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femmeconomics · 25 days

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hate to say it, but part of ending the stigma around sexual assault means not assuming every woman blames herself. yes, female socialization encourages it, but that doesn’t make it a given, and the goal of all of these campaigns is to eventually diminish the proportion of women who do blame themselves. it is entirely possible, and increasingly common, for women to experience sexual assault and not feel shame or guilt, which we should be happy about. but instead, there are only so many times you can hear “you know it’s not your fault, right?” before it sounds like “it was your fault”. and there’s only so many times you can hear “don’t blame yourself” before it sounds like “you should blame yourself”. because it feels good to say, doesn’t it? sure, you don’t believe she’s guilty, but you do believe she should feel guilty, so that you can disabuse her of the notion. just something to consider.

#i think we are very pleased with the idea of female shame #even among people who genuinely do not believe women are at fault for being assaulted #you are still meant to pay the penance of suffering and self destruction #god fucking knows why #“i got mugged” “aww don’t blame yourself for walking around with those fancy shoes and visible wallet okay? it’s not your fault”#you’d be like girl what. i didn’t fucking say it was my fault but your mind sure jumped there fast 🤨#“my mom died” “wow. do you feel terrible crippling shame for everything you’ve ever done wrong in your life?#up to and including causing your mom’s death? because that would be totally wrong if you did”#like how could that possibly be an appropriate response #genuinely i think the feeling that i was going completely insane post-being raped because no one would believe i didn’t blame myself #was like. solidly half as traumatic as the actual event #like. it is okay not to feel guilty and shameful. it’s great actually. you’re not having the wrong response.

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nem0-nee · 1 year

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𝐓𝐈𝐌𝐄 𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐬 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐫𝐞𝐧 𝐢𝐧 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐄𝐍𝐃.

bskfsfksfs Overblot Mayuu concept... Inspired by a certain titan with a monstrous appetite?! Yeah, don't eat blotted magestones kids-

A certain housewarden is FUCKED (iykyk)

I just needed to get this idea out of my system, might render when I'm feeling ambitious

#twst oc #twst #twisted wonderland oc #twisted wonderland #twst overblot #twst yuu #twst mc #kairyn saint #mayuu #my art heh #[incoming ramble ->]#did i really decide to do this over my art project? y e s #why? because I am in misery /j #BUT REALLY- OB MAYUU HAS BEEN ROTTING IN MY BRAIN FOR WEEKS #yuus can't OB because they're magicless... but mayuu? girl... that's a part of the kyuu special #all heroes...are bound to become the villain (ow edge)#it just happens that when you try to prevent every necessary disaster to the plot... you make things harder for yourself later-#she'll be fine (not really)#anyway back to the drawing board i go o-(-(

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nostalgicninjas · 2 months

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EVERY SAM AND TORY SCENE/MENTION (15/?)

“King Cobra” — Cobra Kai Season 3 Episode 6

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kathrynmjaneway · 2 months

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#get yourself a gamer boyfriend 10/10 can recommend #i spent the entire weekend with him #what did we do?#he watched me play elden ring for i think a total of 18 hours over 2 days #first time playing it for me and i knew basically nothing about it #and he has like close to 700hrs in that game #and i wanted to try it #so he let me and coached me through it #best backseat gaming 🫶🏻#i beat margit???? on my first try and it was very very exciting for me but i think. my boyfriend was even more excited about it than me #it was honestly such a cool moment the way he reacted #very sweet #we've dubbed finding graces with 'touch grass'#on that note i am a nintendo girl ive played on Nintendo consoles my entire life #but im playing on an xbox controller on his pc and its driving me insane WHY DID TGEY SWITCH THE ABXY BUTTONS AROUND #the amount of time i accidentally healed myself by pressing the x button when i wanted to press the y button is INSANE and a bit hilarious #anyway #i was like is this okay you just watching me play and he was like oh yes hes invested now #and i think the plan is for me to play through the entire game until june #and then to play the dlc together #very exciting #i am obsessed with this man #elden ring #personal #we've dubbed the FP dring thingy blue juice and every time i run out of FP and dont notice he just says blue juice #its been a fun weekend #also i once accidentally perfectly parried an attack with my shield and did some cool combo with my sword and he was so impressed #but i didnt even really notice i just accidentally pressed the wrong button and was trying to switch from my staff to my sword and trying to #block #i play as an astrologer for those who care lmao

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bigfootswashingmachine · 4 months

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thinking about my sweet little problem child aki. who has never done anything wrong in her entire life except for all the things she did wrong. <3

#IT'S HER. THE JANEYBIRD #mostly thinking of her because i am writing something from young aki's POV and god my girl has issues (affectionate)#way to absolutely fuck the entire universe up over your teen angst by accident #and then very casually say 'no that wasn't me' and walk away fast whenever someone tries to confront you.#like. you try to kill yourself 1 time and everyone gets mad at you and is like why did you do that you attained sainthood instead you idiot #like it's YOUR FAULT

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saltwukong · 1 year

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Bitches will literally tell you a story that they were the villain of.

#rwde #''hey lets vent a little by listing all the ships we dont like for whatever reason'' someone get them help. they really think that's normal #y'all be talking about toxicity and then not even knowing what it looks like.#like iunno what you think toxic shipping behavior is SUPPOSED to look like but it looks like exactly this. that's not cute and normal.#like if just an ordinary group of friends did this? maybe. still sus.#but since you all self-indentified as fans of the same ship it just becomes a united front of haters circle-jerking themselves stupid.#not to mention the actual way this post reads like. girl? that's what you thought would make yourself look rational and other people petty?#like really? your go-to exaggerated example of something nasty or uncouth that someone would rabidly defend shipping is...that?#like obvious question 1) what exactly is wrong with gangbangs lol. sorry that you hate fun.#and obvious question 2) uhhh why when crafting a nominal objectioner did you specify 'black' like.......explain it.#tell me how that was supposed to come off because i don't know why you'd say that and not think 'this sounds really racist' unless.....#the whole wide world full of inc/st r/pe abu/se apologia on top of pe/do shit and the villain in your post is.....#someone shipping a pairing that contains a black man. okay.

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hotgirlmuseboardxo · 3 days

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Do you think people with autism and people that are bipolar can have a compatible relationship. They seem like a nightmare couple.

i’ve never dated a person with autism but i have had multiple workplace issues in past jobs with people who have autism and those frustrated me to no fucking avail because there was always such a lack of willingness to compromise.

bipolar is something that makes me extra sensitive to my own emotions and those that others feel, and this seems largely irrational to people who function best in the logical mind. a lot of the autistic people i’ve interacted with seem out of touch with their own feelings and unable to understand those of others because they’re so focused on their identity as an autistic person. like im forced to make my disability more digestible because of theirs, or i’m made to feel crazy for having emotions that they’re unable to understand

#this why i wfh fr i can’t deal with it #even when i did write for the website i just left this grown ass woman i was co-managing with #would do all kinds of shit to undermine me and sucked at communication #but when i communicated with her like a grown up she hit me with ‘um actually as an autistic person blah blah blah’#and i had to be like GIRL IM DISABLED TOO!!! not everyone thinks like you #my old therapist once explained to me how using yourself as a frame of reference or assuming everyone’s mind works like yours is dangerous #that’s exactly what this bitch was doing.#IM NOT LIKE YOU IM BIPOLAR ✋🏻 get wit it #answered

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maddy-ferguson · 4 days

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fun fact about me: i'm insecure about so many random things that i've never flipped anyone off in my 22 years of life because i think my middle finger looks awkward and ugly by itself

#and like i say: brf slt #i felt like this especially when i would have been likely to do it semi-regularly like in middle school. but like i was thinking about this #the other day and i did it in front of a mirror just to check and it looked as bad as i remember like it's just not for me #i have a story abour middle fingers though or just about what one would call the finger #when i was in what an american would call the 5th grade (i can never do when i was x years old because it's not an accurate representation #of the class i was in since i skipped a grade and the grade is what matters more to me. when i was 9 and my friends were 10 i was saying)#we would always play this game called girls catch guys or guys catch girls where the girls would run after the guys and like tap them on #the shoulder and then they would go to prison and they would line up and another guy could set them free by like touching one of the #prisoners it was a very fun game except it's way more fun to be like the ones getting caught than to be the ones catching and we would #ALWAYS play girls catching guys and it was very unfair we would be like okay in the morning we do guys catching girls in the afternoon #girls catching guys so it's fair like normal system but the guys NEVER wanted to do it (and we would always give in because like we still #wanted to play ig and idk guys. female socialization) they never wanted to be the ones doing the catching it was so unfair because we also #didn't like it as much and we did it all the time?#and i remember this one morning we were fighting about this we had literally all agreed that it was fair this way but they didn't want to #do it and my second best male friend flipped me and my best (female) friend off and (very #important detail) he did it with both of his hands so like two middle fingers and i don't know why because i'm not even sure that that's a #thing but one middle finger meant fuck you and two middle fingers meant go fuck yourself and to us that was very different? and i remember #my friend and i we like knew what it meant but for some reason we were like. he did do the one finger before doing the two does this mean #he...loves us because it literally means he wants to have sex with us #but what's funny is we never talked to him again after that and i don't even know why that was our last straw because i remember i #genuinely liked him before that like i said he was my second best male friend! so like maybe sixth best friend overall that's not bad #and he's not the only guy friend who flipped us off that year like it was so random to stop talking to him after that😭#like he was an actual enemy we really did not like him we talked about him in letters we'd give each other using a nickname etc #and what's even funnier is in our last year of middle schoold FOUR YEARS AFTER THIS a friend of a friend told him he should become friends #with well my friend and he was like hm i don't think so have you seen who she hangs out with? marianne *last name* like why do YOU hate #me😭 it was so funny like wdym it was mutual this whole time. i had literally moved on by then i didn't even care about hating him #anymore like wow...i think he's the only person i hated who actually hated me back

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widevibratobitch · 8 days

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#another day another therapy session for a girl who has everything i could only ever dream of 🤡#like i admit her family fucking sucks ngl #but idk if it's her being tone-deaf about this or if im just hypersensitive af on this topic but #'there's also this pressure to always be pretty and all' 'why tho like did your dad/mom ever comment on your looks?'#'well no haha not to be all braggy but there was never anything to comment on (negatively) yknow'#spoken to my face like oh right yeah well fuck me ig haha. once again reminded how different lives we live lol #and on top of this its this constant showing me that im being a bad friend to her which ig is true what with all my non responding to texts #but like. its like there is no real understanding towards me in turn. its like only she has problems and crippling mental issues #i dont call YOU out on your bullshit. i keep quiet and let you do and say whatever it is you need to make yourself feel better #even if it is actively capital H Hurting me and i come back home and end up sobbing in the pillow #and hating myself even more lol so cant you do the same and just take a deep breath and try to understand that i NEED a break sometimes #ANYWAY.#really feeling like scratching my face off my skull again

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apollo-zero-one · 22 days

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Man I can't believe I had the chance to go to a performing arts school up through middle school and I fuckin quit after 6 months just because I got bullied. BRO YOUR HOMEWORK WAS POETRY!! YOU HAD TO PRACTICE DANCING TO COTTON EYE JOE AS YOUR BIG UNIT TEST. GYM CLASS HAD A CIRCUS UNIT!! YOU HAD A WHOLE DAILY CLASS ON IMPROV!!! YOU FOOL!! YOU ABSOLUTE IMBICILE!! YOU COULD HAVE BEEN A YOUTUBER!!! YOU COULD HAVE BEEN ONE OF THOSE TWEENAGERS GETTING LOADED BY MAKING SHITTY YOUTUBE SHORTS IN 2008-14!! But noooOoooOOOoo little miss Noellie (who WANTED TO GO!! who worked SO HARD and sent in an application essay and did an INTERVIEW to get in!!) couldn't handle disruptive classmates or little scuffles and petty grudges and general Attitude of the other students and cried to mommy to put her back in public school. I am EATING MY HAIR over what Could Have Been. I COULD BE SOMEONE'S ANNOYING YOUTUBER!! I could be a DISGRACED DISNEY CHANNEL STAR!! I could be an America's Got Talent winner! A mild to moderately successful comedian! I could be making short films!! But no no no precious thin skinned baby me heard a few new cus words and watched a teacher get heckled and begged to give up The Dream in favor of?? Quiet math tests?? I am such a fucking quitter I quit everything the second it gets too hard I always take the out as soon as it's offered what's my fucking damage.....

#I had SO MUCH POTENTIAL and I SQUANDERED IT!! weak ass third grade PUSSY! Your life could have been SO SICK!!#or you could at least be addicted to cocain or something interesting like that!! Boring ass goody two shoes always just staying home doing #NOTHING bitch make a REAL FRIEND go to a God Damn PARTY live a little instead of just hiding in the closet eating saltine crackers for years #waiting for it to be quiet outside before you ever even toed the line #mentally ill self-isolating motherfucker #you could have shrugged it off you could have GROWN A PAIR and FOUGHT BACK but you just ran and cried for mommy #victim complex little bitch baby always whining and exaggerating and making shit up fucking LIAR I am you and I KNOW what you did and I know #you knew it wasn't the truth and you regretted it the moment it came out of uour mouth but once you'd said it you just swallowed it back and #doubled down incriminating or discrediting others with your lies. For why? Because you didn't like them? You could have ruined someone's #life you wouldn't have hesitated mayhe you did and don't even remember because you cant keep your mouth shut with your pants ablaze #manipulative little shit and to WHAT END? Pity? Sympathy? Attention? Entertainment?? What was even going on in your stupid ugly head?#This is a callout post for my third grade self that possessed demon ass evil nine year old. That kid drowned anthills in olive oil and #poisoned a wild animal once. That kid cut plants just to see if they oozed. That kid modified her whole ass personality on a dime for a boy #she had a crush on. INSTANTLY dropped a LIFELONG CULTURAL ALLEGIANCE (thats what football teams were like back then in our town) because he #said he had the opposite allegiance??? What the fuck? girl had NO integrity none zip zilch.#No empthy either that kid looked at everyone else on earth like they were friggin space aliens and she was the only one with Real feelings.#bitch literally thought like 'I have Feelings they just have Reactions' bitch what the fuckkkkk #that nine year old was fucked the hell up!!!#and for literally NO REASON!! No cause!! Just born fucking evil and weird. jesus fuck.#Evil ass bitch caused her autistic brother months of nightmares and then laughed about it and wrote poetry about how evil he was because he?#was a kid??? Normal sibling rivalry taken way way way too far defamatory ass statements #and this girl had NO CONSEQUENCES because she could lie and manipulate her way out of ANYTHING she had the baby eyes and the helpless charm #and played dumb soooo well . read people like some calculative evil AI scanning their faces for microexpressions and overanalyzing each word #choice like holy shit. its not That Deep. pretentious shit trying to play 5D chess on a checkers board.#Manipulating shit just to see what happens?? zero awareness?? no asking just skipping straight to testing for yourself??#'What happens if I step on this' it fucking breaks 'what does that taste like?' it's not fucking yours to mess with 'if I hit this person #how will they respond?' they'll be upset use your goddamn judgement you are NINE not TWO do you even care a little about any other person??#Are you just living in some other reality???#callout post for the fucking demon child inside of me #im so goddamn problematic I'm so so so deeply mentally disturbed and broken for no reason

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thebirdandhersong · 1 year

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looool the world is so small and brief encounters are funny--as in I froze for a moment from the shock and then, when I was out of sight, laughed hysterically because I hadn't expected it

#in other words. saw the first guy who ever asked me out today while walking home #and remembered how Tall and Grand i thought he was and how much i looked up to him #he was the first boy to break my heart! and he was walking around campus too i guess #suddenly he was just THERE and i was like. songbird that is literally just some guy #just some guy who isn't so tall and grand after all! just some guy who's also wandering around campus going to class or whatever!#who also happened to ask you out years ago because he wanted **a** girlfriend and went for another girl less than a week after you said you #weren't ready to date. like wooooo boy the world is so small #i don't know why i wanted to laugh so much when i saw him #(there WERE uncharitable reasons too) but i walked back home with a light heart #because thankfully life goes on and time moves on and things that leave you lying on your bed #feeling hollow and achey inside because you wouldn't let yourself cry #those things eventually DO fade and the sun DOES come out #and then you walk on and have lunch with friends and sing loudly in the stairwell when you get back #because all shall be well and all DID turn out well and all is well now :)

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friendlyneighbornerd · 3 months

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do you ever realize months after something happened that it'd make a lovely answer for "tell me about yourself"

anyway if I had a nickel for every time a random old lady with a cane almost died right next to me and my sister during an outdoor event while we were eating and we just stood there like O-O in the summer of 2023 I'd have two nickels which isn't a lot but it's weird that it happened twice

#why did that happen twice???#why do old ladies keep getting hospitalized right next to me while I'm eating???#like girl can you die later I wanna enjoy my food without the guilt of not helping despite being right next to you #what am I even supposed to do in that situation???#that's gonna be my only response to “tell me about yourself” now tho #solely to see the looks on peoples faces

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the-dragon-girl-27 · 11 months

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🎉i'm one year closer to my inevitable demise 🎉

#doodle #the make believe anime boys who live inside my brain given physical form around me #do i tag this as oc #i guess thats how i draw myself now #i guess im a dragon now im literally the dragon girl #i own that outfit irl btw #minus the hair clips i do have hair clips like that but their blue not pink #you might say hey dragon why do you draw yourself wearing hair clips like kagamine rin and thats because i do irl #yup i sure did copy my drip from an anime girl i also bought that pink fluffy jaket because it reminded me of beat eater kohane lmfao #i guess its not a jaket but idk what its called and i wont bother googling #also i actually need to clip my hair out of my face cuz my bangs be wild since forever

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tortademaracuya · 1 year

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I keep running out of time and changing my sentences in the middle of saying them ajsusjdkdkdk aaggggggg i dont want to do the presentation on monday :(

#fucking up in front of +40 people brought to you by yours truly #im so scared!!!!!! i like my investigation bt i do not want people to ask me questions about my game!!!!#idk girl idk how im gonna make it #also while practising one of my family members decided to joke and ask if i had done the art with ai :) go fuck yourself :)#god this is gonna be such a mess. both the presentation and the game. why did i pursue higher education #haunted.txt #i should have asked a classmate to practice with me but i didnt wanna bother her...#i feel like all i do is bother people lately im having the shittiest time even managing to progress a little with the art for the game #why did i choose a game why did i explain it with a cool concept now im gonna have to make smth worth playing #which it wont because i talk a lot so its just a very short and tedious text game that no ones gonna enjoy aghhhhhh #my breakdowns count as method acting of the game characters lol we are all having a horrible time #also my professors keep not giving me revisions we on week 6 of being completely ignored #please for the love of god at least leave me an emoji saying you read my shit oh my god im going to snap

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headofthedemonn · 4 months

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It's very seldom my heart agrees with my mind but I know he's not coming back.

#captain's log #I've never once felt desirable he told me so many times how beautiful i was he asked me why did i hate myself #and who hurt me so much he made me feel seen because he told me everything they did to me wasn't my fault he said stop calling yourself ugly #please don't hurt yourself anymore okay? im here for you I'd never leave you like they did okay? never I'm not like them i promise #i love you. but none of it was true finding out the truth made me hate myself even more how stupid could i have been to think someone #love me i wanted to believe it so bad no one has ever said that to me so of course i wanted to hold on with an iron fist but everything #but i was just a game to him he didn't care about me i honestly think he hated me to my core #i don't think i have a chance at finding love but that's all i want i could easily fall in love with a boy or girl or whatever but someone #lied about loving me and caring about me so am i doomed to chase things i don't really want money? status? success?#sure money is needed to survive the world but why can't i have what my grandparents had or other people have had love and it lasts still #i just wanted to feel it in my heart so much i was willing to do anything but i was so fucking stupid i should have known better #i thought it was real i didn't think he was being dishonest because i was telling the truth the whole time so i expected him to do the same #i don't think i have a chance but if i do idk i don't think i can survive getting hurt again #i just want something real and someone real but that's far too much to ask

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obeymeow · 1 year

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being neurodivergent is all fun and games until you remember those hourly quote bots on twitter and think well maybe I can't make a bot anymore but I could schedule a few quotes a day, that shouldn't be hard. it sounds fun to have a bunch of quotes of my favorite character Thirteen from hit mobile game Obey Me! and its sequel Obey Me! Nightbringer. and then you think about how arduous collecting the quotes is going to be but she's only been in the games for maybe a year and a half with little screentime and you love collecting things so you start but then you remember that you love collecting things so naturally you have ALL of her screentime in the game and suddenly you have 45k characters of quotes and are several lessons into season 4 (which is truly a trial in and of itself) but not nearly close enough to the end but you refuse to just stop collecting the quotes and make the account with the EXCESS of what you have already because you literally only have season 4 to get through and if you don't do it just seeing the bot (because now you've been informed you can make tumblr bots instead) will haunt you with that knowledge even if nobody else would ever know. this is a general anecdote of a situation that could easily happen to anyone though and not in any way related to my life

#obey me on side #ummm i don't have a personal tag yet because i hated looking at this blog before the revamp so i'll do that later #with the carrd. usually when i say i'll do something later it means sometime in the next 3 years but i actually mean this one #but rn there's no way to tell i'm a lesbian (except for the thirteen icon. + probably also the ruri-chan banner she's lesbian colors)#okay maybe you can tell but I want to be CLEAR #anyway i would also like to note that immediately before starting this project i spent a full week lamenting my lack of free time #because I wanted to write some fics. and then literally as soon as i got free time I went um. no. quote doc instead I think #????? girl why did you do that to yourself #fortunately i'm now bored of reading s4 so i can go back to writing #unrelated but all of these fics contain a significant amount of solomon and i like him that's not surprising but it was unintentional #which IS surprising. like okay one of them is about solodeus (specifically mc playing matchmaker so i don't clickbait) so that's obligatory #and another is based off of the new solomon card (IT'S CUTE) so that's also kind of obligatory #(the third one is based off of luke's card from the dnd nightmare a while back because i was entranced by its strange unbalanced party)#but usually i try to switch up the characters i write about to get comfy with all of them and not just the ones that make sense to me #that's not entirely accurate it's my one braincell bouncing around like a windows screensaver picking a new fave every time it hits a side #but also to get used to writing them all. anyway #i'll just write about satan to balance it he's always been a fav but i am obsessed with him in nightbringer he is so offputting and tragic #if you're still reading these tags please see above on th 'later is up to three years' in regards to the fics still haven't posted anything #hoping to change that soon though I WILL eventually.

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