give us a brief overview of your family 👀

@rxinbexm is my gf 😘, @puffanities is my mom, @pedriandgavi is my big sis now i jus made that decision sorry babe, @cafeliko is my twin (and godmother she has no choice) 🫶🏽🫶🏽

@sh3-emp is my bsf cause she has no official family position and @amorettopedri is also part of it - no official position yet 😁😁😁

I'M SORRY FOR ALL MY GAX POSTING

We love you Gorgy

All 89 of us... and counting

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and counting as of tonight actually!!! yall crazy

there’s literally an account on insta that reposted my daydreaming art and it got 2,500 likes when the original got 900. i want to message them to stop but they have so many followers that i’m worried they’d just send an army my way. or they’ll just block me so i won’t be able report their reposts. i really love the support i’ve been getting on the polin art but it’s accounts like this that make me want to stop posting.

HELP, THEYRE STILL REBLOGGING THE "IM GAY??" COMIC

i was gonna make a joke about turning my asks back on but i think people would think im so grossly self absorbed

sometimes i remember some of my moots are in their 20s and dealing with adult problems when i’m crying over a 10th grade assignment lmao

every time i see my mutuals talk about their daddy kink i’m like CAN YOU BEHAVE?!

WHERE is part 2 of you’re my best friend i need it NEOWWWWWWW

Hi i knowwww I’d love to be able to whip that up for y’all but I am still in paris and I really have no time to be writing fan fiction at the moment :(

At MCR concert tonight. Be jealous

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I'm gonna head off now! Nobody answered my question last time so I think I will do a wheel for the next game I play, but I'll put Klonoa on there too. Bc there's a lot of games I'd like to also play!

being a gay trans man in the outlander fandom feels so weird i feel like the only man here

hi loves! i feel really happy with all the love i’ve gotten on my art and i wanted to be honest with you all,

i have been struggling with motivation for a while and have been losing motivation to make art, most of the stuff i’ve been posting is old. i want to say this because i wanted to be honest with everyone that im working through a lot right now. i want to apologize for the lack of art and original designs because when i lose motivation i struggle with creating anything new and just draw already made characters

all of your sweet comments and art from mutuals really makes me happy and i want to thank you all for everything and i hope i can post more that you guys will enjoy since i’ve been flopping lately

love you all and thank you for giving me this space to talk to people 🩷

Mr. Riordan, it is truly a pleasure getting to experience your second draft.

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

various tango doodles