Grace and Mickah
How long have you been working in Hong Kong?
G: Five months.
M: Three years onward.
Do you have any children?
M: I’m married and have two children. My girl, my daughter is thirteen and my son is eleven.
G: Single. I don’t have any.
What made you decide to come to Hong Kong from the Philippines?
M: There are many things, especially. Hong Kong is sometimes the stepping stone; there are a lot of opportunities over here that we don’t have.
G: It was a selfish decision, because honestly my parents don’t want me to work here. But I wanted this opportunity as my stepping stone to go to other countries, like Canada or even Russia. Here, it’s easier to go from one country to another. I already applied to Canada before, but when I found my employer they treated me as one of the family, so I decided to stay a little longer. But now I say that maybe it’s about time for me to pursue my career and look ahead. Since they already turned Hong Kong over to China, it’s difficult for us to be granted residency here.
When you’re having an employer that treats you as family, it’s really difficult to leave them behind. When we come over here to decide to work, we leave our family behind. It’s the same as when you find someone here that considers you family; it’s hard to decide to leave. My employers, they are Australian. One day they will also return to their country, their homeland. I feel like when they go, I will have to go to another house and adjust to everything again. So I say it’s much better that I start do my own thing. It’s about time that I make a decision for my own life, because I’ve already done everything for them already. If I can be granted residency here, why not? Hong Kong and the Philippines are very close.
But if you go outside, especially to Canada, if you don’t have a lot of money, even the air ticket is difficult. So that’s also a disadvantage. But if you are looking for greener pastures and to be secure – we need security. We cannot work forever as domestic helpers. Actually, when we go there [to Canada] it’s the same. We’re domestic helpers. But the policies and laws there may hold advantages for us.
What is your dream job?
G: I finished my college with a bachelor’s degree. I was a teacher in our country. I want to teach elementary – any subject, but my major is in mathematics.
M: I am also a teacher. I’m a volunteer teacher in our church in the Philippines. But being a volunteer is really hard because you don’t have an income. They just say thank you. That’s all. That’s why I decided to go here. And maybe if I’m given the chance to teach, I can use my previous knowledge. It’s really a big opportunity for me. Even though I’m a helper here, I’m not closing the opportunity that someday I can teach again.
What did you teach?
M: I taught high school students.
What would you say is your greatest challenge right now?
G: The greatest challenge? Struggling so much. Especially when boredom attacks. You miss your family. The biggest struggle is when you’re sick, because no one looks after you. You have to force yourself to do everything. Even though sometimes your employer says, “No, don’t do that. Go to the doctor,” still, they’re paying you. As soon as you recover just a little, you have to do everything. And that’s your job. No one else is gonna do it. Even water and food you have to get yourself, because everyone else is busy. That’s the time you have to remember your family and why you’re here.
M: As a new helper in Hong Kong, my struggle is having the bond between you and your employer. For me, we are still processing our relationship. It’s really hard to think that you’re going to live under one roof with other people you don’t really know. I have one coworker in the house. She’s also Filipino. It’s really hard, because they are going to make us competitive.
How would you describe your relationship with your employer?
M: Maybe we are on processing. Sooner and later, maybe I can express to them what I’m really feeling. But for now, there’s a barrier. I’m still new.
G: Since I’ve been working for them for over three years, the relationship that we built is really intact. There is trust, love and affection.
What do you think is most important for having a good relationship with your employer?
G: The first thing is how they treat you. It doesn’t matter how high your salary is – it’s about how well they treat you. Even if the salary is very high, if they’re going to treat you like a slave, it means nothing. If they treat you well, with no stress, then you’ll have a good relationship. Treatment is important. You may be a worker and they may be an employer, but we are all humans.
M: I watched a YouTube video before that said: if you treat your Filipino worker well, they are going to stay with you forever. It’s an instinct: if you’re going to treat us well, we’re going to treat you well. Even though you might have much allowance or okay food, if you’re going to treat us like animals, it’s really hard for us. If you treat us well, then we can do our work well.
How did you two meet?
G: We’re cousins! Actually, I’m older than her. I’m already forty-something.
M: I’m only twenty-four.
G: We are in the same place, and we are in the same community. We are one. I know her a lot, and she knows me.
Can you recall one of your happiest moments working as a helper?
M: Every time I see the kid I’m taking care of, that she’s happy and learning more and I can contribute my knowledge to her, for me it’s an achievement. I can teach her. The girl I take care of has special needs, so every time she learns something new, her dad and mom are very happy. That’s the trophy for me: her success.
G: For me, it’s the same thing. The son is nine years old and the daughter is thirteen. She is quite naughty, but the thing is, I have their attention and their love. They treat me also like one of their mothers. I tell them, “I am a mother. I have children in my country, so I’m going to treat you like one of my own.” So no secrets, no nothing. When I came to them at first, my employer didn’t believe that I was a teacher. One time, I proved it. He was struggling with his math homework, and I said to my employer, “If you trust me, I will teach him what I was teaching when I was in the Philippines.”
Afterwards, my employer said to her son, “Maybe one day you will become successful, and then you’ll have to phone Grace [pictured] and give thanks to her.” That was my happiest moment with them.
Can you describe a time in your life when you felt very scared?
M: For me, when I’m travelling to Hong Kong. Honestly, my decision-making is really my problem. Every time I get hurt, I’m not thinking if it’s right or wrong. I really didn’t know what I was going to do here in Hong Kong, how my employer was going to treat me. That’s one of my reasons for my being scared before.
Do you think you’ve conquered that fear?
M: I think I can do anything right now, because they treated me well and I am giving back to them.
G: The first time I came here, my biggest fear was how I would deal with somebody else. Would they be good or bad? How could my work become stable?
That last thing was that I didn’t know how to cook. My job in the Philippines was the opposite to my job here. Papers, books, and chalkboards to teach the children. Here, everything has a timetable. You have to cook, you have to clean, wash, iron, teach, and bring back from school the children. How you handle all these situations, that was the scariest thing at first. Especially cooking. Our food is very different from here. My employer didn’t teach me anything; I had to take initiative. She gave me all the responsibility to learn. Luckily, I was able to. Otherwise I wouldn’t have been able to stay so long with them. Next year, we will finish our contract.
What are you most grateful for?
M: The salary I earn here can help my family back home. Before, my mother was really struggling with me because I spent a lot for money. But now I know about costs and the importance of money because I really work for it. I know that my mother and father are really happy about that.
What’s your biggest hope for the future?
G: I hope that my children will have success in the future. You work your best here and save money, all for your children.
M: Maybe ten years from now, I hope that I’ll have already my own house, and my family is stable. That’s really my dream and why I chose to work here and earn money. Even though we’re struggling here, we work hard so we can satisfy the satisfactions of our employer.
Why didn’t your parents want you to come to Hong Kong?
M: I am the youngest of our family. My father really didn’t want me to go here because he knew that maybe I couldn’t do this. I am one of the weakest in our family. That’s why my father said, “Don’t go. Maybe you cannot end your contract there. Maybe someone will do something to you there.”
What’s your favorite thing about the Philippines?
M: Many things! If you’re going to have time to travel in the Philippines, you’ll find that the greatness in the Philippines is hospitality. Even though some Filipinos don’t know how to speak in English, they’re going to do their best to communicate with you, even if you’re a foreigner. They’ll do their best to make you feel at home. The Philippines is really one of the greatest countries. Although some other countries say that the Philippines is one of the scariest countries, it’s not like that in all the Philippines. The hospitality – you cannot find it in another country. If you visit the Philippines, they’re going to accept you and see you in your attitude, not in your money.
G: I’m so proud to be a Filipino. We Filipinos, we know how to struggle. No matter what happens, we always fight. Everybody knows that we are one of the poorest countries, but we’re still looking forward to have a better future. We aren’t sitting there and waiting for a miracle to happen. We go outside and do. We look for a better future.
Is there anything else you would like to share?
M: I’m going to encourage you, as someone from Hong Kong, to learn more about Filipinos. Filipinos are not just maids. If you have the chance to befriend a Filipino, let them open their ways to you. If you are given the chance to love a Filipino, you’re given the greatest prize in your life.
G: Filipinos – if you love them, they will love you back. And then they will never betray you. They are so patient; they will sacrifice everything. You can rely on them.
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