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majaurukalo · 10 hours
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Being a young adult is so strange. You enter a coffee shop. The 20 year old girl waiting behind you cried all night because she just came to a new city for university and she feels so alone. That 27 year old guy over there works a job he is overqualified for, he lives with his parents and wants to move out but doesn't know what to do about it. That one 24 year old dude already has a car, a house, and a job waiting for him once he graduates thanks to his dad's connections. The 26 year old barista couldn't complete his higher education because he has to work and take care of his family. The 28 year old girl sitting next to you has no friends to go out with so she is texting her mother. That couple (both 25 years old) are married and the girl is pregnant. The 29 year old writing something on her laptop has realized that she chose the wrong major so she is trying to start all over. We are not alone in this, but we are actually so alone. Do you feel me
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majaurukalo · 2 days
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majaurukalo · 3 days
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Uh, I'm back!
My account got terminated for an error but luckily the Tumblr staff managed to get it back.
Been scared that I'd lose all my stuff.
Fiuuuu!
Glad to be back on here.
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majaurukalo · 6 days
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majaurukalo · 9 days
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Got a poem published here!!! 😍😍
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majaurukalo · 9 days
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psa to able bodied people: if you see someone with a limp in public, you don’t have to ask them why they’re limping, or “what happened”. you can actually simply just mind your business.
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majaurukalo · 11 days
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Do you ever get the impression that a surgery you did to improve your condition actually worsened it?
Like, I was able to jump when I was little. Then I did a surgery that was supposed to improve my mobility and couldn’t jump anymore.
Now, it might just be that my disability worsened and that was all coincidental but… I wonder.
(Also, all the small “improvements” I got from that surgery disappeared a year later and I was back to square one so the surgery didn’t work, despite the emotional and mental toll it had on my 9 year old self).
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majaurukalo · 13 days
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We should really rethink the phrasing “being a burden”. And I don’t mean in a sweet-flowery way/soft talking to hide a harsh reality like “no, you are not a burden. You just have different needs”.
Because we are a burden. All human beings.
We are a burden on the planet and the ecosystem, for starters.
And we are a burden on one another.
Unless you live alone on an island and grow your own food and build your own stuff then you are a burden to someone or something in order to have your needs met.
We all take up space and time and energy from someone else.
That’s how we can survive as a society, as a community of people who live in interdependency with one another.
You need to buy food so you go to a supermarket who someone else put up so it can be easier for you to have access to food and someone else has made possible for you to have your salad or your bacon or your apple.
You live in a house that someone else built for you.
You enjoy a piece of art that someone else created for your enjoyment.
We rely on other people for food, housing, clothing, even entertainment.
And some of us rely on other people for showering, eating, going out, etc..
The Western society teaches that only through self-achievement and personal labour we are valuable and worthy of praise. That’s a toxic mindset that we must unlearn because it’s bound to fail in the long run.
Even our dreams and goals can only happen if we rely on someone else’s work, time and effort.
You want to be a singer? So you write a song. Sure, this comes out from your own effort and talent but then you need to publish it so you go on Bandcamp or Soundcloud. But those platforms exist because someone else built them. Then there are people, your audience, who listen to your song and share it. You rely on them. A record label signs you? That’s other people you are relying on to make your dream come true.
Nothing in this World is achievable through individualism and single effort.
At the end of the day we are tired from all this interdependencing but we also feel more connected and satisfied and even wiser.
Once we understand this we can see as a total “normal” thing the reliance on someone else for the completion of daily tasks.
The “I’d kill myself if I had to have my ass cleaned by someone else” will become nonsense.
And you can tell me that doing music is not like wiping someone else’s ass but both things are products of human labour and we all should learn to put aside our egos and be more humble and compassionate.
And since we all can end up having to have our asses be wiped by someone else maybe you can change your attitude as a gift to yourself. Or someone you love.
(Or maybe I’m just naive. I don’t know. I wish there was more empathy and connection among humans instead od selfishness and egotism).
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majaurukalo · 13 days
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This cripple is furious!!!
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majaurukalo · 13 days
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THIS FUCKING ENRAGES ME!!! THIS MAKES ME WANT TO GO ON THE STREET AND SMASH THINGS!!! THIS SHOULDN’T BE HAPPENING!! WE ARE NOT DISPOSABLE, WE ARE HUMAN FUCKING BEINGS!! C’MON, WHY PEOPLE CAN PROTEST AND BE ANGRY FOR A LOT OF THINGS BUT NOT FOR OUR LIVES??? WHY IS IT THAT EVERYTIME A DISABLED PERSON DIES — either by choice or not — IT’S OKAY AND UNDERSTANDABLE??? NO!! IT’S NOT!!!
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majaurukalo · 14 days
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it really is crazy how women abusing men is still regularly (if "jokingly") viewed as a positive thing. like literally today i was talking to someone about having watched both misery & sunset boulevard in a film class & both of those being about men being abused by women & the person's response was smth like. haha yeah that's so empowering. like obviously these are fictional characters but y'all realize that treating individual human men like poppets to punish Mankind for it's Sins is fucked up and evil yeah. also this directly translates into how trans men are treated as free punching bags for people to take out their anger at more powerful cis men. idk call me crazy but i feel like if you can't hear about men being abused by women without making a "joke" about it maybe you just have a deep problem you need to work on
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majaurukalo · 15 days
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Disabled people who shit talk their disability (and other disabilities) and think less of themselves if they don’t overcome their disability and are so full of self-hate and even go to social media or television to spread that kind of thought always raise in me some mix feelings.
The first reaction is anger. I’m angry at them for spreading such an abysmal view on disability and other disabled people and basically downgrading all the amazing work real disabled activists do everyday to make us see as humans and for having such horrible thoughts of a community they belong to.
They also trigger a very sensitive spot inside of me and I think they shouldn’t be given a platform to talk in such a way.
But then I try to calm down and rationalise and remind myself that I was in their shoes once.
That is basically internalised ableism which I, as many other disabled people, suffered from for a very long time.
Throughout my childhood and teenage years I would shiver at the idea of ending up in a wheelchair, I prayed that I would be healed and “fixed”, I would cry myself to sleep just to be normal. I hated myself.
I didn’t know any better. My parents didn’t teach me a better view because they didn’t know any better either.
You know what helped me accept and love myself? The disabled community.
All the amazing disabled creators, who talk about this topic in a healthy, empowering way.
So what I think is… disabled people who still suffer from internalised ableism are not our enemies. They are just people who haven’t found this community, who are still processing this difficult reality (and maybe they are newly disabled so that’s even more understandable). They are traumatised, they are suffering from the toxic views the able-bodied society puts on us. They probably don’t have a healthy support system, maybe just family and friends who are pushing them to get fixed, who are telling them to not give up to that kind of life. They think they are unlovable.
So let’s not shit on them. Let’s not insult them because that’s not how they will feel welcome into the community.
Instead, let’s encourage them to change view. Give them positive and empowering disability resources and examples.
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majaurukalo · 16 days
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majaurukalo · 16 days
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majaurukalo · 23 days
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One of the (many) things that makes disabled people the most marginalised community is that there will always be some kind of degree to which a good number of people will think that discrimination against us is okay. That it’s even “healthy”.
Think of separated entrances for disabled people into buildings. You’d never have separated entrances for black people today because history taught us well.
But it’s okay to have a different entrance for disabled people because a ramp looks ugly in the front or it “can’t be build”. So we have to go to the back, slalom through garbage bins, get lost in some corridor.
People justify this.
People justify institutionalisation of disabled people because “that’s the best way to take care of them” (breaking news, no it’s not).
People justify keeping disabled people outside of certain places, venues, fields, experiences because “it’s too dangerous”, “we can’t think of everybody”, “it’s too hard” yada yada.
And many don’t the see the real problem.
People justify the sterilisation of disabled people “because they can’t take care of children/their periods/whatever”.’
Like, we are not even considered enough for our own bodily autonomy.
Even when a disabled person is murdered by a family member the killing is justified and the family member who killed is “the poor thing who couldn’t bear with it anymore” and the murdered disabled person becomes “the angel who is now free from the life’s pains”. But no one asked them if they enjoyed their life, if they wanted to live.
Because a disabled life is not supposed to be good, right?
It’s always “for the sake of us”, “for our safety”, “to protect us” as if we can’t take decisions, as if we aren’t human beings with feelings, dreams, choices, desires, needs.
Nothing done against us can be intended for our best interest or our own good. It’s for the good of the abled-bodied society.
Period.
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majaurukalo · 25 days
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Since a very young age we are imbued this belief that, in order to make our lives meaningful, we need to become extraordinary, to achieve many great things. Publish a book that becomes a best-seller, climb Mount Everest, become a professional footballer, be the best at our jobs, find the cure to a disease, raise a family of other overachievers...
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majaurukalo · 27 days
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Something I need abled people to understand (ESPECIALLY able-bodied people)
We are not "erasing" you or "forgetting" you if we say something is for disabled people.
For example and to help me explain:
When we explain that a feature is for accessibility to folks who are physically disabled and may use mobility aids, I don't need to hear about how unhelpful YOU think it is
You never need to go: "Oh but it's also (this)! Don't forget (this)!"
We will never forget you or erase you because you are everwhere. We are too, but unlike a disabled person, you are automatically seen, heard, and taken into account.
So next time a disabled person says "oh this is for disabled people"... Just shut up please.
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