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inkskinned · 2 years

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kids remind me, often, of the things i've taught myself out of.

i have a big dog. he looks like a deer. he is taller than most young children. while we were on a trail the other day, a boy coming our direction saw us and froze. he took a step back and said: "i'm feeling nervous. your - your dog is kind of big."

goblin and i both stopped walking immediately. "he is kind of a big dog," i admitted. "he's called a greyhound. they are gentle but they are pretty tall, which is kind of scary, you're right. their legs are so long because they are made for running fast. i am sorry we scared you. would you like us to stand still while you move past us, or would you feel more safe in your body if we move and you stay still?'

"oh. i didn't know that about - greyhounds. i think i ... i want to stay still," he said. at this point, his adult had caught up to us. "i'm nervous about the dog," he told her, "so i'm - i'm gonna stay still." she didn't argue. she didn't make fun of him. she just smiled at him and at me and held his hand while goblin and i, with as wide of a berth as we could make, crept our way through.

behind us, i heard him exhale a deep breath and kind of laugh - "he was really big, huh? she said it's because greyhounds have to go fast."

"he was big," she said. "i understand why that could have made you a little scared."

"yeah. next time i - next time do you think i could maybe ask to touch him? when - i mean, next time, maybe, if i'm not nervous."

later, going to a work event, in the big city, i stood outside, trembling. my social anxiety as a caught bird in my chest. i took a deep breath and turned to my coworker. she's not even really my friend yet. i told her: "i feel nervous about this. i am not used to meeting new people, ever since covid."

she laughed, but not in a mean way. she said she was nervous too. she reached her hand out and held mine, and we both took another deep breath and walked in like that, interlinked. a few people asked us - together? - and i told the truth: i feel nervous, and she's helping. over and over i watched people relax too, admitting i feel really kind of shy lately actually, thank you for saying that.

the next time i go to an event, and i feel a little scared, i ask right away: wanna hold hands? this feels a little dangerous. i hesitate less. i don't hide it as much. i watch for other people who are also nervous and say - it's kinda hard, huh?

i know, logically, i'm not good at asking for help. but i am also not good at noticing when i need help. i've trained myself out of asking completely, but i've also trained myself to never accept my own fears or excuses. i have trained myself to tamp down every anxiety and just-push-through. i don't know what i'm protecting myself from - just that i never think to admit it to anyone.

but every person on earth occasionally needs comfort. every person on earth occasionally needs connection. many of us were taught independence is the same thing as never needing anything.

each of us should have had an adult who heard - i feel nervous and held our hand and asked us how we could be helped to feel safe. no judgement, and no chiding. many of us did not. many of us were punished for the ways that we seemed "weak".

but here is something: i am an adult now. and i get nervous a lot, actually. and if you are an adult and you are feeling a little nervous - come talk to me. we can hold hands and figure out what will help us feel safe in our bodies. and maybe, next time, if we're brave, we can pet the dog that's passing.

#spilled ink #warm up #so i have worked in childcare as a teacher for like 15 years #hence the language behind ''what helps you be safe in your body?''#like you can tell by what i say here i have EXPERIENCE with kids.#but tbh the REAL teacher moment is watching a 6/7 year old say #''this makes me nervous #can you please not come closer?''#as a teacher i was IMMEDIATELY like ... ahh whomever is raising you is doing an EXCELLENT job holy shit #verbalizing your fears? trusting an adult to listen?#ability to recognize a way you might feel safer?#like .... this kid's caregivers.... that one moment... i was like .... who are u i wanna french kiss you big on the mouth

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hall0weent0wn · 6 months

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☆° Bath time Stimboard °☆

ˏˋ°•*⁀➷ Squeaky clean!!

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zack-agere · 6 months

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You're still doing okay as a regressor if you... 🐥 🧡

💫 · are usually upset or in a negative situation when you regress

🧃 · don't know what age you regress to

🥞 · act mainly as a caregiver but still regress

💫 · have done things you regret when regressed

🧃 · cannot control your regression

🥞 · are mainly a regressor but are also a caregiver

💫 · feel like a burden for being disabled and needing extra or specific care

🧃 · are worried to tell people about your regression

🥞 · can't really tell the difference between when you regress and when you don't

🧃 · are afraid of getting or don't want a caregiver due to trauma

💫 · do things considered "big" or "adult" when regressed

🥞 · are an alter who can't tell if you're a regressor or a syskid / ageslider

🧃 · deal with intrusive and un-childlike thoughts

you are always deserving of comfort, safety, and a happy regression 𓂃⊹

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almiacastle · 9 months

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Trying to learn that it’s not my responsibility to create or maintain harmony in the lives of those I care about. They are allowed to have difficulties in their lives and struggles in their relationships with others and it’s not something that I need to ‘fix.’ I am not responsible for their happiness or peace. Their struggles do not make me a failure. All I can control is how I interact with them.

#edit: I have turned off notifications on this post.#words #02 #I was raised to be a mediator/caregiver/‘fixer’ from a young age #due to my family situation #so it’s difficult to unlearn something so deeply ingrained in me since childhood #those I love having difficulties is a normal thing and not my fault or responsibility. it does not make me a failure if they are struggling

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agere-me · 4 months

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Shoutout to the littles who

❥ curse

❥ don’t have a bedtime

❥ don’t have rules/don’t want them

❥ can take care of themselves

❥ big age is 35+

❥ feel like they don’t fit into the cutesy/pure regression

❥ are physically disabled

❥ are mentally disabled

❥ don’t want a cg

❥ don’t like calling their cg mommy/daddy (or any parental name)

❥ doesn’t have any little gear/doesn’t want it

And so so much more, you’re all valid

#age regression #age regressor #agere #safe agere #sfw agere #autistic agere #boy agere #agere little boy #disabled agere #agere positivity #agere little #agere community #agere blog #agere caregiver #sfw cglre #sfw little community #sfw little

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biggest-gaudiest-patronuses · 1 year

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christ sometimes I just wanna. steal a time machine & go back & sit down next to my 9-year-old self and just like. let them pull out their pokemon card binder & gush about their holographic gyarados or whatever. I'd just smile & ask questions about motherfukcing bulbasaur & tell my kid self that I thought they were a neat person, & someday they'd find other people who thought so too.

like i'm a grown adult who honestly finds most kids stuff boring, but. damn if i could go back & hang out with my baby self & listen to them ramble...just so they knew someone was listening. i would in a heartbeat. thinking about u kid

#wouldn't roll my eyes or check my phone or get bored or nothing #I'd just listen to that little dork & smile & encourage them & let them explain how their favorite gameboy games worked #i was the kind of kid my adult self would find annoying & uninteresting but like #most of the actual adults in my childhood felt that way too. including my dang parents.#and ya know sometimes they showed it. a lot of times without realizing it. and that messes a kid up #if you don't make an effort kids WILL recognize your disinterest and lack of attention.#kids deserve to have caregivers who show interest and engagement #even when it's over stuff that adults find boring. especially then maybe #your kid doesn't have to be fun or interesting or easy or well behaved to deserve positive attention #they deserve positive attention because they are YOUR KID #if love is unconditional then DISPLAYS of LOVE and AFFECTION must also be unconditional #not something that must be earned #telling your kid that you love them is not enough. that is step one out of like a thousand #if you just tell your kid you love them but you don't demonstrate affection and interest and patience and warmth and etcetera #your kid isn't gonna feel loved! I Love You will just become a trite phrase that they regard with mistrust!#bitch you gotta FOLLOW THROUGH

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dino-boyo-agere · 5 months

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Hey little one!

Oh, you had a bad day? I'm really sorry to hear that.

There's no need to apologize, sweetheart. It's okay to cry. It's okay to be upset, just let it all out.

You wanna hug baba? That's right, it's okay.

Look, baba got your favorite plushie! Let's hug them too, as tight as we can, yeah?

Do you want baba to put more pressure on your body? Wrap you up tight in my arms?

You don't have to be sorry, it's okay. I love you. I love you so much.

Thank you for trusting me. I'll hold you till you feel better.

I'm not going anywhere, I'm here for you.

Baba is always going to be here for you, darling.

You're so lovable. You're worth the world. You're my world, little one.

I'm here with you. Yes, and with plushie.

Oh, was that a giggle? No? It's okay, you can giggle and still be sad. You can giggle and still cry. Feelings are complicated. But we got this.

You got this. And I got you.

You're so brave. I'm proud of you. Dealing with all those big feelings.

Baba is so proud!

.ﾟ｡.･.*.ﾟ☆❗only interact if your blog is SFW❗☆ ﾟ.*.･. ｡ﾟ.

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stuckinthe-2000s · 10 months

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♡ I am allowed to regress.

♡ My regression is not gross or weird.

♡ I am not a burden.

♡ My regression is a healthy and safe space for me.

♡ If it gives me peace and joy, that's all that matters.

♡ I am taking care of myself when I regress.

♡ I am giving myself the love and support that I need.

♡ being sensitive and soft-hearted is not wrong.

♡ I am accepting myself by accepting my regression.

♡ I am protecting myself by choosing who I tell about my regression.

♡ I am allowed to use & like the things that help me regress.

♡ I deserve to regress.

♡ My regression is valid no matter what it looks like.

♡ Its okay if I can't regress as often or as little as I'd like to.

♡ It is okay to want to be taken care of.

♡ Its okay to not want to be taken care of.

♡ Its okay to need/want extra attention and care.

♡ My regression doesn't always have to be positive.

♡ My regression doesn't have to look a certain way.

#agere affirmations #agere positivity #sfw age regression #sfw agere #age regression #sfw agere blog #sfw toddlerre #sfw toddler regression #sfw agere caregiver #agere caregiver

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cg-mia · 3 months

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Appreciation for all the regressors who have had bad experiences during or for their regression ♡

- those who've been taken advantage of while regressing

- people who dislike regressing but still do it involuntarily

- those who have lost friends or relationships due to their regression

- people who have been discouraged from getting caregivers due to trauma or past experiences

- those who are reminded of their trauma when regressing

- people who regress to mourn for a childhood they could've had

- those who dislike regressing because it makes them more "weak"

You're all valid and loved 🧡

~ mama mia 🦩

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pubbidoll · 15 days

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Sleepy baby things!

Eye rubs

Sleepy tears

Stuffie cuddles

Grabby hands

Bed time stories

Lullabies

Warm bottles

#age regression #age regression caregiver #age regressor #agere #agere blog #agere caregiver #sfw agere #sfw caregiver

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warmmilku · 4 months

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🍂Tips for regressors without a CG!🍂

🧸 Create a safe and comfortable space for yourself

🐾 Establish a routine to provide a sense of security

🧸 Engage in activities that bring joy and comfort

🐾 Connect with supportive online communities like here on Tumblr!

🧸 Practice self-care and prioritize mental health!

🐾 Set boundaries to ensure a healthy balance

🧸 Explore coping mechanisms for stress and anxiety

🐾 Embrace creativity through art, writing, or playing!

🧸 Seek professional help if needed!

🐾 Remember it's okay to ask for support from friends or loved ones!!!

🧸 Try coloring books or doodling for a relaxing artistic outlet!

🐾 Explore imaginative worlds through reading fantasy books

🧸 Build a blanket fort for a cozy and playful hideaway

🐾 Create a playlist of favorite childhood songs and dance freely!

🧸 Engage in DIY crafts or projects to express creativity

🐾 Watch animated movies or TV shows that you love!

🧸 Play video games with colorful and entertaining themes

🐾 Bake or cook simple treats to enjoy and share!

🧸 Take nature walks or explore a local park for fresh air

🐾 Experiment with different hobbies like puzzles or board games!

#sfw agere #agere #agere blog #sfw caregiver space #safe agere #sfw age regression #sfw age regressor #agere community #age regressor #caregiver space #agere tips #sfw agere tips #sfw agere advice #agere advice

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mommykateandlittlegabby · 5 months

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@florence-and-dayton-abdl All these cuties need is a mama to take care of them and keep them in their diapees!

#little space #baby regression #blankie #diaper regression #ab dl lifestyle #ab/dl community #ab/dl diaper #age regression #caregiver #diapered247

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jelliefishhhh · 1 month

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Agere things is reading agere fics and then being like :( why can’t people treat me like that? I wanna be someone’s baby boy, I wanna be treated like I’m small when I’m small!! If you know I’m regressed treat me like it!

#agere #s #sfw agere #age regression #sfw littlespace #sfw caregiver #agere little #age regressor

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acebender · 22 days

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