hate to say it, but part of ending the stigma around sexual assault means not assuming every woman blames herself. yes, female socialization encourages it, but that doesn’t make it a given, and the goal of all of these campaigns is to eventually diminish the proportion of women who do blame themselves. it is entirely possible, and increasingly common, for women to experience sexual assault and not feel shame or guilt, which we should be happy about. but instead, there are only so many times you can hear “you know it’s not your fault, right?” before it sounds like “it was your fault”. and there’s only so many times you can hear “don’t blame yourself” before it sounds like “you should blame yourself”. because it feels good to say, doesn’t it? sure, you don’t believe she’s guilty, but you do believe she should feel guilty, so that you can disabuse her of the notion. just something to consider.

I hate social media and what it has done to feminism and women

There’s a lot of completion for who is the evilest Tory, but Suella Braverman is certainly winning ‘who makes the worst pr choices’

IRL VYLT JUMPSCARE RAHHH

vid of me rockin out at my latest gig yesterday hehe !! performed as part of my university's electronic music club for a national arts fest, it was such an honour!!

didnt wear my witch outfit this time bc it wasnt too fitting for the event, and thank god i didnt because it was hot as FUCK that day

i might photo/vid dump more if the free market demands it 💜💜

Suffering more than Jesus atm (being a fan of 80s/90s Suicide squad in 2024)

I'm sorry but if you genuinely ship Mattias and Ben I'm looking at you so weirdly rn.

Wait so you love Lando but hate Carlos? but you post Carlando? girl how do you justify that

"wait so you love lando but hate carlos" <- absolutely correct anon, you got it!!

"girl how do you justify that" <- easily: i do what i want here on tumblr dot com.

hope this clears it up for you anon ❤️

various witch stuff of the day or whatever the heck

…oh the controversial angst idea. In tags it goes.

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mfw i spent yeeeeears in college aaaaaagonizing about how to turn a short fanfic of mine into a full-length original work and was working on it with my professor and through all the editing became really embarrassed of the original fanfic version thinking it was immature and shallow but could also never make the rewrite work so i moved onto other projects and then today after a very long time reread both of them only to find that the original fic is concise and heartfelt with clunky execution but solid and gripping emotional beats and the novelization is overwritten self-obsessed garbo

Kinda tempted to go back to identifying as aromantic but from the perspective of "I have chosen to love everyone that I have dated. I can choose to stop." but I don't know how well that would go over.

You have the right to like your Angbang intense. You have the right to like your Angbang fucked up. You have the right to like your Angbang unhinged. You have the right to like your Angbang harmful. But you also have a right to like your Angbang fluffy, too. You are not woobifying them if you like it soft or write a fic where they say they love each other or kiss or high five or take a bite from the same sandwich or whatever. You have a different interpretation, that’s all. You’re not committing some horrid unforgivable atrocity against your fandom. You’re not an “annoying fan” if you want your ships happy, even if other people dislike you for it, the same way you are not an “annoying fan” if you like your ships intense and other people dislike you for it. You’re not a mean person for having an opinion that the majority dislikes. You’re an individual human being who has an opinion and your opinion is worth JUST as much as every other opinion in your fandom. Because that’s how opinions work. You’re not disregarding canon any more than people who bend it to fit their other non-canon ships or headcanons or other interpretations of this ship or their interpretation of any other ship or anything else that JRRT or Christopher or the Tolkien estate disagree with. We all see a piece of media and interpret it differently. It doesn’t make any of us better or worse for it. Ship and let ship. 

Mothers by Daughter is a song about the relationship between a mother and her child, about how almost parasitic it is, the way it takes and it takes from the moment a child is conceived, and how relationships like these can be complicated and full of mixed feelings. its about how a mothers love will stay through everything, even when it isnt reciprocated. its about a love that will drain you of all you can give and then keep taking and taking until youre no longer who you used to be.

so anyway obviously this song is edizzy to me

the viper got cold so i gave him my jacket

(I made this in advance cause I knew y’all beautiful gremlins would have voted to have it redone. Y’all are wise cause I was legit gonna weep if I had to try at ✨the arm✨ again)