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oliviawebsite · 2 months

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there are some posters on here i find incredibly annoying and clearly have really grating personalities in spite of occasionally making a good point. but mostly i just ignore them and maybe roll my eyes at their self-important posting style instead of trying to make shit up about them being an evil sex pervert. much better way to handle that imo

#especially when theyre trans women #we have a right to be annoying its in the constitution

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obscenicon · 2 months

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ik for some trans ppl "youre so gender" or "you give me gender envy" or "omg transition goals" may be given or taken as genuine compliments. but yall have to remember that um. we are all human beings who have differing levels of comfort when it comes to being reminded of how Obviously Trans we are. a whole lot of us really dont fucking like that and at least for me it makes me extremely dysphoric lol. so maybe just pass on the whole "wow gender envy omg goals" on a random trans persons selfie and find a better less charged way to compliment them okay

#especially for trans women lol #bcs i see this happen from other tme trans ppl towards trans women a lot #where like. a tme trans person will be like WOW these trans women give me soooo much gender envy theyre so gender #some of them will even explicitly say 'i want to look like a [t slur]'#and well it makes me kind of nauseous. do yall realize what yall are implying when u do that #bcs its not complimentary. its not kind #especially when you aim it directly at specific random trans women who dont fucking know you #but also generallg tme ppl using the t slur in any context makes me feel gross so #lets stop doing that too okay #transmisogyny #<for the tags

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mihai-florescu · 11 months

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You. Western anime fan. Are you normal about anime boys with long hair.

#it's just odd to hc long haired guys ftom a culture youre not part of as trans women #im certainly not the authority on this cuz hey ive mever been to japan i have no ties there. but i notice things #it just is odd especially when the characters keep stating theyre guys #wait you know what it feels like actually. you dont want to admit you dont consume media with women so you just pretend #the characters with long hair are actually secretly girls

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saspitite · 1 month

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btw this blog is entirely in welcoming support of trans women that dont fit the standard of "perfect" that they apparently have to be in order to not be witch hunted and put on shitty callout posts. ily freaky trans women with weird gross kinks. im not a fucking coward or a bitch. you all deserve love

#sas says #seriously when will we finally move on from this idea that trans women can only be supported if theyre absolutely pure #there is an undeniable bias against them thats been especially fueled by recent transmisogynistic events and its making me want to scream #also callouts just need to die. forever. in like their entire context. theyre useless and only exist to dogpile certain users #they almost never start actual investigations and when they do the accused will have already deleted the circulated evidence #its so fucking annoying

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cynicalundead · 3 months

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if you call transfems dude/guy/bro without permission I'm shooting you into space btw

#especially if you wouldnt call a transmasc girl or sis without permission. this irks me so bad #theyre only gender neutral if the recipient is comfortablr with them that way....#yall have no respect for transfems. annoying when ur too busy objectifying them to rven treat them like women #idk. too many of yall r chasers and it shows lol #transmisogyny #trans ally #transfem #<- im not transfem myself but this is a support post for them becwuse . im sick of this

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ozymoron · 2 months

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dude its always "be yourself" till youre trans and now suddenly oh i get to nitpick every little thing about you oh that gesture was very feminine made you look like a girl oh youre wearing a shirt thats cream coloured? seems a little feminine to me oh you paint your nails? so youre a girl after all like ???? youre giving me mixed messages here am i meant to be myself or am i meant to conform to your idea of what a man is in order to be accepted as one by you

#⚠️#one time after i came out my mum saw me lounging around in a black t shirt and she was like oh it made you look like a man thinking it was #compliment but dude i got so mad i was like for fuck sake is that seriously what i have to do to be considered a man is lounge around in a #black t shirt??? lounging around is masculine???? what????????#i was also just a very angry person in general but still that really confuses me #had a psychiatrist note down shit about my appearance saying whether they thought it was feminine or masculine (they thought it was all #feminine) which was fucking crazy cause i went in for an adhd diagnosis #people just find out youre trans and suddenly start acting like experts on whats feminine and whats masculine and what makes you either #gender like shut the fuck up #can also come from people who they themselves accept some cis men are feminine and some cis women are masculine but suddenly as soon as you #try to transition now you have to be masculine or be feminine or youre not valid in their eyes #its fucking crazy #like if i showed them a dude with long hair theyd be like thats a dude with long hair but as soon as i have my hair long im told to cut it #i can show them a dude in a skirt and theyd probably laugh thinking its funny or some bullshit but theyd still think its a dude in a skirt #but if i wear a skirt suddenly im a girl #i know at the root of all this they truly believe people cant switch genders cause in their minds sex and gender is the same but still its #so annoying especially when they pretend to be accepting or think theyre being accepting and when you challenge them on their transphobia #they get all mad at you and act like youre being rude for criticizing them for doing the bare minimum whilst also just continuing to be #transphobic #like yeah you use my correct name but when im not around you use she/her for me and you say i **want** to be a boy instead of i am a boy bu #when i talk to you about this suddenly im the bad guy like its my fault youre using language for me thats transphobic #like ok man. whatever.#sorry for asking you to be a decent fucking human being toward me and treat me with respect #its like people just treat trans peoples gender like something they can just dismiss like its nothing liek we're just playing pretend or #something #like god its frustrating. i need to cut my mum out of my life fr

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butchvamp · 1 year

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really disliking this new corporate strategy of using trans people as marketing (hersheys and now bud light(?????)) where these massive billion dollar brands just expose trans women to the most vile harassment possible while they get to profit off their image and pretend to be progressive. like wow cool you put trans women on your chocolate bar and your beer cans but are you like, doing anything for them and the wider community or are you just parading them around...lol. also it really frustrates me that people will eat this shit up. brands targeting the lgbt community as a marketing demographic is not a good thing, actually. it should piss you off that target sells tshirts with the word queer on it. it should piss you off that hersheys "we use child slave labor" chocolate is trying to target you specifically with their advertisements

#obviously im sure fae and dylan are being paid and i dont think theyre bad for taking the endorsements #but are these companies doing anything else to like. protect them.#it feels so gross and exploitative lol #dylan has already been getting so much online harassment #and after that hersheys womens day ad fae had to like scrub some of her online presence to avoid being doxxed #and for weeks afterwards on twitter people were just being so horrible about her #and hersheys specifically never came back out in support of her #they made a very vague wish washy statement abt ‘inclusion’ where they didnt even mention her or trans women at all lol #like again im sure both women took the endorsement with the knowledge that this would happen #but i do think. as being 'inclusive' has become a clear marketing strategy then these companies #need to be offering more than just money for parading marginalized people around #especially with the. current Political and Social climate. lmfao #idk the hersheys thing really pissed me off earlier this year especially when the company completely failed to really support her #i dont know whats going on behind the scenes but they should have done something publicly anyways #tfw you want to pretend to be progressive but also dont want to completely alienate your bigot customers... lol!#also they only donated 30k for those ads which is less than pennies compared to the 4.4billion they made last year

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necrocrunk · 2 years

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people on tiktok (specifically black creators bc ofc everyone else is just avoiding it) broaching the topic of the like. white woman-ification of the nonbinary label and how it’s co-opted a lot of black narratives and experiences while still adhering to a gender binary, and how they dont get to complain about the idea of nb and they/them becoming woman-lite when theyre the ones who perpetuated it... ive been WAITING to talk about this one

#kain speaks #had someone bring up that nb was being used for women to use transness to speak over actual queer ppl and especially black trans women #and co-opting a movement #how nb has become the woman-lite for people who dont want to be seen as this patriarchy experience of womanhood #when theyre the ones perpetuating what white womanhood looks like. anyway.#i havent been too vocal past defending the viewpoint bc its a conversation that black ppl should lead for sure #but my god. i have been waiting for this one

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devon-the-fool · 2 months

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#devon talks #butch trans girls #trans #trans girls #i fucking LOVE TRANS GIRLS #ESPECIALLY WHEN THEYRE BUFF AND DONT CARE TO DRESS FEMININE #THEY ARE SO FUCKING SEXY #God #i fucking love women

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mx-paint · 1 year

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#its so fucking funny seeing somebody complain about feminism #specifically by saying its a HATE MOVEMENT #what are they hating? cant say they just hate #ITS SO FUNNY #and like. first he posted how a guy got banned for refusing to make a gay cake and they pointing out he refused to make it gay #-but offered to make them a cake #like sure. i guess the fact he doubled the price was also something for ya?? oorrrrrr #and the fact he got a gender reveal cake and apparently the 'woke mob' came after him (as in the people that got the cake didnt like it)#like. what are ya trying to say.#also the fact he called the little mermaid movie terrorism. or the fact he said that he claims a trans person shot up a church and got away #with it. when looking it up reveals they. very much. didnt. cause theyre Dead.#anyways. yeah feminism needs work (especially since it mainly is centered on just white people specifically Women)#but the fact hes editing the articles and quoting parts in scraps Really sells how lame your point is #esp since fox news is apparently his reliable source #plus the fact hes quoting a anti trans tweet of someone saying hormone blockers will cause you to Die.#which. if you want to erase the fact this is a decision that is talked about Extensively with both parent and child.#and. according to Actual sources. by people that. are Actually in a feild to comment. usually they dont get it until Years after puberty #anyways.

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goqmir · 4 months

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u ever notice how trans women arent allowed to be openly frustrated or angry about anything without getting an unreal amount of hatred sent at them. and god forbid someone "in good faith" responds to your venting with a half baked "solution" to your problem that if you dont perform for them youre obviously just so helpless and want to struggle-- because obviously to them transgender women love to play the victim (our struggles cant be real if they dont awknowledge them, and if they do awknowledge them theyre obviously not important or they can be fixed easily). cis people are allowed to be angry all the time. theyre allowed to be joyful too. if a trans woman is happy in her identity if she adores herself if shes feminine and loves pink and loves being trans thats "cringe" and "reddit" and obviously not how youre supposed to act. cis people are in love with their identities all the time and hate us when we are. we cant be the opposite either-- if we're sad instead of angry, they say we need to just pick ourselves up and stop bringing down the mood. if we aren't feminine, then they ask "why did you even transition at all?" if you aren't filled with joy every waking moment (which, again, they would hate you for), they say its because you're trans, and they hate you anyway. a lot of cis people (and a lot of trans people) dont want a trans woman to be angry like cis people are allowed to be, sad like they can be, happy, feminine, or masculine, or anything else-- its a catch 22. they hate you no matter what you do but especially if youre visible about it. so fuck em.

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faggy--butch · 2 months

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sorry to ramble in your inbox but its kinda fucking me up how "trans man with a cishet boyfriend who misgenders him behind his back" is like seen to be a person to make fun of in the general queer tumblr space instead of a person who is in a vulnerable situation. i know that there is trans men who are also women and there are trans men who are genuinely okay with dating a cis man who considers himself straight but people talking about these hypothetical couples arent talking about these situations but rather about "haha stupid trans man doesnt realize hes dating a bigot"

theres this attitude that the hypothetical cishet boyfriend is actually a conservative so it should be obvious to trans man that he doesnt respect his identity but i feel like its less "oh its obvious that this specific man is a bigot" and more "obviously cishet white men are bigots" and its weird how people laugh at this person instead of acknowledging that even if you are dating a bigot its usually not a big win for you personally. like the bigot cishet boyfriend isnt going to be okay with his trans man boyfriend starting testosterone. like we can sympathize with emotional abuse happening towards other groups but when its gay and mspec trans men its like "oh he should have known that would happen" or "its his fault for dating a bigot"?

of course people have the same making fun of the victim narrative with afab nonbinary people who date cishet men who misgender them [and im sure this bleeds over to affecting all nonbinary people if people arbitrarily decide theyre afab if the nonbinary person refuses to tell them personal information about themselves but the larger narrative always specifies that this is an afab person] and its almost like a "this is what you get for being attracted to men" sort of thing.

and also i theres something to be said about warning people for signs their partner or potential partner doesnt respect their identity but considering i imagine its a common anxiety among trans and nonbinary people who are into that sorta thing to wonder "am i ever going to find someone who loves me and is also accepting of me for being [insert gender here]?" its sort of fucked up for it to be common to basically claim "yea if youre dating a cis man who said he was straight before he started dating you but says he respects your identity hes probably just straight up lying to your face" and then laugh at the person getting misgendered for not knowing they were being misgendered.

anyway sorry for this big ramble i cant even remember specific instances of this to reference so i might seem like im making up a guy to be mad at but i swear this is like a general attitude and almost running joke i see around. anyway. have a good day.

I absolutely see that too, and I think it's a mixture of straight up victim blaming, because oh noo how dare you WANT to date *gasp* cis men

but it come with an intense transandrophobia and exorsexism because there's a lot more sympathy when it comes to cis women dating cishet men "poor things uwu" but when it's trans men or in this case non binary people assumed to be women, it's always "see I told you so" smug superiority. (cis women get this too, because of misogyny obviously, but it's different and worse for trans men) People are just waiting for a chance to be misogynistic and trans men are an acceptable target. This is honestly extra fucked up when we remember that trans men experience some of the highest rates of domestic violence and rape in the community though.

being trans is such a vulnerable place to be in, and a lot of people, trans or not are insecure or just want to be loved, that's normal. A lot of people are willing to accept certain behaviors from their partners that are bad, because of those reasons as well, victim blaming, and ESPECIALLy telling trans men to toughen up or "what did you expect" is apart of the toxic expectations that get placed of trans men as well. I could honestly go on for hours about this. good ask,anon

#transandrophobia #asks

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conceptofjoy · 2 months

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flutters eyelashes do u know that asking people especially trans women why there is discourse (implying people have told people to kill themselves about it because this is the internet) why roxy is a trans woman might be an exhausting thing to ask?

quick reasoning: the pesterchum initials are references to chromosomes with GT->EB, TT (dirk), and TG (roxy) implying transness (hussie has discussed junes handles in this manner). when the last two letters of roxy’s name was being revealed, they were referenced as chromosomal letters. roxy’s pink theme and her defeating HIC. it was a widely accepted hc pre epilogues, so when roxy comes out as trans masc, people r like?????

whats the issue as long as rox is trans? well the issue is that theres context to that move. jade’s body being seen as a joke is a fuckin HUGE one. callie another trans girl comes out as nonbinary? which is? ?? its explained as callie felt like they were forced to identify as a girl to be the opposite of calliborn. calliope the humanity and troll culture weeb. its hard to feel like this was anything but a “theyre an alien thus they must be nonbinary”.

eventually even with all the explanation, people would say “ok? its not that deep? its not like i’m hurting anyone.” and the answer to that is i fucking guess?? i fuckin GUESS. and then rinse and repeat. do u get why its exhausting now.

#let trans women have this win dawg. dirk’s right there #d talks

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velvetvexations · 2 days

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i saw a post that was about how trans lesbians dont really have any reason to enter the queer community and its hard for them to realize theyre lesbians cause they think theyre just really sad straight guys, which i can understand is a hard place to be in, but for some reason there was an assertion that this type of thing never happens to trans men and that in fact trans men end up in communities where transitioning is celebrated, which im sure happens to some trans men, but i dont understand the need to arbitrarily claim Random Shit Thing happens to only trans women as if it being a Common Trans Experience dampens how bad it is or something.

like, even if we assume its easier for trans men to realize theyre trans, even though i imagine theres a lot of gay trans men out there who think theyre really sad straight women, theyre not celebrated? even in the queer community, a lot of straight trans guys that are in lesbian communities end up treated like theyre transitioning to hurt the people around them and like theyre teaming up with the "bad guys" or at the very least like theyre going from Interesting Cool Lesbian to Boring Straight Guy, and while the last one isnt super violent seeming, its still people who are supposed to support you acting as if youre making a dumb decision.

im assuming that the other accepting community here is fandom at large cause a lot of gay trans guys talk about realizing they were gay trans guys through m/m fanfic, these guys get accused of fetishization all the time, especially as of late when people are getting more and more fond of the idea that Only Male People should create or even look at anything m/m. trans gay guys and trans lesbians get pretty much the exact same transphobic rhetoric used against them. it seems like youd want to talk about your similarities other than make assumptions that Nothing Bad Ever happens to trans men.

In addition, I replied to that exact post pointing out that it was not only erasing the struggles of trans men in the same area but also significantly downplaying how difficult it often is for even cis queer people to find a community, as though when you realize you like the same gender you get mailed an invitation to the many local gay bars every town in America has and a coupon for ten percent off on a support network.

OP never responded.

#transandro phobia

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thepepsislvt · 5 months

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nobody asked for this but im gonna give you my top 5 baby girls and their pros and cons

in order even bc im insane

this also turned out to be more of a drabbles so yall still getting fed

number 5: Sanji

Pros:

literally such a sweetheart

traumatized just like me

always coming with the best insults

best cuddles cant tell me im wrong

so fucking kind <3

supports my nic addiction

also doesnt smoke around you if you dont like it

Cons:

probably wouldnt even look at me until i show him my tits (im a trans guy)

probably smokes a pack a day

thinks he can out smoke me when im literally a feind for nic

on the off chance he gets in a relationship with me he still would flirt with other women and i have abandonment issues

Number 4: Ace

Pros:

Also very much a sweetheart

hes silly and knows how to always make you laugh

personal heater for the winter

will let you trace his freckles

best kisses ong

make cute little shapes with his flames

Cons:

probably wont let you wear his hat

will fake punch you like a brother

too damn sexy

also way too hot during the summer like do not cuddle me i will not go to sleep in the heat

Number 3: Bartolomeo

Pros:

his hair is green meaning hes gotta be a walking green flag

will let you wear his clothes

especially his jacket

wants to kiss you every chance he can

fanboys over anything

hypes you up for anything you want to do

Cons:

doesnt clean his piercings so you have to force him

doesnt understand personal space

Number 2: Rosinante

Pros:

another man that will let you wear his clothes

theyre gonna be huge since hes 9 foot 7

big friendly giant

when he trips bc hes clumsy he requires your kisses to feel better

will pick you up and carry you around if you let him

lets you help him with his makeup

always makes time for you no matter what hes doing

smile brighter than my future

Cons:

Number 1: Izou

Pros:

bro is damn gorgeous

will ask your opinion on everything when shopping for makeup

will even do your makeup if you want him to

self care king

even when youre not feeling it he will at least help you do the most basic things

very patient with only you

big on protecting you

smooches your forehead or temple a ton

has you help with his nightly routine

Cons:

has you ALWAYS help with his nightly routine

“oh im too tired can you do it yourself tonight?”

“Thats too damn bad my hair needs to shine brighter than the sun”

always looks more stunning than you (when is it my turn buddy >:( )

doing his makeup last over an hour

(this one is personal but i wanna cosplay him so bad but hes so feminine im scared i might get mad dysphoria)

thats all :)

#x reader #one piece x reader #one piece #bartolomeo #bartolomeo the cannibal #bartolomeo x reader #portgas ace x reader #portgas d ace #black leg sanji #sanji #not a vinsmoke sanji #sanji x reader #donquixote rosinante #rosinante corazon x reader #rosinante x reader #corazon x reader #izou one piece #izou x reader

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gandalfsbignaturals · 1 year

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what is tme/tma? (sorry i’m cis)

they stand for transmisogyny exempt and transmisogyny affected. nominally they are supposed to label people who are targets of transmisogyny (tma) and people who are not targets of transmisogyny (tme), but in practice they are typically instead defined to mean "trans women, trans femmes, and (sometimes) gnc men" (tma) and "literally everyone else" (tme)

unfortunately, as i have tried to argue, this... isnt really how oppression works, especially considering the queer community necessarily resists hard categorization, and especially binaries

whats more, people who are supposedly tme are frequently the victims of transmisogynistic hatecrimes, something the proponents of the terms usually call "misdirected transmisogyny." i have gripes with this, though, because misdirected bigotry is... well, its still bigotry.

when sikhs (and whats more, any brown person who looked a certain way) were facing a monstrous amount of misdirected islamophobia in the wake of 911, the muslim community did not come out and say "well, they arent really muslim, so the islamophobic attacks on them dont count." nor did the sikhs and others use it as an excuse to attack islam! instead, they recognized that the bigots didnt actually care about the specific labels of the people they were attacking. all they cared was that someone was brown, and that they practiced a foreign religion, and that was enough.

likewise, when gentiles are attacked by antisemites for defending or associating with jewish people, those jewish people do not say, "you are not jewish, and therefore this doesnt count." instead, they acknowledge that, once again, the bigots in this instance dont actually care about the specifics of the lives led by those theyre attacking. i cannot imagine a jewish synagogue denying aid to a victim of an antisemitic attack, even if they are not jewish.

similarly, when a queer or gnc person is attacked by a transphobe for performing gender wrong, that transphobe doesnt actually care what particular label or lifestyle the person theyre attacking subscribes too. a trans man with some stubble in a dress is the same as a non-passing trans woman to them. a burly woman with higher than average testosterone going into the womens bathroom is the same as a non-passing trans woman to them. a masculine black woman in baggy clothes is the same as a non-passing trans woman to them. and they will attack accordingly, and no matter how the victim protests that they arent a trans woman, the bigot will not care.

this is all glossing over the fact that, by advocating that people disclose their tma/tme status in their blog description or carrd or whatever, you are effectively asking them to out themself. if you define tme as "not a trans woman," and someone has a trans flag and he/him pronouns on their profile, and you ask them to also include tme on their profile... well, then youre asking them to publicly state what their genitals are. while tma and tme are not defined exclusively based on genitals, it is undeniable that in combination with other readily available information, they can be easily used to determine what someones assigned gender at birth is.

when applied to trans people, tme/tma is just another false binary. it is a poor attempt to categorize a human experience that is simply not divisible into neat little categories, and especially not a binary.

#this is a long answer but i tried to be thorough in my definition

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