my head hurts from the amount of anxiety i've had recently sob

i didn't realize becoming an adult would be so hard :(

are we talking about broke therapists yet?

I've been out of things for a couple of years now, which is why I'm willing to talk about it, and maybe the pandemic has helped things a little, but holy shit the counselling and psychotherapy field is not equipped to help its practitioners in the gig economy.

Of all my interests and talents, I pursued a degree in psychology because being a therapist is supposed to be a safe, stable, well-paid job. Every therapist I met who was registered before 2008 worked and lived under that assumption. And oh boy are all the fee structures--registration, supervision, continuing education, conferences--set up for that scenario.

After getting my Master's, I struggled like hell to get a job. It was especially bad because to get my license, I needed a supervisor to take me on. To take me on, most supervisors wanted me to already have a caseload and client base. To get a caseload and client base, I needed a job.

Friends: Every single job I heard back on wanted me to have my license before I could even land an interview.

Professors and career advisors and professional development specialists all advised me very earnestly to just keep cold-calling people on the supervision list, and it began to feel a lot like my parents' friends telling me to hit the bricks and hand out resumes. That's what worked for them, right?

I finally got a supervisor who agreed to take me on, and I'd be able to use her clinic for advertising and workspace, and we were doing the paperwork to send in with my registration, when she called me up and said, "Is this job going to be your only source of income? If you're trying to depend on getting clients and building your practice for your basic needs, this is not going to work out. This has to be something you're doing on top of a basic salary. Okay, so you're not working anywhere else right now? I'm sorry, I can't move forward with this."

Even once I landed a supervisor and a job building my own private practice, I struggled. I have ADHD and am not great at self-promotion, so trying to do all my own advertising, scheduling, bookkeeping, billing, and records management (on top of counselling) was an enormous strain. One my bosses, supervisors, and other senior professionals watched with a slightly critical eye, but consoled me about because in their early days, their clinics had had business managers, receptionists, filing clerks, and accountants, and getting used to doing everything online yourself was a bit of a learning curve, wasn't it?

I counted my pennies very carefully, because I had to pay my supervisor roughly $180 for their services every 6 hours of in-person counselling I did. This meant that to break even I had to charge my clients an average of about $30 (plus room rental and service fees) an hour--and my clients, being people with complex trauma, were frequently poor, disabled, unemployed, and had no health benefits, so even $10 or $20 a session was a lot for them.

Maybe it would have been easier if I could have taken some of those nice comfortable organization positions where they find clients and funding for you and you work 40 hours a week and get benefits and a pension, but I had to be disabled into the bargain, so working 40 hours a week just isn't possible for me. I start passing out from stress and exhaustion. Older colleagues gave me serious-faced advice about approaching my employer and asking them for some flexibility and accommodation in my schedule, and I tried to explain across the gap between us that employers simply did not hire me if I made the slightest noise about the workload. They weren't going to invest in me as a person; they were hiring 40 units of work a week, and if I wouldn't do it there were a dozen applicants after me who would.

At one point I broke down enough to email my licensing body because the Annual General Meeting/Professional Development Conference was coming up, and I wanted to attend, but I could not produce $500 to do it with. Was there some kind of way I could attend anyway? I felt ashamed to have to ask, and then absolutely mortified when the response came from the organization president, who needed to personally sign off on me being too poor to attend the single most important event in my profession's calendar year.

I honestly felt so ashamed all the time at how I was apparently failing to be a successful therapist, failing to be rich and successful, and every time I mentioned it around mentors and bosses, I could feel myself shrinking from a person to a problem to be solved. My closest therapist-friends and I have reflected on how much more difficult, poorly-paid and underworked, our various career starts have been than we were ever warned about. About the classmates and coworkers who couldn't get disability exceptions when they fell behind in their registration requirements, or burned out and left the field, or dropped their registrations and took up as life coaches, or moved their whole family somewhere exceptionally remote or rural because it was the only good job available, or worked for some godforsaken app skirting the bounds of malpractice like BetterHelp.

I like those conversations, because I feel less like an absolute fuck-up in them. There's less "Hey Lis, you were so talented in grad school, I really admired you, what are you doing now?" "Oh, I, uh... am professionally disabled, so I get government benefits, and I... sell embroidery patterns on Etsy now."

My own therapist kept asking if and when I felt like going back to being a counsellor, and I finally told him: I don't, actually. I don't want to go back and do it like I was doing it before. It was a profession I loved to the depths of my soul, and it profoundly did not love me back. I can't even imagine what would have to change, in me or it, to make it have a space in it that could fit me.

All of which I was way too scared to admit to at the time, because the more I let people know I was struggling, the more they hinted that maybe I just wasn't in a place in my life where this was a job I could do, and I needed to take a little break and wait to come back until money and disability just weren't issues for me anymore.

Eventually my cups of doubt and exhaustion did overflow, and I quit. I'm here now, living a much different life. And at the very least, all my years of helping people in bad life situations set me up perfectly for my own. I already knew what form to fill out for financial assistance, which student clinics to access for mental health support, and which government agency would, if pressed, cough out pharmacy coverage for the genuinely destitute. It gave me that much.

I hope this is just me being in extraordinary circumstances, sitting at the intersections of a few different shitty life situations that most people skip right past. Because it's on one level comforting, but another deeply infuriating, if I'm not, and I've just missed it or we've just all been too afraid to admit it to each other.

My mom comes over a couple of times a week to help me keep the apartment tidy and to body-double so I can focus on work.

"Mind if I open this?" she asked me this morning, holding up an envelope I'd tossed onto a pile of clutter the week before. I hadn't opened it because I already knew what it was—the decision of my appeal against being judged "medically ineligible" for permanent disability benefits, which are almost double what I get now and would cover rent and food. Absolutely everyone, from disabled advocacy groups to the legal aid lawyer who helped prep me for the hearing, told me that there was basically no chance I'd get deemed eligible on the first appeal. Normally it takes 2 or 3 application-appeal cycles (9-10 months each) for people to get into the program.

"Go ahead," I told her, and then turned back to other work. I've got a lot to do given how well my Kickstarter is doing, whether it's setting up the behemoth new printer I got off Kijiji for 10% of its original value, to scheduling work meetings with my newly-hired personal assistant. I've always got so much on my plate, and the number of hours in the day I can focus on it is countable on my hand that's missing fingers. And I'd love to get a sewing pattern out for my "just the sleeves, please" costume idea out in enough time for people to use it for Halloween, but I still need to make mock-ups and hire someone who's used to producing digital sewing patterns.

"I think," Mom said quietly, leafing through the letter, "that you won."

The letter ends like this:

Conclusion: The Panel finds that the Appellant meets the definition of "severe handicap" as is set out in the Regulation and therefore reverses the Director's decision.

Yeah. It means I won.

The benefits program will require another eight weeks to double-check my financial eligibility using information they already have, and to process my new program status to reflect an increased benefit rate and a different health insurance program.

Right now I'm really feeling this line from Komarr, by Lois McMaster Bujold: "But do you know--well, of course you could, but… the business with [throwing yourself at] the brick wall. Failure, failure was grown familiar to me. Comfortable, almost, when I stopped struggling against it. I did not know achievement was so devastating."

It felt like my whole life ended in a flaming wreck when I had to give up counselling. I lost part of who I was when I did that, and spent years telling myself I'd pull up my socks at any minute and go right back to it. But the truth is, I am not capable of doing that job as well as it needs to be done, and it's one of those jobs where you half-ass things at the peril of the vulnerable people who trust you.

And what if... the worst had happened, and I lost it all, and then in clawing my way out of the pit, trying to get purchase on absolutely any kind of survival I could, I found my way to something new and solid and real. What if it was okay after all?

I'm still having trouble believing it, but the letter keeps saying what it said.

I'm gonna go sew things, and see if it feels any more real in the morning.

What does a week in the life of a grad student look like?

So the answer to this will depend heavily on what stage of research you are in. I'll give my answer as someone who is currently in pursuit of a Master's degree, because this is currently my only firsthand experience.

As a Master's student, I am expected to take a certain number of courses, usually about three a semester. Often they meet just once a week, for 2+ hours at a time, and they are discussions/seminars rather than lectures.

On top of that, I have my teaching assistantship, which is contractually for 20 hours/week, but can go above or below that depending on when students turn in assignments.

With that being said, here's a week in my life:

Sunday: A heavy work day, during which I do most of my reading/work for Monday's class, catch up on emails, run errands that didn't get done on Friday. I do not go onto campus.

Monday: In the morning I finish up my reading for class in the afternoon. Depending on how much I have left to do, I will also do administrative tasks for my TAship, or work that needs to be done for my own research. Right now that means filling out internship and fellowship applications. Class from 2:30-5:15, after which I come home and eat dinner. From 6:15-7:30 I do reading for Wednesday's class.

Tuesday: No classes of my own today! If students for the class I TA have submitted assignments, I will spend an hour(ish) working on grading those. I am responsible for grading about 100 papers at a time. I try to spend no more than 2 minutes per paper/quiz. The class I TA meets from 2:30-3:45. The professor lectures while I do work on my computer. I get home and do more reading/work for Wednesday's class.

Wednesday: In the morning I finish any reading/work that needs to be done. If I have been productive in the front half of the week I use this time to run errands or do my own work. If I have not been productive I am cramming for class in the afternoon. Class goes from 2:30-5:15. I come home, eat dinner, and then do reading for Thursday's class until 7:30.

Thursday: In the morning I finish the reading for class in the afternoon. Class meets from 2:30-5pm. I come home and give myself permission to not do any work because my brain is fried and I do not have class tomorrow.

Friday: No class today! I start the morning with therapy, and then this is my day to attend to personal errands. This is mostly grocery shopping, laundry, and tidying. In the evening I often go out with friends to things like hockey games and bar trivia. Sometimes I go to Friday night Shabbat services.

Saturday: This is my day to decompress. I sleep in and then spend most of the early afternoon doing nothing. I paint my nails, read for fun, or take my dog for a long walk. In the afternoon I'll do something social—most weeks this is volunteering with Big Brothers Big Sisters.

Not pictured are daily activities that include, but are not limited to:

Checking email. Seriously, so many emails. I was not prepared for how many emails I would be getting in grad school

Classwork that I need to be turning in like paper abstracts, discussion posts, meeting with faculty

Doctors appointments

Cooking for myself. Trader Joe's frozen meals are a life saver

Attending talks/programs held on campus, usually in the evenings. These are prime time for networking

Hanging out with friends before class sometimes

Miscellaneous meetings

Walking my dog

Evening routines like Duolingo, journal entries, creative writing time, etc.

NAPS

Unexpected crises

Also, keep in mind that as someone living with a chronic illness/disability, I operate with less energy than some of my peers. But overall, my MA schedule is similar to my bachelor's one, but with fewer classes that each take up more time, and alongside working as a TA. My academic commitments with three grad classes are about the same as my undergrad semester when I took six classes.

As always, other people are free to chime in with their own experiences/observations.

-Reid

Anyways. That out of the way, now, and my breakfast Cereal consumed: My Husband got VHE'd from work this morning. So he now basically gets a 3 day weekend and that's super lovely 🥰 The only downside is that he has to work 4 days straight in one of his least favorite departments next week. But then he gets another 3 day weekend after that- and we have a "Game Night" planned with @thegothiccrafter and her partner that same weekend. So it all makes up for it.

Craftie also let me know about a potential job opening that looks like it may actually be something I could finally do around here with my disabilities. So I'm going to call in my scripts I need refilled this morning as soon as my Pharmacy finally opens, and then look at the application and give it a go.

Worst case scenario, it doesn't work out and I don't get the job at all. Semi-crap scenario, I get the job and I wind up not being able to actually do the work for very long and have to quit (which would suck, but certainly wouldn't be the first time it's happened). Best case scenario, it works out amazing and we can get my medical debt paid off finally, my name finally changed, and the hell out of this crappy basement way faster finally ... But I'll never know unless I try!

Literally my only real hope is that they'll be willing to work with me on the two days "off" that I'll need a month to still keep up my commitments to the Master Gardeners and the Iris Garden Club ... Because I worked too damned hard to get into them in the first place- especially with my disabilities- in order to pull out now; I don't mind abandoning the committees I signed up for because of the job if I get it. But I really don't want to have to abandon the Club or the Organization altogether, or have to go provisional in them.

And even then, I don't really need those days completely off; MG only meets for two hours in the morning of the first Thursday each month year round. And IGC only meets September through May around noon on the second Tuesday. So I just need "leniency" / flexible scheduling on those days.

Wish me luck. If I get it, this'd literally be my first job in a decade save for the absolutely hellish three years I worked for my mother after my Husband and I married (which I will not be using on my resume). So I'm both terrified and excited.

WJMC DAY FOUR

WJMC DAY FOUR

Again, woke up on time for breakfast! We had a color group meeting talking about newsroom brevity, then our first speaker, Meghan Reese, a photojournalist for National Geographic.

We had one and a half hours for lunch and a lot more freedom, so I and my friends got Starbucks and looked around the bookstore before heading off to our next speaker, Dr. Alan Byrd, who talked about college applications.

Then, from one to four, we had a color group meeting where we made pitches for a fake newspaper. We were given a story, and we had to present it in front of two of our classmates (one of which was my friend Delaney), who had to choose three out of the ten stories. Our fake story was about a family making a coffee shop where all workers are disabled. We ended up being the first-place story!!

After, we had a quick meeting about tomorrow’s schedule at the National Mall (sadly not a real mall, but still a very cool and historic place!) I finally met up with the person I’m doing my meeting with and after dinner, we had break-off speakers and a mixer event, then a final color group meeting confirming plans for tomorrow before heading to bed.

Tomorrow is going to be the most stressful of my days, as I’ll interview Keith Self, my state representative, with someone else from my school (which was awesome to find out). I have my questions semi-ready, and am ready to go!

The Final Count Down

Sunday 11/26/2023

Technically I’m supposed to be on vacation until tomorrow, but I have some time on my hands and thoughts on my mind.

This is the last day of classes and I’m working on some final assignments: The last touches on a research paper for the capstone course for my Interdisciplinary Studies major, a PowerPoint for the Hands-on History Internship Showcase on Friday, and a reflection on my service-learning hours with the LGBTQ History Museum of Central Florida – again, for capstone.

All I can think about is graduation! I’m so close, I can feel the end nearing!

My nerves are finally dissolving, leaving me with anxious anticipation, and a bit of “senioritis” as I chug through these final tasks.

Once the semester ends, this internship will fulfill the last course credits that I need – pending the History Department’s substitution – to complete my history minor.

Even though UCF has an Interdisciplinary Studies Master’s Program, I’m looking forward to turning in my application for the Public History Master’s Program by the priority deadline (January 15th). I aim to start my degree in the Fall of 2024 and, after learning about another student’s experience from Rollins’ Archival staff, I plan to take one seminar course at a time.

The only exception would be if I’m accepted into the Summer Research Program at UCF, allowing me to earn 6 credits the summer before.

This plan to take things slow is to hopefully avoid burnout and allow me to work with plenty of thought, care, and attention to my master’s degree. I’d also like to have time and energy to dedicate to internships and other forms of hands-on learning experiences like volunteering – maybe even a job that provides opportunities to expand skills that are relevant to public history professions.

Thursday 11/30/2023

Tomorrow is presentation day and I’m first up on the schedule (thank goodness! I’ll get to just sit and listen to everyone else’s experiences for the rest of the time!)

I’m literally functioning on meeting and due dates:

Tomorrow is the Hands-On History Showcase.

Sunday, all of my Capstone Assignments are due.

The following Friday, my final is due.

Then the Friday after that is graduation.

After that, I have about a month until the priority deadline for applications for the Public History Master’s Program at UCF.

That’s as far out as I can think right now.

I’m full of excitement and anxiety, but I’m also hopeful and optimistic!

Most of all, I am grateful, and I plan to spend some time throughout the following weeks communicating that to the mentors who positively impacted my undergraduate journey – pretty much all of them. (I was wondering if I was going to get sentimental leading up to graduation and, finally, here I am typing through calm tears as I reminisce on how lucky I am to have so many wonderful people to reach out to with gratitude.)

I’m glad this is how I chose to spend my final semester. Earlier this year, I was thrown off my path and I was heartbroken trying to piece together a new plan that accommodated my limited capacities as a student living with disabilities.

Now, two weeks from graduation, I stand firmer and more confident in my plans, goals, and desires.

Thank you to the wonderful faculty, staff, and peers who taught me so much along the way! Without their support, I would not have accomplished all that I have throughout my undergraduate career.

See you next Fall as a master’s student! (fingers-crossed)

Friday 12/01/2023

The showcase just ended and that just about wraps up the semester for me!

Everyone else had some incredibly enriching experiences and it was cool to see someone else who participated in the HerStory: Women in History Internship at the Orange County Regional History Center.

It seems the structure of it has come a long way, allowing her to accomplish so much more hands-on work than I had during my time there!

There was a lot of diversity in the projects everyone worked on, so I also learned other ways of being a public historian and doing public history work.

Hopefully, when I enter the Public History Master’s Program at UCF I’ll get to work alongside some of these wonderfully talented individuals!

Thanks for following my journey!

- Marena

Life vent because today has killed me.

This morning, I shaved my face, I've run two loads of laundry, I cleaned one of the toilets, I got dressed and had breakfast and a cup of tea, I took my meds, I scheduled the lead waterline replacement for next week and already got all the paperwork done, I sent the information to my disability advocate to ask for reconsideration on my application that they failed to approve (with no notice! So I couldn't even appeal!) and have me stuck in evaluation for "non medical" instead...

I also washed the dishes, unloaded and reloaded the dishwasher, cleaned off the counters, processed some meds refills, fed the birds, and typed up an agenda for our next house meeting.

And today is my day OFF the program, where I'm supposed to be only relaxing and recovering, the only day I've had with no appointments in over three weeks, and I still have the program until Black Friday, and then I have to do all the stuff to start the ECT treatments that will take up most of my days and nights for multiple weeks.

My fun plans for today got canceled because my friend who handles low income housing found out someone got shot in one of their apartments, and now I'm just feeling so goddamn zonked, especially after a big conversation with John last night about financial/job planning and his future (and whether being married to me is the right choice for him). I'm fucking exhausted and I kind of feel like I can't do enough and there's still way too much to do.

I'm still editing my way too many photos that no one really wants to see, still working on drawings and miniatures, and also trying to date and socialize and sometimes feeling a little like that's still mostly a one-sided interest and endeavor for me, and simultaneously like no one realizes how absolutely nuts my life is or how hard everything is and like I'm being some big whiny baby for struggling and feeling confused about things and needing support.

I know people are doing the things they can. I know people are trying. I'm trying, too, but I'm so fucking spent.

(un)employment :(

getting increasingly frustrated with being unemployed and all of the circles i'm running in to find employment. slightly annoyed that i'm unable to file for unemployment, because i have not been legally employed since like 2014. also can't get disability aid because every time i take a tiny baby step forwards, i get knocked backwards into a wall (aka managed to get an evaluation after years of waiting, only to be told that i'm just anxious and choosing not to work). fantastic that i keep getting suggestions on how to improve my resume, and no one listening when i explain that there's only so many ways i can bullshit my skills and experiences sections when i haven't technically worked in nearly a decade and was a student for most of my life.

'work from home jobs and remote working is great!' yeah and a lot are commission only and/or MLM schemes, or are only available in certain areas despite being remote, or require you to buy your own equipment, or are actually travel-based / door-to-door sales stuff (and part of my disability is i can't drive). and a lot also require resumes and proof of employment history, and knowledge of specific industries like medical billing or insurance or auto repair.

terrific having a degree that doesn't mean much because 'english and creative writing with a concentration in screenwriting' might look good on paper but without a portfolio or anything sold and/or produced to prove that i can write, it's just bs (technically it's a BA but that's not the point). 'just be a teacher' uhh i can't, i'm not certified. 'okay then a tutor' that requires a different certification that i also don't have money for. 'what about a librari-' master's degree. 'oh you can have a blog!' sure. post... what, exactly, and make a profit... how? (which technically i know how to do; it is kinda funny though watching people sputter when i ask them follow-ups on this) love applying to jobs, getting ghosted, then seeing the little 'urgently hiring' banners on the listings months later, applying again, and still hearing nothing back. really does great things for my confidence to not receive any feedback as to why i'm not what these people are looking for, or what they do want. great that i get some automated 'click here to schedule an interview/follow up meeting' messages from recruiters and then the links are broken, or no spots are available, and i can't connect to an actual human person to ask for clarification because the emails are outgoing only and there's no way to reach them. delighted that for the past three years, every fucking retailer in a 10 mile radius is desperately hiring, with maybe two people working a five checkout store, and yet i either get ghosted or a notification every 90 days asking me if i want to re-submit my application. which i do, and have done, for three years. super fun finding out via screencaps (and then looking for the sources to confirm) that national geographic likely didn't get back to me because they're discontinuing print media, fired all staff writers, and have freelancers/contractors working on tiktok and tiktok-ified platforms.

[running out of positive words to pretend i'm not dying inside] that hundreds of emails confirmed i applied for jobs, in almost every field/industry that i meet the marks for, yet apparently i can't do any of these things. i can't shelve cans. can't stand at the counter of the college coffeeshop/bookstore. can't be a preschool TA (one of the only jobs i was legally working for years). can't do inventory or prepare food or take customer orders or work a cash register. can't edit study guides or write ads or do market research or write scripts for youtube 'deep' dives or literally dozens of other things that i went to school to learn how improve my skills. absolutely wonderful that simon & schuster got bought out by paramount, a struck company, (after federal ruling said they couldn't be bought out by penguin/random house/whoever else the fuck they consolidated) and then sold to a private company which is known for buying out places, bleeding them dry, and putting hundreds of thousands of people out of work, so even though i have a snowball's chance in hell of getting the job, idk. (this one's more of a ramble)

'reach out to people you know' idk how to break it to you, person making this suggestion, that you know i don't have irl people and the online people are in other timezones. and as much as i would love to move across the country to live with friends, not gonna do that to bag groceries and be unable to pay rent.

'you have to stop being so picky' okay fine let's try something. you sift through job boards and corporate websites with crappy filters, you get your hopes up when the little 'you meet all employer qualifications' thing is on the top of a listing, only to find you are in no way, shape, or form qualified, you set up accounts for bullshit portals and click through links to resubmit the same info four times only to be met with an asterisk requiring you to put current employer information, you get other surprise obstacles along the way like needing to record a video message or taking a 45 minute skills test on a 'quick apply' listing, you reply politely to recruiters saying they reviewed your profile and you'd be perfect for the job, knowing they did not, in fact, look at your profile at all because you cannot work in kentucky as an IT manager or pittsburgh as an accountant or boston as a goddamn dental surgeon. you drain all your batteries and find that the day is nearly over and you have nothing to show for it but eye strain.

Gratitude Journal Day 2: Today I'm grateful for my incredible partner, who is stepping up to be our breadwinner for a bit and has been working so hard on job applications. It hasn't been easy for a number of reasons, but he's shown amazing perseverance. Now he has multiple companies interested in hiring him, and an interview on Thursday with his top choice. The company makes custom prosthetics, orthotics, braces, and other mobility aids for disabled patients and athletes. They're at the forefront of their industry and they look amazing to work for. They seem really excited to meet him and even asked him to bring some of the props he's made in for show and tell.

My partner has seen firsthand the difference that my ring splints and braces have made for me, and he's so excited that this job opportunity would let him use his fabrication skills to improve other peoples' lives and help them be able to do what they love with less pain. He has such a kind and caring heart, and I know the interviewer will be impressed with both his technical abilities and how eager he is to make a difference with their team. My partner is already eagerly preparing for his interview, and I'm so encouraged to see his confidence flourishing. He's determined to prove he's a perfect fit for the position, and I think he's going to nail it.

I'm going to miss my partner dearly while he's away at work, but I'm so fucking proud of him for stepping up to provide for our little family. The responsibility he's taking on is going to significantly stabilize our finances and take so much pressure off of me. It'll allow me to work from home, accommodate my health needs and energy limitations, and focus on growing our businesses at a sustainable pace that won't burn me out.

My partner has been encouraging me for some time to incorporate more rest and self-care into my schedule, and once he's secured a job, I finally feel like I'll be able to. For the first time in my life, I'll be free from the stress of being the primary income generator. I'm looking forward to the change of pace and the chance to recover after how hard I've been pushing myself for years. If all goes well and he gets this job, it feels like we have a real shot at not just surviving, but thriving. And that gives me more hope than I've felt in a long time.

I'm eternally grateful to have this sweet man in my life, and I can't wait to hear how his interview goes. Something tells me we'll be celebrating afterwards. He certainly deserves it!

Alternatives To Courtroom

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Unfortunately, she had a stroke, and was left in a vegetative state. Because no consideration had been given to her financial preparations, there was no one duly authorized to access her assets to assist pay for the payments excellent from the nursing residence for her day-to-day care. We assisted to put together a management plan, prepare the requisite court application, and appeared in Court before a Superior Court judge to have our consumer efficiently named as her mother’s guardian. In Ontario, every particular person over the age of 16 years is presumed to be able to managing and making choices for themselves in relation to private care and over the age of 18 years for choices regarding property. The United Nations Convention on the Rights of Persons with Disabilities protects the rights of people with disabilities to train their authorized capacity – that is, the right to direct their private, health care and monetary choices on an equal basis with others.

In collaborative negotiation you and the other parent every hire specially-trained attorneys. You and your legal professionals signal an agreement saying that nobody will go to court guardianship trust or threaten to go to court docket. If the collaborative process breaks down, you and the opposite get together must hire new lawyers if you want to go to courtroom.

If not, it may be very important complete this kind to ensure you have the assistance and assist you need. In situations where both dad and mom are unfit or unable to care for his or her child, a court will appoint an applicable guardian for the child. This guardian is often a relative corresponding to a grandparent, aunt, or uncle, or someone else with a close relationship to the child and/or their dad and mom. Ratheal Family Law is a divorce and family law agency with places of work in Clinton and Yukon, Oklahoma.

Simply put, the Management Plan outlines the applicant’s (i.e. the proposed Guardian’s) particular plan for a way the incapable person’s property shall be managed and safeguarded. Income tax returns may be filed informally by the husband for his spouse. In practice, the Canada Revenue Agency doesn't insist on a signature on the return. However within the event of a dispute or inquiry, it may be unimaginable to deal instantly with CRA without both a pre-existing illustration document on file , an influence of legal professional or guardianship. Again this is in a position to require balancing the cost and value of a tax matter vs. acquiring legal authority as a guardian of property. 1 The Mentally Disabled Persons’ Estates Act offers for the court appointment by the Court of guardians of the property of a “mentally disabled person” but that authority is restricted to the custody and management of that person’s property and funds.

Public agencies similar to Area Agency on Aging (AAA’s) in Pennsylvania are using guardianship companies to back-fill strained authorities budgets. This pattern is contrary to the principles upon which the Independent Living movement is founded and represents a threat to each person with disabilities. The Court conducts digital pre-trial conferences for grownup and youth legal recordsdata requiring one or more days of court time. Judges talk about these trials with legal professionals to ensure that solely those requiring a trial are actually set for listening to and that point estimates are correct before trial dates are set.

Youngster Autism Companies

It has no single recognized cause and is extra prone to affect boys than girls from all racial, ethnic and social groups. Infant Development Program Our in-home services are provided by Speech-Language Pathologists, Child Developmental Specialists, Occupational Therapists, and MFT's who assist all elements of your child's development. Social Skills Groups Groups are designed to provide children and teens a possibility to learn and practice skills autism learning centre that can assist build and keep meaningful relationships with age-level peers. In Home Parent Education Through IHPE, dad and mom and caregivers might be offered instruction in fundamental behavioral ideas and how they relate to engagement in each challenging and applicable behavior. Adapted Skills AST is an intervention method that focuses on rising socialization and private independence.

They rotate relying on scheduling wants of the child which gives my son a set of 4-5 main therapist he works with however he has improved so much of his social abilities. The entire golden view family love seeing my son progress and get just as excited as I do when he learns new issues. They ship progress notes everyday with your youngster to update on goals that had been labored on for the day. I am positively blessed to have encountered this place as a outcome of they have done nothing but amazing issues for my son. Because we consider that no two learners or families are the identical, we offer an revolutionary array of providers primarily based on the only scientifically proven approach, applied behavior analysis .

It's necessary to are inclined to your bodily and emotional wants so that you just're in a wholesome space on your child. You will not have the ability to help your youngster if you're stressed out, exhausted, and emotionally depleted. When you're autism learning centre calm and centered, on the other hand, you are higher able to connect along with your child and help them be calm and targeted too. Diet – A healthy, nutrient wealthy food regimen will help your kid's development and development.

The Child Development Center will connect you with specialised autism therapy applications offered by the Center for Autism Spectrum Disorders. Rebecca Landa, PhD, CCC-SLP, is the founder and director of the Center for Autism and Related Disorders and theREACH research programat Kennedy Krieger Institute. She is also a professor of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine. Via federal and foundation funding, Dr. Landa has made groundbreaking discoveries about growth in children with and without ASD from early infancy into the teenager years. She has translated these discoveries into progressive interventions and demonstrated the effectiveness of these interventions in medical trials in house, medical, child care, and public school settings.

If you have questions about ABA therapy, getting began, or an evaluation please contact us today. We meet with kids to debate the results and follow up with letters to document their strengths and areas of wrestle. Diagnosed with leukemia at simply three months old, Elliot beat the odds, defied his doctors’ grim diagnoses, and is now a thriving 17-year-old pupil in NECC’s residential program.

At PRISM, our approach for lowering maladaptive behavior is by establishing what we call the “function” of the conduct. And how can we teach a more effective method for that have to be met? We address the learner’s developmental deficits by breaking down prerequisite abilities into smaller parts and instructing them till mastery, enabling the learner to meet their wants more competently. Strong assist systems are key for individuals with learning disabilities. Successful people are in a place to ask for assist after they want it and reach out to others for help. Perseverance is the drive to keep going regardless of challenges and failures, and the flexibleness to change plans if issues aren't working.

Dolores’ background in each counseling and ABA is a power because it adds a different perspective when working with households and clients. Her space of experience if working with difficult family dynamics and the nonverbal inhabitants. These testimonials had been solicited and supplied by dad and mom or guardians of former purchasers. The households who offered these testimonials are no longer receiving companies nor affiliated with Autism Learning Partners or its subsidiaries. ABA is a every day remedy program and we provide a few of those hours on weekends. Before remedy begins, our shopper companies team will inform you in regards to the choices that are obtainable and finalize your schedule with you.

Your job as a parent is to not “cure” the training disability, however to provide your child the social and emotional instruments they want to work through challenges. In the long term, dealing with and overcoming a problem similar to a learning disability may help your child grow stronger and extra resilient. Our evaluations always include a thorough, user-friendly report that documents autism learning centre the child’s prognosis and provides prioritized suggestions. We stay in contact with families and follow up frequently to assist them implement our suggestions. We work carefully with a devoted group of anxiety specialists, behavioral therapists, and youngster and adolescent psychiatrists who're on-site and out there to offer extra services and therapy.

Maybe you hope that your child's future features a fulfilling job and satisfying relationships, for example, or a happy household and a sense of contentment. Everyone—learning disability or not—has their very own distinctive learning fashion. Some people learn best by seeing or studying, others by listening, and nonetheless others by doing.

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Thanks for reading about how to set an alarm on MacBook. On the other hand, there’s no excuse for being late anymore, so you’ll have to find another convenient reason as to why you’re late for work or school. Find more about 'How Can I edit the alarm clock on my Samsung Galaxy Tab S from the Home screen' with Samsung Support.

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It might not be the most intuitive way of doing things, but by following the steps above, you can absolutely set an alarm with the default Mac OS X apps. Congratulations – you’ve just set your first alarm. You’re looking for an option named At the Time of Event. This is great for people who like to wake up to music. You can now choose an alarm noise from a list of pre-installed sounds, or choose Open File to use one of your own. The To field is irrelevant unless you want to be forced to manually turn the noise off. Next, enter the time you want the alarm to go off in the From field. Double-click on the relevant day and type in a name for your new event. Step 3 – Choose a Date and TimeĬhances are you’ll either want the alarm sometime today or tomorrow. The alarm can give you a gentle wake-up call, or you can crank the volume up if you have trouble getting out of bed in the mornings.

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All you need for this free alarm clock is your computer and an active internet connection. If it’s not there, you can get started by opening the menu, browsing to Applications, and choosing Calendar. The Online Alarm Clock is a digital alarm clock online that helps you to wake up and ensures you dont oversleep. You should see the Calendar icon: go ahead and click it. Im sure its allowed on the Mac, they just havent deemed it necessary. Hes either one hell of an apologist or writing from the propaganda section of Apple, inc.: 'There are several OS X alarm apps available on the app store, but I havent used them, so I cant recommend one. These offer all kinds of functionality, like periodic alarms, social-media blocking, and so on. Why no alarm clock in Mac OS X This is one readers response. You might want to take a look at the App Store and see if there’s a more advanced alarm clock that would suit your needs better. The default alarm clock built into Mac OS X Mavericks is fine, but a little barebones. Best of all, it’s incredibly simple to do: just follow the steps below. Whatever the case, you can set an alarm to help keep yourself on schedule. Maybe you’re crunching the numbers and trying to meet your monthly targets, or maybe you’re just engrossed in the new game you’ve been playing. In addition to disabling the feature completely, you can adjust the frequency to hear announcements every 15 minutes, half hour or hour. Your Macs time announcement feature can help you stay informed of the time at work, but you can turn it off if desired. To reorder your widgets, touch and hold next to the apps and drag them in the order that you want.Īfter you've removed the Siri App Suggestion widget, use your iPad for a while to see if the app suggestion still appears.Hey, we’ve all been there: you’re working on your MacBook and lose track of time. How to Stop a Mac from Announcing the Time.

Swipe right over the Home screen or Lock screen.

To set this alarm, click the Calendar icon in your Mac’s dock to launch Calendar and then click the File and New Event options in the top menu bar. You can add and remove widgets and even reorder them so your favorite ones are at the top. Mac’s built-in Calendar app has a feature that allows you to set a one-time alarm clock. For help with removing widgets, see Use widgets on your iPhone, iPad, and iPod touch : Update your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch Next, if you still see an app suggestion with a clock badge in the Dock, try removing the Siri App Suggestions widget from the Today screen. Thanks for getting back to us! Since you are still having the issue, here are a few more suggestions to try.įirst, it's a good idea to make sure your iPad is updated to the latest iOS version:

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Follow the instructions to install the software. (It will usually be in your Downloads folder.) How do I install a download on my computer? The most useful of these is the speed limiter. As you can see from the images itself, IDM’s box offers many options compared to FDM’s. IDM’s download dialog box is much better than FDM’s. Is freeload Manager better than IDM? IDM is one of the most popular Download manager for Windows. Is IDM traceable? Yes the owner of the website you are downloading from can track the traffic and which files you downloaded.

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It belongs to software Internet Download Manager and developed by Tonec. This process is known as Internet Download Manager (IDM). Some people can get away with fewer Mbps, and others need more. With 100 Mbps, you can watch Netflix or YouTube, attend Zoom meetings, and play most online games on several devices at the same time. What is good download speed?Ī good download speed is at least 100 Mbps, and a good upload speed is at least 10 Mbps. But another reason for your slow Wi-Fi could be bandwidth throttling. Those fixes may be as easy as restarting your modem and router or upgrading to a mesh network. Your router could be outdated or it could be too far away from your TV or computer, for example. Slow internet speeds can be caused by a number of things.

Disable other devices connected to your router.

How to increase download speed: 15 tips and tricks How do I make my internet download faster? I believe IDM may actually make multiple requests to the same file at the same time, and thus trick the server into providing higher bandwidth through the multiple connections. Typically a download manager accelerates by making multiple simultaneous connections to the remote server. List Of Best Download Manager For Windows Internet Download Manager can increase your download speeds by up to five times, according to the developer of the application. This software may be built into a web browser or as a stand-alone manager. The error message I get from from the Monitor is " Error when trying to retrieve data from network".Īny guidelines would be greatly appreciated.A download manager is a software that helps you to prioritize your downloads, faster download speeds, automatic antivirus checking, support for pausing and resuming downloads, and also offers built in scheduler. I parse through all data from sharepoint to a collect first before displaying results, there are no instances of displaying data directly from a sharepoint library.Īccording to our network team, no ports were blocked recently in the firewall to prevent this from happening. I restored a version of the PowerApp to 8 weeks ago where I know for a fact we had no issues - however even on that version we are still experiencing a massive slow down on retrieving data.

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In the past month I only added an extra sharepoint list to the PowerApp, and have begun optimising some bad code so you would think the experience should have improved with optmisations. The last 2 weeks, we have been experiencing a slow down of the app until last week Friday where it has completely now become unusable (current version 3.21094.25). We have a PowerApp that for all intents and purposes was working quite happily around a month ago with no issues ( version 3.21085.24). I am in need of your expertise as I am quite stumped on this.

Hghghg. I got a call back from the Vocational Services department today. My self-referral application wasn't sufficient, and she'd like me to fill out the full application now (which she'll email me). And then once that's complete, she'd like to schedule a meeting to go over everything and see whether or not I qualify and if there's anything they can help me with.

I think I may have messed up on the self referral a little, because she mentioned hearing aids. I checked my portal, and it looks like HoH was the only disability that really got posted despite the fact it was only secondary to my Fibromyalgia. So that's definitely something to correct on the main application; feel a bit like an idiot for doing that bit incorrectly apparently.

Though, honestly? If they help me pay off my Hearing Aid loan, I'm really not going to complain. Part of the point of this was to see if I could get any help with my accrued medical debt from my diagnostic process if possible. But dsakfhaks.

Progress~!

ETA: Well, that's it. My full, proper application's officially in. Huzzah!

Working with Planetary Days

I hope it is okay that I share this excerpt from my Newsletter this month. It feels right/good to share this on Jupiter's day. Often times, I feel stuck in one place. I don't know how to move on from tasks or I struggle with even starting my day. I wanted to take the time to create an outline of options/ideas/tasks I can do based on the ruling planet for each day of the week. I think that once upon a time, College made me decide that Sundays were the days to get so much done, organize, plan, "catch up" etc- Friday and Saturday's were for indulging and forgetting about responsibilities, monday's were pure panic. Had I attuned to the energy of the days (and diving in deeper, planetary hours, which we will talk about next time) I may have navigated the days and my energy a lot better. Now I am a social worker, mental health practitioner and (baby) astrologer, trying to find the balance between self and others; solitude and socialization; responsibility and creativity; structure and response; Spirituality and Practicality; physical energy and mental energy and emotional energy; work and being still. The purpose of this 'outline' is to provide guidance, inspiration and direction on how to intentionally use our time, more so our Day to our energetic/celestial benefit.  Stick around as I go over the days of the week. Monday-Lunes (Moon)- Wake up late (if you can) Express gratitude (aloud or in a journal/safe space) DEEP stretch (to your ability, if you experience a disability/limitation, I encourage DEEP breathing, belly breathing) Use 'Herbs' (Whatever this means to you) and slow, smooth music (Alternative, R&B, Country, Blues, Jazz, Instrumental, Waves, Sound Bowl if you have one) Drink your coffee/tea/tonic/elixir/etc in one spot. Don't move until you are finished with your cup. Take a drive for no reason or take the scenic route to your destination/appointment/work/home/etc. Either have comfort food or light eating (Whichever your body calls for that day) IF you have a healthy relationship with Home: Call Home or friend or anyone you can be safe with. Water, water, water, water, water, water, water, water, water, water Snuggle up with a comfort item. Practice affirmations. Tell someone you love them (or something of the sort) Tuesday-Martes (Mars)- If you are able, take a walk; pilates; yoga; Tai Chi; dance. If you experience limitations or live with a disability, move to your capacity (bobbing your head to music, stretching upper body, deep breathes, chair exercises, rotating feet/ankles, whatever you are comfortable with. I am able bodied so may be ignorant to the options here-PLEASE educate me if you can think of anything further that those limited can engage in Mars like energy). Earthing Face Masks/Steaming/Scrub Hair Masks/Deep cleaning/Salt scrub Tend to yard work (if applicable and if able) Laundry (ALL OF IT, that means cleaning, drying and folding too LOL) Any tasks you have been putting off, focus on these first. Create a to do lists, categorized by home; office/work; spirit; business, etc. Clean your Spiritual tools Clean the space you spend the most time in Work or be outside if you can. Just get out of your usual environment if possible. Brainstorming. Go to bed early if you can. Wednesday-Miercoles (Mercury) Read 10-30 minutes (Of course more if you have the time and/or attention span😉) Journal 10-30 minutes, let it flow if you can. Create or engage in Minor to do lists Create a grocery list Fill out calendar for appointments or obligations- review your planner/calendar/schedule in general Work on your budget Respond to/Send emails-Respond to/make phone calls Work on/Send out Newsletter(s) Take notes on your readings Delete emails, clear voicemail box, go through paper mail Schedule meetings on this day talk to Spirit Ask questions-exchange information Watch a documentary or informative series Grab dinner or a drink with friends Paying attention to car maintenance may work well on this day as well (schedule an oil change/car wash/fill tank/etc) Learn something new Interact with/engage with your environment (if possible, for ex: walk around your neighborhood, smile at a neighbor; if you have the space work in your kitchen/living room instead of your office; if you're working in an office, see if there is a conference room available instead of your "cube") Get a massage/self massage (if possible/applicable) Turn your phone off, or notifications off before bed. Thursday-Jueves (Jupiter) Sleep in if you can Express Gratitude (out loud or in a journal or safe space) Pray Charge and/or cleanse crystals Take a salt bath/shower Soak your feet (if you can, get an Ionized foot bath) Take one risk today, walk by faith not by sight today Get out of your comfort zone (this will look different for everyone) Buy something you've been saving for or start saving for something Try something new Water your damn plants and/or talk/sing to them Play games (board games, phone games, computer games, video games) Watch a comedy Spell work and rituals Try a new tea or elixir Consult with a friend, guide, therapist, energy worker, etc Friday-Viernes (Venus) Make up, moisturize, hair spray/gel, rings, necklaces, perfume, heels, slacks, corsets, glasses, nail polish- WHATEVER you have to put on your bodythat'ss an extra step than usual-Do it! Indulge in your first (or last) meal today Walk (or drive) somewhere scenic/beautiful Watch the sunrise or sunset. Or catch the moonlight Practice your love language with yourself or with others "Love" yourself (hint hint, wink wink) Make your "space" pretty (this can be your bedroom, living room, kitchen, garden, car, this can be social media platforms, journals) BUMP or BLAST some music Make a playlist Aromatherapy, cleanse or charge your Tools, talk to friends/family, set boundaries and don't do anything you don't want to today (if possible 😉) paint, draw, read, shop, write Take a picture (of you or something/someone beautiful) Saturday-Sabado (Saturn) Start a to do list for today and especially for the week ahead Take care of house (whatever this means to you) Meditate Study Fast (If able/applicable) Journal (esp related to your long term goals, worldly affairs/responsibilities) Clean your space and get rid of what is no longer needed (clean out fridge, throw out papers, take out garbage, pull weeds, etc) Clean your car (if able/applicable) Ask Spirit and Ancestors "What work needs to be done?" Use sound bowl (if you have one), binaural beats, instrumental music Water water water water water water water! Sunday-Domingo (Sun) Practice your skills/Review your skills Perform service (whatever 'service' means to you) Post on social media/Establish social media presence Socialize, actively engage with others and/or your surroundings (if able/applicable) Journal (check your Ego, gas yourself up or practice humility) Review/Activate spells and rituals Pray Express gratitude Choose something specifically for you today Aura cleansing (if able/applicable) I hope this is guiding and helpful to at least someone. I experience such guilt around how I spend my time during the day and this outline/list has helped me attune to the energy of the day and generally make the most out of it. This is a light hearted, intuitive post meant to guide and validate how we can use our energy. I try to be mindful that not everyone has the resources, space, freedom, privilege, ability or circumstances to engage in such activities, my only hope is that at least one thing on this list can be activated in your days.