Ca$h my king for pointing out that Dusty was in the wrong for the Malakai thing in a season where it’s been joked about. Thank fuck someone acknowledges how bad that was

the whole thing this season w Spider's mom was just them emphasizing the way white women with no emotional intelligence and regulation have taken a practice made very intentionally and thoughtfully and when they whitewashed it detracted from the meaning of the movement. like the Me Too hashtag. This is what happened.

No because I never asked for cash name origin story and I would like to go back to 2.5 seconds ago when I didn’t know that

Flirting with the hot new guy under the bi lighting and Troye Sivan playing on the background ? Malakai Mitchell, the bicon you are

Above all else I’m so glad they brought back Cash’s Grandma

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we don’t need more access to mental health care, we need different mental health care.

and “increasing access” too often = making it easier to force people into treatments against their will or without full information & consent.

it’s not insignificant that many people involved in tragedies towards themselves or others were already accessing care.

Therapy is conditioning, usually social control. That's it. They'll find new ways to do it that hurt less but as long as you meet the goals set by a room of fancy psychiatrists with a lot of power, you're "healthy"

I grew up in activist spaces, going to trainings on how to organize and address systemic oppression in our policies. I don't think that almost any of the people who were at the front knew what they were saying or felt what they were saying. We didn't know who we were in the world, who we were in relation to our friends, our communities, our practices, our neighborhoods, our communities. We didn't know how these concepts actually showed up in the real world.

The act of protesting and making change or the idea of a future that could be was more of a feeling than the present moment. Keep kids in the present, let them feel that before they worry about the future.

Using the same words to describe ourselves doesn't mean you understand my experience or give us the same amount of power in the world or even our relationship.

sometimes I feel less comfortable with people who can loudly and carelessly say they're neurodivergent because that feels to me like a sign they were never hurt by their label/diagnosis. Not that having ADHD symptoms wasn't hard but that they were never specifically discriminated for the worst ADHD being written in a file.

My neurodivergent ex wife left me and told all of my friends it was because of my mental illness. She told my mother in law I was too crazy to be married to. She knew I was schizophrenic when we started dating, she promised she understood and married me saying she wouldn’t abandon me if I had an episode. She left me 1 week after my only episode I had during our relationship.

My neurodivergent ex girlfriend raped me multiple times while I was in psychosis. I only found out because she bragged about it once I was out of the episode. When I talked about what happened, how I was assaulted, I was told it wasn’t her fault. That she had no way of knowing that a person can’t consent when they’re in psychosis.

No. I don’t feel community with neurodivergent people. We are not the same. I was a vulnerable person and ended up homeless because of neurodivergent people who used that label with pride. I lost my job. I lost everything.

This [TW SA & Abuse]

I'm glad people are talking about this. People have built up the idea that because I'm mentally ill I can't remember things clearly and imagine things. Even when there are other people verifying what I'm saying, because the person opposing me is my mom or my ex who claimed to know me better than anyone else, I was the unreliable one, they got to keep hurting me. If I spoke up about it I was overreacting and overreporting because I'm mentally ill in a "bigger" way. They are both also autistic and have ptsd, but I've been hospitalized for it and people know. My ex made me promise him big things I'd previously said no to when I was manic, then said I'd said I was ok to consent to sex and have serious conversations in that moment so he thought it was ok even though we'd talked before about how it wouldn't be okay in that state.

Stop discrediting and villainizing me because I'm mentally ill. Stop making it my fault that when I communicated clearly, you didn't take me seriously.

My neurodivergent ex wife left me and told all of my friends it was because of my mental illness. She told my mother in law I was too crazy to be married to. She knew I was schizophrenic when we started dating, she promised she understood and married me saying she wouldn’t abandon me if I had an episode. She left me 1 week after my only episode I had during our relationship.

My neurodivergent ex girlfriend raped me multiple times while I was in psychosis. I only found out because she bragged about it once I was out of the episode. When I talked about what happened, how I was assaulted, I was told it wasn’t her fault. That she had no way of knowing that a person can’t consent when they’re in psychosis.

No. I don’t feel community with neurodivergent people. We are not the same. I was a vulnerable person and ended up homeless because of neurodivergent people who used that label with pride. I lost my job. I lost everything.

Actually lol I think disabled people who’ve been abused/neglected by doctors/nurses should be allowed to be as pissed as they want about it and people who berate them for not understanding how hard being a doctor/nurse is or some such should literally shut the hell up. There is nothing immoral about being angry, especially about shit like this and if you think disabled people don’t understand how hard capitalist systems can wear you down, well, you’re not just mistaken but ignorant as fuck. 

once again thinking about how fucked up it is that special ed used me and other disabled children as unpaid, coerced labor. i worked enough to be making $100 a week. i was "paid" in fake money redeemable only at the school cafeteria, which i worked at, and was forced to do things that distressed me. they gave us $1 a week, if they remembered to give it to us at all.

this was while i would sometimes go the entire day without eating because i didn't have the money to buy food and the free food was not sensory safe. we also worked outside the community - grocery stores, warehouses, shoe stores security tagging items. all under the guise of job skill development, we did $100 of labor a week without ever getting paid. and we were demeaned while we did it. and we were just teens.

so no, i don't want to hear about how special education is good. not with the way me and my peers were treated and taken advantage of. death to institutionalization, in all forms.

Neurodivergent self dx is and always has been incredibly valid for a lot of people. I think we also need to talk about what "lived experience" actually means, though.

When parents are trying to figure out if they should get their kid tested for autism, and autistic white women in or above their late 20s with degrees and full time jobs, who are late professional or self dx, start spitting off answers about how they wish they'd gotten tested or diagnosed as a child, that's no longer lived experience. That's not your experience, that's something that looking back you wish you could've changed about your life.

I experienced psychiatric trauma as a result of my early dx autism, I was in therapy before I was in kindergarten. I was isolated in school to the point of depression, then hospitalized, then put in a special program where I was being illegally restrained daily, then sent to a therapeutic school. I have been being conditioned like a dog longer than I've been able to count to 20. That's lived experience.

Just because you use a word to describe yourself doesn't mean we have the same lived experience qualifications.

Power ≠  Privilege

Privilege is built institutionally. Power includes privilege you might hold, but also includes anything else that might make you able to influence someone else or their surroundings.

Some of the people I've met who have the most power over me have equal or less privilege than I do.