‘ look me in the eye. why won't you look me in the eye? ’

( @momguilt, lyric-based starter for abby. new jersey by blue deputy. )

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[  HANDCUFF  ]  *  your muse handcuffs my muse.

"Did --" There was a moment's pause, a faint hitch in his breath as the first of the cuffs were ratcheted into place around his wrist, his gaze shifting between her movements and her face. "Did you know that it is .. technically against the Bureau's code of conduct to use officially, bureau issued restraints for ... " A soft attempt to clear his throat interrupts his thoughts. "For anything other than their intended purpose?" His words were a little more breathy than usual, fingers flexing outwards and relaxing slowly as she snapped the second cuff around his other wrist. "I mean -- I -- I ... won't tell if you won't."

You are absolutely done. You can’t think straight.

And then it happens.

Your kiddo needs you. They are having a huge tantrum. Maybe it’s a stage 9 meltdown.

Either way, you have zero capacity to handle, support, or even look in the direction of your little one.

Somehow you muster up the strength to get in the ring. You try all the things yet nothing works. Then you lose it.

You don’t want to. You don’t mean to but it just happens.

Like an out-of-body experience.

I get it. I hear this over and over from all my clients. I want you to know you are not alone.

BUT. Yeah, I know… I wish there weren’t a but.

This cycle isn’t the best for our children. Now I’m not shaming the moment. Hear me again. I AM NOT SHAMING YOU. Sh*t happens.

But I know you hate that moment. Hate that it even happens.

You wish you could show up, be calm, present, and provide that safety for your kiddo.

And that’s possible.

That’s possible for you. And for your little.

But first, we must support you!

If you want to create and build that safety with your little ones, it requires sensory and emotional regulation for yourself.

And if you want that, my THRIVE program is the first place to start.

So give me a HELL YEAH if you want in on this amazing workshop, and I’ll send you all the details in your DM.

I promise you can have the life you dreamed of with your family.

XOXO Dr. B

sometimes i hate being a mom just because of ALLLLL the judgement from EVERYONE. CONSTANTLY. it doesn’t matter what i do, what i say, or how i do it - someone’s always got something negative to say and has to make me feel like a shit mom. moms already have enough mom guilt and don’t need the rest of the population along with her own family making her feel like she’s doing a bad job. the only thing that does is feed into her mom guilt/anxiety/insecurities and has her overthinking instead of focusing on being happy with her child. women can literally never be enough and it’s so sad.

Confession: It is Our Job

It is our job to give our children the best life possible. Now, I don’t mean they need the best materialistically. They need love. They need support. They need understanding. They need to feel loved. Give them a hug. Tell them you love them. Watch them dance around the living room 100x. Make them feel validated & valued. Show affection. Make a connection over something they love. Take time to…

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I've had a really nasty cold all through the half term holiday, and Jon has had to do some software release work overnight twice 😱 so although he took time off to help, he's been exhausted. My amazing Mum came to the rescue and took the children to soft play with one of their aunties and 2 of their cousins, then they had a sleepover. (Pic from Mum showing them super excited 😍 - apparently she heard giggling for a while before they settled down!) The break has massively helped me to feel human again and get my voice back! 🙌 And more importantly, my lovely children had a blast for a couple of days that could otherwise have been pretty boring and frustrating for them. Every time I get any kind of illness, even a cold, I think about how much I took for granted the ability to just BE sick, without worrying about anyone else. My children are now old enough that they CAN play together, but they still want to play with me, and I felt so guilty earlier in the week when I was telling them I didn't feel up to joining in. Parent guilt is awful! So hooray for grandparents! Sadly my germiness meant we had to cancel a trip to see the other grandparents earlier in the week, which I'm gutted about. Roll on warmer weather, and hopefully a reduction in germs! . #grandparents #grandmatotherescue #grandma #grandparenting #parentguilt #parentingguilt #momguilt #mumguilt #parentingsos #parentingstruggles #momstruggles #mumstruggles #honestmom #honestmum #honestparent #honestmotherhood #honestparenthood #grateful #gratitude #thankful https://www.instagram.com/p/Coxr31QMcrh/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

Working Parent Shame

Sacred Geometry

This weekend I had the biggest, best full-circle moment with my son, Levi.  When I was a kid and my parents split up, there was a period where I didn’t see my dad at all. I don’t remember this time because I was between two and three years old. My big brothers remember a time when my parents lived together. I don’t. My memory only lets me go back to a point where I was probably about four. At…

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Been feeling real Sad lately because I feel like Pip doesn't want to play with me. Then tonight I asked her to work and she was so happy! And we did a few things.

THE REST OF THIS IS JUST MOMGUILT(TM)

We've falling down on conditioning since her season and my being overwhelmed at work and it's really showing in some conditioning loss. Her bad appetite meant I was holding out on training goodies until after dinner, which meant sometimes we never got to train at all...

I'm trying to remember that she's also been ILL and we've been doing the vet weekly for the past two months. Only this past week were her liver values normal again. We still don't know what the problem is. She may have a liver shunt. May require intervention or may not. We just have to see. At least the supportive meds are helping, and it doesn't seem to be GvHD.

All her hair means she tuckers out fast in the increasingly heat and we don't get much walking in since she's superstitious about our neighborhood. So I'm feeling terrible that I squandered her conditioning that we worked hard on. And she seems less peppy than she was earlier in the year, which makes me panic that something is wrong. M keeps telling me it's just the heat (both temperature and hormonal), and that makes sense, but I spiral ANYWAY!!!

I started a new, easier job though and I'm already doing better. I was so exhausted and wrung out all the time. Insane how my mental capacity has increased already. Now I can spend it on conditioning my hairy, lazy dog...

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𝐉𝐄𝐑𝐄𝐌𝐈𝐀𝐇 𝟖 : 𝟐𝟎 ' 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐇𝐀𝐑𝐕𝐄𝐒𝐓 𝐈𝐒 𝐏𝐀𝐒𝐓 , 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐒𝐔𝐌𝐌𝐄𝐑 𝐈𝐒 𝐄𝐍𝐃𝐄𝐃 , 𝐀𝐍𝐃 𝐖𝐄 𝐀𝐑𝐄 𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐒𝐀𝐕𝐄𝐃. '

an independent , selective multimuse roleplay blog. includes heavy topics and explicit material that are not suitable for younger audiences. portrayed by angela. se habla español.

a study in: coming unhinged , bravely suffering the horror of your situation , the full spectrum of female emotions , being doomed by the narrative , losing faith in the divine.

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blog roll: gatekeepcr , twclvesteps , momguilt discord: upon request.

i guarantee you if my mother had children today she'd be like #momguilt when you forget to feed your children and they end up eating spoiled food and getting sick

Oh man, that mom guilt is real...

So, this week, I was totally feeling the ‘working too much’ blues – guilt over feeling like I had been spending way too much of my time on work stuff, while simultaneously feeling like I had been slacking on the home front. 😅 (𝘐 𝘣𝘦𝘵 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯.)

It was then I decided I was going to try to get out of my guilt ridden funk and take a 𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦𝘭𝘺 guilt-free afternoon off!

I took the girls to our local library’s “Crafty Tuesday” crafts class. They had a great time doing a quick craft and checking out some library books... and you’ll never guess what happened?

𝘕𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘳𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘦! 😅 My whole work life hadn’t imploded in my 2 hour absence, and I was able to take a much needed mental break as I enjoyed some quality time with my kids!

It was a great reminder that, although I think we all struggle with the mom guilt that is associated with being a working mom, it’s also OK to hit pause sometimes and focus on what needs attention without beating ourselves up about it!

What are some things you do when you start feeling the mom guilt creep in?

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Hey mama. Do you ever have those days when you feel down in the dumps? You know, one of those days when you start thinking that you are, maybe FAILING as a mom… when you want to send the whole world packing? Yes, hello mom guilt… #mom #momguilt #parenting #consciousparenting #overwhelm #selfcare

Single Moms: How To Stop Feeling So Guilty About Dating Again

Hey single moms, listen up!

​​If you're feeling guilty about dating again, don't worry – you're not alone. ​​But there are ways to make it a little easier on yourself.

​​Here are some tips on how to stop feeling so guilty and start enjoying your dating life again. 

Warmly,

Crista

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