Tonight in self-reflection I wonder, was I a highly sensitive child or was I just the normal amount of sensitivity and my Gen Xer mother just lacked the emotional maturity to deal with my emotions?

random social etiquette I've noticed 90% of my generation doesn't seem to know about is that you don't talk about a party with someone if you don't know if they're invited and they plausibly could be.

like, okay, your cousin is getting married. your friend doesn't know your cousin. that's an okay party to talk to a friend about because they would not reasonably expect to be invited or want to go. but a party a mutual friend/acquaintance is hosting? and you're not sure if they're invited? you don't talk about it until you get a chance to ask the host if said friend is invited. it's rude and makes people feel bad and excluded.

I have little to no sympathy for these gen X parents who go on TikTok and other platforms and whine about how their adult children suddenly refused to talk to them and cut them off. I can guarantee you that those parents did something to make their child not want to talk to them ever again and the child in question already tried to mend the relationship. People don't cut off their parents casually.

Somebody said these were millenial coded and I've been trying not be offended for the last few hours

Alright gang I need to figure something out. How many of you guys have Gen X parents who expect you to throw your mental health to the wayside in favor of working hard and “being an adult.” Ones that expect you to show no weakness and trust the system, ones that think life is the same way it was before 9/11 and vehemently argue with you when you try to explain how it absolutely has changed?

Reblogs for sample size/answers appreciated, want to see if this is just a “my parents are crazy” thing or if Gen X collectively had some bitch in their ear their whole lives that made them this way.

Just saw someone saying one of the characters on stranger things would’ve loved 9/11 jokes if they lived, but like the characters on stranger things are Gen Xers and every Gen Xer I know are still like, super traumatized by that day so🤷🏼‍♀️

If you can relate...

I remember when I was younger, punishment or discipline was one thing that was expected from our parents to use as letting us know we were wrong and helping us learn our lesson if we did something unethical, disrespectful, or pretty much wrong. Obviously, overdoing the punishment is and was a problem, but it seems that now a days it's almost considered unethical to discipline our children for bad behavior anyway. Kids are in need of being held accountable but reporting their parents to authorities for disciplinary actions and punishment, maybe a bit overboard? I remember if I did something wrong, I wasn't going to expect a talking to because, as kids, we really don't or didn't listen until we were punished for it with discipline and learning our lesson. Parents are there to make sure we understand what the difference is from right and wrong. They come with either punishment or reward. Not all may agree on what's right or what's wrong and that is when the challenges come and causes most of us to doubt or second guess if what we are doing is wrong or right as a parent(s), but do not reward for bad and punish for good.

Can you teach a child by using fear tactics? I think so. I mean, I tried to stay away from acting out because I didn't want a spanking from my dad... WITH A BELT!!! So that worked. I wasn't mad. After the incident, realized I was being taught a lesson. But a lot of people may ask, "So what may be right for you isn't right for others, and what's wrong for you may not be wrong for others." When I would do wrong or behave badly, I never thought of the impact my behavior had on others, but I sure did know the impact my parents would have on me! As we get older, we start noticing our actions and words and how they impact others as well. The impact it had on others can and should let us know how bad it was based on their reaction or response and expose what you did or said and why it wasn't taken well. Our concious eventually steps in and translates what was wrong with what we said or did based on their reaction. Same as an adult doing something illegal and knowing there are police doing their job. Not parenting, but trying to help control the crime. We can only control our household as parents married with children.

Parents know this as they are adults who have been through most of what we were going through when we were kids and were trying to correct it or help us learn that making a bad decision once is considered a mistake but doing it more than once, becomes a choice. Maybe my culture or background taught me differently than other cultures teach their kids, so I'm speaking for the Hispanic, more so, Dominican culture out there. We really can't compare different generation's ways of correcting their kids' behavior. For me, as a gen X, I remember how much I didn't want to get in trouble with my parents or embarrass myself because of my bad behavior and eventually disrespect, hurt, or not consider others, besides the fear of the punishment that would come with it of course. With my kids, i did the best I could to avoid going that route.

At a young age, we need to know there are consequences to our actions as well as rewards. We need to raise our kids, now and in the future, knowing what the differences are. There is a difference between "discipline" and "hit." If your child tells others you 'hit them,' others can translate that as a form of abuse, but punishment and discipline is not to be confused with abuse. As I mentioned earlier, it does depend on the culture and heritage. The goal is to learn self-discipline that will keep them at ease with their behavior and response or reaction to others. It's our job as parents to instill that in our young ones without overreacting and being sure we are not acting out of anger or frustration as to why you are punishing them.

.....you'll understand

maybe I rlly should just throw out my shit

My gen X mom just started therapy and I feel like I've won at life

Rest in peace pee wee Herman my parents loved you

They told me that NO one they knew hated him!? Like my generation at least has a few haters of one thing, we can't just agree on anything? I'm so shocked that their generation was like this about him and most of them liked the guy

just found out that gen x really doesnt get that cancelling isn't gonna ruin anyone's career if they listen to their pr teams and that they do it to celebs too. this is wild to me.

they're so scared of the liberal agenda that the second some old fuck they vaguely know about says they're being hunted for sport by the blue haired pronoun people, they immediately jump on that person's side with no interest in finding further context. meanwhile the reasons they were cancelled for their political beliefs usually come down to them bullying leftists and minorities on twitter, spouting white supremacist dogwhistles, or saying suuuuper fucked up shit about national tragedies or sensitive topics they have no right to be speaking on period, let alone so callously.

but no we all decided to ruin the careers of these people we don't even care about for no reason other than we're not being catered to. it's never that we just don't like them and talk shit on the internet or the person was being a straight up bigot or fuckin criminal. nah we're just lil haters who are out to get the conservatives lmao. watch out.

maybe its cause my family is big and ive Seen a few generations in the same space at the same time that i can ballpark ages decently

I’m living in the worst timeline. My folks are giving my little sister a bigger and better bed for Christmas and I’m getting someone else’s USED twin sized bed. I wish I had people who actually loved me.

At a trampoline park for a birthday party with my seven-year-old, and the track list has so far included: In the End, Call Me Maybe, Knock on Wood, and Say My Name. Never in my life as an Elder Millenial have I felt so validated.

Whoever wrote the subtitles for the sapranos for at least comcast had to have been a gen xer or something. double spaces after periods

Coming out to my parents as aroallo and explaining qprs to them was weirdly easy just because they're X-Files fans

They were just like,

"Like Scully and Mulder?"

And yes, like Scully and Mulder.

That seems to be the best way to describe qprs to gen Xers