i don't get the confusion about the difference between answers 1 and 2. they're like... basically opposites and incompatible with each other, at least the way i interpret the wording.

1 means gender as a whole will be abolished.

2 means gender still exists, but without the shitty rules and hierarchies.

i can't do whatever i want in regards to gender if my gender doesn't exist. i can't identify however i want if my identity doesn't exist.

gender abolition is so obviously a terf talking point and if you look closely there absolutely are parallels between how terfs treat gender and how some trans people do. a lot of the people who forced labels like masculine or feminine onto me were self-described gender abolitionists, because apparently those terms aren't about gender or something.

terfs think "gender isn't real" but will still divide people into two groups based on our bodies.

a lot of "abolish gender" trans people think "gender isn't real" but will still put everyone in some kind of binary, be it masc/fem, amab/afab etc.

every gender abolitionist i've seen wants to abolish gender as an identity while keeping some really harmful aspects of gender around, like gender binaries or bioessentialism.

whereas i'd interpret answer 2 as the opposite: keeping gender identity but abolishing the rules around it.

they are opposites.

"but how can you be asexual and have sex?"

i'm an atheist, always have been. i've been to church countless of times. i celebrate a secular version of christmas. i am intrigued by certain aspects of religion and spirituality. i prayed. i participated in church youth group and i enjoyed it.

i did all of these things without believing in god.

now read that first question again.

more gender roles suck and gender abolition is a terf talking point. both of these are exorsexist and transmisic in general. doing whatever we want forever is the only option. then people who want to opt out of gender are free to do so. gender anarchy it is.

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bye bye, bi-bi

for real though, this reminds me of how some germans will call people who are both allosexual and alloromantic "alloallo" which is so weird to me because "allo" without a suffix is generally understood to mean both

just saw someone use the term "entirely bi" for someone who is both bisexual and biromantic, and nope, we're not fucking doing that. we're not gonna frame bi aces and aros and aroaces as inherently less bi according to allonormative standards. no.

i'm asexual. i'm bi. i am FULLY and ENTIRELY bi. my asexuality does not cancel out any part of my bi-ness. my lack of sexual attraction does not negate the attraction i do experience.

this is why i dislike split attraction terminology because none of my orientations/attractions is "split off" from anything. they're all whole.

i'm fully bi and fully ace. stop trying to cut me into pieces.

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i've been around during Ace Discourse Times so i'm very biased towards allo queers. not saying nonqueers don't do shit but i have not personally been a target of a harassment campaign by nonqueers for being asexual.

no because my relationship isn't defined by sexuality and it could easily do without. defining it as sexual makes me feel repulsed tbh. we sometimes do sexual things but that doesn't mean our whole relationship is sexual, that sexuality is at the core of it or the defining part of our relationship. it's just.. something we do sometimes

i follow a lot of those new poll accounts, many to vote myself but also some others just out of interest and they all make it pretty clear that all the polls are to be answered by people of a certain identity, like mspecpolls are for mspec people only, nonbinary-polls is only for nonbinary people etc. and for the most part people seem to respect it and choose the results button if they don't have that identity...

except for the ace one for some reason? i keep seeing allosexuals of all kinds answering, but like... those polls aren't for you? there's an aro polls account too and i don't see alloromantics randomly vote on aro polls. heck i'm not even alloro and i don't even vote on them except they're specifically for quoiros. but for some reason when it comes to asexuality all boundaries go out the window?

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most trans people who people like to call "non transitioning" actually do transition, but people don't want to acknowledge that not all transition is medical

changing your hair is transition

deciding to shave or grow your body hair is transition

doing something different with make up is transition

changing your new wardrobe is transition

changing your name is transition

changing your pronouns is transition

coming out to people is transition

even just accepting your own transness without telling anyone else is transition, as it changes how you see yourself

it's almost impossible to be trans and truly non transitioning, even if that transition might be non medical, non visible or entirely self contained

all kinds of transition are valid.

there are also things that aren't necessarily associated with transition that an individual may consider to be part of their transition, like working out to make their body look different, getting piercings and tattoos and so much more

there are so many ways of transitioning besides surgery and hormones

"non transitioning nonbinary/trans person" is just code for "i don't consider your transition to be real because it doesn't fully fit into what cis people expect"

"some parents would rather have a non transitioning trans child than one who does" like yeah no shit. a non transitioning trans child is a trans child who doesn't come out, doesn't change anything about themself. not their name, not their pronouns, not their hair or wardrobe. a non transitioning trans child is a trans child who never talks about being trans so their parents can pass them off as cis. a non transitioning trans child is a trans child that is in the closet. of course a lot of parents would rather have a trans child who stays in the closet so they don't have to deal with their transness. but you all mean "non transitioning" as in "not medically transitioning" and that's not true either. trans people get kicked out of their house for doing as little as changing their pronouns. and if you say you're doing literally anything as part of your transition/because you're trans, people will absolutely give you shit for it, while a cis person can do the same thing and it's no biggie. social transition is not accepted at all.

there are some weird trans people out there who will completely dismiss people's life saving transition steps as "non transitioning" because they don't fit cis ideas of transness, it's disgusting

when i say "transition" i'm always including medical transition and social transition, as well as anything else an individual may consider part of their transition that doesn't necessarily fit into the two boxes

also can we stop acting like social transition isn't also constantly under attack

fun fact the bones in the ground in graveyards actually get all mixed up after some time. chances are they'll do the skeleton puzzle wrong

the “in a 1000 years people will look at your skeleton and know ur birth gender” argument is so stupid because

Why are they digging up a graveyard that’s illegal

They get it wrong like 20% of the time

theyre probably all trans too

queer people tend to like bones I’ve noticed this

why would I give a shit I’m dead

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some people have made very good points so here

6. Archeologists are smart and know that biogender does not always equal gender, and they can often tell based of clothing what you prefer

7. Many trans people are apparently becoming trees, which rocks

8. Many people are also being cremated, fuck yeah

my cinema card came saturday, my tax return came yesterday. now i'm just waiting for these other clowns to get on with it. of course the thing that matters most takes longest.

i've applied for a few things recently so vote..

deadass saw someone say that "if a trans person isn't a trans man, they probably only experience part of transandromisia"

do you even hear yourselves?

and these are the same people who are rightfully asking people to acknowledge that even though trans men aren't women, they still experience the same misogyny as cis women

and yet you somehow think that a nonbinary person perceived as a trans guy only experiences "part of" transandromisia?

just say you think nonbinary people are less oppressed and go.

idk who decided to call allistic NDs with some autistic traits "autistic cousins" but like... how did you not realise that autistic people are gonna think you're talking about actual cousins who are autistic. you know, like my autistic cousin

"can you educate me? i would look for resources but i want to make sure i get the right info!" is a weak excuse to still ask for free labour. your media literacy being bad enough that you can't even tell a genuine resource from bigotry and discrimination is not my problem. but you haven't even tried.

both asexual and ace. asexual already describes both the whole spectrum as well as the specific identity. the definition of asexual is either "experiencing little to no sexual attraction" or "experiencing no sexual attraction" when it's the specific identity. the former already covers the whole spectrum. ace is just short for asexual, so i'll use that quite a bit too, especially with people who are more in the know. i very rarely use acespec but less so now because i feel it implies that asexual itself isn't already a spectrum.

rather than using a different term for the whole spectrum, i use a different term for asexual as a specific identity, like "strictly ace" or "black stripe ace". that way strict asexuality doesn't become the ace default. when i say asexual or ace i mean all of us.