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cripple-woe · 10 months

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Back to post again. Please reblog this if you’re like. Disabled and do, might, are planning to ever have sex. Or just for educational reasons reblog it.

It’s time for:

DISABLED SEX EDUCATION.

So! Let’s get right into it.

We all know that we have a right to know and understand our bodies and how we can have safe, consenting, and pleasant sex. Most schools don’t teach disabled inclusive sex education!

Part One: Sex Toys

By and large, a bafflingly inaccessible market. But still, here’s what you can do.

For limited mobility and dexterity with hands and the like, larger controllers and wireless controllers for toys are good to look into.

If you have movement disorders, a toy that doesn’t need to be moved to stimulate can be helpful.

Also, a pretty universal one is a nice sexy vibrating pillow that you hump. It’s not talked about often because most abled people don’t want that toy when there are more penetrative or intense toys out there, but for cripples like us, it can be very helpful to know it exists, and it’s a good toy.

Part Two: Partner Communication

Whether this partner is your lifetime lover or just a one-night-stand, you need to be communicating properly about your needs and limits, just like abled people, but MORE. Communicate a safe word for if you feel in too much pain, communicate how your disabilities may affect sex with this partner if they aren’t aware, and communicate on the type and level of aftercare you may need. I know for a fact that I would need my partner to take me into the bathroom to pee after sex because I can’t do it of my own accord after that (also, speaking of, PEE AFTER SEX.)

No matter how small it is, communicate. “I’d be more comfortable if I had some pillows under my stomach/back/hips in this position.” “Can we switch positions, this is slightly painful on my hips/back/shoulders.” “I don’t like being pinned like this, because it’s a position I can’t escape from when I want to/it’s causing pressure on my joints/whatever else.”

Partner communication is a big deal with disabled sex and requires a decent level of trust. I also highly recommend that if you have access, being frank with your carers and occupational therapists for instance, will help you a lot with asking for advice in a safe way.

Part Three: Positioning

Ooh, sexy pose time!

From what I can find, these seem to be the most widely accessible poses for sex.

Modified Missionary.

The limited mobility partner sits on the edge of the bed, the other partner stands facing them, and then can lift their partners legs up so their ankles are on their shoulders. If the standing partner is too tall for this to be comfortable, you can place a chair behind them and have the sitting partner put their ankles there (add a blanket over the back of the chair for comfort on their ankles!)

This position is best used when only one person has a mobility issue. It’s also good for if one or both partners are obese, or if a partner is pregnant.

Facing position.

Aka: face to face. Person one sits in a chair, on the edge of the bed, or even in their wheelchair with arm rests removed if your chair can do that and you want to bang in your chair. Their partner sits on their lap and straddles them. Partner on top braces their feet on a solid surface to be able to move their hips and thrust, and the bottom partner can help by grabbing their partner by the backside and lifting/bouncing.

This position is good for two partners with limited mobility, and people who suffer with fatigue.

Intimate Sitting.

Basically the same as above but both partners are fully on the bed. The partner near the headboard can benefit from being held up with pillows, and then they stretch out their legs. The other partner straddles them, feet on the bed, and bends their knees to lower them down.

This is another position for a limited mobility and unlimited mobility couple, especially those looking for face to face intimacy.

Sexy Spooning.

Get into a spooning cuddle position and get freaky.

This is great for people with lower back pain, chronic pain, and arthritis.

Modified Doggystyle Chair.

Limited mobility person sits in a chair or wheelchair near the edge of the bed, their partner sits in their lap and leans forward to brace themselves on the edge of the bed with their upper body and arms.

Great for hip pain sufferers and of course those with mobility issues, though be aware that the person on the edge of the bed is taking more physical exertion.

Modified Doggystyle Bed.

Or the floor, if that’s more comfortable. Put some pillows on the bed/floor to support the bottom partner, and then the top partner drapes over them chest to back.

If you require more stability as the bottom partner this is for you.

69 Flipped.

One person laid on their side in the spooning position, and the other lays facing them in the same way, but with their head at the opposite end.

This is good for arthritis, or people who have weak hips or hips prone to muscle spasms. Also, unlike media might have you believe, 69 doesn’t have to be oral-oral. You can use toys, your hands, whatever, as long as you and your partner are having fun.

Final notes.

Don’t be afraid to explore each others bodies. Touch, massage, stroke each other and see how you feel. Places like necks, inner thighs, ears and sides can all be turn-on zones due to their extra sensitivity. Just… explore. Don’t try to take it too seriously either, sex is sexy, sure, but it’s also funny and sometimes you make a weird noise (verbally or otherwise!) and you can’t keep fucking for all the giggles you’re having.

Have fun, do it safely, remember that sex is cleaner with a packaged wiener, and PEE AFTER SEX FOR GODS SAKE.

#cripplepunk #cripple #cripple punk #physically disabled #disabled #actually disabled #disabled sex #disabled sex Ed #sex ed #sex education #disabled sex education

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blackbird-brewster · 6 months

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Shoutout to disabled babes who need to use accessibility aids during sex. Like sure, my wrist splints and knee brace aren't that 'sexy' looking, but I guarantee they'll help in my ability to fuck you senseless.

#actually disabled #chronic pain #chronic illness #disabled nsft #disabled sex #sapphic nsft #about me 2k23 #wlw nsft

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peachykinky · 2 months

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Having a bad day with my disability today, anyone want to fuck my virgin hole and throat while I'm too sore and tired to stop you 🥺🥺🥺

#me #mine #disabled sex #free use slvt #free use kink #free use toy #free use cnc #t4t nsft #fem bottom #trans nsft #bi nsft #lgbt nsft #nb nsft #bottomposting #hornyposting #hornypost

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lil-queer-enby · 1 month

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normalise making sex accessible to disabled people

normalise changing positions often to make it easier on joints, taking breaks as needed without it "ruining" the moment, and trying a few different things before finding something that works well for you

normalise using toys without it being "cheating", making the room a good sensory environment, and discussing what might be a problem so you can find solutions together

normalise using hand or thigh straps/harnesses for better control, propping yourself up on pillows/wedges because it's more supportive, and mobility aids being sexy and part of the fun

normalise disabled sex

#disabled sex #disabled nsft #autistic nsft #you can add stuff which makes sex accessible for you in rb's or tags <3 #I'm sure I'm missing quite a bit

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trans-duckling · 3 months

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Here I am, writing about sex while one person is on a wheelchair, with about 10 webpages opened about: sex in a wheelchair, sex with burnt skin, proper sex preparation (adapted for disabled people) and aftercare...

My conclusion? Someone should do a proper free book about ALL of it, with as many images as a common sex education book would have, because, MAN, looking for all this took me HOURS.

Now imagine for someone that is disabled and wants to have info without having to buy a book with close to 0 images.

I'm doing research for writing and thus don't care about spending hours looking for this, or buying a pdf (even if it can be annoying), but I can't imagine the stress of a disabled person wanting to solve questions and having like 3 resources and 2 of them that require payment...

Sex should be more accessible for EVERYBODY!!!

#writing #disability #sex education #sex ed #disabled sex #this is serious #wheelchair #kakagai #maito gai #naruto #ao3 #fanfic #gaikaka #kakashi #kakashi hatake #might guy #gay #kakaguy

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guarddogbutch · 3 months

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do any other disabled tops have tips for not bruising your hips during sex? doesn't seem to matter what position i'm in they're always bruised afterwards and it's painful and annoying! let me know please <3

#i have hEDS for reference #disabled nsft #disabled sex education #disabled sex #t4t nsft #butch nsft #dyke nsft

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kittyfag · 1 year

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kinda wish more people talked and fantasized about disabled sex + accomodating it more often tbh. a lot of expectations for sex involve things that are really rigorous and straining for someone like me, w a combo of things like chronic migraines, arthritis, scoliosis, and general chronic pain.

its even rarer to find discussions of disabled people who dom or top because everyones ultimate fantasy seems to be intense fast railing that would leave my hips and body so inflamed i wouldnt be able to walk for the next few days. half the time i can hardly get myself off with vanilla masturbation because it often leaves my hands so painful its not always worth finishing to orgasm

i often cant relate to a lot of the sexual fantasies i see on here because im never going to be the big strong dom who can manhandle and peg. itd be really sick to see more people like me in these sorts of spaces, especially when it comes to doms + tops, who are often expected to do really physically taxing things for sex

#kitty purrs #nsft #trans nsft #t4t nsft #queer nsft #disability in kink #disabled sex

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littlemissli1ith · 6 months

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Sorry babe the compression socks stay on during sex.

#disabled sex #mtf top

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