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would it be weird to say i love you based on your trans dick & anakin headcanons
because ive always envisioned them as trans & i just. may i have permission to say ily or would a simple ur the best suffice
You can say I love you if you want tho it's unnecessary considering it's just the currect opinion to have
#Ask#Anon#If you disagree#You are wrong#They both give off similar#And yet the complete opposite trans vibes
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Everything Right/Wrong with Ninjago “Rise of the Serpentine” E9: The Royal Blacksmiths
Can’t wait to get flooded with hate comments from certain platforms for some of the things I say in this. This episode is gay as hell (and so am I); change my mind. Anyways, disclaimers: Show owned by LEGO. This is not a professional review/critique - it’s mainly intended for comedy.
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- Theme ✅
- Why do the spikes stop before hitting the ground? Seems counter-productive ❌
- Yeah, no. There is no way Lloyd survives all of this. The only possible explanation would be - Idk - the world keeping him alive because he needs to fulfill some divine destiny or something, but it’s not like THAT would ever happen… ❌
- Also how does Lloyd get back to the Serpentine after this? His only path is blocked off by rocks ❌
- “His name was something like Dutch… no Clutch! Clutch Powers!” I understood that reference ✅
- Idk why but I hate the way that phone looks❌
- “There’s no such thing in Ninjago…” Wu says, as if Garmadon’s never lived in Ninjago?? ❌
- Wu has a katana strapped to his back yet still chooses to fight with whatever this thing is ^ ❌
- “What? You too good for the doorbell?… Use the bell, son!” I can’t f*cking breathe ✅
- Jay simply vibing to the music ✅
- “Is this why you came?” No, they already said they were here for the research paper ❌
- The way Jay got so excited to sing💀 ✅
- Also Kai and Zane just joining by instinct ✅
- “If my ears weren’t attached to my head they’d be running away!” Jeez dude chill
- “Kai: Love the energy, hate the hair.” This is exactly what I imagine runs through the mind of your average Kai stan
- “He’s worse than Sensei Wu!” At least he gives actual advice and pointers and is direct about them. That’s more than I remember Wu doing. ❌
- “Many professionals have dare try, but it’s never been successfully completed.” Why would someone create a dance move that even they couldn’t pull off??? ❌
- “It’s cuz Twinkle Toes here couldn’t deliver the goods,” Jay is a d!ck ❌
- Also, Jay VA appreciation ✅
- “I’m starting to think we can win this thing…” You’re a group of 4 teens who have a day to train and you’re going against teams of professionals that have been practicing for probably months now. In what world do you stand a chance? ❌
- Wait, why are they practicing outside now? ❌
- “Though we live in two different worlds, I still see good in your heart brother.” I love that Wu says this mere seconds before getting punted off a cliff ✅
- Also, why did Garmadon push him? Dramatic effect? I mean it’s not out of character but it still seems excessive. ❌
- ^Why does this one building look like a LEGO figure stuck upside down? ❌
- How inconvenient of Cole to loudly explain their entire plan in this room filled with people ❌
- Also, how is Lou the only one to hear this? ❌
- Trans masc Cole is real ✅
- “I’m not going to wait around to watch you make a mockery of our family’s legacy!” Imagine telling your dad that you’re a firefighter or something and he tells you you’re a disappointment because he wanted you to become a freelance artist ❌
- ^ You know those images that “cure depression?” Well, this is the opposite ❌
- “Treble Makers?” Look, I know this probably wasn’t a Pitch Perfect reference… but I’m still gonna treat it like it is ✅
- Aaaaaaaannnnddddd v*re is canon ❌
- “I have butterflies in my stomach!” “Oh, that’s just nerves!” “No. I really do have butterflies…” “… Oookay, glad he got that out of his system.” I’m sorry but I can’t even sin this I legit can’t watch this scene without laughing ✅
- I know some people think it’s cringey but this performance scene gives me so much dopamine I can’t not win it ✅
- ^ this image ✅
- Zane moon walking ✅
- “Rawr…” Well this definitely made some fans choke on their drinks ✅
- Look, there’s nothing gay about hugging your homies after winning a talent show… BUT there IS something gay about hugging your homie while affectionately nuzzling your face into their side. Anyways, make Lava canon 2022 ✅
- Also, Jay winks at Cole? Gasp! Is Jay a lava shipper? ✅
- How convenient of Pythor to write the 0 so off-center that it makes it very easy for someone to write a 1 directly in front of it ❌
- How long was this dude’s arm?!?!?! ❌
- True potential scene ✅
- It’s cool that they won the competition and all, but I still think it would’ve been funnier and more realistic if the ninja lost completely and just stole it anyway. ❌
Sentence: *clears throat* Gayyyyyyyyyyyyyy-
#ninjago#lego ninjago#ninjago kai#ninjago lloyd#ninjago memes#ninjago jay#ninjago nya#ninjago zane#ninjago cole#lloyd garmadon#ninjago wu#ninjago lou#lavashipping#ninjago lavashipping#kai x cole#ninjago sins/wins
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dirk (and dustin if u want) for the ask meme? :3
hell yeah!!
Dirk:
Sexuality Headcanon: gay, i enjoy other headcanons for him too but the version of Dirk that lives in my head is definitely homosexual/homoromantic, just feels so right to me. im thinking of putting him on the asexual spectrum somewhere (where is my drink) probably demisexual. his type is probably straight up someone like Dustin if we're being honest here
Gender Headcanon: trans guy! came out as a kid long before Darleen passed away and got lots of support from his parents about both his sexuality and gender <3 i don't know if he realized both around the same time but he knew himself pretty well pretty early on, good for him
A ship I have with said character: ever since i realized the possibility of Dustin/Dirk it has changed my life lol. like it was really always there and it's such an obvious set up but it went completely over my head like it did for most of us i guess, the way maxis seemingly intended is good too because Lilith/Dirk feels like a very exciting couple to play with if you see Dirk being attracted to girls/whatever gender you hc Lilith as. D&D live in my mind rent free tho. it's an easy enemies to lovers for me and some would argue that trope is overdone but there is not nearly enough content about these two that fit the trope perfectly sooo i wanna make that content. speaking of Dirk in this relationship, at first he admits Dustin is cute but hates the dude's attitude so he's gonna be in denial about his Dustin situation for the longest time. he's probably gonna be the one to make this actual relationship happen even though he's gonna be scared. but when Dustin opens up Dirk starts feeling really comfortable with him and falls in love deeply
A BROTP I have with said character: easily him and Lilith, in my hc she's a lesbian and they are fake dating while actually being besties so they don't even have to pretend much. these two are an opposites attract situation too but their energies match so well?? i should probably make them other friends though because no one has more than 2 friends in my stories 😭 i mean Dirk's also good friends with his dad but. yeah
A NOTP I have with said character: this must be about romance but i don't have much to say so i'll talk about enemies instead in this question. well i dont believe he has enemies aside from Dustin and that one's not exactly fitting for this question as we already know so probably no one lol. Dirk doesn't like Angela too and i never realized until just now btw that his relationship with her after he gets with Dustin is gonna be REALLY AWKWARD
A random headcanon: he's a giant bookworm, tries to be the best at everything and is quite grumpy, i feel like he would be very successful in college because he's just a shining star however you look at him. absolute delight (but can be a bitch). he loves cats and the color purple (i actually thought of making it his signature color but he's already assigned blue by maxis so im confused). also a big taylor swift fan
General Opinion over said character: gives off rainy vibes but is actually such a sunshine. i love him so much and im so glad i discovered how great of a character he is a few years ago, he's a certified son of mine (it's actually crazy to think that if he's a teen he's younger than me... like that is a noticeable age gap. huh)
Dustin:
Sexuality Headcanon: i would say the definition that feels right to me is homosexual/biromantic, sometimes i think it could be one or the other but i always remember that it doesn't have to because sexuality is a wide spectrum and im very happy to represent someone who has different romantic and sexual attraction! his gayness is powerful and i also cherish the girl-liking side of him and i think it's beautiful. i don't know if he's allosexual yet but i feel like he's probably demiromantic i hadn't even realized that until just now! im excited
Gender Headcanon: im still wondering about this, i see him as a guy and currently as cis, i really like the idea of him being trans but given how i hc him and his family i feel like by the age of 16 he would be unlikely to freely express himself or maybe even discover himself at all? he's quite emotionally repressed and doesn't give himself time to process his feelings so he probably wouldn't even know what the feeling means if he had it. hmmm
A ship I have with said character: Dirk ofc. Dustin didn't know he was gay and likely had inner homophobia but after meeting Dirk he knew what was up and he embraced it (after they stopped hating each other first heh). he had a pretty wonderful relationship with Angela so i like these two a lot together but with Dirk it's just a whole another story. Angela is like a comfort place and with Dirk it's like a rollercoaster and Dustin is just addicted to the feeling. he will be the first one to make a move but it's gonna be in a bit of a stupid way of course because he's secretly really awkward so it'll take time for them to actually see what's up
A BROTP I have with said character: Angela. she helps him with the kids and just generally spends so much time with him and they genuinely love each other so much as bf and gf but then as friends too, the breakup is hard for Angela but after some time it definitely gets better and they are just a great couple of peeps who care for each other :) i would say i need to get Dusty other friends too but i'll be honest with you i don't even think he has any. poor boy i gave him like 2 or 3 nice points
A NOTP I have with said character: Lilith hates Dustin and wouldn't engage 😭 she learns to tolerate him but imagine these two put in a room they would fight to death
A random headcanon: Dustin is a huge family boy and the only times he is genuinely expressing his feelings is when he is with his little siblings. Brandi and him have a weird relationship that is full of fights but in its core their relationship is not the worst, she's a loving mom just not very good at it. he probably has some obscure hobbies but i don't remember which rn. he likes sports (sadly). he's a very angsty teen and 100% listens to angsty teenage music in his room. he's gonna be such a great man in college when he matures and starts being honest with himself about things and this is the best glow up ever
General Opinion over said character: i love Dustin. i am so proud of his growth and bravery <3 he is kind of a menace in the beginning of my story, super mean but i don't want to throw him under the bus because his soul is so beautiful. wait is that bus thing even a saying or did i make that up. anyways boy needs therapy and hugs
thank you so much for the ask!!! this is really long but i love talking about them <3
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So I managed to get the OC in the last post I mentioned, semi finished. Since the thing is only limited to one body size, I wanna give him a oval body shape but a bit chubby. I still have no name for him yet but if it helps, I decided to make him a tanuki demon who lives completely alone in a village on an island.
Even though Tanuki demons are known for their trickery and pranks, this OC actually hates his powers and wants to give them up completely, similar to Ash (Other lmk oc). In fact, this oc likes to use random herbs and plants to heal others. Since the entire island is filled with exotic and rare demon plants, this OC's medications that he creates have a variety of effects and it's actually because of these elixirs and medications that he's introduced in season 3 specials. But because this oc refuses to use his powers, he is chained to the island and is forced to be the only soul survivor of his entire clan, which somehow dies off due to some illness.
After seeing how hurt Macaque and Kamila are, this OC finally decides to use his powers to uncover the cause of the illness, only to find that the illness that's slowly killing off Kamila and Macaque is a medication created with Vengestone, courtesy of Harumi and the Crystal King. The oc eventually creates an elixir for Macaque and Kamilia and is able to not only heal them but even give their powers a boost. After this OC finally accepts his powers can be used for more than just trickery and can help him with detection and even tracking.
During season 4, he lives with Sandy and is forced to live a past life of the original Tanuki demon that is the opposite of this OC and pranks people for fun. I don't have much planned for this character yet in season 4 since I'm still working on his final design but I plan to go for something that gives off nature wizard or something but I plan to use the photo above as a base. He's also trans but still likes women, which works out for Kamila. I'll post more about his backstory once I have it finished as well as his final design or sketches for his final design. He also gives off giant but softie vibes if that helps any. I NEED NAME IDEAS FOR THIS MAN!
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I just read your addition to the goldstar discourse post and I wanted to say, thank you x
np that person is a fucking weirdo - gives me "you're only "gay" bc you haven't had the right dick yet" vibes but opposite...and not in a good way. Narrow minded. Zero nuance. And worst of all, zero understanding of the absolutely massive societal gaslighting of young lesbians. Imagine growing up as a teenager in the world TODAY. Like all of the lines are completely blurred and teenage lesbians are being told that they're transphobic TERFs and literally comparable to nazis if they don't sleep with trans women. One pressured decision and BOOM you're not allowed to call yourself a lesbian anymore lmao. Lemme just call up my aunt and her fiancé and be like "hey I know you're pushing 65 years old, and 40-45 years without so much as holding a mans hand but guess what this weird Tumblr users says y'all can't be lesbians anymore sorrryyyyy"
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Love & Other Disasters by Anita Kelly
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ 4.5 Star Review
I loved this book. It was a total delight, completely hooked me and didn’t let go and I stayed up way too late reading last night and then said out loud “Oh that was sooo goooood!” when I finished it. It’s very charming and feel-good.
This book has similar vibes to The Charm Offensive and Rosaline Palmer Takes the Cake in that it’s a queer romantic comedy taking place on the set of a reality TV show. In this case it’s a cooking competition. And if you liked those books, you will like this one too.
Dahlia & London, our female/non-binary MCs, meet on the show and their chemistry is palpable, you fall in love with them and cheer for them the entire time. The book has great banter, yummy food, a few steamy scenes and lots of angst and feelings. Dahlia is divorced and not out yet, London is the first openly non-binary contestant on the show. They are opposites in their experience and the things they like, but compliment each other so well and it's through their love of cooking that their bond grows. I loved the inner thoughts dual POV about identity and insecurities that each character goes through, it feels really important for right now. Dahlia’s trans brother Hank is also a scene-stealer.
I have seen every season of Top Chef and live in Santa Monica so the trips to the beach, drive on PCH and the Burbank studio felt very familiar, and some of the other things they do around town and observations are literally right outside my door. Dahlia thinks palm trees are spectacular and London thinks they look like an alien species. So cute.
Love & Other Disasters releases on January 18, 2022.
Do your heart a favor and pre-order this one.
– Thanks to NetGalley/Forever for the ARC for a review –
#anita kelly#queer romance#lgbt fiction#booklr#bookworm#bookstagram#book review#netgalley#booksbooksbooks#love and other disasters
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💖My Design for Femme and Butch Pride Flags💖
Hello, I’m Lux-Ren, a nonbinary femme lesbian. I love the butch and femme communities, but the flags I’ve seen I don’t personally vibe with. These are my first designs for new flags for the butch and femme communities, along with a community flag! This design isn’t meant to replace them, but more to be another alternative for lesbians who need them. I’m open to feedback!
The femme stripes and the butch stripes all have relationships with each other, and their meanings aren’t fully understood without understanding the others, just how the butch community and the femme community cannot exist without each other.
The butch and femme flags can each be flown right side up and upside down, just as there is no right or wrong way to be a femme or a butch, as long as you are centered on your love for the community. While I have put the femme stripes on top in the community flag for this post, please note that the flag can be switched as well to whichever side up you prefer.
These flags are inclusive of all trans and nonbinary butch and femme lesbians.
TERFs and transmysogynists DO NOT have my permission to use these in any circumstances.
Full stripe meanings under the cut!
Violet and Purple - Unique relationship with womanhood
All lesbians have unique relationships to the label of “woman”. Butches are outwardly GNC, and in societies eyes, so are femmes due to their rejection of men.
I chose purple because it is the combination of blue (which in society is associated with masculinity) and pink (which is associated with femininity). The femme version of the stripe is tinted more towards pink, and the butch version is tinted more blue, yet they are still both purple. This is to represent both butches and femmes have a unique relationship with womanhood, despite being GNC in different ways.
These stripes also explicitly include all trans and nonbinary butch or femme lesbians, because all trans and nonbinary lesbians have a unique relationship to womanhood.
Pink and Green - Unique relationship with Femininity and Rejection of Femininity
Femmes may be “feminine”, but because they reject men, in society’s eyes, it’s not an acceptable form of femininity. They may also be overly-feminine in a way that’s considered odd, or they may be part of an alternative fashion subculture. They express femininity in a way that’s “unacceptable” but also uniquely them. Pink was chosen, as it’s associated with femininity in the eyes of society, but it’s what femmes do with that “pink” that makes it so magical and special.
Butches, however, are GNC due to their rejection of femininity, whether that be having short hair, wearing traditional femininity attire such as suits, or taking on traditionally “masculine” forms of etiquette like Old-Fashioned Old-School butches. Green was chosen as is the complementary color of pink on the colorwheel, the complete opposite.
Yellow and Lavender Blue - Love for Butches and Love for Femmes
Blue is seen as divine, and soothing. It’s represents stability, and, as little as 100 years ago, was the color for femininity. It’s a well known favorite color, blending in easily with modern society, sometimes like many femmes do.
Yellow is bold and bright. It’s sunshine and happiness, and one of it’s brilliant shades, gold is often associated with riches and divine power. It stands out like many butches do, a beacon of light to others.
These colors are also complements, opposites, like butches and femmes are. Historically, butches’ visibilty could paint a dangerous target, and femmes’ invisibility protected them, like their butches would for them. The butch and femme identities formed alongside each other, and you cannot consider yourself one without having respect for the other.
White - Care, support, and dedication to the lesbian community
The butch flag and femmes flag can be flown with either side facing up, but the middle white stripe remains constant. Butches and femmes are intrinsically tied to the lesbian community. It’s often said that butches are the protectors, while femmes are the caretakers. While not every butch or femme may feel that way (the communities are far too vast and diverse) there is one thing all butches and femmes have in common: dedication to lesbians everywhere.
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#lesbian#femme#butch#lesbian positivity#butch positivity#femme positivity#trans lesbians#nonbinary lesbians#community flag#lesbian flag#femme flag#butch flag#luxren.mp3
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Let’s talk about upcoming books!
It’s hard to believe the year is nearly over, but it’s equally hard to believe that it’s somehow still 2020 ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Either way, the new year means at least one good thing- cool new books!
Click the read more for a little on each and why I’m excited! And have a great new year! 💓🎉
The Echo Wife by Sarah Gailey is Gailey’s third full-length novel, and their second Adult novel. It’s an SFF story about a woman whose husband is cheating on her… with a clone of herself… which he made by stealing her research. The layers of betrayal! Obviously her and the clone have to kill him, what other choice do they have? I’m super excited for another one of Gailey’s fun, complex characters and the concept alone sounds so, so cool.
The Valley and the Flood by Rebecca Mahoney I’ve already had the pleasure over reading and I am PUMPED to get other people to read it! This is a magical realism story about grief and baggage mixed with a southern (western?) gothic vibe with the town in the desert full of otherwordly “neighbors”. This is a beautiful story of PTSD and healing and as well as a lushly magic one.
The Mirror Season by Anna-Marie McLemore is another one I’ve already been lucky enough to get an advanced copy of. This is a magical realism story about the trauma of two characters’ unfortunately closely connected sexual assault. This one is heavy, and if you’re sensitive to stories involving rape and/or blackmail you may want to avoid it, but it’s well written and honestly an excellent story of healing and reflection.
Lycanthropy & Other Chronic Illnesses by Kristen O’Neal I…. have also already read! Sorry- I am just a very lucky reader of books! This is a really modern online friendship based story of a girl and her community of people with chronic illnesses, like the one that forced her to come back home from college. But it turns out her best friend’s chronic illness is a little… weird. I love the humor in this book, I love the characters, I love the representation of these illnesses and the online communities they form, and I honestly think that anyone who 1) like werewolves and 2) is still on tumblr will love this book.
Blade of Secrets by Tricia Levenseller combines three of my favorite things- bladesmiths, magical quests, and the author of The Shadows Between Us. A magical bladesmith takes a commission from someone far more dangerous than she knows, and winds up with an uber powerful sword able to steal secrets, on the run, and with some surprising friends. I can’t think of anything I don’t like from that, and I know I already love Levenseller’s characters, so!
Mister Impossible by Maggie Stiefvater has… that title, but is also the sequel to Call Down the Hawk, Stiefvater’s Ronan Lynch centric TRC spin off. CDTH was incredible and ended with a massive cliff hanger, so I’m chompin at the bit for this book. More magical dreams! More disembodied voices! More murder and art theft and Declan Lynch failing at pretending not to be weird af!
May the Best Man Win by ZR Ellor has the potential to make me cry right from the get go. This is a MLM trans lovers-to-enemies-to-friends-to-lovers story and my God I’m vibrating. Basically it’s a battle for prom king between exes who had a messy break up because one of them ended their relationship in order to come out & transition. The cover is so cute and I’m ready for this to be fluffy and fun.
One Last Stop by Casey McQuiston is McQuistion’s sophomore novel after Red, White & Royal Blue, so… obviously? This one is sapphic and involves falling for someone who is literally in the past. I trust McQuiston so much I’d need this book immediately even if the concept didn’t sound amazing, but I’m feeling blessed that it does!
Violet Ghosts by Leah Thomas is about being best friends with (and crushing on) a ghost while also coming out to yourself as trans. As an enby who likes ghost books- may I just say trans rights? This book also involved parental abuse, so beware if you find that distressing or triggering!
Blood Like Magic by Liselle Sambury not only has a stunning cover and a main character who looks like she means serious business, but it’s a dark urabn fantasy about witches. The main character fails her ritual to come into her magic, she’s forced to kill her true love or strip her whole blood line. Ah, I love difficult choices, gray morality, and magic, so I’m already in love with this.
The Box in the Woods by Maureen Johnson I’m astounded and super excited to know is going to exist at all. I loved the Truly, Devious trilogy, and while this isn’t exactly a part of that it is the same main character and it is still a mystery about an unsolved murder! Plus, I love summer camps, so a summer camp murder mystery makes me happy.
Gearbreakers by Zoe Hana Mikuta is a sappic enemies-to-lovers about two girls on opposite sides of a war fought by giant Windups. This is a cyberpunk book of spies and pilots and gay love, and it’s also the first in a series!
Any Way the Wind Blows by Rainbow Rowell is the third and (most likely) final book of the Simon Snow series and it’s gonna be GOOD. My only wish is for it to be about 500 pages longer because I want a full out door stopper of tying up loose ends.
The River Has Teeth by Erica Waters is the second book by the Ghost Wood Song author- which was on my most anticipated list for 2020 last year! That one was creepy and folky and queer, and this one looks to be the same. This one has a sister disappear and some strong magic to find out what happened to her, and if their mother was the one who did it.
Mark of the Wicked by Georgia Bowers is a dark fantasy about a girl who comes into her powers but has some different ideas about how she should be using them. I love morally gray or just plain dark main characters, so I’m ready to jump right on this one. This one also involves memory loss/blacking out and being framed, which always adds a cool mysterious layer!
Among Thieves by M.J. Kuhn involves queer, selfish thieves forced to band together. I have a soft spot for characters who are really flawed and don’t want to work together (especially if it leads into found family!) and this also has a slow burn sapphic relationship and a lot of possible betrayal in it, so I’ll probably go crazy from reading it.
Beyond the Ruby Veil #2 by Mara Fitzgerald doesn’t have a title yet but it does have a great plot to work off of. I loved the first book- which was creepy, had a completely awful, villainous main character, and full (I mean full) of murder- and it ended in a way that point to the sequel being just as good if not better. The first one had the quality of just watching the world burn, and I have a feeling this one’s going to be the same thing with maybe more flames. If you plan on picking up either of them, consider checking out the CWs, though!
Little Thieves by Margaret Owen got added to this immediately because Owen definitely gained my love and trust via The Merciful Crow duology, and I’m certain it’s going to be incredible solely because she’s a wonderful writer and her characters are a lot of fun- and speaking of characters, she’s already shared some drawings and info on them and they’re GREAT I cannot wait to meet them. This is a retelling of The Goose Girl story, from the maid’s POV!
Jade Fire Gold by June C.L. Tan was originally on my 2020 most anticipated but then 2020 happened so… yeah. But it is actually coming out in 2021, as long as the world doesn’t end again (fingers crossed). Inspired by East Asian mythology, this one is about a dangerous cult, a peasant cursed to steal souls, and an exiled prince!
The Heartbreak Bakery by A.R. Capetta is going to be one of those cute, fluffy, feel good reads, which I think we probably all need about now. I love Capetta’s work and their very queer characters, and I love the idea of a magical baker both breaking up and then getting couples back together. Also, the MC is agender- we love to see it.
The Second Coming by André-Naquian Wheeler follows a teen with a traumatic past falling for a boy who might be the second coming of Jesus Christ. Honestly, I’m a little nervous about this one- but also I almost wrote my own queer second coming story, so who am I to talk? I don’t know much more about this book, but I’m excited to see what it turns out like!
#new books#2021 books#2021 releases#the echo wife#sarah gailey#the valley and the flood#rebecca mahoney#the mirror season#anna marie mclemore#lycanthropy & other chronic illnesses#lycanthropy and other chronic illnesses#kristen o'neal#blade of secrets#tricia levenseller#may the best man win#zr ellor#mister imposible#cdth#maggie stiefvater#one last stop#casey mcquiston#violet ghosts#leah thomas#blood like magic#lielle sambury#the box in the woods#truly devious#maureen johnson#gearbreaks#zoe hana mikuta
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Been thinking about my hypothetical live action remake of Korra (seriously Netflix, call me, I have so many amazing ideas) and how I would tackle season two since it’s definitely the season that needs the most work, specifically and especially the Unalaq & Raava-Vaatu plotline. I kind of got carried away, like I do, but I’m very excited about it; a lot of good strong themes here. I’m going to start by talking about the changes to the first half, pre-Beginnings interlude, then the Beginnings episodes, then the back half. For the most part, all of the major plot beats still stay the same, at least until the climax, but the way those beats are contextualized are going to get pretty different building up to a radically different climax (no spirit being kaiju fight, yay!).
With Unalaq in the front half, the one major change is I want the religious fundamentalism vibes that come on so strong when he’s introduced to ramp up after the Northern Tribe soldiers show up and especially after Korra finally realizes he’s a bad guy, rather than petering out like happens in canon. I want to actually see him impose strict expectations of behavior in accordance with what he feels honors the spirits on the people of Southern Water Tribe. Let’s get some misogyny and restrictive gender roles up in here. That’s going to be great (from a storytelling perspective, obviously) because it’s relatively low-hanging fruit to communicate that the bad guy is bad, it fits in well thematically with where we’re going and the religious fundamentalism, and there is canon precedent in The Last Airbender that restrictive gender roles are a traditional value in the Northern Water Tribe.
A quick sidebar related to themes, in whatever episode where we first have Unalaq really cracking down on those gender roles, I want a B or possibly C plot with the Tenzin family vacation, where Jinora comes out to Tenzin as nonbinary. She is questioning with regards to the exact nature of her gender, but does say its some combination of both masculine and feminine, though other nonbinary identities – including agender, genderfluid, and a gender that is completely divorced from male-female – are floated. Tenzin is supportive and affirming and also suggests Jinora talk with her Aunt Kya, who he identifies as being a transwoman. (Kya is a trans lesbian in my version; you gotta deal with it.) This obviously serves to contrast Unalaq with his strict gender roles, and continues to build our theme.
For Korra in the first half, I do want to drag her emotional volatility down just a tad as compared to where she’s at in canon for these episodes. I still want her getting emotional and acting rash – that’s a huge part of her character – but I want her anger to feel sympathetic to the audience. Though I do also want at least one moment where Korra gets angry for good reason and starts yelling at Unalaq and he chides her for being emotional and irrational and he’s not going to discuss this with her if she can’t behave calmly and logically, blah, blah, blah, misogyny.
The final and biggest change that we’re making in the first half is Korra does not yet have her bending back. Season one does still end with her talking with Aang and learning energybending, which she uses to restore everyone else’s bending and restore her own connection to the other three elements, but in the opening episode of season two, we learn that she still can only airbend. She says that as far as she can tell everything should be alright and she should be able to bend fire, water, and earth, but obviously she can’t. She also mentioned that while it looks like it should, she feels like there is something missing, or maybe something there that she can’t see. Which my clever readers of course realize is a reference to Raava. After her flashback coma, Korra gains the other elements back, explaining that what she was missing was her connection to Raava had been damaged. Not broken, which is why she could still airbend and do all the other Avatar stuff she was doing, but damaged enough that Raava could no longer switch elements for her or give her access to multiple elements at once.
Moving on to Beginnings, right off the bat, I’m getting rid of the notion that all humans have to huddle on the backs of lion turtles out of fear of the spirits. The two worlds are connected, but humans and spirits co-exist peacefully for the most part. The lion turtles instead act as mediators when necessary, and do sometimes give out bending for humans to defend themselves with, but not as a regular thing every time they need to leave their city. We’ll have to switch up the stealing fire and Chin plot a little to accommodate this change, but somehow or other it happens and Wan gets banished with firebending.
Eventually he comes across Raava and Vaatu fighting and these two characters are getting some major shake ups. First off, in canon Raava identifies as being peace to counter Vaatu’s chaos, but peace is not the opposite of chaos; order is. Now, looking into yin & yang, chaos & order are not aspects that traditionally apply to them, but we’re going to let that addition of order to yang and light and chaos to yin and dark stand. Not everything has to be perfectly aligned. That said, one way in which we are going to switch things to make them fit better is yang is the masculine energy with yin as feminine. We’re switching the voices.
So Wan sees them fighting, and Vaatu calls out for help. And Wan is like, oh no, a damsel in distress; I’ll help you, milady! So, he helps, giving Vaatu the advantage. She beats up Raava, then flies off. Raava chastises Wan, explaining that he is the spirit of light and order, and he has been trying since the beginning of time to defeat Vaatu, but their battles have always ended in a draw. But now Wan has given Vaatu the advantage and if they don’t fix this, she’ll be victorious at the upcoming Harmonic Convergence, sending the worlds into ten thousand years of darkness. To which Wan is like, oh no, that sounds horrible. Well, Mr. Masculine Manly Spirit-Man Raava, I like light and order and you seem like a logical rational person; I’ll for sure help you put that emotional crazy spirit lady in her place. (Have I made the irony here clear enough? I don’t think I can get much more blatant. Though obviously in the show version it would be a little more subtle.)
After that we get Raava & Wan’s training and learning the elements montage, with some encounters with “corrupted” spirits along the way. Corrupted being Raava’s word, and he elaborates to say that all spirits fall under either Raava or Vaatu’s domain, all with varying inherent levels of light & order and dark & chaos to them. Vaatu gaining in power is causing the levels of dark& chaos in these spirits to rise, throwing them out of balance. Eventually comes time for Harmonic Convergence, Raava & Wan vs. Vaatu, and Vaatu wins. Ten thousand years of chaos, baby. With the last of the spirit energy as Harmonic Convergence ends, Wan fuses with Raava, then unleashes a crazy, amazing spirit attack, imprisoning Vaatu, banishing all the spirits from the physical world to the spirit world, and sealing the portals, all as an attempt to mitigate the fall out from chaos ascendent. Since then, the Avatar, imbued with the spirit of order, has fought back against the chaos to try to restore balance to the world.
Korra wakes up and panics. They have to stop Unalaq who is trying to free Vaatu, probably because he wants to destroy the world or something. But when she next has a chance to confront Unalaq, he’s like, not you stupid girl. I’m not trying to destroy the world; I’m trying to save it. Wan was right to side with order, but wrong to think he could stop chaos by teaming up with Raava and destroying it from without. No chaos is inside all of us, the evil infesting every human heart (Unalaq’s words, not mine) and it can only be dominated through one’s own strong force of will and conviction. So his plan is to fuse with Vaatu and then dominate her, destroy her chaos and using her power to allow him to bring his order across all of existence, both in the physical and spirit worlds. Korra’s not too keen on that plan either. She’s still going to stop him.
Korra fails to stop him. Harmonic Convergence begins, Vaatu is freed, she goes inside of Unalaq, and she immediately subsumes him. Turns out you can’t eliminate all the chaos in the world just by willpower, you absolute looney toon. Vaatu explains that even as Unalaq was planning to use her, she was using him to get free and now is going to use him as a meat puppet to help her fight Raava & the Avatar.
So, they fight, and for a bit it’s evenly matched, then Vaatu gains the upper hand. Just as Vaatu appears she’s about to deal the finishing blow, Unalaq briefly regains control and interrupts her – to be clear, he manages this because of his desperate need for order and control, not out of any affection for Korra. While he’s in control he says something in defiance of Vaatu that coming from Unalaq we can hear is clearly some fascist bullshit, but also echoes something that Wan/Raava said back in their battle with Vaatu. And Korra’s like, wait, hold up a second.
Lightbulb turns on for Korra at that moment, and by the time Vaatu has resecure control, Korra has dropped her offensive stance. She tells Vaatu she doesn’t want to fight her; she wants her to fuse with her and Raava. Neither Vaatu nor Raava like this idea. Korra has to go on the defensive holding off Vaatu’s attacks, and has to internally fight against Raava wanting to attack Vaatu all while trying to sell them both on this idea. She explains that too much chaos has been bad for the world, but too much order would be bad too – case in point, Unalaq. Both chaos and order, both Raava and Vaatu are needed for balance. And yeah, they can achieve balance by constantly fighting each other, with every encounter ending as a draw, or they could achieve balance through harmony together. Because even as they are opposites, they are one and the same, a part of a greater whole. A bunch of stuff to that effect, including mentions of the Northern Water Tribe upsetting the balance by trying to dominate the Southern Water Tribe, and also a shout out to Tui and La in there somewhere, the original Yin/Yang Avatar couple. Eventually Korra convinces them, she fuses with Vaatu, and Harmonic Convergence ends in a tie, returning the world to balance once again.
And of course, now that balance has been achieved, Korra leaves the spirit portals open. Remember in this version spirits and humans got along fine, and the separation was only necessary because the world had fallen out of balance. And yes, the rejoining of the physical and spirit worlds was probably something Unalaq wanted too, but we’re not giving him credit for it, because for every good idea a fascist ever had, there’s someone else who isn’t a fascist who had the same idea, but better, because it wasn’t coming from a fascist.
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Good morning! Whats your favorite show/movie? Who are your favorite characters? Why do you like them so much? Also!! Did you have a good sleep?
Okay so I was a film major for a while, and I have opinions.
Penny Dreadful
I love this show. Like, so much. I adore it. I can not get enough of that show. Just all of the imagery, and the fantastic writing and acting. The episode intro alone is one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever seen. Eva Green is a goddess and I love everything she’s been in. The take on classic horror stories is So Good, and it actually became the inspiration for my Gay Frankenstein story! (Started as a stitch AU, and then went completely OC after I had Ideas) but the show itself is so intimate? I think it’s largely that the period they’re in, everything was so repressed and restricted. So when the characters break out of those moments, it’s more meaningful. And the love-hate relationship between Ms. Ives and Malcolm in season one? Exquisite. I could literally write essay’s about this show, but I’ll restrain myself and just say: it’s the best ensemble show I’ve ever seen. The characters come together, but they also each have their own distinct lives that sometimes intersect, but in s2 especially, are quite separate. They are constant with one another like ensemble shows usually portray. Also gothic horror and romance? My absolute favorite.
Anything by Guillermo del Toro
This man Owns My Entire Soul. I’m not even joking, everything he writes and directs is perfection. Crimson Peak is probably my favorite (I have a stitch AU for this too ;) ) because again, Gothic horror and romance. I’m a slut for that shit. Also Tom Hiddleston and Jessica Chastain? Delightful casting. I think it’s obvious by now that I love tragic relationships, so their dynamic is *chef’s kiss* amazing. they’re so damaged. And this quote right here is one of the BEST things I’ve ever read:
“But the horror... The horror was for love. The things we do for love like this are ugly, mad, full of sweat and regret. This love burns you and maims you and twists you inside out. It is a monstrous love and it makes monsters of us all.”
Engrave that on my headstone, please?? I’ve got a sort-of Dorian Gray AU (it’s delightful) that’s basically built on this entire premise. Mitch makes the mistake of falling in love with Stiles, and does many terrible things because of it. Mostly to himself, at least.
I think my love of Crimson Peak is very closely tied with The Shape of Water. another beautiful movie, I could wax poetic about this forever. it was beautifully written, and such an artistic movie. I love the way it was filmed, and the set design, and all of the subtle imagery. Such as Elisa’s apartment being cast in cooler tones, it always felt very damp and had evidence of water damage, compared to Giles’, a mirror image of her own, in more warm tones. This is another one I could (and have) write essays about. There is so much packed into this movie, from the themes on toxic masculinity and entitlement, to the conversation on queerness and race and disability, and how all the various relationships are portrayed. Like. there is so much to pick apart in this movie.
Aside from that, ofc Hell Boy deserves an honorable mention because i grew up on those movies. I’m pretty sure the Golden Army especially is responsible for who I am today, given all the lore on the fae in that universe. Wow, that explains so much about me... Also one of my first WoW characters was an elf named Nuala xD I still have her, too, and it’s been like 12 years lol
Near-Future Sci-Fi
Sci-fi is one of my favorite genres, I am a huge nerd for theoretical and astrophysics. But my favorite kind of sci-fi is the stuff that still takes place on Earth, rather than epic battles in space. Ex Machina and Annihilation are at the top of that list. Alex Garland is another writer/director that I love. He has the same kind of approach as del Toro, where he puts a lot of fine details into his work. And I love that it’s very cerebral; there are so many layers to Ex Machina. My English 101 prof actually refused to analyze it in class when I suggested it to him, because he didn’t think my class could. Basically handle? Dissecting that movie? Because a lot of it comes across as very surface level, but in some cases when you look deeper, it’s actually suggesting the opposite of what you might think at first glance. (And he was right, my fellow students were awful. I miss that class though, it was one of my favorites T_T Mr. Ryder was an awesome dude and super chill.)
Morgan is another good example. As you can see, I fucking love androids lol. Which brings me to another of my all time favorite movies: Cloud Atlas. I could literally watch this movie endlessly, I love it so much. The acting, the writing, the filming, all of it is top notch. And one thing they did in the movie that didn’t come across in the book, was reusing the same actors through the different eras in the book. That was just so neat, because it really encapsulates how connected these souls are, as we follow the threads of their story throughout time. If you haven’t seen the movie, I can’t recommend it enough.
Another one I always think of alongside Cloud Atlas, even though they aren’t related at all, is Predestination. It’s a great movie that explores the idea of fate and free will in a really clever way, utilizes time travel in a very organized way that I think was neat (think Umbrella Academy. They even use briefcases! As you can see, I love sci-fi bureaucracy, it’s fun. In fact The Bureau is another movie I enjoyed) and the main character is actually, explicitly trans, which was cool. You basically get to see the entire story of their life, and I don’t want to spoil anything, but it’s just. So good. Mindfuckery galore.
Shoot, and I almost forgot! Arrival! That is one of the best movies, and another one I could watch nonstop. It focuses on mathematics and linguistics and I swear to god, I almost altered my entire college course because of this movie. Amy Addams is brilliant, Jeremy Renner is so soft and nerdy, and again, it has an amazing take on time travel. I am very particular about how time is handled in Sci-fi, and this portrayal was one of my favorite. (Most of my physics studies have been dedicated to the theory of time, so like. Strong Opinions.)
Fantasy
Stardust! It wasn’t until Good Omens can out that I realized Neil Gaiman is responsible for most of the stories I loved as a kid lol, and I had no idea he wrote stardust! But that is such a beautiful movie (I have a Stardust AU lol) and it’s definitely one of my comfort movies. Captain Shakespeare is one of the best characters ever, bless Robert de Niro. I would die for him. Fun fact, i had no idea Ipswitch was a real place until like. 2019. I 100% thought it was made up for the movie 😂
Alongside Stardust, I’ve always loved The Golden Compass. It’s fantasy, but also with that old-timey steampunk science feel, which is so fun and surprisingly difficult to find!
Mortal Engines also has the same kind of feel, and it was such an epic movie in every sense of the word. I’m a little sad that after all the work that went into it, it didn’t get a dedicated following or fan base, because I feel there’s so much potential in it. But at the same time, fandom tends to gather around media that has plenty of flaws for us to repair with gold, and there wasn’t much room for that in Mortal Engines.
I’m going to put Jupiter Ascending here even though it technically fits with the sci-fi, because that section is long as fuck and also this movie has such a fantastic feel. Mila Kunis? beautiful. The CGI? beautiful. Eddy Redmayne? One of the best villain portrayals i’ve ever seen. The whole oedipal vibe he had was immaculate, as was their portrayal of reincarnation, and just. The world building. GOD. I get so weak for through world building. Also the fkn intergalactic bureaucracy when they’re basically at the space DMV? One of my all time favorite scenes in movie history.
Horror
I have very little room in my life for horror. As I said, I have strong movie opinions, especially when it comes to horror movies. I don’t like how most of them rely on cheap jump scares and overused gore and gratuitous rape scenes, instead of, y'know, actual good writing.
Which is EXACTLY why I adore It: Chapter 1 & 2. It has none of those things, but still manages to be so terrifying. They are my favorite horror movies, and I’m saying this as someone who has genuine childhood trauma bc of the novel. Like. I couldn’t shower/take baths alone until I was almost 10 T_T When I was 6-7 and saw kids play by storm drains, I would run over screaming about how Pennywise was going to get them. Like, I had issues man. I was terrified to see the first one, and wouldn’t go until I could go with my best friend after she had already seen it, so she could warn me when something scary was about to happen 😂
And, one of my favorite aspects of the movie, and the thing that gave me Mad Respect for Any Muschietti? The way he filmed Bev and her father. They have a character who is literally being molested, but they never once have to show it. And yet their interactions are still so viscerally upsetting to watch. Sexploitation puts me off of most horror, and the fact that Muschietti doesn’t use it here, even when it would be actually somewhat justified? *chef’s kiss*. I love him.
I love horror as a concept, I’m just really picky about it because I expect the writing to be good. I don’t like short cuts. But in a lot of cases, even if I don’t enjoy the movie itself, I love to watch analysis videos on youtube! I love to see the philosophy and symbolism in different horror movies, even if i don’t like to watch the movies themselves. It’s a fun hobby.
Misc.
Then in general, some other stuff I love in no particular order:
The Internship (Bless Dylan, Stuart is such a bitch and I love him)
American Assassin (ofc. The writing itself is eh, but Mitch is my man)
Dylan’s episode of Weird City. (I actually have a lot of feelings about this one. Jordan Peele is another amazing writer/director, I really need to catch up on his works.)
Dorian Gray (*chef’s kiss*)
Rogue One (Makes me cry every time)
WARCRAFT (Obviously this is a fav. It made me so happy, words cannot express.)
Coraline and most other stop motion animation. I’ve always had a soft spot in my heart for that.
Literally anything associated with Tim Burton. Fun fact, when I was 12 and in middle school, I planned to decorate my future house inspired by tim burton. Like, i had Plans.
Most adaptations of Alice in Wonderland!
So! this got long as fuck! But you said you like that kind of thing lol 😂 I had kinda Eh sleep since I was up so late lmao, and I kept waking up (as usual, rip). And I’m so mad I go up for nothing! The dude I was supposed to show my listing to never showed, and is refusing to answer my calls >_> It’s been 2 hours now, and I still haven’t heard from him. But whatever, I already have a full price cash offer on the house so who cares. And that means I can play WoW all day, now!
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ELISA FRANÇOIS —
IG info/bio: @/elisacoisbabe | 34.2k followers | why yes I’m shaking my ass while having a mental breakdown, mind ur business yeah?? 👸🏿
22 (23) years
Born in Louisiana, New Orleans
Has two sisters: Camille & Manon
Raised by her aunt & uncle in London, England
Does not address her birth parents as her real parents, her aunt & uncle hold that title & deff has a lot of anger towards her birth parents—to her they’re as good as d*ad
Haitian roots
Keeps her family life as private as she can, however her fans occasionally see her sisters on her channel
Social media influencer who got her start from posting makeup looks on her YouTube channel & her story times
Canon: calls her fans “Elisa-bee’s” we don’t know why either
Loves 80’s style blush
Loves 80s music & aesthetic and she liked it before u teenagers hopped on the bandwagon, sorry not sorry ;-)
Doesn’t feel Lottie is competition at all when it comes to posting content even if fans feel that way, they have completely different techniques
Vacations in Paris & Louisiana often
Her older sister, Manon resides in Louisiana and when they link up??? Issa vibe
Camille is the youngest & kinda a party pooper, she’s more on the serious side
Loves snacking on macaroons... salted caramel praline & lavender white chocolate are her favorites (I feel like I said this about someone else too...)
She’s scared of owls/any type of birds partly from a childhood trauma where she was attacked by a bunch of seagulls on a pier & as punishment when she was up to no good, her parents would force her to watch “the birds” (1963) strapped to a chair
Went thru a “ugly phase” growing up & was often called “lady-b*y”
Has been in multiple relationships/entanglements/situations/experiences but there are many that she doesn’t count & or acknowledge “I hope no one considers me an ex especially if they couldn’t make me c*m”
Has had threes*mes before
Sex posi!
Supports trans lives!
In the last few years she was recently diagnosed with borderline personality disorder
When she finished secondary, she didn’t think uni was for her. Found school rather boring although she did quite well at it. She was exhausted with everything that came with it & decided to go into stripping for a couple of months (almost a year) before she decided to work on her YouTube channel
Currently in a polyamorous relationship
A few of her experiences with her significant others got jealous of her job, the attention she got from it & the time she put into her job as a influencer— it was annoying
Gemini sun + Sagittarius moon + Capricorn rising? Idk man but she’s got Leo & Scorpio in her chart too I’m sure of it
Has no problem bringing her issues with someone to the table
Kinda likes confrontation but only if SHE’s the one to start it, not if SOMEONE ELSE does it FOR her, due to her spreading the info around in the first place...
Will try her best to read someone but sometimes her comebacks lack...
Still doesn’t like Chelsea, Jo, OR Shannon & it’s been a year but she don’t gaf
Found herself a friend in Blake
They’re opposites, she’s more laid back & slightly reserved whereas when Elisa enters the place you KNOW it because she makes it known—she loves to be seen
After Marisol & Graham called it quits, Elisa swept in & they explored what they could be? Intimately. Yet Elisa doesn’t seem like she’s ready to settle down right now & she doesn’t HAVE to while Marisol seems like she likes to have fun too BUT is also always thinking two steps ahead—she’s calculated, so a small part of her thought of the what if’s? But knew there was a chance there shouldn’t be any strings attached
That shifted their friendship forsure!!! Priya told them it was a bad idea from the start but Elisa had some snippy words for her ofc “mind ur business luv, or I’ll do it for ya x”
She thought about ghosting marisol for a little bit to see if she’d chase after her, she loves to be chased but decided not to. She was upfront about their rendezvous after awhile, she agreed if they ever got lonely again to hit each other up...but marisol doesn’t feel like what they had was based on loneliness...
Probably still has a crush on Bobby & was kinda mad he asked someone else to marry him but she still showed up to the reunion/wedding like the baddest bitch she knows she is, ‘got to make him regret not choosing me, ya know?’
Will chat with him every now & then but Bobby being the friendly guy he is doesn’t pay much attention to her seduction or rather he ignores it but if it gets too much he’ll gently tell her about herself
Hey, Elisa knows shade when she sees it & can be a shady bitch when she wants to be too
Only drinks the real ginger ale not the fake one the rest of u lot drink
Has no issue showing her figure, she loves her body, she loves herself, & that took along time to appreciate so she doesn’t care if people view that as arrogant, most don’t know her story & if they still shitted on her for it then they can all fuck right off
She has a soft side too...somewhere in there but it’s very rare to see! Only ONE of her exes had the chance of seeing it
She has a image to protect & show the world but there’s going to be a time where she gets tired of constantly putting on a show
Is a sucker for animation films & whenever there’s a sad moment in the film she deff triggered!
Has two dogs: Dachshund & a chihuahua
Makes the best Pikliz
loves a good lace front, will drop bands on one whenever she feels like she needs something new & that’s quite often
Owns a bedazzler kit
Has a stun gun
Can make her own jewelry + working on starting a line for it
Body scrubs are to die for in her opinion, her skin HAS to be soft & she’s always moisturized. That’s right stay away from her if ur ashy cause she’ll bring shame to you
She’s slightly a mean girl/bitchy I feel like we all know this lmao
Live tweeted about season 3 & dragged it like we all did with no remorse
I feel like she’s a wild sleeper? Lol
Enjoys not only 80s style music but Lofi beats, cocaine80s, PARTYNEXTDOOR, IAMDDB, Ravyn Lenae, VanJess, Ibeyi, Tayla Parx, CITY GIRLS, & Kash doll, saweetie, etc
Celeb crushes: Zoe Kravitz & Lenny Kravitz, Issa Rae, Winston Duke, Theo James, Robert Pattinson, Alexa Demie, Kelvin Harris Jr., Kedar Williams-Stirling...
Anthem: Dreezy ft. Kash Doll — Chanel Slides
#litg#litg2#litg s2#litg elisa#litg Lottie#litg Bobby#litg Blake#litg chelsea#litg jo#litg shannon#litg headcanon#litg headcanons#litg moodboard#litg au#okay I lied i felt like Elisa deserved one lol Blake’s next then I’m done with s2#litg marisol#litg priya
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please write your angsty part to matteo and david talking about trans problems soon!!! loved the other two x
hi hi so i didn’t make this a direct continuation of the hc i mentioned, this kinda turned into something completely its own but!!!! i hope you like it!!!!!!
It was a really unfortunate coincidence that they had both managed to have such awful days, on the one day that week that they couldn’t see each other until after dark. It was the reason for the weird, solemn vibe in the air, and the almost silence that had fallen after they had whispered their quiet greetings and “I love you”’s to each other once Matteo had arrived at David’s flat. They had clung to each other a little longer than usual, and neither of them seemed too happy about separating their entwined bodies.
David was eventually the one who pulled away with a sigh, but kept his hands under Matteo’s jacket and hoodie and tee shirt where they had been placed the second Matteo was close enough for him to do so. His fingers traced gently over Matteo’s ribs and he sighed again, and Matteo lifted his exhausted, droopy eyes from the ground, and collapsed into David’s arms again. David let out a soft chuckle that turned into a content hum after he felt Matteo’s hands under his shirt. Neither of them were saying much; they could each feel the gloom that had seemed to follow Matteo into the flat, that then combined with the gloom that had already been in the flat.
They had been texting all day about how shitty their days were, so they didn’t feel the need to talk about it as Matteo changed into a pair of David’s sweatpants and one of his hoodies, and pulled the hood up over his head. He walked over to David once he was done, his arms wrapped tight around himself, and David made a small, sad sound in his throat as he closed the distance and wrapped his own arms around Matteo’s body, and squeezed.
They were both feeling a little clingy so they chose to just curl up in David’s bed, and spent some time wallowing in their own miseries together. They cuddled close under the blankets, Matteo’s socked foot rubbing slowly against David’s shin, David’s fingers trailing through Matteo’s hair and pushing it back so he could lean in and kiss his forehead.
After a little while, after they were both feeling somewhat better from the feeling of each others’ warmth, the foot that had been rubbing against David’s shin started poking a bit, and then kicking a bit. David opened one eye and glanced down at Matteo only to see him smiling softly, a hint of something sweet in his eyes.
“Seeing you has been the best part of my day.”
David hummed and nodded, before scratching a little at the back of Matteo’s neck and whispering back, “Me too.”
They were quiet again for a while, and David thought Matteo had fallen asleep, so he was surprised when he felt Matteo nose into his shoulder and heard him say, “I talked to my mom today. I didn’t tell you that.”
David hummed and stroked his hand down Matteo’s back, wondering why Matteo sounded so suddenly sad about that, when his mom had been doing great recently. David had met her a few weeks prior, and just as Matteo had expected, she loved him immediately. David was the perfect boyfriend to bring home to his mother, and Matteo had been vibrating with nerves and excitement until his mom had pulled out the baby pictures.
“I, um,” Matteo started, and pushed himself out of David’s arms until he was lying on his side, and David turned and mirrored him, and Matteo looked away and whispered, “I- I think I fucked up a little.”
David furrowed his brows and lifted a hand to run down Matteo’s side, and when he didn’t continue speaking and flinched a little under David’s hand, David swallowed before asking, “What happened? I’m sure it’s okay, baby, your mom loves you.”
“I- fuck,” he said, and ran a hand through his hair, “everything with her is fine, I… we were talking about you.”
“Oh,” David whispered back, and he could feel his face fall a little as he guessed what Matteo was going to say next.
“Yeah, um,” Matteo said, his eyes shifting away, “she kept asking me about why you live with Laura and why you moved so late in the school year and she wouldn’t stop asking and I was already having such a shitty day that I--”
“You told her I’m trans?”
Matteo bit his lip and nodded, and David hummed before shifting onto his back.
“I know that’s really shitty, and I don’t want to try to excuse it or anything, I just wasn’t thinking. I’m sorry.”
David nodded again. He understood how that kind of slip up could happen, especially considering how exhausted and overwhelmed Matteo was. That didn’t excuse it though, and it didn’t stop that quick little pang in David’s chest.
“Are you mad?” Matteo said quickly, and David sighed and turned to him again. Matteo’s lip was red from how bad he was biting it, and David knew he didn’t have the energy to be mad. That he wasn’t, really. It wasn’t great, and he was glad that Matteo at least knew not to do that in general. But still, that very specific feeling was still aching in David’s chest a little.
“I don’t think I’m mad,” he said hesitantly, and saw Matteo’s eyes perk up a little, “I’m definitely not… happy about it. She didn’t need to know that. Or maybe she did, but you should’ve let me decide that.”
“I know, I know,” Matteo said, shifting a little closer to David so he could grab the hand David had resting on the blanket, “I know that, I just- fucked up. I’m sorry.”
“It’s fine, just please don’t do it again?”
“I won’t, I’m gonna be way more careful now that I know how stupid I can be. I’m sorry.”
“Hey, don’t talk about my boyfriend like that,” David said, and tugged on Matteo’s hand until he finally curled into David’s chest, “how did- what did she say?”
Matteo was quiet for a moment as he slid his hand under David’s shirt and onto his stomach, and he said into his chest, “She doesn’t completely get it, but she still loves you. She knows that you’re a boy. Mostly she was asking questions about if you’re happy and if Laura takes care of you well.”
David smiled a little, but it didn’t get rid of the uneasiness. He really liked Matteo’s mom, and he trusted her with the information. It just didn’t feel good. It was a hard feeling to explain, just one that David had gotten very used to. Some weird mixture of disappointment and a tiny bit of relief, relief that would have felt much better if David had been the one to tell her.
“That’s sweet,” he said after a few moments of silence, and then he took a breath before saying, “I’m not mad. It happened, you know not to do it again, I’m okay just… moving on. I want to have a nice night with you.”
Matteo hummed into his chest and rolled off of David, and stretched for a moment before climbing out of the bed.
“No, what? That’s the opposite of what I want!” David whined, but he smiled when he heard Matteo giggle at the door.
“We haven’t eaten yet, let me cook for you to make up for fucking up.”
“You don’t need to make up for anything, baby,” David said, but got out of the bed with a sigh and said, “but I’m not going to turn down food.”
Matteo smiled and dragged him to the kitchen, and David sat on the counter while Matteo did everything. David loved watching Matteo move around his kitchen like that, like he knew where everything was (he really did, too). He cooked them some kind of pasta and sat on the counter next to David so they could eat it out of the pot, and got yelled at five minutes later when Laura came home and saw them.
She may have yelled but David could also see the glint of fondness in her eyes. She was won over quickly with food, and sat down at the table to watch Matteo book more pasta.
Laura was still glaring a little at the mess but must have sensed the slightly still present gloom, because when Matteo turned to stir the sauce she turned and tilted her head at David and gestured at Matteo. David just smiled at his back, watching his hips sway a tiny bit as he stirred, before turning to Laura and shrugging one shoulder before turning back to Matteo, barely catching her smile out of the corner of his eye.
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After The Storm
Request: can you do a sad fic where the reader is trans, (ftm) and they come out with unaccepting parents, so he gets kicked out of the house and winds up on the street. Mark and ethan drive past him and pick him up from off the street and basically they bond. and give the reader a place to stay
You guys can probably tell I wanted to work with metaphors and imagery in this fic cx hopefully I wrote the perspective well, as it is my first time writing from this pov too. Also, I think this fic is more of a bittersweet fluff than sad? It just kinda turned out that way >> sorry!
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The night was far colder than you expected it to be; it was as if their harsh words and disapproving stares hovered over you like a storm cloud that was ready to strike you back into submission and self-doubt again. Their lightning bolt words stunned your heart as the thundering yells numbed your ears, you tried to ignore it all. You tried to push through and wait until the magical day that they either accepted their ‘daughter’ was never here to begin with, but rather their son always was. And as much as you wished that would have been your reality, it wasn't. Instead, your magical day was when you finally stood up to them, showed them that you're proud to be who you are and proceeded to leave that hurricane household.
You were so happy that you finally could lead your life without them weighing judgment, so happy that you could be free.
Although, you couldn't ignore the fact that being away from your parents, also meant you were without a place to stay.
You thought about asking some of your friends, but you end up going against it, believing you'd end up becoming a burden to them- even though you knew they would tell you otherwise. For the time being, you'd be on your own, you weren't sure where you were going and nor did you really care. You earned enough money that you were confident you'd be okay food wise and if you really wanted to, possibly stay at a cheap hotel until you've decided on a plan.
Until then; however, you would walk the concrete streets of Los Angeles with your duffel bag over your shoulder. The city was an Ice Queen at night, beautiful yet cold and uninviting to those weak at heart and in spirit; while you wished you could enjoy life simply in the present you were in and with the great step you’ve taken in the right direction with it, the looming future had its hold on you, flooding your mind with all the ‘what ifs’ that were the last thing you needed right now.
A heavy sighed passed your lips and while you walked down the desolate street, your only source of light was the stars and moon above you along with the few street lamps. Your legs grew tired and you took a break on a nearby bench that seemed like a haven; somewhere you could relax and take a moment for yourself after having walked so long. Sitting down, you let out a breath you never knew you were holding in to begin with- your bag slumped off your shoulder and it allowed your body to rest, comfortably leaning into wooden panels behind you. It might not have been the coziest situation, but you were thankful nonetheless. And against better judgment, you shut your eyes, letting them rest after such a long day.
It isn't until a bright yellow light shines through your eyelids; you thought it would disappear, but instead, it lingered and soon you were able to pair a voice with this light. “Hey… You alright, kid?”
The voice was kind, refreshing to your ears after all the bitter and hate filled words it heard earlier that day. It held concern and it was sincere, truly curious and worried as to whether a complete stranger was okay or not. His voice was gentle, and without another thought, your eyes opened once again to find the owner of such a caring voice.
He sat inside of a small, silver car whose paint job reflected the light from the street lamp- which only added to the beams of light that already shined in your eyes. You found yourself falling silent as they waited for a response, unsure of what to say or do, wondering if you should even do anything at all.
After a brief silence, another voice piped in and that was when you notice the younger man beside the driver, a small smile made its way onto your lips when you noticed his bold blue hair. You couldn't hear what they were talking about, though you assumed it was about yourself because soon enough the car was put into park- your eyes widened and you could feel your heart start to race. Despite their soft and welcoming tone, you knew it'd be foolish, and possibly dangerous, if you didn't be at least a little bit cautious. You reached for your bag as you anxiously awaited their next move.
It was the blue-haired lad who spoke next, you watched as he exited the car, the ravenette soon to follow. His voice was a bit higher than the other’s, but he gave off the same friendly vibe and you knew that he could see how you were on edge about trusting them. Which was completely understandable, they were strangers after all. “The stars always look better out here, don't you think? There are not as many lights to… uh, what's the word… Oh! Pollute the sky, so you can see a lot more.” He sent you a smile and unable to stop yourself, you returned it.
They got closer, slowly but progressively, and continued to talk about random small things around the three of you. A few laughs were shared between the duo and with each passing second, the storm of anxiety, fear, and doubt began to clear in your mind. By now, you knew they had no ill will towards you, if anything, it was the opposite.
Eventually, the ravenette sat beside you on the bench- setting his elbows on his knees and giving you a lopsided grin, “One day, I would love to be able to rocket myself into space… just so I can explore, even if it's dangerous. I just really love space,” a chuckle slipped from his lips and his warm brown eyes caught your own, “Do you like space?”
For the first time that night, you decided to respond to them, relaxing into your seat and looking up into the night sky. It was serene, the calm after the storm.
“...I do… I was always curious about it, too,” It was a simple response, but from that the three of you found yourselves talking as if you were old friends. It was an energy you quickly grew fond of, one that was simply infectious. So when the conversation started to dwindle and turned to a more serious tone as you started to explain your situation. You were hesitant to at first, but they assured you there wouldn't be any judgment, that this familiarity around you all would remain; with that, you felt comfortable in telling them all that had transpired earlier in the day.
The clouds in your mind cleared as you let it all out, a therapeutic sensation followed as each word fell from your lips, a refreshing, renewing rain helped to heal your mind for that moment. It wouldn't be able to heal it all, but it was a nice start and if you would be able to continue talking to them like this in the future, you knew you would be okay somehow.
“And so… Until I have enough to rent an apartment or something, I'll probably be staying at motels or shelters. Y’know? Just save up the most I can and then I can blow this town,” You chuckled bitterly, a hand running through your locks and shutting your eyes as you dream of smokey French cafés in your future. C'est parfait, non?
The one who you had come to know as Ethan spared a glance to Mark, the ravenette, and they shared a knowing nod. A mutual agreement formed. “You know,” Mark started out, “I have a spare room at my place. If you want, you can stay until you get back on your feet again and-”
“No, no, no, no. Thank you very much for the offer but, that's too much. Really, just talking with you two has been helpful enough.”
“Think of it as a really personable and private hotel-”
“With the sweetest golden dog ever!” Ethan made sure to point out, Mark nodding along with the same enthusiasm.
You sighed and bit your cheek, you felt like you'd be imposing yet… It would be a lot better than not knowing where you would sleep each night. And who could resist an offer that involved the chance of meeting a new dog? You were still hesitant all the same and you had a few questions, but if the opportunity was possibly a timed one, you didn't want to miss it. “I… If it really is okay, then I guess it would be alright- but only until I get the money for an apartment! I can also pay rent, clean, cook, or… well, okay, I can't cook. I burn everything, but I can do the other two things!” You adamantly assured, determined to give back if you were to take their offer.
A tan hand was held out to you and a soft laugh rumbles out of the ravenette’s chest, “It's a deal then.”
You smiled and soon found a light laugh leaving your lungs too, you shook his hand and glanced between the two lads, “Yeah… It is. Thank you, really. I don't know if I can ever show how grateful I am for this but I'll try.”
Ethan placed a reassuring hand on your shoulder and his beaming smile greeted you, sending a bolt of joy through your heart as you finally felt like the last of the storm clouds had run their course and all that was left was a peaceful silence as the sun showed itself again. He gave your shoulder a gentle squeeze and brought you out of your trance with his kind words, “Don't worry about that for now, instead, just let us help you the best we can, okay?”
They say there's a certain tranquility when a storm finally ends it fit; how the calming stillness would bring comfort to those who endured its tyranny. The precious melody of the birds returning alongside the sun: a fresh start born from disaster.
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Arplis - News: Your Comprehensive Guide to Online Dating Slang
Internet Dating Slang Terms You Need to Know in 2020
Though we're still meeting in bars and going to see movies together, dating today would be largely unrecognizable to people 10 years ago; changes in how we find our dates, how we treat them and how we describe ourselves to them have radically altered the dating landscape.
To many, modern dating can seem like a minefield of technical jargon; the phrase "My poly pansexual situationship ghosted me so I'm breadcrumbing this snack I had a half-night stand with last year, will you be my emergency call if he wants to Netflix & chill?" will be clear as day to some and unintelligible to others.
RELATED:All the Sex Slang You Need to Know
If you find yourself in the latter category, this gigantic glossary of 61dating terms is for you.
AROMANTIC
Identity / Celibacy
Pronunciation: ay-ro-MAN-tick
Aromanticism is pretty rare, but it is real: A certain portion of the population does not experience the feelings of romantic love that seem to come naturally for so many of us. While that might seem like either a blessing or a curse, depending on your take on love, perhaps the most significant hurdle for aromantic people is simply feeling left out and misunderstood by a culture for whom dating, love and marriage are not only the norm, but the de facto expectation for all.
Etymology: The "a-" prefix roughly translates to "without;" "romantic," here, means capable of having feelings of romantic love
"I don't know what's wrong with me. I just can't... fall in love." "You're not broken maybe you're just aromantic!"
ASEXUAL
aka Ace
Identity / Sexuality
Pronunciation: ay-SEK-shoo-UL
Being asexual doesn't specify whom you're attracted to, unlike other terms on this list. It specifies you don't experience sexual attraction. But this doesn't mean you can't have sex only that you don't feel the need in the same way. Dating an ace person? Expect to check in regularly with them re: their desires and boundaries just as you would when dating anybody else.
Etymology: Knowing that "a-" means "without," I'm sure I don't need to tell you what "sexual" means.
"Patrick, are you dating Scott? I thought he was asexual, not gay." "Scott's asexual and likes boys! It ain't mutually exclusive."
BENCHING
Graeme Adams
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: BENCH-ing
Benching is when you're not into someone enough to commit to officially dating them, but you don't want them to move on and find someone else either, so you string them along juuuust enough to keep them waiting on the sidelines for you.
Etymology: You know when you're on a sports team but not actually playing, just waiting on the bench until the coach needs you? Yeah, it's the dating version of that.
"Rachel only ever seems to text me after I've given up on hearing from her. She's definitely benching me."
BIG DICK ENERGY
Dating / Identity
Pronunciation: BIG dick EH-nur-JEE
Big dick energy, or BDE, is something only a small amount of people possess. Its the quality of having supreme confidence without needing to be loud or controlling, a quiet understanding of who you are and what you bring to the table that doesnt require backtalk, bragging, or B.S. In short, someone with big dick energy is incredibly hot, and more guys should try to emulate that. The truth is, you can have BDE no matter what your penis size is as long as youre comfortable with who you are.
Etymology: The phrase was coined by Twitter user @imbobswaget in a tweet mourning the June 2018 death of TV personality and chef Anthony Bourdain. It implies that a person (or thing) exudes the confidence that must come with having a large penis and Bourdain's kindness, charm and humble swagger were just that.
Damn, look at that guy over there. Hes totally exuding big dick energy.
BISEXUAL
Identity / Sexuality
Pronunciation: by-SEK-shoo-ULL
Bisexual persons are attracted to two genders. In the nineties, we'd have said "bisexual persons are into men and women", but we know a little more about sex and gender than we used to. Swinging both ways, flexible, cross-platform compatible, or rooting for both teams, a bisexual person can enjoy sex with or fall in love with the same gender as themselves, or a different gender from themselves. Bi people might prefer dating one gender and sleeping with another, but we still call 'em bi.
Etymology: A bisexual person is like a bicycle; both share the prefix bi, which means two.
"Mike, why do you call yourself bisexual? You've only ever dated women." "That's true, but I just haven't met a guy I wanted to call my boyfriend yet."
BREADCRUMBING
Graeme Adams
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: BREAD-crum-ing
Breadcrumbing is when you send flirty but non-committal messages to a person when you're not really interested in dating them but don't have the guts to break things off with them completely. The breadcrumbee is strung along for the sake of sparing the breadcrumber a confrontation.
Etymology: Think of the phenomenon of getting a small creature to follow you by laying a trail of breadcrumbs here, and you've got the right idea.
"Rene replies to every second or third message I send her but never wants to meet IRL. I think she's breadcrumbing me."
CASUAL RELATIONSHIP
Dating / Type
Pronunciation: KAZH-oo-ull ruh-LAY-shun-ship
Somewhere in between f*ckbuddies and going steady is the casual relationship, in which two people typically hang out regularly and have sex but don't partake in the hallmarks of a serious relationship, like exclusivity, ongoing commitment and spending time with each other's friends and family.
Etymology: This one's pretty straightforward in meaning: it's a romantic relationship that's not too serious or committed.
"I have a friends with benefits type thing going on with Emily, you know? It's a casual relationship."
CATFISHING
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: KAT-fish-ing
Catfishing is one of those dating terms that has legitimately made its way into the mainstream, thanks to the TV show and movie of the same name. Messaging with someone who's pretending to be someone else? You're being catfished! These setups tend to end badly. But until then, move your conversation with your crush to the phone/IRL/video chat of some sort as soon as you can muster. If they're resistant, they might be catfishing you.
Etymology: The term gained popularity after the release of the 2010 documentary on the then-burgeoning phenomenon, Catfish, but the real reason for the name is harder to come by.
"She always has a different excuse not to meet up with me." "Sounds you're being catfished..."
CISGENDER
aka Cis
Identity / Sexuality
Pronunciation: siss-JENN-der
Cisgender is a term for people who aren't transgender, or whose assigned gender lines up with their actual gender. But isn't that 'normal', you might ask? Actually, it isn't, it's just more common: variations in sex and sexuality are perfectly normal and occur frequently in nature (gender is a little more complicated, as we don't have a theory of mind that encompasses gender for nonhuman animals). While cisgender persons may outnumber transgender persons, it isn't a default setting; it's one of many.
Etymology: From cis-, meaning literally 'on this side of' in mathematics and organic chemistry.
"So what's the opposite of trans, then? Normal?" "Well, no, it's not that simple. But the term you're looking for is 'cis'."
CUFFING SEASON
Dating / Type
Pronunciation: KUFF-ing SEE-zun
Cuffing season is the period between early fall and late winter when everyone starts to shack up with the nearest half-decent single person to ward off loneliness and cold during the cooler months. Cuffing season typically implied a short term, mutually beneficial arrangement that's strictly seasonal, and it ends as soon as the leaves start turning green again. The term is African American Vernacular English (AAVE) and has been around at least since the early 2010s.
Etymology: Cuffing, as in "handcuffing", because you're chaining yourself to someone else at least until winter's over.
"Starbucks just brought back the pumpkin spice latte, it must be cuffing season!"
CURVE
Dating / Trend
Pronunciation: KURV
Getting curved is being rejected, shot down, turned aside, said no to, dissed and dismissed. Yes, it sucks. When you get curved you need to take a moment to properly absorb all of the "no" that just hit you. But there's also something beautiful to a well-done curve; it's a memento to a failure, big and small, that you can carry around with you and use to prop up or tear down narratives about your dateability.
Etymology: A curve is often subtler than a flat-out no (think: Your text gets "Seen" but not responded to), so even if it hurts the same, it carries a name that implies a redirection rather than an outright rejection.
"I tried to ask out this babe at the bar last night and she curved me harder than I've ever been curved in my life."
CUSHIONING
Graeme Adams
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: KUSH-on-ing
As above, cushioning is the process of staying in contact with one or more romantic prospects as a backup in case things don't go smoothly with your main squeeze. The "cushions" are usually kept on the periphery, eg. texting rather than full blown cheating.
Etymology: Cushioning, as in, keeping a person or several people around to "cushion" the blow if your main relationship doesn't work out.
"I do really like Priya, but I'm still texting Sian just in case. Yeah, I guess I'm cushioning."
DADDY
Dating / Identity
Pronunciation: DAH-dee
Over the past few years, daddy culture has risen to become pretty mainstream. These days, its normal for teens and assorted millennials to use the word daddy in either a sexual or sex-adjacent context. You might call your partner daddy in bed, or you might acknowledge a hot older mans daddy vibes because of his muscles, body hair, facial hair, and personal wealth. Either way, yes, its low-key incestuous, but the people have spoken.
Etymology: From the word daddy, meaning father.
She keeps on texting me, choke me daddy. What the hell does that mean?
DEMISEXUAL
Identity / Sexuality
Pronunciation: DEH-mee-SEK-shoo-ULL
A demisexual is a person whose sex drive is tied not to an immediate visual or physical attraction but to people's personalities once they've gotten to know them. As a result, demisexuals are poor candidates for one-night stands and casual relationships which may make them feel a bit alienated in our current dating climate. But they're no more or less capable of deep, loving relationships as the rest of us, so if you're prepared to take things slow sexually, demisexuals can make for great partners, too.
Etymology: Demi means half, or part positioning demisexuals between asexuals and people who do typically experience sexual desire.
"At first I thought I was asexual, but then I realized I can have sexual desire for people... just not until I really know them!" "Sounds like you might be demisexual."
DM SLIDE
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: DEE-em slide
A DM slide is when you direct message your crush using the private messaging functions available on all of the major social media networks, eg. Twitter and Instagram. You usually need to be mutuals first ie. follow each other to avoid your message ending up in an "other" folder, and DM sliding tends to occur after some public interaction, eg. liking each other's pics or @ replying.
Etymology: DM stands for "direct messages", and "sliding" is the process of entering someone's direct messages to flirt with them.
"Brandy just posted a selfie and she's looking hot AF! I'm about to slide in the DMs."
DTR CONVERSATION
aka DTR, DTR Convo
Dating / Trend
Pronunciation: dee-tee-ARE con-ver-SAY-shun
A DTR conversation is a pivotal moment in a relationship: It's the moment you discuss what you are. Are you a for-real couple, or just friends with benefits, or a situationship? Timing is huge, here. Have your DTR too early and you risk scaring the other person away; too late and you might discover they've been casually dating around the whole time, assuming it wasn't serious.
Etymology: There's no great mystery here DTR simply stands for "define the relationship."
"It's been six months and I just don't know what we are yet?" "Well have you had a DTR convo with him?
EGGPLANT EMOJI
Dating / Trend
Pronunciation: EGG-plant ee-MO-ji
There are other sex emojis the peach (a luscious butt) and the water drops (either wetness or ejaculate, depending on your tastes), notably but the eggplant emoji is doubtless the most suggestive. Why? Well, peach and water drops are actually used in other contexts. But when was the last time you needed to use a damn eggplant emoji to signify eggplant?
Etymology: People just noticed that the eggplant emoji was phallic-looking. The rest is history.
"Wow, did you see that bulge? Man, I'd love to see his eggplant emoji, if you know what I mean."
EMERGENCY CALL
Dating / Trend
Pronunciation: eh-MUR-jun-see KOL
An emergency call is a fakeout that allows you to politely get out of a particularly bad date. If you can tell the night's going to be a trainwreck from the earliest moments (and you often can) but you're genuinely afraid of insulting the stranger you're sitting across from, a fake emergency call from a friend saying "Your brother's in the hospital" or "Your cat just died" early on in the evening can be a real lifesaver.
"Oh, God, thanks for agreeing to be my emergency call last night. What a nightmare date that was."
FIREDOORING
Dating / Trend
Pronunciation: FIE-er DOH-ring
This is the dating version of the one-way fire door on rare occasions, someone will come out of their shell to contact you, but won't respond if you attempt to get in touch. It's a setup that only works in deeply unequal situations if you're getting firedoored, you're constantly feeling frustrated and only occasionally satisfied. If this is happening to you, get out and close the door behind you. There are tons of people out there who won't do this to you!
Etymology: A fire door is a one-way door it allows you to exit (on rare occasions) but never allows anyone to enter.
"She never responds to my messages, but texts me 'u up' at 1 a.m.? What's the deal?" "Sounds like you're getting firedoored, bud."
FRECKLING
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: FRECK-uh-ling
Just as cooler temperatures bring out cuffing season and associated coupling up, warmer temperatures change peoples dating behaviors. If someone only seems interested in you during the warmer months, it might be a case of freckling. Maybe they got out of a relationship of sorts during the spring and now that its summertime, youre on their hookup roster. Unfortunately, theyre not looking for anything serious or permanent just like freckles, theyll disappear come fall.
Etymology: From freckles, small patches of facial skin that darken during the summer for some people with pale skin.
"Its been three weeks since school started and I havent heard anything I think she was just freckling me."
FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS
aka FWB
Identity / Dating
Pronunciation: FRENDS with BEN-eh-fits
Friends with benefits is the relatively classy way of saying you know someone and care about them and are regularly engaging in sexual acts with them, but not within the context of a relationship. It implies a certain looseness of arrangement. You probably don't see each other as often as a real couple; don't tell each other all the details of your lives; don't put each other down on emergency contact forms (or mention each other on social media profiles). That doesn't mean you're cold, unfeeling robots; it just means a relationship isn't exactly what you want.
"So what are we? Is this a relationship? Or are we just friends?" "I think we're friends... with benefits."
F*CKBUDDIES
aka F*ckfriends
Identity / Dating
Pronunciation: FUK-buh-deez
Isn't that... basically friends with benefits? Yes, arguably, they're pretty similar. At the same time, though, the use of the F-word in one of the terms (compared to the very euphemistic "benefits" denotes a very different sexual ethos. One is classy, old world, and stuffy; the other is crass, lewd and very present. So, arguably, one is for the type of people who are ashamed of such a sexual arrangement, and one is for people who aren't. Or maybe how you describe your setup depends more on who's asking. Whatever works!
Etymology: F*ck means sex... buddies means friends... should be pretty straightforward.
"I met this great girl. We've been seeing each other a lot... just for sex, though, no dates. We're f*ckbuddies."
GAY
Identity / Sexuality
Pronunciation: GAY
This term is one of the more flexible on the list, but, generally speaking, someone who identifies as gay is exclusively attracted to, or exclusively dates, or exclusively has sex with, people who are the same gender as themselves but it's a term that's been reclaimed by many across the spectrum of sexuality so if you see a queer woman proclaim she's gay despite dating men too, it's not necessarily the contradiction you think it is.
"Carol, would you like to grab coffee with me this weekend?" "Sure, Jim, but as friends. You do know I'm gay, right?"
GENDERFLUID
Identity / Gender
Pronunciation: JEN-der-FLOO-id
Can be applied to people who feel outside the gender binary, or it can be applied to persons who feel that their gender isn't fixed, but variable changing from day to day. Unlike nonbinary persons, a genderfluid person might identify as male and female, on different days, whereas a nonbinary person will usually identify as neither male nor female. Someone's gender identity has nothing to do with whom they're attracted to, or what they look like on the outside, or what physical sex they were born as. Gender is a mental conception of the self, so a genderfluid person can present as any gender or appearance, based on how that term feels for them.
Etymology: Gender, as in, your gender. Fluid, as in flowing, non-stable, movable, changeable.
"Hey, could you ask Scout if I could have her number? I need to ask her about this chem assignment." "Hey, buddy, I'll definitely ask for you, but you should know that Scout's not a 'she' they're genderfluid."
GHOSTING
Graeme Adams
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: GO-sting
Ghosting is when you disappear out of someone's life because you're no longer interested in them, instead of telling them directly. It's more abrupt than breadcrumbing: the ghoster will suddenly stop replying to texts and won't answer calls, and the ghostee is usually left hurt and confused.
Etymology: You know the disappearing act ghosts are known for? That, but it's your crush instead of a poltergeist.
"I'm not really feeling Melissa anymore, but she's really into me. I think I'm just gonna ghost her."
HALF-NIGHT STAND
Dating / Type
Pronunciation: HAFF nite STAND
The traditional one-night stand involves meeting a sexually-attractive stranger and taking them home for a night of unattached sex: they leave in the morning and you don't see them again. Well, the half-night stand cuts out the staying over part: the late night guest leaves straight after the sex is over.
Etymology: A half-night stand is 50 per cent of a one-night stand get it?
"Joe was lazy in bed and wouldn't give me head, so I got out of there as soon as he fell asleep. I guess I've had a half-night stand now!"
HAUNTING
aka Zombieing
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: HAWN-ting
Haunting occurs when you think you have finished things with a date that didn't work out or even a serious relationship but then you notice signs that your ex is lurking your social media feeds, eg. they randomly like old Instagram pics or watch your daily stories. Often the notifications are a deliberate attempt to remind you that they exist.
Etymology: This is another supernatural dating metaphor but the meaning is almost the opposite of ghosting: in this case the offender lingers around rather than disappearing.
"Guess who watched my Instagram story today, of all people!? John! He's haunting me, and it's really creepy."
INCEL
aka Virgin
Identity / Celibacy
Pronunciation: IN-sell
Incel is a term that became popular on Reddit to describe men who can't get laid. The term, as a descriptor, is doubly demeaning. Not only is no one attracted to incels, but they also have a stupid name to describe them. Most incel problems could be sorted out by putting in minimal effort into looking better and having more positive interactions with women, but that's none of our business. Incel's slightly less embarrassing cousin is volcel the voluntarily celibate.
Etymology: Incel is a portmanteau of the phrase "involuntarily celibate" someone who's sexually inactive but wishes they could be.
"Ugh, I haven't had sex in almost three years. I'm such an incel."
KITTENFISHING
Graeme Adams
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: KIT-in-FISH-ing
Coined by dating app Hinge, Kittenfishing is when you portray yourself in an unrealistically positive light in your online dating profiles. We all do this to some extent, but kittenfishing crosses the border into dishonest territory: think photoshopped or very outdated profile pics, or listing "lawyer" as your occupation when you're really a first year law student.
Etymology: You already know about catfishing, when a person pretends to be someone they're not online. Well, kittenfishing is the lite version of that.
"Remember that girl I was messaging on Tinder? Well, we met IRL, and she was definitely kittenfishing."
LEFT ON READ
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: LEFT awn RED or LEFT awn REED
You send a text to your crush and wait for their reply, giddy with excitement. Maybe youre asking them out on a date, or maybe youre just trying to start a conversation. Regardless, rather than a reply, you simply get a read receipt. Read at 2:39 p.m. Then nothing. If youre watching the convo like a hawk, you might get the indignity of seeing them start to type a reply and then give up. Its a demoralizing feeling to be left on read. Its also a good reason not to use read receipts.
Etymology: From the phrase read receipt, a notification visible in a chat or text window when a person has seen a message but not responded.
"Is he still leaving you on read? You need to get over him ASAP."
LOCKERING
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: LAH-ker-ing
If youve ever experienced someone ditching you by claiming theyre studying when in fact theyre just not interested, what you felt was lockering. For high-school sweethearts starting college at separate schools, this could be a prelude to a Thanksgiving breakup, better known as a turkey dump. Since the main feature of lockering is the claim that nothings wrong, theyre just focusing on their studies, it could occur at any point during your time in school.
Etymology: From the word locker, a small, typically locked space for your personal belongings in a large public building such as a school.
"How come youre always studying and you never have time to catch up? Are you lockering me?"
LGBTQ
Identity / Sexuality
Pronunciation: ELL-jee-bee-tee-CUE
LGBTQ stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (or questioning), and its an acronym that's used to include the whole of a bunch of different communities of people whose sexualities or gender identities place them outside of the mainstream both historically and today. Some incarnations of the term include groups like intersex people, asexuals; and often the final Q is omitted in popular discourse. Nevertheless, it's a useful term when you're trying to refer to several, often intersecting groups of people at once.
"I love all my LGBTQ friends!"
LOVE BOMBING
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: LUV BOM-ing
Love bombing is when a new partner shows extreme amounts of affection early on and expends serious energy in a deliberate attempt to woo you. However, once you've committed to a relationship with them, the love bomber will withdraw all that affection and let their true, ugly colors shine through, leaving you stuck in a nightmare relationship. This one's really not cute: love bombing is manipulative and abusive.
Etymology: Like its literal counterpart, a love bomb is awesome and spectacular at first, but ultimately very destructive.
"Graeme was so sweet at first, but now he's manipulative and jealous all the time. I guess he love bombed me."
MICROCHEATING
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: MY-cro-CHEA-ting
Microcheating is a form of infidelity that stops short of the full-blown, overt cheating that occurs when a person sleeps with someone else behind their partner's back, but is low-level, cumulative dishonesty and infidelity that is intolerable in a committed relationship. Think heavy flirting, tonnes of secrecy, furtive kissy-face emojis and emotional affairs.
Etymology: If you think of cheating behaviors as existing on a scale, these ones are on the more minor end.
"I've never caught Imogen sleeping with anyone else, but she's constantly flirting with other guys and texts everyone except me. In my opinion, she's microcheating."
NETFLIX AND CHILL
Graeme Adams
Dating / Trend
Pronunciation: NET-flicks and CHILL
In its original inception, "Netflix and chill" was a euphemism for a stay-at-home date that led to sex pretty quickly. The idea being: You invite your crush over under the premise of "just watching some Netflix and chilling" and then either abandon the movie pretty early or perhaps never even get to it, as hooking up becomes the main attraction.
"How'd it go?" "Well, I invited him over for a little Netflix and chill... you can guess what happened next."
NON-BINARY
Identity / Gender
Pronunciation: non-BYE-nuh-ree
A non-binary person isn't cisgender, they are transgender. But not all transgender persons identify as the 'opposite' gender they were born as; in fact, many reject the idea that there are 'opposite' genders at all. A non-binary person may identify as neither male or female, or both male and female, or as a traditional gender to their culture (such as two-spirited or third gender). It's polite to use 'they' as a default pronoun until instructed otherwise if you're unsure about someone's gender. Never assume!
Etymology: The prefix non- is modifying the noun 'binary', nullifying the idea that gender exists as only two options.
"I thought Padraic was trans? Why doesn't Padraic want to be referred to as 'she'?" "Padraic is trans, but they're nonbinary, not femme!"
OPEN RELATIONSHIP
Dating / Type
Pronunciation: OH-pin ruh-LAY-shun-ship
An open relationship is a committed, romantic relationship that contains an arrangement where both parties can sleep with other people. It's not cheating, because both parties are honest with each other and have the same freedom to engage in sex with other people. Open relationships often contain specific rules and boundaries, just like monogamous relationships, but "no sex with anyone else, ever!" isn't one of them.
Etymology: The opposite of a traditional, "closed" relationship, an open relationship relaxes the rules on monogamy.
"I love Max, but I think we'd both benefit from a bit more sexual freedom. I'm thinking of asking him for an open relationship."
ORBITING
Dating / Move
Pronunciation:OR-bih-ting
Unlike with ghosting or zombieing (a term you'll find if you keep scrolling), theres no text, call or other form of communication that initiates anything. In this case, you'll see a notification, get your hopes up, but find they never actually reach out.Just rememeber: if someone really wants to date you, theyd probably make more of an effort than tapping on a like button.
Etymology: Just as the planets revolve around the sun with no direct interaction, this person checks all your social media accounts without ever saying a word.
"Hmm ... watches my Instagram story, likes my photos, reads my DMs, but doesn't respond. Yep, I'm being orbited."
PANSEXUAL
Graeme Adams
Identity / Sexuality
Pronunciation: pan-SEK-shoo-ull
Some people, for whatever reason believe that the term bisexual doesn't apply to them. Maybe they're a woman who's attracted to women, men, and nonbinary people. Or maybe they feel like their sexuality is too fluid for a simpler label. Some people have adopted pansexual because it doesn't reinforce the gender binary through its name.
Etymology: Pan-, meaning all; someone who is attracted to all persons and genders.
"So are you still bisexual?" "Well, ever since my partner transitioned I feel like the word 'pansexual' suits me better, you know?"
PHUBBING
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: FUH-bing
Ever been hanging out with a date or significant other only to notice theyre paying too much attention to their phone? Thats a case of phubbing. Its a pretty ugly word, but honestly, its a pretty ugly act. With people using technology to stay in constant connection to their friends and followers, it can be easy to forget about the person right in front of you. A consistent phubber is sending a message, intentionally or otherwise, that youre simply not the top priority, their phone is.
Etymology: A combination of phone and snubbing.
"Man, every time me and Mark hang out, hes always on Instagram when Im talking to him. I feel so phubbed."
PIE HUNTING
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: PIE HUNT-ing
As you can probably deduce, pie hunting is an unsavory dating phenomenon in which a person (the "hunter") deliberately dates "pies", or heartbroken, vulnerable people with messy dating histories, who are perceived to be easier and lower-maintenance.
Etymology: A "pie" is a person with a disastrous dating history familiar with rejection and heartbreak. It comes from "pied off", British slang for being stood up or dumped.
"Dave only ever dates divorcees. He's a real pie-hunter."
POLYAMOROUS
aka Poly
Identity / Dating
Pronunciation: paw-lee-AM-oh-riss
In its various forms, polyamory has been a part of human culture for millennia, particularly in the form of polygamous marriages, but it's enjoying a resurgence in modern dating culture as millennials (children of divorce faced with untold levels of choice) break with monogamous tradition and begin exploring their options. It's not a free-for-all there are still rules, and cheating does exist but consensually dating (and loving) multiple people at once could represent the future of dating.
Etymology: Polyamorous comes from the Greek poly (many) and amor (love), meaning many loves.
"To be honest, Camille and I are thinking of experimenting with being polyamorous."
QUEER
Identity / Sexuality
Pronunciation: KWEER
The word has been reclaimed by those communities as a positive term. 'Queer' is often treated as the 'umbrella' term under which gay men, pansexual non-binary persons, and people experimenting with their sexuality can come together under. It's a term of solidarity to foster community between sexuality-and-gender-diverse persons. Queer is one of the more amorphous terms on this list, and is used by queer persons to describe themselves. So what does it mean? Basically, 'not straight', in any flavor you like, and usually with a slightly more radical edge.
Etymology: Originally meaning 'strange', 'queer' was used for years as a slur against non-normative sexualities.
"Not gay as in happy, but queer as in 'screw off.'"
REDPILL
Identity / Celibacy
Pronunciation: RED-pill
If you decide, once and for all, that women are bad and society is set up in such a way to privilege them over men at every turn, you're completely off your rocker but you've also had a redpill moment. You'll probably want to head to Reddit and swap stories with other incels and MGTOWs about how women are ruining your lives.
Etymology: Redpilling is named for the scene in The Matrix when Morpheus offers Neo the choice between taking a red pill and a blue pill with the red one representing the horrifying truth and the blue, blissful ignorance.
"Yeah, my brother totally got redpilled in his first year at college. Yikes."
ROACHING
Graeme Adams
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: ROW-ching
Roaching is a new dating trend where people hide the fact that they're dating around from a new partner and, when confronted, claim to have simply been under the assumption that there was no implication of monogamy to begin with. In today's more poly-friendly dating culture, this is a slick tactic to shift the blame to the person confronting them, but the truth is it's both parties' responsibility to be at least baseline open about seeing other people if that's the case. Roaching, as a result, deeply messed up.
Etymology: Roaching refers to the adage that if you see one cockroach, there are a ton more that you don't see just like this person's sneaky side-dealings.
"So it turned out he'd been seeing like, six other girls the whole time!" "Damn, Tina. You got roached."
SAPIOSEXUAL
Identity / Dating
Pronunciation: SAY-pee-oh-SEK-shoo-ull
Perhaps most infamous for the time Tinder CEO Sean Rad confused it with the word "sodomy," sapiosexual is a word that's gained increasing currency in recent years. Meaning someone who's turned on by a person's mind rather than physical appearance, it's a neat marriage of style and substance, as only huge nerds would dare self-identify as sapiosexuals. Not to be confused with any of the other sexualities, this isn't a clinical definition of an innate quality, merely a descriptor meant to state a preference.
Etymology: The "sapio" part comes from the Latin word "sapiens," which means "mind."
"What really entices me about a woman... is her mind. Yes, you could call me a sapiosexual."
SEVERAL-NIGHT STAND
Sex / Trend
Pronunciation: SEV-rull NITE STAND
If the one-night stand was a product of the 20th century's loosening sexual mores, the several-night stand is a distinctly 21st-century invention. For people who care about someone else enough to sleep with them multiple times but not enough to take it past that, it's an arrangement that necessitates the hyper-connectedness and smorgasbrd of choice that our phones now offer us. Your drunken hookup is just a text away; but exclusivity seems foolish when your next drunken hookup might also be just a text away.
"Well, we kept on texting each other 'u up' every evening and it basically turned into a several-night stand."
SEX INTERVIEW
Sex / Trend
Pronunciation: SECKS INN-tur-vyou
Have you ever had sex with someone before going on a real date with them? Then you've engaged in a sex interview, my friend! Sex researchers (yes, that's a real job) coined the term in 2015 to describe the practice, which is increasingly popular among millennials who are less shy about sex and more interested in weeding out incompatible lovers than so-so conversationalists. If you have high standards for sex, it makes a lot of sense the possibility of developing real intimacy and chemistry with someone only to discover you're nothing alike in bed is a real turn-off of its own.
"So what's the deal with you and Brandon? Is that happening?" "Nah. He's still messaging me, but to be honest, he failed his sex interview."
SITUATIONSHIP
Dating / Type
Pronunciation: SIT-chew-AY-shun-ship
In use on Black Twitter since at least 2014, a "situationship" is Facebook's "It's Complicated" relationship status come to life. Similar to a casual relationship, a situationship is a sexual relationship that stops short of constituting a serious relationship, but it's not nothing either.
Etymology: It's not a friendship, or a relationship, but something in between: it's a situationship.
"So what's the deal with you and Molly now? Are you together?" "I don't know, man. It's a situationship."
SLOW FADE
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: SLOW fade
The slow fade is the process of ending a lackluster relationship or fling by gradually reducing contact and response times. Like a smoother version of breadcrumbing, the person doing the fading will taper off contact, like gradually turning down the volume on a song and starting a new one without anyone noticing.
Etymology: Similar to breadcrumbing, the slow fade is letting someone down gently without actually saying so.
"I want to end things with Lee, but I can't stand the idea of hurting him. I think I'm gonna do the slow fade."
SNACK
Identity / Dating
Pronunciation: SNAK
A snack is a babe, a honey, a stunner, a smokeshow, a jaw-dropping vision. A snack inspires DM slides and thirsty texts. A snack is a powerful force in the universe whose mere presence can cause those in proximity to them to lose their minds entirely. In short, a snack is someone so attractive, you almost want to eat them right up. Of course, some snacks are SO attractive, you have to call them a full meal. Because let's be real, Beyonc is more than a handful of tortilla chips.
"God damn, did you see that babe who just walked by?" "Yeah, man, that girl was a snack!"
STASHING
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: STA-shing
"Stashing" is when a person won't introduce the person they're seeing to anyone in their lives, and doesn't mention their existence on social media. The "stashed" partner is kept hidden from view and stashing is a classic move of the commitment-averse.
Etymology: Stashing a partner is hiding them away from public view, like a squirrel stashing nuts in a tree.
"Maria won't introduce me to any of her friends or family. I think I'm being stashed."
STEALTHING
Sex / Trend
Pronunciation: STELL-thing
With all the cute names, it's easy to forget sometimes that not all dating trends are created equal. Take stealthing, for example, which is just a form of sexual assault. Named for when guys surreptitiously remove a condom mid-sexual act, enabling them to finish the deed unprotected, stealthing is a horrifying reminder that consent and sexual health education are woefully lacking in modern society.
Etymology:Stealthing is necessarily a sneaky move, since it involvesremoving the condom and keeping it a secret.
"When we started, he was wearing a condom, but halfway through I realized he wasn't!" "Oh my God, he stealthed you?
STRAIGHT
Identity / Sexuality
Pronunciation: STRATE
Straight persons are attracted to, date, or have sex with only members of the 'opposite' gender. Some people might have crushes on the same gender as themselves, but never follow through, and still identify as straight. Sexuality is wild, man!
Etymology: Straight means heterosexual, mostly.
"I'm flattered you'd think to ask me out, Zander, but I'm straight."
SUBMARINING
Graeme Adams
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: sub-muh-REE-ning
Did you just get haunted, or zombied, but it felt even worse than usual? Maybe you were submarined! Submarining is when your old flame pops back up in your life after a lengthy period of silence, but rather than copping to the disappearance, simply acts as if dipping without warning is normal behavior. This person knows they have you wrapped around their finger, so why put in the effort to apologize or explain? They don't need to! If you're getting submarined, pro tip: Get out of there before the whole thing sinks.
Etymology: Submarines go underwater... and the occasionally pop back up to the surface! That's normal behavior for them.
"So after disappearing for two months, she just pops right back up!" "Damn... she submarined you!
SUMMER FLING
Dating / Type
Pronunciation: SUM-mer FLING
The counterpart to cuffing season, summer flings are casual relationships that end once the leaves start to turn brown again. Summer flings often start on vacations and end when the other person has to go home, and tend to be of the "short and sweet" variety.
Etymology: This one's not rocket science: a summer fling is a short, informal relationship over the warmer months.
"I had such a good time with Nicole in Cabo but it was definitely just a summer fling."
SWINGER
Identity / Dating
Pronunciation: SWING-ur
The de facto term for consensually sleeping with someone outside of your marriage while your partner does the same, swinging has lost some cultural currency in recent years as millennials opt for the "poly" lifestyle instead. Still, swinging is alive and well for Gen Xers taking advantage of increasingly liberal sexual mores as society shifts slowly away from the restrictive confines of absolute monogamy and towards something a little bit more flexible.
Etymology: Swingers are people who 'swing' from one sexual partnership (their spouse) to another.
"Yeah, this married couple asked us if we wanted to come to a swingers party with them."'
SWIPING
Dating / Trend
Pronunciation: SWHY-ping
Swiping, swiping, swiping. For some singles, it might be difficult to conceive of any other way, but it's worth remembering that swiping didn't even really exist before 2012. Unless you've been living under a rock (and if so: congratulations, you lucky duck), you'll know that swiping is the physical interaction you have with your phone (a single finger moves intentionally across a thin piece of glass covering an electronic brain) when deciding whether you're attracted to someone's profile picture or not. From Tinder it spread to Bumble and a few thousand copycat apps. It'll be replaced eventually, but until then, swiping is how we as a culture perform love or at least our aspirations thereto.
"No plans tonight... I'm just going to stay home, re-download Tinder and swipe myself silly."
TEXTLATIONSHIP
Dating / Trend
Pronunciation: text-LAY-shun-ship
A textlationship is a flirtatious connection between two people that works on paper but never seems to manifest itself in practice. For whatever reason, the chemistry between two people is just better over texts. It could mean one of the two is playing the other just for the attention, rather than both parties being shy or awkward. Regardless, if the passion is there in the texts but never translates to the streets or the sheets, its a textlationship.
Etymology: A combination of text and relationship.
"Shes always texting me but never wants to actually go on a date or hook up. Honestly, we might just be in a textlationship."
THIRST TRAP
Dating / Trend
Pronunciation: THURST trap
In the natural world, spiders have webs, and millennials have thirst traps. They're intentionally sexually provocative pictures posted on social media in order to ensnare hapless scrollers-by. Often, such pictures will draw way more likes than their typical posts, as thirsty people rush to offer their likes as sacrifices to an uncaring god. These can be a great ego boost for the thirst trapper, but the high tends not to last. Then you're back on the timeline, thirst trapping again for your next fix.
Etymology: Thirst is desire, sexual or romantic, that tends to be unreturned; a trap is how you catch unsuspecting victims.
"Damn, did you see Sheila's selfie last night? That outfit was wild!" "Yep, that was a real thirst trap."
THRONING
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: thr-OWN-ing
Throning is essentially another form of gold digging that extends beyond wealth. It involves someone using another person for their power and social status, and it's most common when one person in the relationship has significantly less money or influence than their counterpart.
Etymology: When you think of a throne, you think of a crown. That person doing the throning wants that crown.
"Every time we cross that rope, we get inside and suddenly it's like I'm not even there. I feel like I'm just being throned."
TINDSTAGRAMMING
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: TIND-stuh-gram-ming
Tindstagramming is the process of contacting someone through Instagram's direct messaging feature after you have seen them on Tinder but not become a match. It's an annoying and generally poorly-received way of bypassing a left-swipe, and women in particular get fatigued by the messages that pile up in their "Other" folder when they link their Instagram account to their Tinder profile.
Etymology: A mashup of "Tinder" and "Instagramming," Tindstagrammers try to make the most of both platforms.
"I have 10 new messages in my Other folder on Instagram! These Tindstagrammers won't leave me alone."
TRANSGENDER
Identity / Gender
Pronunciation: trans-JEN-der
At birth, (even before, if you've ever been to a gender reveal party), pretty much all of us are assigned a gender, whether by our doctor, our parents, or society. Transgender or trans persons are those whose actual gender is different from the one they were assigned. Some trans people undergo surgery or take hormones to have their sex characteristics better match their gender, but not everyone does! Transgender, or trans, like queer is often an umbrella for those with diverse genders.
Etymology: Trans-, meaning across or beyond, plus gender
"So I hear Paul's cousin is transgendered now." "Actually, she's just transgender no 'ed' necessary!"
TURKEY DUMP
Dating / Type
Pronunciation: TUR-key DUMP
Another seasonal relationship event, turkey dumping is common among college students, many of whom are in long distance relationships with people they knew in high school or from their home towns. The turkey dump happens after one person in the relationship returns back to college after Thanksgiving and realises it's too difficult to keep things going.
Etymology: So-named because it's a breakup that occurs after the Thanksgiving break.
"I had such a good time with Jake while he was home for Thanksgiving, but he broke up with me as soon as he got back to campus. I got turkey dumped."
UNCUFFING SEASON
Dating / Trend
Pronunciation: un-CUFF-ing SEE-sun
What sets cuffing season relationships apart from real relationships is the possibility that they came together at a specific time for a specific reason. You could link up with someone in the fall, because as it gets cold, you want something steady and dependable so you arent chasing a bunch of different people all winter. As a corollary, once those conditions fall away, it makes sense that the relationships would, too. The springtime can be considered uncuffing season because its the time for people to break things off with a semi-serious cuff and venture out into a sexy and flirtatious summer.
Etymology: A variant on cuffing season.
"Man, how many couples have broken up in the past few weeks? Is it uncuffing season already?"
VULTURING
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: vul-CHUR-ing
Vultures can sense when a relationship is on its last leg. Their moves are selfish, and typically, they're going to do whatever they deem necessary to get what they want: you. Sure, having a bit of hope that your longtime crush will split from their wretched partner and fall for you might not be considered vulturing per se, but taking advantage of. someone in an incredibly weak and vulnerable state? That's a whole other story.
Etymology: Just like a vulture circling its wounded prey, some people swoop in to pick up the pieces out when they sense a relationship is on its last leg.
"Stop vulturing, it's just a rough patch. They'll get through it!"
WATER DROPLETS EMOJI
Dating / Trend
Pronunciation: WAH-turr DROP-lits ee-MO-ji
After the eggplant emoji, the water droplets emoji might be the horniest one out there. One notable benefit is that its unisex. Depending on who you are and who youre messaging, the droplets could be semen, female lubrication/ejaculate, or a bit of the comparatively tame (and universal) sex sweat. Regardless, throwing a couple of these into a naughty text message is a good way to visually convey the activities to come if you will.
Etymology: Anyone whos ever made a mess with their sexual fluids will understand.
Cant wait for later tonight. Im gonna make you water droplets emoji all over the place.
ZOMBIEING
Dating / Move
Pronunciation: zom-BEE-ing
This is ghosting to. the next level. After losing touch with someone who you'd been talking or seeing, zombieing is when they make a triumphant return as if nothing ever happened.Your zombie may get in touch with you via DM, text or by seeking you out in person. Hearing from someone who totally dipped out on you can bring up some conflicting feelings, but if youre looking for a positive, the situation does have the potential to offer some clarity or closure.
Etymology:A zombie is an undead person coming back from the grave. Need we say more here?
3 months of radio silence after we texted every single day. I can't believe he's zombieing me ... should I answer?
All illustrations by Graeme Adams.
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Hey I always see you reblogging stuff about being trans and knowing if youre trans or not and I'm wondering if I'm usually fine with my agab but still have moments of discomfort and wishing I wasnt that gender but not knowing what else I'd be, does that still apply? I feel like you would have some good answers
Hi!
I’m really glad you’re opening up and thinking about your gender! I know it takes a lot of effort to get to where you are, and I’m really proud of you! What you’re describing sounds a lot like the very first steps of gender exploration, and it could lead to a lot of different things. You might realize that you’re cis but you want to change your presentation, or that you’re trans and binary (female/male) and these kinds of feelings were the tip of the iceberg to you realizing “oops not agab!” Another option is that you might be one of many flavors of nonbinary, which can range from being one gender all the time to lots of genders but only on some days to no gender at all. I can’t tell you what gender you are, because even if I looked inside your mind and felt every feeling you’ve ever had, you’d still be the only person who could make the final decision. That being said I will always be happy to help, and I’d like to tell you something I wish I’d been told when I was starting my journey.
Back when I was a freshman in college and learned more about trans people, I had a similar experience of hmm well I’m okay as my agab I guess but like that trans stuff is pretty cool and would have days of wouldn’t it be nice if I could just be trans and not my agab? Which, for a while I was convinced was the feeling of being my agab. Oops! Early on I stuck around some cis people who had very narrow views of trans identities, like that maybe I was trans but I could only be the “opposite” gender. They would always tell me I could be gender 1 or 2, and neither of those felt right, but it was too much stress so I gave up for a while and presented as my agab. After I ditched those friends and started taking advice from trans people, I learned that there were way more than two options and to be honest? This is my inner linguist jumping out but honey if you go through every gender label and you can’t find one that fits, make a new one. We use words to describe who we are and if you find that the languages you use have failed you, make some new words!
After a while I started identifying as non-binary in general, and would joke that my agab was only a part-time job. For some reason I felt like I was still my agab sometimes, but other days I was something completely different. Sometimes I didn’t feel like anything. Sometimes I felt like something I hadn’t heard a name for yet. But even without the words to describe it, I knew I felt that way. One of the coolest friends I’ve had to date listened to me scream about my gender problems for what I’m sure was on a daily basis, and would sit me down sometimes with some gender identities and say hey, is this you? Thanks to them I’ve been able to find words like Genderflux, which describes how I experience multiple genders and also sometimes no gender. Do I still experience my agab sometimes? Yeah, but to be honest as someone who experiences at least 4 genders, 2 of which are binary, the doctors had a pretty good chance of getting one right. Did the docs guess Genderflux and specify all of my fun genders? No. So, I can proudly say that I’m trans and nonbinary!
I’m not sure if this how you will go down your own path of gender exploration, but your ask had some strong and familiar nonbinary vibes to it, and it felt like might help. Also, I’d like to add that my gender exploration is very much centered around white concepts of gender, and that there are other culturally specific genders that might apply to you if you’re from that culture. If you find that your culture has a specific gender that applies to you, I won’t be able to help with that, but I still wish you the best of luck! I also suggest looking for trans/nonbinary support groups on Tumblr, and seeing if there are any groups that meet where you live (real-life trans connections have helped me in ways I never expected) to give you some in-person help. No matter where your journey takes you, feel free to keep in contact! Gender is tough and you’re doing amazing. 💖
#ask#anonymous#TRANS RIGHTS BABEYYY!!!!#longpost#you're doing amazing sweetie#sometimes exploring gender can seem messy#but usually that's because we've never bothered to open the door#the mess was always in there#you've just never looked#but now you're looking and trying to sort things out and clean your gender room up a little bit and that's so strong of you!!#also#some real special advice I have is to get a supportive group to fall back to#trying to understand transphobic posts and content will never help you feel more comfortable in your own gender I promise#there is absolutely nothing wrong with staying in a safe and supportive environment while you're working out your gender
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Contact focuses have experienced an ocean of changes in the course of recent decades. They are not negligible contact places for business partners, yet one of the biggest drivers of business in this day and age. No big surprise the IT foundation of a regular contact focus is frequently more tangled than the mind boggling electric hardware that folds over server farms. This innovation upset began in AT&T Bell Labs, the very organization that developed the vast majority of the communication innovation we see today. Both Prem Puthur (Founder, Chairman and CEO, Interlink Network Systems Inc.) and Sharath K Shetty (Co-Founder and MD, Telenetix (P) Ltd) worked at AT&T Bell Labs in the early piece of their vocation, and found the immense potential here.
TxContact Is Born
Interlink began chipping away at communication applications in 1999. Beginning items concentrated on modified IVRs and Voice Recorders for the therapeutic translation industry. This exertion normally advanced into creating TxIVR and TxRecorder for the contact focus industry, while incorporating with TDM advances like T1/E1 and PC communication advances like Avaya, Dialogic, Audiocodes and NMS. Between 2009-2011, Interlink moved their suite of communication items into voice-over-web convention (VOIP), and named it TxContact. From that point forward, Interlink has included a programmed channel conveyance framework for channels like call, visit, email and online networking. Interlink's TxContact grandstands the genuine intensity of omnichannel client communication through its six shrewd and strong modules (TxSmartQ, TxIVR, TxRecord, TxDialer, TxTalk and TxVirtualGuide). TxContact streamlines every one of the elements of a contact focus with an abnormal state of productivity, bringing about noteworthy cost investment funds and higher working edges.
"The key test isn't just about designing a versatile item, yet additionally keeping the general costs low while meeting customers' modern and discrete prerequisites. We accomplish this by ensuring that the fundamental innovation is adjustable, vigorous and created in house to lessen our reliance on outsider segments," declares Prem. He includes, "It's not amazing that Interlink's expenses are significantly lower than enormous organizations that fasten together items obtained through buyouts. Additionally, TxContact's advanced equipment impression is four-to-multiple times not as much as that of its friends. At the end of the day, it can keep running on smaller than normal PCs that can be put in a satchel. On the opposite side of the range, despite everything we contend with open source arrangements, as our stage requires less number of servers for enormous organizations. Along these lines, other than sparing cost, our answers spare space and power, and produce better turnaround time while incorporating with outsider applications. Most importantly, our total responsibility for ensures that our stage performs with high proficiency".
The Complete Solution
As of late, one of the real medicinal services arrangement suppliers in the U.S. was overhauled with the inventive abilities of TxContact. The organization confronted an issue with their administration officials investing 5-8x the required energy in their endeavor to converse with the protection operators. The defer was practically inescapable, as the execu-tives were required to physically sustain the insurance agency's IVR with patients' therapeutic records and in this way pause (for as long as 40 minutes) in the line for the protection operator to come on the web – just to have a standard 3-5 minutes talk. Interlink conveyed the TxContact suite to fathom the issue.
"We accomplish this by ensuring that the basic innovation is adjustable, hearty and created in house to diminish our reliance on outsider parts"
The outcome was astonishing. Rather than 100 officials calling 100 protection operators at the same time and holding up in the line, TxDialer, the prescient dialer and call advance examination module, was set to make those calls and course them to TxIVR – the smart IVR module that supports anything from contact tone to discourse acknowledgment in different dialects. TxIVR naturally sustained the required therapeutic record and did the holding up in the line, until the call was gotten by a live operator. It recognized the occasion and trans-ferred the call to the official on the neighborhood TxSmartQ, the general channel wholesaler module (courses anything from call to web-based social networking connections). As it were, live chaperons on the two sides get the call at the same time. The arrangement not just decreased the required operator check from 100 to only 20, yet additionally gave the customer colossal time and cost investment funds.
Keen Modules
Alongside the previously mentioned use-cases, TxContact flaunts extra modules and faultless highlights that take into account clients' discrete and refined necessities. While TxTalk handles voice calls, live talks, messages, and web based life channels, notwithstanding supporting the standard SIP highlights to upgrade client commitment, the TxRecord module comprises an undeniable chronicle framework, and the TxVirtualGuide module slices preparing costs radically to empower new specialists to work quicker. These exceptionally adjustable modules throughout the most recent few years have been extremely successful in settling the contact focus bewilder for some worldwide goliaths over the U.S., Canada, Africa, the Middle East and South-Asia, including Sutherland Global Services and PraxAir, Inc. Anytime, an upgraded dimension of efficiency with least preparing anyway is an evident suggestion.
"Our PC communication coordination (CTI) interfaces TxContact's modules to numerous product frameworks at the same time. For example, TxContact underpins simple reconciliation with different on-request CRMs, for example, Connectwise, Microsoft Dynamic CRM, Salesforce, Oracle, Sugar CRM, VTiger and Siebel among others," declares Sharath.
One of India's Highest Rated Places to Work
The client bolster industry is set to move along one more development bend. As indicated by a report by Grand View Research, Inc, the worldwide contact focus programming business sector is relied upon to reach $47.76 billion by 2025. With this prospering number, getting a noteworthy number of eyeballs from the worldwide market is Telenetix – Interlink's reality class R&D focus in Manipal. A grounds in the lap of immaculate nature, radiating a one of a kind vibe of greenery and wild, Telenetix is best known for its enchantment of procuring from the nearby provincial populace and making exceptionally talented innovation experts out of them. "We have a family like work culture. Everybody who has finished five years in the organization is qualified for a supported (on the web) MS program in software engineering at Georgia Tech (U.S.). So also, in eight years, they can achieve an online MBA program at Edinburgh Business School (UK)," says Sharath. His words well- clarify Telenetix's incredible Glassdoor rating of 4.6/5.
"Our PC communication combination (CTI) associates TxContact's modules to various programming frameworks, all the while"
In transit to the future, Interlink stays concentrated on development to reinforce its situation as an innovator in client administration arrangements. While its first application-to-application (A2A) in-voice item is good to go to take off, creating propelled sign preparing and examination programs and utilizing AI in its advancements are the following ones in the pipeline. "A contact focus creates a gigantic measure of voice and metadata once a day. Unfortuna-tely, just a limited quantity of information is changed over into noteworthy data. In the long haul, we intend to create items to release the knowledge from this undiscovered vault," closes Prem.
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