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Respectfully: yes, of course being sex-positive is incredibly important, but you know what's equally important? Being sex-positive without being fucking aphobic. It's not a herculean task at all; I see aspec and allo people alike who are absolutely able to do both successfully. But it does require a bare minimum amount of critical thinking.
You can defend kink at pride without saying or implying that sex is what makes us human, or that sex is a requisite for the "true" queer experience. You can talk about the indescribable value of gay bars without accusing anyone who isn't interested in them of being either a prude, creepy and antisocial, or a "boring virgin." You can stop arguing that any given queer person or group of queer people you dislike (perhaps even within reason) would be more progressive and less reactionary if they had more sex (and yes, this is a real take I've had to see on this website).
You can, and urgently, should stop pretending that sex negativity as a cultural force is caused by ace people — instead of you know, caused by cultural conservativism and cultural Christianity. And on the flip side, you can stop with that thing where you act sex-positive until you see an aroallo person wanting to have sex without a romantic (closed, nuclear) relationship — and suddenly, throwing all sex positivity out the window as you decide that they're a freak and a manipulator and evil incarnate. (Yes, you need to be kinder to even the cisgender heterosexual aromantic men. That particular discourse encapsulates the feedback loop between arophobia and radfem-lite beliefs, by the way, which is another thing the queer community here is horrible at avoiding in its rhetoric.)
So: sex positivity includes aro-spec allosexuals, who need it for precisely the above reason — because alloromantics demonize them otherwise. And sex positivity includes ace-specs who need it just to talk about their experiences, without getting called inappropriate for merely acknowledging sex out loud, let alone their own relationship with sexual desire.
(Have you already forgotten one of the biggest aphobe talking points in 2016? That aces acknowledging their identity in any capacity were "oversharing," and making people "uncomfortable" — and god forbid you ever mentioned asexuality to a minor?)
At its core, sex positivity includes accepting people can have morally neutral relationships with sex that you wouldn't personally want — and maybe even ones that might make you uncomfortable. And so much of this website seems perfectly able to understand this — or at least, preach this — until the second an ace or aro person shows up.
You're not allowed to exclude us from this movement. You're not allowed to twist this movement's intent to put us down. Kill this new wave aphobia in 2023 or so help me. We're not letting this community do this again.
#aphobia#acephobia#arophobia#if this happens to get serious notes i'll turn reblogs off after a day or so#just want to make that clear that i stand by everything i say here - i just might have to take measures for my own sanity#this blog will return to normally scheduled programming soon#but this 2020s aphobia is legitimately reaching a breaking point. and i couldn't hold myself back from this post any longer
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Sim Dump #1 | Male Sims
As promised here is my first sim dump for reaching 1k and ofc it's some handsome men to liven up your game! You can do whatever you want, be it for the girls or the guys, so show these sims some looove. Thank you so much for all the support and for enjoying my content. There's much more to come and I hope you like this gift!
Details:
Don’t claim as your own and/or reupload
Don't change their features drastically
Only everyday outfit (all cc is included)
All credits go to the CC creators
Feel free to tag me so I can see
PLS don’t do anything weird to them
DOWNLOAD (sfs)
#ts4#sims 4#ts4 cas#sims 4 cas#my sims#sim download#sim dump#male sims#tbh i wanted to keep them for myself!!#i get too attached to all the sims i make#it happened with oscar#i made him first then said NOPE im keeping him and now hes in tjol#so take care of these sims and PLS DONT DO ANYTHING WEIRD!!!#sorry i wont be reblogging them in gameplays if you do use them#only sims i made specific for ppl#but id still love to see so tag me!#if any of my close mutuals want a sim from me then feel free to dm#ill go with a theme for sim dumps! this one is brown eyed hotties 😘#and ill be back with postcard soon!!
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This is just an FYI - I love to reblog additions to my posts but if your addition has an image that isn't described, I probably won't reblog it. If you have some thoughts that you hope can help others, I strongly encourage you to make them accessible. Use the alt-text feature on images to provide a description of the image contents or write out a description below. A lot of tumblr users rely on those descriptions in order to be able to use the site. ❤️
#I do write descriptions myself sometimes#but often I'll just skip the reblog#I'm also trying to go back and add image descriptions to my own old posts from before the alt-text feature was rolled out#but I tend to do it at the point when I'm about to reblog them
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37: share a secret
send me a number!! 💌
#my friend made me watch hetalia when we were kids and. yeah you can probably put the rest together#this is probably the most harmless secret i could think of but im still turning reblogs off bc its really embarassing lol#god i remember using the honorifics and everything. with the pointy anime men chins. god damn#canada called britain senpai i believe. i think i wantto go back in time and stop myself from doing that if i could but as it is#it shaped me as a person and theres nothing i can do abt it. they were hot though#i just know maja is going to add this to their pile of 'things im never going to let puppy live down'. i just know it#CROW IF YOURE SEEING THIS IM SO SORRY. I MADE OUR COUNTRIES MAKE OUT SLOPPY STYLE#ask#answered#ask game#doodles#yapping
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welcome back kang younghyun 💕
#day6#young k#youngk#ok so i thought about doing something more complicated but also i'm So burned out from this series LMAO#so i did my best for it to look some what cohesive and uuh man what's the word#smooth? yeah smooth#can't even say my proper feelings in the tags yet because i finished this 25 days before he's actually back LMAO#b.edits#missing yonk#day before but i need to add tags now because i don't trust myself tomorrow LMAO#but thank you SO much for accompanyingon this silly gif making journey#it was. honestly a bit exhausting and i'm never doing it again only 50 days or 30 LMAO#and thank you so so so so much to everyone that reblogged every single set#i was genuinely looking forward to your tags and reblogs and if you didn't i was worried like omg are they ok#but our boy is back!!! he's finally back and i can't wait to see what's in store for him#i just. appreciate him so so much and i'm just so grateful for him i know i've said this before#he just. means a lot to me and i'm so so happy he's finally back#yeah i'll stop or i'll cry for real LMAO
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Mity I doodled (mostly from memory) earlier instead of studying for finals
#Sorry if I've been talking to people less or if I ignored literally anybody I'm trying to focus on stuff#Even if I'm active on Tumblr a bunch reblogging stuff#I'm tryna not to distract myself TOO HARD#I got finals this week dawg....#I feel really bad for it but also I feel better distancing myself a bit from certain activity online#And like tumblr#Bc I've been checking this app endlessly and I need to get out of that habit#I think I did well enough about that today (that I wasn't actively thinking about it) and now I have the feeling og#POST AND SKITTER AWAY back so that feels a bit better but I feel bad for not responding to people oops#IRTS oakey. Have a mity. I will be mental illness rambles in my tags sorry#I am go eepy after posting this#Toontown#Toontown Corporate Clash#(unsure abt main tagging this for reasons stated earlier and bc too many notes can get to my brain but... I likey this one.)#Rainmaker#Guz art
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The garage door was still open
#personal#funny#mine#I draw things#pets#dogs#okay to reblog#this happened like an hour ago#he is napping FAT in his doggy house rn#in other news: hi I’m sort of half back from the dead#I have read all your messages and will respond in due time#thank you for the love and for understanding <3#I’ve had my blood taken more times than I’d like in the past 2 weeks#my arms have been swiss cheesified……ough…#so they’ve been very bruised and sore this whole time#today is 2 weeks since hospital! still alive and kickin#and I can use my arms enough to be able to draw this shitty little comic and make myself smile about it#most of my test results have come back normal (to my frustration)#waiting on a holter monitor in the meantime#and searching for new psychiatrists who don’t belittle me for bringing up otherwise valid concerns#spending lots and lots of time with dad and the boy#spending as much time out in the sun as my body allows#doing all the right things… hanging in there…#anyways. this was a really funny interaction and I wanted to share#:-)
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A Word-Filled Update
that no one's asking forrrr~
Sooooo, hiya~ ^^
Realized I kinda dropped out without much word, and wanted to give a lil update to anyone who may care, (and specifically to all the unfilled requests that have been sat in my inbox for months now T~T)
Dropping it under a cut because it gets quite long~ but I'll also TL;DR it with: been a bit burnt out, trying to get back into this, I apologize for all the unanswered asks, and I will be trying to get to the ones I can, but I'll be focusing more on trying to enjoy the process of making content~ Thank you to anyone who's stuck around <3
(Tw for brief mention of mental health/neurodivergencies~ nothing in depth or dark, but just incase anyone wants to avoid that <3)
Nothing serious has been going on, mostly just burn out and a bit of drama in main friend group, combined with free time just being a lot more limited recently~ (not a bad thing, most of it is because I'm getting to talk more with friends I've gotten closer to this past year~)
That said, I've been trying to get back into content, making it, reblogging it, etc, without letting it become all-consuming. I find, with the way my brain works, mostly to do to some wonderful neurodivergent tendencies, I tend to fall heavily into 'all of nothing' mentality.
This shows up in my day to day life, (ie: can't wash the dishes for weeks until I suddenly do them all in one day) and I've definitely noticed it with content creation. Need to write and finish a story in one go, record a wav as fast as possible, always afraid I'll lose that motivation.
But honestly? I love making content on here! And I'm not a huge blog, nor do I care if I am (at least trying not to, if I'm being painfully honest~) but I genuinely love making content. Whether it's just for me, a request that I am hoping one specific person will enjoy, or a story I write with a community in mind, I just love creating~
So, I'm trying to ease my way back into this! Bit by bit, let it be fun, and enjoyable, with less internal pressure to produce as much as I can, as fast as I can, and make it be perfect.
I won't lie and say 'numbers don't matter to me', if I'm honest, they do. But I'm learning more and more how to let it be about the content, and to just enjoy the process~ (and if people like it, that'll be a wonderful bonus!~)
Wooo this is getting so long, I apologize sincerely! Last thing, something I've mentioned a few times previously but never really let myself get into... requests~
I'm so honoured that people care about my content enough to have asked for things, and getting any ask, request, praise, ask lists, heck even just a 'hi!' is honestly the best part of this blog for me!
Buuuut, I definitely worked myself into burn-out before with a "every request needs to be filled and fast" mentality, that led to just... not filling any.
So! I'm going back through my inbox, and deleting some older ones that I don't have a clear vision/motivation for. I apologize to anyone who requested them, though by now it's possible they're long gone~ But I think this will help me not only start enjoying the creation process without feeling so overwhelmed, but also start actually getting more content made~
There are definitely a bunch that I still adore, and am thrilled to get to test out, but if there's one you remember sending, and you really want to see it completed, please feel free to send another ask saying what it is you want done, and I'll see if I can get that going <3
And if you've stuck it out to the end here- uh hi! ^^ I'm sorry this is so long, I'm such a words person, but I appreciate you so much, not just for any support you've offered, but just bothering to read this <3 I genuinely didn't expect most to make it this far, so thank you so deeply <3 and I hope to see you guys around as I start reblogging stuff more!~
#waterfalltalks#waterfallrambles#more like waterfallparagraphs im so sorry hahaha#been thinking about making this for awhile- but always felt so anxious???#idk why specifically... maybe cause i cant be short to save my life#or maybe because it feels like ive left it too long?? been promising so much and never fulfilling#but i am gonna try!! not to fulfill everything but- to start enjoying it again#i worry this comes off like i have an ego... i really dont haha~ i dont expect anyone to really interact with my blog or care#it was always meant to be for ME- and i just hoped to create things ID enjoy and that#if anyone else enjoyed it too that i could start giving back to the community thats given me so much content ive adored#anyways this is a LONNNGGG post and so are these tags hahaha~#using this blog as a journal again i think! but its mine! so okay! im gonna let myself!#gonna add here too that i might be reblogging with shorter tags for a bit- i promise its not cause im not excited!!!#just trying to make it the least overwhelming situation so i can start really getting back into ENJOYING it~#thank you to anyone who read this far and a huge thank you to all my friends from here and anyone who stuck around <3#i appreciate and love you all so dearly <333#not snz
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have been seeing this going around so i decided to make my own!!
(just a disclaimer i havent rewatched some of the seasons in a while so i did this according to what i remember)
#ninjago#ninjago dragons rising#levi's ted talks#the most recent seasons ive rewatched r hunted and sog and theyre still as good and thrilling as when i first watched#a little of s1 too#i put it down there bc the writing was kinda weird BUT it was the starting point of ninjago so im never hating on it#plus the memorable moments like goddamn#i constantly rewatch s13 i love it too much#i cant bring myself to rewatch seabound bcaause knowing whats gonna happen next is so fucking PAINFUL 😭#even tho im an angst lover the fucking seperation makes me bawl#my friend literally couldnt talk to me for a few days bc of the shock from the ending when it first came out#and to be completely honest DR is what got me fully back into the ninjago fandom#like id reblog posts n whatever but wasnt so involved#and id just rant with my friend abt it#but then when DR's release was announced i made my first post for it#(a redraw for an incorrect quote post: dig in my art tag and youll maybe find it . but beware)#and now im here with so many moots#art improvement and 3 fics and more coming aswell#how the fuck
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As promised, the Sharon & pals very old art recap:
The very first proper digital drawings of all of them. Airi is the oldest, with hers being from the may of 2016, with Sharon lagging behind at the march of 2017. Aalis is the "youngest" at the june of 2017.
Airi used to have her totally own thing, but I merged her into Sharon's project later on. Airi's gone through the hardest design revisions, while Aalis is like 99% the exact same as when i first doodled her sometime before that drawing.
Old art dump
Sharon's old refs (the only one of them who's had that privilege :( sad)
Most of the lore present is old and outdated + i ended up doing some retcons between drawings as well (recycling Aalis' surname for Sharon, changing her name from Charon to Sharon (esl mixed up those names initially/changed it bc it was a bit on the nose for her profession and role in the story)
#oc#i stopped drawing them 2018ish so its nice to come back to them#for a while i was going by chamomile-related usernames & sharon was initially the mascot i made for myself#sharon's signature flower are chamomiles aalis' flower is asphodel#airis ghost form has cat ears for lore reasons (ghosts get kind of messed up from outside influences when they spend enough time hanging ou#and shes pretty old for a ghost (died like some centuries before being bound to a doll)#initially she was meant to have died very young but tbh having significantly more years of living experience behind her would work better s#i think ill redesign her a bit soon#theres some old inktobers i think ill add in a reblog i think im getting close to the image limit#long post
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waterstones special edition of the chalice and the gods i love you
#books talks#LOOK AT THE SPRAYED EDGES#They aren’t on the top or bottom which big sad come on waterstones do better#BUT STILL#pjo#percy jackson#the chalice and the gods#precious book i have been waiting all day and now it is time to READ#i’ll be back and very extra unnormal in a couple of hours#not sorry for the inevitable reblog storm#also yes the nails are blue no it wasn’t intentional but i love it nonetheless#last time i was like this about pjo on tumblr it was boo i'm p sure#also getting this from the mailman was so sweet!!#he was like 'i've been delivering a lot of those (gestures to my waterstones parcels) the past few days- something happen?'#OH YES IT DID#did i intend on posting a fic before i let myself read tcotg? yeah but also lazy and the book is RIGHT THERE
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the sun is a painter. every morning, it casts the world in warm yellow haze. for the rest of the day, it stares at its creation, slowly viewing it at different angles. until at night it covers the world in a soft red glow, before going to sleep and doing the whole the over again tomorrow.
#dostxt#okay so I had this in my notes app dated June 8 2022#and I can't remember if I wrote it myself or I copied it from somewhere#and like I'm 99% sure I didn't copy because I likely would have reblogged it or at least written the name of the poet and title#and I have a lot of other poetry I wrote in my notes app#and exactly zero copied things because I deleted pretty much everything that I didn't type#(apart from hard to type emoticons)#back in 2021#so I'm pretty sure this is mine#but I can't remember for absolutely 100% definitively for sure#so uh... if it's not then please let me know and I'll delete it
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re: your recent tags about the gameboy sp! that boy's got headphone adapters i POMISE!!!
the magic of modern science. wow...
#ask#sapphicdroid#i did look it up to fact check myself after i reblogged the post and saw the adapters#honestly when i was younger i never knew it didnt have a headphone jack#granted the only time i ever saw one in person was on the school bus with a friend#he played pokemon blue on it and i dont remember the details of all that went on during#i mightve also seen another kid on the bus play pokemon emerald. i dont remember.#however that was my first exposure to gen 3 pokemon. as a kid i only knew about Red Blue Yellow and Crystal#my brothers had Red and Blue. and so thusly i have both games now. i... dont know where my copy of Red is though.#i have a copy of Yellow from Ebay but it loses its memory sometimes. which i think is why it was put on Ebay in the first place#Crystal however? well first i knew of gen 2 through pokemon stadium 2#we had both pokemon stadiums for the n64. or. well. still do have them.#speaking of. sure does suck to go through the gym leaders and elite 4 in those games. mostly due to how long rounds are.#emulated it a while back and i had to use the fast forward feature a lot#anyway. Crystal. somehow i got my copy from a random coat in a clothing store. just. in the pocket.#i dont know how i managed to find it. it was either in a coat my mom was looking at or i was looking through pockets... probably the former#anyway within like a week. a kid in 3rd grade stole it from me#i... think i got to the elite 4? i remember getting to the last dude with the charizard. forgive me for forgetting his name.#but like right after i had it stolen. i got on the bus and vented to my friend and he was like ''oh i have two copies of crystal''#and then gave his second copy to me. i forget if it was on the day of or if it was the next day.#anyway that same day it got stolen again. by the same kid. that kid stole so much shit from me#he switched schools the next year so i couldnt do anything about it#i have uhhh... soul silver now. so its not that big of a deal these days#anyway thank you for the ask :) i appreciate you telling me anyway
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It's kinda funny how scattershot my approach to the 2D games has been lol.
AM2R: Beat, 100%
Zero Mission: Beat but haven't/won't complete percentage
Metroid: Completed percentage but haven't beat
Dread: Working on it
What a skip lol
I want to play Super and Fusion and the other two versions of Metroid II properly, I've watched enough playthroughs to have a good feel for them but it's no replacement for actually experiencing them myself. But I do think I want Return Of Samus to be the last one, (until future releases anyway) but not in a "putting off the worst until all other options are exhausted" way, more a "saving the best for last" way. I already know I'll love it for the story and how that's conveyed, but I want it to be special.
#not a reblog#metroid#honestly I feel like I kinda screwed myself in a way#by going straight into AM2R#which isn't as advanced as Dread#but still benefits from all the advances up to the GBA era#plus a bit of extra polish on top courtesy of fan love#and on one hand I kinda needed a good first impression#to sell me on the feel of playing 2D#when my prior experience was the Prime trilogy#but on the other hand I think I chose something a little too good#and that definitely impacted Zero Mission for me#(I still get mad thinking about the Kraid fight)#and I know Super is gonna be a pain to go back to too#ironically I had a pretty good time with original Metroid#up until the escape sequence at the end#but playing it via Planets probably helped#I want to take a break before I do Return Of Samus#a long one#so that I can come at it fresh as possible#and doing it last still gives it a place of honor#since first is no longer an option#(in fairness my options were limited when I started AM2R)#zero mission#metroid zero mission#metroid planets#am2r#metroid dread
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#feel free to reblog the meme if u like lmao#just leave the tags out#vent.txt#<- sorry just need to have a moment lmao#inflicted w the yearnings for romantic relationship yet again 😞 but so keenly aware of how much I’d have to unpack in myself to truly be a#part of it#like. I don’t trust people. I don’t confide in people. I tell them nothing about myself for years and years and I used to resent a little#that that was enough for them. that they didn’t NEED to know. that me loving and caring for them was enough. but it’s so silly because like#how can you resent people for not knowing what you won’t tell them. so thankfully THAT has passed#but it’s just like. there are so many issues. like I just CANNOT conceptualise myself as romantically attracted#attractive*#not even in a self deprecating sense it just feels like an immutable fact. I can’t imagine someone looking at me w romantic desire.#and it’s like. I honestly don’t know if I could let my walls down enough to actively love someone back like that#it’s so easy to love from afar. and hell haha maybe THATS because it’ll always be easier to love someone when they can’t know all of you to#love in return#but I just don’t know how I can do it. I don’t know how to view the risk as being worth it#and at the end of the day I’ll be okay if romantic love isn’t in the cards for me. you can live a happy life without#but ah fuck. sometimes the but I am so lonely.jpg hits
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hate rereading my own posts from years ago Who is that person.......... i would NOT fucking say that
#aka someone is liking old posts i've reblogged and i decided to look through the old posts from back then and i just.......flinch#who is that........ who is that person.......#thiS IS NOT any fault of the person going thru old posts u go off. i just inflicted physic damage on myself by Also looking at those posts#me age 20 perceiving me age 17: something terrible happened...#clamtalk
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