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1w9 sx/sp.

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keke palmer is so esfp 7 sosx holy shit

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Bojack Horseman - Bojack Horseman: [ESFP]

Enneagram: 7w6 sx/so

“I need to go take a shower so I can’t tell if I’m crying or not.”

Notes about self-typing.

I don't see enough people talking about this, but these points have been crucial in my own journey of self-typing and typing others, so here we go. Before you type yourself, consider:

The degree of stress you're under right now: Stress greatly influences how you view yourself, or if you have enough objective self knowledge to have an honest assessment of your own type. While a normal amount of stress brings people into their strengths, continued stress actually pushes you into the worse parts of your personality, and this experience can last anywhere from a few hours to (in borderline-traumatic cases) decades. And it's not an objective assessment of your type if it is only decided based on how you are at your worst. your type is a mixture of your general thought process, your worse tendencies, AND your better choices.

Possible general or trauma-induced dissociation: A lot of people have a general tendency to dissociate for internal or environmental reasons. it's WAY more common than we think, and it happens in varying degrees of "this trait upsets me so i pretend i don't have it/this trait makes me happy so i own it as a defining part of my personality" to "i do things that enrage and/or surprise me, i don't know where these thoughts and behaviors come from, and i'm helpless in controlling them so in my good days i pretend that they don't exist and get shocked/upset when people point them out to me" cases, counting out DID since that one is the obvious case. People tend to have more dissociation towards the parts of their psyche that resides in the [MBTI] tertiary and inferior functions, or the [instinctual variants] blindspot, oooor [in an enneagram sense] the parts of us that keep us from achieving the ideal image we aspire to have, but this isn't always the case. And to have an honest view of yourself, you have to keep in mind that at all times you're a little, or a lot, dissociating from parts of you that is unpleasant/scary/sad to think about, and that it's not only okay, but necessary to be open to feedback, new experiences and new insights regarding yourself. Fear is an inseparable part of self discovery, so before trying to type yourself, you have to learn to be comfortable with fear and be able to sit with it and learn from it. You don't have to 'accept' whatever comes your way and whatever new thing you discover, but you have to be able to entertain possibilities and get comfortable with the uncertainty and complexity that comes with being a human.

Mental illness: this one kinda goes without saying, but mental illnesses of all kinds (or generally being stuck in fear responses) narrows your focus on a very limited number of mental tools you have learnt since childhood for dealing with a shit life. They make it very hard to be present to your whole personality, not what you constantly resort to in times of (perceived or real) crisis. It's not impossible to type yourself when you have mental illnesses, but it makes the process longer, and you need to have more patience and compassion towards yourself.

Your gender: It actually really fucking matters, how you're raised based on your actual or perceived gender, or even the gender your caretakers proffered you to be like. Your own personality and preferences are only a small part of the choices you make throughout your life, and another part of that process is how others react to you and the choices you might make. In some cases, even though your preferences are right there, you may make different choices because there's more reward and acceptance for that choice, even though it's not your actual preference. Or you may make choices because the consequences you'll face for not making them are so high and dont seem like they're worth it. A lot of women don't entertain the possibility of being a thinker because as women they're conditioned to think that they suck at rational decisionmaking and have a natural knack for emotions and dealing with them. As a byproduct of that conditioning, many thinker women have higher emotional awareness and are more in touch with their emotional side than men of the same type - simply because there is a lot of social shaming and pressure on women to be sympathetic and considerate and to be able to emote. A lot of feeler men actually have less healthy thought frameworks and tools around emotions then women of the same type, as society does not expect men or train them for emotional intelligence and thought frameworks generally associated with femininity and women stuff. SO blind women are often more accommodating and mindful of how they're perceived than SO blind men, SP blind men often have more attention to SP and develop more tools in dealing with SP-related works, etc etc, the list goes on forever. The thing to keep in mind is, toss out the stereotypes. Don't dismiss different possibilities simply because "you're not as emotional as the feeling type descriptions suggest" or "you're not as edgy as the SO blinds you've seen" or “you have some hobbies you love dearly so you must be a SX variant”. Different descriptions are written with the majority of that type in mind. They're ripe with stereotypes, and for a good reason. But you don't have to fit with stereotypes to be a type, you just have to share the thought process and the inherent preferences that create its mindset.

With all that said, what is the best approach to self-typing?

Observe yourself when you're in flow state. When you're content, happy, feel safe, and are surrounded with people who accept you and love you for who you are, no matter what it looks like. If you cannot find a context in which you feel like that, imagine yourself 5 years from now, in a context that gives you those feelings. What would you look like if you were surrounded by accepting, loving, sincere people who accept you no matter what and find you enough in and of yourself? imagine that scenario in full details and make note of the choices you would make in that context.

Make notes of what you have generally thought most of your life, before you had mental illness. Be open to any and all thoughts that might come up.

Learn to love yourself before you try to self-type. It's hard to type yourself correctly if you're consciously or subconsciously fighting against parts of you that you consider weak/unacceptable/not enough/boring/problematic/wrong. Be open to your own thoughts and other's feedback and before you try to decide what type you are, decide that whatever comes up is okay, is cool, is enough, and there's nothing wrong with it. Shame and judgement is the enemy of objectivity. consciously decide to accept and offer compassion  to yourself. If you cannot seem to do that, imagine an anxious dear friend of yours, and write down how you would treat them and what you would tell them. Now do those stuff for yourself to the best of your abilities, and tell those things to yourself.

Move beyond typing. Ask yourself why do you want to type yourself, what does it offer you, what purpose do you have in trying out these labels. Do not self type when you feel insecure, sad, depressed, isolated, rejected. Labels are not what you need in those moments, it's kindness and acceptance of who you are.

Instinctual Variant Musicals

Trying to bring more attention to this particular personality psychology measure and also follow up the MBTI and Enneagram musicals

So/Sp

Sp/So

So/Sx

Sx/So

Sp/Sx

Sx/Sp

Aesthetics I made for the instinctual variant stackings

Hope you’ll like it ^^

SoSp - social buildings, monuments, climbing to the sky from a solid base, structure, sword and shield (political symbols of protection), suit and banquet (status, formality, sobriety), environmentalism, our world is our home

SpSo - earth (stability, material concerns, practicality), life and death, subtle religious references, discipline and fitness, body-nature relation, physical comfort, resources and social status (car and money), monument to individuality

SpSx - contained fire, fire used for comfort and mountain-building, individualism, drink and cigar (material pleasure), subtle intensity (safety x danger relation), death reference, pillar, rogue (look for material gains through expertise and exploration).

SxSp - Uncontainable fire and smoke, Phoenix, seduction references (obliviousness to social dynamics and appropriateness), cigarette and blood (dichotomy between self-destruction/material pleasure and stability), sexual aggressiveness, individualistic sensuality.

SxSo - smirk, flirt, seduction, exhibitionism (red feathers, peacock-ish), individualistic revolt, sociocultural action, iconoclasm, passion and playful seduction (lollipop), sparkles, playful sin (apples).

SoSx - social awareness, artistic presentation, openness of heart and feelings on a social manner, balloons, air, off the ground, artistic connection (subtle religious reference), flowers, shiny seduction/involvement, connection of bodies and ideals.

You heard about the freudian enneagram now get ready for...

The Freudian ivs

Sexual instict: ID

Self-preservation instict: EGO

Social instict: SUPEREGO

And this alone explains why we so/sp are so fucked up.

Projecting desire and sx

Why yearning for intensity actually proves you're sx-blind

We're all familiar with the usual descriptions of the sx-dom or rather SX Subtype. It describes an individual preoccupied with finding highs within people, seeking out the intimate and intense to then finally merge with their partner of choosing. Its wishing for psychological nudity and to be indistinguishable from the person you desire.

What if I told you that this is all wrong? Or rather, terribly worded.

Its not all wrong, some of this does characterize sx to an extent, but only a very specific kind. The sx-overfocus. This is due to the fact that most authors attempting to relate to sx-doms failed miserably and were only able to comprehend them through their own sx-blind lense, even mistyping themselves as sx in the process.

The sx-overfocus happens to sx-blinds when their wish to connect through soc is unsuccessful. They feel abandoned, ignored, just not seen. So when they're disgruntled with the people around them and deem them all superficial, yearning for someone or somebody real that actually cares, and to then merge with them. Its an overwhelming desire to live beneath somebody's skin, breathe their air and be one with them.

Its a reaction to their own overstepping of their sp, their boundaries, their privacy, their own protected energy and relationship to themselves. The more they open up the more vulnerable and exposed they feel. The sensation feels addicting, scary, new, overwhelming, and ultimately leads to obsession.

They mistake vulnerability as intensity. And thats the misconception surrounding sx.

In later stages, there's a level of discomfort surrounding the interaction, their own anger at their boundaries being overstepped turns into desire to own another and regain their sense of self. Regain the boundary that was ultimately lost within the other and thats why they believe they can only be whole through merging. Its ultimately an attempt to regain control of their autonomy. You're projecting all of your desire, wishes and needs on somebody.

Through media and culture, our idea of love has become the overstepping of one's personhood and "perfect unity", to compromise yourself, this has become a cultural ideal. Something individuals feel they need to seek out, because vulnerability is only reserved for romantic intimate partners. If you're a romantic, its a high chance you're sx-blind. Essentially its a romantized version of something inherently toxic, but accepted by society which they've picked up through soc. That's why, the popular idea and overall understanding of sx is tainted by this and leads to mistyping.

So ..what exactly is sx?

I'll write that post eventually

ISFP sx/sp smooth with people, likely 6w7. I’d also take 7w6, but then she’d be a weak extravert, eSFP. The former is more likely. 

I mistyped myself

I'm sure now that my instinctual variant stacking is sx/sp, not sp/sx. The more I read, the more I realized how sx has always been my instinct, regardless of what my ego thought I was. Consciously I'm averse to people's as a collective, and I've always been a hermit. But I *always* reemerge. Even at my most reclusive, I've still always found a way to connect and merge with some special someone even if it was online in the past. I was never without a job or class, even when I could have been, when I was in the throes of extreme paranoia and social anxiety.

Because the alternative was feeling the void inside me get bigger and bigger. I've always felt magnetically, instinctually propelled toward a meaningful other who can also provide a one-on-one connection. The odds of that happening were zero if I kept hidden away. Even though it was unconscious at the time, there was a burning hole in me waiting to get filled and I literally felt incomplete without it. A BEST friend, or the ultimate true lover. The phrase "my other half" comes to mind. Even if I consciously devalued that notion at the time, I was still being driven out of myself toward it, no matter if I believed in it or not. I would keep getting out there until I happened upon someone with whom I could create and sustain that intimacy with.

Some people say sx first can look unhealthy or obsessive sometimes; I can see that. Obsession drove me out of my cage. I think that anyone not getting their instinctual drive satisfied will probably become neurotic. I hate how dependent it sounds to say, I've felt actually complete and a potential to be my test self since committing to my sx/so four years ago. But I'm planning on writing a separate post about intertype relations another time.

jaku-chara tomozaki-kun

tomozaki fumiya: INxP sxso?

hinami aoi: ENFJ 3w2 spso? sosp?

takahiro: ESFJ

mimimi: 3w4 soc dom

tama: IxFP

nakamura shuji:

izumi:

Jane the Virgin - Xiomara De La Vega: [ESFP]

Enneagram: 7w6 sx/so

“There is absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. Now if you don’t go have sex with that obscenely hot telenovela star, your mother will never forgive you.”