Alastor

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witchinatree · 1 month

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so i know there's a TV adaptation of a good girl's guide to murder coming this summer

why can't i find the actor who's playing stanley?? where is he?? please i need him (he is my favorite i don't care i don't care)

#this does not mean i excuse his behavior he pissed me off many times #but seriously where #i need to know #if they aren't keeping stanley i genuinely won't watch it #not true #a good girls guide to murder #stanley forbes

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social-mockingbird · 1 year

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It is late enough that I am willing to argue that when Oberon put the love potion on Titania’s eyes he turned her into a succubus no I will not explain myself

#writing a final paper #vera writes #vera rants #and after reading a smidge of robert burton I can conclude that the fairies in a midsummer night's dream are demons #or at least puck is #because he can fly really fast and he's a shapeshifter #and those are two of the points burton makes in his books for demon behavior #and the anatomy of melancholy is the definitive medical book of shakespeare's time and influenced a butt ton of mindsets in that day and age #and when titania is put under the effects of the potion she seduces bottom #her language is very evocative and there's a lot of subtext #and this is a silly theory but I need more stuff in my paper and it's an interesting theory #will my professor think it's bull? maybe #do I think it's cool? yes #did I already send him an email about adjusting my thesis that ended with 'from behind a stack of folklore books and a dying laptop'? yes #so maybe he won't mind #and he likes rabbit trails anyway #and I quoted the anatomy of melancholy twice so I gotta get brownie points for that #vera is very tired and on a roll #vera uses a paper as an excuse to rant about folklore and fairy tales #vera imposes her wacky theory onto her small corner of tumblr #vera needs to go to bed

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llycaons · 2 years

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I've been nice enough to jc today. I just saw a post that was like ~uwu during the postres scene in LP wwx won't even look at him! how sad for jc to be ignored when his brother is home! of course he gets angry and lashes out for attention he doesn't understand why wwx isn't engaging~ and while that may be true on a character level I had to stand up and walk around the room for a minute bc jc has been so violent and agressive to wwx this ENTIRE time like he literally tried to expel wwx from his body as soon as he suspected his identity, locked him in a room with something that triggered his severe phobia, tied him up with a weapon his abusive mother used to beat wwx with, and blamed him for the deaths of everyone he loved. of course wwx doesn't want to engage with him? this is in fact the most reasonable way to react? wwx is within his rights to even fight back here but he doesn't because he remembers jyl? like, hello?

#these people all have more patience for a 35 year old man that I do I guess!#HOW IS HE THIS BLIND. ACTIONS MEAN THINGS #like sure I believe he thinks of LP as wwx's home and he feels abandoned and upset #and fighting is his only way to express that #but fuck me if I'm taking an explanation for an excuse. how he behaved was so over the line...#like uh I don't care how related you are or how sad you are you can't just pull out a weapon #and attack someone who won't fight back JUST to get their attention? like stop coddling emotionally immature agressors my GOD #like again. one thing to say 'I get why he did this and in his shoes maybe I would have acted similarly'#and quite another to act like his emotions excuse his behavior #we're swinging the pendulum back im mad at him now #cql txp

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britneyshakespeare · 2 years

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In my last personal post I told a story in the tags about a friend I've made in the past several months who used to be friends with a bunch of casually racist cishet white guys and whatnot. I mentioned how she sent me a message the other night about how she really feels like she trusts me and can be herself around me and how good that feels. But that post was about casual racism more than friendship so here's a positive post about friendship. God I just love meeting people and hanging out with them and doing cool things and introducing each other to cool new places. I love emotionally bonding through the gradual reveal of different layers of the self. I love having my set of interests, while they also have their own, but there's a good amount of thematic overlap and exchange and lending each other books and recommending movies and talking about them and stuff. I love when you haven't even known someone long but you can just feel a strong common sympathy there and like you're going to be friends for a long time. Like sometimes it comes out of nowhere when you really don't expect it and aren't looking for it but you're just speaking to someone you just met and shortly into it you're like "!!!!" inside your head because it's like. Wow. I could talk to this person forever. We could just shoot the shit on whatever topic and it would be a good time. Love that all so much.

#the tags i wrote about this friend didn't really show we were close for any other reason than me not being racist to her like the guys #she's just letting go of. but while that's certainly a reason we became closer (me sympathizing w her & finding their behavior disgusting)#obviously that's not like. the sole basis of a lasting friendship. lol. like. there's plenty of white ppl who won't use her to excuse #themselves when they want to be racist for an edgy joke. im not special im just Not Horrible for that.#even if it is new to her i always remind her that there's better out there than them and im not SO exceptional for treating her w respect.#which we all need to be reminded of sometimes if we have a history of toxic friendships/relationships but still.#we're actually bonded much more by our interests and worldviews. like. she LOVES philosophy and is somewhat into poetry #i on the other hand LOVE poetry and am somewhat into philosophy.#we have really interesting conversations and recommendations to each other. i like exchanging thoughts abt what we're reading or watching #we also like to go to secondhand stores and buy old books. and knickknacks and whatnot.#that's been a fun way to bond #and she's taken me to some open mic poetry events in her neighborhood that are AMAZING #i never read my stuff onstage since i was like 15 before her. and ive seen her grow as a performer as she's started doing it.#it's such a cool evolution. i love her. i love spending time w her she's such a cool friend.#tales from diana

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swordwife · 2 years

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thinking about him (erik)

#just unable to be normal about him not sorry....#thinking about holding his hand..... giving it a little squeeze.... admiring every detail he's so self conscious of #giving him kisses.... hugs....#his skin is so cold and with an odd texture.. not to mention how thin and bony he is #so by comparison i'm very warm and soft... and he loves it so much...... he finds it so comforting...#never wanting to let go... clingy bastard #like when a cat sits on your lap. you can't get up until the cat gets up #just wanna fall asleep cuddling next to him.. wake up in his arms #thinking abt a lot more but its too embarrassing for me to talk about 😩#I get into the most mundane domestic shit and I close up sjkvskjsd. why does that embarrass me the most #I like him a lot...#he's a horrible person and I excuse his behavior. not to mention I won't try and make him stop either #he can murder and threaten and steal and stalk and do whatever he wants #I love him <3

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becauseimanicequeen · 20 days

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You know where my loyalties lie when I would rather have a whole bouquet of red flag Mings than one asshole that is Tong.

#Tong went straight to asshole town as soon as he abandoned his coworker who also happened to be his fan #and I reckon he will stay there for a very long time #if not for eternity #Ming on the other hand still owns my soul #and I don't mind #not one bit #I won't excuse his behavior #but I will love him #my stand in #my stand in the series #thai ql #thai bl #thai series

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cryolyst · 4 months

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#i literally won't see him for like another 2 weeks so this shouldn't even matter but im thinking about this one coworker i have #that was just a chill gay guy when he first started working and the two of us mostly got along #but in the last like 6 months he's been saying he's really been getting into conservative ideology #he'll ask me shit about why i'm a feminist or why i wear a mask and talk about how he can see a point to extreme right commentators #i know if i bring up any health issues to ppl at work he'll be an ableist ass about it #there's a tiny part of me that's like oh what if i could've changed him. what if i was smart enough to talk him out of it.#but like why would that be on me when im sure we only ever considered each other work friends #however it does hurt to know that ppl like my roommate or robey would excuse his behavior and write it off as just jokes #so in that sense i feel responsible for being the voice of reason or whatever #annoying! annoying. i need to disappear to another city forever.#they speak!

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funkypeanutbear · 8 months

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Me, talking to my best guy friend about any social topic ever:

oh my dude, we're both so fucked up, but in a different way ✨️💫

#no literally #like he's the type of guy to not so subtly look at a girl down the hall and say “look. that one with curly hair's pretty”#and if I didn't know him my default response to witnessing that would be “oh my fuck #another one of those dicks“#but I do know him #and I don't excuse that type of behavior #of course it's still harmful #and I know it's harmful to him as well #not in the same way it is harmful to women #but you see #in a different way #in a way that he cannot safely build profound emotional bonds with pretty much anyone #that he's from a small village somewhere nowhere where local worldview comes from the 20th century #with internalized messages of “you are abandonned and it's okay #you mum will only hug you until you're ten and then you're supposed to “grow some balls”#deal with it like a man #your friends won't hold you when life sucks #because you're not supposed to be emotionally vulnerable with anyone ever #we know the notion of “men are not supposed to cry” and we know it's harmful #we agree with that #but the discussion is rarely developed into talking about all the implications of this thing #men don't get to properly socialize amd most of them don't know them #when I first brought it up and talked about usual warrieness women express around men and the way it scars an individual #he said “yeah sure being in tension like this all the time must be...#and I said: “no. I meant for men #imagine how it fucks up men #and the dude just went: “oh.”

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genderkoolaid · 10 days

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part of the reason i love how bell hooks talks about masculinity is that she shows real compassion towards men suffering from the effects of toxic masculinity. she was conscious of how we need to unlearn the ways we talk about men + masculinity just as much as we need to unlearn the same for women + femininity. so many times ill see someone talking about toxic masculinity like (hyperbolizing here but only slightly) "these FUCKING STUPID BABY BITCHES won't MAN UP and go to a therapist!!!" and like. i get the anger. but you see feminists recreating patriarchal manhood by only promoting good behaviors through patriarchal frameworks. any use of the term "real men" is bad because it reifies the idea that manhood is a special title you must earn, and it is something possible to fail and fake. & as important as it is to promote sexual equality + the pleasure of non-cis-men, lots of people are essentially still working with the idea that men need sexual prowess to have worth but just shifting it slightly so there is more emphasis on women's pleasure. but I want cis men to think about their partners' pleasure because they care about their partners, not because they need to check a box in order to keep their man card. and don't get me started on small dick jokes– and the absolutely pitiful excuse people will use that "well, I don't believe it, but misogynistic men get upset when I say it, so it's okay!"

basically bell hooks is so fucking right. in order to create loving men we need to love men, simply for being alive, whether or not they are performing. as much as we need to actively unlearn misogyny (and we do), it's equally vital we unlearn patriarchal ways of seeing manhood. we can't just assume that taking a feminist perspective automatically means there is no work to be done there.

#m.#okay now countdown to when someone inevitably misinterprets this to claim I think women having orgasms is misandry

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blackasmyhangryfurrybrokensoul · 1 year

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I really think I’ve found what I’m looking for

#now I just need to become what I need to be #life is insane #i am insane too #i don't know what's wrong with me but whatever it is needs to stop #This is something I need to maintain #to preserve #to never harm #and to never let go of #I will get better #I will let go of the pain passed on to me #I won't let any more of it touch the people I love #I won't let any more of it excuse neglectful behaviors towards myself #I won't let any more of it take over me #as much as I can

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play-now-my-lord · 1 year

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least favorite genre of post on here has gotta be "having mental illness doesn't excuse bad behavior" from people with depression/anxiety, who mistakenly believe everyone with psychosis is simply suffering from distorted thinking like they are. i have the kind of bipolar that causes psychosis under the wrong conditions and it is radically different from the distorted thinking i have when manic or depressed. "distorted thinking" is "there's nothing wrong with stealing those groceries from a stranger's car, they won't catch you and you need it more than them". "psychosis" is "you're not stealing those groceries in that stranger's car, they belong to you and those people are just holding them". (never mind that "i haven't eaten in days and they can afford a car" morally complicates either situation for a moment.)

i have been in a state where i earnestly believed things that were radically untrue and they lead me to cause harm to others. these were not minor distortions in an otherwise accurate picture of the world, they were fundamentally incorrect pictures of the world. some of them were fairly innocuous and are largely water under the bridge. some of them were serious and i still feel shame about them now. but i have also seen people hounded to the ends of the earth over shit they did in a delusional state which would be utterly out of character while compos mentis and it feels cosmically unfair.

#frog thoughts

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ozzgin · 5 months

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OZZGIN!

May I request an idea/imagine?

It is about yandere! mental asylum patient and psychiatrist! reader, who is very practical and strict regarding her job, takes no BS from others. But, for some reason, she has a soft spot for yandere! mental asylum patient. The reason could either be he had a hard childhood in which he had to do what he had to do, which brutally killed his father, who used to abuse his mother and sister, but when the father tried to sell the sister into prostitution to buy more alcohol, all hell break lose. Psychiatrist! reader thinks what yandere! mental asylum the patient did was OKAY, and she wants to get him out of the asylum. They love each other deeply and would do anything, so far as to kill for one another. If you can, make it as twisted as you can. I live for some dark romance!

Please ignore my request if you are not able to do it. I completely understand. Thank you in advance! <3

Oh my, this request hits somewhat close to home as I have a friend incarcerated for similar reasons. I'm pondering the logistics behind this context you've provided, since murdering someone won't necessarily land you in a psych ward unless there are other symptoms that come with it. And so I've taken the liberty to expand the character's profile if that's alright. (Conveniently enough I still have my psychopathology lecture notes)

I want to add, however, that this story in no way romanticizes mental illness! If anything, one may consider it an opportunity to reflect on the fact that so many people struggling with disorders do not receive the proper care for it, or only do so when it's too late. Furthermore a medical professional should never, ever behave like this and whatever is written here should stay in the realm of fiction!

Yandere! Patient x Psychiatrist! Reader

Featuring a patient that's pushing the boundaries of your work ethic and might even succeed.

Content/warnings: female reader, detailed mentions of mental disorder, violence, obsessive behavior, breach of professional conduct

You roll up your sleeve and check your watch. He should be here soon. Out of habit, you shuffle the papers for a quick case review, even though you already know all the details by heart. You carefully set aside the patient’s MMPI and WHODAS entry assessments, then your first interviews. Your eyes briefly rest upon the resulting report you’ve comprised: Schizophreniform Disorder (Provisional) with good prognostic features; Diagnostic criteria consisting of delusions, disorganized speech (frequent derailment with episodes of incoherence, echolalia) and comorbid catatonia. Responds well to antipsychotic (clozapine 25mg/12 h) with no imminent need for dosage increase. As it currently stands, he will be fit for proper incarceration in less than 6 months. Is it something you agree with? Not quite. You’ve presented your case many times and it has always been met with pitiful shrugs and dismissals.

The door opens and you fix your posture, sweeping the documents back into your drawer. “And? How are you feeling today?” You ask, flashing a professional, cordial smile as the assisting nurse leads the patient to his seat and prepares her leave. “My chest hurts.” The man answers in a low voice, glaring at the nurse. He taps his foot against the plush carpet, seemingly restless. “How bad would you rate it? Chest pain is a somewhat common side effect of your medication.” You retort, following the movements of the woman finally excusing herself and exiting the room. Once you’re alone, the man’s shoulders droop and he visibly relaxes. “It’s not that, you know it. When can I touch you again?” He pleads, despair twisting his features. You tense up at the words. “Behave yourself. It hasn’t been that long.”

It’s not something you’re particularly proud of. In fact, you might even call it one of your great shames in life. You’ve always been a textbook professional, perhaps even too strict according to your coworkers and most patients. Not even in your wildest dreams would you have dared to imagine you’d violate the code of ethics by falling in love with your patient. But something about his situation stirred your sense of justice. Surely one cannot be punished for protecting their loved ones. The only criminal in the equation, at least in your eyes, was that joke of a father and he had it coming. So you found yourself wrestling against a blooming protectiveness and favoritism towards the young man brought here last month.

What would have normally compelled you into action had therefore been silently swept under the rug. Or even worse, you secretly indulged in it. A patient showing signs of affection towards you would instantly be transferred to a different psychiatrist. Yet you couldn’t put away the letters written by this one. Erratic, crumpled notes of “I love you” written countless times, pencil dug so deep it tore into the sheet. Bizarre illustrations that looked almost threatening. His elaborate delusions before medication was introduced, where he’d detail in grand narratives how you were fated for each other and nothing would stop him from having you sooner or later. You do not know what forces possessed you into this addictive plunge, but you’ve come to enjoy his violent, frenzied confessions. So much, that during one of the unsupervised meetings you let yourself pushed into the sofa as his hands tugged at your body in rabid need. It was so out of character that you wondered if it truly happened, though the bite marks and scratches on your neck and chest proved otherwise.

“Are they going to send me to prison?” He changes the subject and stands up, walking towards your desk. “Most likely. What you have is the result of a traumatic event, not a lifelong condition. Sporadic episodes that can be kept under control with antipsychotics aren’t enough of a reason to keep you in the hospital.” You press your legs together nervously and glance at him. “Can’t you just say it’s no longer working?” He suggests, kneeling before you and placing a hand on your thigh. “You know I can’t lie on the report.” You really don’t like it when he manipulates you like this. “Ah, yes, because lying is worse than fucking your patient.” He scoffs, annoyed. “Don’t threaten me like that”, you say as you turn towards him, but you’re stopped by the rough grip of his hand over your cheeks. “I’m not threatening you, I’m threatening everyone else. Listen, (Y/N), I’m not fucking around. I don’t mind pretending to be crazy if I have to. Will the meds still be working if I steal a shaving razor and cut the nurse open?” You try to open your mouth, but his fingers are pressed into your skin, locking your jaw into place. “I’m not going to prison. I’m not. Then I’ll never see you again and that can’t happen. You know that.”

Eventually he releases his hold, allowing you to speak. "I understand. Then there's no choice but to arrange your escape." You sigh, defeated, and he raises his eyebrows. "Won't that get you in trouble?" You chuckle at his statement. "Either way I'll be in trouble. You said it yourself. Might as well quit before I have to stand in front of the ethics board and have my license revoked." You'd prefer to keep the last ounce of pride if possible.

He sits on the floor and you notice his trembling hands. "Nervous?" You ask. "No. Just really happy. I'm not a bad person and you were the only one here to see it. But God, (Y/N), I'd kill anyone if it was for your sake. I can't wait to hold you whenever I want." He gazes at you as a smile widens on his face.

#female reader #male yandere #yandere #yandere x reader #yandere x you #yandere x darling #male yandere x reader #yandere imagine #yandere imagines #yandere scenarios #yandere headcanons #yandere oc x reader #obsessive yandere #tw yandere

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thatdemiboymess · 2 years

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Me, violently shaking with repressed emotions: I Want To Disappear Off The Map And Start A New Life From Scratch.

#irl #not me vague-posting about my mother #(again)#i hate that shes gonna know where i live even if she wont know the unit number #directly because of her stalker behavior when i went no contact before #she called my work trying to figure out my schedule once by bluffing about hours she figured id have #literally like almost an entire year after i cut her off #all while messaging people she knew i used to be friends with trying to get information about me from them #people id barely spoken to in years were sending me screenshots #i didnt even feel safe enough to talk to my siblings or aunt because i was scared she would use them to get info on me #and i want to block her again so bad #just go no contact again #but she'll know where i fucking LIVE #and while i can rationalize that shes disabled and struggles with transportation and therefore probably won't go out of her way #just to show up at my apartment #that doesnt really help much #especially cause shes already talked about having my sister drive to my apartment for things before #so whats to stop her from badgering my sister into driving her there? whats to stop her from walking in?#whats to stop her from asking someone about me using her being my mother as an excuse?#i probably sound so fucking paranoid honestly - i know my therapist thought i did #asdfghjkll

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tootiredtocares-blog · 2 years

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#always though if i left the fandom it would be on my own terms #i just i don't know it was naive probably but i did want to believe the best #whatever ill just get back into anime and comics #I'll still see it from time to time but one day ill be able to shrug it off and i won't feel anything #it wil be fine it hurts because the was behavior i wasn't ever going to excuse but still hurts who it came from

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