anne boyer “the harm will come: it never doesn’t” / julia armfield “to watch a horror movie is to know that something bad is going to happen. to have a body is really the same thing” / hilary mantel “we don’t have to invite pain in, it’s waiting for us: sooner rather than later” / marie howe “you know how we’ve been waiting for the big pain to come? I think it’s here. I think this is it. I think it’s been here all along” / gregory orr “I want to go back to the beginning. we all do. I think: hurt won’t be there. but I’m wrong” / toni morrison “the hurt was always there” / torrey peters “pain that had to be endured, withstood, pain that was the same as being alive, and so without end”

T4T

"It’s kind of a joke. Trans girls fucking trans girls. But really, it’s an ethos. Trans girls loving trans girls, above all else. Hoes before bros. [...] It’s a promise. You just promise to love trans girls above all else. The idea—although maybe not the practice—is that a girl could be your worst enemy, the girl you wouldn’t piss on to put out a fire, but if she’s trans, you’re gonna offer her your bed, you’re gonna share your last hormone shot."

-Torrey Peters, Infect Your Friends and Loved Ones [PDF]

31.3. Den trans viditelnosti

Dneska je mezinárodní den trans viditelnosti, respektive, podstatněji je Buy a trans woman a pizza day.

Překvapivě,

su trans buzna, dívejte se na mě a kupte mi pizzu.

Ok, ale jestli chcete být užitečný,

kupte trans holce pizzu,

běžte 6.4. 12:30 na Staroměstském náměstí na blokádu klerofašistických zkurvenců z Pochodu pro život, a ideálně na nějaký další akce během Týdne pro reprodukční spravedlnost,

vzdělávejte lidi kolem sebe, že tu máme furt nucené sterilizace trans lidí KURVA,

přečtěte si kteroukoliv/všechny z následujících knížek od trans* autorstva:

Nevadu od Imogen Binnie,

Detransition, baby od Torrey Peters,

Who's afraid of gender od Judith Bulter,

A short history of trans misogyny od Jules Gill-Peterson;

5 - kviřte české prostory, poslouchejte a přijměte mezi sebe víc kvír kamarádstva. Zachraňuje to životy.

Díky, a trans práva jsou lidská práva! Info o akci ✨

"I remember Toni Morrison said something like 'the serious work of racism is distraction.' And something similar is happening with transphobia and the conversations of TERFs. The fight they want to have is a distraction. It is shallow. If I even acknowledge the terms they set, I walk into a distraction. Trans women are out here making really incredible art—I know so many trans artists doing mind-blowing things, making profound statements about what it means to be alive—and you’ve got this crew going 'BATHROOM! TRANS! WHERE U GO POOPOOPEEPEE?' Or whatever they say. That is a distraction. Even as a fight, it is frankly a boring and undignified fight. I’ve got better things to do."

-Torrey Peters

some queer adults books i enjoyed reading last year ✨️

Infect Your Friends and Loved Ones by Torrey Peters

goodreads

In the future, everyone will be trans. So says Lexi. She's a charismatic trans woman furious with the way she sees her trans friends treated by society and resentful of the girl who spurned her love. Now, Lexi has a plan to wreak her vengeance: a future in which no one can produce hormones and everyone must make the same choice that she made-what body best fits your gender?

Mod opinion: I haven't read this book yet, but I really want to. Plus I love the cover.

fr infect your friends and loved ones by torrey peters

So often when she had sex, she allocated the majority of her mental capacity to managing her own impression of herself as she fucked, with a secondary concern being her partner’s impression of her. This allocation left little mental energy for actually desiring her partner, much less vocalizing or displaying her desire. Which, she knew, did not make her a good lover. It made her a bad lover, and this was, in fact, her own impression of her own sexual prowess: disappointing, tepid, with occasional flashes of mediocrity. The exception to this was the men she slept with when she was a cross dresser and called herself a sissy. […] When deployed right, they were even better than a corset for making a girl feel dainty. […] The whole object of these encounters— and the men acted reciprocally— involved ignoring the man’s needs to instead focus on herself and what kind of person she must be that a man was using her for his own sexual enjoyment, even as she ignored the particular man and his particular needs.

from Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters

Detransition, Baby was a good read purely because of how unlikeable the main characters were. It’s nice to read a book about queer people going through all the ugly emotions that straight people are allowed in media.

I did feel uncomfortable looking at the reviews after I read it because they were almost all cis people talking about how much they “learned” from it, and barely any reviews from actual trans people. So if any trans people have read it and happen to see this post, I’d love to hear your thoughts.

She knew that in only a few moments the guillotine of sadness would slam down upon her, severing her from her pride, and anything that might keep back despair. She would beg, she would cry. But it hadn’t yet come down. The sentence had not been executed, and her sense of pride, in its last moments, remained defiant - say anything, no matter how stupid, don’t go down crying.

Torrey Peters, Detransition, Baby

21st Book I Read in 2024

Title: Detransition, Baby

Author: Torrey Peters

Notes: Was a bit suspicious of this book at first, but I'm very happy that I read it! Such a good story within it. It was a very welcome companion on a long train journey back from up north this weekend.

Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters A whipsmart debut about three women—transgender and cisgender—whose lives collide after an unexpected pregnancy forces them to confront their deepest desires around gender, motherhood, and sex. View the full summary and rep info on wordpress or check it out for free from the Queer Liberation Library!

Just finished reading this. It took me just under a week to finish. I really like the way the story is told, from the point of the babies conception. It allows for the author to easily jump back and forth in the characters lives, because there’s always a point for the readers to turn to. The author introduces the chapters by telling you how far you are from that point. It’s really nice to consume something like that. They also use multiple characters point of views to give the whole story. I love the way this is told, I love the fact that they can tell their stories like this.

Overall, the story made me sad, angry, and contemplative.

I recommend looking up the content warnings before deciding to read it.

Currently reading 'Detransition, baby' and enjoying it very much.

I know it is a bit controversial, I am finding it very clever and well written so far.

I had an awful Saturday evening so even though I was supposed to study I think I'll just lay in bed and read this for the rest of the morning before going to work

Currently reading Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters

Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters

goodreads

Reese almost had it all: a loving relationship with Amy, an apartment in New York City, a job she didn't hate. She had scraped together what previous generations of trans women could only dream of: a life of mundane, bourgeois comforts. The only thing missing was a child. But then her girlfriend, Amy, detransitioned and became Ames, and everything fell apart. Now Reese is caught in a self-destructive pattern: avoiding her loneliness by sleeping with married men. Ames isn't happy either. He thought detransitioning to live as a man would make life easier, but that decision cost him his relationship with Reese—and losing her meant losing his only family. Even though their romance is over, he longs to find a way back to her. When Ames's boss and lover, Katrina, reveals that she's pregnant with his baby—and that she's not sure whether she wants to keep it—Ames wonders if this is the chance he's been waiting for. Could the three of them form some kind of unconventional family—and raise the baby together?

Mod opinion: I've read and very much enjoyed this book.