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About Comfort Zone and why is wrong used - Long Rant
Lately I been seeing a ton of people talking about the Comfort Zone, about how we can only grow if we step out it and all that, but mostly everyone forget to mention a little detail: The majority of the people have no Comfort Zone.
Let's back to the roots and copy and paste what wikipedia say about it: A comfort zone is a familiar psychological state where people are at ease and (perceive they are) in control of their environment, experiencing low levels of anxiety and stress. Bardwick defines the term as "a behavioral state where a person operates in an anxiety-neutral position." Brené Brown describes it as "Where our uncertainty, scarcity and vulnerability are minimized—where we believe we'll have access to enough love, food, talent, time, admiration. Where we feel we have some control.
So, the basic "rules" of the Comfort Zone says:
A) People must at ease and in basic control of their environment.
B) People are experiencing low levels of anxiety and stress.
C) The uncertainty, scarcity and vulnerability are minimized.
D) With well access to the basic needs (food, water, shelter, health care, hygiene, money, love, education, clothes, sleep, security... Pretty much the 3 basic levels of the Maslow's hierarchy of needs)
So, if you "fail" in some of the 4 basic "rules" of the Comfort Zone, you pretty much didn't have Comfort Zone.
Let's breal up that thing a little...
If you are not at ease (disconfort, anger, pain, sadness, uneasy, worried, etc), you are lacking Comfort Zone.
If you are not control of your environment (toxic/ traumatic house, abusive relationship, under manipulation, migration, homeless, disabled, etc), you are lacking Comfort Zone.
If you are experiencing high levels of anxiety and stress (pathologically high, unhealthy levels of it, panic attacks, floating anxiety, depression, PTSD, mostly all the mental illnesses), you are lacking Comfort Zone.
If you are uncertain, in scarcity and vulnerability (be part of a minority, experience racism, bullying, LGTBQIA+phobia, fatphobia, etc) and lacking some of the basic human needs, you are lacking Comfort Zone.
And if you are experiencing ALL OF THAT, you have NO Comfort Zone.
Now, let's have in mind the kind of world we are living currently... Many of us didn't have not even the basic level of the damn Maslow's pyramid and we have a "bingo" of a lack of all the 4 basic rules.. and the huge majority at least lack one of them... Why keep pushing about the Comfort Zone?
As a start, the main objetive of the Comfort Zone is self growth, things that are over the two basic layers of the damn pyramid. You NEED to have you BASIC NEEDS satisfied to focus in self growth. I'm not saying that you CAN'T pursue self growth if you are lacking them, but trully, your energy and mind have more urgent things to attend...
Example, myself. I lack of money and health care, I struggle with afford food and basic bills, I'm disabled and VERY neurodivergent, I suffer of Chronic Clinical Depression and Chronic Pain (with no meds and treatment because lol money) and I have problems to sleep, besides another huge chunck of issues. Do I try to grow as a person? OF COURSE! But I will not put myself on risk, for it. I need to grow in a way that I will not collapse because I haven't my basic needs covered. I DON'T HAVE COMFORT ZONE, so my growth must adapt to the little I can afford myself to do. I can't step over my Comfort Zone because I DIDN'T HAVE ONE TO START.
I repeat, you can't leave your Comfort Zone if you don't have it.
So, for the love of Maslow, people, stop to suggest to everyone to "step out the Comfort Zone" when, except some lucky ones (eat the rich), mostly of the normal people is struggling with not become homeless.
It feels invasive, like pushing us, and make us think that we are not growing enough and getting mentally better because we don't go out our "Comfort Zone". Feels like if you are drowing and some say "haha now try to swim with a shark and touch it, you will grow with that experience"... I'M DROWNING, I CAN'T BREATHE, I CAN'T EVEN OPEN MY EYES UNDER WATER, HOW I WILL TOUCH A SHARK?
Next time, be gently, be empathic. Self growth is great, but do it in a safe gentle way, that there are enough suddenly events in real life that will kick you out of your Comfort Zone by force, or even break your Comfort Zone, sometimes to the point that you will not have anything left.
Stop pushing, stop to add struggles when you are struggling every second of your life. Prioritize. You will have until the last second of your life to grow as a person, focus in your safety. Focus in create your Comfort Zone, in making it bigger, stronger. I want to see you happy, healthy and safe. I love you.
Edit: Someone also explain it amazingly here
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What is your favorite way to make coffee and why?
Bonus: Which is your least favorite and why?
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idk about any of y’all but for me listening to Hozier’s music is genuinely a religious experience
I put Unreal Unearth on while I was crocheting and literally had to just put my hook down and listen because I felt so moved and just generally in awe
my mum bought us tickets to see him in Florida in May and to say i can’t wait would be a massive understatement
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Hi, everyone. I am going through a lot and I could really use some company. I’d love to chat with you guys so please shoot me a chat message if you’re down to talk and make a friend :)
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Booping from my main account since I don’t think side blogs can 🐾
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ok totally off topic, but if you're a witch who's also a HOCKEY fan pls check out my giveaway! <3 i'm getting no luck with ppl reblogging the post 😅 & it's a bit discouraging ngl
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Current hyperfixation? Female poisoners of the Victorian era. Dunno why. But it is all so fascinating.
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i’m feeling so…… bad.
#i wish things would go my way more#also wish i could stop feeling so confused about my life#i want things to make sense#and feel at peace#vent#not witchy
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me: *doubts 1 of my autistic traits and gets imposter syndrome*
also me: “if I could have a job where I just sorted Legos by color and shape I would be ECSTATIC”
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What's something you miss doing, that you'd love to have the opportunity to do again?
Good question!
The big thing I miss is creating for myself. I usually make gifts or sell things I create, but making things for myself has been very difficult, whether it's art, knitted projects, or anything else. I used to draw a *lot* back in school, but it's been much more sporadic lately, and almost none of it is for me.
This is something I've been working on, though. I've been dedicating time weekly to create for myself and no one else, and that's helped. I have yet to have finished anything for myself, but I'm getting there.
If I had to pick a second thing, it would be watching anime and other imported media. I'm extremely behind (my watch list is overgrown) and I don't watch it nearly as much as I used to. Fingers crossed I get to that one soon!
-> Archer
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(I'm not great with edits this is the best I could do)
Not my usual stuff but this wouldn't leave my brain until I made it
#not witchy#puppet history#puppet history meme#puppet history spoiler#silence of the lambs meme#it rubs the lotion on its skin#proffesor going to wear ryan like a lil skin suit#the proffessor#puppet history professor#watcher#youtube#ryan bergara
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Coin's Blogging Tips II
Here's another post of blogging tips. Check out my other post here!
Tone
How do you want your blog to be perceived? Fun, friendly, intellectual, or serious? Choose a writing style that fits your brand and stick with it.
I tend to use a fun, light-hearted approach on most of my posts while keeping them educational, so I choose to write in a manner that sounds like I’m talking to a friend.
That’s also why I try to steer clear of too many difficult or academic words and phrases since the whole point of my blog is to be educational and accessible for all sorts of folks!
Grammar
It should go without saying that grammar is important when writing a blog post. If you don’t have time to proofread a post and you don’t have others to help, consider putting your post through google docs or downloading Grammarly for help!
However, it’s more than ok to sacrifice good grammar if it’s to create a specific tone. As stated, I prefer a light, friendly tone so I’ll often go with a less grammatically correct approach to achieve that.
Here’s an example:
I was going to write a blog post about the Golden Dawn and its history but there is far too much information to write about in a singular post.
to:
I was gunna make a post about the Golden Dawn and its history but there’s way too much info for just one post!
The first sentence comes across as proper or more professional, but that’s not the tone we’re looking for! So we forgo good grammar to achieve a lighter and friendlier tone.
Navigation
Making your blog easy to navigate is a great way to retain someone's attention. By creating masterposts or linking your posts to each other in-text, you can help others flow through your related content with ease!
Interest
First and foremost, is your post interesting? Your topic doesn’t need to be particularly relevant to be interesting, but it certainly helps! Find out what’s popular in your niche or community right now and see if it’s something you’d enjoy writing about.
Pro Tip: If you’re bored while writing it, your readers will probably be bored while reading it. Take a break and step away from a post if you feel like it’s dragging on, you can come back to it later.
Alternatively, ask a friend to read your post and get their feedback on it. It helps if you can get multiple people to review it before posting!
Sources and Citations
You don’t need to go full MLA or APA with your sources and citation, just mentioning where you get your info or adding a hyperlink in-text can help give your post credibility.
This doesn’t mean you should just through around links, though, make sure your sources are actually credible otherwise you risk the chance of losing the trust of your readers. Plus it’s just good practice to be honest about where you get your information!
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I’d love to chat with some fellow witches! Message me if you’re up to chatting ^_^
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Y'all. I have a very close friend who recently came out to me as non-binary. She inspired me to come out to my family and the rest of my friends as well, so that was amazing. They also made me a pride card and bracelets to celebrate. I'm seeing them tomorrow so I really wanted to make her something to celebrate as well. Y'all. It's so cute. I can't believe I made something this cute
The wooden things are pins! Pronoun pins in English and Dutch, and a bookstack in the enby colours. All handpainted. I also made some simple beaded bracelets that are not in the picture.
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*tv presentator voice* do YOU also struggle with brain static everytime you stand up? If you do, this life hack is for you!
✨ Clench ✨ your ✨ fucking ✨ ass ✨ cheeks ✨
#personal#life hack#self reminder#not witchy#but still#witchblr#because it's witchcraft at this point#spell of begone cotton brain joe
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Time for my quarterly identity crisis 🙃
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