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allfattenedup · 2 years

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I've been in problem-solving mode the last few weeks, trying to figure out what to do for my content going forward. If you're a follower or supporter of any kind, I'd really like you to read this, and I've put some gifs throughout as little rewards for your attention. 😄 Like this one:

Ugh look at that wobbly hang. 😫😫😫

So here's the thing. Unfortunately many people who sign up to my Patreon have been stealing their memberships. That is, signing up, receiving the month's worth of premium content, then cancelling their membership the day before billing and resubscribing the day after. A few people do this again and again, month after month. I'm actually in shock that Patreon facilitates this, they've been around long enough to close this massive loophole. From what I've read it's a big problem for other creators as well.

By the way, I also have a lot of absolutely wonderful, loyal patrons, and if you've never done this then the above is in no way directed at you. Thank you so much for your genuine support.

But with others, it’s become a problem. It's actually really heartwrenching, especially with the level of production that goes into some of my videos, to pour in hours of planning, shooting, editing, spending my own money to buy supplies, watching my patron numbers climb throughout the month and feeling proud that my work is paying off, only to see an enormous drop right before billing, of sometimes up to half. My subscription is so inexpensive as it is, but with some subscribers finding it acceptable to yank their pledge back at the last moment after I've delivered on my end, to save themselves eight bucks, I end up with a measly sum for the enormous amount of time and effort I put in, and it's not sustainable.

For a while I thought I might just leave. It wasn't just about the money, it was about being cheated by people who pretended to be supporters. It made me feel like I just didn't want to engage at all anymore, and that wasn't fair on all the wonderful patrons who are genuine. But to be honest, I don't think I can leave. I love this community so much, putting on weight makes me feel so alive and excited and sexy, and showing it off to you makes it ten times better. Gosh I'm sorry this is getting so long, I'll try to wrap it up quickly. Here's another gif:

So at first it looked like I had two options, and I didn't like either of them - significantly raise my subscription price, or turn on upfront billing. But those would be last resorts, if that, because I really don't want to do either of those. So as I was already developing a new content plan, I started to build in ideas for the ways that maybe the type of content I make could help solve this problem. So here's what I'm thinking:

• Fewer highly-produced videos (not never, I still have tons of ideas I want to film, but maybe not every single month) • More real-time 'insta stories' type content

People have been requesting more raw, unpolished content for a while now, and if I can for example pull out my phone and post a few stories when I've just finished gorging myself and am stuffed to the brim, or moments of me getting dressed into tight clothes, how I'm looking as I go about my day and so on, that may fill that demand and also solve this problem of the people who take my content and run.

The more I've thought about this idea, the more excited I am about it. There are so many possibilities with a more real-time content plan. I could live-post stuffings, show exactly how I'm fattening day to day, maybe even take you out on one of those tight-clothes walks I haven't done in a while. It would be a more intimate, almost feeder-feedee type experience. And ultimately I think the main advantage is that it'll let us engage more. I'm a few shy of 9,000 followers here on tumblr, and the best part about reaching that number is the community that's been created. I love it, it's definitely made me fatter, the encouragement is out of this world, and that's what I want to build on going forward.

In line with that I’ve also made a ko-fi, because I’ve had a lot of people get in touch wanting to sponsor a stuffing or something similar, and we don’t have venmo or cashapp in Australia so I never knew how to accommodate that, so I think that might work. The page is up and I’ll figure out how to start offering that in the next few days. You can DM me in the meantime if you’re interested.

If you've read this far, thank you so much. I'm sorry it was so long but I wanted to give proper background and I also probably needed to vent a little bit. I want to say I'm also open to suggestions and ideas, even other platforms I could try out. Advice from other content creators who've dealt with this problem would be especially helpful, but for now I think this plan is a really exciting way to move forward. I hope you do too!

#allfattenedup #weight gain #fattening up #gaining weight #belly hang #getting fatter #fat belly #fatten me

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always-andromeda · 4 months

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hello my dearest darling meda!

I apologize for being away so long - life has been quite hectic of late 😅

but I just wanted to pop in and say that I've been reading your posts and I'm so sorry you've been going through a rough time 😔😔 but I'm also very proud of you for noticing the progress you've made!! 🥰

I also wanted to let you know that my edits for today were inspired by a post you made earlier this week (the one where you referenced "writer in the dark" by lorde). I was going to tag you but then I wasn't sure if that was something more personal, so I opted not to. and of course, if that is the case, absolutely no need to respond to this ask at all! I just wanted you to know that I saw that post and it reminded me of the concept of "hidden mother" photographs, which in turn inspired the edits. "writer in the dark" is such a good song and yeah that line hits really hard

anyway, I hope things will get a bit easier now that the semester is over!

sending you warm thoughts, huge hugs, and a few of my specialty sugar cookies with lots of homemade frosting and a ton of sprinkles!!

love always,

charlotte 💙🎨

Oh, Charlotte. 🥹

I am legitimately just...speechless. Like you couldn't have sent this at a more perfect point in time. I'm gonna keep the rest of my message under the cut so as not to clog up everyone's feeds.

But I do wanna tell everyone to go look at Charlotte's edits (version one; version two). They are so knowledgable about art history and the edits they put together are just so gorgeous and I highly recommend dropping them a follow. Please, please, please, I promise you won't regret it (especially if you're a Swiftie ☺️).

Okay, now, I just want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart for just...being so kind despite how hectic things have been on your end. I promise, it's been a little rocky over here too lol. But it's a kind of hectic that has to happen in order for things to get better.

I will say that I am looking forward to next year. This year has been the year of a lot of revelations about myself and about life. Mostly just realizing just how deeply I've been in survival mode for the last couple of years. And this next year I'm looking forward to really starting to live more.

SO, long story short. It hurts now. But it's a good hurt; a necessary hurt. And we will be okay over here at Andromeda HQ lol.

And to cap this off, here's me letting you know that if my sad little Tumblr rambling ever inspired any more ideas, you are totally free to tag me in them!! Because sometimes I don't see your edits on my feed and gosh, I am always delighted to see them.

Thank you always for your thoughtfulness and your kind words, Charlotte. It means the absolute world to me. And here's to hoping that things are doing alright on your end as well!! I'm returning all of the hugs and warm thoughts right back at you!! And I've been baking up an absolute storm lately; so in my mind I'm sending a load of rice Krispy treats, brownies, conchas, and cookies right back at you!! Have a very happy holiday, Charlotte!! 🥰🎁💛

#˚ʚ ask meda ɞ˚#charlotte 🎨

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tardytothesimspardy · 11 months

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Walking Away Like Action Movie Hero Boy

If I could edit at all I would totally put explosions and whatnot behind her

It's been an excited few days for the Holiday household (almost everyone has a different last name but I'm just choosing one).

Continuing from the last post's tragedy, Fifi came back! Ali was the first to greet her, despite her smelliness.

Demi even broke her arm to greet Fifi, which shows that she really does care about her.

Speaking of Demi, it's a few days before her wedding, and she and Shawna are being very flirty about it. It's so much that Shawna hasn't even had the time to re-develop her fear of Demi cheating on her, which is really nice of her to not do.

The next today, I decided to have Ali join a club (because I've just gotten Get Together and want to play it), and she set out to join the Paragons.

Things went pretty smoothly, which was nice, and she managed to become good friends with Sofia, and was able to join the club.

(can i just say as an aside that ali is so freaking pretty oh my gosh)

I feel like Sofia was pretty happy to have a new friend, because she took Ali aside a few times to share memes and photos, which Ali liked.

Once she was in, she actually had the club leader herself welcome her to the club, which I think went straight to Ali's head. She was very excited afterwards.

Going back to Shawna, it occurred to her that since her wedding was like,, literally the next day, she needed to officially break up with Aili. She hadn't really talked to her much since meeting Demi, especially after how mean Aili had been to Shawna.

Aili agreed to meet with her, but she clearly thought it was for a different reason.

But Shawna wanted to cut the chase, and after sitting her down, promptly broke up with her.

"It's just not working out, we haven't talked in seasons, it was you not me, plus I'm getting married tomorrow to a Sim who isn't mean to me."

Then it was time for the big event: the wedding itself.

It started off fairly well, with Eva immediately needing to pee, Ali making a social media update, and Tobor breaking down promptly.

After that though, the catering came in and made some food and the cake, and Demi and Shawna went off to the arch to officially get married.

It was a very successful wedding, most of the guests eventually wandered over to see the event, no scandals or betrayals, a very happy day for the two of them. I'm happy for them both, and I think they're going to be very successful themselves.

Now that they are married, I'm going to go back to Flat, Flo, and Ruby, which is probably good timing seeing as Trigger apparently aged up recently. Hopefully Susie isn't too far behind. I would like her to stay a child a little bit longer. (She was almost certainly born too early for everything to work out but it's fine it's fine it's fineeeee)

#also throughout these pictures you are seeing me discover and finaggle with cc in real time #between the skin and eye defaults to the skin overlays and stuff #but i think i have it now where I want it #i very much like how my sims look now and am happy with it #so far i haven't downloaded any clothes or build/buy items but i did get some new packs bc of the sale #the sims 4 #ts4 #simblr #the sims 4 gameplay #the sims 4 screenshots #the sims 4 legacy #sims 4 #ts4 gameplay #the brokes #images have alt text

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five-wow · 4 years

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i saw on your main blog that you've watched due south! i love that show so much! since it's one of my favorites i want to cross it over with everything. i've been thinking recently how much i would love to see the h50 characters interact with Fraser and one or both of the Rays. mostly i think i want Fraser and RayK to lead by example and show Steve and Danny that they too can ride off into the sunset together

Yes, I have, and oh my gosh, hello! 💖 I love encountering other people who love Due South in the wild because fdjkfd oh, how I love that show.

I’m not always big on crossovers because they make my brain break a bit sometimes, though you did just put the concept of Fraser and either of the Rays in Hawaii in my head and that is Most Glorious and I have to thank you for it. Poor Fraser would melt. Someone would have to wear a Hawaiian shirt. I kind of feel like it should be Dewey, who is now apparently tagging along too (Chicago PD won the lottery and sent all of their Detectives to Hawaii?), but it’s also entirely possible that the only correct answer to “which of these characters should wear a really awful touristy Hawaiian shirt” is actually “all of them”. I will give this matter additional consideration as I go forward.

ANYWAY. The thing that actually made me go !! about this ask was that last sentence and specifically the thing about riding off into the sunset because YES. YES, I AGREE. I mean, my thinking has been a bit less on a characters learning from each other level and a bit more on a showrunners learning from each other one perhaps, but still. I once wrote a long and rambly post about how Due South did its ending perfectly and h50 could have learned a thing or two from them that still languishes in my drafts, and I guess this is as good a time as any to spend way too many words making that point, so I’ll put the drafted text under a readmore here:

[Edit: this is where the “keep reading” should have been if this were a functional website.]

you know what show really did their ending right, if you ask me? due south. the main character, fraser, is a guy who is part of an organization that left him with a hyper specific skillset most ordinary humans don’t possess. he lost his mother at an early age and his father never truly recovered. they had a distant relationship that they never had a chance to fix before fraser’s father was murdered. against law enforcement’s wishes, fraser worked his father’s case to catch the killer in the pilot episode, thereby neatly kicking of the entire series. fraser is never shown to have a strong interest in women except for his one epic romance, the one that got away (literally, repeatedly), who is a dark-haired woman who left him heartbroken and a little screwed in the head. fraser owns a dog that he talks to frequently, lives for his work, and is very, very good at it, but is also, deep down, incredibly lonely.

fraser also has a partner. (or two, but we’re talking kowalski here.) this guy, ray (rayk), is a divorced man with a european background and a whole host of issues surrounding his imploded marriage, some of which are to do with kids. he’s very particular about his blond hair, he can ramble, and he has strong opinions and those are not always favorable when it comes to the methods fraser employs during their cases. but he loves fraser! and fraser loves him back, and they have said those words out loud. ray will chase women and be annoyed that they just fall at fraser’s feet; ray has a very specific car; ray used to have a dog he loved dearly but it died and he doesn’t have one now; ray is a really great detective with a lot of heart.

and then there’s the finale. in the two-part due south finale, someone gets shot and badly wounded and fraser once again has to deal with fall-out from his parents’ legacy. ray’s ex-wife meets someone new and marries them (the other ray, fraser’s other partner, as it so happens), firmly putting an end to the potential of revival for that relationship. fraser is asked by his only possible love interest at that point, thatcher, to follow her as she gets promoted (because she is also his boss), but he declines. ray, who fears that fraser might be leaving him (for the other ray, who returned after a long undercover stint, but that’s plot stuff that’s not super relevant in this discussion), nervously asks thatcher whether she’s ever felt like she needed a certain person to feel like herself, “like if you weren't around somebody, or that someone wasn’t around you, then you wouldn’t be you, or at least not the you that you think”, and she says no, and later ray and fraser have a talk about partnerships that is interrupted by her, and she tells fraser that she can see that he belongs in this place (the canadian wilderness) and that she can’t think of a life less appealing and they realize their paths will diverge here. in the end, fraser catches the bad guy with a lot of help from friends. he decides to leave chicago (the setting of most of the show), but, and this is pretty instrumental, he leaves it for canada, which is his real home, and ray is with him. we’re shown how all the other characters that we learned to love over the course of the show end up, and all of them have their own lives but they seem happy, and then we’re left with just ray and fraser on a dogsled amidst a lot of ice and mountains, planning a hopeless adventure (because it will keep them together) and riding off, so very very very literally, into the sunset.

and, look. not all of this finale template would fit h50 and steve and danny. there are differences, because they are (thankfully) not exactly the same show, but except for maybe the dogsled and the ice on those mountains? dear lord, they could have copy-pasted the bones of due south’s finale and it would have been so close to perfect.

#h50 #due south #*#ask #anon #finale #these shows have so!!! much!!! in common!!!#(the biggest difference is honestly their general message and take on the world)#(h50 makes me want to throw up sometimes and due south is flawed for sure! but fjdkfd it tries and is often SO GOOD)#(h50's take on lawyers is that they're for guilty people and suspects shouldn't get them)#(due south's cop characters say similar things)#(but it's contrasted by fraser and usually also the narrative telling us a different story)#(which mAKES A DIFFERENCE)#EDIT: uhhh i put the read more in the right place but now tumblr has put it all the way before my very first word and i can't move it #so that's fun???#it's fused with the ask somehow jfdkfld

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harrietvane · 6 years

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do you mind talking about why you dislike Love Actually and Richard Curtis's romcoms? I've seen you mention it in some of your tags and I'd love to hear your thoughts :)

Long post, so scroll now, ye who care not.

OK, so like better voices than mine have articulated Why Love Actually Sucks Balls, but you were kind enough to ask for my view, so strap in I’m gonna talk about Jane Eyre, and the 1990’s Fran Drescher sitcom The Nanny also. It’s coming up on western civilisations’ holiday season, so why not, it’s a good time to tell this movie to choke, because it’s about to be repeatedly thrust upon us once again. (Disclaimer: I acknowledge Richard Curtis is responsible for Blackadder and Vicar of Dibley, so whatever else, we’re still cool on that basis. But I have spite and to spare, so there’s plenty to go around).

My main beef is actually the context. Technically, if all of the below bullshit was in an offbeat movie from any other movie market (I’m thinking maybe a French, or Spanish movie from the 90′s boom, Almodovar style?), the focus would probably be a black humour take on ‘Lord What Fools These Mortals Be!’, sort of look at the inherent ridiculousness of mankind, and how we get in our own way, blah blah, might have been cute. I’d buy that. This movie? A british movie for the american market? It’s sold with a big holiday sticker on it saying ‘ROMANCE’, and specifically ‘ADORABLE ASPIRATIONAL ROMANCE THAT YOU SHOULD ADORE AND ASPIRE TO’. Also the context *inside* the movie itself (through a narration voiceover no less) is that all of these narratives is somehow proof that ‘Love, Actually is all around’, and specifically in a good, wholesome, happy way, overall at least. These stories are redeeming, even if they’re not all happy, they’re Good™ or whatever. The context outside the movie is the same: british TV advertising, hard copy packaging, holiday specials, outdoor gala screenings: they all say over and over: THIS IS SQUISHY HOT PINK NEON LOVE, wholesome, healing, and healthy. You should want this, aspire to this, think this is the cat’s pyjamas! It’s a wide and varied look at the beautiful power of love from all angles, comic, tragic, the lot.

Is it fuck. The ‘positive’ romance stories range from Stage-5 Creeper to Crotch Puppet Afterthought, the ‘melancholy’, thwarted romance stories seem to say ‘if you’re a woman who’s not readily/immediately bangable to your allocated straight dude, romance is over for you I’m afraid’. Let’s recap, shall we:

Much has already been said about Andrew Lincoln’s character BLANTANTLY SHARKING ON HIS BEST MATE’S WIFE being uhhh, less than fresh. I don’t even feel like I need to justify this one, it’s so over-the-top. The main point is that movie itself maintains this as a tragic, swoony, thwarted, heart-string-tugging missed connection, rather than The Worst Friend Ever (meaning: it assumes we’ll be 100% onboard with Keira Knightley skipping secretly away from Chiwetel Eijiofor to grant his best mate one treasured kiss, as opposed to saying ‘what the FUCK Mark, why are you telling me this, this is super inappropriate?? and my only wedding video is just you zooming in on my face? Pls get help’.

We all love National Treasure Colin Firth and all, but like is Love, Actually fixating on a woman who literally can’t speak to you? Has said nothing understandable to you? About whose own life you’ve never yet, and could never have asked about? Whose main interactions with you have been to wordlessly clean your room, bring you food, and tidy it away after? Your ideal woman, who you meet immediately following a break up, is one who silently meets all your domestic needs, while making zero emotional or intellectual demands on you whatsoever? WOW, SHOCKER. (Oh but it’s cute or whatever, they have him propose, and there’s a mix up when her sister appears, but she’s Ugly™, so it’s funny that the sister is not getting romance. I mean, how could she, an uggo?? Classic joke. Good times.)

The Prime Minster and his tea lady: more on Curtis’ Domestic Servitude Kink below, whoo boy.

Laura Linney would really really like to sleep with Rodrigo Santoro, and god bless her who wouldn’t, but she is tragically unable to, because she has family commitments as being the sister – not even fulltime carer, just RELATED TO - a brother living with disability. Sorry folks, romance is OFF THE CARDS, FOREVER for Laura here. How can she??? That’s the nature of love, actually. Can you have sex right now this moment? No? Whelp, sorry, thanks for playing, back to the Tragic Assisted Living facility for you. Gosh it’s unfortunate that’s a truth universally acknowledged that any whiff of disability = no romance for you ever. (Don’t start me on 4 Weddings* [edit: *it’s totally Notting Hill, not 4 Weddings, thank] and how that husband is like The Best because he continues to love his wife even though her legs don’t work. What a champ, honestly, do they have an award for that?) I have to stop now before I get sarcasm poisoning, but my eyes will continue to roll.

How could I say anything bad about the Liam Neeson widower and his adorable lovestruck son storyine? Lol, I’m gonna. Have you seen the Buffy episode The Zeppo? Xander is convinced the only way girls (as a concept, not in the specific) will like him enough to sleep with him is if he has A Thing. The Thing is posited as ‘being cool’ by having an object or skill that alone will be the magic bullet to romance. Musical instrument prowess is considered, and he ends up just getting a car to be his Thing. This just seems like a redux of that logic. This kid could get some genuine direction from the movie to get to know this girl, learn her interests and share his, see if she likes him as a person by being A PERSON, but the narrative just backs away from that and eventually DOES just say ‘play the drums in the show, she’ll like you’ and that’s …it. But it’s cool, teenagers don’t learn key interpersonal dynamics at this age or anything, she kisses him for some reason, whatever. (Bonus points for gifting his dad with a literal supermodel as a punchline, after making that an actual joke earlier about the shallow nature of attraction, and love is about filling a one-sided need.)

I could go on, but I have very little to say about Freeman falling for a girl whose tits he’s been holding for a week, the no-homo pop star Nighy plot, or the guy that goes and has sex in Wisconsin with Bond Girls, and can’t be bothered, which leads me to…

Richard Curtis’ Domestic Servitude Kink. Must I kinkshame Richard Curtis in his own home?? Nope, I’m kinkshaming him AT WORK in his narratives, surrounded by his nubile, pliant, adorable female employee characters. Oh Mr Curtis, I seem to have dropped a pencil!

OK, so like a M/F Domestic Servitude romance is an extremely old trope, and extremely common, and I’m not here to tear that up, because done well it’s amazing, lot of petrol in that King Cophetua narrative tank. I’m a fan. The most famous in-context historical example being Jane Eyre, for instance: he’s her boss, she’s his paid subordinate, they’re both 100% aware of that. It’s a great way to explore the real-life class and power dynamics of these 2 train wrecks of human beings, and they vomit their ridiculous drama llama feelings all over a 600 page novel. Super fun, they’re both awful humans, I love them. Mid-century you might have The Sound of Music, and in more modern times you get 1990s sitcom The Nanny, both extremely well-developed romances involving paid employees, and part of their value is that the shows KNOW THIS. They’re aware it’s the basis for their dynamic, that they have to directly play with that, and develop beyond to go anywhere. Watching Fran Fine in her runway-fresh Moschino minidresses jump on Maxwell Sheffield’s desk for the 800th time making him super uncomfortable (and not a little turned on) is always such a treat. It’s right out there on the label. The problem with Love, Actually, is Curtis doesn’t want to admit that naughty secretary seems to be a cornerstone of what gets him going, romantic-stylez.

One (1) time in the movie would be ‘sure, why not’. Literally the highest political office in the land, making overtures to the woman who brings him tea, i guess might be a bit off, but let’s say it’s done well, and maybe Hugh Grant and Martine McCutcheon’s charisma gets us over the line (his behaviour is cute because her last man didn’t like her body, but the prime minister DOES like her body! so it’s cute!). Whatever, seen worse. Two (2) times however is making a point, and Colin Firth is driving his silent portuguese maid home - not a french maid but so close! - and deciding he’d like her to bring him tea and clean his toilet for as long as they both shall live, and that also seems to be her greatest joy. Ah, l’amour. OK, I guess you like the thing, everyone has a thing, but at least you’re done now. Wait, you mean there’s a third (3rd) one? Everyone’s Fave Alan Rickman drives the plot of his own marriage’s tragic romance because he’s having stiffening feelings about his own Naughty Secretary halloween costume, after all. All the beautiful speeches about Joni Mitchell give Thompson some nice things to do, but it still assumes the Nature of Romance is to want to plough the help. A man can’t help it! It’s how romantic attraction works! Once would be whatever. Three times and there’s a tag on Ao3 for that, so please just scratch that itch and stop selling it to me in a heartwarming christmas movie as the Universal Nature Of Romance, so varied, so vast, the full spectrum! Just 2 hours to tell a story: but 3 whole narratives and 7 actors devoted to the variants on the naughty maid story. My point is be upfront about it and I’d be all for it - pretend it’s not A Thing You’re Doing and my creep-meter goes ping. Steven Shainberg’s ‘Secretary’ has a scene where the boss literally puts a saddle on his employee, and I find it to be one of the most genuinely moving romances I’ve ever seen. Love Actually makes me feel like Curtis is sending me a ‘u up?’ late night text about his secretary fantasy.

Anyway, I fucking hate this film, and not necessarily because of the content, but because of the context. The movie tells me to love it as aspirational romance. My culture tells me to love it as aspirational romance. Everyone tells me to love it as a varied and full exploration of reasons to get up in the morning, because it’s an aspirational romance. It makes me want to claw my own face off.

#replies #long post #ishipallthings #that kid in the octopus costume can't save it #look no judgement if you like it - whatever floats your stoat - but it's uhhhhh not for me

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