If you don't understand how different people react to the different life situations it's only your problem. If you always saw only happy families where parents loved their children it's good, congrats.
just because this kind of hatred exists, doesn’t mean we should be perpetuating these bigoted ideas.
if a child is autistic, it should not be assumed that their parents view them as quote-unquote a “curse” and “punishment”.
of course there are certainly many families like this. maybe even the majority, unfortunately. but that should not be the norm, nor the assumption.
what pisses me off is that in the face of positivity, the uplifting autistic!pavetta headcanons ada contributed, she gets ableist language in her inbox asking “but wouldn’t calanthe as pavetta’s mother see her as a divine curse and punishment…”
when no one was saying that, so whoever asking that question is the very one espousing the view that an autistic child is a “curse and punishment”.
that is completely uncalled for and should not be the assumption about a mother who has an autistic child. especially considering the kind, loving, and patient relationship calanthe and pavetta canonically have.
it’s good to explore their relationship and question the challenges and frustrations calanthe and pavetta would have (also considering that autistic children have their own challenges and frustrations when dealing with non-autistic family, it’s challenging on both ends, not just for the parents).
going further into it: considering that pavetta is canonically nonverbal a majority of the time as well as being socially withdrawn, this is actually very interesting to me. but it’s not a “curse” for her mother.
even the literal outburst of magic pavetta has in a question of price that threw calanthe across the room—calanthe didn’t loathe pavetta for that. she didn’t see her as a “punishment.” because she understood and loved her child, even the things pavetta couldn’t control and ended up almost destroying the whole damn castle. because pavetta was her daughter.
of course not all parents are going to be loving to their children like this. some parents would be furious and hateful and see their child as nothing but a burden. but calanthe loved her deeply. canonically.
if you think it’s normal to hate your child for existing, then i feel sorry for you
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at first, i thought we had a day off tomorrow...
but no, 2nights starts tomorrow
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trying to make ppl understand not to say the n slur n shit even in ur own family is wild like at some point i dont know how to make it click what can i do to like fucking get into ur skull what is happening pissing me off. ik ppl who r young but even sometimes those older dont fully get it
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