Often when trans women ask me when I'm performing next, and I tell them that it's a queer/trans event, they will tell me that they'd rather not go because they do not feel comfortable or safe in those spaces, that they have been dismissed or belittled at such events before. Even trans women who are dyke- or bisexual- identified often don't feel welcome or relevant in queer/trans spaces. And whenever a trans woman or ally points out aspects about the queer/ trans community that contribute to these feelings of irrelevancy and disrespect—such as the way our community coddles those who support trans-woman-exclusionist events or who make trans-misogynistic comments—we are described as being "divisive." This use of the word "divisive" is particularly telling, as it implies that "queer/trans" represents a uniform movement or community—a "oneness"—rather than an alliance where all voices are respected.

Julia Serano, Whipping Girl. Published 2007.

just had my 3 week post-op and i’m officially done with the bandages! i’m so glad i can really enjoy my chest now and not have it covered up 99% of the time. i still can’t believe how good it already looks, shoutout to my surgeon for doing a fucking incredible job.

they're gym buddies :)

You're getting the top surgery icy nips 😂

For a while after surgery, every time I drank / ate something cold, it would go Straight to the Incisions 🙃

YEAH!!! WHY DOES IT DO THAT

my doctor was sooooo fucking worthless and unhelpful im going to masturbate and i hope it fucking kills me

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What surgery did you have?

appendix be gone

Accomplishments:

I toured L&D at my delivering hospital. I asked questions, one of which they didn't know the answer to but are going to reach out to their hospitalist to find the answer and get back to me. There is a marginal chance that the question won't be applicable and we'll all get to go home together, but I still wanted to ask just in case.

I bought more baby clothes (technically I didn't need them but that is not the point).

I told my sister that she is all in with delivery and in the OR or I'm asking my BFF to be there instead (my sister has been waffling, especially since she found out I have to have a c-section, about whether she will be in the room or not).

I finally admitted to my friend that I am overwhelmed so the question 'what do you need' is really hard for me because I don't know. And what would be more helpful is from the perspective of an experienced twin mom to say, 'she definitely needs this, let me check if she has it' because otherwise my brain is getting stuck in the OMG do I have all the things I need/overthinking and I never actually get to a place where I can answer the question, 'what do you need?'

I asked my landlord questions...and told her I was having babies - I've avoided telling her because my anxiety was like, 'she's going to evict you if you tell her you're adding more humans to the household which I know isn't true because my landlord is wonderful.

I scheduled a pedicure for tomorrow and I'm going to get my brows done too because I feel more human when they're done and I'm going to need that post delivery

There are exceptions of course but by and large I find the 90s/early 2000s britcom set up of never letting the main characters get a win, and being able to treat darker subjects with a sort of nihilistic humour so much more compelling than the current trend of comedy series trying to tie each episode in bite sized pieces of character growth and heartwarming tales tbh

Might embark on a reread of all those Trauma Books I picked up eight or nine years ago, actually. I think I would get new things from them this time around.

top surgery being held together by one (1) dc comics brand The Flash bandaid for children

Top surgery recovery observation

One thing I didn't hear anyone else talk about is the deal with coughing/sneezing.

If you are getting top surgery, I suggest to be very careful to avoid these. Dust your house well beforehand. Spring allergies? I recommend not doing it during spring. Take extra care while drinking or eating to not choke (I'm really bad at this one lol)

I might've inhaled near some dust? I'm not sure but I felt an urge and had my first sneeze post op today. It was very scary😭

this is in reference to a specific post i didnt get a screenshot of but it said something to the effect of “males should get vasectomies as soon as they start puberty and only be allowed to have it reversed if a woman gives her legal written consent to get her pregnant” and. jesus fucking christ. you’re fucking unhinged. go to therapy??? believing that would be a good plan is fucking terrifying

So, because my life is AWESOME (/s), guess what just happened?

I'll give you a hint. It has symptoms that I really wouldn't wish on anyone recovering from abdominal surgery.

For anyone who guessed "Lunar got covid," dingdingding! You win a virtual cookie! I am now juggling how much cough suppressant I can take on top of the NSAIDs for my surgical pain management.

Ugh.

I was about to make a post about how I think I might have broken my toe yesterday and I went to the bathroom to type it while I'm brushing my teeth bc multitasking and I looked in the mirror and there was a fucking tick on my neck what the fuck

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