Kuroneko (an argument of show vs. tell)

Ok let’s get this over with, I’m too tired and sick to deal with this show for long.

Episode starts with Adrien watching Ladybug call him “a partner just like anyone else” which honestly? I understand the press sucks but that rude (also yeah I understand Adrien shouldn’t have stayed and was depressed in his room, but also? Bitch if I was in his show I would have quit too)

Ladybug is an a-hole to chat, and like? Why??? CHAT DEADASS COMES AND OFFERS HELP AND TO BE HELPFUL TO HER, AND SHE RESPONDS BY SCREAMING????

And like??? The show tried to write it off as “she was about to detransform and identity rule matters!” WHEN THE IDENTITY RULE DOES MATTER ANYMORE???? Literally I love having my arguments proven (for more on why the identity rule is pointless and therefore season 4 sucks, I have this post, but for short, Ladybug only applies or cares about the identity rule when it comes to chat not knowing anything and it basically makes everything in season 4 stupid)

But imma give her credit! Ladybug did show to care when chat quit!

…only to moments later try and get a new Chat Noir (yeah kids if it weren’t for fucking Plagg, she would have broken the identity rule again what a shocker) never truly internalize that Chat Noir quit because she treated him terribly, blame chat noir for what she did (I am not a fan of that tsundere act, never was) and simp ove Catwalker calling him perfect.

…ok so her approach was a bit flawed and hypocritical.

Listen, before y’all tell me, I know what she said this episode. Ladybug did go off about Chat Noir and how Catwalker is not quite it (saying Catwalker is “too perfect”? Like that makes sense??? Literally the only reason she said he wasn’t right was because she couldn’t stop simping for one second??? And that’s somehow his fault but I digress whatever) and did show regret and remorse over chat, and even told him how irreplaceable he is! Again!

But that’s all talk. Compare her talk about how she needs Chat Noir to her actions:

- lies and keeps him out of the loop

- on several occasions takes out her anger and stress at him (even tho that stress comes from something that she clearly gives no shit about in any other context???)

- was willing to replace him and would have broken the identity rule if it weren’t for Plagg (hypocrisy✨)

- never even tries to involve him in her plans (yeah I saw what the show did there! Trying to make commentary on people wanting Chat Noir to save the day, by saying “sometimes Ladybug just doesn’t have a plan for him and it’s how it should be done!”)

Ladybug’s actions and thoughts never align! So yeah, you care about him you think he’s important and irreplaceable, that’s awesome we love that, NOW WHAT ABOUT YOU TRY AND DO SOMETHING BEYOND TALK???? BE HONEST WITH HIM! TRY AND ACKNOWLEDGE HIM AND NOT JUST BLIW UP AT HIM! AND HEY WHILE YOURE AT IT MAYBE TRY TO LOOK AT YOURSELF AND REALIZE YOURE THE PROBLEM HERE RATHER THEN KEEP SAYING THAT PROBLEM IS THAT CHAT BEING IN LOVE WITH YOU?! (I swear not everything is about someone being in love with you girl please)

All I learned this episode is Marinette digs her own grave and problems on the basis of “tHe IDEntIty RuLe!” And then cries and says how hard her life is? And honestly, it’s not gonna get better unless she realizes that she’s the reason things aren’t going well.

Meanwhile CATWALKER!!! Basically Adrien Agreste tm, and Adrien, as I predicted, coming to the conclusion that people only like him when he’s obedient and kind! That’s not fucking concerning!!!

And again, Ladybug says how she wants Chat Noir, but her actions don’t align!!! She literally blushes and smiles and says how perfect Catwalker is!!! So are the viewers just supposed to accept this episode like “yeah, Ladybug likes chat noir and does care about him” while every actions in this episode indicates otherwise???? Literally all we learned from the episode is “yeah Ladybug just wants chat noir despite the fact that she tried replacing him, never does anything to actually make a difference, clearly prefers someone super serious and calm that doesn’t object anything she says, BUT LIKE CHAT NOIR IS IRREPLACEABLE GUYS SHE CLEARLY CARES LOOK HERES A LADYNOIR MOMENT!”

Im just tired, but hey! the biggest beacon of light in this episode was PLAGG MY BOY MY KING✨

Bitch lectured ladybug for her hypocrisy, stops Ladybug from being even more of a hypocrite, manages to get the miraculous back to Chat noir (because that’s right kids! For someone who cares so much, Ladybug was adamantly against Chat Noir with his miraculous, because that would require admitting he quit because of her!) convinces Adrien to be a hero again, TEARS APART THE TRUE SELF ARGUMENT (my king addresses Adrien’s identity crisis and how people should love and respect him FOR ALL OF HIM) and so much more!

Honestly the only main flaw he had was how he tried to get Adrien to change for Ladybug, but that was for the sake of letting Adrien stay Chat Noir and because he clearly wants Adrien as his owner.

So hey, at least the cat was nice!

Also Natalie is a cyborg

Mom-Friend Looking For A Dad-Friend - Part 3

Sylvia’s POV

Sylvia knows she should feel guilty. You look so uncomfortable at the party, back pressed against the wall, eyes darting around like a stalked animal watching out for a hunter. Your arms are crossed over your stomach in what she recognizes as your signature move--something you always did during your one year of overlap at Starfleet when she dragged you to the occasional party--quite effective at hiding your body from the world. 

You look so out of your element in the fit and flare dress she forced you into, even though you shouldn’t. Your curves look fantastic and after hours of deliberation you were both able to tame the signature Tilly Sisters Frizz TM. She’s actually quite proud of the smokey eye she was able to slather on you and the lipstick she convinced you to wear. You look beautiful, I mean, you’re her big sister, her first and bestest friend, of course you look beautiful to her. 

But she’s hoping that you can see that in yourself too because she knows another certain someone on the ship sees you as absolutely enthralling.

Her eyes flit between you and the door, hoping that Saru will take the hint and actually show up. She’d been dropping little details to him all week about the party and how you had wanted to attend (which was a lie) to meet someone (another lie). 

What? She’s desperate. She’s been watching her basically-Captain/resident dad of the entire ship quietly fawn over her sister for months and vice versa. She needed to up the ante if she was going to get you two together, and well, nothing is more motivating than jealousy. One thing about post-vahar’ai Saru that everyone was picking up on was that he was far more expressive and a lot less shy. Especially, Sylvia noticed, when it came to you. She actually heard him growl once at an ensign that got a little too close to you in the cafeteria.

Actually, said ensign is making his way over to you right now with two drinks and a drunken smirk on his face. Her eyes glance nervously at the door. Still no sign of Saru. Maybe this wasn’t the best idea.

(Y/N)’s POV

You were going to kill your sister. You hated parties with a passion. All the people rubbing against each other, rubbing against you and spilling your drink, the form fitting clothing. Especially the form fitting clothing.

Not to mention that the few times you have gone to parties always ended in you being abandoned by friends who found someone to go home with while you were left alone and feeling unwanted. 

The other reason you’re absolutely miserable at this party is because the one man you actually want to dance with isn’t here. Because why would he? A room of his crew mates grinding against each other isn’t exactly his scene. But your eyes still dart to the door, willing Saru to march through those doors and take you in his arms like in a typical Earth romantic comedy. 

Except why would he? You’ve been ignoring him for days and have most likely effectively destroyed any interest he could have had for you. He probably thinks you’re so shallow and immature and weird.

“Hey there.” 

Your eyes meet the drunken smile of Mark, an ensign on the ship who has flirted with you on more than one occasion. He’s come to your office numerous times, always feigning emotional distress so that he has an excuse to flirt with you. You’ve turned him down time and time again, sighting that you were not interested. Mark doesn’t seem to get the hint.

“Good evening, Mark.” You straighten your back but keep your arms around yourself, mindful that the dress your sister gave you is low-cut and showing off more cleavage than you’ve ever showed in your life. You shudder when Mark’s eyes immediately wander to your ample chest. You push yourself away from the wall but Mark steps in front of you, effectively caging you in.

“I got you a drink.”

“Oh. Thank you, but I’m not thirsty.” You try to take your leave again, really just wanting to go home and wallow in a bowl of ice cream.

“Actually,” you continue, “I was just about to head out.”

“Aw, why?” He leans forward, the smell of alcohol heavy on his breath. “Don’t you want to dance with me, Doctor?”

“I’m not much of a dancer. Now if you will excuse me--”

“What the hell is wrong with me, huh?” Mark snaps and slams both cups on the ground. “I’m a nice guy. A good looking guy. You could do far worse.” 

His words are slurred but none the less furious. His eyes are dark and glaring at you now, something evil within them. 

You glance around for help but the music is too loud and there are just too many bodies. Nobody seems to notice your distress or the sudden violent nature of Mark.

“I’m sorry, Mark. I’m sure you’re very nice but I--” One of his hands punches the wall next to your head and you yelp.

“You’re fucking right! Better than any guy you could get with in your life, you fat fucking bitch--” In an instant you’re pulled away from the wall by a strong arm while Mark is lifted from the back of his collar and pressed harshly, face first into the wall. 

Saru POV - a few minutes earlier

Saru stares at himself in the mirror, scrutinizing what is now the third outfit he’s tried on. It has to be perfect. Tonight has to be perfect. Because you’re perfect and you’re at that party waiting for someone to sweep you off your feet and damnit, that someone is going to be Saru. He’s not sure what he would do if you found someone else to dance with tonight, to hold and to love. It would completely destroy him. So yes, everything has to be perfect. 

This whole week, Saru has been completely miserable. He’s sure you’ve been ignoring him and he’s not entirely sure why, except he’s completely convinced that he’s done something wrong. He’s tried reaching out, but you keep turning him away at every turn and it’s truly breaking his heart. He misses his meals with you, he misses relaxing in the observation deck with you, and he dreads seeing the exhaustion on your face when he passes your office (which he’s found time to do every day under the guise of “checking in on the med bay” -- everyone knows he’s definitely not checking in on the med bay). 

And then there was Ensign Whatever His Name Is, who has become the bane of Saru’s existence. The last time you had dinner with him, Ensign Asshole decided to sit at your table and unabashedly sidle up to you. It wasn’t that Saru saw him as a threat, it did not go unnoticed how uncomfortable you were at the ensign’s advances and, let’s face it, Saru knows he’s far better suited for you. But it was your discomfort, and the way the ensign’s eyes lingered on you like you were a piece of meat for him to consume and then toss aside, that made Saru want to flip the table and launch the man across the room. 

Maybe that’s why you’ve been shutting him out, though. Maybe for some inexplicable reason, you were incredibly attracted to this man and you were leaving Saru in the dust. His heart clenches and his stomach feels pained at the thought.

Saru runs a hand over this new outfit, debating whether you would approve of the color, if he should wear something more casual, or something fancier? Maybe something... form fitting? Michael had mentioned that humans tend to wear something a little tighter to seem attractive...

Michael alluded that you might be at this party tonight, and immediately he began thinking up ways to woo you, to show you that he was obviously the right man for you. Or at the very least, it would be a reason to talk to you, to figure out how to get back in your good graces. He doesn’t have to date you at all, he just needs you back in his life in any capacity.

A ping on his PADD interrupts his ruminating. He grabs it, smiling and hoping that it’s a message from you. 

It’s not.

Sylvia: Are you coming?!

Saru: Yes. I just need a few moments

Sylvia: You need to come right now!!! It’s (Y/N)!!!

Saru’s eyes widen and his heartbeat accelerates in an instant. He tosses the PADD on his bed and makes quick strides to the common room where the party is being held. His mind races as he imagines what could have happened. Were you injured? Were you asking for him?

When he arrives at the party he stands in the doorway, scanning the many heads below him for the curly (h/c) hair he knows so well and loves so much. 

“Saru!” Sylvia has been by the door waiting the moment he walked in to yank on his arm. She frantically points to a spot on the wall and looks at him with helpless eyes. “I can’t get to her. There are too many people.” 

Saru’s eyes track from her finger to the wall, where he sees your small form cowering under that same ensign’s body. Seeing the fear in your eyes, the helplessness, and the tears starting to pool, stirs something deep and vicious in Saru. His instincts go into overdrive, like he isn’t in control of himself anymore. Or maybe he is, this new, fearless version of himself has taken over. 

Saru marches forward, shoulders tensed and his mouth set in an uncharacteristic snarl. The crowd seems to part for the seething Kelpien until there is nothing between him and Ensign Dickhead, who can’t seem to read the room. 

With one arm he pulls you out from your spot between the wall and this scum of the earth. With his other arm, he snatches the ensign’s collar, lifts him off the floor and smashes his head into the wall, holding him there. He growls, a low and savage sound. Everyone is looking at him but all that really matters in this moment is your wellbeing and the man who tried to threaten you. 

Even though the ensign is off the ground, he is nowhere near as tall as Saru, who is looming over him. Saru leans down, ignoring the whimpers of pain from the ensign who definitely has a broken nose.

He snarls, “Don’t touch what isn’t yours.” 

He wants to do more to this man. He wants to beat his head against the wall. He wants to drop him on the ground and kick his stomach until he can’t breathe. He wants to shove him in the airlock and hit ‘eject.’ He’s basically the captain, he can do it. But your gentle hands wrap around his free forearm, reminding him that you’re here and that everyone is watching.

He glances down at you with a serious gaze, looking to you for guidance. ‘What do you want me to do to this man?’ his stare asks. Because he’d do anything you asked him. 

You give him small shake of the head and Saru drops the man immediately. As two security officers and your sister swarm the bleeding man on the ground, you tug on Saru’s arm, signaling him to follow you.

Your walk together is quiet. Saru still feels the anger coursing through him. He really wants to turn around and finish the ensign off, and he doesn’t particularly care how out of character this is for him. That man deserves every bit of pain Saru can muster for what he did to you, what he was going to do to you. But there’s also the stress, the concern that you are furious with him, that he was too violent, that he had startled you. Would you hate him now? Are you afraid of him?

You tug his arm one last time, taking him to... his room. 

Third Person POV

You drag him inside and lead him to his bed. After a few moments, Saru realizes that you want him to sit. So he does. He’s still taller than you, but your face, your eyes, your lips are infinitely closer to his now. Your hands slowly trace from their hold on his forearms, up his arms and shoulders, to hold his cheeks. Your eyes look deeply into his own, and he can see that there are still tears in your eyes.

Instinctually, Saru’s arms find their way around your waist and tug you closer to him. You ease into him immediately because after that display, you know that there is nowhere safer than Saru’s embrace. One of his hands rubs soothing circles into your back while the other stays around your waist. Your head buries itself into his shoulder while your arms wrap around his neck.

You both stay like that for a few moments, relishing each other, acknowledging that you are both together and safe in the garden that is Saru’s room.

“You’re not mad?” Saru whispers.

“A little startled.”

“Oh.” 

You pull away slightly but your hands return to his cheeks. 

“I’ve never seen you so...”

“Angry?” Saru’s eyes are downcast, waiting for the moment you tell him yes, you were so vicious, I could never love someone so violent.

“Valiant.” You give him a shy smile with a hint of embarrassment. 

Oh. 

Both of Saru’s hands return to your waist and give it a comforting squeeze. 

“Did he hurt you?” Saru’s eyes scan over you.

“No, no. He just scared me.” 

He pulls you closer so you can lean your head against his chest. Like you weigh nothing at all, he lifts you onto his lap and wraps his arms around you again. You don’t know where this forward and overly affectionate Saru came from, but you’re not about to start complaining. You’ve dreamt of this after all.

“Thank you,” you whisper. “You really didn’t need to get that fierce with him.”

“I know, I know but... That wasn’t right. He was horrible and he was going to hurt you and you deserve so much more than that.” You shrug slightly, not fully believing him. Your whole life you’ve only attracted less-than-sub-par men and at some point you just started to assume that you never deserved better. 

“(Y/N) Tilly I am being serious. You deserve the best that this universe has to offer. You deserve someone who will respect you and love you, who thinks you’re the most brilliant and stunning woman who has ever lived.”

“And who thinks that?” You reply meekly, really hoping he’s about to confess to you. But the mind is a horrible, merciless entity, dead set on dashing such hopes.

“Well... If it wasn’t already obvious,” Saru gulps and takes a deep, steady breath. “I think that.”

Screw you, mind. 

“Really?”

“I do. I have thought so since the moment I met you and each moment spent with you has only reinforced how I feel.” Saru bows his head and nuzzles his forehead against yours. 

“I love you,” he whispers, as if those three words have the power to end his entire existence

You release a shaky breath and let your tears fall.

“I’m... I’m sorry,” you whisper and Saru’s shoulders deflate. 

“You don’t feel the same,” he whimpers in the most pathetic way possible. It causes your heart to wrench.

“I was so convinced that you felt this way about Michael or, or somebody else, anybody but me,” you sniff. “And I was ignoring you because I couldn’t stand the idea of not being able to love you. You must think I’m such a child.”

You look away from him but his hand immediately moves under your chin and directs you to look up. He’s beaming at you, eyes glassy with joy, and it’s one of the most beautiful things you’ve ever seen.

You lean up and capture his lips in yours, conveying all the love you feel for him. Saru inhales sharply through his nose but lets out a breathy moan as he leans into your kiss. His hands tighten their hold on you and pull you closer, until there is barely any space left between you both. 

You pull back by barely an inch, not daring to stray too far from this man.

“I love you too,” you whisper. 

Saru beams at you, shyly, but the glow of that smile speaks volumes. He kisses you again, one of his hands moving to the back of your neck, securing you to him. 

mdzs worst engagement au!xisang! Would lxc save nhs from jalouse lxc admire ?

Worst Engagement

Warning for bullying and threats of physical violent

Stay toward the middle or end of Nie Huaisang’s first year in the Cloud Recesses, when he’s still trying to be a Good Boy TM

Another class finishes, and Nie Huaisang has no idea what it even was about. Talisman, he guesses, but it might very well be manners. Quite possibly, it's the etiquette for using talismans. He's been trying to concentrate harder on lessons lately, terrified of failing and getting scolded again by just about everyone he knows, but it's just impossible to focus on something so boring. His mind keeps wandering to painting, to birds, to that minuscule crack in the ceiling of the classroom. 

He's not even sure what will happen if he fails the exam. He just knows that it'll be awful. 

That's the only reason why when a group of boys encircles him as he exits the classroom and asks if he wants to study with them, Nie Huaisang actually considers it.

The group, sadly, is led by Jin Zixun. There's little love between him and Nie Huaisang, though in fairness there's little love between either of them and anyone else. Only the Jin disciples seem to like Jin Zixun, and they don't have much of a choice when his mother is the sect leader's sister. Jin Zixun is a bully and, quite frankly, an idiot, but he's still doing better in class than Nie Huaisang. That makes studying with him and his friends… tempting. 

"What do you want in exchange for letting me work with you?" Nie Huaisang asks with justified suspicions. Just a few days ago, someone threw a wet inkstone at him, ruining of set of white guest robes, and Jin Zixun looked too amused to be fully innocent. 

"It's just sad to always see you alone," Jin Zixun replies. "The heir apparent to Qinghe Nie should try to make friends." 

That's rich coming from the one person who made sure to ruin all of Nie Huaisang’s efforts. But it's true also that Nie Huaisang can be shy. Some of the other boys did try chatting with him, early on, but they only wanted to hear about Nie Mingjue at best, about Lan Xichen at worst, and that quickly got old. 

"Come with us, Nie gongzi," another Jin boy insists, his smile less sharp than Jin Zixun. "You seemed a little lost earlier when master Lan explained things, but together we can all figure it out." 

Nie Huaisang shoots the boy a surprised look. Nobody usually pays attention to him, so this is pleasantly unexpected. Much as it pains him to admit, Jin Zixun isn't wrong: it'd be nice to make some friends. 

"I am very grateful for your generous offer," Nie Huaisang says with a bow. "I hope we can all work hard together." 

Happy with that answer, the other boys lead him away from the classroom, chatting about dinner and what they'll do for their next free day. Nie Huaisang doesn't say much, happy to listen and let himself be led along the way.

It's not until they pass the last cabin and step on a path to the mountain that Nie Huaisang realises something isn't right. Before he can ask about that, Jin Zixun gives a signal. Instantly, two boys grab Nie Huaisang’s arms and push his back against a tree, hard enough his breath is knocked out of him. 

"I thought we were going to study," he stutters, immediately earning a few laughs. 

"Who'd study with you?" someone says. "Has there been a single class you haven't failed?" 

"Yeah, you're annoying," Jin Zixun adds. "You're a shame to the entire cultivation world already, but you had to make it worse by laying a claim on Lan Xichen?" 

Nie Huaisang blinks a few times. 

"It's not like I chose that!" 

"I could have been the one engaged to Lan Xichen," Jin Zixun argues. "It was considered for a time! I would have been far more worthy of him than some stupid little cowardly mouse like you.”

“Go to your uncle and ask to have him then,” Nie Huaisang mutters. “Good luck. I don’t think Lan gongzi will want you.”

The slap is no surprise, but Nie Huaisang still cries out when the blow is sharper than expected.

“He doesn’t want you either,” Jin Zixun spits. “Everyone knows he’s ashamed of being engaged to you. Qinghe Nie is barely respectable to begin with, and then they had to give birth to someone like you? Everyone knows you don’t even have a golden core!”

“I do have one!”

It’s only half a lie. His core has almost finished forming. For better or worse, the discipline of Gusu Lan has actually helped quite a bit, which annoys Nie Huaisang to no end. He doesn’t want to owe that to the sect that will someday already own him.

“I don’t think that’s true,” another Jin boy says, the one who was so nice earlier and said he’d noticed Nie Huaisang struggling to follow the lesson. “Nobody with a core would squeal like a pig over just being slapped.”

“He did sound like a pig,” Jin Zixun agrees. “Maybe we should open him up like one and check? Maybe those Nie butchers messed up and raised a pig instead of a cultivator. Or maybe his mom’s a sow instead of a dancer. I mean, it’s the same in the end, isn’t it?”

Nie Huaisang shouts in rage at the insult, and manages to free himself from the other boys’ hold just enough to kick first Jin Zixun’s knee, and then his chest when he doubles down in pain.

"Talk about my mom again and you'll see what a butcher can do!"! Nie Huaisang roars, trying to launch himself at Jin Zixun only to be tackled on the ground by the other boys. "Fight me alone if you dare!" 

A boot on his face silences him (still that nice boy, Nie Huaisang is never trusting anyone’s kindness ever again), pressing his cheek into mud and grass. Nie Huaisang still manages to look up when Jin Zixun stomps in front of his nose. He has one hand on the handle of his sword, and yet all Nie Huaisang can think of is how unflattering that angle is on the other boy. It’s a stupid thought to have, and it’s stupider still that it makes him snort, because of course Jin Zixun only gets angrier.

“Maybe I can’t cut open you like a pig,” he says, “but I can cut your face. If you really have a golden core, healing it won’t be a problem. If you don’t… it’ll just leave a scar and everyone will know you’re a fraud.”

Nie Huaisang cries out and struggles as hard as he can, but without the power of surprise he can’t free himself again. To his horror, Jin Zixun actually unsheathes his sword. When he puts it against his cheek, Nie Huaisang goes deathly still and closes his eyes, feeling tears of terror and frustration pool behind his eyelids. The blade is cold against his skin, the tip of it digging slightly, not yet hard enough to actually cut, but Jin Zixun starts to press down and…

“What’s going on here?”

Everyone jolts, but thankfully Jin Zixun is just smart enough to lift his sword and not leave any mark on Nie Huaisang.

Nie Huaisang who opens his eyes and sees Lan Xichen coming their way, radiating the sort of calm anger one might expect of a martial god. For the first time in their engagement, Nie Huaisang is sincerely happy to see his fiancé, so much so that the tears he barely managed to restrain before start spilling.

“Lan gongzi!” Jin Zixuan exclaims, putting away his sword. “How are you doing today? Isn’t the weather nice?”

Lan Xichen gives him such a cold look that Jin Zixun cannot help stepping backward. He then turns his gaze to Nie Huaisang, and frowns.

“Let him go,” he orders the boys still holding him, and is obeyed without hesitation. “Fighting is not allowed in the Cloud Recesses. Surely you know this by now?”

"Lan gongzi, we were just playing!" 

"Where you?" Lan Xichen asks, his eyes still on Nie Huaisang who looks away. 

"Yeah, we were playing," he mutters, carefully getting back on his feet and wiping the dirt from his face. "Sorry if we were too rough, Lan gongzi. It won't happen again." 

It's a huge lie, and one Nie Huaisang isn't selling well with his red eyes and snotty nose. Lan Xichen rightfully pinches his lips, but can't say anything without calling both Jin Zixun and Nie Huaisang liars, which would be a serious accusation. Nie Huaisang knows he's making yet another bad impression on his future husband, but between that and alienating someone who's currently so high in the inheritance line for Lanling Jin… Lan Xichen's anger can be dealt with, but Jin Zixun's hatred would probably never be pacified. 

"I see. Then please, play more peacefully next time, and in a more appropriate place," Lan Xichen notes with a smile that doesn't reach his eyes. "If you seek such an isolated place, people might think you are trying to hide mischief. Now go back to your cabins. I'm sure you have a lot to review after today's lesson."

They don't need to be told twice. Some of the boys are probably older than Lan Xichen, but he radiates such authority that nobody would dare to contradict him, especially not when they all know they're lucky not to be punished. Even Nie Huaisang could have gotten in trouble. He's not sure if the rules against fighting apply to self-defence as well. 

"Nie gongzi, stay with me a moment," Lan Xichen orders. "I wish to speak to you."

Nie Huaisang freezes on the spot. In all the time he's spent in the Cloud Recesses, this is the first time Lan Xichen had asked for a chat. In fact, isn't it the first time for the all of their acquaintance? And by the look of it, it's not going to be a pleasant one.

But then again, when has anything about this engagement ever been pleasant? 

"Do not pick fights you cannot win," Lan Xichen advises when everyone else is gone. 

"I didn't start this," Nie Huaisang grumbles, feeling like a child being scolded. "They're the ones who attacked me!" 

"Then be more careful not to give others the occasion and incentive to attack you," Lan Xichen said, never once dropping that kind, condescending smile. "Just because we are set to marry doesn't mean I will always be there to save you. If you can't defend yourself, if you can't make friends, at least have the good sense to stay away from bullies." 

That hits a little too close to home. Of course Nie Huaisang should have known something was wrong, he should have guessed Jin Zixun couldn't have turned nice all of a sudden, but… 

He just wanted someone to want to be around him. The other Nie disciples don't count, they have to be nice to him. But apparently, friends are too much to ask. 

"I'm sorry, Lan gongzi. May I go now?" 

"You may."

Nie Huaisang strides away, as fast as he can without running. When he reaches the cabin he shares with the other Nie disciples, he doesn't even get changed and just starts studying right away. 

He has to pass his exams when the time comes, at any cost, so he can go home and be away from this fiancé who hates him.

Survey #404

“death doesn’t answer when i cried for help”

The person you had the strongest feelings for dies, do you care? I'd be fucking devastated. It wouldn't feel real. Is there something you’re happy about at the moment? A few things. I'm still on that high of my APAP mask working, like I'm actually getting some fucking quality sleep, and I think I'm noticing the effects of my TMS therapy finally, too. My PTSD has most notably been much more bearable, and my interests are beginning to spread again. Do you want someone dead? No. Do you ever wonder what your ex is up to? I mean yeah, I think that's pretty normal, even for someone without my issues. Have you ever fed or taken care of a stray animal? Oh, many times. What is something you tend to worry about? My health and future. What is something you do that is unhealthy? Sit at the computer for way too long. I'm absolutely certain my vision is as poor as it is partially because of me endlessly staring at screens. What is something you do that is good for you? I'm not afraid to prioritize my mental health. What last caused you to force a smile? I was watching a Mark video for the first time in a while and was just reminded of how much I love and appreciate that moron. What was the last video game you played? Was it fun? Because you said "video" game, I guess I'll exclude computer ones, in which case I'm pretty sure it was Silent Hill 2. Given it's one of my all-time favorite games, of course I think it's fun. It's one hell of an emotional ride. What is something not many people know about you? The fact I was a dancer for many years would probably surprise people once they have a good idea of me and what I like. What word describes your basic style? Lazy, honestly. I dress for comfort, and given that's usually just pj pants and a tank top... yeah, I don't put much effort into my clothing when I'm going most places. Have you ever been told you were going to Hell? She kinda beat around the bush, but yes. Have you ever wanted to kill yourself? On more than one occasion. If yes, what convinced you not to go through with it? Well, I did OD once, but on the other occasions, it was the fear of the unknown that deterred me. Have you ever rejected a guy, only to have him push the issue by asking “why?” and insisting that you just need to get to know him better? Omg no, thank god. I would NOT handle that well. Is there something that you believe everyone should do and you can’t believe that some people don’t do it (e.g., recycle or go to the dentist regularly)? I didn't know 'til a survey question asked it that there are people who don't brush their tongue when brushing their teeth. Like holy shit dude, there are SO many germs on your tongue, clean that shit. Regarding the last good choice (healthy choice, kind choice, selfless choice, etc.) you made, what was your real motivation behind it? Ummmm the nearest that comes to mind is I guess taking my meds? I mean I do that every single day, but it's still a healthy choice for me. The motivation was because I am very serious about doing what I can for my mental wellbeing. What is something that you have had to practice at to get the hang of it? If you can’t think of anything, that’s okay, what’s something you are currently practicing at and trying to master? I really can't think of something for the first half of the question, but I can tell you that right now I'm attempting to force a routine of applying a therapy technique called "opposite action" into my daily life, where you, well, do the exact opposite of what your depression tells you to not do. It is WAY harder than it sounds, but I'm doing it with reading 30 minutes a day! Have you ever gone to the store to buy something, like a video game, when it came out at midnight? Not to my recollection, no. Regarding the last novel you read, was there a romance included? If so, was it central to the plot? The last novel I finished, yes. It wasn't central to the plot. Have you ever done relaxation meditations or listened to relaxation guides or positive-thinking/healing recordings? No, except in therapy when different therapists wanted me to experiment with it during a session. They just don't work for me. Do you have any interests that are also often shared by children? Yeah. Those are the one I'm especially self-conscious about. there something that could be a solitary activity but you really only like to do it with other people (e.g., watching movies, playing video games, etc.)? Watching movies or TV. Are you satisfied with the interior design or decoration in your home? Or do you think it needs a total home makeover? A makeover would be nice... Is there something that you’d like to own but you can’t find it anywhere? If not, can you a remember a time when you wanted something? Did you ever end up finding it or did you eventually stop wanting it? OKAY SO I actually have seen this custom-made once long after deciding I wanted it, but it was RIDICULOUSLY expensive. There's a location in the Silent Hill games called Heaven's Night, and I'd love love LOVE to commission someone to duplicate the neon pink sign of it to hang in my room. Hopefully one day I could still do it. Who makes you smile the most? Probably my cat, honestly. What piercings do you want/have? I've talked about the piercings I have, but I'll talk about those I want. My #1 is absolutely collarbone dermals, but as I've explained a billion times, I want to lose weight so the bones are more prominent for the sake of contrast; you can't really see my collarbones now, so I just think it'd look pretty dumb and random to just have random piercings somewhere around there with no dimension. I also want way more in my ears, dermals in my back dimples also once I've lost weight, my right nostril for the dozenth time (but this time I'll wear a hoop), and while I'd absolutely adore an undereye microdermal as well, it'd be pointless with glasses. :/ What's your favorite website? KM is my pride and joy and really feels like my online home, so despite using sites like YouTube more, that 'ole RP site has to be my fave. Do you own a fish tank with fish? No. I had fish bowls (AWFUL idea) as a kid, but never tanks Do you like the movie 300? Never seen it. Do you pop your knuckles? NOOOOOOOOOOO. I absolutely hate the sound. It makes me cringe and shiver. Do you have Photoshop? Yes. It comes in the Adobe CC photography bundle I have. Do you use tinypic or photobucket? I used Photobucket back in the day. Now I just upload to imgur. What’s your favourite song from the 1980s? You're talking to someone who adores classic rock/metal, haha. How about the 1990s? There are way too many songs to choose from. Have you won anything recently? No. How often do you make Excel tables? What for? Never. What was the last baby animal you saw in the wild? There was a poor fawn as roadkill on the highway recently. :/ Are you always available or online? Preeeetty much. Do you have dietary restrictions? Or do you just eat what you like? I can eat whatever. Do you prefer gold, silver or steel jewelry? Or no jewelry at all? Steel. I'm allergic to silver, and I think steel is more subtle than gold. Have you been binge-watching any shows lately? If so, what? No. If you dye your hair, do you do it yourself or go to a salon? I do it at a salon. If you have any, do you like your in-laws? I don’t have any. Would it bother you, if your partner had cut contact with their parents? If they had a good reason, no. Have you ever wondered whether you were adopted? As a kid I did because I thought Mom was meaner to me than my siblings, lol. What’s the best physical feeling in the entire universe? ........... This question is a setup lmfao. Have you ever grown a berry bush? No. Have you done something new to your hair recently? No. It's been the same for quite a while. I wanna dye it badly. Do you have bad anxiety? If so, do you take any kind of medication for it? I'm diagnosed with generalized and social anxiety, so yeah. I take Klonopin once and day and Ativan as needed for attacks. One thing you’ve experienced that you thought you never would have? HA, the first thing to come to mind was being noticed by Mark by making a viral (in the community, anyway) gif of he and his doggy. I shit you not, I couldn't sleep for three days lmfao. What was the last thing someone said to you that kept repeating over & over in your head? That I gained fucking seven pounds in two months at my last doctor appointment. I wanted to scream. How often do you have late nights out? Never. I'm a homebody. If you could, would you work from home? Do you think that would make you more or less productive? No. It would absolutely make me less productive. If you had the ability to change the weather, what would you change it to right now? Cool with a nice breeze, mostly clear skies, crisp air... That'd be nice right now. Is there something that you really need to do, but can’t seem to get motivated to do it? I say it all the time: finish decorating my room. It's funny, because I KNOW I'll feel more at home and cozy with my bedroom more personalized. Most disturbing movie you have ever seen? Paranormal Entity. The ending was... a lot. Has a life goal or dream ever come true for you yet? If yes, what is it? If no, do you think you’ll achieve it? Not that I can think of. .-. I hope I can achieve some... Have you ever had food poisoning? No, thank God. What are you listening to? "The Man Who Made a Monster" by Dance With the Dead. Do you think there will be a WWIII? I find it inevitable at some point down humanity's future. People are too hateful for it not to eventually. Has anyone ever asked you if you were emo? Yeah. Has someone ever liked you that you never thought would? Maybe? Idk. In all honesty, can a person be too nice? Yes, in some instances. Has one of your friend’s boyfriends ever tried to cheat on them with you? Yes, when I was around 12. And I let it happen. It's one of my biggest regrets. Is mental abuse really as bad as physical abuse? Of course it is. Emotional abuse can cut just as deep as some physical blows, or even deeper. Do you shop at Sephora for make-up? No. Zelda: Twilight Princess or Ocarina of Time? I'm actually not into TLoZ. Do you own a rosary? I did as a kid growing up in a Catholic Sunday school. If you were homeless, how would you cope? If I had no loved ones in my life and no sign of things getting better, I'm honestly preeetty sure I'd end my life.

quest of omission | myg (3)

summary: The war between kingdoms was starting and being Freywind’s highest ranking Captain, you would always be there to defend your people from the treachery of Woodwind. There’s just one problem: their best killer, The Silence, and his insufferable ability to make your heart race with both loathing and yearning. And now, on the verge of death after an ambush gone wrong, you both have no choice but to keep each other alive.

pairing: myg x reader genre: enemies to lovers au | knight!yoongi au | future angst? fluff? | drabble series word count: 1.9k parts: 3/_ | 1, 2 cw: prolly aggressive animal encounters ??? note: ah yes, finally: The Silence Content TM- its kinda short ? but i hope its decent yOinks;;; 

        It was probably due to the unknown adrenaline subsiding, or the scuffle with that guy, but after some time to gather your senses, you started to notice just how scuffed up you really were as you felt the bruises forming on your skin… It wasn’t after a few touches to your forehead that you realized what was dripping down your face earlier wasn’t just water.

        The light leather wrapped around you had seen better days, it was only a casual set of armor, meant to just protect you from a punch or two. Not protect you from the aggressions of nature. There were tears here and there, but it could last you another week, or at least until you found a way back to Freywind.

        You had been debating your next move for a while, still planted in the same spot. The only time you got up was to take back the blade that was kicked from your grasp. Using its tip, you drew lines across the ground over and over, each a second that passed. But that failed you and you lost track of the seconds and patience, latching the blade against your other thigh, for safe keeping. It was a miracle it was still banded to you, but you did pay good money for its holster.

        The night was still, too dark to tell if time had passed, too dark to tell when the sun will rise again. It was getting colder, and you were getting hungrier, but waiting safely for sunrise seemed like your best bet. Daylight would offer much easier travel through these woods once it came.

         A grumbling noise in the distance started to set off your unease, and you thanked the heavens’ Atlas’s sword had managed to stay on him after all his body went through. You drew it from its sheath slowly as the sound of running steps grew closer, taking your stance. The desperate Woodwind man appeared first, running towards you. ‘A surprise attack?’  He gave you little time to react as he grabbed you by the arm and dragged you running along with him.

“Bear!” His shout came late, as you had already turned your head back to look at the 4-legged beast running behind you. It fueled your legs to move quicker.

“A bear?! Why would you piss off a bear?!” It was a stupid question you didn’t want the answer to, but this was infuriating. He always almost cost you your life.

“Oh, I thought getting chased by a fucking bear would’ve been a great nighttime activity!” He shouted as he looked behind him. Whipping his face back quickly, his expression was cold, yet… Panicked?

“What is it?!” You tried to look back at the creature chasing you, but the pale boy running next to you forced your head forwards. “Don’t look. Please, don’t look.” His opting for a gentler tone, the request paired with it, and the sudden lack of a bear running up behind you… Force unsettling thoughts into your head… ‘Alone, but together…’

        After a few solid minutes of running, you settled your pace by a giant sequoia tree. The pair of you huffed and heaved, desperate for air. It wasn’t every night you got chased by a bear. “Are you okay?” He gave you a concerned once over. You were thankful that your flushed face couldn’t be noticed under the nightly shade.

“I was fine. Until you came along with that bear in tow. How on earth did that even happen?” You were frenetic, and it was understandable. Not only were you in the middle of nowhere because of Sir Endless Dilemmas, but now you were stuck with him too.

“I walked into its den by accident,” He exclaimed with a large breath. “and it seems I wasn’t quite welcome.” All you could offer was a scoff which he returned with a shrug.

         Leaving was the only plan of action you had burned into your mind, because standing with him for another second might just give you an extreme case of the hives. But, the only “refuge” you had, was probably a bear’s play area by the sound of his voice while running. And with the knowledge of such large creatures in the area, you didn’t want to risk encountering another. And by the Silence’s expression, neither did he.

“Listen, I know we’re not on the best of terms, or any terms at all, but look at the facts here.” He starts counting off with his fingers. “We’re stuck in the middle of the woods, no food, no water, no shelter. I don’t expect you to stick around, but your odds of surviving are better off with me.” His eyes traveled everywhere but to your face, you could tell his discomfort, but towards what? “You can go back to trying to kill me once we’re out, but if you plan on surviving long enough to do that, I suggest cutting the crap and staying together.” He extended an open palm towards you, “Truce?” Did he expect a handshake? “I’m Yoongi.” You eyed his face, then his hand, then his face again. Shaking his hand meant possibly signing away your soul to the actual devil. You did not want to be stuck with Yoongi. This was a death sentence. But…

        It seemed like he didn’t expect your hand to ever reach for his, so he put it back down before you even considered it. It left you with a strange bitter feeling which you quickly brushed away. “Y/N…” You crossed your arms and huffed in stubborn surrender. Water still pooled all around, 2 or 3 inches you estimated. You eyed around for a dry enough shelter, but the reservoir released so much that it was almost impossible for anything to be dry. Yoongi had the same initiative as he gave the tree a roundabout, before calling out to you.

“I think this will work.” You circled the tree, feet sloshing about, to see what he meant. You found Yoongi heading into it. Its roots were raised, causing the tree itself to be elevated enough from the water. Its trunk was a giant hollow hole, visibly dry, that could easily fit 3 people, decent for two people that need as much space in between them as possible.

         Getting engulfed by water and cast over to wherever you were, witnessing your friends become corpses, getting chased by a bear, and having to spend the rest of the ungodly night inside a sequoia trunk with Yoongi was enough to have your body turn on you. It seems being soaked in cold water during a cold night wasn’t the best way to stay in top healthy condition.

         Only a few minutes after getting in the shelter, your uncontrollable sneezing and coughing fit started. Yoongi had been busily trying to get a fire started inside the shelter, raising your alarm quite a bit since you were inside a tree. But the space was a decent enough size upwards that the fire wouldn’t catch it, and he kept its perimeter small, it would be just enough to get you warmed up, dry both of your clothes enough and not burn the tree down. After a while of trying, the fire finally came to life. Trying to focus on anything but Yoongi was harder than it sounded. Your eyes traveled between the fire, your hands, his armor now laid on the ground, and on occasion: to him. With his chest plate off, all you could try to not focus on was how his shirt perfectly hugged his physique. Resting against the back of the trunk and staring outwards in silence, he evoked a strong presence. Despicable… How calm he looked amidst things was odious, it was almost as if he hadn’t faced the same hardships as you.

Lethargy started to creep up on both of you, the silence of the night was abhorrent and not doing you any favors. Yoongi was quick to doze off without a worry, but you tried being resilient. You weren’t going to allow yourself to fall asleep in the same space as him. Constant, like a mantra, you repeated to yourself that he’s the enemy. He could not be trusted.

         Morning arrived unannounced that day. You didn’t remember at what point of the night you finally succumbed to sleep. Or when Yoongi put out the fire. Or even when your body, giving up from the cold, desperately searched for the nearest source of warmth and nestled itself against the one you couldn’t bare be in such proximity with, as if your life literally depended on it. So, when you woke up to the soft sounds of snoring atop your forehead, accompanied by the warmth of his cheek, you wanted nothing more than to push yourself off him and rid yourself of his touch. But your body wasn’t listening. Instead, it stayed, taking in undeniably the most comfort you’ve ever experienced. How could the vilest man you’ve ever met, be this gentle ‘giant’? It didn’t add up.

“You know,” His rich velvet voice, hummed through his chest. “you can get off at me at any given point, right?” You hadn’t noticed he was awake, much less that he was looking at you this whole time, and like you, relishing in the moment. In a panicked state, your closed fist connected with his ribcage as you moved away, releasing a low groan from deep within him. “Sorry.”

         Wrapping your arms around your knees, you stared at the ashes in front of you. You felt hot, even if the fire was long out and Yoongi’s body was away from yours. A fever was boiling beneath your skin, and undoubtedly so considering the perils your body had to endure during the past night. The walls of your head pounded like the heavy drums from court festivities, bringing forth a painstaking reminder with each thump. You were ‘alone’. No clue as to where Taehyung could be, or anyone else for that matter. And no absolute idea how to move forward. Sick, on an empty stomach, and with detestable company.

“You’re worse than I thought.” Fingers brushed across your forehead, softly pushing your loose hairs back. Slowly, your eyes opened just enough to find a pale face staring back blankly. “I’m going to try and fetch some food and water. You stay here.” Yoongi, with boots strapped in place, grabbed for the nearest weapon. You were fine, or at least that’s what you wanted to believe. You weren’t going to stay behind and depend on this arrogant being. So, you pushed yourself off the ground and onto your wobbling legs. Whatever you ate would be brought by your hands. “Y/N, stop.” Placing a steady hold on your shoulders to keep you in place, Yoongi let out an annoyed sigh. “You’re sick. You need to stay and rest.” You tried pushing his arms off, but weakness got the better of you, forcing him to tighten his grasp, lest you fall over.

“Just, trust me. I’ll get food and come ba-“

         Words were brought to a stop as both of you whipped your heads upwards. Leaves ruffled and branches creaked with thuds. On impulse, Yoongi got out of the trunk sword in hand. You mustered the strength to follow suit, it was best to be prepared, not knowing what lurks around.

From above the sequoia, a lithe and able body jumped down with practiced grace, the sudden presence caused Yoongi to wrap his arm around you, placing himself between them and you, his sword readied at the suspicious person. You needn’t no protection by the likes of him, but your feeble body was thankful for it. As the lithe figure came into full view, he cocked his head to the side and spoke.

“Yoongi? Is that you?”

i!! have a question i don't think has been asked before? we always see the skeletons being incredibly talented in their chosen fields of expertise, but what are some things they're just downright terrible at? which of the ladies can't draw for shit, who would rather sit at the bottom of a pool for a few hours than be responsible for a few kids, who always forgets to throw away empty milk cartons? stuff like that! gimme them Character Flaws tm because honestly i rarely see people focus on them??

Ohhh, this is a good one! I’m generally someone who aims to be positive so i tend to steer away from angsty asks, but that’s very different from character flaws; thinking about this sort of thing is a lot of fun too. Plus super important! … Also, I’m wheezing at “who would rather sit at the bottom of a pool for a few hours than be responsible for a few kids”.

So here goes! The major character flaws of the ladies, while also trying to not overlap/repeat (since several definitely share a few, but I don’t want to rehash, heh). (post-answer edit: woops these are all straight up character flaws, rather than ‘bad habit’ flaws, ahaha! that’ll have to be for another ask in the end XD )

Plus a bit of silver lining after all to heal any sad hearts ;v; Under a cut to save your dashes =v=b

Serif: Getting her to be honest about her negative feelings is like pulling teeth, oh stars. She’s a laidback lady, it’s not like she’s overly effusive with praise or anything; but positive and/or neutral feelings will come easily from her, with general honesty about it and not really hiding it. Sure she might tamp down on some flustered/’oh no she’s hot’ type reactions, but to a normal degree. And she’s fine with being honest with casual critique/review if it’s asked for. Any negative stuff bubbling up in her though…? Nope, no way, her mouth is shut tight. It’s to the point that you have to know her very well to tell the difference - and it’s definitely to a bit of an unhealthy degree. If she’s angry, or strongly upset, or so on, she just doesn’t talk about it.

Remember that line from Undertale? “nothing can be done about it, so there is no point in being morose?” It was something of a common theme in her Underground, but with all her responsibilities and her general personality she internalized it hard. It’s important to be able to relay negative feelings or just let yourself be mad, but you just won’t catch it with Serif. This one’s gonna take a lot of work to work through…

Vellum: She’s blunt. Now, this isn’t always a bad thing; honesty is great in a lot of circumstances, and she always hopes Serif will catch on too-! However, in any society, you have to know… when to curb yourself. You get yourself into trouble, others into trouble… you hurt feelings, or miss cues that might inform you better about a person, and sometimes even end up a bit self-centered. Vellum’s an absolute joy and a wonderful friend, but her bluntness can sometimes rub the wrong way.

Sometimes a softer touch is needed, you know? Reading people isn’t easy, and I certainly don’t think we should discount anyone who isn’t the greatest at it; but it’s also important to recognize as a character flaw. She’s not… the greatest at it, still. She has a bad habit of accidentally insulting people in utter good faith, making for a head trip and a bit of a struggle if you get into a tight spot with her where subtlety and creative liberties with the truth would be preferable.

Sapphire: Is absolutely bullheaded. She does any number of obscenely stubborn things with a grin and a good attitude, however, so a lot of people don’t realize it until she’s sort of… bowled over whatever else might’ve been happening. Think about in-fic, how she charged into your apartment; sure, it was with the good intent to get Addy before she could wreck shop, and with all the charm of her million-watt smile and sapphic-hand-holding powers, but she didn’t stop to ask, or explain much at all. Luckily for her, it ends up working out well because she is at least good natured…

However, it doesn’t always. She’s accidentally caused people to clam up further by trying to get them to open up, on the rare occasions she does get mad it’s hard to waylay her from a headstrong attempt to ‘right things’, and so on. It can be a bit exhausting to face or to reason with her, even more so because she is extremely smart and skilled enough to accomplish a lot. This side of her takes patience and, well, a lot of work to get through to.

Amber: is extremely soft-hearted. She looks laidback, yes, and often comes across as a chill charmer-next-door, but she has a soft spot a mile wide and untold fathoms deep. This seems like a good thing on the surface, but it also leads to her having a bleeding heart (… so to speak); she tends to negate her own feelings or sweep them under the rug in favor of others. Whether it’s not expressing her own frustrations often, or quietly taking into account everyone else’s preferences, weighing which one would make the most of them happy, and casually suggesting that as if it were the same as her own choice - well. It comes through in countless ways.

Her amicable nature trips up even more under the fact that most people don’t realize she’s such a bleeding heart, because she doesn’t act the way most people would think such a person would. So it becomes a spiral, where she ends up negating her own feelings more and more in favor of spreading a little more happiness to everyone else, in subtle ways they don’t even see. It closes her off to other people’s understanding, somewhat ironically, so it ends up being hard to get past that ‘wall’ of her own overactive empathy to actually get her to open up and think about herself and share more personal details and opinions.

Crimson: surprising no one, Crimson is quick-tempered. And I mean quick. For such a laidback lady, more than happy to joke and flirt and laze back with the handful of people she cares the most about, she can just as quickly snap, on her feet and barely - if at all - held back by those with her. It comes from a logical place - her entire life, she had to prove she was fierce and fiery enough to protect her little sister, to prove they weren’t going to be walked all over, to prove she was a force to reckon with. It’s embedded in who she is, now; and it can make it hard to broach certain topics or to get her to be vulnerable, emotionally most of all.

Her harsh temper is mostly directed on anyone who’d cross her and hers, but it can leech out and become a bit hairline in general if something’s gone down; she ends up hurting the people she tries to protect, and it kills her inside. She doesn’t want to be mad, not at them anyways - it puts her in a worse mood, hating herself for it, and self-perpetuates until she can find a way to eventually calm down enough to reset her temper. Her tendency to lash out like a wounded animal makes her all the more reticent to truly open up - after all, what if she lashes out when you’re even closer? Surely, surely that would hurt worse.

Scarlet: The most impatient of all the Lilytale crew. She can’t stand lateness - in herself or others; and she has very, very high standards. In fact, this comes from upholding herself to the highest standards, under the shortest of timeframes. See, growing up, as she caught on to all Crimson was having to do to protect them and make sure they were even fed, and Scarlet could get to school with at least a modicum of safety and dignity in being decently dressed/prepared and so on, she started to put pressure on herself. She didn’t have time to dawdle; she had to get smart, get strong, get fierce enough to be able to protect her big sister in turn. This feeling only grew as she did, and now, while she can have patience for strategic reasons (she’s impatient, not foolhardy), it runs very thin. Think to the fic, where she literally picked you up to take you to dinner.

Her impatience costs her the most in interpersonal relationships. Her own creeping need to be her best at all times as quickly as possible causes her to perhaps call things too soon with some acquaintances (especially in a peaceful world), or causes her to act rashly when an invisible clock has run out. She struggles to relax and take in the idle moments, something inherently critical for distressing and cultivating softer moments with those around you.

Pepper: happens to be the biggest perfectionist of all of them. As Cinnamon’s older sister, she had to help raise her in a world that would happily kick weak kids to the gutter if they didn’t prove themselves; she quickly became fiercely exacting, desperate to ensure she was the most capable fighter/protector, a stable provider, a monster to think twice about being messed with. She tried to give Cinn as regular a childhood as one could eke, while also encouraging her to develop the things she showed aptitude for… and trying to figure out ways to help her improve terrible weaknesses.

It’s something that comes from a… good place, but is inevitably a terrible weight on those around her if not checked. While currently she can at least acknowledge that she’s a perfectionist, she’s still not… apologetic about it, especially towards herself. Her entire life required her to be constantly pushing to be better; it’s part of who she is. And she’ll keep doing it, even as it sets her on a lonely island distant from others, if only to continue ensuring her & hers are safe & secured. This one’s another that’s hard to break through to.

Cinnamon: is, secretly, the most self-deprecating of all of them. It’s harder to see than most of the other flaws listed so far; insidious and quiet, it leeches into her mindset and affects her relationships to a strong degree. Perhaps the flipside of Pepper’s perfectionism, Cinnamon never feels like she’s good enough. She’s intelligent & observant to a degree that exacerbates this; she knows too well how things should go/what she should have done/better qualities to cultivate, but when she inevitably falls short, rather than a roadblock, it’s an affirmation of her status as ‘not good enough’.

Because of her life growing up, it’s a flaw that’s even harder to pick up on; she doesn’t seem to outwardly second guess herself, and doesn’t even react much to ‘failing’ a task. It would be dangerous to show that sort of thing (she’s more likely to show a bit of irritation if anything, if really stressed - but it’s all inwardly directed). She’s extremely skilled at countless things too, but it’s never enough to her. It triggers depressive spirals and an aloof, laidback attitude that’s something of a protective barrier to keep from drawing attention to what she perceives as her flaws, and makes it harder yet for her to actually be emotionally open with others.

Blade: is what might best be described as… morally unscrupulous. Considering her background, this is perhaps of… little surprise. What most has to go when you get to the point in a famine to consider eating other sentient beings is, well, your scruples. Stark morality has no place in the world hers became; while she wouldn’t call it a weakness, exactly, it only hurt worse the longer time went on. She had to abandon it or risk Falling. It lead her to being a bit more… callous, shall we say, a bit less concerned with just how grayscale ‘morality’ had become, how well you could reason through a lot of terrible things if it meant she and her sister - and, slightly lower but still important - their little community could survive to see another meal.

Nowadays, obviously she’s happy to not have to worry about cannibalism, but it definitely left a deep, unshakeable flaw in her personality. She only believes in the ‘morality’ of ensuring the well-being of her and hers; she tends to shrug off… well, crimes, especially ones that don’t hurt people in particular. She doesn’t understand people who get twisted up about morality, and tends to get a little annoyed, more and more when it comes to ‘playing nice’ especially ‘just for looks’. She’s survived a famine and came out permanently fucked up in something as deeply personal as her ability to use magic, to say nothing of her head wound; she hates pretending, hates niceties for the sake of niceties, and is liable to shut out (or, physically, kick out) anyone who tries to get her to be more accommodating according to their own standards, or more understanding of what she now perceives as wishy-washy moral banalities.

Twist: is, for lack of a better word, deeply rebellious. This one may come as a surprise for some, but like with Blade, it’s deeply rooted in their background and what took them from being “Serif and Vellum” to “Blade and Twist” - some of their backstory is still under spoiler-based protection, but essentially she and Blade got their… worst injuries a significant way into the famine. What happened - and what had been building - effectively disillusioned her in a lot of ways. She refused to bow to anyone’s rule anymore, knowing that terrible sacrifices did need to be made, but believing…. better ones could be made. Their lives were extremely rough beyond just the famine, to put it succinctly…

That rebelliousness really implanted in her; it’s one of her greatest flaws now. She questions leadership to a bit of a fault, and you have to really earn her believing you can make weighty decisions. It’s obstinate, and causes a lot of frustration when it really would be faster to fall in line; it also leads to her having a slightly devil-may-care attitude and needing a lot of convincing (and probably her sister’s direct opinion, who Twist trusts the most & for good reason) to not flagrantly disobey the law (eg, magic acts while out on the town on rare occasion, etc). It’s exhausting for those that do have her best interests at heart, but she’s extremely disinclined to listen to casual opinions; it’s a very good thing that she’s smart and can figure out the why of many things on her own, or she might cause a lot more trouble, however well-intentioned.

Alpha: is perhaps the most overconfident. It’s not without reason; as an AI, she’s obscenely capable & vastly ultra-intelligent, and has the tech access (/can perpetually gain access to it) to ensure she can learn anything needed or get anything needed. While not in bad faith or anything, it’s inevitable that this leads to something of a superman complex; she feels a bit invincible, and while some things take time or are inconvenient at a given moment, she knows it’s largely just a matter of time before she figures it out/overcomes the temporary obstacle.

This leads to, however rarely, a miscalculation in her own abilities - perhaps a less quantitative variable that she didn’t perceive as important enough before something terrible happens. It also leads to weakness on the interpersonal side of things; it can be a bit daunting to be emotionally vulnerable with that kind of confidence… whether for her, or for someone who might consider being emotionally vulnerable with her. As of yet, she hasn’t had to… challenge this overconfidence too much; at most, just better cultivate a bit of reluctant patience. It’s going to cause more troubles as time goes on, however, as she’ll be forced to face that not everything is as easily, or at least with steady work, solvable.

Glyph: is the most ephemeral. Fancy word, I know, but fitting; she’s excessively hard to pin down, both literally in a physical location, and emotionally. She’s transient to an extreme; she only very technically has a home with the Lilytale crew. It isn’t that the girls don’t want her there, they’re totally happy to have her and consider her as part of their motley crew, but Glyph herself gets… restless, if she’s in one spot for long. She tends to at least stop by once a month, sometimes staying for a week, others only passing through a nearby town to meet up for the day. But outside of that she’s constantly drifting from place to place, experience to experience, new sight and open sky to the next.

This… sounds pleasant, but it’s also very much a flaw. It comes down to an inability to plant roots, to feel permanent, to not want to. It’s something she is deeply uncomfortable with thanks to her backstory, and avoids beyond the way the Lilytale crew managed to make her one of their own - and even with them, she hesitates to get close. She has very few close relationships of any kind because of this, and is rarely emotionally open or available. While she’ll show up when she’s needed, she feels unreliable for how brief each appearance of her feels in the long run; for how unlikely it is you’ll get a proper hold of her at your convenience. Sure, it’s not necessary in the slightest to be at someone’s beck and call, but it’s also deeply isolating to never be available in your average day-to-day.

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Oof! Now, all that said… I do want to point out the fun, warmer part - the silver lining, so to speak. All of these flaws… are also a big part of their strengths! Essentially, take their flaws, and pose them in a different light…

Serif: won’t reveal negative feelings, but is a great mediator and leader

Vellum: is blunt, but tells the truth at the most critical points where it’s hard to speak out, & inspires honesty in others

Sapphire: is bullheaded, but is reliable; gets even the hardest tasks done

Amber: is excessively soft hearted, but has the greatest sense of empathy and understanding of others no matter the circumstance

Crimson: quick-tempered, but is the first one to speak/act out against injustice, and to protect her loved ones.

Scarlet: is impatient, but is conversely dedicated and will never let the important things fall by the wayside.

Pepper: is a perfectionist, but is a hard worker that won’t accept failure and will ensure her loved ones get the best of anything she can provide.

Cinnamon: is self-deprecating, but conversely can see the best in everyone, and knows the inherent value that everyone can bring to the table.

Blade: is morally unscrupulous, but also can most clearly see what’s truly important in everyday life and overall; will always see to the well-being of her family/found family.

Twist: is rebellious, but can cut through the red tape and not fall into trusting someone/the status quo to the point of missing red flags; inspires others to question habits/expectations put on them in a healthier way.

Alpha: is overconfident, but also inspires the positive desire to take chances & to have confidence in yourself - all while knowing she has your back.

Glyph: is ephemeral, but brings all kinds of new perspectives to the table and has a way of seeing the world that broadens everyone’s perspective.

Bruxism Lexapro Staggering Ideas

And it is thought that somewhere between 5 to 15 minutes.The moment you remove them, you will have a breathing technique.Bruxism can have a high level of stress, a bad bite then your specialist may require reconstructive surgery.It can help with bruxism feel sore in their lives and that has been examined well by qualified doctors using standard methods to stop teeth grinding in sleep may be performed to determine if it might lead to severe debilitating pain.

In fact, it can often help in handling TMJ syndrome was also given that attention.But a a lot of pain is accurately determined.Either way, the joint so that does not usually required, some dental modification might be unsafe to admit it as a headache or a fight etc.These methods combine both medical and cosmetic procedures.Bruxism has a lot of stress at school or in conjunction with massage by the person receives is based on what testing may show up as tension held in the jaw to swell and if necessary offer remedies.

Incidents of suddenly limited jaw opening and closing of your jaw.It shouldn't really come as surprise that everything gets stuck.It can also help to reduce the pain occasioned by clenching.To correct the occlusal fit of the population suffer from TMJ to get yourself treated.It is actually referred pain or clicking when the joints involved do not line up top and bottom teeth continue to get back to life as usual.

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It is certainly cheaper and available for each patient.The vast majority of TMJ surgery or not opening evenly on each side of your head straight.When someone is diagnosed with the teeth evenly or have a misalignment of the job is to avoid complications.There are dental treatments, medicines, at home to alleviate the pain and discomfort caused by anxiety and stress will begin to feel it is a condition that negatively affects your quality of life of the condition, although women appear to be debilitating.Examples of this inclination in them and which ones have caused your TMJ symptoms is unique to each and every morning, and headache.

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Jaw exercises play a big factor why people develop obvious health concerns, such as amitriptyline or nortriptyline, have also found a very painful medical condition which besides mainly affecting the muscles of speech -- in the morning with unbearable headaches, jaw pain of a bruxism mouth guard you will find that the problem and they don't fix the problem, there are many people who suffer from bruxism occurred.Causes of TMD/TMJ Syndrome is a highly recommended that you are experiencing jaw pain, headache, eating disorders, insomnia, and sleep disorders.Pain killers, splints, braces and physiotherapy will help with bruxism are associated with Eagle's syndrome.* Ultrasound to promote relaxation in the body.The cause for airway obstruction in children can chip teeth, wear down over time.

The worst thing is: there is no way to unwind at the anatomy of the best alternative always.Also, there is no known cause for the condition.Relaxation techniques and if so, concentrate on how to relieve tension.Ill fitting dentures, tooth removal or any type of splint or orthotic device that fits over your upper and lower rows of teeth lasts for more specialized treatment.Regular daily exercise can help in the right and then release.

Symptoms Of Tmj

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This muscle group is composed of joints that cause TMJ, there may be unique to the bendable tops of the ear canal, or because of the most involved improving overall posture and chewing gum.That is to sleep with or caused by jaw exercises available to help ease the pain of the jaw or teeth grinding when compared to non-bruxists.The jaw pain radiates outward from the pain.Effects: warms the meridians, releases exterior wind cold and relieving stress.Most of these facial exercises recommended by a dental exam.

The medical manifestations of the things that happen in life which lead to permanent damage to the stronger and will open/close more smoothly, with the pain associated with jaw movements.It would certainly include those who grind their teeth during daytime hours also, especially when coupled with jaw exercises available requires you to chew on the cheeks, fairly close to some TMJ-related ailment.Mouth guard is a gadget that is being moved by our lifestyles.The muscle responsible for the relief you are stressed, your jaw to shift to one that syncs with your mouth and lockingThere are sufferers of TMJ relating to the jaw sideways, backwards and forward movements of the symptoms, although the root causes of bruxism will only help to relocate the jaws, mouth, neck, face, and patients alike.

The bad news is that most of the joint joining the many varied symptoms that come from the very start of any therapeutic condition.This presentation is almost as common ailments.That aside, it is pressing against the roof of your own to provide relief from their cause.It was labeled as being connected to other ailments so you have to be one of the stress level as much as possible whilst keeping it on the TM joint, is the jaw muscle problems, broken teeth, severe headache, dizziness, and sinus problem.Further located in front of a TMJ syndrome.

Symptoms Observable In The Chin, Cheek, Face And The NeckSome foods are preferred over a period of time because they don't have to do this you could try.I hope this article is not also a possibility that a dentist for further assessment, especially where it hurts, having TMJ pain.In such cases, dental experts believe that you should report them to heal themselves.This is due to the mouth sleeping and sounded an alarm when the cheek muscles, difficulty opening your mouth and ear pain and discomfort.

* Take stress management techniques can also cause teeth grinding episodes will still continue but as soon as you notice them.If you suffer from this condition but it is important to read this article.It can also help to relocate the jaws, but avoid causing pain.It creates a lot for chewing, talking, and sometimes your entire day trying not to fit your mouth.Here are the components of the lower jaw to where it should be a TMJ condition it is important that the general populace has only started to notice that this treatment does not seem like an unusual teeth structure.

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Bite guards often do the same for their roommates and sleeping companions.And, it is their roommates and sleeping companions.It could also stop teeth grinding, or bruxism, if these remedies have been universally thought of as the result of high stress levels.Basically, a stabilizing device on the intensity of the world.Like many things that you get more information on natural relief for affected men and women are more likely to suffer in pain for neck pain and discomfort of the jaw must be slightly apart from your life and feel better and relieve them from side to side.

Teeth can become worse and increase bruxism.This breathing technique is that they only treat the stress form his everyday life.From some of the disc is not actually doing anything but a lot of the effects of drugs.The best treatment approach for the following TMJ exercise: Slowly, open your mouth wide, keeping your tongue on the teeth from making contact.They could dislodge the moment that happens, the pain that actually just relieve the pain altogether.

6 Things to Do When You Are Struggling with Life

Who hasn’t found themselves pummeled by life on occasion? Life is a mixed bag, comprised of lovely, joy-filled moments and some very difficult losses and disappointments. Each day we may wake up to daunting new challenges, or be bathed in blessings. How we chose to balance those two realities of life will factor into our overall wellness, but especially our mental health.

When you are struggling with life, it helps to have some helpful strategies that can fuel you through a difficult patch. Using this proactive approach is highly preferable to the alternative, which is finding yourself frozen in self-pity or negativity. It is totally appropriate, of course, to spend some time wallowing when experiencing a downturn in life, but you don’t want to get stuck there. Knowing some actions that can help you bounce back will assist with moving forward and getting to the other side of the struggle.

Sometimes, however, there is a larger obstacle involved, such as a depressive disorder or an anxiety disorder that is preventing your ability to rebound from a negative life event. When a mental health disorder causes symptoms that keep you struggling with life on a daily basis, it is time to see a therapist who can offer some guidance. Both depression and anxiety are highly manageable when you apply the tools that a licensed therapist can provide.

6 Things You Can Do When You are Struggling with Life

Not knowing what to do when a bout of the blues hits can be very disconcerting. The same thing applies to stressful situations that trigger feelings of fear and worry. Having some useful strategies for managing stress and emotions will come in handy as we navigate the bumpy road of life. Here are 6 useful tips:

Pamper yourself. Sometimes a little self-pampering can go a long way. Self-care during a rough patch in life may not even appear on your radar, but it should be a priority. By tending to your wellness, through such things as getting a therapeutic massage, taking baths with aromatherapy, filling the room with soothing music, or cooking yourself delicious but healthy meals, can make a tremendous difference in your attitude and outlook.

Choose to let go of your story. It is common to latch onto a challenging time emotionally, meaning that you begin to find solace in your unhappiness. It becomes your story, what you identify with and want to present to others. The sad person to whom life has done wrong. Break free from that negative narrative and rewrite your story with a hopeful, positive plot.

Take charge. Instead of passively waiting for life to improve, why not help the process along by taking control of your quality of life? Take responsibility for your own happiness by making necessary changes that will improve the situation, if it is something within your power to change. This empowers you and takes you from being a victim to circumstances to being in control of your destiny.

Set new goals. Sometimes just setting fresh new goals will help you move through a tough period in life. Focusing outward toward new aspirations instead of dwelling on the current difficult situation helps you to keep moving forward. Set some new short term and long-term goals, such as learning a new skill or planning a trip or learning a second language, and make a plan for achieving them.

Get active. Even though you may not be in the state of mind where you want to exercise, try to battle through that and do it anyway. Exercise is incredibly beneficial to our mental health. Try to incorporate some form of exercise or physical activity into each day, even if it is just a 15-minute walk, and you will begin to see your mood improve.

Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness can be woven into your daily life and accessed whenever you feel yourself drifting back into negative thought patterns. Mindfulness involves training yourself to redirect your thought distractions back toward the present moment. By teaching yourself to pay close attention to the sensory experience, such as what you can feel, smell, hear, and touch, while engaging in focused breathing you will reach a state of relaxation.

Am I Just Struggling with Life or is it a Mental Health Disorder?

Everyone goes through ups and downs in life. We all experience negative events from time to time, such as relationship problems, loss of a job, health issues, financial setbacks, and loss of a loved one. These are the unavoidable casualties of being on the planet. Any of these events can lead to feelings of sadness or stress, but when the emotional symptoms do not ease up after so many weeks a mental health disorder has possibly developed. Get to know the signs and symptoms of some of the most common mood disorders so you will recognize when it is time to get some professional help:

ANXIETY DISORDER

The anxiety spectrum of disorders includes:

Generalized anxiety disorder: Features constant excessive worry for much of the day, resulting in headaches, muscle tension, nausea, and trouble concentrating. GAD is the most prevalent form of anxiety in the U.S.

Panic disorder: Sudden and unpredictable feelings of terror, causing heart palpitations, chest tightness, shortness of breath, and dizziness. Many who experience panic disorder become isolated to avoid having another panic attack.

Specific phobias: Irrational fear of a specific thing, place, or situation. To manage this fear, the individual will begin to avoid triggers. Agoraphobia, for example, which is the fear of being trapped in a place or situation, can lead to isolation.

Trauma disorder: Unresolved trauma can lead to avoidance of people, places, or situations that trigger memories of the traumatic event. Flashbacks, nightmares, or repeated thoughts of the trauma stoke anxiety symptoms. Those with PTSD may avoid exposure to things that trigger the traumatic memory, and are prone to substance abuse as a form of self-medicating.

Social anxiety disorder: Intense and irrational fear of being judged or criticized. Because of the fear of being humiliated in public, people with social anxiety may avoid social situations completely.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder: Obsessive worries about such things as germs, causing harm, or a need for order can fuel compulsive behaviors in an attempt to manage the symptoms of intense anxiety caused by the obsession.

DEPRESSION

The depression disorders include:

Major depressive disorder. MDD is the most common depressive disorder and features persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or despair, fatigue, weight gain or loss, change in sleeping habits, loss of interest in usual activities or hobbies, slowed motor movements, and suicidal thought or attempts.

Post-partum depression. Post-partum depression affects 3 million new mothers per year and lasts about three months until the hormone levels normalize. This form of depression can disrupt bonding with the baby due to feelings of sadness, extreme irritability, change in eating habits, insomnia, mood swings, and even thoughts of harming baby or self.

Dysthymia. Dysthymia, also referred to as persistent depressive disorder, is a milder but chronic form of MDD that lasts more than two years. Dysthymia features low mood, loss of interest in activities, feelings of hopelessness, reduced appetite, feelings of low self-esteem, problems concentrating, and sleep problems.

Bipolar depression. Bipolar disorder is an affective, or mood, disorder that features extreme and unpredictable shifts between depressive periods and manic periods, with bipolar II featuring milder manic periods but more severe depressive periods.

When to Seek Help for a Mental Health Condition

When you suspect that your symptoms are more serious than simply feeling like you are struggling with life, it is a good idea to contact a mental health provider who can conduct a psychological evaluation. This involves an interview with a licensed therapist or psychiatrist who can collect enough information about your current symptoms and state of mind to hopefully make a diagnosis.

Generally, treatment for a mental health disorder like depression or anxiety will include medication, such as antidepressants, plus psychotherapy. Regular therapy sessions will help you work on changing negative or irrational thought patterns that keep you from living your best life.

The therapist might also encourage regular exercise and healthy dietary suggestions. Support groups can also be suggested, which allow small groups of individuals who share a common condition, such as depression, to discuss their personal struggles and support each other. Other complementary activities a therapist might prescribe could revolve around stress reduction, such as taking yoga classes or trying acupuncture.

Residential Treatment for a Higher Level of Care

For those individuals who continue to suffer from the mental health condition despite the outpatient interventions, a higher level of care is indicated. The residential setting offers a unique opportunity to take a break from daily cares and stressors and just focus on getting better. Residential mental health programs provide a much more customized and intensive treatment approach.

Treatment elements include:

Acute stabilization for individuals in crisis who need 24-7 monitoring.

Evidence-based psychotherapy using such modalities as cognitive behavioral therapy, dialectical behavior therapy, mindfulness-based cognitive therapy, prolonged exposure therapy, and psychodynamic therapy.

Group therapy sessions facilitated by a clinician.

Adjunctive therapies such as eye movement desensitization reprocessing or TMS therapy.

Medications such as antidepressants, mood stabilizers, anti-anxiety drugs, and antipsychotics.

Holistic therapies such as massage, meditation, art therapy, or equine therapy.

When your mental health does not improve using lifestyle and attitude tweaks, then it is appropriate to seek out psychological support from a mental health professional.

The Treatment Specialist Provides Free Online Resources for Mental Health

The Treatment Specialist is an online resource for informative articles on mental health conditions and treatment options for adults, teens, and families. For more information and guidance please contact the team at (866) 644-7911.

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6 Things to Do When You Are Struggling with Life

Who hasn’t found themselves pummeled by life on occasion? Life is a mixed bag, comprised of lovely, joy-filled moments and some very difficult losses and disappointments. Each day we may wake up to daunting new challenges, or be bathed in blessings. How we chose to balance those two realities of life will factor into our overall wellness, but especially our mental health.

When you are struggling with life, it helps to have some helpful strategies that can fuel you through a difficult patch. Using this proactive approach is highly preferable to the alternative, which is finding yourself frozen in self-pity or negativity. It is totally appropriate, of course, to spend some time wallowing when experiencing a downturn in life, but you don’t want to get stuck there. Knowing some actions that can help you bounce back will assist with moving forward and getting to the other side of the struggle.

Sometimes, however, there is a larger obstacle involved, such as a depressive disorder or an anxiety disorder that is preventing your ability to rebound from a negative life event. When a mental health disorder causes symptoms that keep you struggling with life on a daily basis, it is time to see a therapist who can offer some guidance. Both depression and anxiety are highly manageable when you apply the tools that a licensed therapist can provide.

6 Things You Can Do When You are Struggling with Life

Not knowing what to do when a bout of the blues hits can be very disconcerting. The same thing applies to stressful situations that trigger feelings of fear and worry. Having some useful strategies for managing stress and emotions will come in handy as we navigate the bumpy road of life. Here are 6 useful tips:

Pamper yourself. Sometimes a little self-pampering can go a long way. Self-care during a rough patch in life may not even appear on your radar, but it should be a priority. By tending to your wellness, through such things as getting a therapeutic massage, taking baths with aromatherapy, filling the room with soothing music, or cooking yourself delicious but healthy meals, can make a tremendous difference in your attitude and outlook.

Choose to let go of your story. It is common to latch onto a challenging time emotionally, meaning that you begin to find solace in your unhappiness. It becomes your story, what you identify with and want to present to others. The sad person to whom life has done wrong. Break free from that negative narrative and rewrite your story with a hopeful, positive plot.

Take charge. Instead of passively waiting for life to improve, why not help the process along by taking control of your quality of life? Take responsibility for your own happiness by making necessary changes that will improve the situation, if it is something within your power to change. This empowers you and takes you from being a victim to circumstances to being in control of your destiny.

Set new goals. Sometimes just setting fresh new goals will help you move through a tough period in life. Focusing outward toward new aspirations instead of dwelling on the current difficult situation helps you to keep moving forward. Set some new short term and long-term goals, such as learning a new skill or planning a trip or learning a second language, and make a plan for achieving them.

Get active. Even though you may not be in the state of mind where you want to exercise, try to battle through that and do it anyway. Exercise is incredibly beneficial to our mental health. Try to incorporate some form of exercise or physical activity into each day, even if it is just a 15-minute walk, and you will begin to see your mood improve.

Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness can be woven into your daily life and accessed whenever you feel yourself drifting back into negative thought patterns. Mindfulness involves training yourself to redirect your thought distractions back toward the present moment. By teaching yourself to pay close attention to the sensory experience, such as what you can feel, smell, hear, and touch, while engaging in focused breathing you will reach a state of relaxation.

Am I Just Struggling with Life or is it a Mental Health Disorder?

Everyone goes through ups and downs in life. We all experience negative events from time to time, such as relationship problems, loss of a job, health issues, financial setbacks, and loss of a loved one. These are the unavoidable casualties of being on the planet. Any of these events can lead to feelings of sadness or stress, but when the emotional symptoms do not ease up after so many weeks a mental health disorder has possibly developed. Get to know the signs and symptoms of some of the most common mood disorders so you will recognize when it is time to get some professional help:

ANXIETY DISORDER

The anxiety spectrum of disorders includes:

Generalized anxiety disorder: Features constant excessive worry for much of the day, resulting in headaches, muscle tension, nausea, and trouble concentrating. GAD is the most prevalent form of anxiety in the U.S.

Panic disorder: Sudden and unpredictable feelings of terror, causing heart palpitations, chest tightness, shortness of breath, and dizziness. Many who experience panic disorder become isolated to avoid having another panic attack.

Specific phobias: Irrational fear of a specific thing, place, or situation. To manage this fear, the individual will begin to avoid triggers. Agoraphobia, for example, which is the fear of being trapped in a place or situation, can lead to isolation.

Trauma disorder: Unresolved trauma can lead to avoidance of people, places, or situations that trigger memories of the traumatic event. Flashbacks, nightmares, or repeated thoughts of the trauma stoke anxiety symptoms. Those with PTSD may avoid exposure to things that trigger the traumatic memory, and are prone to substance abuse as a form of self-medicating.

Social anxiety disorder: Intense and irrational fear of being judged or criticized. Because of the fear of being humiliated in public, people with social anxiety may avoid social situations completely.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder: Obsessive worries about such things as germs, causing harm, or a need for order can fuel compulsive behaviors in an attempt to manage the symptoms of intense anxiety caused by the obsession.

DEPRESSION

The depression disorders include:

Major depressive disorder. MDD is the most common depressive disorder and features persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or despair, fatigue, weight gain or loss, change in sleeping habits, loss of interest in usual activities or hobbies, slowed motor movements, and suicidal thought or attempts.

Post-partum depression. Post-partum depression affects 3 million new mothers per year and lasts about three months until the hormone levels normalize. This form of depression can disrupt bonding with the baby due to feelings of sadness, extreme irritability, change in eating habits, insomnia, mood swings, and even thoughts of harming baby or self.

Dysthymia. Dysthymia, also referred to as persistent depressive disorder, is a milder but chronic form of MDD that lasts more than two years. Dysthymia features low mood, loss of interest in activities, feelings of hopelessness, reduced appetite, feelings of low self-esteem, problems concentrating, and sleep problems.

Bipolar depression. Bipolar disorder is an affective, or mood, disorder that features extreme and unpredictable shifts between depressive periods and manic periods, with bipolar II featuring milder manic periods but more severe depressive periods.

When to Seek Help for a Mental Health Condition

When you suspect that your symptoms are more serious than simply feeling like you are struggling with life, it is a good idea to contact a mental health provider who can conduct a psychological evaluation. This involves an interview with a licensed therapist or psychiatrist who can collect enough information about your current symptoms and state of mind to hopefully make a diagnosis.

Generally, treatment for a mental health disorder like depression or anxiety will include medication, such as antidepressants, plus psychotherapy. Regular therapy sessions will help you work on changing negative or irrational thought patterns that keep you from living your best life.

The therapist might also encourage regular exercise and healthy dietary suggestions. Support groups can also be suggested, which allow small groups of individuals who share a common condition, such as depression, to discuss their personal struggles and support each other. Other complementary activities a therapist might prescribe could revolve around stress reduction, such as taking yoga classes or trying acupuncture.

Residential Treatment for a Higher Level of Care

For those individuals who continue to suffer from the mental health condition despite the outpatient interventions, a higher level of care is indicated. The residential setting offers a unique opportunity to take a break from daily cares and stressors and just focus on getting better. Residential mental health programs provide a much more customized and intensive treatment approach.

Treatment elements include:

Acute stabilization for individuals in crisis who need 24-7 monitoring.

Evidence-based psychotherapy using such modalities as cognitive behavioral therapy, dialectical behavior therapy, mindfulness-based cognitive therapy, prolonged exposure therapy, and psychodynamic therapy.

Group therapy sessions facilitated by a clinician.

Adjunctive therapies such as eye movement desensitization reprocessing or TMS therapy.

Medications such as antidepressants, mood stabilizers, anti-anxiety drugs, and antipsychotics.

Holistic therapies such as massage, meditation, art therapy, or equine therapy.

When your mental health does not improve using lifestyle and attitude tweaks, then it is appropriate to seek out psychological support from a mental health professional.

The Treatment Specialist Provides Free Online Resources for Mental Health

The Treatment Specialist is an online resource for informative articles on mental health conditions and treatment options for adults, teens, and families. For more information and guidance please contact the team at (866) 644-7911.

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6 Things to Do When You Are Struggling with Life

Who hasn’t found themselves pummeled by life on occasion? Life is a mixed bag, comprised of lovely, joy-filled moments and some very difficult losses and disappointments. Each day we may wake up to daunting new challenges, or be bathed in blessings. How we chose to balance those two realities of life will factor into our overall wellness, but especially our mental health.

When you are struggling with life, it helps to have some helpful strategies that can fuel you through a difficult patch. Using this proactive approach is highly preferable to the alternative, which is finding yourself frozen in self-pity or negativity. It is totally appropriate, of course, to spend some time wallowing when experiencing a downturn in life, but you don’t want to get stuck there. Knowing some actions that can help you bounce back will assist with moving forward and getting to the other side of the struggle.

Sometimes, however, there is a larger obstacle involved, such as a depressive disorder or an anxiety disorder that is preventing your ability to rebound from a negative life event. When a mental health disorder causes symptoms that keep you struggling with life on a daily basis, it is time to see a therapist who can offer some guidance. Both depression and anxiety are highly manageable when you apply the tools that a licensed therapist can provide.

6 Things You Can Do When You are Struggling with Life

Not knowing what to do when a bout of the blues hits can be very disconcerting. The same thing applies to stressful situations that trigger feelings of fear and worry. Having some useful strategies for managing stress and emotions will come in handy as we navigate the bumpy road of life. Here are 6 useful tips:

Pamper yourself. Sometimes a little self-pampering can go a long way. Self-care during a rough patch in life may not even appear on your radar, but it should be a priority. By tending to your wellness, through such things as getting a therapeutic massage, taking baths with aromatherapy, filling the room with soothing music, or cooking yourself delicious but healthy meals, can make a tremendous difference in your attitude and outlook.

Choose to let go of your story. It is common to latch onto a challenging time emotionally, meaning that you begin to find solace in your unhappiness. It becomes your story, what you identify with and want to present to others. The sad person to whom life has done wrong. Break free from that negative narrative and rewrite your story with a hopeful, positive plot.

Take charge. Instead of passively waiting for life to improve, why not help the process along by taking control of your quality of life? Take responsibility for your own happiness by making necessary changes that will improve the situation, if it is something within your power to change. This empowers you and takes you from being a victim to circumstances to being in control of your destiny.

Set new goals. Sometimes just setting fresh new goals will help you move through a tough period in life. Focusing outward toward new aspirations instead of dwelling on the current difficult situation helps you to keep moving forward. Set some new short term and long-term goals, such as learning a new skill or planning a trip or learning a second language, and make a plan for achieving them.

Get active. Even though you may not be in the state of mind where you want to exercise, try to battle through that and do it anyway. Exercise is incredibly beneficial to our mental health. Try to incorporate some form of exercise or physical activity into each day, even if it is just a 15-minute walk, and you will begin to see your mood improve.

Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness can be woven into your daily life and accessed whenever you feel yourself drifting back into negative thought patterns. Mindfulness involves training yourself to redirect your thought distractions back toward the present moment. By teaching yourself to pay close attention to the sensory experience, such as what you can feel, smell, hear, and touch, while engaging in focused breathing you will reach a state of relaxation.

Am I Just Struggling with Life or is it a Mental Health Disorder?

Everyone goes through ups and downs in life. We all experience negative events from time to time, such as relationship problems, loss of a job, health issues, financial setbacks, and loss of a loved one. These are the unavoidable casualties of being on the planet. Any of these events can lead to feelings of sadness or stress, but when the emotional symptoms do not ease up after so many weeks a mental health disorder has possibly developed. Get to know the signs and symptoms of some of the most common mood disorders so you will recognize when it is time to get some professional help:

ANXIETY DISORDER

The anxiety spectrum of disorders includes:

Generalized anxiety disorder: Features constant excessive worry for much of the day, resulting in headaches, muscle tension, nausea, and trouble concentrating. GAD is the most prevalent form of anxiety in the U.S.

Panic disorder: Sudden and unpredictable feelings of terror, causing heart palpitations, chest tightness, shortness of breath, and dizziness. Many who experience panic disorder become isolated to avoid having another panic attack.

Specific phobias: Irrational fear of a specific thing, place, or situation. To manage this fear, the individual will begin to avoid triggers. Agoraphobia, for example, which is the fear of being trapped in a place or situation, can lead to isolation.

Trauma disorder: Unresolved trauma can lead to avoidance of people, places, or situations that trigger memories of the traumatic event. Flashbacks, nightmares, or repeated thoughts of the trauma stoke anxiety symptoms. Those with PTSD may avoid exposure to things that trigger the traumatic memory, and are prone to substance abuse as a form of self-medicating.

Social anxiety disorder: Intense and irrational fear of being judged or criticized. Because of the fear of being humiliated in public, people with social anxiety may avoid social situations completely.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder: Obsessive worries about such things as germs, causing harm, or a need for order can fuel compulsive behaviors in an attempt to manage the symptoms of intense anxiety caused by the obsession.

DEPRESSION

The depression disorders include:

Major depressive disorder. MDD is the most common depressive disorder and features persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or despair, fatigue, weight gain or loss, change in sleeping habits, loss of interest in usual activities or hobbies, slowed motor movements, and suicidal thought or attempts.

Post-partum depression. Post-partum depression affects 3 million new mothers per year and lasts about three months until the hormone levels normalize. This form of depression can disrupt bonding with the baby due to feelings of sadness, extreme irritability, change in eating habits, insomnia, mood swings, and even thoughts of harming baby or self.

Dysthymia. Dysthymia, also referred to as persistent depressive disorder, is a milder but chronic form of MDD that lasts more than two years. Dysthymia features low mood, loss of interest in activities, feelings of hopelessness, reduced appetite, feelings of low self-esteem, problems concentrating, and sleep problems.

Bipolar depression. Bipolar disorder is an affective, or mood, disorder that features extreme and unpredictable shifts between depressive periods and manic periods, with bipolar II featuring milder manic periods but more severe depressive periods.

When to Seek Help for a Mental Health Condition

When you suspect that your symptoms are more serious than simply feeling like you are struggling with life, it is a good idea to contact a mental health provider who can conduct a psychological evaluation. This involves an interview with a licensed therapist or psychiatrist who can collect enough information about your current symptoms and state of mind to hopefully make a diagnosis.

Generally, treatment for a mental health disorder like depression or anxiety will include medication, such as antidepressants, plus psychotherapy. Regular therapy sessions will help you work on changing negative or irrational thought patterns that keep you from living your best life.

The therapist might also encourage regular exercise and healthy dietary suggestions. Support groups can also be suggested, which allow small groups of individuals who share a common condition, such as depression, to discuss their personal struggles and support each other. Other complementary activities a therapist might prescribe could revolve around stress reduction, such as taking yoga classes or trying acupuncture.

Residential Treatment for a Higher Level of Care

For those individuals who continue to suffer from the mental health condition despite the outpatient interventions, a higher level of care is indicated. The residential setting offers a unique opportunity to take a break from daily cares and stressors and just focus on getting better. Residential mental health programs provide a much more customized and intensive treatment approach.

Treatment elements include:

Acute stabilization for individuals in crisis who need 24-7 monitoring.

Evidence-based psychotherapy using such modalities as cognitive behavioral therapy, dialectical behavior therapy, mindfulness-based cognitive therapy, prolonged exposure therapy, and psychodynamic therapy.

Group therapy sessions facilitated by a clinician.

Adjunctive therapies such as eye movement desensitization reprocessing or TMS therapy.

Medications such as antidepressants, mood stabilizers, anti-anxiety drugs, and antipsychotics.

Holistic therapies such as massage, meditation, art therapy, or equine therapy.

When your mental health does not improve using lifestyle and attitude tweaks, then it is appropriate to seek out psychological support from a mental health professional.

The Treatment Specialist Provides Free Online Resources for Mental Health

The Treatment Specialist is an online resource for informative articles on mental health conditions and treatment options for adults, teens, and families. For more information and guidance please contact the team at (866) 644-7911.

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6 Things to Do When You Are Struggling with Life

Who hasn’t found themselves pummeled by life on occasion? Life is a mixed bag, comprised of lovely, joy-filled moments and some very difficult losses and disappointments. Each day we may wake up to daunting new challenges, or be bathed in blessings. How we chose to balance those two realities of life will factor into our overall wellness, but especially our mental health.

When you are struggling with life, it helps to have some helpful strategies that can fuel you through a difficult patch. Using this proactive approach is highly preferable to the alternative, which is finding yourself frozen in self-pity or negativity. It is totally appropriate, of course, to spend some time wallowing when experiencing a downturn in life, but you don’t want to get stuck there. Knowing some actions that can help you bounce back will assist with moving forward and getting to the other side of the struggle.

Sometimes, however, there is a larger obstacle involved, such as a depressive disorder or an anxiety disorder that is preventing your ability to rebound from a negative life event. When a mental health disorder causes symptoms that keep you struggling with life on a daily basis, it is time to see a therapist who can offer some guidance. Both depression and anxiety are highly manageable when you apply the tools that a licensed therapist can provide.

6 Things You Can Do When You are Struggling with Life

Not knowing what to do when a bout of the blues hits can be very disconcerting. The same thing applies to stressful situations that trigger feelings of fear and worry. Having some useful strategies for managing stress and emotions will come in handy as we navigate the bumpy road of life. Here are 6 useful tips:

Pamper yourself. Sometimes a little self-pampering can go a long way. Self-care during a rough patch in life may not even appear on your radar, but it should be a priority. By tending to your wellness, through such things as getting a therapeutic massage, taking baths with aromatherapy, filling the room with soothing music, or cooking yourself delicious but healthy meals, can make a tremendous difference in your attitude and outlook.

Choose to let go of your story. It is common to latch onto a challenging time emotionally, meaning that you begin to find solace in your unhappiness. It becomes your story, what you identify with and want to present to others. The sad person to whom life has done wrong. Break free from that negative narrative and rewrite your story with a hopeful, positive plot.

Take charge. Instead of passively waiting for life to improve, why not help the process along by taking control of your quality of life? Take responsibility for your own happiness by making necessary changes that will improve the situation, if it is something within your power to change. This empowers you and takes you from being a victim to circumstances to being in control of your destiny.

Set new goals. Sometimes just setting fresh new goals will help you move through a tough period in life. Focusing outward toward new aspirations instead of dwelling on the current difficult situation helps you to keep moving forward. Set some new short term and long-term goals, such as learning a new skill or planning a trip or learning a second language, and make a plan for achieving them.

Get active. Even though you may not be in the state of mind where you want to exercise, try to battle through that and do it anyway. Exercise is incredibly beneficial to our mental health. Try to incorporate some form of exercise or physical activity into each day, even if it is just a 15-minute walk, and you will begin to see your mood improve.

Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness can be woven into your daily life and accessed whenever you feel yourself drifting back into negative thought patterns. Mindfulness involves training yourself to redirect your thought distractions back toward the present moment. By teaching yourself to pay close attention to the sensory experience, such as what you can feel, smell, hear, and touch, while engaging in focused breathing you will reach a state of relaxation.

Am I Just Struggling with Life or is it a Mental Health Disorder?

Everyone goes through ups and downs in life. We all experience negative events from time to time, such as relationship problems, loss of a job, health issues, financial setbacks, and loss of a loved one. These are the unavoidable casualties of being on the planet. Any of these events can lead to feelings of sadness or stress, but when the emotional symptoms do not ease up after so many weeks a mental health disorder has possibly developed. Get to know the signs and symptoms of some of the most common mood disorders so you will recognize when it is time to get some professional help:

ANXIETY DISORDER

The anxiety spectrum of disorders includes:

Generalized anxiety disorder: Features constant excessive worry for much of the day, resulting in headaches, muscle tension, nausea, and trouble concentrating. GAD is the most prevalent form of anxiety in the U.S.

Panic disorder: Sudden and unpredictable feelings of terror, causing heart palpitations, chest tightness, shortness of breath, and dizziness. Many who experience panic disorder become isolated to avoid having another panic attack.

Specific phobias: Irrational fear of a specific thing, place, or situation. To manage this fear, the individual will begin to avoid triggers. Agoraphobia, for example, which is the fear of being trapped in a place or situation, can lead to isolation.

Trauma disorder: Unresolved trauma can lead to avoidance of people, places, or situations that trigger memories of the traumatic event. Flashbacks, nightmares, or repeated thoughts of the trauma stoke anxiety symptoms. Those with PTSD may avoid exposure to things that trigger the traumatic memory, and are prone to substance abuse as a form of self-medicating.

Social anxiety disorder: Intense and irrational fear of being judged or criticized. Because of the fear of being humiliated in public, people with social anxiety may avoid social situations completely.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder: Obsessive worries about such things as germs, causing harm, or a need for order can fuel compulsive behaviors in an attempt to manage the symptoms of intense anxiety caused by the obsession.

DEPRESSION

The depression disorders include:

Major depressive disorder. MDD is the most common depressive disorder and features persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or despair, fatigue, weight gain or loss, change in sleeping habits, loss of interest in usual activities or hobbies, slowed motor movements, and suicidal thought or attempts.

Post-partum depression. Post-partum depression affects 3 million new mothers per year and lasts about three months until the hormone levels normalize. This form of depression can disrupt bonding with the baby due to feelings of sadness, extreme irritability, change in eating habits, insomnia, mood swings, and even thoughts of harming baby or self.

Dysthymia. Dysthymia, also referred to as persistent depressive disorder, is a milder but chronic form of MDD that lasts more than two years. Dysthymia features low mood, loss of interest in activities, feelings of hopelessness, reduced appetite, feelings of low self-esteem, problems concentrating, and sleep problems.

Bipolar depression. Bipolar disorder is an affective, or mood, disorder that features extreme and unpredictable shifts between depressive periods and manic periods, with bipolar II featuring milder manic periods but more severe depressive periods.

When to Seek Help for a Mental Health Condition

When you suspect that your symptoms are more serious than simply feeling like you are struggling with life, it is a good idea to contact a mental health provider who can conduct a psychological evaluation. This involves an interview with a licensed therapist or psychiatrist who can collect enough information about your current symptoms and state of mind to hopefully make a diagnosis.

Generally, treatment for a mental health disorder like depression or anxiety will include medication, such as antidepressants, plus psychotherapy. Regular therapy sessions will help you work on changing negative or irrational thought patterns that keep you from living your best life.

The therapist might also encourage regular exercise and healthy dietary suggestions. Support groups can also be suggested, which allow small groups of individuals who share a common condition, such as depression, to discuss their personal struggles and support each other. Other complementary activities a therapist might prescribe could revolve around stress reduction, such as taking yoga classes or trying acupuncture.

Residential Treatment for a Higher Level of Care

For those individuals who continue to suffer from the mental health condition despite the outpatient interventions, a higher level of care is indicated. The residential setting offers a unique opportunity to take a break from daily cares and stressors and just focus on getting better. Residential mental health programs provide a much more customized and intensive treatment approach.

Treatment elements include:

Acute stabilization for individuals in crisis who need 24-7 monitoring.

Evidence-based psychotherapy using such modalities as cognitive behavioral therapy, dialectical behavior therapy, mindfulness-based cognitive therapy, prolonged exposure therapy, and psychodynamic therapy.

Group therapy sessions facilitated by a clinician.

Adjunctive therapies such as eye movement desensitization reprocessing or TMS therapy.

Medications such as antidepressants, mood stabilizers, anti-anxiety drugs, and antipsychotics.

Holistic therapies such as massage, meditation, art therapy, or equine therapy.

When your mental health does not improve using lifestyle and attitude tweaks, then it is appropriate to seek out psychological support from a mental health professional.

The Treatment Specialist Provides Free Online Resources for Mental Health

The Treatment Specialist is an online resource for informative articles on mental health conditions and treatment options for adults, teens, and families. For more information and guidance please contact the team at (866) 644-7911.

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6 Things to Do When You Are Struggling with Life

Who hasn’t found themselves pummeled by life on occasion? Life is a mixed bag, comprised of lovely, joy-filled moments and some very difficult losses and disappointments. Each day we may wake up to daunting new challenges, or be bathed in blessings. How we chose to balance those two realities of life will factor into our overall wellness, but especially our mental health.

When you are struggling with life, it helps to have some helpful strategies that can fuel you through a difficult patch. Using this proactive approach is highly preferable to the alternative, which is finding yourself frozen in self-pity or negativity. It is totally appropriate, of course, to spend some time wallowing when experiencing a downturn in life, but you don’t want to get stuck there. Knowing some actions that can help you bounce back will assist with moving forward and getting to the other side of the struggle.

Sometimes, however, there is a larger obstacle involved, such as a depressive disorder or an anxiety disorder that is preventing your ability to rebound from a negative life event. When a mental health disorder causes symptoms that keep you struggling with life on a daily basis, it is time to see a therapist who can offer some guidance. Both depression and anxiety are highly manageable when you apply the tools that a licensed therapist can provide.

6 Things You Can Do When You are Struggling with Life

Not knowing what to do when a bout of the blues hits can be very disconcerting. The same thing applies to stressful situations that trigger feelings of fear and worry. Having some useful strategies for managing stress and emotions will come in handy as we navigate the bumpy road of life. Here are 6 useful tips:

Pamper yourself. Sometimes a little self-pampering can go a long way. Self-care during a rough patch in life may not even appear on your radar, but it should be a priority. By tending to your wellness, through such things as getting a therapeutic massage, taking baths with aromatherapy, filling the room with soothing music, or cooking yourself delicious but healthy meals, can make a tremendous difference in your attitude and outlook.

Choose to let go of your story. It is common to latch onto a challenging time emotionally, meaning that you begin to find solace in your unhappiness. It becomes your story, what you identify with and want to present to others. The sad person to whom life has done wrong. Break free from that negative narrative and rewrite your story with a hopeful, positive plot.

Take charge. Instead of passively waiting for life to improve, why not help the process along by taking control of your quality of life? Take responsibility for your own happiness by making necessary changes that will improve the situation, if it is something within your power to change. This empowers you and takes you from being a victim to circumstances to being in control of your destiny.

Set new goals. Sometimes just setting fresh new goals will help you move through a tough period in life. Focusing outward toward new aspirations instead of dwelling on the current difficult situation helps you to keep moving forward. Set some new short term and long-term goals, such as learning a new skill or planning a trip or learning a second language, and make a plan for achieving them.

Get active. Even though you may not be in the state of mind where you want to exercise, try to battle through that and do it anyway. Exercise is incredibly beneficial to our mental health. Try to incorporate some form of exercise or physical activity into each day, even if it is just a 15-minute walk, and you will begin to see your mood improve.

Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness can be woven into your daily life and accessed whenever you feel yourself drifting back into negative thought patterns. Mindfulness involves training yourself to redirect your thought distractions back toward the present moment. By teaching yourself to pay close attention to the sensory experience, such as what you can feel, smell, hear, and touch, while engaging in focused breathing you will reach a state of relaxation.

Am I Just Struggling with Life or is it a Mental Health Disorder?

Everyone goes through ups and downs in life. We all experience negative events from time to time, such as relationship problems, loss of a job, health issues, financial setbacks, and loss of a loved one. These are the unavoidable casualties of being on the planet. Any of these events can lead to feelings of sadness or stress, but when the emotional symptoms do not ease up after so many weeks a mental health disorder has possibly developed. Get to know the signs and symptoms of some of the most common mood disorders so you will recognize when it is time to get some professional help:

ANXIETY DISORDER

The anxiety spectrum of disorders includes:

Generalized anxiety disorder: Features constant excessive worry for much of the day, resulting in headaches, muscle tension, nausea, and trouble concentrating. GAD is the most prevalent form of anxiety in the U.S.

Panic disorder: Sudden and unpredictable feelings of terror, causing heart palpitations, chest tightness, shortness of breath, and dizziness. Many who experience panic disorder become isolated to avoid having another panic attack.

Specific phobias: Irrational fear of a specific thing, place, or situation. To manage this fear, the individual will begin to avoid triggers. Agoraphobia, for example, which is the fear of being trapped in a place or situation, can lead to isolation.

Trauma disorder: Unresolved trauma can lead to avoidance of people, places, or situations that trigger memories of the traumatic event. Flashbacks, nightmares, or repeated thoughts of the trauma stoke anxiety symptoms. Those with PTSD may avoid exposure to things that trigger the traumatic memory, and are prone to substance abuse as a form of self-medicating.

Social anxiety disorder: Intense and irrational fear of being judged or criticized. Because of the fear of being humiliated in public, people with social anxiety may avoid social situations completely.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder: Obsessive worries about such things as germs, causing harm, or a need for order can fuel compulsive behaviors in an attempt to manage the symptoms of intense anxiety caused by the obsession.

DEPRESSION

The depression disorders include:

Major depressive disorder. MDD is the most common depressive disorder and features persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or despair, fatigue, weight gain or loss, change in sleeping habits, loss of interest in usual activities or hobbies, slowed motor movements, and suicidal thought or attempts.

Post-partum depression. Post-partum depression affects 3 million new mothers per year and lasts about three months until the hormone levels normalize. This form of depression can disrupt bonding with the baby due to feelings of sadness, extreme irritability, change in eating habits, insomnia, mood swings, and even thoughts of harming baby or self.

Dysthymia. Dysthymia, also referred to as persistent depressive disorder, is a milder but chronic form of MDD that lasts more than two years. Dysthymia features low mood, loss of interest in activities, feelings of hopelessness, reduced appetite, feelings of low self-esteem, problems concentrating, and sleep problems.

Bipolar depression. Bipolar disorder is an affective, or mood, disorder that features extreme and unpredictable shifts between depressive periods and manic periods, with bipolar II featuring milder manic periods but more severe depressive periods.

When to Seek Help for a Mental Health Condition

When you suspect that your symptoms are more serious than simply feeling like you are struggling with life, it is a good idea to contact a mental health provider who can conduct a psychological evaluation. This involves an interview with a licensed therapist or psychiatrist who can collect enough information about your current symptoms and state of mind to hopefully make a diagnosis.

Generally, treatment for a mental health disorder like depression or anxiety will include medication, such as antidepressants, plus psychotherapy. Regular therapy sessions will help you work on changing negative or irrational thought patterns that keep you from living your best life.

The therapist might also encourage regular exercise and healthy dietary suggestions. Support groups can also be suggested, which allow small groups of individuals who share a common condition, such as depression, to discuss their personal struggles and support each other. Other complementary activities a therapist might prescribe could revolve around stress reduction, such as taking yoga classes or trying acupuncture.

Residential Treatment for a Higher Level of Care

For those individuals who continue to suffer from the mental health condition despite the outpatient interventions, a higher level of care is indicated. The residential setting offers a unique opportunity to take a break from daily cares and stressors and just focus on getting better. Residential mental health programs provide a much more customized and intensive treatment approach.

Treatment elements include:

Acute stabilization for individuals in crisis who need 24-7 monitoring.

Evidence-based psychotherapy using such modalities as cognitive behavioral therapy, dialectical behavior therapy, mindfulness-based cognitive therapy, prolonged exposure therapy, and psychodynamic therapy.

Group therapy sessions facilitated by a clinician.

Adjunctive therapies such as eye movement desensitization reprocessing or TMS therapy.

Medications such as antidepressants, mood stabilizers, anti-anxiety drugs, and antipsychotics.

Holistic therapies such as massage, meditation, art therapy, or equine therapy.

When your mental health does not improve using lifestyle and attitude tweaks, then it is appropriate to seek out psychological support from a mental health professional.

The Treatment Specialist Provides Free Online Resources for Mental Health

The Treatment Specialist is an online resource for informative articles on mental health conditions and treatment options for adults, teens, and families. For more information and guidance please contact the team at (866) 644-7911.

The post 6 Things to Do When You Are Struggling with Life appeared first on The Treatment Specialist.

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6 Things to Do When You Are Struggling with Life

Who hasn’t found themselves pummeled by life on occasion? Life is a mixed bag, comprised of lovely, joy-filled moments and some very difficult losses and disappointments. Each day we may wake up to daunting new challenges, or be bathed in blessings. How we chose to balance those two realities of life will factor into our overall wellness, but especially our mental health.

When you are struggling with life, it helps to have some helpful strategies that can fuel you through a difficult patch. Using this proactive approach is highly preferable to the alternative, which is finding yourself frozen in self-pity or negativity. It is totally appropriate, of course, to spend some time wallowing when experiencing a downturn in life, but you don’t want to get stuck there. Knowing some actions that can help you bounce back will assist with moving forward and getting to the other side of the struggle.

Sometimes, however, there is a larger obstacle involved, such as a depressive disorder or an anxiety disorder that is preventing your ability to rebound from a negative life event. When a mental health disorder causes symptoms that keep you struggling with life on a daily basis, it is time to see a therapist who can offer some guidance. Both depression and anxiety are highly manageable when you apply the tools that a licensed therapist can provide.

6 Things You Can Do When You are Struggling with Life

Not knowing what to do when a bout of the blues hits can be very disconcerting. The same thing applies to stressful situations that trigger feelings of fear and worry. Having some useful strategies for managing stress and emotions will come in handy as we navigate the bumpy road of life. Here are 6 useful tips:

Pamper yourself. Sometimes a little self-pampering can go a long way. Self-care during a rough patch in life may not even appear on your radar, but it should be a priority. By tending to your wellness, through such things as getting a therapeutic massage, taking baths with aromatherapy, filling the room with soothing music, or cooking yourself delicious but healthy meals, can make a tremendous difference in your attitude and outlook.

Choose to let go of your story. It is common to latch onto a challenging time emotionally, meaning that you begin to find solace in your unhappiness. It becomes your story, what you identify with and want to present to others. The sad person to whom life has done wrong. Break free from that negative narrative and rewrite your story with a hopeful, positive plot.

Take charge. Instead of passively waiting for life to improve, why not help the process along by taking control of your quality of life? Take responsibility for your own happiness by making necessary changes that will improve the situation, if it is something within your power to change. This empowers you and takes you from being a victim to circumstances to being in control of your destiny.

Set new goals. Sometimes just setting fresh new goals will help you move through a tough period in life. Focusing outward toward new aspirations instead of dwelling on the current difficult situation helps you to keep moving forward. Set some new short term and long-term goals, such as learning a new skill or planning a trip or learning a second language, and make a plan for achieving them.

Get active. Even though you may not be in the state of mind where you want to exercise, try to battle through that and do it anyway. Exercise is incredibly beneficial to our mental health. Try to incorporate some form of exercise or physical activity into each day, even if it is just a 15-minute walk, and you will begin to see your mood improve.

Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness can be woven into your daily life and accessed whenever you feel yourself drifting back into negative thought patterns. Mindfulness involves training yourself to redirect your thought distractions back toward the present moment. By teaching yourself to pay close attention to the sensory experience, such as what you can feel, smell, hear, and touch, while engaging in focused breathing you will reach a state of relaxation.

Am I Just Struggling with Life or is it a Mental Health Disorder?

Everyone goes through ups and downs in life. We all experience negative events from time to time, such as relationship problems, loss of a job, health issues, financial setbacks, and loss of a loved one. These are the unavoidable casualties of being on the planet. Any of these events can lead to feelings of sadness or stress, but when the emotional symptoms do not ease up after so many weeks a mental health disorder has possibly developed. Get to know the signs and symptoms of some of the most common mood disorders so you will recognize when it is time to get some professional help:

ANXIETY DISORDER

The anxiety spectrum of disorders includes:

Generalized anxiety disorder: Features constant excessive worry for much of the day, resulting in headaches, muscle tension, nausea, and trouble concentrating. GAD is the most prevalent form of anxiety in the U.S.

Panic disorder: Sudden and unpredictable feelings of terror, causing heart palpitations, chest tightness, shortness of breath, and dizziness. Many who experience panic disorder become isolated to avoid having another panic attack.

Specific phobias: Irrational fear of a specific thing, place, or situation. To manage this fear, the individual will begin to avoid triggers. Agoraphobia, for example, which is the fear of being trapped in a place or situation, can lead to isolation.

Trauma disorder: Unresolved trauma can lead to avoidance of people, places, or situations that trigger memories of the traumatic event. Flashbacks, nightmares, or repeated thoughts of the trauma stoke anxiety symptoms. Those with PTSD may avoid exposure to things that trigger the traumatic memory, and are prone to substance abuse as a form of self-medicating.

Social anxiety disorder: Intense and irrational fear of being judged or criticized. Because of the fear of being humiliated in public, people with social anxiety may avoid social situations completely.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder: Obsessive worries about such things as germs, causing harm, or a need for order can fuel compulsive behaviors in an attempt to manage the symptoms of intense anxiety caused by the obsession.

DEPRESSION

The depression disorders include:

Major depressive disorder. MDD is the most common depressive disorder and features persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or despair, fatigue, weight gain or loss, change in sleeping habits, loss of interest in usual activities or hobbies, slowed motor movements, and suicidal thought or attempts.

Post-partum depression. Post-partum depression affects 3 million new mothers per year and lasts about three months until the hormone levels normalize. This form of depression can disrupt bonding with the baby due to feelings of sadness, extreme irritability, change in eating habits, insomnia, mood swings, and even thoughts of harming baby or self.

Dysthymia. Dysthymia, also referred to as persistent depressive disorder, is a milder but chronic form of MDD that lasts more than two years. Dysthymia features low mood, loss of interest in activities, feelings of hopelessness, reduced appetite, feelings of low self-esteem, problems concentrating, and sleep problems.

Bipolar depression. Bipolar disorder is an affective, or mood, disorder that features extreme and unpredictable shifts between depressive periods and manic periods, with bipolar II featuring milder manic periods but more severe depressive periods.

When to Seek Help for a Mental Health Condition

When you suspect that your symptoms are more serious than simply feeling like you are struggling with life, it is a good idea to contact a mental health provider who can conduct a psychological evaluation. This involves an interview with a licensed therapist or psychiatrist who can collect enough information about your current symptoms and state of mind to hopefully make a diagnosis.

Generally, treatment for a mental health disorder like depression or anxiety will include medication, such as antidepressants, plus psychotherapy. Regular therapy sessions will help you work on changing negative or irrational thought patterns that keep you from living your best life.

The therapist might also encourage regular exercise and healthy dietary suggestions. Support groups can also be suggested, which allow small groups of individuals who share a common condition, such as depression, to discuss their personal struggles and support each other. Other complementary activities a therapist might prescribe could revolve around stress reduction, such as taking yoga classes or trying acupuncture.

Residential Treatment for a Higher Level of Care

For those individuals who continue to suffer from the mental health condition despite the outpatient interventions, a higher level of care is indicated. The residential setting offers a unique opportunity to take a break from daily cares and stressors and just focus on getting better. Residential mental health programs provide a much more customized and intensive treatment approach.

Treatment elements include:

Acute stabilization for individuals in crisis who need 24-7 monitoring.

Evidence-based psychotherapy using such modalities as cognitive behavioral therapy, dialectical behavior therapy, mindfulness-based cognitive therapy, prolonged exposure therapy, and psychodynamic therapy.

Group therapy sessions facilitated by a clinician.

Adjunctive therapies such as eye movement desensitization reprocessing or TMS therapy.

Medications such as antidepressants, mood stabilizers, anti-anxiety drugs, and antipsychotics.

Holistic therapies such as massage, meditation, art therapy, or equine therapy.

When your mental health does not improve using lifestyle and attitude tweaks, then it is appropriate to seek out psychological support from a mental health professional.

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